Do Men Want A Girlfriend or Replacement Mommy?
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- čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
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They don’t even want moms, they want unpaid maids.
Don’t forget the sex toy
Sex toy and multi-purpose household appliance.
unpaid maids who will have sex with them.
And sex slaves
bang-maids
He doesn't want a mommy, he wants a grandmommy.
Cause you know he's too young to have a mom like he described.
That's exactly what I was thinking. What era, exactly, was this boy raised in?
I don't know why, but when I read this comment, I remembered that scene with Daffy duck saying
"Grandmama, when I am old, will you give me your pearls?"
And now all I can think is this sorry excuse of a man child saying the same thing and I am laughing
I am sorry, it doesn't make any sense, I know. But this comment made me so happy
Yeah, I bet he has a Gen X mom, and she would cuff him round the ears if she saw this video HAHAHAHHAAH
Yep. Modern men like this dude want a combination of mommy (who takes care of him as if he is her child), sugar mama (who also makes money to fund his lifestyle), free surr0gate, free domestic servant (who provides for and raises his kids in a much better capacity than he ever will) and finally free s3x worker (at that too exclusive s3x). And ofcourse it doesn’t end there. He also wants her to be his social status symbol so that he can brag about her to his friends and society and can get social capital for having a wife and kids. And in many cases, he expects her to serve his parents (as caregiver which often ends only with end of life care which is actually more work than he himself does for his parents) and also serve his siblings, friends and extended family now and then. And that too she can never age and never have any real emotions. She should do everything without complaining but he won’t do the bare minimum and if he asks her often, she is called nagging, when in reality he is the one nagging for everything (his food, his laundry, s3x, some even complain about baby weight gained by the woman and everything). But yeah, women are unreasonable.
My thoughts exactly. I'm like 20 years older than this guy, and I didn't have a mom like that. Hell, I didn't even have a grandmother like that. What make believe bubble are these little boys living in?
For someone who supposedly doesn't want a girlfriend mom, he sure does mention his mom a lot when describing what he wants his girlfriend to be like.
Omg, for reals! Is he not just describing a mommy? 🤣🤣🤣
No, no, no! Get it right! It's WIVES that are mums. :)
Freud is rolling his eyes at this dude-bro!!
And yet when women do this displaying how much admiration they have for the traits of their fathers, it's just not a problem?
@@roseb1370Maybe she should act like one if she wants to become one one day.
since when do babies get to tell us grown women what we want? we want grown men. which he clearly isn't.
Well he's acting like a toddler so he thinks Mommy should do as he wants. The just forgot to she out of that lol.
Maybe he needs to be put in a timeout
@@elizathomas1284 for the next sixty years.
@@elizathomas1284 The men that act like this ARE being put on timeout. That's what they don't understand.
@@brennam954 they understand it, they just don't like it and are throwing a tantrum, like the toddlers they are
"I don't want a mom, I just want someone who acts exactly like my mom" is.. a wild take
Did he even listen to himself? The void of self-awareness is astonishing.
Not exactly. But hey, making a whole video on it and still not being understood is interesting
@@nathanmstroudaww, you want your mommy too?
@@liul this is why good men laugh at you
@@naomihatfield3015 he probably has more self-awareness regarding this than you do
Him starting with "You women" is all I need to know about him.
Same 😂
Low bar, but at least he didn’t say “females.”
Why do you have the same pfp as me? Weird coincidence.
@@animeotaku307I'm upset this is true 😂
@@animeotaku307That's an incredibly low bar.
Nothing kills the sex life faster than having to parent your spouse.
And then they complain that their wife/servant doesn't want to have sex anymore 🙃
EXACTLY THIS!!!
unless that's your jam, I suppose 😶
(I'm imagining that guy going "baby need diapey change fwum mommy!!! 👶" and it's terrible.
Now you can share in my suffering)
@@idontwantahandlethough 🤣 Ugh now I can't unsee that
@@idontwantahandlethoughKink would be negotiated and consent asked for and given. I do doubt he 'believes' in consent and communication.
The wives in my mom's generation were deeply unhappy. As were most in previous generations. They should be mad at their dad's for putting in so little.
There was a reason for the rise in su1cides associated with gas ovens. These guys really don't get it, do they?
Same here , all incredibly unhappy, however few years ago my mom divorced and has been happier than ever
This. "You raise kids and take care of me and I get money for us" isn't a relationship, it's a business deal
so many people have been raised by women of older generations who didnt have a choice but to be wives and mothers. being raised by an unhappy woman who sees you as nothing but a responsibility is incredibly harmful.
Also my mom would never admit how unhappy she was to anyone due to her religious beliefs. It was obvious to anyone she was miserable. She felt her suffering bought her a better place in heaven. I don't hold those same beliefs.
I am married with kids but I don't suffer from it because I married an active equal partner.
"We want women to be like our mom's generation."
Mate, I'm calling BS on that. I'm OF your mom's generation, and what you're asking for is of your GREAT-GRANDMOTHER'S generation! Call up Marty McFly, dude, coz if that's what you want, you need a Delorian to 1955.
I was wondering how someone from the '50s managed to have a kid in the 2000s. Thank you for posting this. 😄
Seriously underrated comment. SPOT ON!
My grand mother had my mother in 1955 and she was still working a paid job outside
(But it is true she was in charge of all the work inside too)
For real. I'm 42 and my mother's generation didn't all do that even. He wants silent generation or earlier.
For real. Going solely off appearances (at this scale it's close enough), I'm probably about this guys age or maybe a bit older. My grandmother on one side worked out of the home because it was necessary for survival. So unless his mother is 60+ years older than him, yeah, he doesn't want his mom's generation.
Sigmund Freud woulda looooooved this guy 😅
So would Sophocles 😂
I'm sure Salvador Dali painted paintings this guy would find interesting.
Are we sure this guy isn't part of the Hapsburg bloodline?
@@ShinyAvalon I think you mean Oedipus? lmao Sophocles was a pedo...
Sorry kid, I chose to be child-free.
Oh but who wouldn't want such a good little boy?
@@darcy5761That is not a good little boy
@@darcy5761 I'd want a refund
@@animeotaku307missed the sarcasm?
Ahahahahahaha!! Best comment ever.
This is definitely one of those guys who'd say "I'm not rascist/sexist, but *insert something insanely racist or sexist" and act like everyone else is insane
I love it when people say stuff like that. Makes it easy to avoid them when they out themselves as a chronic douche-canoe.
If I get the chance to respond to anyone saying that to me, I'll let them know that what they MEANT to say was that they "are (at best) unaware that they are racist/sexist/etc."
Yep. I had a grandma who said "I'm not racist, I don't want [a whole minority group genocided]" and actually thought that meant she wasn't racist.
Yeah they are called Schrödinger's Douchebags. They utter offensive BS and decide whether "it was just a joke" based on the reactions they get. 🙄
@Luubelaar Love the douche canoe phrase!
Are we all in agreement that he should be grounded for two weeks without his devices? He can have them back when he apologizes, but then he must make a video explaining why he's wrong.
Yes. I 100% support this! He wants a mommy, we'll show him a mommy! 💀
If he keeps acting up, we'll probably have to take him to the professionals to get him the help he needs. He might have a few disorders and need extensive treatment. His school likely has insight as well.
Stop it, you're turning him on!
Most underrated comment ☠️
Stop it, you're turning him on!
Lost it at "Took care of?.....like a little guy......that needs his......Mommy ???"😂😂😂😂😂😂
This man is in so much denial of his Oedipal Complex...
Odds are he has no clue what that means. 🤦🏼♀️
@@Whovian5178 good thing he has mommy to teach him 😭
I don't believe his literacy levels would enable him to understand the depth of that insult. :D
@@pookithesinger7823 If his mommy had taught him he would have more respect for women. 😁
This entire comment chain is golden!! I cannot wait to see where this goes.
Guys like this want not only a mommy, but a maid for cleaning, a chef for the kitchen, a nurse for illnesses,and last but not least a professional in bed, without paying for all of this.
you forgot broodmare and nanny for his offspring.
Actually, women were just expected to lay there for 4-5 minutes and BAM! 😉
Without paying? They then expect You to Pay Half the bills on top of all of this nonsense.
I briefly dated a man that , at a restaurant, gave me a key to his house so I could clean it and do his laundry while he went golfing with his friends. I told him I had my own place to clean and my own laundry to wash, that he can do his chores when he got home from golf. He then whined, yes, whined, that he would be too tired to do those chores and I should be happy to do them for him, as it was women's work anyhow.
I dropped the key and left. Smh
Holy shit, for real? When was this?!
Wow. Is he can afford golf he can afford a cleaning service.
I would vomit
Wtf, he can hire a cleaning service
@pistachoo This was about 4 years ago. We'd only gone out a few times, and I'd never been to his home. That was the last time we went out, too. Smh
He denied profusely, and then he agreed. The boy is not okay.
He really came off as just an idiot that doesn't understand logic.
Hot take: grown adults don't need a mum
Grown men should not need to be parented
And the ones that feel like they need that, actually need therapy.
This is a public service announcement for things young women should shun.
You know if he wants a mommy he can sleep with, there are a plethora of Sugar Mamas who he can have. He just needs to stay in his place and just admit it.
There's also plenty of milfs he could date. Of course, they usually come with kids or aren't looking for more, so I guess that kinda leaves him SOL there, too...
This guy reinforced in me that I'm really quite happy being single.
Same, I've been man/relationship-free for 2 and a half years and haven't been happier (excluding my oblivious child days, of course)! Nothing is more of a turn-off than a little baby boy complaining that his mommy doesn't take care of him anymore. Like sir, you are grown, LMAO. 💀
Come on! Who wouldn't want such a good boy like him?
This guy made me thank Sappho above for making me a lesbian.
@@tjenadonn6158 I wish I was. I once heard a (female) comedian say, "I am attracted to men, but I don't find men attractive" I feel that and I think about it way too much
@@SaltySerialhahaha, I love that line, what's her name? I've totally seen her, too! It's going to bug me now.
The amount of time my mother looked into my father's ocular nerves and called him a dumbass is comically high. Or the fact that my sweet grandma told my grandpa, "You better be having a heart attack with all the whinny you're doing." After he fell off the roof!! These young men did not pay enough attention because our mothers and grandmothers were NOT playing around. Go into any kitchen during a holiday, you'll hear just how much your mommy honors your dad.
So mom.and grandma emotionally abused their spouses, and that's cool?
Your point being?
@@bertberw8653 God made obedient women for men and Scattered them to the four corners of the Earth then made the world round! Good luck guys!
@@bertberw8653those women aren’t fond of life.
@MsAubrey that's a bold assumption. Just because married people fight doesn't mean they're not fond of life.
Last generation of moms to be like that was his mom's generation? Dude is like 24 and describing a 50's housewife. The math isn't adding up. She's got to "take care of you"....cook, clean, and do all your "basic stuff" for you because you can't possible do all that for yourself? Uh yeah, you want a Mommy Girlfriend.
Yep, like even if we assume 30 years per generation, his grandparents would've been like toddlers during the time he's talking about. Or early teens if you go with 35.
Blindly parroting appeals to the past without realizing they dont even apply.
That dude's mom did what every other early 2000s mom did- she dumped him at daycare and went to work, fed him Hamburger Helper and Shake N Bake with mixed veggies, and let him play videogames in his room all the time. He spent his childhood kinda lonely, and has decided that his 1950s fantasy mom should be his girlfriend, who he will cheat on every chance he gets if he's not so porn-addled that he can't pick up at all.
Every generation of women in my family has worked outside the home. All the way back to 1899. (Great grandmother). So to me, this dude wants to date a 140yo. 😂
@@nollypolly so let him 😂
He wants women to be like they were when they had less rights and less respect because they just acted like a supporting character to their husbands and kids.
Whenever i hear someone talk about women acting like a wife/Mom or wifely duties i just want to roll my eyes. Did you forget they are individuals and not just a copy and paste for you? Do all they see is two types? Woman that make you a sandwich and those who don't?
Also curious what he's doing to balance out with relationships after all these demands.
when they had NO rights.... equal pay (by law) didn't exist prior to the 80's in the USA..... Reproductive rights have gone backwards, and weren't in place until the 80's / 90's .....
Children don't have to do anything in a relationship mommy does it all. Will she have to change his widdle diapers too?
Exactly. Modern men like this dude want a combination of mommy (who takes care of him as if he is her child), sugar mama (who also makes money to fund his lifestyle), free surr0gate, free domestic servant (who provides for and raises his kids in a much better capacity than he ever will) and finally free s3x worker (at that too exclusive s3x). And ofcourse it doesn’t end there. He also wants her to be his social status symbol so that he can brag about her to his friends and society and can get social capital for having a wife and kids. And in many cases, he expects her to serve his parents (as caregiver which often ends only with end of life care which is actually more work than he himself does for his parents) and also serve his siblings, friends and extended family now and then. And that too she can never age and never have any real emotions. She should do everything without complaining but he won’t do the bare minimum and if he asks her often, she is called nagging, when in reality he is the one nagging for everything (his food, his laundry, s3x, some even complain about baby weight gained by the woman and everything). But yeah, women are unreasonable.
You know, I always hear about the 'make me a sandwich' thing, and honestly that perplexes me. As a boy and and adult, I made my own sandwiches. I know how I like them and it's incredibly easy. To the best of my recollection, I've never in my life asked someone else to make a sandwich for me unless I am paying at an eating venue, and I think I'd be quite thankful if someone made a sandwich for me. Is there really a common issue among certain men that basic food preparation is somehow this base expectation?
🤔Oh… I’m sure he puts up dry wall, restores transmissions, and chops down trees to build homes. You know the “daily man chores.” 🙃
My ex husband tried to pull that crap on me. He refused to try on clothes at the store. If they ended up not fitting he wanted me to take them back- like his mom used to. I refused. I worked full time and unlike his mom I did not like shopping.
I had a boyfriend who flat out told me that he wanted me to tell him what to do, like when it came to taking out the garbage and things like that. I told him *no*. I am not going to responsible for another adult's actions, and I am not going to be responsible for telling you how to function as an adult to get daily chores done.
Some guys are really out here expecting to be led through life and taken care of, and get mad when you tell them to be responsible for themselves.
Oh my, that flag is so red my neighbors asked me if they can use it to make couplets for the Lunar New Year. I feel sorry for his mom, putting in all those years of hard work and manual labor just to raise a “born in captivity” man who can’t be released into the wild
If you fall for that trap - tell me what you want me to do - they get angry that you are always telling them what to do, You nag.
@@outdoorscholar6016 lol happy year of the dragon
To let him know every time or the times he misses or just forgets or doesn't "see it?"
@@soaringaegis 龙年快乐！🐲🧨
Also he wants wife privileges but he's not being a husband 🥴
That's the argument isn't it? If you want the girlfriend to do wife duties or at least stay at home wife duties, gotta do the providing husband duties.
Although I think that's a dumb thing to ask of a girlfriendor a boyfriend seeing how now the commitment to marriage hasn't even been made.
There is that. He wants his GIRLFRIEND to act like this?!
My grandma told me NOT to wait on a man hand and foot because it will wear me out, a man should help with chores if she works. My grandpa told me NOT to depend on a man, so don't let him make all the money and you I be stuck with nothing if something we're to happen. My parents weren't around as much as my grandparents.
Can't say I disagree! 😊 You hit the nail so squarely on the head! Because this guy was making it a "women" problem when really it's a generation problem. Being able to cook, clean, and parent is something both men and women should be doing but he thinks it's just women that are supposed to do this. And why does he think that it's attainable for most people to raise children on a single income? He seems a bit delusional...
Literally nowhere in the entire video did the dude say he wants his wife to be his mom. Speech prof absolutely did not hit the nail on the head, he projected and straw manned him.
@@nathanmstroud He said why can't you be like my mom's generation. He was comparing current women to his mom and her generation, and asking them to be just like his mom. In reality his mom's generation in his culture are not traditional moms either, so he was in reality basing his rant on his experiences with his own mom. He wanted his partner to be a cookie cut out of his mom, and how she took care of him. That was what 98.9% of his rant was all about.
This dude literally wants to be dependent on a woman, I wonder what his mom thinks about him and how she raised him to be so needy on women....
Or maybe she didn't finish mothering him and he's just traumatically needing to attach to another woman to finish raising him...
This goes nowhere good...
@@blowitoutyourcunt7675 Again, absolutely nowhere did he say that and he in fact said the opposite and explained why. But you're still putting words in his mouth. Do you have any proof of your thesis? No. But are you assuming? Yes. That's on you.
@blowitoutyourcunt7675 Again, absolutely nowhere did he say that and he in fact said the opposite and explained why. But you're still putting words in his mouth. Do you have any proof of your thesis? No. But are you assuming? Yes. That's on you.
All these guys who say they want “traditional wives” don’t talk about how they will be “traditional husbands”.
Having a SAHM requires SAHM money.
And a man who is traditional- never slept around. And yes, fully supported the family financially.
SAHMs need retirement plans and paid time off, and if not that, then a pre-nup that gives them the equivalent if he seeks divorce. Then we can talk about why more women are choosing to work outside the home these days.
That's a delusional way of thinking. @@manifest2203
I was a child of the post-WW2 generation. My father - never complained, worked at his job AND did all the man jobs around the house and yard. He also scrubbed the floors and cleaned the bathroom. He was smart and hard working : made furniture, built rooms, cut and split logs you name it and he was there. Mom was a terrible cook but he never even made a face. At the end of his life he said " did you ever think we would have so much?" I miss my Dad who died in 1983. He was so poor as a child during the depression they lived on government commodities. He joined the Marines at 17 served in WW2 and Korean War. He used the GI Bill to earn an engineering degree.
I don't think this young man could ever be 1/4 the man my father was. He's one of those who thinks his wife owes him. Women don't need that kind of fella.
For real! Like what messed up time-stream are YOU living in?? 😂
I'm pretty sure that women who went "clubbing" have existed as long as dance clubs that allowed women have existed. And that's the one that really gets me because in many ways, I might be the perfect woman for guys like this, and in many ways, I'm the worst women to guys like this. I never, ever went clubbing. I dress modestly as a preference. I enjoy cooking. But I hate staying home instead of working. I hate cleaning. I love my son and kiddo-to-be, but I didn't want to get married until I was relatively financially stable, so I didn't have them until I was 35 and 38. I have been to Free the Nipple rallies, but I rarely wear revealing clothes outside of home because I can't control the temperature of the outside world. I have very, very purple hair, but I'm otherwise pretty square, and you know what I think? Guys who can't take care of themselves aren't worth my time. I work, same as they do, and so I expect a partner to work the same as I do to upkeep the home that we share. And my son knows this and has cleaning tasks that he is in charge of doing (these are toy related).
Also, this guy looks about a decade younger than me. Maybe 15 years younger. His mom's generation also had to work outside the home.
Nowhere did he say he wants his wife to take care of him completely, this is not the issue people think it is.
@@nathanmstroudI know you're spamming many other comments, but I just want to know:
If not completely, then how much does he expect women to take care of him? Doing what exactly?
And, what has he offered to do for them? Will he uphold the traditional ideal values of his father who he didn't mention? Was his father even traditional?
Besides that, what will he offer for this supposed wife? Finances? Most women are financially stable themselves. "Manly" household chores? As if mowing the lawn or taking the trash out once a week is anywhere near equivalent to daily washing, cleaning, and cooking. It's why _children_ are often told to mow the lawn. Are men's chores really just children's chores? Why can't these men also cook and clean? Or at least pick up after themselves?
@@ShoulderMonster How much he expects women to take care of him is really his business? And he doesn't really have to explain it in detail in a video about his personal life where he's trying to tell women stop misrepresenting him? It's none of your business. He's trying to clear up the line where people don't have a right to sit there and project onto him who he is or what he wants. When women do that, people rally behind them. When men do it, women gaslight them. That's the point. Did you notice? You're showing that you have the capacity to think above this, but still aren't doing so.
Again, the video is not about what he offers to do for them. It's none of your business. It is not your or any other woman's place to police how this man lives his life or the value system he wants to follow. The people who are objecting to this video are nosy people who don't have respect for a man's right to choose how he wants to be a man. Believe me, I understand the difference between acting like an adult and acting like a child. That's why I'm pointing it out.
You are not talking about this man. You are talking about similar men who you think this man is. You should recognize the difference. If you have something to say, say it- don't project onto someone who said something else. This guy probably wants a relationship where he makes most if not all the money and the wife doesn't have to work. If you spent more time listening to men like him, you'd probably understand what he actually wants and believes instead of what you think about a clip of him.
@ShoulderMonster By the way, expressing my opinion and trying to stimulate respectful conversation isn't spamming.
How hard is it to split up responsibilities in a relationship and listen to eachother? People talking about how women have too many standards and then dudes will make videos like this?
That's fine, as long as every adult in the household, whether there are 2, 7, or 43 adults, does what needs to be done without needing to be told what they need to do, and does it effectively. No adult is responsible for "raising" a full grown adult.
If someone doesn't know how to do this, they should go to their parents and ask their parents to train them. If they have no parents any longer, take some classes. Or, everyone pay equally to have professional cleaners come in to take care of things.
Speech Prof on fire in this one! 😂 Hey, we’d all love someone to cook and clean for us, right? But there’s another word for that, besides Mom. Servant.
I now have support workers do this for me. I appreciate being kept alive, but it's extremely frustrating being dependent on others because it's rare that I get exactly what need. I envy people who can live independently. I miss being able to cook my own dinners, and do my own cleaning.
Just adding another perspective. 😊
I have friends whose boyfriends/ partners have treated them like maids. I was taking about this just yesterday. I have pointed out to those friends. So I know exactly what you mean !
During the 60s or 70s, a feminist wrote an essay called something like I Want A Wife. In it, she detailed all the unpaid and usually unrecognized labor that women did to make men's lives easier and concluded by saying this was why she also wanted a wife just like the men do.
exactly how im feeling! i feel like im constantly being the mom he didnt have, yet hes 5 ears older than me! a guy in his 30s should be able to do his laundry and clean. its so imbalanced
Exactly. My partner and I share all the housework and financial work and work as a team.
This guy just wants a servant.
Dump his ass
Love, unfortunately that won't change.
Leave him. Seriously. He IS able to do laundry and clean, he just doesn't have to when he can exploit you for labor. Which is what he's doing. It's a strategy. It's not incompetence. He is deliberately using you so he does not have to be an adult. If he actually loved you, he would not do that. YOUR rest, well-being, mental health, and general needs would be more important to him than sitting on his ass if he actually loved you. He is showing you he doesn't. He loves what YOU DO FOR HIM. That is not the same thing. He is showing you who he is. Believe him. You do not get time back that you waste on the wrong person.
He knows. But since you haven't left yet it's commonly known as the tolerable level of permanent unhappiness that some men won't change as long as the woman doesn't leave. Cos in a man's mind, they absolutely would leave so women need to act like the men do in that regard
Women of that generation were raised from the start....to be moms. They were expected to have children BY their mid twenties at the latest. Most having their first child between 19-22 on average. They were expected to do EVERYTHING except the paid labor portion of bringing in the money. The first child they got was when they married and were expected to do EVERYTHING for their husbands. They literally were the moms to their husbands because they did the same thing their husbands mom did. We are no longer in the age of women are ONLY MOMS. Boy in video wants wife who acts like his mom and does everything for him like he is 5 again. Oh and the reality of that generation BTW does not match the "expectations." A lot of the decades after WWII a lot of the men were veterans who wanted more than a stay at home mom/wife. They fought an entire hell against oppression and wanted more for their wife. Wives from that generation were firecrackers!! How many ya'll have grandmothers that are so good at insulting people they think its a compliment? So boy in video wants the idealized version of a generation that has not been in reality for the last... 70-80 years??
this ☝💯
the timing in that 'not all men' moment. chefs kiss. beautifully done.
It always irks me when they say this because the economy would collapse if women dropped out of the workforce to become unpaid servants. We depend on dual income households. What men like this really want is women who go to work and then handle all the wife and mother duties.
So what this guy wants is for his female partner to abandon her career goals and abandon the activities she enjoys to act like... his mom? What is his partner getting in return for those sacrifices?
Because if the answer is "A portion of the money he makes at his job," she doesn't need that. She can have her own career and make her own money. Hell, chances are REALLY solid that she can make MORE money since studies show that American women are more likely to have an advanced college degree than American men these days.
While that is true, white women in the US make 13 cents less in the same positions as their male counterparts. The pay discrepancy is even worse for women who don't have white skin.
@@katherinetomasello3661 Yes, but that's a systemic problem that needs to be corrected. The solution isn't to "just get married", if you know what I mean.
Also, the 13% wage gap becomes less and less of a problem the more money you make. There's a DRAMATIC difference between getting paid $15 an hour as a woman when your male counterparts are making $17 an hour; that $2 really adds up in terms of realized take-home pay that directly affects your quality of life. However, it matters less when you are talking about high-skill, high-education jobs and the woman is making $250K vs. a male counterpart who is making $282,500.
Is that gap still unfair? You're gods damn right it is. Should the workplace be unionized to eliminate that pay gap? You bet your britches it should be. However, both the man and the women in that situation are going to have very similar standards of living despite the man making more than $30K more annually because all of their basic needs are MORE than met for themselves and an average family of 4.
@@katherinetomasello3661 The reason for this is that Women get pregnant, and Men in general are more likely to push hard for overtime and compete than women are. There are some genetic differences that explain why this happens. It's not because we get paid differently for the same work. We deal with work differently. And Women more often sacrifice money over other things more important to them.
There will always be examples of the opposite traits. But in general this is true. No matter what color.
@@Sofie72 Well, part of it is that society values "women's work" differently than "men's work". This means that the kind of jobs that a woman with no skills or education can get - for example, cleaning, caregiving - are likely to pay much less than the kind of jobs that a man with no skills or education can get - for example, truck driving, factory work. And much of "women's work" like caregiving continues to be unpaid entirely. Since the responsibility for caring for elders and children tends to fall on women, this can limit career progression. Meanwhile, many men still tend to have women babysitting them to some degree, as per this video, which allows them to devote more time, effort and energy to their careers knowing someone else is handling all the personal-life stuff for them. Women almost never have this advantage. The best they can hope for is equality.
@@kmacgregor6361 You are right about that, but i would be surprised if A Male nurse got paid more than the Women Nurse or the Women that choose to work in typical Male Work roles less than her male colleagues, unless they ran off with all the overtime. I think it would be a much better point to focus on what you talk about here. That traditionally typical female jobs are seen more charitable and less like a job. And therefore less paid per hour. Often expected to give service for free. I think that should be rectified. It's abuse of those that carry a good heart.
Mom married Dad in 1950. (Card-carrying Boomer here!) She was the epitome of the stay-at-home housewife and mother, the kind this guy wants. ...And yet, she still reminisces (at nearly 99) about the two. years. she spent as a single woman working for a bank before she wed. She clearly enjoyed the hell out of her freedom and financial independence, short though that time was. (So do I - 60 plus, never married, no kids, wouldn't trade my life for the world.)
Guys like this want to COSPLAY "1950s House." They want a fucktoy who'll vacuum the house in June Cleaver pearls, cook their meals and wash the skidmarks out of their undies - but they ALSO want her to have a full-time salaried job outside the home so she can handle 50% of the rent/mortgage, bills, etc. even as she's doing 99.9999% of the housework ("Hey, I put that one dish in the dishwasher 6 months ago!")
I have 1 partner. We have 3 children. I do not have 4 children.
Dude, that didn't happen even when my mother was a child... in the 1950s. My grandmothers both worked. Really hard. At jobs outside of the home. Both of my granny's parents worked at jobs outside the home because the Great Depression was a very real thing and they were poor.
In post-WW2 society, very few people could afford this "Leave it to Beaver" life that conservatives think everyone had. If your parents had that, you grew up in privilege. You can want that, sure, but you want your wife to care for you the way your mother did. You want a second mother.
Again, you can want it, but be aware that there are lots of women who don't, and won't be in a relationship with someone who does.
I can't speak for everywhere, but here in Canada, that Leave It to Beaver thing was achieved with legislation- they made a law that forced women to give up manufacturing jobs so the returning soldiers could take them. The women weren't going to quit working for decent money otherwise. They liked their independence.
It's crazy because as a disabled man who does need a lot of assistance day-to-day, the fact my boyfriend has to care for me more than me for him makes me feel very guilty. Even though he very enthusiastically looks after me, I'm constantly trying to find ways to make him feel cared for too. Because, you know, I actually love and care about my partner unlike this guy
You know, sometimes I listen to other men and wonder if we should revisit some of Freud's theories because holy hell. Oedipus didn't have this kind of Oedipal Complex.
Please protect this man at all costs! I love that more men are comfortable coming forward and saying that they love women, as equal human people. It shouldn't be so earth-shattering, but it is.
So, keep this guy safe! We need men like this talking to other men, raising boys, etc. Gotta get that old stuff left in the past where it belongs
I absolutely love how you splain things the average guy doesn’t seem to understand!😂🤣👍
An "unpaid maid" would also be fine with them, as long as someone does all their chores *for* them..
I’m 32 year old (woman) and staying with my folks while I remote work in a better climate at their place. And it is nice that my mommy folds my laundry.
Anyway… it’s not that I don’t understand the urge. I would love a husband who picked up after me and taught me emotional intelligence just like my mommy. And who can deny that Tony Danza is cute as a button 😂
But there is a difference in recognizing it would be nice to do less and willingly placing extra burdens on somebody you supposedly love.
You know he lives in his parents' house. What generation is he talking about? I'm sure there are lots of women who would like to be SAHMs but they can't afford to in the modern world. Families need two incomes now. This has been the case for a long time, certainly well before this young feller was born. These guys are just convinced that all young women are out clubbing all the time. Um, what? Are you meeting women at... a club? I bet he never stops talking long enough to let the woman say anything.
That's definitely what my ex-husband wanted, even after I was very clear to him that I would NOT be his mommy.
I hate what my mom had to go through growing up. She was expected to cook, clean, raise 3 kids, pay the bills, do the taxes, work a full time job. My dad, all he did was work 8 hours, go to the bar, come home and abuse his family, then go to sleep. He never did anything else and that is how he was raised.
Hope you n your mom are doing better
As my friend's therapist said "You bear a son, you don;t marry one" ZOMG who was that jackass? What a fool. You know he's single and annoyed about it.
I recognized this dude immediately😂
His name is Nate Garner, he’s been annoying as shit on the internet since Vine was a thing. Kurtis Conner has done at least vine video about him
Sigh. They call themselves out. Every time.
well i want a DOMMY MOMMY OR A MUSCLE MOMMY WE ARE NOT THE SAME.
I DONT ASSOCIATE WITH GUYS LIKE HIM
Dommy mommy kinks are fine. We stan. So long as you don't need to engage in the roleplay to keep your home clean.
exactly 😭 I'm fine with doing all the housework, as long as she's fine with being 6 ft 2 and carrying me around 🥺
What's a dommy mommy
@@bertberw8653 Dommy is short for dominant. He wants a woman who will 'step on him', as it were.
@@kitsunephantom6155 Ah, of course. I should have been able to deduce that myself
If one partner's life gets easier when they move in together and the other's gets harder, why would the 2nd one agree to it? If they're not compensated for their time and aren't appreciated, the only people I know who do free labor for others are mommies doing it for their babies.
If you let men talk long enough they will tell you that if they’re mom would never get to old to take care of someone they will stop looking for a partner that will take care of them
My little brother had a friend over once and i was doing some housework so my mom doesn't have to, and he said that it's good to know there are still high quality women that doesn't hate men and still are traditional. Dude i was taking care of the house because i life there too not because i want to impresse a lazy guy that thinks being a slave/replacement mommy is being a good wife
I would be curious to see his mom’s reaction to his video. I’m old enough to be his mother and I call bullshit.
who gonna tell him what our mommas told us lol
I'll see that wives and raise you the request of being a husband. Pay for everything, never put our family in a situation where I have to work or worry about money. If I'm overloaded with multiple children and housework for everyone, pay to have nannies and house cleaners. If you want a wife like that you got to be a husband who can afford a wife like that.
No, little man. Your mom's generation is probably mine (Gen X) or younger, and no hell no we didn't raise our grown-ass husbands. Both of us worked to make sure your needs were met. Now it's your turn to do it for yourself, and take pride in being an adult. Sheesh
Literally nowhere did he say he wants his wife to raise him. Be at least a little less reactionary, please.
@@nathanmstroud Are you the guy Speech Prof is replying to? You're defending him awfully fiercely...
@@nathanmstroud He just wants her to be a sex kitten of a June cleaver 1950s wife.
Maybe somebody should tell him that feminism came out of the deep-seated unhappiness that 1950s culture created for women.
Try reading The Feminine Mystique for an alternative POV on this guy's expectations of women.
@kitsunephantom6155 Yes, I'm defending him, because the attacks on him are unfair and irrational. I don't have to be him. People like you might say I'm him anyway
@@nathanmstroud gremlins defending each other,, men should date each other you deserve each other.
My guy so readily defends himself and says he doesn't want a wife that mothers him. it's almost as if it's a common accusation that he keeps getting hmmm?
Makes you wonder 🤔
Definitely wants a replacement mommy... And to have benefits... Which is all kinds of gross if we dig deeper
Omg! I love how you verbally counter punch this so hard!!!! Thank you, AS ALWAYS, for being the hope that there are men out there who get it!!! PREACH!! 💙💙💙
How in the world do you keep a straight face? This is so crazy that I'd be laughing out loud. Good job!!!!
I just broke up with a guy because I realised after 21 years…. I was just his replacement mum. I’m burnt out…I need a partner who will put as much effort and energy into caring for me as I do for him.
14 years for me. The last couple of years, he was mean too, and perpetually overspent. Sorry it happened to you, it's unfortunately so common. It's soul sucking.
@@constancep7632 luckily mine was never mean….but it made it all the harder to let him go
Apparently totally oblivious to what he's saying. How does he shoot himself in the foot so many times - and not feel anything?
I swear, my toddler is more independent and less needy than that guy!
I’m probably the age of his mom’s generation. We worked. We fast food at the McDonald’s Playland for the kids. If we were single mom’s like me and many of us, we went out, dated. Even wtb me at age 50, my parents when I was a kid went out to the clubs every weekend to go dancing. My mom worked too. Even my grandma worked full time. And when she wasn’t working, she was drinking and playing cards or partying at someone’s home. She even had an affair at one time, and tried to run her husband over with the car. Her mom was an alcoholic too, a flapper back in the day dancing and partying, and abusive to her kids. His version of this demure stay at home mom who cooks and cleans and is proper, a complete fantasy. Now my other grandma, she was a stay at home mom, cooked and cleaned and went to church, front row pew every Sunday. But her first date she ever had, she didn’t go out with him again because “he tried to get fresh” with her. She married my grandpa because he didn’t try anything. So what are these guys doing to live up to their end of the bargain they’re trying to make. Want a traditional woman? Then hands off her.
That young man is no older than 30 (and from his styling choices, I'd say a whole lot younger) which means his mother is probably not much older than 60. Trust me when I say that the vast majority of women having babies in the 1990s and early 20-aughts were not the "traditional" sort of women he's describing.
He looks like he is around my age( 20s or maybe 30) I remember both of my parents working. They both cook and clean. My parents are still married and equal partners.
😂😂😂😂 "like a ... mommy?" 😂😂😂😂
"You don't get it, I don't want a mommy, I want a mommy except she's the one who's half MY size and also I'm in control of all the money, so she has no power to hold me accountable for anything and is completely at my mercy."
I don’t have kids, but if I do, you don't ever get to have your normal life if I don’t. You don't get to party and hate women if I don’t. If you want me to be a mommy, you gotta be a daddy. You have to clean up after yourself (so hard I know), take care of the kids while I get to nap and eat. My old job was babysitting from 6 am to 5 pm. I ate when they ate and napped when they napped. I did that on top of working another job and did my theater hobby after I babysat all day. So men who say "i'm tired from work" okay, yeah, me too its your turn to take care of the children and household.
These kind of men want patriarchy but without the patriarchy money. If they want a sahm who does everything for them, they need to have sahm money. Even then, the wife is not his maid or mommy. She will be the mommy of his kids. He should still facilitate her lifestyle, so that she can focus her energy on raising the kids.
You probably think facilitate her lifestyle as in buy her anything she wants? That's where you are wrong. Women back then didn't have half the resource expectations that we see in literal teenager women now. It's not an apt comparison.
most of the guys that want a traditional wife don't have the traditional salary to pay for it lol
Or the self discipline to keep their traditional hands to themselves before marriage.
Moreoever they should be realistic. Traditionalism isn't possible now. Women now have body counts that would shame rponstars of back then by the age of 25. Wtf are they expecting. They should be more worried about her cheating more than the housework and all.
The Prof being so tickled with himself over saying mommy made my day.
My SO sent me this (he’s a guy and has a close relationship with his mom, but he doesn’t expect _me_ to also be his mom, >.>) with one of the gifs we use to mean that we find it _very_ funny. Years ago, when I super carefully brought up how close he is/was to his mom, he looked at me like I’d grown a second head and then said “if I want to have food I couldn’t possibly eat all of, my laundry done because I normally do on a Wednesday not the weekend, and my butt outta bed at 5:30 every morning to go prune the garden, I’d stay with my mom for the weekend. I like that we do laundry on different days, and that we cook together and… well, partners, not… an Oedipus complex.”
Probably why we’re still together years later, ^^;
(God it’ll be three this September, how weird.)
@@catxtrallways I think it will. He’s a good guy. We talk a lot about future plans, (he’d love it if his home town/city was safer, we’d probably move back, but… it is not. Like, at all) etc. His mom is also a lovely lady, ^^ and she gets on with my own.
Also I am so easy to please with a Shakespearean reference. XD
(To be honest we also have the same horrific ‘dad joke’ sense of humor and love of puns and we kid that we have to stay together for all of time because anyone else will groan us out of a relationship because our jokes are so bad. I absolutely adore his humor. XD)
My kid has done this before and my friends kid does it all the time. They say they want something like cutting up their food or putting on their shoes. It's things you know they can do but they just want mummy to do it for them. We normally say to them something like "aww you want mammy, are you still a baaabbbyyyyyyy?" It's followed by a big grumpy "I'M NOT A BABY!" and then some paddy time.
That seems to be what is happening with this little guy. Might just be hungry and tired from playing with his little friends. Bottle and nap time.
Idk personally I'd appreciate someone who would love to be the mom... of our children. Not my mom.
My mom is still alive & doesn't need a double 😅
What's the betting if his mum saw this she'd be furious and give him an earful about how she worked hard for their family and isn't as old as he seems to think she is.
He's describing the 'ideal woman' of the 50's but he is way too young for his mum to have been old enough to be married in the 50's. He might even be too young for his mum to even have been born in the 50's.
What a delulu little boy.
Yeah, he's probably born around 2000, his mom born around 1975, his grandma born around 1950, and his great-grandma born in 1925. Give or take a few years. It's his great-grandma's generation he's dreaming about, those born about 100 years ago.
“I want her to act like my mom, but be young enough to be my daughter.” - from a Stanzi comedy skit mocking alpha males.
"I got That Dog in me, that's why I go around on all fours-- I am _never_ vertical!"
With those earrings and that hair, he's giving Blanche Devereaux vibes.
😂😂😂😂
And botox lips he looks fruity
If you paid me with all the equivalent paymnet of a private chief that cook 3 meals per day, therapist, baby sitter, baby carrier ( the person who get pregnant for family that can’t conceived baby), a house cleaner, a laundry and clothes washer, makeup artist, hairdresser,…. If you willing to pay all those salaries to me. I will be your mommy! 😂
I love how you turned "not all men" around. 😂😂
Freud would have a field day with this one
My mom's generation, hmm ... My mom was a pathologist at a VA hospital. Her older sister was a research chemist. Her younger sister was a high school English teacher in Germany. Her youngest sister was a pharmacist. And their mom's generation? Their mom was a tutor of Latin and Greek, in a culture in which kids who wanted to get a university education had to be proficient in both of those languages. All five of these women were also moms, but only one of them, my grandmother, was able to work from home. 😂
I can’t “like” this harder, I need a ❤ for this.😂. Love your responses! What nonsense is he trying to tell us in this convoluted roundabout way??!!
does off brand justin timberlake HAVE housewife money? i dont think he does. if you dont have house wife money but have these expectations , you want a mommy. btw, "housewife money" in this economy is 100k give or take. other wise, your SO will have to work and no one wants to work a full time job then come home and take care of a straight man.
I wanted to upvote this every time you said mommy 😅😂😅😂😅
He can start by taking off those earrings then 😂.
If he wants to go there
I'm so glad I raised a 22-year-old my son who told me that he can take care of himself now because chances are he's not going to need you to take care of him either.
Oh my God, I have never seen somebody destroy another person so completely with only the truth. The holy Grail of truth. That guy really did want a mommy for a wife. How pathetic.
This is my absolute favorite Speech Prof video. Hearing him say "mommy?" gives me life.
The not go to clubs line just made think so you don't want them to be able to leave the house, get a break from the kids and such? You don't want them to have some fun after taking care of everything in the house? Or maybe you don't want it so your part and watch the kids while she is out.
Dude's too pretty for his own good.
(Yes you're pretty too Chesko)
But Chesko seems to be a decent guy with an appealing personality too. The other guy, not so much.
@@Luubelaar Truth!
It's why I'm here. Even without ears, he's a total honey.
He looks like he spends far too much time in the sun, or far too much money on fake tans. Looks unhealthy, or vain. Neither is a good look.
The heck? This guy looks young. Younger women of the boomer generation (MY mom) were the pioneering women breaking glass ceilings. I mean hello, the 60s? The 70s? Gen x women (my generation) definitely weren’t known as Martha Stewart lol. His mom is probably an elder millennial or gen x and I’ll bet you she got a job. This dude wants…moms my from 90 year old grandmas era? In the 40s and 50s? 😂
He wants a fantasy mommy that he can also sleep with
My mom is Silent Generation. After her kids were all in school, she went back to work. She also divorced my dad. He's just in some fantasy land.
My parents were older (both born just before wwii) and while mom did do about 90% of the cooking, it was because she had time and he worked a labour intensive job so she took care of it during the week, but on the weekend? Nah, it was dad and of course we did proper Sunday dinner so he'd prep the veggies, put everything in, etc.
One of our favorite 'jokes' was waiting for ladies to ask mom about the frilly blue apron hanging on the bathroom hook. They always thought it was hers.
Nah, she didn't like the frilly ones.
That one was his.
Gets better.
Mom had a type.
Think John Wayne. (In fact, i joke JW was probably my dad's evil twin)
So, imagine JW in a frilly blue apron and you get dad.
A man who could build his own house, cut the logs for the addition to the one I'm currently in, fix whatever you threw at him and never ever forgot to put on his frilly blue apron when he was making dinner.
These numbnuts can barely make toast on their own 😂
0:45 what a marvellously satisfying reversal of 'not all men'
He literally described his mom when describing what he wants in a woman... No, thanks! The children I will be taking care are the ones I give birth to, not the grown-up strangers.
It always still comes down to what these idiot guys really want: CONTROL.
Thank you Speech Prof! After a long day of working in a Japanese work culture, it's nice to come home and unwind with your videos and remember there are those who believe women aren't just something to prop men up for success and that their life goals can be more than 'wife or mother.'