Try this and your mental health WILL improve
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- čas přidán 27. 08. 2023
- It's easy to lose hope. It's easy to feel like you've tried everything. And maybe, to some degree, you have. Perhaps you hold all of the pieces needed for recovery, but haven't ever put them together correctly.
I think we've done an unfortunate job of over-complicating mental health. We've developed a complex set of mutually exclusive theoretical orientations to explain why people become mentally ill and how we can best treat these conditions. None of these theories can be objectively examined in any real detail, and all are completely unique to the world of mental health.
Getting your brain to work right and reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety is really fairly simple. First, you need to understand some basic principles of brain health. These are certain things that all people need regardless of who you are. We all need a certain amount of high-quality sleep, regular intake of good food, daily physical exertion, and careful management of substance intake. Second, you need to understand your individual needs. Certain aspects of life are more essential to some people than to other people. You have to know your mind and what it needs. Once you understand these universal and individual needs, you need to meet these needs consistently, skillfully, and frequently. Do this and your mental health WILL improve dramatically.
Note: I mis-speak a couple of times in this episode and say "duration and time." These are the same thing. It should be "duration and frequency."
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This video helped me not end my life tonight. Thank you.
I hope you are doing okay
Stay strong. Dont give up yet
There is a disconnect between knowing that things like sleep and exercise will make me feel less shitty and make working on my trauma easier, and overcoming my mental illness and dysfunction to do those things consistently long term. Nobody writing or making videos about this topic seems to do anything to bridge that gap, leaving me feeling like I'm just being told I'm not trying.
I believe that is a part of the difficulty that is expected. Sometimes regardless of our mental condition, (the degree has to be taken into account here) we have to do the difficult things that we don't see the benefit in doing in the present moment in order to improve. That's where the individual will comes in. If one truly desires to get better (which we agree can be beyond difficulty with mental health symptoms), they'll HAVE to force themselves to override the negative behavioral patterns. This will take a long time, lots of effort and has to be frequent based on Scott's video. It's hard, I know, but truly there's only so much that others can do to help us improve our conditions.
Yes... it's very difficult. I'm in the same boat as you. To actually be able to do the things we need to do to improve mostly feels impossible.
Absolutely agree
This exactly. Not having the executive function to do any of these things consistently is the problem. It's not that I haven't been able to figure it out. When you add other chronic illness into the mix, and the endless cycle of hospital appointments and stress it becomes impossible. When I'm not expected to appear somewhere to be prodded, I have enough spoons to get up each day and do one other thing, not five things. A sleep schedule is a thing. Cooking is a thing. Housework is a thing. Exercise, self care, therapy, are all things. One a day. It doesn't work.
Being told I'm not trying... That's how I've felt with the many therapists and psychiatrists I've seen. Not in those words, but the message is the same. But, this video is different. It's not that I'm not trying hard enough. I need to know where to put my efforts. I have found that sleep, exercise, diet, and staying away from toxins, like sugar has helped me recover. My focus falters. My focus gets lost in the absence of goals in therapy, recognition of me as an individual, and what I need to do to rejuvenate my state of of mind - I'm a get out in nature person. My attempts "to cooperate with the therapist" to prove I'm trying, feels all wrong and leaves me tired, confused, and wanting comfort food. I want my mental health to improve. I want my overall health to improve. Thank you for this video. I am more than willing to be honest with myself and ask the question, Am I consistent? The answer is no. It's ... I was going to say sad...actually, it makes me mad, that I've seen so many in the mental health field who are more concerned that their answer for my recovery is right without consideration of what all humans need to maximize health AND consideration and thought about me as an individual. Cookie cutter, one size fits all, is what I've gotten. Why? Because it works?! For who? The therapist? "I'm a good therapist. It's not me. It's you, the client." I've had enough of scapegoating. I have met plenty of people who give up and self isolate and/or turn to substance intake for temporary relief. Thank you for this video. I'm not looking to be perfect, just more balanced so I can function without debilitating anxiety and panic.
Trouble is, to maintain this for sleep hygeine, exercise and nutrition, it takes good mental health to begin with.
You have to take ownership of those things, otherwise you're just driftwood. In a bad mental state, you can still take ownership, create intention, and challenge yourself.
@@tomhamelrijckx3635 I feel you are in the 'snap out of it' camp. Look around and see how many people clearly struggle with resisting foods that are bad for them, or controlling portion size, even many who would consider their mental health reasonable. It's easy to see why a troubled mind would have difficulty staying asleep, and exercise, yes, I agree there, even if starting with a short walk
@@tomhamelrijckx3635 Hey genius, if we were able to do that, we wouldn't be in a bad mental state.
What makes you think I'm unfamiliar with physical troubles, or handicaps for that matter? Few people are, actually. I learned from other people's attitude towards the most severe hardships, that taking ownership of one's own fate makes the difference at the end of the day.
True, but thinking this way won't help to improve, it's like arguing for limitations, and most can't afford to be or do just that❤
Honestly, I can't work out how to apply the 'with effort' part. I just want to die every day of my life. I don't understand how I can possibly have the kind of willpower needed to go to work and do my job and have anything left for doing 'the work'. Recovery (not that I even know what that would be like) can never be my priority because I have to earn money.
It seems like an insurmountable contradiction. The very thing you're describing is why I lost all hope long ago.
Me too they don't know how hard it is to get by
This channel deserves way more views
Thanks for saying that! I haven’t been doing this for very long but I’m sure more people will find me eventually! ❤️
I agree! I watched a couple videos before I realized it is a newer channel. I find it refreshing to have someone be honest but in such a gentle way that I don't feel so much shame about my mental health.
@andreajakobs Absolutely, he's brilliant!
Wow. I'm so glad I saw this video. Thank you, I really needed to hear this. What a great message, I can see how I have not been doing all these 3 factors and how it's impacted recovery for me. I appreciate all you shared here. This really inspired and brought me more empowerment. My mental health has gone really backwards lately but I will apply this now, thank you. This is the best video I've ever seen on this topic, incredibly helpful. Thank you again
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Highly agree
#1 model of success 5:25
#2 duration, effort, frequency 6:36
#3 critical thinking 9:18
#4 what to do 14:21; 16:33
#5 individual elements 15:17; 19:25
#6 non negotiable/universal elements 15:48
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That's good advise for people who already somewhat recovered and who don't want to relapse. If you are in a hole...don't worry about meal prepping and fitness studios. Chose your goals wisely. Maybe to sit in the bed instead of lying is a goal enough and a reason to cheer. Maybe to eat anything is a goal enough. Sport, food, sleep, yes, they are important but how much you can do depends on your current state. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would show a loved one who needs your help.
I think you are absolutely right! The goals he mentioned in the video sound like they could easily put too much pressure on a person who already is in a fragile state. I don't think he's completely wrong, but sometimes, taking the pressure to achieve a lot off and be compassionate with ourselves and what we are currently able to do is more important.
Its a bit of a catch 22. 😢 asking and expecting a person so filled with anxiety, apathy, depression, etc to be so active and disciplined, consistent and organsied etc.... almost impossible and very unfair.
I totally agree. Elsworth Baker wrote a book called Man in the Trap. Based on Wilhelm Reich's work ... and describes why therapy struggles to change people. People are trapped in their character....which is way bigger than a few beliefs or situations. Therefore it's important to know where to start to get very quick and early shifts in character that enable longer term commitment to change without distraction or apathy. For a basic example depression can be viewed as a holding back of life energy ... it actually takes energy to hold back the expression of righteous anger... so all energy is wasted & none is available for moving on any positive direction. The holding back is built into the musculature and posture and perhaps the character trait of fawning in the face of threat is used to ward off any remaining feelings of anger. Reich might get one in touch with their righteous anger...get them kicking...loosen the intercostal muscles that depress full ribcage expansion ... all with aim of a rapid breakthru in energy levels. Anger very often serves as a useful short term tool to energize & escape depression. Not many therapists agree with getting angry...however I'm pleased to see Gabor Mate coming down on this side of the fence. As a hypnotherapist I see depression as the thwarted expression of righteous anger....by guilt and shame it's rationalised as unacceptable...and is ultimately turned against oneself. Same with autoimmunity. The body will find a way to attack the self physically if the mind turns on itself. This is the mind body connection. Therapy fails because it sees the mind in isolation.
Yes this is something I believe you cannot do without a secure support system. As a 44 yr old suffering from CPTSD , Severe depression , anxiety and chronic pain I wasn't even diagnosed until a few years ago. Nobody helped, nobody cared. I had to go into detox and found a somewhat stable support system and have been clawing my way to "normal" for past 3 years. On top of being highly empathetic this world made it extremely difficult. But please believe there is always a way out , love yourself , look within and it will show you the way ✌
I tend to agree with you.
What's frustrating in my personal experience is that even when I feel like I am doing all of these things "right", I don't really feel like I improve long-term. I've been going to the gym weekly for almost two years straight at this point; found it's one of those foundational things that need to be in my life for me to function... but when I start slipping into more depressive episodes (or I burn out), it's very difficult to maintain all those routines that I know will improve my situation. And I guess there is that part of me that also says "what's the point tho? We're gonna be back here anyway, we always end up in the same place". I'm constantly burnt out and exhausted, so clearly I'm doing something.... and then it all leads to me wondering why I can't do this when "other people" evidently can. Why does what the majority of other people do effortlessly, take so much damn effort for me?
I totally resonate with what you have to say here. Your last sentence is what I've been feeling super frustrated about lately. Like it takes me gargantuan effort to be one-quarter of the human being that everyone else seems to be effortlessly.
Sounds like you need to fire up your inner sun, the Solar Plexus chakra. 🌞
The ability to prioritize your mental health is a PRIVILEGE. If your'e not at least middle class, you will not have the opportunity to fix your mental health to the fullest. There is in-group and out-group mentality, and your mental health only matters if you can afford it and have time to pursue it. Thing is, the out-group (low-income, marginalized, disabled, troubled youth, etc) doesn't get true mental health treatment. The in-group (middle class society and above) doesn't care about our mental health, all they care about is that our behavior is tolerable for the people around us. That's why it's usually called BEHAVIORAL health. Dialectic BEHAVIORAL therapy. Cognitive BEHAVIORAL therapy. Don't even get me started on trauma, and how the body holds onto it physically...and no amount of therapy can totally rewire your attachment style to be more secure. I'm stuck the way I am and there's no way out. I KNOW this model won't help me because I don't have the support, and I am not treated like I am worth helping.
Finally, a real comment. I am constantly stuck between trying to prioritise working through my mental health or jumping back into work where I'm constantly wishing I was dead, because I need money to pay my bills. On the other hand, what's the point in working when housing is so expensive I'll never afford to buy a home and get away from my emotionally abusive parents anyway?? It's just a lot and nothing short of a miracle can fix it. A disproportionate amount of people are depressed and there's a correlation between corruption in the system and the circumstances we're in, and knowing that we can't do anything about it.
Yeah, we’re all depressed here but Westerners are really a different breed of entitled. I’m always surprised at how amazing you all are at acting like society or middle class is supposed to care. Like shit, that would never have even crossed my mind and I grew up surrounded by extreme poverty. Also, DBT is the most effective therapy for a lot of mental illnesses including depression and it’s used on poor and rich alike. What a stupid conclusion that it’s meant to be some kind of proof that it’s only about getting tolerated. You should be grateful people are even trying to figure that shit out. Where the fuck did you get the idea people need to get out of their way to help you? Do they get a prize? Are they your family? Maybe the root of your issues comes from your incredible ignorant and entitled expectation that society should care more about you. The world doesn’t owe you anything. Figure it out. People are doing what they can.
I have had ME for 27 years which means that for the most of the time I feel totally exhausted with brain fog so dense I can’t think straight. I have never been given a plan to follow, perhaps because it is impossible for me to commit to anything. ME is totally unpredictable in what I can achieve, sometimes from one hour to the next. I might manage to try for a duration and make what effort I can but frequency is never going to be good enough for meaningful change. The irony is my depressive condition is largely the result of the negative impact ME has had on my life. I now have the unrelenting grief of losing my beloved mum two months ago and I’m left living on my own without her. It is too much to cope with but my doctor (UK NHS) won’t even offer a phone call let alone a face to face appointment.
I recently found you and I’ve subscribed and your book is arriving tomorrow because you offer ‘hope’. I need that because living at all is very hard. Only my elderly cat makes me get up in the morning.
Thank you Scott for what you are doing on utube, you are probably helping more than you know❤
Sending you compassion and Hope ❤
@@flyingmm7804 You are very kind. Receiving a reply like that makes the world seem that bit better. Thank you 😊
I understand that you suffer greatly. Sending you tenderness and hope and a warm hug. Pray good people with heart will enter your life. Even the smallest baby steps may you celebrate ❤️🙏🏻
I so feel your pain. It's very hard if not impossible to follow the precepts of typical medical directives if you've been diagnosed with ME (or CFS as it's known in the U.S.). And with the lack of any viable treatment or even acknowledgment for this hideous disorder, it's an impossible situation to be in. I do hope we find some relief; I know we'd love to comply with anything that would get us better.
Dear Julie, I too suffer from debilitating fatigue and from that depression. I am very sorry you have lost your precious Mother, I can only imagine how hard that must be. I'm glad you have your lovely elderly cat to give you love and comfort. Big Hugs from a fellow sufferer.
I'm seeing many commenters frustrated, feeling like they can't get from the hole they're in, to a place where they can apply consistent quality effort towards improving their mental health. (I feel that.) There is another Dr Scott video, I don't remember the specific title, where he encourages people to just pick one thing when they're feeling overwhelmed, and concentrate on just that. Just pick one small thing and start there, even if it seems like it's too small to make a difference.
BETTER IS GOOD.
"Perfect" is an illusion.
I started with a commitment to one meal a day that contains some nutrient value ( yes, I'm starting from a bad place of barely eating for days or only eating junk). Just that has made me feel a tiny bit better, like, whoa, I am actually doing something for my health. It's shifted my focus towards trying to feel better instead of being entirely stuck.
Next is one walk outside a day. Gonna start with like a two-minute minimum and go from there.
To the ADHDers out there, I know we are trying to function without a working memory. I have a journal that I check every day ( ok, well, try to), and I have reminders all over my walls to help keep goals in sight and in mind.
Hope this maybe helps. Be well everyone ❤
I wish the commenters on this podcast who feel angry, frustrated, and hurt by the suggestions could be alerted to watch the newer October 9, 2023 podcast (yesterday, for me) entitled “Why you shut down sometimes.” I think it adds an important piece of information that is missing from this video. I just found this channel today and have only watched these two videos, so far.
Yes, it is true that without effort, duration and frequency you can’t succeed. But you can do all three and still fail. And that’s when it’s really going to feel hopeless. When you rely have given it all you have and it’s not enough.
I know it’s a little cliche to say this, but it isn’t failure until you stop trying. It’s important not to confuse an unsuccessful period for a failure. And also perhaps not to look at failure or success as binary but rather being anchoring ends of a continuum ❤️
I feel like I'm mostly out of things to try. This depression started a year and a half ago. My ex of 10 yrs was cheating, so I finally kicked him out. I did give him one chance to work it out and he want back to it and tried to stay and kept lying. He's out 7 months. I had resigned myself to yearly depressions and that they lasted about 5 months, so would get through them, and try and enjoy the good times and not dwell on the 20 plus year pattern that they always came back. This one won't end.
I tried a new antidepressant. It made it worse. I invited 3 old friends back to my life to combat loneliness, as I'm disabled and at home. For 4 months I was w/ one who lived a block away a lot and we seemed to be helping each other. She dropped out, not sure why. I was doing much better before she dropped out and almost found my way out, but that knocked me back. My ex pretended he wanted back, but it was only because his gf wouldn't talk to him for a few months. I'd been through too much to believe it, so resisted, and now he's back w/ her. Was getting out for walks more and walking to store regularly. His gf lives a block away, and I still tried to walk anyway, but then her look alike moved a few buildings away. I see them both on the regular. I know I'm suppposed to just overcome that too, but so far can't. I mostly stay in. My other friend I reconnected w/ died a few weeks ago. There's a huge void. Moving out of the house I co-own w/ my ex would likely help, but I can barely function, so not sure how to manage that. I kept thinking the depression would lift by now and I'd be more capable. Nope, just getting worse. I'm out of hope. Oh, and I tried to get counselling. Chased that for 2 months, dead end.
"... it's gonna be very difficult for your mental health..." You said it. Many people struggling with mental health have issues maintaining consistently the most important aspects of their lives. Therefore, the main message I get here is "all the immense effort you put in so far for the last 30 years isn't good enough, you might as well give up, there's no chance for you".
I assume you tried the opposite but missed the reason why it doesn't work for us.
I really like his videos but...If we need more efforts to get out of there, isn't the phrase "I'm not trying hard enough" correct...?
It's just nice to hear someone who doesn't judge and who seems to understand and has a coping plan.
"I've never seen anyone actually do this, but if you are the very first person on earth to do it, you'll be healed!"
What a message... especially for people who are already lacking in strength and energy for more than existing. This boils down to: "If you'd just try harder, you'd get better." This is exactly NOT what I need to hear man... It's the same as saying, Oh, if you can get your hands on a million dollar, all your financial problems will be solved! Isn't that great? Why don't you just try it? Seriously, why don't you? It's so easy!
Ugh!
As someone with severe ADHD I just laughed at this 'model'. You basically described the anti-ADHD existence. I'd love to hear how I'm supposed to do all of these things at once when I can barely take care of them one at a time.
Maybe just start with one thing?---until you've gotten a rhythm there
Exactly. ADHD and executive dysfunction almost assures that you cannot follow through with that model. I was hoping to hear something new.
Yep. This.
The paradox, however, is that all of these disorders make it exceedingly difficult to engage in these daily habits. I suppose that's what makes being mentally ill so brutally challenging.
My only win in last months is that now I brush my teeth everyday (but not twice a day still) - thanks to operations. The rest is that for year and a half I've been staring at my computer and doing nothing valuable even for my interests (with microexceptions), let alone prospective job, sponging off my husband, who is working beyond the limit...
I hear you, but I think what most people are missing is the ability to do exactly these things. That is what they need support for in therapy.
I could take action on this advice now that im in a much better place. But at my lowest i don't know that i could have physically followed through and "really actually tried" and i don't think im an outlier. It took moving states, cutting off family, and burning through several jobs before i found myself with enough energy or resources to "really actually" try at bettering my situation in the ways you are exampling. It was extremely difficult and its an extremely high bar for people struggling in depression.
This! I absolutely hate the state I live in. My whole goal is to "surround myself with decent people"
@@annelanders2462 I hope you manage that goal. I'm not sure how to. People have busy lives. No one but someone else really damaged wants to be around a depressed person who can barely get out of the house to do things. I can push myself for essential functions, but I really don't have much to say these days. Trying to make light conversation for short times is a huge effort. Other people just talk and laugh and small talk comes easy.
Wow, I'm very impressed. You managed to move states, keep a job and somehow get out of your lowest state. Which for you, sounds like it wasn't as low as people can get. I'm not downplaying what you went through. Moving states alone while very depressed sounds mount everest.
My life has been very similar. I cut off from my whole family to protect from all their abuse, I relocated to move away from them, I started and finished jobs that burnt me out. I'm a shy loner, struggling with terrible insomnia and negative thoughts. I've had a really hard life. God rescued me from ending my life, then life got harder before it got easier. God will never leave me nor forget me, he loves me unconditionally, I joined ACOA a support group for adult kids of addicts and they give me a lot of love. Look them up. Blessings
My depression comes from losing my father, my marriage, and two children within about seven years, then my mother shortly after
I haven’t finished my Masters yet but speaking from a lifetime of utilizing mental health services, it’s way better to treat theories or schools of psychology as different compartments in the larger tool box. If you don’t have some degree of familiarity with all of them, and if you’re not competent with more than one, you will not be an effective therapist.
Having said this: as much as I love Carl Rogers, I feel that instead of a theoretical orientation his work should really be thought of as the creation of a foundation one should use for ALL other treatment modalities. Regardless of your role or end goal, if you’re not coming to the space with authenticity, humility and a genuine belief that a person can (and deserves to) get better, you will not be performing to your greatest capacity as a healthcare provider.
Agree fully to the extend that this is the same in education - various niche theories and philosophies but when combined in a classroom they are able to reach, teach and lead students (like a second lead teacher) in a more dynamic way.
I appreciate what you are doing here. Thanks for sharing your insights and ideas.
I agree with what you are saying about needing duration, etc., but I don't know how I could apply it when my depression is bad. I've had a few severe depressive episodes lasting for one or two years. I could barely microwave a frozen meal or get myself to take a shower. There's no way I could have shopped for and prepared a healthy meal, or gone to the gym, etc. You have to be at a minimum level of functioning to have a chance of implementing all these techniques. Heck, I'm fairly functional emotionally at this point, and still not able to do much beyond basic self-care.
How does a person get enough momentum to be able to implement these ideas?
Thanks
If you watch a couple of his other videos he tells you how to learn to celebrate yourself, which I never heard of before until I heard him say it and to do one tiny thing at a time and then celebrate yourself and I'm going with that.
I'm thinking we can't do everything all at once and it's like baby steps but that's okay. So if you set up in bed, celebrate that. And if you're able to get up and get dressed inside yourself, you know be your own cheerleader, and then if you come downstairs and you put peanut butter on a piece of toast and you ate it for breakfast, that's a big celebration. And none of that is silly. It's really brilliant. He's a brilliant guy. He is really helping.
And so what I meant to say is watch his videos the recent ones and pick out the ones that the speak to you. And I am writing things down in a journal book to remember and maybe you can do the same thing.
In any case, good luck and we can do it. We can feel better.
And I definitely understand how you're feeling. And I care
This is brilliant, I just found your channel this week, I am going through a phase where i am really struggling, and the few episodes I have watched have mad a big difference. You are the perfect combination of science, life coach, behavior modification, health coach and common sense. THIS is what mental health should be! The facets you touch on are not mutually exclusice. I am in my mid 50's and have had therapy and also seaching on my own to help myself. Please keep posting your content, you will help so many people that are needing what you offer!
I totally agree, this channel is great, i just found it myself.. Keep fighting. 🙏
I’ve only been a subscriber for a couple weeks but every single video I’ve seen so far has been just what I needed to hear at this moment in my life. Synchronicity is somehow a thing
Not inly does mental health treatment need modernized but the cause of mental health issues needs to be stopped. Stop the trauma from abuse, neglect, hate crimes, sex crimes, violence.... etc. People need basic humanity courses, relationship classes and parenting guidance. All while young, then maybe academics can be taught. This society has ruined us, destroyed us. Mental health wouldn't be such an issue if we all treated each other better and lived more natural lives.
I’m completely in love with this guy. He offers hope without criticism, a plan, and is coherent.
100% the goal!
He is awesome❤
Absolutely wonderful and helpful! All the past year I’ve been totally hopeless for the exact reasons you describe - feeling that I’ve tried everything all through my entire life and I’m exhausted and see no future and no point to keep doing all these trivial and usless things that have nothing to do with healing from hard core depression like mine. Doctors and therapists have been suggesting this activities again and again, and I’ve learned to hate and distrust them with all my heart. But I’m listening to you now and suddenly things get much clearer - I was following all this anti- depressant advice either for too short duration, either not on a regular basis, either for too short a time. I felt that I’ve tried everything and I find myself now with a deep sense of despair. You made things much clearer for me - facing reality, my reality, tough as it is, and realizing (again) how much hard work, resilience and energy I shall have to invest into staying alive. Thank you Scott - for your wisdom, experience, and the blunt truth we have to face if we really wish to heal.
I’m so glad this helped and it means the world to me that you commented! Keep it up, you will get there! 💪
@alonakimhi same here 😊
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I like the overall message: prioritize your mental and emotional health / duration, effort, frequency. We all as well as society in general needs to do this. I wouldn’t go to work with a broken leg that hadn’t been put in a cast and at a certain point with long term mental/emotional health situations healing should be the priority and time away from the grind should be easier to access.
I 100% agree with your message and I think individuals need to take 100% accountability but SO does the system/society. To put it all on the individual and not have any caveats could actually be hurtful to some if they don’t understand this.
For instance I was misdiagnosed and I truly leaned into my diagnosis and tackled it from so many different angles from counseling to peer support groups to research, etc… for ten years. There were ways in which I found strategies that helped and certain things got better but as time went on some things weren’t getting better and actually got worse.
As I learned more about the mental health field and how certain things can have similar symptoms I started to understand what happened and began to totally pivot and search for a different diagnosis and different solutions and healing treatments.
And now I’ve started the whole process over with new peer support groups, different therapist, tons and tons of research, etc etc. I’m going to keep working hard and hope to find more success at some point.
But I just think this is a really critical caveat to add to your video for people who may take your advice but then wonder why it’s not working. It’s important that people know if they are taking 100% accountability and truly working hard at it and doing their best but things aren’t improving quite right there may be systemic things they need to take into account. Misdiagnoses can also impact minorities and POC at higher rates so especially important for them to understand this caveat.
Your perspective is invaluable. Recognizing systemic factors and the possibility of misdiagnosis is crucial for holistic healing. Keep advocating for your well-being! I also speak about mental health in my channel.
I have a 132 I.Q. and this has been a blessing and a curse. You hit it precisely with the peer reviewed science that shows highly analytical people have, as a consequence of this, tend toward pessimism and anxiety. We can see the patterns and systems that want to suck out your very soul
Duration/time, effort, frequency are attributes that most people display automatically when they are motivated to do…anything. For me, internal motivation (working toward a goal for myself) is more effective than external motivation (working toward a goal for someone else or to achieve external validation.) IMO the key is to foster a person’s internal motivation to get better. For me, realizing that I was working toward attaining the positives/blessings of recovery, as opposed to avoiding consequences or the negatives of relapse, was the most significant single perspective shift. It happened gradually, and only after I worked very hard at it for quite some time.
“Motivation” is a very tricky word. Everyone wants to get better, but many don’t believe it’s possible. Belief is a component of motivation. I want to be a millionaire, but if I don’t think it’s possible I’ll probably never try. My hope is that the simplicity of this mode makes recovery feel more plausible.
You are right. Perhaps “willingness to trust the process” more accurately describes my thoughts.
I go to bed at 10pm; I have ran or walked, usually ten miles, every day for over twenty years and have gone to the gym three times a week for six ; I eat a super healthy veggie/ almost vegan diet and have done so for over thirty years, and I very rarely drink, a couple of times a year maybe, and I can assure you my mental health has not improved. I have lived my life slipping away and now I’m subjectively and objectively old ( but physically fit). I should add I have been seeing a therapist these past six years and have over the years seen a psychiatrist, another clinical psychologist and attended group therapy.
He talks about addressing your individual variables. Have you identified your individual variables? And if so, are you addressing them with duration, effort and frequency? Are you putting the same effort into addressing you IV's as you do lets say your physical activity and the way you eat? If not, this could be what you're missing. I think addressing these is a harder and more important part of creating good mental health. But completely doable.
I'm not being funny,but have you thought of trying a Carnivore Diet? Watch Dr Ken Berry,Dr Anthony Chaffee on tube. Just diet can make a huge difference to our mental health. All the best x
I think this is one of your best videos, as it actually made me feel hope throughout the video. But i feel like helplessness is what the maybe not so positive commenters are experiencing.
It feels hard to even get the energy to get up and work on these changes. My individual situation for that energy blockage comes from feeling hopeless regarding other goals in my life for socioeconomic reasons i feel unable to change.
Of course, i could think that by the time i consistently worked on my mental health, i will be at a different state and make things happen for myself, but i fear that even a good mental health state will not change the fact that i hate my profession and don't have resources to get into the field i would prefer and go to university.
So basically I am trying yo say that i feel a lack of purpose, bc what i want from life feel lost, and that is such a hard pill to swallow, that i rather die than ti become better. I don't know. It seems like there is nothing worth living for.
Life is short, and we only live once as the people we happened to be born as. I knoe that no one can experience everything. That is impossible. But it hurts so much to know that not even the simplest things couldn't be realized in this life and life has been wasted woth bullshit work and bullshit activities for having made naive choices when young, not amking enough money and lacking a likeminded social circle to do fun activities with.
But I appreciate your work and effort you are putting in in order to help people to get out of the hole people like me are in.
Simple yet powerful advice for mental health.
Thank you!
Wow 😮 I am blown away because I watched another video of yours just prior to this one-and literally left a comment saying that due to multiple mental health issues there might not be hope for me-then I listened to this one and Wham! I have suffered my whole life over 40yrs and unfortunately have never been told to do what you suggested-I can’t tell you how grateful I am although sad as well that I have sought for so long …
You really have the ability to help so many - we need many more people like yourself to help because too many kind and innocent people and their families suffer so much..So glad I came across your channel! Thank you!
I believe that many people are greatly held back by their self-limiting beliefs regarding their mental health. Depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues like to try to convince us that we can't get better, even when we're given evidence to the contrary. From my own experiences with anxiety and depression, working in mental health, and having friends who struggle with their mental health, I have seen that people who refuse to entertain the idea that it's possible to recover won't recover (as long as they continue to think that way). Sometimes it's literally impossible to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I've been there myself. We have to fight these thoughts and be open to the idea that one day we will see it again and recovery will be possible.
Last but not least, " know yourself." Do the dance,
#1 duration
"2 effort
#3 frequency
#1 non-negotiables
#2 individual variables
1,2,3...1,2
Well put together. Like music. Thanks doc!
That was so good; dang I’d all but given up on mental health professionals as a bunch of woke monsters but I’m feeling trust for this guy and I’ve been inspired for my own health habits but also for my stepdaughter who’s mentally ill.
We’re as varied as any other group of professionals! Some of us are just more vocal than others. I don’t like a lot of them either 😂
@dr.scotteilerspsydlp529 spoken like a REAL PROFESSIONAL 😊
Thanks!!
Stop using the word 'woke'. It doesn't mean what you think it means. Your definition is incorrect and because of your incorrect definition it's used as a slur. Being 'woke' means being aware, not reactionary. Open your eyes
@@DrScottEilersas a professional, I think you should dig into your definition of a "woke monster" a little more
@@AlexA-gy7us I have no idea what that is
I can totally relate, thanks so much Scott.
Thank you for not treating us like idiots.
Just found this channel. Thank you fir keeping it real and providing us with actual strategies to try and help . I appreciate you for taking the time to post these!
I also really liked that you said this may be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. It’s true.. if I ever get to a place where I’ve healed and can just get to a point where I can take care of myself mentally, emotionally, physically and just the many layers of self-care I did not learn growing up and beat all the things I’ve faced it will truly be a miracle and nothing will probably ever feel harder than what I’ve dealt with for over 30 years.
I can counsel or direct anyone who has depression, yet I cannot direct myself. Common sense tells me all I need to know but I get glued to the warped vision my life takes when I am in the depths of a depressive episode.
I just found you and omg...where have you been my whole life? U finally have a tiny bit of hope....and thank you for just listening to my sob story on your other vid. Sometimes it's just so nice to be heard
I just discovered you and Im so grateful. Everything you say resonates with my experiences. Ive have been devoted to feeling better and although I still struggle I can look back and be proud that I did put in the duration, effort and frequency necessary. The journey is never over though so Im loving your content. Even after all these years Im still learning and discovering . Thank You so very much for sharing your wisdom with all of us.
Myson always scolds me for worrying about things that never happened! And he's right--I do worry about things that already happened!
I’m in. Watched two videos so far and at the very least I have hope back. Thx 🙏🏼
COME ON. Bro all brilliance coming off this channel. Thanks so much for sharing the golden nuggets every time!!
This guy is the same species as me. Most of my friends don't get how badly I need my outside time (or a large amount of exercise, for that matter-- something like 24 hours a week combined of strength and light to moderate cardio). It's nice to see someone like me being decently healthy.
I often feel guilty because there are so many things in the world that are bigger and more important than me, but I have to spend most of my effort managing my disabilities. I feel like I should be putting most of my effort into the most important things, which exist outside of me. But I know that if I don't manage my health, I won't be much help to anyone. And Dr. Scott has shown that you can put all that effort into managing your health and still do a ton of good for a lot of people.
I feel as if with your help I can find my way forward. You are the friend I need, who has the answers I'm looking for. Thank you so much
I just found your channel and you are truly a Godsend. Thank you so very much ❤
I've been depressed for 15 years now solidly, I've felt nothing almost fully for 10, I only enjoy video games and maybe learning the odd thing, I tried streaming to get me out of being jobless, I hate myself for not working but I hate this system, I feel let down by society and people, I want an escape...
You mentioned you need 3 things for success, I put in time ( a year), I kept rigidly to a schedule, effort, I learned how to do somethings to improve the visuals, making my own avatar, saving up to buy a PC, mic etc, I didn't really get anywhere. Is effort in this case equated to talent? I don't understand how much time I should spend on things when I feel what little life is being burned away, I'm worried I'll get a miserable job and lose what little time I have for games or learning new info for being a robot. I feel like a lost cause.
I REALLY liked this video. Your absolutely right. I am not giving my recovery even 50%. This was inspiring
I seriously, seriously needed to hear this. Thank you so much for some sobering advice.
You are so welcome!
You have literally saved my life with your videos so thank you ❤
I know that what you have to say here has certainly been true for me on my journey. Of course there is more to the picture than any one video could convey, but I like the way you put the individual in the driver's seat of their own mental healthcare.
Wow.
Nearly 20 to 25 years of major depression and this is the first guy really helping me. And all of these physical ailments I had no idea were coming from depression and anxiety. I'd like to really thank you Dr. Scott for pointing these out because no one else ever has.
You're precious!.
Wow. This IS actually an approach I’ve never heard! That’s surprising! And I like it! You said in another video that I have to build my entire life around managing my symptoms and that seems to go along with this. This whole idea gives me a new perspective.
You made me smile ear to ear. Excellent teacher. This absolutely applies to anything you do in life.
As usual another amazing video. You make so much sense, thank you for being here.
Oh my, this is a tough one, basically a clean healthy life, good food, exercise, sleep is the answer, as long as it’s done consistently, not here and there and making it a top priority.
Quit the looking back, and looking forward and stay focused on the present.
That’s how mentally healthy people live
What an incredible way to look at this. I recently stopped my masters program so also enjoyed the beginning. I love your videos so much and really enjoyed this one. I would love so much to have one on one conversations with you for treatment. Thank you
I relate to you so much. Thank you for making this content. It's really helpful.❤
Taking responsibilities for your self and put in the effort this works. But I did this on my own. So good to know your on the best track. Great work ❤🎉
Hi Dr. Eilers,
You have me laughing so hard! (at myself) Yes, this information isn't exactly ground breaking. But it DEFINITLEY needed to be said! When it comes down to it, we all HAVE to do the work we've been given, and keep on doing it, on a consistent basis. Such an obvious thing but I think a lot of us get so lost in whatever is ailing us, that we forget about this. Thank you for this excellent video. I agree with your theoretical orientation and I think no matter what "TO" other psychologists go by, they should include what you're saying here with their treatments. Very useful video.
And mental health cannot be a side quest. Well said!
This is the tragedy - to have tried very hard, all the time, for years, and failing.
I am going to listen to everyone off your video love yr channel and I need help soo bad Thank you soo much god bless you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻👏👏❤️
Unity gain. Nice explanation. Thank you, Dr. Eilers for your words of wisdom.
Great !Thanks a lot Dr!
Thank you. I feel like you’re helping me save my life. I appreciate your existence. Thank you.
Could have had more content to this video, it really spoke to me and I felt like it could have more to it. I am finding that you are really helping me and I undetstand you better than the people I have had counciiling with.
This guy is an untapped gem of helpful, useful information about mental health. No b.s.
Thanks.for me this advice and explanation is very helpful.
Your videos helps me a lot! Thank you for your channeland i also bought your book❤! I hope you continue to post because it helps so many people
Thank you so much!
Okay, so this is the 3rd video I've watched of yours *Scott" and its absolutely brilliant! You have a great way of describing Mental health in a way that is so easy to understand, this has made so much sense to me! So funny when you said about doing the 4x steps on the slide rule, I'm absolutely "NOT" doing those things! Lol..so obviously no improvement at this point. But such commonsense basic things. And "Negative self talk" is definitely my other variable. You make seem really simple, and easy to understand.
Wow. Damn...
You are remarkable. Your presence is a freakin' gift.
First, let me say thank you for taking on the interns! I am one.
Second, let me say your content is golden. I'm 54, born to a schizophrenic mother and an alcoholic father. Life has been nutty and there's a LOT of valuable life experience in my bag of tricks. Between my clinical counseling program and life experiences, I recognize quality content and you provide it.
Thank you!
I have getting enough sleep under control....but being more active and keeping negativity out of my life ( watching the news media and CZcams channels that claim the world is coming to an end ) are something I really need to work on. I crave to get outdoors and do yardwork, but find it hard to get off my hind end to actually do it. I need to find the motivation to get more active.
Brilliant. Thank you. Feel validated😊. I have been doing these things for a couple of years and my mental health is soooooo much better. I have suffered with emotionally unstable personality disorder forever😢. But after 7 years of group psychodynamic psychotherapy with a very experienced therapist and doing the sleep hygiene, nutrition and exercise I feel much more stable, younger(I am 64) and have a life worth living. I do try to encourage my friends to adopt these strategies but there is a lack of faith and an overdependence on the medical advice and medication they are prescribed. I wish they would watch your video. Thank you again❤
Excellent !!!!!! Thank you, great video
Excellent information thank you so much
I am so happy I've found your channel. Thank you for sharing your videos! 🙏🙏🙌🙌
Welcome!
Because you make so much sense and give hope for results, I have to change…I pray I have the strength and commitment! Thanks for sharing your knowledge!
You got this!
I have done all 3 for about 6 years.
My mental health was my #1 concern for a few years.
Now? It's no longer my top concern. 😊
I've improved a lot using lifestyle changes, IFS and Focusing.
Superb. Thank you.
9.52 OMG spot on!!!!!!!!
From your first word to your last in this video I kept saying, "Oh my gosh! Oh my gosh! Oh my gosh!" I'm saving it and coming back for a few more listens. You make sense to me and I need things to make sense.
So glad to hear that Christine
Very helpful. Thank you.
Thank you ❤
thank you for seeing us
This is so helpful. Thank you for sharing your knowledge 💕🩷
Wow. Thanks. You know me! Very helpful 😊
wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you for giving out this tremendous free information!!!!!
You are so welcome!
This is great. Very simple actionable steps, all about creating the right habits
Excellent advise❤
Thank you.
I lost faith in psicotherapy time ago, maybe not psicotherapy in itself but sure about me. I had a very rough childhood and life and was diagnosed with borderline disorder and PTSD. I stumbled across one of your videos two weeks ago and I am listening to you everyday, because I really relate to them in a way I rarely felt before. I would really like have a talk with you but I don't know if it is possible, I live in Italy and my English is not perfect as you can see. Anyway I want to thank you for your words and your contents that you give us for free
I love the professionalism with lived experience model. Kinda like you. 😁
Thanks, that’s 100% the goal!
Thank you!
I was told by both psychiatrist and psychologist that they canno longer help me after about 6 months of failed treatment. There's no point in trying.
Sounds like you’ve offended someone’s ego and not reflected back their “good at jobness” back properly. 😉
I have hit this wall several times and as a young person it was VERY damaging. Now at age 50 I can finally see that they have egos and get triggered by their own failure and then they blame and get rid of you.
Maybe they don't know how to treat you, but that doesnt mean you can't get better
I'm so sorry this happened to you. That sounds incredibly disheartening.