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That one guy was right. I won't have the same level of respect for a man that cries in front of me. I tend to have more. Being secure enough to show "weakness" or, as healthy folks call it, emotion in front of others is admirable and honestly attractive.
Look I believe that u truly think this way and it your life u go live how u please. I will say though, have you ever wondered how u got to that mentality like where it comes from and if u today still agree with those beliefs do they still feel right? And if you do then u go right ahead and continue on your path but if there is any doubt you’ll see it, you’ll start to see it and then you may need to adjust your views accordingly. As humans we owe it to ourselves to reassess from time to time it’s hard work but it’s honest work. Hope your path whatever that is, takes you to contentment ❤
@@mflo9135 I believe you meant this in good faith, so I will answer the same way. I am always ready to challenge my beliefs. That is, in fact, how I ended up here. In a healthy marriage with good communication and shared responsibilities. This mentality came from experience, therapy and having seen the other side of it. This is the healthiest and happiest I've been in decades. That is enough for me to hold these beliefs.
@Heart Dragon I like your response. I think if a woman's reaction was disrespect for him or even fear (the strongest man broke down! How can he ever protect meee!) she might be living in Stereotypeland and not a very authentic person herself. Just an opinion.
@@1234cheerful true. It seems to me that the best, healthiest relationships are when two people protect each other, and can be "soft" together. Makes for a better, more durable dynamic in my experience.
@@heartdragon2386 it's seeing the humanity in your partner. Humans are vulnerable and imperfect and full of complex emotions that need to be talked about understood and validated mutually. 👍🏽
"If a woman sees a guy cry, it would never have the same level or respect than before" That is actually right, seeing men being vulnerable change your view of them.. you respect them more than before
Yup. Someone who is open, self confident and able to be real with me. Yes!
I was going to say the same thing
FACTS! Especially when you are a GROWN UP
Very much so… my dad is that kind of man and I watched him and my mom’s relationship and they couldn’t be more in love if you paid them… he loved her and stood by her till she passed from cancer. He would spend hours in the hospital with her while she just slept, just so he could be there for her.
@@ChaoticAngelKitten That explains why you have high standards, because your parents modeled what real love is. Nothing less will do and that's right ☺️
No, I'm not going to do someone else's dishes, dinner, bring them drinks and basically be their maid. If you want a housekeeper, hire one. I'm not working for free.
For real. What kind of messed up date night is that even? If I wanted to do housework, I would stay at home and do my own, thanks. 😂 Also, it's not like they then rush to take out our trash or whatever when they visit us.
You shouldn't do that even if they pay you, cuz it's not about money, it's them getting satisfaction from a woman "fulfilling her God-given duty" and bringing her down a peg. The eternal "argument" of these inept losers is that women do all of that anyways when they're single, so why are they so against doing it for a man? Hmm....bcuz there's a difference between doing it only for yourself and doing it for an extra manchild whose overinflated ego isn't letting him wash a plate!
And what kind of person has guests with a dirty house? Run girl.
I personally am made very uncomfortable when anyone other than my mother preforms any kind of service for me. I recognize this as an imperfection because if someone does nice things for you without being asked, they are probably a high tier person.
If she sets boundaries? Why would you want your girlfriend to have such little respect for herself? Like that's a terrible thing to wish on someone. She should be the one who you have the utmost respect for her boundaries. Otherwise, you sound like a... someone say the word for me, it's on the tip of my tongue.
The only people that get upset with someone having boundaries are the ones who somehow benefit from them having none. 💯
@@Nikkiijean 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Narcissist?
Abuser/potential rapist
"Why would you want your girlfriend to have such little respect for herself?"
So she's easier to manipulate.
"God, why are you all the same person?" I've been asking myself the same question my whole life. Like... I'm a guy... I start feeling like I'm the weird one when I'm surrounded by the mayonnaise brigade.
My husband said pretty much the same. Pretty sure few men are actually like that, and most adopt it because they are painfully insecure about their actual personalities.
@@heartdragon2386 The REASON....Men don't show their Emotions is NOT because Women will think them Weak.....They Fear being considered Weak amongst Other MEN!
@@velvetrose7729 You are not wrong, they fear being seen as ...gasp...gay. One day maybe learn gay isn't being emotional, it is getting an erection thinking of naked gay men.
Lol, mayonnaise brigade!
@@heartdragon2386 that makes them like that tho. It doesn't really matter why you behave like that, if you spread bs you spread bs lol
The first date I had with this man was to see, The Color Purple. Through my tears I could hear him crying. I was shocked. No man had ever cried in front of me, let alone at a movie. I married him!
Awwwww 💞💞💞💞
I'm so happy for you, but holy shit that is not a date movie! 🤣
@janerecluse4344 oh man....right?? Wonderful movie but a little heavy for a date! 😳😆
@@jenn8179 I wonder how it was marketed, and what portion of its audience hadn't read the book and just walked into a wall.
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So my takeaway from this is that i need to set ALL the boundaries to avoid accidentally ending up with one of these guys.
😂👏👏
Not a mommy, he wants a maid for free.
Not just a maid, but a maid that he gets to have sex with.
God forbid a partner does something nice for her man
@@fistofram5526 did you not hear him? He said he wanted her to put in 100% of the cooking cleaning etc while he does nothing, if you have to be stupid/misunderstand on purpose to get your argument across then it's not a good one
I think the only time a man can be considered weak for showing emotion is when they get angry at a rejection. Cus, ya know... anger is also an emotion and if you can't handle a "no", you're a dainty little toddler lol
This reminds me of a video I saw of a women blaming women for 70% of divorces because they initiate it, and using that as proof that women are whats wrong with marriage.... really? so, men are so satisfied with their wives and marriages that they aren't asking for divorces. But yet, those wives they're so satisfied staying married to are the problem?
It couldn't be that they are doing the most to keep their husbands happy, houses running, and children cared for, even "letting themselves go" because they dont have time left over to spend on themselves, and after years of this, come to realize that their life partners refused to so much as listen to the sound of their voices because they're "nagging" if they're not opening their mouths to praise or please him. Yea. Those women asking for divorces are whats wrong with marriage... no good could come from asking them WHY they wanted a divorce? better to just let the men cry about how happy they were staying married and how their wives ruined that for them.
I see this phrase ALL the time, but rarely does anyone ask WHY? I guess they won't like the answer.
I just wasted hours of my life, saying the exact same thing to several of these whining men on that woman’s CZcams channel. You said it much better than I did and I agree with you 100%. They will not listen and they don’t ask why. The one thing Tate has right is they do not care about women.
They don’t care what we think and they know it all. By the way, the woman’s name is Pearl. She has these losers falling at her feet with all the woman bashing. I guess it’s a living.🤷🏻♀️
Technically I (a woman) initiated the divorce on paper. But it was because I literally had no choice. He made it impossible for me to stay.
I have seen this on the Just Pearly Things channel and what’s comical is that Pearl is in her mid-20s (an age that's "about to hit the wall" according to her own words), has never been married, has no children AND has a career on CZcams, but then turns around saying that other women all need to be housewives and “traditional” (so... "one rule for me, another for thee"?) and essentially that everything that goes wrong in marriage is always the woman’s fault.
Talk about deep-seated misogyny; tell me you have mommy issues without telling me you have mommy issues. 🙄
@@j4513 Absolutely spot on. That girl is so naive it’s sad.
"Andrew Tate is not gonna pick you! He's in love with his brother." I love this so much 😂 so beautifully crafted
We need to get you more subscribers. More of us men need to hear this. These Andrew-tate-loving-alpha-male-crap-spewers are so completely wrong, and they are influencing other men and young boys in such a terrible effing way.
Why are they not charged with hate speech, is what I want to know. I don't understand how it's even still legal!
@@JustSaralius because if it's targeted at women, it isn't hate speech. It should be, but it simply isn't treated the same as it is if it targets, say, a POC. In fact where I work, there was a guy who got in a managers face, and yelled that he wouldn't work for a woman, and all that happened to him, after she went to her manager, was that the guy no longer works on the same nights as her... He would have been fired on the spot if he said "I'm not gonna work for a black guy." Everyone knows he would have been. But if you're a woman? Oh, it's perfectly acceptable to discriminate against us...
It's actually scary. I have a fifteen year old son who has gone from being a caring and respectful (while, let's be honest, still a troublesome little sh!t) with moral standards, to a Tate quoting, stats layering "women all suck" spokesperson. HE'S FIFTEEN!! His favourite activity now is explaining women to me... because in ALL of his experience he has a much better handle on how things actually work.
Meanwhile his older brother is a fully carded feminist because they were raised by a single mom. I'm so confused.
@@JustSaralius I've thought about this one often. It's probably the same reason that, for example, people who are into dating and relationships, engage so much more in sexism than racism (or many other -ism's).
@@sandyfyffe6849 it's the other way around in the rest of the world, idk where you're from lol
I saw my ex husband cry one time. I lost all respect for him.
… however, we were in the process of divorcing and I left him with two of our four children for what was supposed to be less than two hours, who at the time were both ten, while I took our newborn to the store to get her diapers and a few things and our oldest was at work. When I came back a half an hour later, no groceries because he called me, and baby on boob he was crying. For the first time ever in front of me. Because for the first time in our (almost over) marriage he had to deal with the kids fighting by himself and didn’t know how to get them to stop because he had never paid attention to how to separate them and split his time between them. IF women do lose respect for a man for crying, it’s because the only time they show it is as a last resort to try and make you feel some sort of sympathy or pity.
God he sounds like a pathetic man. I'm glad you're free from that adult baby
@@crazydragy4233 I was three weeks away from giving birth to the baby when I realized I didn’t have to take care of him like a child as well as the actual children, and made him leave. It is absolutely normal for my small town, and it’s sad.
@@TheMisterGuy In my personal case, we are a mixed family. Advice for the future, in abusive situations the person being abused doesn’t have very much say over the situation, that can include children. I am in an okay place right now, but for those who aren’t they may get upset over comments that seem victim blamey, and even though I know you don’t mean it that way your comment sorta did sound that way.
@@TheMisterGuy again, my personal experience but I’ve heard this also happens in a lot of cases, at first they “love bomb” you, which is they typically ask you a bunch of questions while barely talking about themselves so they can pretend to be everything you’ve ever dreamed of while you don’t really know them much. The more “stuck” I got (moved in together, got engaged, married, baby) the more he let it slip that he was always this monster pretending to be everything I wanted. There’s also financial A buse. Get you to quit your job, put you in debt, ruin your credit. All in the hopes you literally CANT leave. It’s a touchy subject, and I am autistic so idk what to recommend to be honest because I learn better from hearing personal experience than reading on google so that’s not a good recommendation to me.. and sometimes it doesn’t matter how much you try to explain that they still get angry.
I ugly cried in the opening scene of up and my girlfriend told me this was the moment she knew whe wanted to marry me. It was 2009. Today she is my wife.
Oh, fr fr. That movie hits you right in the feels. ❤
Aww 🥰
Just knowing someone else is revolted by the testosterone injecting crowd is comforting
Quick clarification. There's more than one testosterone injecting crowd. I'm a trans guy and my experience with trans men generally is that they tend to be feminist, supportive of women, and don't suffer much toxic masculinity.
I'd also mention that lifters who do T have been some of the most trans accepting guys I've met and generally seem like good people. They respect a person going to extreme lengths to acquire the body they want, regardless of reason. Also, a lot of non-body building cis men have to take T for medical reasons.
These guys are trash, yes. Doesn't have anything to do with hormones though.
@@CorwinFound yes, thank you for that clarification. And, anecdotally, one of my friends who is a CIS man had to take testosterone supplements because his body wasn’t producing enough. He’s a good dude and getting his hormones balanced helped him to feel a lot better. There’s no shame in needing to balance out one’s hormones. Obviously my friends experience isn’t the same as the misogynists featured in this video - but it’s the misogyny that is the issue, not the hormonal imbalance. Taking T didn’t turn my friend into a raging misogynist!
@@meowiestwo There is a lot of really interesting research on the behavioral effects of testosterone. Some really interesting ones seem to show that testosterone doesn't cause violence/aggression/hyper-competitiveness, rather doing those things causes the testosterone to rise!
I know from my experience that starting on testosterone hasn't caused me to be any more angry. The reverse. I'm much more emotionally stable with the correct hormones happening for me.
It's true that lowered testosterone decreases violence but it also decreases general energy levels, reduces sex drive, and increases depression. It appears that testosterone and violence are a very weak link and no more dependent on each other than testosterone and depression.
@@CorwinFound good clarification!!
@@CorwinFound why did lowered testosterone decrease violence and also increase depression at the same time?
Definitely a breathe of fresh air hearing your voice contrasting from the toxic-misogyny culture of CZcams! Makes men looking to be better partners, siblings, allies, and people feel supported ! Means a ton more than you may think! Thank you!
Every high school needs five of you to save our boys. 💜
Agree. Seems like Andrew Tate and his "Alpha bro" spawn have unfortunately done a lot of damage to today's impressionable male minds.
Im a high school Junior boy and can confirm they all need to see this man, he should be The Speech Teacher instead of The Speech Professor, the younger generation needs to see this man more than the slightly older generation
You mean five of you to p-ss on them and teach them because they are men they are demons and women are never at fault?
Where the hell were you people when I was in high school.. lord help us
On our second date my husband cried while we watched Inside Out and laughed while wiping his tears about 'Pixar gets me every damn time haha'
He was so unashamed of his emotions - it was so refreshing 😊
And also a relief because I'm the same way and it can be awkward being the only one sobbing to a cartoon sometimes 😅
As a young trans man that is desperately just wanting to be seen as oneproperly, you are my hero. Everything I have been told my whole life that inexplicably felt wrong about how men should act, you have put words to. I truly look up to you and hope to become as much of a man as you are one day outside AND IN. I really look up to you and you give me so much hope that being kind and being myself WILL in fact pay off one day and that I will be accepted as a man without all of the toxicity and can be just a fun lil guy. Thank you so much for being my first and only truly good male role model!!
❤
Women just don't want to be lied to. Be honest and respectfull, don't try to impress by acting like someone you are not. And please don't forget that being wrong but able to see the other perspective and learn from it is a great trait.
@@leavoda3791 your not lying to people by being trans your just trying TO live edit: wait I think I misunderstood ur comment and thought you were being transphobic sorry bro 😭🙏
I think this is part of the reason these creeps chase 18yr olds. At 18 idk if I knew enough to recognize these as red flags, but at 30 as soon as I hear a guy say any of these things, I'm like "nope"
I’m glad I have the internet, because I’m 18 right now and I’ve been learning for a while now exactly who to say no to immediately.
After witnessing my parent's happy marriage (their 40th anniversary is coming up!) I can confirm that this prof speaks the truth 😁
My dad is fairly open with his emotions and growing up we saw him cry a few times. For example, he cried when his dad died, when our dog had to be put down, and once because he was very concerned about me after college (long story).
All of us have a ton of respect for him. He's a caring, trustworthy, wonderful dad. He treats my mom with respect, and vice versa. I don't think I've ever heard them nag or yell at each other! Their "fights" are more like "discussions while being slightly upset".
If anything, I might love and respect my dad more because he's not afraid to show emotion. He doesn't care about pretending to be stoic; he's his own man.
"If anything, I might love and respect my dad more because he's not afraid to show emotion."
Yup!
All this "men don't cry" stuff is total BS, and anyone with a decent amount of confidence knows it.
If you don't cry when your dad dies, then frankly I wonder what was wrong with your relationship with him.
Amen!
You're lucky. When I look around at unhappy people I thank God I had loving parents with integrity who gave me a foundation that enables me to handle adversity as well as abundance.
I worked at a store over night. About 20 ppl. I was 1 of 3 women. So men mostly is who I’d be around. This one dude who was fine with swearing and being vulgar says(to be clear so am I. He was a funny guy and never mean to me other then this time.) “Got to do the fucking produce” So I said “You should never Fuck the produce.” Then did a lil laugh. Not one of the 3 men laughed. Even though they did any other time when their male coworkers made jokes similar to that. They just looked at me like, ‘? I don’t get it’ That really opened my eyes to how man purposefully won’t laugh at women. They all rather collectively make one feel stupid then laugh at a joke they feel is funny.
#1 that was funny. #2, imagine the miserable slog through life when you have to script your every move for ego protection and other-boy approval. I’d rather be a “yucky” girl and have a little damn fun.
@@elisabethhughes6005 Agreed!
Honestly the shit that works for white straight cis males never flies for anyone else socially 🙄
I laughed 👍🏼
Maybe because they wasn't expecting that kinda joke from you and you caught them off guard.
Not every men is your enemy 🗿
I always wince when a guy opens with "your woman." There's a huge difference between "your woman" and "your gf/wife". I feel like "your man" has similar uncomfortable baggage but in the opposite direction.
I have raised three men with no idea that that was the job I was really “hired” for. No more. The only man I’m going to raise is my son.
@1:20 “God!- WHY are you ALL the SAME PERSON?? 😰 🤦♀️ “
Yep- this man gets how women truly feel!
My husband was a construction worker. He was the picture of a masculine man. Huge muscles from lifting sheets of plywood up over his head all day. he loved babies, rom coms, puppies and his family. I did all those things for him because he worked hard, in the cold and heat. When he got off he came straight home, took a shower and played with our kids while i cooked dinner and cleaned up. He didn't babysit, he was their father. He parented them just like i did. We worked together. I would love to have seen one of these dbags call him a beta. Most men just called him sir. But that's the difference isn't it.
These men want that devotion, but they don't want to earn it. Its not about the family, it's about their ego.
5:20 or the very real "she didn't fall for me showing emotion only to manipulate her and not change the behaviours I promised to change" or "she didn't let me be irrationally angry over something small"
I actually had a conversation sort of on these lines with my sister. We talked about how being vulnerable is a great way to connect with another person and that I thought people were drawn to her because she’s approachably vulnerable. I think the issue is that most men are likely pretty low in emotional intelligence due to societal expectations of being “manly” and “not emotional” that they struggle to be vulnerable in a productive way and end up just trauma-dumping on women which is what a therapist is for, not a partner. Obviously partners can help but they shouldn’t be expected to bear the entirety of the other’s emotional needs. I think that this is unfortunately where the trope of a woman “fixing” a man (i.e. dealing with his toxic BS and rage) comes from.
You are such a breath of fresh air. Where do I find the men like you who are doing the internal work to undo all the garbage being force fed people? Because I tell you what, after 8 years of putting up with a narcissistic man-child who refused to do *any* kind of work on himself, I would literally rather be single the rest of my life than have to deal with that again. I have patience all day and will 100% support someone who is willing and able to take that hard look inward and work on themselves. But these redpill, "Women are always the problem, why can't they see how nice of a guy I am?" bros can go take a long walk off of a short pier.
My husband is a sensitive introvert and I love him more every day - it only took 35 years to find him since I began dating. My sisters both say the same thing every time they see their new brother, "That's a real MAN, my husband can take lessons from him" and women all over town try to flirt with him. We laugh about it though he's a little horrified by it. I'm happy that he gets a little unexpected ego boost daily but these chicks have offered to take him on vacation or have his baby - something that probably never happens to guys with macheeesmo. He smells like a snack and respects women, I don't blame them for crushing on him.
I'm very happy you're here. Saying all this. I'm sure you've heard it before but your type is what most women would consider to be a REAL man. What toxic men consider to be a real man is what most girls and women would only want to run away from screaming.
Hey if you’re not interested in pictures of my cats, you’re not worth my time. 😡
And you know he's top tier when he replies with photos of his OWN cats.
Guess I'll be single till I die, if guys are listening to advice on some of these yikes channels. Start mentioning a woman's value or lifting your shirt up to flex your abs and I'm like nope. I'm too old for this toot, I feel sorry for the younger folks out there, having to dodge all this crap.
These idiots have always been out there, the only difference is they are kindly showing publicly their colors now! We get to see what they are so we can sort them out. Tik Tok seems to be a wonderful sorting hat of men.
It sucks because due to coping mechanisms I am currently overweight and try to get fitter bc I like being healthy.
But whenever I find someone that does short form content that motivates you the garbage follows right behind and makes it worse
@@Killroy007 I highly recommend changing your coping mechanism and making life much easier you find a Dr./PhD of Neuropsychology who does trauma therapy. These therapies are ACT = Acceptance Commitment Therapy, DBT = Dialectical Behavior Therapy, EMDR = Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprogramming Therapy. The EMDR should be done alongside the ACT & DBT.
I don't recommend Psychiatrist because they are all about passing out pills and not giving therapy that can help you. My experience is they do more gaslighting than helping to be honest. If you do need ADHD medicine, they are good for that after you have been diagnosed and have a letter.
All these trauma therapies talk about mindfulness/meditation. It is a core part of the therapies. Depending on what you're coping with you should start these with a therapist.
Because I have ADHD and I am Autistic my executive functioning isn't functioning very well at all. These therapies have been life saving for me as a neurodivergent, because when I got my diagnosis and started therapy I was in complete shutdown after burning out as an autistic person with ADHD. Also, because I am slowly coming out of shutdown, I discovered that guided Hypnosis recordings on Audible really help me in accomplishing the same outcomes as mindfulness and meditation would if I could sit and do the mindfulness/meditation. I really love one by Glenn Harrold = Overcoming Stress. Hope this helps you get back to a place of homeostasis.
Try not to beat yourself up too much about your weight. That will only make it get worse for starters. Secondly, once you can get back to homeostasis and have better coping mechanisms you can work on learning to eat intuitively. Sorry, this is so long, but I really felt what you posted deep down inside.
@@Killroy007 for workout tips and motivation I can totally recommend you hybrid callisthenics. He is so wholesome and lovely, he could be the speech Profs son.
And is really good in encouraging and motivation to get healthy not buff.
I think you just can't love him!
@@schokoloko2092 he and noel deyzel are pretty much the only good ones ive found lmao
Both are pretty cool
My boyfriend and I firmly agree that if Up didn't make you bawl your eyes out, you're not human.
Agreed
Forget the CAPTCHA "prove you're not a robot, find the traffic lights" test, the security window of a website should show a few minutes of Carl and Ellie from UP - and if you don't so much as sniffle you're not a human.
If a woman who doesn't live with you comes over and actually starts cleaning your house...you might be on Hoarders.
My question is: How many of these guys are meeting women, going on dates, having relationships, or getting laid? Is it me or is there something about these guys that announces that none of the foregoing are happening?
so true. if a man has the courage to unashamedly cry in front of me, to simply say this is who I am and these are my emotions. If a man trusts me enough to see him vulnerable, I will never have the same level of respect for him as I had before that moment. Not sure that's something that should be avoided though?
I‘m so sorry for u … so superficial, do you think men are stones ? Or objects ? It’s such a shame you’re a woman !
That sounds like a you problem.. I have never lost respect for my partner because of his willingness to be vulnerable. I admire and respect the fact that he is aware of his emotions, he’s willing to go through them instead of avoiding them, and he’s comfortable enough to share them. I love that about him. You sound a bit toxic tbh.
@@meowiestwo sorry, I guess I should have added a few more phrases to make it REALLY obvious that I meant my respect level would go up. It can be hard to know how much to type when people can't hear you tone or see your expression.
@@jamsoidhfsdhfsdlhvlzLZXJFha yes, sarcasm is not usually read via words, that’s why people use tone indicators /Gen /neutral
@@meowiestwo yeah, I figured using words like courage etc would be enough to make it clear that I dont see it as weakness. It's a bummer to see that at least one (and probably many more) did not catch that. Ah well, we live and we learn (shrugs)
Keep being awesome!
Seriously love you! (In a non-creepy, respectful of your wife and my husband kinda way)
😂 I love how you clarified that seeing how weird folks on CZcams can be
After seeing part of this in a short about a week ago I made clear to let my boyfriend know that I don't like it when he cries because it breaks my heart that he's sad but I'm glad that he does it around me because it means he feels safe around me, and I told him that it makes me love him even more.
It's not that these dudes have no idea how to be real men they don't know how to be people
What got my attention on my BF's OKC profile; "I like looking at pics of cute animals."
SWOON 😍🥰😍
5 years together. He works at a pet hotel, & every night we look at all the cute pics & videos from that day together. It's great
@@dalailarose1596 that's so sweet!
@@dalailarose1596 as a dude I'd much rather work at a pet hotel looking after cats :)
My husband (and partner of 33 years) cries in front of me several times a year. You know, when his emotions get big enough to elicit tears. He also has told me about maybe once or twice a year that he has cried when I wasn't around. So that's, let's say, 7 x 33 times, or 231 times I have witness his crying. I have to say, at least 220 of those times, my respect for him went up, not down. The only time I ever lost respect for him crying was waaayyy back in our very early twenties when he cried over, essentially, not getting his way. But the times he was moved, by love or by pain or by compassion or by beauty, or by despair or by purity of joy? My estimation of his character went up every damned time! Every one.
The 1 and ONLY time I saw my Father cry, I developed a lasting respect for him that I can NOT describe! I was only about 10, I am 47 now, but I can say that memory is seared in to my brain and I never saw my dad the same after. I still don’t!
For me, I felt a new understanding and acceptance. He was crying about not being able to live with my mother though he loved her. She had too much residual anger about things from her childhood and she did not believe in therapy, though she did find some comfort going back to church, singing in choir.
I have to say those who are giving relationship advice are these single guys who haven't been in a committed relationship to one person ever 🙃 🙂😐
In a different compilation, one of these relationship gurus said that he was qualified to give advice because he has dated over 200 times and never been married. he mentioned that he had never got one to marry him???? to convince people he's good at this??????
3:35 NGL seeing a man cry, after allllllllll that I’d been through & handled without crying, really freaked me out & I’d brake up with a guy BUT when I learned about my own inability to cry bc of the “male veil” my mom wore & projected onto me from her own toxic upbringing - which both stemmed from toxic masculinity - it no longer freaks me out, I’m now able to understand, accept, embrace & normalize all emotions! Feels great living in a healthy space with others 💖
Ahhh it's so nice to see healthy men in comments, I thought we were doomed there for a minute 😂
My husband cried when the turtle died in Kung Fu Panda. I thought it was adorable. 🥰
That scene got turned into a meme format so that fact is never going to leave my mind. The internet is wild. 😂
I have greater respect for a guy that shows his emotions than one who doesn’t.
My brother actually got broken up with by a girlfriend because he was emotionally unavailable.
Being the sensitive/emotional one of the two of us, I’ve sometimes wished that I could be more like that. But I mentioned that to my therapist and she was like: no that’s going to cause him his own unique set of problems in his interpersonal relationships.
And now I see it.
I, a woman, will never ever understand why on earth you'd listen to another man for dating advice instead of women
What is the phrase I've heard them say....."If you want to catch fish you don't ask the fish, you ask the fisherman".
I'd say they don't know they're describing women as prey when they say that, but they DO think women are prey so I don't think that would discourage them.
At this point the bar feels like it's in hell
And these folks are *still* out here playing limbo
The manliest thing that you can do is accept that showing your emotions and crying is ok
Just wanna talk with “Therapist” Dave. Just wanna talk. One professional to another.
Seriously. What studies is he looking at? I question their veracity if he isn't "interpreting" what the data actually shows.
@@vivicadoll249I question his reading comprehension because I don't want to believe other people are that stupid too
I don't know where these men get their information. How could so many of them be wrong on so many levels?
"God...why are you all the same person--" 🤣🤣🤣 You just voiced my inner thoughts when interacting with men on dating apps.
I have no patience for crappy men like this that hate women.
They're everywhere.
I'm always attracted to wisdom, maturity, and realness first.
I'll be 41 soon. And I can tell you for sure that a lot of men just want mommies to take care of them. It's gross.
I'm so grateful for this channel. I've heard these toxic crazy men channels and I was worried there wasn't many real men out there.
Asking a partner to enjoy everything you do is impossible but if a guy refuses to just listen to his partner about anything she enjoys thats just miserable. How are you supposed to enjoy anything togther if you dont try?
Helpful dating tip for my fellow men: being funny goes a long way, ESPECIALLY on those first few dates.
I met a guy at a club who harassed me all night being so freaking rude and his friend was just not saying anything at all but looked a little awkward. I can be slow on the uptake so I didn't understand why this guy wouldn't leave me alone when he clearly wasn't feeling me.... end of the night he says "so can I have your number", I still don't understand what's happening so I just said "after you insulted me all night? i'd rather give it to your friend" and he just rolled his eyes and walked away and said nothing else.
It took me recounting it to my friends before i was like OH OH OH MY GOD IT WAS A PICK UP BRO THING.
Genuinely sad that i didn't realise so I didn't mess with him. Good on him though for wasting literally his entire night trying to make me, who is beyond confident in myself regardless of what strangers think, feel bad about myself so that i'd go home with him. (edit: i didn't and wouldn't have given his friend my number either but i was so thrown by him thinking I would do that after him following me around insulting me for four hours)
For the "emasculated men" chap saying that Dominant men don't "let" a woman do things, speaking as a strong woman who fits the bill in all of the ways you describe and runs a blog dedicated to such subjects wherein Dominant partners might be discussed, I have some sad news for you: You are not a Dominant man.
Real Dominant men respect women, and that's how they earn our respect. Yes, it's just that simple.
Also, on Up, I totally get it. It's on our bucket list to create a postbox with handprints on it like Carl & Ellie. Don't watch Inside Out, not without a box of tissues. That one reduces us both to tears. I also love the sarcasm about your wife losing respect for you 😂
Lastly, I definitely back the narrative that women prefer men who show emotion. I find it really attractive when a man shows emotion and it makes me more comfortable to be vulnerable around him in return, it's funny how that works 😉
A great video 😊
Literally a blessing you are, god bless you and your family
OMGosh, you have no idea how cathartic and refreshing it was to watch this video above. I LOVE YOU. You have given me a renewed hope that there are actually normal, reasonable, empathic , men out there. I have gone on tons of online dates and none of them have led to anything, so I figured I would watch some videos done by men for men a couple months ago and I watched these toxic videos , and like you said, its obvious that , these men hate women and basically anything a woman does, they twist the meaning to conform to this sad narrative they have about women. And to look down and see you have men on this channel that agree with you??? It sooo warms my heart. Thanks sooo much for this video. Seriously.. Thank you!!!!!!🙂
It's important to note that women love a guy who's in touch with his emotions, what we don't like it's being a part of his unhealthy coping mechanisms. You shouldn't expect a relationship if you're not ready and as much as it may suck you've gotta put the work in to make it worth it for the other person because more than anything else nobody's going to want you if you seem like you'd make them miserable as a partner
A lot don't get that. They dumped their feelings in an unhealthy way on a woman or two, or used their feelings as a manipulation tool, them got rejected and to their mind that reinforces the idea that women hate men who show emotions.
I love this guy...he's so logical and so sweet ♥️♥️
We have the science, can we just clone this guy?
The first guy definitely wants a new mommy lol
as the woman in that scenario, I've always been treated like garbage and expected to always be mommy for men who want that. Now, on the other hand you could argue that he's simply encouraging men to consider these types of women as a foundation, but honestly, some of these guys legit will dehumanize you the moment you fall and need help getting back on your feet.
It's better to have someone who doesn't expect these things from you so they appreciate you even more and always build you up and reassure you even when you faulter.
I simultaneously rolled my eyes and laughed out loud throughout this video. These dudes. Sigh. They need to stop reading/watching whatever it is they are reading/watching.
This channel is so underrated. Need to hype this channel up. Gonna share this with every breathing-youtube-using-being I know.
You got a "guffaw" out of me with the eye contact. That was hilarious. 👏
"First I accepted her answer, and I moved on. That's all the steps." I wish you would write a "school class" that would be mandatory to give in ALL THE SCHOOLS. We need your intelligence, humour and thinking so much, specially these days...
I'm so glad you're here. Please keep making these videos. The world needs this.
0.48 have you seen cats?!
You are great Sir. 👍👏
What is this crying study? Nothing sexier than a man who can laugh and cry. A panty dropper. If you can cry, you probably hold me when I cry.
Girl if you just start doing my house work, first off, it means I didn't do it before you came over.
SHAME!
And second, I'm the one who does my house work.
So if I didn't do it, *I decided* not to. Don't presume to know what my house should look like based on your preferences.
YEET!
This. I'm not going to do it right for a person, and it's his grown adult job, anyway.
My ex wasn't emotionally mature, or capable of/willing to gave his emotions. Have only felt relief since ending that relationship bc I'm looking for a partner. Not someone to raise
The more I watch this channel, the more grateful I am that I'm Asexual because this is just abysmal. I'm horrified by the number of guys my age who just don't see women as human beings.
I got an immediate warm, happy feeling towards The Speech Prof when he had a positive reaction to cats. : )
Gosh my mom wasn't a bad person and I have alot of really good memories of and with her, but she had a lot of unresolved and undiagnosed mental health issues that she refused to treat all due to her own trauma caused by her mother. She didn't want to be seen s 'crazy'. I know she tried to fight her demons as hard as she could because, compared to what I've been told of her childhood, mine was pretty good. That being said my mom did like to pit me my brother and our dad against eachother (I was the easiest to manipulatebecause of my at the time undiagnosed bipolar). Because of this I couldn't look my dad in the eye most of my late childhood to early teens, she had poisoned me against him and though I never outright told him, I hated him. I saw him as a dictator. Looking back he was so unhappy and tired and thats why he seemed so dead all the time. He wasn't being treated right and thats why he was so grumpy. But he never when out of his way to hurt me. Not once.
It wasn't until my mom passed that I truly saw him fall apart. And when he did that was when I realized that he's human too and he's not a dictator. He's just my dad and he loves me and he put up with so much for so long because he loved my mom and didn't want to leave her again (they were divorced for a very short period of time).
I didn't truly see my dad until I saw him sobbing his heart out over my mom when she died.
When they start citing “data” and “studies” to prove their moronic point, always be skeptical. I work with statistics as part of my job and it’s quite easy to skew and misapply them which I hear them do repeatedly.
omg I feel so sorry for straight women 😭😭😭 the things my precious sisters have to deal with.
My partner of 11 years doesn't cry often. But he has a few times during those years. I don't respect him less. I would respect him less if he was a macho asshole.
My husband talks about his relationship with his grandfather ALL the time and pretty much every time he talks about Pa, he gets choked up..
Do these men know any women lmfao like have they ever talked to a woman
When u said why are u all the same person when you said that it’s like the flood gates open these videos you make bring me peace
I legit do not trust men who hate cats. Like, won't be asleep under the same roof unless I have a locked door, and I'll still want to wedge it with a chair.
Cats are smaller than us, they're cute and we want to handle them, but they're more aloof than we would like. We long to touch them, but they have to make sure of us first. They have imperious wants and needs that follow alien logic, and we have a hard time predicting their moods unless we know them well.
Remind you of anything?
Yeah, if a man's reaction to that is outright rage, hatred, and violence or threat thereof, a woman really shouldn't stick around.
Yup, I mean, if he has a fear of cats for some reason, THAT'S understandable. And I even get it if they simply prefer dogs or another kind of animal. But if their reason for hating cats is because they aren't dogs. 👀 That gives me major "I will force my standards and expectations on anything that doesn't automatically meet them" vibes; and I'm not here for that AT ALL.
I'm so grateful for my cat-loving husband 🧡
My husband is allergic to cats. But I've been feeding a feral cat and every time she comes by he looks at her and gets all gooey. 🥰
My bodybuilding husband sends me about 5 cat videos on the daily.
Thank you so very much, Professor, for your wisdom and insight. I hope that men are paying attention. You know what you're talking about! And as a woman, let me just give one piece of advice to the men out there: if you are dating a woman and she doesn't like it when you show emotion (other than anger which nobody likes) then RUN AWAY! She is not "a keeper." The moment anything horrible happens to you - an accident, the loss of someone close, or a serious physical problem - she is going to dump you. If she doesn't want you to show emotion, then she doesn't care about YOU, she just cares about your wallet. Find a woman who cares about how you feel and you can have a loving partner for the rest of your life.
When I saw the movie "UP" with my then boyfriend, we were both sobbing quietly and held hands during the opening montage when Ellie died and Carl was left alone. That's when I knew this is the man I will marry.
They really are weak little monsters. 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Thank you for calling them out. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏🙏👏👏👏👏👏👏
0:10 yeah she's a keeper , A *housekeeper* that is, of your house and you dare got to pay her for that ...
I will never understand the self-infantilization that a number of men do. It’s deeply unattractive and bizarre but I guess thanks for sharing it on the internet so we all know who to point and laugh at
Data? Studies?
How come I can't find all this information?
Ohhhh, cause he made it up in his silly brain.... 🙄
Lol he's not going to pick you he's in love with his brother, that was savage, love your content by the way
"andrew tate's not gonna pick you man, hes in love with his brother" 😭😭☠️☠️☠️
I can't even watch the opening credits of up without crying.
“You want a new mommy” that sent me 💀
as a man never have any women been like ew you have emotions i can't date you? he has to to date children for that to be near truth..
Oh yaaaay, men who have trouble dating women telling other men how women work! Bonus points if he also says "And if any wimminz tells you different, ignore them - they don't know JACK!"
Omega man power here I love this guy's mind
I appreciate a person with resilence and the EQ to manage their emotions; that's important to me in a partner, because life is hard at times. But if you never, ever show grief or fear or deep disappointment, including tears, because you think it's not safe to show me that--I'd be devasted.
In all candor, John Grey gives off some very dated and chauvinistic guidance that causes me to see parallels here. So many of these men are so rife with hatred towards women that they simply can’t comprehend that what they are doing is having women-bashing bro sessions masked as dating advice. They may get a girl. But no girl of true quality and emotional maturity and psychological balance will be remotely interested in any of these guys.
Women be like “we want someone who treats us with respect, actually does have of the work and isn’t self absorbed.”
These men: huh? I don’t speak woman