13 + 1 Ways to Fix Your Mental Health in 2024
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- čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
- There are typically 3 reasons you might struggle to set and achieve goals.
1. You don't have enough time or energy to do the thing
2. You forget about the goal because, hey, life happens
3. You don't totally understand why a method, process, whatever actually works.
I'm problem-solving all 3 of these for you, and I'm giving you 13 concrete strategies that will transform your mental health (if you follow them).
Let me know in the comments if you're willing to try.
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Bonus reason - be careful who you listen to.
1 - do not pick up your phone unless it is for a very specific reason
2 - don’t buy anything you don’t need.
3 - just one caffeinated beverage per day within four hours of waking up.
4 - eat three meals per day.
5 - have a maximum of one alcoholic drink per week.
6 - 5 to 10 minutes of stretching and mobility work every day.
7 - regular exercise 3 to 5 times per week, of about 20 to 30 minutes every time.
8 - go out on a special ‘date’ once a week, whether it is with yourself, a significant other, or family.
9 - read one nonfiction book every month.
10 - take five minutes at the end of the day to do a victory journal, where you list all of your wins.
11 - schedule important self-care activities into your phone. Don’t leave them to memory.
12 - look at a list of important reminders every day, first thing in the morning.
I believe I got them all, but perhaps I condensed two into one. I think these are fantastic recommendations, and exercise alone for me is such a huge one.
Thank you!
Amazing! Thanks for your summary
Well, I'm already trying the first one, but that makes me consider utilitising the zeroth one, because, well, ADHD. I can get a notification of a message I need to respond to, which gets me to actually pick the phone up, but there'll be something else in the queue ahead of it that I forgot about or postponed earlier and only realise about again when I pick it up, and then, boom, it's thirty minutes later, I've gone down a rabbit hole with that, and I've forgotten what I grabbed the phone for and have to have a moment explaining that out loud to someone so my brain will actually reprocess back to the correct spot and I can do the actual thing then put it down after.
Like literally happened yesterday evening whilst I was at my mother's and the message was something relevant to a conversation we were actually having... not sure if I'd have figured it out without relying on the unread-message repeat alarm utility I have installed.
Certainly there's no games etc on there, I use it as a communication and information retrieval device (maps, googling things, etc) and camera and that's it, maybe very occasionally a music player. But the communication apps alone can eat a lot of time if I get pulled into a conversation.
Also it's quite infantilising and dismissive to call what I'm doing there as "nothing". It's about all the socialisation I get most days. Life is fairly lonely outside of a few hours on the weekend. Or I'm actually learning stuff. Etc. It sounds like the infuriating flippant judgement of a generation-gapped parent who doesn't care to actually find out what their kid is doing or interested in. I'm not reading celebrity gossip blogs. And even if I was, that's something, just not anything good. I was doing "nothing", I'd be staring at a blank screen.
Likewise the third one, I'm simply not functional without sufficient stimulants in my system, and I can't get a prescription at this time. I know the caffiene is a bad idea, but it's all I've got as I can't stomach soda-style energy drinks. I've tried cutting it out. Didn't go well. It's bad enough that I've had to cut the sugar because of borderline type 2 diabetes ... had to increase the coffee strength to compensate.
Second, define "need", especially as I'm out of work and operating to a very limited budget anyway, I ain't collecting anime figurines over here; ditto, what's a special date count as in the Eighth? Seeing family for dinner and a bit of time with the nephews, or something more extravagant (again, where's the money come from, as going to the cinema for one particular film that I was determined not to miss was a stretch)? What's an important reminder for the Twelvth, if you're someone with serious trouble decision-making over wheat vs chaff? My to-do lists end up filling entire printer-page size lined-notebook pages, in two columns with other stuff jammed in the margins when I remember it later.
Fourth, Fifth and Seventh happen reasonably regularly, so eh. Ninth, I thought we were supposed to be getting out of the endless reading hole? Most of what I'd be interested in, nonfiction, right now, would be in the same self help arena, or basically a podcast transcript about some real-life thing, which I may as well listen to whilst, say, doing the laundry, or trying to get to sleep, instead of losing time to by consuming it in visual form.
Eleventh, I'll refer you to the First again. Very bad at scheduling whether electronically or on paper, but that IS a good way to have me looking at my phone again, at exactly the worst time, unless it's a reminder for something in the afternoon that goes off in the morning and tells me to put a timed alarm on my watch. Probably I should get a smart speaker of some kind, which can bug me with verbal reminders, but, quite honestly, to hell with that idea, on a privacy basis. I have a friend who has somehow hacked theirs to be free of all the spyware ... I ain't got time (or, again, money) for that. Ironic bootstrapping problem perhaps? Besides it's just one more electronic nanny that I'll end up telling to F off whilst jamming a pillow over my head, or desperately trying to finish some other task before its own deadline.
Probably could work on the Sixth as I guess I don't make an _organised_ go of that, more unknotting muscles when they get tense, and it's a bit of an issue. Maybe the Tenth too, on better days, so long as, say, "walked to the shops and made an appointment I've had a request letter for at the doctor, including picking up a sample tube" would count. Though that only took thirty seconds.
So, like ... I guess this is meant for depressed neurotypical people and probably not aimed at folks like myself, or am I misinterpreting something?
(mind that all this was written paused after the first point was read through... and yes, it's not like it's a new concept, just presented differently, or that I know it's a bad idea, and even that I should be carrying on with what I sat down to do at the computer right now instead of commenting - I only pulled up YT for some background sound whilst going through a whole load of pre-shred archive document scanning and intended to play music instead - but it's actually keeping that idea in mind *at the same time as* what I'm trying to do, when monotropism takes hold... and I'm wondering if the rest of them will provoke the same reaction when they're verbalised)
edit: _restarts the playback_ oh OK we weren't even finished with the first point. Watched a bit further before re-pausing in something between distress and disgust. We're actually now about a third of the way into the video and still on point 1, and it's become an excuse for bragging about all the things he's done, which isn't going to make the rest of us feel any better, especially if what's happening is the free time we get is at the end of a day of hard work and we're too wrecked to actually do that much more. I'm not a doctor, I'm pretty low on the career tree (OK, more like, for various reasons I've never even really got beyond swinging off the lowest branch, including with a recent attempt at changing direction), I don't have anything I can run outpatient clinics for or whatever. And that itself is just _doing extra work..._ which is often kind of WHY I'm burned out. I also therefore don't exactly have a large home, I don't have any space (or money) to build a home gym, and if I did, the downstairs neighbours would complain. Woo, thanks for making me feel even worse about my life than I already did, doc. Perhaps an example of what someone in the same kind of hole as those you're trying to help, and what simpler and more humble - but, for a lot of us, still seemingly out of reach - things they did once they found the extra time might be better, rather than holding all that crap over our heads. Plus, well, if you've made it to doctor, you're probably far more functional in daily NT-world modern life than everyone in my segment, so you're starting from higher on the ladder anyway.
...So yeah, I'm out, I'm going to spend the remaining 24 minutes that would have been blown on this video actually playing background music and getting some more of my old documents digitised. NVM the time spent writing this of course 9_9
Thank you!! It was helpful to look through the list instead of wasting time by listening on the phone 😉😉👌
Thank-you for writing this all down? I thought to myself oh I should have been writing all of this down and will have to listen again. Which would be just fine of course. So thanks again for thinking to do this!!!😁
I am 93 and recovering from a broken hip and broken arm 2 years ago. I walk 1/2 mile a day and feel great. I nearly always have to talk myself into exercising. Often it’s difficult to get going but the battle is at the point of taking the first step. Once I start I always finish and I feel so much better. 🎉
Good for you 🥳
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OMG
Im feeling so old and ugly, and useless at 74. And avoiding hip, knee, and a few other surgical repairs...
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I just cannot figure out how to get through it
@@deejewell4831 My mom used too say...Growing Old is not for sissys....shes right on that one.
Life is a gift. I often just sit and veg out in a depressed state, but even one small accomplishment is making à différence. Thanks Dr. Eilers!!
Awesome ❤🎉
Your tips are helping. It’s obvious you’ve been in this position. Previously, I haven’t taken action. Now, I’m brushing my teeth and showering every day. That’s huge for me! Thank you.
This man is a Gold Mine of mental health.... I can listen to him over and over. So valuable.
I think because he actually struggles with mental health, he truly UNDERSTANDS. I am already seeing improvements in my life because of his advice
I just stumbled onto him and that is my immediate response as well. He's amazing!
Couldn't agree more. So many tools.
Amen and Amen👍👍
If most of us simply do what's advised here - our lives will change dramatically. (Certainly for myself anyway).
Three months ago I could hardly get out of bed. Started super slow, things are improving now. At first I committed to one meal a day and 10 minutes of walking. Concentrating on improving sleep, which makes a massive difference. "Why We Sleep" by Mathew Walker (mentioned in this video) is so great and so helpful!
I’m watching this rn from bed after spending all day here. Thanks for giving me hope
@@littlewillowlinda start super small and celebrate every victory (being able to get out of bed even to the couch). Focus on the things that will improve your mood/energy/attention and start there. (For me it was/is diet, exercise and most importantly sleep.) Good luck to you!
@littlewillowlinda There's hope, lots of hope, so long as you're still breathing. Could you get a copy of "Why We Sleep" as suggested by @ripple_on_the_ocean above who said it was very helpful? Perhaps set up a plan as they did? Perhaps talk to each other? I know that's hard and that a phone can weigh 500 pounds, but it's doable. Have you tried setting one goal for yourself? This could be your first if @ripple_on_the_ocean were to agree. You might want to run that by Dr. Scott first as he is trained but even better, he has lived this predicament. The hard part will be putting your plan into action. Once you do, you'll be on your way and feel a strong sense of accomplishment. Once you've taken the first step, that could motivate you to keep going. 🙏💗 Good luck with your journey. I've been in your position, too.
Matthew Walker is great, you can find many informative interviews with him here on CZcams.
@@sacredpaw awesome thanks for the heads up! I can't shut up about his book since I read it. I need some new content to annoy my friends with haha
#1 Limiting screen time/phone discipline is my main issue. I feel addicted to it.
Agreed, the time I spend on stupidly astounds me…..yet nothing I do seems help reduce it long term. Might have to buy a phone vault !
Same here. It's scary.
It's become a huge problem for me, too.
Same. I never thought it would happen to me.
The shorts are rotting my mind 😮
@@CentaurPressshorts are the worst. I have many clients and acquaintances that get hooked on these. One short that looks interesting, turns into “1+ hour later “ 😂
What’s frustrates me is @CZcams don’t allow you to switch that crap off from showing up
I am going to SERIOUSLY START these exercises! I'm in so much misery. I just want to be happy again! My life used to be so good and happy, with my horses and my friends, and my art! I hate OKLAHOMA! I am a native Californian, and I miss my home.
I hope you’re doing okay. Wishing you a good day and week.🎉
Must be different...like a fish out of water.....I live in Big Sur , Calif . And we do have Our problems...but fully understand where your coming from .
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God im soo sorry you live in oklahoma out of all places
I am 75 I don't think I have ever 75 years on this Earth Heard anyone speak as perfect as this man does dear heaven we are literally blessed to have him on CZcams everything he says is true I now dwindle away laying in bed most of the day arthritis ulcerative colitis bones hurting everything just watching my videos but this man has made everything in life seem possible he is so intellectual that is unbelievable his family is just blessed and he has blessed all of us with his knowledge I sent this video to myself to watch every morning hoping to God it will help me some in my later years of life I used to be extremely athletic now bed vegetable got to implement some of the things this man has said in my life God bless him and his family because he is certainly blessed us by getting on CZcams and helping millions of people anyone that listens to him has to be helped by his words he is just wonderful 💯 a blessing❤
A bit dramatic?
The point you are making in this video is SO important and hit me on the head. I do NOT lack knowledge on what to do to live a better life.What I'm lacking is implementation and nothing else.
To take this one step further: although I've watched > 100 videos on your channel and Huberman's and diary of a CEO and many others that have provided me with all the input I need to improve things, I still seem to think I'd rather watch 20 more videos dealing with the same questions rather than putting any effort into implementing step one. Maybe you could make a video (if you haven't already) stressing that nothing is going to improve in your life unless you put some effort in (which will be a pain and not necessarily give you an immediate short term benefit) rather than going for the comfortable way, such as hoping that the next video you watch on youtube will change your life just by watching it.
The Same Here, as with "Dackel 1972" (previous commenter ; and Thank You, Dear Dackel 😊) .... BUT, - I - have Another, likely More Menacing thief of my New motivation;
Morbid grief Knocks Me Back Against the wall behind me,
stealing away Every Speck of Splendid Determination I have managed to muster up!!!!!
Then I Deflate like a Tight Balloon as I try to move on a task I Want To Do.
Because it's Then I remember that my husband (45years) is NOT With Me & Won't Be Returning. He's been buried for the last 8 years ... unforseen suicide.
We were Both Independent Individuals, with Both individual Interests AND Joint Interests. We 'worked' our daily lives & routines Successfully & Blissfully Together. Like trapeze Artists!!! It was 'Our Recipe' for such a Long, Wonderful marriage.
I 'wilt & fold' before I ever stand up to move forward. And withdraw to 'safe place' in my room. Where I cry and 'remember' that he's GONE, for the Rest of My Life.
....... ☹️😰😱😖🤧 .
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(bless you, Every One. ) .... M.
Same ...
THANK YOU THANK YOU! This is me! My home is a mess because,
1. I work overnights 6 days a week. I just want to lay in bed on my phone when I get home. For HOURS! I am going to spend 2 hours at least picking up and cleaning. I have so much stress coming home to a messed up home.
THANK YOU!❤
Take pictures..it might help you see your victory! 🎉🎉🎉
This year I'm focusing and taking care of my mental health by what I call the holy trinity... My mind, body and soul. Eating brain food, exercising by following CZcams videos and finally giving thanks by going to church and strengthing my soul.
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WOW, Dr. Scott!! You totally nailed me with that "never getting past the learning phase to the doing phase"! THIS is what I've got to learn to do.
Or do to learn in this case :)
Me too!
Me, too!!! ❤
Me too!!!!
01:59 -1. Be careful about endless information seeking.
04:09 0. Be very careful who you listen to.
07:00 1. Do not pick up your phone unless you have a specific reason for doing so. Put it down when you have completed the task that you picked it up for.
11:30 2. Do not buy anything you do not need.
13:59 3. Limit yourself to 1 caffeinated beverage per day within the first four hours of your day.
15:50 4. Try to eat three meals a day: breakfast, lunch and dinner.
16:50 5. Limit yourself to a maximum of one alcoholic beverage per week.
20:04 6. Work in some kind of stretching or mobility work (5-10 min a day tops).
21:37 7. Doing some regular prescribed physical activity in addition to the mobility or stretching 3-5 days a week (long-term goal: 20-30 minutes a day).
24:18 8. Try to plan something special for yourself/a date/family outing once a week.
27:12 9. Try to read one non-fiction book per month, 12 books per year.
29:53 10. Try to, at the end of every day, to take five minutes to just do a quick victory journal.
32:50 11. For things that you are going to be doing at the same time of day consistently (meals, workout, etc), put them in your calendar as a recurring appointment, set your phone up to notify you.
34:11 12. For things that are harder to schedule, general lifestyle changes that you want to commit to, get some kind of notes app on your phone, write them in there and look at it every single morning (optionally put their screenshot on the lockscreen).
34:58 13. Remember that you are constantly writing your own autobiography.
Thank you!
why is that when I always listen to your videos, it feels like you know what I am going through and feels like I have a new friend being kind to me? I have a very fucked up life right now and your monthly videos reminds me that this is not my end of the line. Thank you so much.
At last a doctor that actually understands and makes sense to me.
I’m not the first person to comment on this but what you said about earning your own respect hit really hard. I have implemented many of those strategies and definitely felt the benefits…but earning my own respect seems like the unreachable dream. Maybe that one goes beyond depression and anxiety for me. The best thing I have going for me is that I rarely give up trying to improve things for myself …and if I do it’s just to give myself time to regroup…so I guess time will tell.
Funny, I’m information-seeking right now! Action is definitely harder.
Guilty of all of these points.. and I can barely get out of bed
Same! I usually find the advice on this channel to be within reach of attainability but man, this video is making me feel terrible about myself
If all you can do is sit up in bed, do only that.
From another of Dr Scott's videos:
You have thrive days and survive days.
On thrive days, when you are not completely drained by the end of the day, you can aim to do a little more so your future self can thank you for that.
On survive days you do what you are capable of, so you can have a future self.
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@grimsqueaker5333 Thank you for reaching out to me with your helpful advice, you're absolutely right. I've kind have broken the cycle somewhat, due to an emergency trip to the hospital where I spent 3 weeks, it's got me eating a little too, something that I couldn't do before. I'm determined not to go back to my old ways as even though I've only been back home 24 hours, I had shower, immediately, make up a fresh bed, disinfect and tidy my hospital stuff away etc, and I've been feeling much better for it. I'm really proud of myself for breaking that vicious cycle and like you say, I am going to have bad days ahead but at least I can remind myself that I can do this. Thanks again, I really appreciate you taking the time to care. Warm wishes xx
@@missyme2673go for Keto diet . I had gone through terrible episodes but since started keto diet I’am improving a lot .
I like that plan for the phone 😊 i remember what life was like before cell phones
So do I. We just found other ways to waste our time, often even more insular or damaging than social media use is. TV binging. Alcoholism. So on and so forth. It's not like we were all hyper productive and/or creative powerhouses before Facebook came along, and there's still plenty enough of those people in the world even now. Some of them only even have those outlets or ability to work because of the selfsame technology.
Yep, that’s me. I don’t believe that I can tie my own shoes. I can’t do hard things. I’ve done almost all of this list and it changes nothing.
I’ve been battling depression and anxiety since I was 11 years old. At times, I saw improvement and other times, I felt a deep sense of deepening depression and gut wrenching anxiety. I didn’t know where it was coming from but now I know that deep seated traumas were never fully resolved.
How old are you now ?? Me too since 15 yrd now I’am 38. Highs and lows in my journey. Hope I could pull it off coz I had shown resilience before CZcams resources and now I’am experienced and have CZcams resources like Dr Scott, which will help my fight less challenging.
I love you Dr Scott. I love that you are so relatable & you never sound preachy or judgemental & I love the fact that you have been the person you are speaking to & not just rattling off stuff from your textbooks that got you your degree. I can't wait for your book to arrive in my mailbox.
Hard agree! Absolutely love you Dr Scott. You're saving so many of us, thank you for being the one person who's managed to get me up, dressed and feeling a glimmer of hope for the first time in months x
Don't allow your self be used, lied to,avoid caffeine, and don't allow yourself be disrespected.Words of experience folks.
Earning my own respect, that was powerful for me, thank you. I tend to look outward for reward, validation, etc, but you are so right. I need to earn my own respect by doing, not doing, things that propel me towards greatness, my definition of greatness.
You are so right about info seeking. I think I’m the Queen of information overload. Time to take action…period. Thank you!
Fantastic ideas thank you. A really important one for me is celebrating the small victories each day - I am a person who tends to be critically hard on myself so this is something I'm definitely trying to work on.
Thank you so much. Thank you for your authenticity and the motivation.
I want to add 'dancing' to your suggestions of workout. It lifts my spirit immensely, and it doesn't matter if it looks good or stupid, nobody is watching me. I just let my body move the way it wants, hopping around, stretching, shaking. It's kind of an intuitive form of movement, and most of the times I do it without any music. But dancing to uplifting music is great as well, even if the first moments may feel somewhat awkward 😄
Your podcast is like having a best friend who gently roasts you because they love you
I really like this video. Scott is so open about his own struggles and at the same time he points out the scientific approach to „heal“. I think the way he is describing things helped me understand better what I already heard a thousand times. I wish you all a healthy and happy 2024.
I've been implementing "incidental excercise" and started my list with just making my bed and doing the dishes, then getting dressed. To have a cuppa and then go into the bedroom with the bed looking nice, boosts my self esteem and I'm more inclined to dress nicer and look forward to getting into bed that night. I make vacuuming and laundry, tidying etc my exercise routine with squats, stretches etc and have the satisfaction of a tidy place too!
I'm definitely getting stuck in the "stasis/in-between" moments. I start seeking instant gratification and that only has me feeling disappointed in myself. I also am trying to stay mindful and not keep trying to digest too much self help strategies or getting stuck in "analysis paralysis" that perpetuates the feeling of "nothing is changing externally for me".
it's like I know I have grown but, I can't find the right opportunities to implement or, I'm now waiting for the world to catch up and reflect the work I've done.
Meditate...
Maybe don't be waiting for external approval of your personal progress...
I am an information hoarder and it's a thing that does stop you from taking action and moving forward. Thanks Dr Scott... you just make sense.
Watching your videos is like watching a better version of myself, someone who got through. Never stop Scott ❤️
This is a great list! My current phone goal was/is to stop looking at it 1 hour before bed. I finally did that last night, and I actually got almost 7 hours of sleep! I don't know if the phone thing was the only reason or if I was just finally so exhausted, but it felt really good. I can manage most of these, I think. 🤞Thanks, Dr. Scott.😊
I started a cross fit 3x per week and it is helping me fell so much better physically and mentally. I feel like I have a chance to change my world 🌎
Super glad I found this channel. Love your humility and real doable advice. Thank you.
You are amazing! I hope you know that. Last night I lost my sleep and all the catastrophes started to go around in my head again (the last couple of years have been full of sh*t in my life, nobody would believe if I told everything that has gone wrong, it's absolutely ridiculous 😅). And my sleepy head says: I think dr. Scott has a video about catastrophe thinking, find that when you wake up. And when I woke up and looked at my phone there was an announcement about this video. I regard you as my youtube therapist (I have no other kind of therapist). So thank you for doing these videos! ❤
To me nb 1 is absolutely the most important. I spend waaaay too much on my phone. Many times it's because my energy level is too low for anything else, but it doesn't help at all. All the things on my to do -list just piles up to those horrible towers, so I need to stop being on my phone before I've done all the other things. 2. Not a huge problem for me, but this year I have to be even more conscious about this since my income is getting lower. Instead I should get rid of all the clutter I already have. 3.-5. I already do almost like this. No need to change, but maybe improve just a little bit, since the huge coffee mug in the morning and some wine when cooking are the rare enjoyments in my life at the moment. I need to improve my meals though.
6, 7, 10 I already do, but great tips for 10, because it's sometimes so hard. 8. I've tried, but somehow it almost never happens. Now I'll put it in my weekly schedule to try again. It's sooo important to have something interesting in life. 9. To me any book would improve my life. Fictional might be even better in my case since I'm having some kind of burnout.
11-12. I already do a lot of this, cause I couldn't survive my life without old fashioned paper calendar. A small paper tracker is great for those that don't have a certain time. I have it in my calendar. Phone reminders are no good for me, I just click them off without even thinking. Plus I need to be less on my phone, so I don't want to add anything with that.
I just wish nobody would need me for a while. I feel like everyone wants something from me (and of course very soon) and it always messes up my own schedule and there's no time and energy to recover and do something for myself or what I've planned. All the time there's something to take care of. And no matter how small a thing, always something goes wrong. If I buy something that I need, at home I'll notice there's something missing or broken in the product. Not a big deal alone, but when this happens all the time... It's like a curse.
On the other hand many times there's some luck in our misfortune and the situation could have ended up absolutely horrible, and it didn't, but still the overall feeling is that absolutely everything goes wrong. I think it's not anymore enough to have some luck in the continuous catastrophes. I want them to stop. I've had enough of them already. And I need to put myself first, but no matter how I try I seem to fail in that one. Or maybe I'm just so chronicly stressed that I feel like I fail and it's not really objectively that bad. 🤔
So if I may hope for a subject, I guess it would be chronical stress, and how to deal when everything goes wrong for a long time.
Doing nothing on your phone is almost like the modern version of alcoholism, drug abuse or some other really destructive habit. I shudder to think of young people who never knew a world without cell phones who somehow imagine they literally cannot live without their phone right next to them. I find it very sad.
To keep away from the phone is the main thing I really have to work on. Soon 50 and diagnosed with ADD. Single dad with 2 young kids every second week, working from home, having a house with a big garden. I really try to keep up with all shores, but it is not easy. And the phone becomes my escape sometimes, and also like a drug. (my drug is information about everything, and one reason I follow you) But I working every day to be the best person I can, and I feel good about allot of my progress. Not using my diagnose as a "free card" for not doing the things that is hard. More an unddrstanding about where I have to work harder.
Really have to value myself more. Because I always put myself last.
"Temu,Temu, shop like a billionaire"🙈🙉🙊
I def got hoovered in. Nothing but an endless impulse isle.
As far as ruminating goes mine is in the morning which is quite typical for people with clinical depression. Really makes a day hard to get started on.
I’ve only discovered your channel recently, but it’s really resonated with me. Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s truly helpful.
Ex best friend, of 20 years. Always on the phone. No matter what, or where. Had to inform him that it’s actually rude, and we don’t get face to face talking often at all. Still decides to take calls over dinner and whatever else, and continue to actually engage in conversations, whilst I sit there…. Just giving a look that said it all.
Woeful. My phone is in my pocket, on silent, or turned off… I have voicemail !!! And respect
For me, doing something spiritual every day is important eg short meditation. I also find my mental health is better when I do something creative a few times a week. Sometimes I spend literally 3 minutes sketching something simple or doodling.
Oooh! I forgot about doodling! TY!
Thank you..your videos are really of help for me..sending blessings to you 🙏 ❤
Buying things you don't need. A lesson I didn not learn until about the age of 52 during the pandemic. Years prior to that I became somewhat addicited to buying stuff on Amazon. One click and two days later the item was here. I did just what you were explaing... going on Amazon looking for things and then deciding I needed them. Not the other way around. What a waste of money. I want to do my life over and not buy crap.
Thank you so much for what you are doing. Following you is really helping me with my battles. You are providing a lifeline ❤
I read on here in these comments, but can't find it again.
Today you saved me.
You said
"Some days you thrive,& and some days are survival"
Thank you❤
Excellent point about my phone. Aside from when I’m listening to videos during dish washing etc. I do waste time watching inconsequential videos on, say, birds hatching! It’s not like I’m denying my obsession with scrolling - I do that too. And I know these are time wasters. So today I will leave my phone alone unless I functionally need it. Thank you for the push!
Great information all in one video! I am also adding to the notes app to read every single day: why I want to implement these changes in my life and how my life will be better as a result. Sometimes I lose track of that and it just seems like more things I “should” be doing.
Dr Scott you are the first Dr, Provider or who ever makes some common sense I can follow and really help me..
You have already helped me.
Thanks.
I’ve been caught up in the exploration of separating thoughts and beliefs from reality. Seeing a thought and emotional reaction as a byproduct of my body’s nervous system responding to a familiar pathway (belief), and that’s where depression takes hold. If I respect the emotion at the time but hold lightly to the thoughts before and after, my ‘story’ loses its power to drown me. What is my higher truth of who I am regardless of these feelings and reactions.
This works a lot of the time and then suddenly it doesn’t. I can’t even identify the belief or origin of the thought. There’s just despair and freeze response and deep deep sadness. That’s just my egoic mind (I tell myself) that is fearful of change, is more comfortable with what it knows.
Whilst this is not wrong, I’m seeing that there is a balance here and these tips for helping myself ARE building new pathways. I’m a physical, emotional and spiritual lump of existence. All of it needs to be looked at. Thank you 🙏
You are a soul having an experience in physical form 😉🌟
I'm in depth of depressive episode since mid Sept
I had to stop this video half way through and just absorb. I heard workable, reasonable, doable and logical ideas.
When you said you were so anxious to put gas in your car I nearly cried. That’s me. Learning so much from your videos. Thank you for being willing to share your knowledge. I have hope.
Well Dr Scott, you hit me right where I live. On my phone. All of these are very important adjustments and I appreciate this video. Yep you nail it! But you didn't stop there, you gave us great advice on top of prompting the self-reflection.
We need to speak about nutrition more, healing the gut-brain conection❤
Regarding caffeine, it's generally recommended now that people wait 1 1/2 to 2 hours after waking to drink caffeine. The reason is cortisol daily cycle.
So what am I meant to do in those first two hours where I can barely crank my eyes open and might be expected to drive across town then concentrate on complicated technical work?
Don't say "just wake up earlier" because that'll just encourage me to go back to inventing a way to slap people in the face over the internet.
@tahrey Sorry, I haven't seen any suggestions on that other than take a week vacation without caffeine to see if that resets your body systems and dependence.
@@tahrey 💛
Maybe work on the other dozen ideas first?
Maybe get around to the caffeinated beverage item last?
Maybe then switch to Half-Caff?
~ Caffeine ☕ Queen
Got pen in hand! God I hope I'm important enough to myself to save
Another great video! with great advice. As you said, it's simple and we already know it but it is then actioning it. How about a video on ways to start taking action when your brain is screaming no?
That's a great topic. I've gotten a little better about doing that but have a long way to go. I may have already suggested that to Dr. Scott.
stopped at 3:11. Thanks for the adivce about seeking too much information. Didnt watch the whole vid because I dont want to overstimulate my brain.
Thank you for putting it all together in a list. This helps me a lot.
Thank you. I definitely heard an accurate definition of my procrastinations…indeed it’s how I found you.
I’m always looking, not doing. But I put the screen limit on my phone. And I’m feeling better about picking a thing-walking to concentrate on. Thank you.
Seriously, you are so great.
Thk you so much for you sharing all of this...very nice
Dr, you always show up in the perfect time!
Such important points! Thnak you so much for this summary, really appreciate it!
You are absolutely right. Thank you for this.
These are really valuable. Thank you for taking the time to share
I stumbled upon your channel a stand I soooo glad that I did.
I have been reading your book but this is the first time I have tuned in. So far so good 👍 ❤
This is awesome. Thank you so much, Dr Scott.🙏
Always look forward to Dr Scott's ideas! I've used several over the past few months and am better off er for them!
4th reason. Avoidance due to denial and social stigma, or the perception of social stigma. ' Me, anxious, never'!
Thanks for sharing. I needed a framework to help me stay on track.
I’m amazed how precise your descriptions of what I feel and how on point your answers to the questions I keep asking myself are! You’re like my big wise brother from the other side of the world! I’m really glad one of your videos was recommended to me a couple months ago!
Thank you!
Thanks again Dr. Scott 🙏🙏 always fascinated by your assertive feedback's 😘😘
Dr Scott is a very brave individual
Love these!! I just started a short stretching routine and I cannot believe the amazing endorphins release! This is a great channel! Thank you so much!
This is an AMAZING video with so many great points. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Thank you. Excellent sound advise. That's what I love about your channel.
I really love this. I’m going for it. I’m really excited 😆
Thank you for your valuable work. Your videos help me tremendously.
So practical and useful!!!! Thank you!!!!
Great talk! I'm going to implement some of these now! I want to listen to your talk again tomorrow and take notes ! You are a wise person, and i like the way you bring your own experiences into the picture.❤
That was SO helpful! I thought at first like you said,it’s stuff I’ve already heard, but it really made sense. I can’t grasp it all in one sitting. I’ll have to go back & listen again. But for this listen, I picked up telling yourself 5 good things you did that day. I am going to do that! Thank you!
I SO appreciate your honesty and genuine concern for mental health. So many issues you mentioned deeply resonate with me. I've been in a rut so long, I can't even remember the last time I had something to look forward to. Thank you for making these videos. I've been gaining valuable lessons and just wanted to thank you. Thank you for sharing your own anxiety stories- I've got plenty too!
You were right as always 😢 sorry having a hard time, very greatful for your videos though thank. ❤Dr Scott
I’m so excited to have come by you. You’re the most real, down to earth, non-bullshit, awesome wise person I’ve heard on CZcams. Like wow. Thank you
Just Discovered your videos Yesterday, i really like the way you explain things, helpfull, thank you
Concise. Articulate. Inspirational. Thank you!
You are right on about the phone, shopping, etc. I canceled Amazon, both my husband I were constantly ordering stuff. 😮
Dr Scott, I like how you make your videos relatable by sharing your experiences. Thank you for sharing ❤
Physical activity and fitness are saviours! ❤ the emotions are in the body, they need to move and exit
I’m SO happy I found your channel today-thank you!! ❤
Sir, I’ve commented a lot on your videos and it was one of the first steps to stepping out of my anxiety. I’ve always been anxious about mundane things, but you encourage me to want to be better for myself. I appreciate that you give out this advice for free!
You’ve been one of the best therapist on CZcams for me, personally. I’m so thankful to have found your channel.
Ty! Your advice is practical and down to earth, and you present it in a non judgmental manner, I’m putting your suggestions into practice, I am very thankful ☺️
IT WORKS!! In that exact package! A great move for me was to go and get checked up by a doctor. It's all about that TLC! BTW eating regularly, and breakfast especially, basically makes you calm down a bit. Such things might not seem like much, but "take care of the pennies and the pounds will take care of themselves". ;) Thanks for your work Dr. Scott!!
Thanks for this very important list. I relate to you a lot. As a seasonal worker I have learned the hard way that I need a lot of stimulation and purpose and can’t just chill out and relax for five months in the off season. But realizing this has brought so much more fullness to my life.
I have another tip for reducing stress and increasing leisure time. I used to come home from work every day and scroll my phone on the couch until dinner time. Then my weekend would be filled with chores and errands and it felt like I was always working. Now I maximize my work day and try to fit all my chores into the week and make my weekends a chore free zone where I can focus on meeting my other needs for rest, socializing, etc. not everyone will have the ability to do that but it’s been a huge game changer for my quality of life and mental health
You are so incredibly kind🤗
The information overload is so real❤ thank you
Excellent tips
To add to this
Embrace hardship every day, create a tough attitude! become mentally stronger 💪🏽