r/AITA for Not Giving My Bro $2,000/month?
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:09 Moving out
3:45 Xmas meltdown
8:06 Gift return
10:31 Pregnancy announcement
13:53 Not my problem
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Story 4: Dude…come on…you know DAMN WELL that even if Op HAD told her sister she was pregnant sooner she STILL would have freaked out because she is absolutely unhinged.
Op did absolutely NOTHING wrong here.
When someone says “you got pregnant to spite me” there is quite literally nothing you can say to try and reason with them.
It would have still been better than showing up to her sister’s pregnancy celebration while pregnant without telling her.
@@briannad9155 it was a dinner between sisters and their husbands as they hadn’t seen each other in 6 months not a damn party
@@briannad9155 Apparently you and Dabney didn't realize it was just a catch up dinner between sisters and not the entire damn family. -_- Fair as you didn't read it but not Dabney as he had read it.
@@stuartwalker9597 if someone’s calling you to tell you important good news like a pregnancy and then inviting you over to their place in the same conversation, I feel like it’s common sense to assume you’re celebrating the important news.
“Hey. I just wanted to call and let you know that I’m 3 months pregnant after dealing with multiple miscarriages. Wanna meet up at my place and absolutely not celebrate this good news I have with our parents?”
Let’s use our brains a little.
@@JaneDoe1812 “Hey sister of mine. I just wanted to call and let you know that I’m 3 months pregnant after dealing with a bad miscarriage. Wanna meet up at my place for dinner and absolutely not celebrate this good news I have with our parents?”
It’s both a catchup dinner and a celebration of her pregnancy.
Story 4: that doesn't seem to be what she's mad about, she's mad that you are going to give birth first and that she thinks you revolve your life around her and decided I'm going to get pregnant to irritate her. I don't care what she's been through she has no right to talk to you like that, no one's going to schedule when they get pregnant for her and I'll be damned if I let my family call me up to call me name just because I didn't ask for permission to have a baby. Stop talking to your sister until she finds her damn mind, you gave up more than enough for the sake of her feelings now she just being an entire ass.
Get her a gift card for therapy as an “I’m blocking you” present. 😅
@@Tustin2121great idea!
And giving a score of 0.5 to her? Yeah, no, you can't stop your life for other people
@@dominicharvey6048 I do not understand the "I'm having trouble getting pregnant so I'm insulted when any other woman gets pregnant" concept.
@@peterhobson3262 because some people have the mindset of only my pain and happiness is what matters
Story 4: "All the attention won't be on me."
And there you have it folks there's the REAL reason she's throwing a fit. She sounds coddled as hell.
Right? With a response like that, what would it have mattered if OP had told them beforehand that she's pregnant? Imma hazard a guess that the sis would be shooting back a text, then, that "You're no longer invited. No offense, but I don't want you upstaging me at this event." I'm 99% sure that's how it would have gone because the sis sounds a wee bit toxic, imma be real. :/
@@bluestreaker9242 “a wee bit toxic” that’s an understatement and a half 🤣
@@stuartwalker9597 Too right it is. XD
wtf was she supposed to do in the pregnant sister story the sister IS an entitled brat
If people say she should’ve said something sooner, it wouldn’t change how her sister reacted. She had the mindset that she should provide the first grand baby
I'd exchange "entitled brat" with "mentally highly unstable". There is even a good chance that her trauma would cause her to become an overly protective mother which in return would harm the growth of the child.
Baffles me how people can't get why deciding for a grown adult what's better for them, not tell them something, then blindside them with the news is kinda of a dick move. The sacrifices are irrelevent, because the sister never asked for those, other people decided without her knowledge nor consent it'd be better for her. Hell is paved with good intentions, just because you did something with good intentions doesn't mean you're not being an AH. The sister has the right to be mad about it, althought she's 100% a bigger AH for getting mad about all the wrong things. The 0.5/5 for OP is deserved.
Apparently she was supposed to either abort adopt out or take her bullshit. Op was in a no win situation that she still went out her her way and beyond to hide it and not upset her sister.
Op got pregnant first. Theres no way this baby was a ploy to upstage her sister. There was no right way to reveal a pregnancy to someone this paranoid.
Getting pregnant just to upset her, I'm fairly sure that's not how pregnancy works...
I'm not a woman, but I wouldn't put myself through all of that just to piss someone off.
If you are willing to get pregnant for 8 months just to upstage and spite someone, then that's honestly a huge effort just to piss someone off.
At this point it sounds like OP was better off telling her sooner so she could’ve had her gender reveal and baby shower. I know she did this out of respect for her sister’s feelings. However sister has no respect for hers and has turned a happy moment for OP into a blame fest.
@@lorilancaster5917 she still probably would have had a meltdown.
@@Simipourfangirlthat I have no doubt but at least OP could have her gender reveal and other baby related events.
Op: *sends $500 in grocery money to her parents*
Parents: "I CANT BELIEVE YOURE BEING SUCH AN ASSHOLE!"
My family acted like I was a POS because I called the cops to report my FIREARM had been stolen out of my room. It was literally hidden in a box of feminine hygiene pads. My gross cousin was going through my stuff when my bf and I weren't home.
My bf and I were staying there temporarily. We left within 3 months because even though we were the only ones actually paying to stay there, we were still treated as Burdens. Acting as though we were killing resources. We didn't use even half as much as the others because everyone else had kids and whole families.
We paid our parts, were respectful of rules, and even shared our food. Still wasn't enough. It destroyed my relationship with my childhood caregiver. I always knew she would choose others over me, but for it to actually happen really hurt.
@@MP-me7tc I hope that cousin now has a federal firearm felony on his record, and you got the firearm back.
Bro I could buy food for a family of 4 for a month with $500! And my stepdad is a voracious eater! I would be over the moon if someone was just giving me $500 a month to buy food!
Seems like I lucked out a bunch. I moved back in with my mom when her health took a hit (cancer, she beat that fucker into oblivion - for a somewhat long time), we decided we'd share chores according to our abilities. She were the better cook and overall better with household stuff, I'm good with the stereotypical manly stuff (gardenstuff, houserepairs and pretty much anything that's physically taxing). I basically had to force my 300€ of foodmoney on her and even then she gave a bunch back to me. And ses, I eat more than what you can get for 300€ a month. I just can't believe there are people so greedy and/or lazy that they have to basically extort their children...
*Proceeds to call up my bank to cancel the transaction*
First story: NTA if you pay rent, that's your space and they can't force you out unless they're evicting you.
And since there was no lease, OP can leave without paying anything
Basically it was an "unofficial" lease. And since there was nothing in the writing OP does not have legal rights to the living space. HOWEVER this also means she can leave at any time without giving her parents anything. And she's sure as hell not obligated to just give them money for no reason after she moved out.
@@BadassHater1 I'd be very curious if a lawyer would weigh in. I've heard landlord horror stories of people not paying and staying months without paying. She can show her home has been there for a substantial time (dmv records of address) should make it harder to forcibly evict...not saying family should come to that, but I don't think it is as cut and dry as you suggest (not a lawyer, I could be completly wrong)
@@BadassHater1they also can't just force OP out either, OP has definitely lived there long enough that their parents can't just force them out. But fr op sounds like they're happier where they are now.
I love that they were surprised when OP refused to pay $1.8K to be crammed into the mom''s hobby room. LOL Who would accept that?
There is literally no scenario where OP in the 4th story is the butthole. She went out of her way to keep it from her so she wouldn’t be upset. She scarified gender reveals and baby showers just for her sister. It was going to come out eventually it makes sense that she would tell her after her sister is pregnant herself
Not to mention, it wasn't announced. The sister freaked out and asked her at the door if she was pregnant, at least, that's what I'm getting from how it was written.
Yeah R/Slash should really rethink this one
I agree, but the moment her sister told her on the phone, she should've said something then to give her time to process before the dinner party. That's where I feel OP made a mistake, but the sister went off the deep end in her reaction.
@@rykkihart5966agree with you!
@@rykkihart5966 That is the only thing where OP could have done anything "better" imo. But even if she didn't, I still don't think she's an AH.
Rslash, people shouldn't put their lives on hold for others. OP got pregnant and skipped out on everything because the sister refused to get therapy for her mental health issues. And you saying OP is an a for being pregnant?! Mah guy.
She should have told her sooner- rslash, literally forgetting the fact that she probably would have claimed op did it on purpose.
She would've claimed that either way...given the sisters' mental state, I don't think there was ever a good time to tell her...
Also the title is misleading she didnt announce her pregnancy she showed up visibly pregnant bc shes at 34 weeks
To be fair, OP doesn't have to share anything about their personal life with the sister. And given the sister's attitude, it wouldn't matter when she told her.
She's not a jerk for being pregnant. She's a tiny bit of a butt for showing up nearly due without any warning to the sister.
How could OP be the asshole? No matter when she would have announced her pregnancy, the sister would have heen hysterical. Either a) "you're pushing your pregnancy in my face while im grieving" b) you're having a baby before i have one after i lost mine and our parents will focus on you" c) the current scenario, "you're having your baby before mine so our parents focus on you"... There was nothing she could have done to prevent it at the time.
The sister is probably in a combination of still dealing with the losses and upset that the spotlight isn’t on her anymore
And that is why the phone call would have been the right moment
@@bibigamer502 exactly! That's what I meant to say and couldn't figure it out
@@andrereschke7888 she still would have freaked out. From what I'm understanding.
Op didn't know that her sister was expecting until her parents told her.
And that was the same night most likely that she was invited to a diner to hear the news.
So if op told her sister on the night, the sister would still be angry and telling her that she's trying to upstage her and steal her spotlight.
The sister shouldn't have tried for a baby until she was mentally well and stable.
*First OP:* This is why No Contact is a thing. OP's parents expected her to still pay for their rent and groceries after she moved out? _And_ they charged her $1800 a month in rent?! OP is NTA, and she was very generous to give them $500. They didn't even deserve that.
*Second OP:* OP let her dad and stepmom know numerous times that she doesn't want another mother figure in her life, and they ignored her. They shouldn't have been surprised by OP's response. OP is NTA. The double standards made no sense.
*Third OP:* Why do I feel like OP's wife doesn't like Kayla? She pulled a mean prank on Kayla; Kayla rightfully called OP's wife a jerk, and OP's wife's response is to return the gift? _And_ she wouldn't apologize for her role in the situation after Kayla apologized? OP is NTA. It's sad that their 15-year-old son was more mature than the wife to apologize. Maybe he did so to avoid discipline, but still.
*Fourth OP:* OP has been considerate of her sister's feelings to the point that she chose not to hold a baby shower or gender reveal, and _that's_ how her sister responded? I know pregnancy hormones are a thing, but I don't think this was the case here. OP is NTA.
*Fifth OP:* OP's DIL called OP a B-word for buying their kids presents in OP's home, and OP's son expected OP to apologize?! He's lucky OP didn't cuss both of them out. OP is NTA.
I still wonder what OP's parent was doing with 1,800 dollars (Canadian) a month, because that is way too expensive to cover living space, food, water and electricity that OP used when living with them.
The title of the first story reminds me of another story where "Do it for Dan!"
@@your_local_questerian oh god fuckin “do it for Dan” 😂 That family sucked so much!!!
Forget cussing them out, OP could’ve _kicked_ them out!
@@kranberry3318 there is more updates to that saga
Apologize for what? Having money? Being generous? Giving gifts to children? This woman is unhinged, and I get that husbands are supposed to stand up for their wives but not when they’re being this ridiculous.
Yeah I'm surprised OP didn't say she's going to stop giving gifts then, or say she was going to return them. Especially after the son asked for OP to apologize. Smh
She kept saying she was poor but honestly she's probably lived a spoilt life and now she's in the real world not being coddled with less luxuries she thinks she's entitled to more than she deserves. If she was really poor she would be grateful for the gifts rather than argumentative.
And the name calling? And to let it go without any form of apology? If DIL keeps that up I wouldn’t be surprised if OP only gives her and her son a stack of want ads as gifts
Yeah what is she expecting? Should OP give less gifts to the children then? Then it would look bad too and the children would be wondering if OP likes them less and the mom would probably be mad too.
Maybe she is expecting OP to give even more gifts to them but make it seem that the additional gifts are from their mother, not from OP? That would be strange...
This is just how poor people are. If someone can't afford to house, feed, and transport themselves from money they earned through employment, investment, or ownership, they shouldn't be permitted to exist.
“Showing up to her party with a huge belly is kind of an a hole move” yeah really, OP should’ve just stopped being pregnant, like cmon on
Sarcasm aside, the sister needs therapy
"she should have called sooner"
Ops sister still throws a fit.
@@Simipourfangirl legit, this is how the sister reacts when she is pregnant, im sure it would’ve gone sooo much better if op had told the sister while she was still struggling with not being pregnant
@@pokemoninja92711 honestly everyone on the other side is literally forgetting that for op to call sooner it would either be while her sister is trying for a baby or, on the day of the dinner, not party, but dinner. Meaning she was probably told on that day that her sister was expecting and probably assumed her sister knew about her situation. The only person that needed help was the sister. She's honestly not mentally well enough to go through this and is probably still grieving the other losses if she lashes out at op for having a baby first. She should have gone through therapy.
@@Simipourfangirl I sympathize with the sister because it is a rough thing she’s going through, but it dosen’t excuse the way she treated op, almost as if Op should’ve pt her life on hold for the sisters sake. I pray both pregnancies go well and they happy healthy babies are delivered, but maybe this is a sign that the sister isn’t in right head space to raise a child
No idea how the pregnant lady is "kind of" an asshole for not telling her sister that she was pregnant sooner. They didn't even speak for six months out of the eight. I probably would have told her on the phone before the dinner that I was pregnant just so she didn't feel like I was going to avoid talking about it at all until I had to, but that's not a big deal. What *is* is the lady going postal saying she was just trying to show her up. That's her trauma speaking, but holy cheeseballs, I hope she comes to her senses, because if she maintains that it's a monstrous thing to do to not ask for her permission or something for the rest of their lives... mental evaluation time.
I kind of get where RSlash is coming from with the kind of a-hole rating. The OP could have warned her over the phone about it instead of just showing up pregnant. But at the same the OP has a lot of pregnancy related things on her mind so it makes sense that its something she might not think to do.
@@luna_theraider the thing is though there was a similar story a few weeks ago and rslash said damned if you do damned if you don’t and gave zero AH scores. I just want consistency
@@stuartwalker9597 Honestly this was my thought too
So OP in Story 4 gets 0.5 Ahole scores for… what? Being 8 months pregnant? Nah, man. She was sensitive towards her sister’s feelings and sacrificed a whole lot when her sister can’t even do the same.
Story 1, tell me who is the golden child without telling me who is the golden child.
Same for story three and four
They charged OP $1800 a month!?!?!? I'd just live on my own frick that!
@@lorilancaster5917 not for story 4 because OP’s dad is her side
@@darko-man8549a golden child doesn’t necessarily have to be one by both parents eyes
@@lorilancaster5917 I still don’t see it as a golden-child story, more that the sister is just having an absolute mental breakdown - doesn’t seem to be a nice person, but I don’t think it’s a golden child scenario (at least with info given)
If a step-parent wants to be treated like a parent, they have to earn it. They are not owed that.
What part of that story makes you think that the stepmother wasn't trying to "earn it"? I'll tell you now, as a 40 year old orphan, I wish someone wanted to be my first mom as bad as this woman wanted to be OP's second mom. OP is going to regret her garbage attitude later in life. I hope she doesn't expect her dad to show up for graduation, care about any kids she has, or make an appearance at any wedding she may have. She's alienating an entire half of her family, just because she can't get over her mom being gone. She needs therapy and a wake-up call. Unfortunately, I'd be surprised if she hasn't already burned that bridge beyond repair. I hope that she thinks about this, if she ever has kids. They're going to be without a whole set of grandparents, because OP let her grief poison that relationship.
Story 3: It's only a joke/prank if everyone is laughing. Kaylh is not laughing. The wife is not funny.
Nor is Martin. He knew Kayla’s feelings were hurt yet he smirked liked a jackass and only apologized when OP told him to. Other people commented that his wife has a history of pranking the kids but Kayla doesn’t like them and has told her. The mom just accuses her of being a baby
This is pure bullying. 🤨
Yeah, the daughter only reacted the way most people would react. The wife was looking for a reason to screw her over.
@@akl2k7 I agree it kind of seems like the wife holds some weird resentment towards Kayla for whatever reason
4th story: She had two options, wait until she was ready or rip the band-aid off, in either case, the sister would've been hurt
She did what she thought would upset her less AND SHE'S THE BUTTHOLE?????? WHAT?????
Pregnancy story, NTA. The older sister should've gone under therapy before trying again, and to be honest, even with her history of trying, her reasons of why she's upset now make it feel like she's only trying to get pregnant because she wants the attention and she's a jealous person, be it towards her sister or others. Upstage her? What was the younger sister supposed to do? Bind her belly bump so that she can hide her pregnancy in the shadows when she's about to pop? She's been more than gracious and kind for all of what she did just so she wouldn't upset her older sister given the sensitive situation and what she went through. The younger sis was right, she was selfish and a bitch.
YTA, RSlash for the score. YTA to the older sister and her husband too for condoning her behavior.
That third story, I’m assuming the wife already returned the laptop behind OP back
She didn’t thankfully. I bet she planned on using the money on herself and or her golden child. She likely didn’t or couldn’t if the laptop was paid with OPs credit card and only he is listed as user.
In the third story, Op is saying he's on point where he will leave his wife, cause his wife likes to make pranks on her kids. Martin likes those pranks, Kayla dosen't, then mother start's arguing with her daughter and then get mad that Op is defending his daughter.
I remember this edit and wished RSLASH mentioned this. And it doesn’t sound like the pranks, at least the ones on Kayla, are in good fun pranks but bullying.
I have always despised "pranks"! They are nothing but bullying. 😡
'cause his wife likes to emotionally abuse her kids' is a more accurate way of phrasing it.
I am glad, however, to hear that OP is leaving his butthole wife to protect his children.
So the mother thinks Kayla should be punished for objecting to being bullied. OP and Kayla are NTA, mother is a huge, 4.5 AH bullying AH.
Thanks to you, I looked it up, too.
So dear mother played her pranks for years and would get angry when daughter didn't find it funny. Even if you think pranks are funny, you better stop if your prankee doesn't.
In a professional setting, mom's behavior would be called creating a hostile work environment.
"A fair few of my relatives are saying I'm an a**hole for abandoning them in a time of need."
If they are that concerned about their well-being, then why don't *THEEEEY DO IT?!*
I was waiting for that line. I admit, I am sad that rSlash didn't use it this time 😢
For Story 4. No, I don't think there was any way in hell that OP could have told the sister. She needs help.
Getting pregnant and bringing life into the world requires more probabilities than an airplane accident. It's that reason why pregnant women are congratulated.
Hold up- RSlash. You can’t really think that OP is the a-hole for being PREGNANT???? Wtf was she supposed to do? If she blindsided her sister by having the baby without telling her at all, the sister would have been even more upset. OP had to keep her pregnancy a secret for basically her entire pregnancy, only getting support from the parents, and now that the sister is pregnant it’s reasonable to think that this revelation would be accepted graciously or even happily since they will both be having a baby around the same time.
I completely disagree with you tho. NTA.
RSlash was saying she should have told the sister sooner, basically. But tbh, I don’t think that warrants any AH score. The sister needs therapy bad.
It wasn't about being pregnant, it was about never telling the sister. The sister was out of line but OP made it worse by being too afraid to talk to her sister.
@@Tustin2121You think the reaction would have been better here? She literally lost her mind over this. I disagree with you; she would have freaked out either way.
@@Tustin2121 the sister in that story reminds me of the woman who wanted to ban every kid in the family from family gatherings because she couldn’t cope. I get the sister is hurting a lot but no one goes let’s have a kid to spite my sister.
He didn't say she was a butthole for getting pregnant, he said she was the butthole for not telling her sister and literally surprising her with a massive belly.
LOLOLOLOL...the pregnancy story...'how DARE you get pregnant before me!' Madness...
Trying to prank Kayla like that, the wife needs to buck up, she's legit a capital B witch to OP's daughter.
She and Martin need to stop these pranks. I suggest therapy for the wife but she wouldn’t do it because she’s to delusional to see the damage she is causing
And they made the daughter apologize because of calling her mother a jerk, which she absolutely was a jerk. Just because it's supposedly a joke, doesn't mean you aren't a jerk if you are mean about it. Yet, the mother doesn't even apologize back, and is still trying to punish her. Wtf is she supposed to be, a mean 8yo? Who is the actual kid here? The daughter is literally more mature than the bitchy mother. Yea, i think the goal was to not get her the laptop from the start, this was just a mean attempt to arise conflict and to find an excuse.
Yea that was a stupid prank. Like, why did she even do that?
Story 1: This is what happens when you overstep on the person keeping you afloat, they figure out they don't need you or owe you , they realize their value and split. And if you really want to get the rest of the family off your back use the magic words, I'll let my parents know you want to give them money to help support my brother since you're so bothered. At least gets rid of a few the flying monkeys. And as far as your parents and brother are concerned make the argument that you are one person who was taught out of your living space, they are for people who are completely capable of working.
Story number 1. Fyi.. In Canada. The government
gives you so much money per child. It's like monthly child support from the government . So why does Op's Brother need so much extra help. ???
Remember the story from a year or so ago, about the weird Canadians who wanted to charge a visitor they had invited to dinner for the meal? Not a meal at a restaurant, but one at their house? Makes me wonder if it isn't some kind of weird Canada thing.
@@SkunkApe407 I think it's just a weird entitled person thing - I've been a Canadian and have known Canadian's all of my life, and I've never heard of anyone doing this.
@@gmoynham I just find it weird that the only two cases like this I've heard have come out of Central Canada. To be completely fair, though, Middle America is weird af, too. I'm a Floridian, but my dad's family is from Montana and Missouri, and every time I visit them I think "what is wrong with these folks?" I literally had a woman in Lafayette tell me that Jesus was a cowboy that rode a white horse and lived in a mountain in Colorado. I thought she was joking, until she told me that he has an office beneath Denver International Airport.
the OP of the third story should tell his wife that either she apologizes to kayla for the prank or he'll return the gifts that he got her.
As I've always said, the phrases _"mom's husband"_ and _"dad's wife"_ is a giant red flag that the relationship is rotten on some level.
I have a mum and dad and a dad and his new wife. It's definitely meant to signify a red flag. It confuses people no end when I talk about my dad passing away and also mention we have a phonecall every Sunday LOL
What about when a parent marries when the "child" is already an adult themselves, possibly with kids of her own? It'd be weird to call someone a step-parent if they've never parented you.
Sure. But in that case the stepmom obviously loves OP. Was she right to kinda force herself to be a maternal figure for OP?. No. But her heart seems to be in the right place.
I’m a 43 man. My parents divorced when i was 7 and my mom re married another man. Sure it was awkward and tough at the beginning, because he wasn’t my dad. But as i grew older it changed. My real dad and i were both very different and had nothing in common while on the other hand, my stepdad was caring, nice, taught me a lot of things and loved me. And with time, he became my dad. He had a stroke two years ago and i took care of him like he did for me. He sadly passed away last year and i miss him.
I didn’t reject his love like OP did and I’m glad i did.
@@MordorProjectthe stepmom obviously has an issue and needs a therapist.
You can't force relationships, they have to grow naturaly or they won't at all.
Even if she meant well, that doesn't make it any better. Where I live we say "The opposite of good isn't bad, but meant well" and it fits perfectly for stuff like that
Nah, hard disagree. It entirely depends on the people involved and the relationship they have towards one another. Feelings can change over time, for better or worse. But feeling neutral towards someone is just that, neutral. And calling someone xyz's partner isn't automatically a red flag. That's some hard assuming. Which is a real bad habit for many. If you're worried about someone, ask them.
Don't just run around assuming things. That will almosy always lead to misunderstandings and unnecessary drama. You can't just call everything that makes you slightly wonder whats going on behind the scenes a red flag...
The bizarre entitlement of the son and DIL in the last story is insane. As a parent, there have been years where I struggled during Christmas, I was always beyond grateful when my family stepped up and gave my kids gifts I couldn't afford. I would have never dreamed of complaining about their generosity let alone call them names in their own house, then expect an apology. That's just insane.
Rslash, did i just hear you agree with the sister about being the AH about OP being pregnant? OP literally sacrificed having a baby shower and gender reveal and sharing these things with her sister to spare her feelings and instead the sister cant be bothered to be happy for her sister because OP got pregnant first? Yeah, of course, how DARE OP get pregnant first, my bad. Big sisters are the only ones allowed to get pregnant first and control whether anyone else is allowed to as well. I absolutely do not agree that OP is the AH at all, the sister wouldve been pissed no matter when OP told her sister about it
That's nothing like what rslash said
say goodbye to your 69 likes
So many step-parents just think that the marriage makes you automatically their parent. That's something you earn, not request. You do it by being patient, respecting boundaries, assisting, and seeing if they accept you.
And if not, respect the role they give you just as long as respect is given on both ends.
Story 1: Golden Child Alert (Not OP just in case).
Blatantly the same genre as all the other golden child stories ive heard here.
...I had to pause and rewind when you stated yes for story 4. Maybe I misheard details in the story. Maybe in my mind I misinterpreted things to make OP sound like the person in the right. So lets break it down.
1. OP in order to be kind to her sisters feelings after her still birth decided not to do the whole parade people go through.
2. The Grandparents (OP's parents and OP's Husband's parents) have been informed of the incoming bundle
3. 6 month of non communication meaning that for 2/3 of the pregnancy, they were not talking. OP's sister is 3 Months pregnant meaning for half that time she was with child, but probably waiting to make sure it was going to make it to term.
From all the issues with bearing child plus how she reacted at the sight of the baby bump from OP, I wouldn't be surprised if the sister is one of those overly sensitive people who would have been mad no matter the situation. In fact I had to rewind a 3rd time to confirm ages and OP is 2 years her sisters Jr so add that to the layer of shenanigans that the sister probably would have cried about.
I have to agree. I saw the comments before I heard the story so I broke it down as I was listening. OP isn’t the A-hole, everything she did was right. The sister was going to be mad no matter what.
Last story: when she called you a b word at the dinner table, you are well in your right to curse her out like no one has seen before. It's not your responsibility to make sure she looks good, you are a grandmother that gave what you could afford to your grandkids and they have a good time that's all there is to it. Tell your son that just because he doesn't have a backbone doesn't mean you don't.
Not defending the DIL but OP could really learn a lesson on reducing the sheer ridiculous materialism in her family. Xmas should be about family, not stuff upon stuff that will end up in a landfill anyway.
@@jaygoodwin8833 I find your point useless. Let the grandmother buy her grandkids as many gifts as she wants.
@@Luluindelulu Sure lets create more spoiled, entitled and materialistic brats in society, we really need those.
"My mom isn't taking sides"
"Not taking sides" is taking a side with the wrong party
Exactly. We all know what not taking sides or seeing both viewpoints but not helping means.
No it isnt
@mariposa9506 Yes, it is...
@@Mewse1203I rarely agree with Mariposa,but she's absolutely correct here. Staying neutral doesn't automatically mean they are aligned with the person you see as "the bad guy". That "you're either with me, or against me" mindset is most commonly seen in narcissists, and is myopic and juvenile, at best. By your logic, Switzerland would be guilty of every crime Germany perpetrated in the 1930s and 1940s, since they remained neutral throughout WW2. Nobody is obligated to pick a side in the petty squabbles of others. Grow up.
1800 for your parents basement for half of every month? That's enough to get a small two bedroom where I live! OP your parents were taking advantage of you WELL before the situation with your brother
They were probably giving that money to their precious golden child
No they weren't actually ripping her off. First if she is living there, they cant rent out the basement for the 2 weeks is at work. It sounds like that amount covered all utilities and food as well. That amount is actually on the low side in Alberta (which is where Edmonton is).
@@vickirogers4565Well, they definitely started ripping her off once they moved her to the hobby room and kept the rent the same.
@vickirogers4565 I live in Edmonton, and I pay $1300 per month for a two bedroom apartment, so definitely ripping OP off
@@vickirogers4565tell me you're an extortionate without telling me you rip people off with a clear conscience. 😂😂😂
Edit: I hope you don't rent to folks. If so, they deserve better.
You know the ensuing rant is going to be a banger when Dabney asks what he just read.
People really need to learn that most 'pranks' are just bullying.
She does know. That’s why she did it. Why else would she be freaking out about “what if we couldn’t afford it” when the story *SHE MADE* is perfectly crafted so that isn’t the case, and even THE DAUGHTER HERSELF said out loud that the fact it wasn’t was why she was mad?
The wife knows exactly what she’s doing and is doing all of this deliberately. She did this to get a rise out of the daughter so she could justify giving her golden child son the laptop.
No, not most pranks. And your inability to laugh at yourself doesn't make it "bullying". Saying or doing something you don't like doesn't make someone a bully. Bullying, by definition, is the targeted, systemic, and prolonged abuse of one party, perpetrated by another party or group. Stop throwing around words and terms you don't fully comprehend. Most pranks amount to nothing more than minor annoyances, and do not amount to abuse, by any stretch of the imagination. Stop being so hypersensitive, and learn that you aren't too good to be the butt of a joke from time to time.
No you most certainly don’t have to just learn to laugh at jokes made at your expense. If the recipient isn’t laughing, it means at best it wasn’t a good joke. At worst, it was antagonistic. Even if the prank is just a minor annoyance, you can still be irritated. That’s the thing about pranks. Its supposed to be funny all around and when it’s not it’s a bad prank.
@@thesnowtigress3325 Cringe take. Respect the people in your lives rather then trying to humiliate them for your enjoyment.
@@thesnowtigress3325 if you can't laugh at yourself, you're a humorless bore whom nobody enjoys being around. Stop taking life so seriously. You'll never get out alive.
Canadian here and I live in Toronto which has become one of the most expensive cities in the world to live in... what OP was paying was enough to get a 2bdrm including utilities here. That's an insane amount to spend on living for one person renting a room!
Story 4: The sister is insanely unhinged. If OP had told her sister right away, a month in, two months in, sister would have still blown up. She needs therapy
What were you smoking in story 4!?
The sister is clearly mentally unwell thanks to her multiple losses, and she was going to freak out no matter _when_ she found out. She needs counseling of some kind ASAP.
It sucks that she’s infertile, but the world doesn’t stop for her because of that.
Yeah, that woman’s lost her danged mind. And who cares who has one first? Why even have a kid if you’re doing it for family clout?
The younger sister had to remain silent online, could only tell a few select people, gave up having any parties, etc out of concern for her sisters’s mental health but she’s the butthole? She did the best she could to shield her sister from the pain of knowing she was pregnant. Short of inviting her to a therapy appointment surrounded by her family to help break the news to her what do you suggest should have been done??? It’s a horrible situation to be in.
Story 1: The man said he was in Edmonton so he is likely an oil rig worker. He is probably pounding out 12 hour days consecutively in -30 C ( -22 F) for 2 weeks straight and getting a week off. He should continue the all inclusives. He needs them.
OP is a woman in the story. Granted she could be an oil rig worker or any other job that involves traveling.
I'm by edmonton. I pay 1870 rent for a house garage and large yard. And thats a hell of a deal. There are places that charge way more in the area
Story 4 is op just supposed to put her life on hold just cause her sister couldn’t keep her baby alive. R/slash has the worst opinions sometimes.
The whole gift return story screams favouritism, I would bet any money, ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY, that is the laptop had been for the stepmom's son and he had acted like this she wouldn't have suggested returning the gift and would have apologised instantly.
She isn’t a stepmom but her biomom.
You’re missing that this laptop *was* going to be the sons. That’s what this whole scheme was trying to accomplish. Once OP agreed to return the laptop, the wife would volunteer to handle it and instead wrap it up and give it to the golden child.
Think about it: why is the wife so hung up on “what if we couldn’t afford it?” When OP says in the past she was fine with it. Couple this with the fact that the story *SHE WROTE* highlights the fact that money isn’t the issue, and the daughter *literally said out loud* that her understanding that they COULD pay for it was why she was mad.
She’s trying to pretend this situation is about something it *clearly isn’t* because if she said what this was REALLY about her husband might divorce her, and she knows that.
For story 1: the fact that rslash is so shocked at how much op paid for rent shows just how bad the Canadian housing market right now 😂
That 4th story is tough. OP didn’t tell her sister because she was trying to protect her feelings and mental health. BUT showing up with a full belly when her sister is three months along and possibly hormonal from this current pregnancy and just coming out of that vulnerable first trimester wasn’t the best idea either. But it’s like a catch-22. It doesn’t sound like OP knew the sister was trying again and she couldn’t have forewarned her sister. The sister’s reaction and the idea that OP was upstaging her was ridiculous but then again, emotions run high. OP could have stayed home, but what then? The sister would find out eventually. So I don’t think OP deserves a butthole score. I think she did the best she could with the information that she had.
Op did know, the parents told her but the window of opportunity sounds like it was the day of the dinner.
@@Simipourfangirl it wasn’t a party, it was dinner for 2 sisters who haven’t seen each other in 6 months and their husbands.
@@stuartwalker9597 I honestly don't know why I thought it was a party. Maybe because a lot of others also said it was too.
what was op supposed to do in the 4th story? just not have a belly?? it's kinda hard to hide a big belly and I don't think it's her fault at all. sure she probably should have mentioned the pregnancy earlier but if her sister reacted this badly then I have a feeling that she has a history of reacting this way to other things as well
Story 4: bad take. OP was considerate enough and had no idea about the sister being pregnant. The struggle of achieving pregnancy does not excuse the sister’s bad manners and OP honestly has ever right to go no contact with that sister
I have to wonder sometimes if he purposely gives an occasional bad take just for interactions or just honestly thinks those.
I have to strongly disagree with the judgement of the 4th story. She already walked around on eggshells, decided against a baby shower, never mentioned anything about the pregnancy for her sister. She did it all out of concern for her. The sister isn't upset about the announcement. She is upset at OP being pregnant at all. Whether OP has told her then or now would have just resulted in the same outcome: her sister being upset and dragging her through the mud because she selfishly wanted to be the first one to give birth. Had she just been upset at her for not announcing it, then i may have understood the betrayal she might have felt but to say she should have been the first one to give birth and how dare OP be pregnant to upstage her is very conceited of her. She might as well say the world should cater to her every whim.
0/5 AH score for OP
Story 2: your sisters are grown and don't live off your dad, they don't force anything on your sisters because they can't and she's not interested and mothering to people she has no control over. You on the other hand are still a dependent that can't run off, so they can afford this as much as they one so long as it's not crossing a laws. It's not your job to fulfill whatever mother-daughter fantasy she or anyone in your family wants, and maybe if they weren't so busy trying to force it you be able to grow an actual relationship with her. But like always they're going to keep pushing you away so when you're able you'll never talk to them again and no one can stop you.
You can’t replace your mother especially at 11-17. It’s never your job to entertain someone’s delusions
The housing situation here in Canada is deplorable. I 100% believe that 1800 for rent is realistic for a higher cost city like Edmonton. We pay just over 1200 for our home and we live in a small town.
She pays less in an all inclusive hotel. You paying 1200 for a whole house is not the same as one person paying for a basement. Get real.
@@SkunkApe407 That's the thing though, a crappy basement room in a city like Edmonton or (heaven forbid) Vancouver costs just as much, if not MORE, than a regular house in a smaller town. That's the case for both purchasing and renting.
@@gmann215 um, I live in a major US city. Unless Edmonton is some dystopian toilet, I don't see how that would be possible. If that is the case, who the hell are you frozen goofballs electing? I thought you Maple Americans were supposed to be the reasonable ones?!?
@@gmann215 I just checked. The average rental rate of an apartment, not a room in a basement, is about $1700 a month, in Edmonton. There's no way you can justify $1800 for a basement. Especially not when OP is living in an all-inclusive hotel for a fraction of that cost. As it stands, OP's decision to move out looks even more reasonable. If rent rates are that high, there's no way hotels are missing out on that same supply and demand goldmine. The fact that they aren't charging ridiculous rates at the hotels further tells me that nobody is charging $1800 for a room, in Edmonton.
@@SkunkApe407 I'm not saying it's justifiable, I'm just saying the whole situation sucks. After looking at OP's comments though, I found the $1800 includes food and other expenses, not just the room itself. It's still pretty bad though, and those parents are taking advantage of OP.
Pregnancy Story: not even 0.5/5, the fact OP and their folks had to walk on eggshells to not upset sis tells you all you need to know. Totally a 0/5 any given time.
X-mas gifts story: I'll totally apologize... BUT for opening my house to you, get that bee out and banned of your house ASAP.
First story: I'm in a cheaper province than Alberta where Edmonton is, but I've looked at rent around there when I was considering moving.
1800$ a month is obscene. Unless you're downtown, I found a bunch of 2 bedroom apartments for 1700$ at the higher end, 1200$ at minimum. So for a one bedroom place, you could probably find one definitely less than under 1000$. Run OP, save your space, money and mental health. def NTA
Last story: After "Someone has to tell this B-word" all bets were off. She deserved what came next and then some!
Story 1: as some one from 3 hrs away from Edmonton, $1800 is no longer enough to rent a place. We are in a serious housing crisis in Canada and average rent is now well over $2000/m. It is insane
Story 1: If you give people 500$ as a gift and they call you a butthole for that, just keep the money. They will call you a butthole for free, I promise. You can get the same experience you are already getting plus 500$.
Story 4: Nah, OP is NTA.
No way she can be an asshole, no way. The sister is the asshole here, not OP. OP did her best to try and protect her sister by hiding the pregnancy, it's not her fault that by the time her sister was pregnant OP was already 8 months pregnant!
The fact that OP is pregnant is why the sister is angry. There would not have been a good time to tell her - ever. The sister is going to want the focus to be on her kid and only her kid for its entire childhood.
I live in Edmonton and she is paying their mortgage plus some. You can rent a whole 3 bedroom house for less. They are assholes for taking advantage of their daughter like that.
OP's father and stepmother are sure selective as to who they want to be part of their family. I don't blame OP for being jealous of her sisters' relationship where they get the freedom to not honor the stepmom by calling her mom. Stepmom can try all she want, but she can't take the place in the heart of a young girl who lost her mother.
Story 5: Geez, I think that's insecurity. She's jealous that OP is giving more gifts than her, and is bashing OP as a result.
Story 1: making your own kid pay rent is the craziest thing I've ever heard i understand contributing to the family expenses but asking your kid to pay you rent like they're a stranger is the first mistake of this family
I understand in some situations. However with OP when they kicked her out of the suite, they should never expect rent even if OP stayed. They definitely shouldn’t expect any money from OP now. Brother and SIL can contribute
Most people simply call contribution "rent" because its easier but yeah, the level asked was insane. My mum bless her is constantly trying to tell me to pay less then what we agreed to when I had to move back in with her, and its already tiny as is of around £220-250 a month). She would never accept me giving her effectively a full jobs pay to live here.
The fact it was more than just living in a hotel is mind boggling to me.
story4: great nuance on the distinction between OP's timing and her sister's general reaction separate from the timing. It's tragic what the sister went through, but OP has to put her life on hold for a decade for the sister to have a child first? What if she never does?
I live near Edmonton. To get a GOOD apartment, it costs around 2000$ a month. Housing is STUPID expensive in Canada. The fact that this girl is paying her parents this is insane. Glad she's figured out a better solution.
Thats a good apartment though. In most Canadian cities you can find a decent place for closer to 1000 per person if you arent living right downtown. Also housing is expensive pretty much everywhere rn.
RSlash really doesn't understand how expensive rent is in Canada
Its not 1800 per month per person lol. I'm Canadian and that is definitely higher than average. Also high rents isn't a uniquely Canafian thing rn.
DUDE!!! You get a 1.5 AH score on the unannounced pregnancy.
Could OP, OR ANYONE IN THE FAMILY WHO KNEW OF IT, have told her sister about the pregnancy sooner? Certainly! But considering the space she is in I doubt that there would ever have been a "good" time to inform her.
OP's sister needs, and I hope is getting, intense grief counseling. Her losses are too much to be healed by well wishing and hiding the good news that others get.
OP and her family should have told her sister immediately to give her time to deal with the emotional fallout. BUT WAS SHE GETTING THAT HELP?
The family let OP's sister stew in grief, anxiety, and depression.
There was no situation in which OP could celebrate her own pregnancy that wouldn't have made her sister worse!
Stop giving AH scores to a woman who was denied her own happiness and experiences because she was concerned for her sister!
AND SOMEONE GET THAT POOR WOMAN SOME THERAPY! STAT!!!!
Second story,NTA
befor my dad died, he was with a really nice lady, she never forced us to call her mom, or made us do things with her as such, but would take us to do things, id we wanted.
She would have been a great step mom, but thats because they never forced us, and let us choose on our own.
Same with my step-dad, he never forced it, it just happened naturally.
I just moved out of my apartment to a much smaller and cheaper one. Rent skyrocketed! At my former apartment it was 1350 sq ft, 3 bedroom 2 bathroom WITH a balcony, rent now is almost $1800. I’m in NE Louisiana. A relatively low cost city. Holy crap! $1800 for a basement. That’s some BS!
America, land of the free....
...to live in a basement paying a fortune...
🤣
@@utej.k.bemsel4777 *Canada. It's also in Canadian Dollars which makes it a bit better (per google that's 1,340 USD)
Story 1: NTA. I still live with my family and while I don’t contribute to rent, I do contribute like $300 a month to internet and cable and help with a storage unit we’re renting.
Story 2: Wow…the amount of gaslighting in this family. While, yes, single parents do have the right to move on and feel happy, but some kids don’t want a “replacement parent” for their own reasons. OP was right to have this meltdown as no one (other than her sisters) ever listened to her feelings. The meltdown was the only way to convey those feelings so OP is NTA. The parents ignored OP’s boundaries and have lost 3 kids, not 1 due to selfishness.
Story 3: OoooooooK! So the mom and brother are totally in the wrong for this “prank”. Kayla wasn’t a brat, she was upset and hurt due to immaturity from her own mother and brother! Kayla showed she’s mature enough for a laptop but the mother showed her true colors/immaturity. Hope OP gave Kayla the laptop
Story 4: Ok OP took all the right steps to not trigger her sister (not having the baby shower and keeping her out the loop till she was ready). I honestly thought the sister would be happy for OP for her own pregnancy. But no, seems the sister is just constantly seeking attention from everyone. OP is NTA because how is she “upstaging her sister”? What if the pregnancy was accidental? It wouldn’t be OP’s fault. But I get it, people grieve differently so the sister was under raw emotions (and likely stress) but still that reaction was way too far.
Story 5: Agree with OP on when to start shopping for such a huge tradition. But the DIL went way too far! She should have been happy that SOMEONE was able to get presents (even if she shouldn’t) and just be thankful! Not complain and while AND INSULT OP! NTA. At that point, I’d have kicked her out
*Mom:* You called me a jerk for not giving you the one thing you asked for, and instead giving you gift cards (They're just like money, except worse in every conceivable way). That _proves_ you don't deserve the laptop. Who's the jerk now!?
*OP:* Pretty sure it's still you.
Story 3: you just know the mom wants to give her golden child a laptop.
Housing prices have dramatically increased in the last few years. It’s basically impossible to find a decent apartment where I live for 1800, and my state is far from being the highest cost of living area.
Sorry Dabney but you're wrong on the pregnancy story. The sister was only concerned that she was not going to have the first grandchild. No matter what Op told her she was going to have a melt down. The sister needs therapy and to realize the world does not revolve around her. She is literally trying to give their parents an ultimatum to basically disown Op for having the first grandchild. That is far beyond insane and it makes sense why Op kept her pregnancy a secret if this is the type of behavior she has seen from her sister.
Ok, the dad in story 2 is an AH, but where did he read the dad was cutting the other 2 daughters out of his life?! OP never said anything of the sort. They were together at Christmas, and all 3 took a picture together with their dad. The only thing OP mentioned was that her older sisters weren't expected to treat dad's new wife like anyone other than dad's new wife while OP was expected to treat her like her new/replacement mom.
1. Who's Mark?
2. The sisters weren't in the "family" photo. It was just OP, her dad, and stepmom
Mark? 😂 I think you meant Dabney
Misnamed him, but my point is the same. He wasn't excluding them, they just weren't expected to be in it. OP was being forced into it because dad's wife was supposed to be her new mom.
The only cutting her did with his older daughters is whenever they tried explaining to him how OP feels about him forcing a relationship on his new wife, he would ignore them like he did OP
You know a story is good when RSlash is so baffled by what he’s reading that his composure breaks and starts chuckling mid sentence. It’s the best lmao
Hey rSlash, the last one, there was no party that the sister invited OP to. It was just a dinner between sisters. Since the sister was unhinged when finding out OP is pregnant maybe explains why they were reluctant to tell her that OP was pregnant for such a long time.
Oh fuck im in University in Edmonton and i spend 650 per month on rent... it's with roommates but OP definitely shouldnt be spending that much money on rent and groceries.
Story 2: Yeah, this is weird as hell. Why is the dad and stepmom acting like this? You can't just push away some kids and expect others to be close.
Honestly, considering the events at the Xmas gathering, it sounds like the step-mom wants to replace the mom for just OP and treat the sisters as people that just exist
Dad wasn't pushing away his kids. Where did you and Mark read that? No, the other 2 were older and had moved out by the time the dad got married. The dad was only expecting them to treat his new wife like his new wife while OP was expected to treat her like their new or replacement mom.
I guess OP got singled out because she is the youngest. I see OP moving in with one of her sister when she turns 18 and blocks her father and his wife. Doubt she’ll do it but the wife needs therapy
I guess you can say that Op's dad died the same day as her mom. she needs to cut contact with them a her step mom will never be close to her real mom.
I live in Edmonton. The average for a 2bed 1bath HOUSE in the city is around 1300--1500. More if you have pets. 1800 is RIDICULOUS.
I feel for OP in the first story, their family sounds insane and reminds me of my own. I left and never looked back. Op should cut contact since they clearly don't appreciate her.
Story 4: so what is OP supposed to do? Make her baby bump smaller? What is RSlash on??
Story 5: What does it matter who owns the dinner table? Or the house? Or the fucking food? Or the Christmas tree? RSlash, again, on some crazy shit.
Sad that his awful takes are the expectation now.
He has incredibly bad takes sometimes.
I tend to zone out of the bad takes or skip to the verdict then the next story if the rant is too long.
That said I don't agree with you on the last story.
Sorry, what are you saying about the 5th story? I don’t understand how you think OP is wrong here…?
R/slash was saying that DIL insulted op in her house at her table and DIL needs to learn some manners and not to insult people in their own home
@@audreym3908 I'm saying I don't see how it matters where someone is being insulted
Like what's the big difference if I insulted you in your house vs a public park? I don't see why RSlash is making such a big deal over it.
Also, 100 presents? How big is OP's family?
With story 2, you shouldn't try to force a new relationship, it's supposed to happen naturally.
I disagree that op is the ah in story 4. She (op) didn't even know her sister was expecting (until the diner invite) so how was she supposed to plan that out? Are you saying she (op) just shouldn't have come? If so, her sister would have found out anyways and still threw a fit. If she told her sister sooner, the same thing would have happened. It would have been a lose/lose situation either way. I feel like you skipped over details. Like how she hasn't talked to her for 6 months until the dinner happened.
Edit: ok so it was just a regular dinner and not a party. Yeah I doubt op had that much time to plan it out and calling the sister still would have resulted in a meltdown. The sister shouldn't have tried for a baby again until she was mentally well and she clearly wasn't based on her reaction.
This isn't the first time that he's skipped details or cut stuff out of the post for whatever reason. That's when I usually go to Reddit and find the post myself.
@@ryukaze7392 yeah. Maybe I should do the same. Even though I don't have a reddit account.
For Story 1: Canada has a serious housing crisis. The average price in rent, even outside the non-major, cities is about CAD$2000. In the big cities a 1-bedroom apartment can easily go for $2500 or more. If she was living in Edmonton (a major city, by Canadian standards) and paying $1800 for rent and groceries and utilities, it's a bit of a deal but not outrageously so.
Based on the schedule OP mentioned, I suspect they work up in the oil fields, like in Fort McMurray. Those jobs usually make pretty good coin, but with the scheduling of it all, I'd also be reluctant to get an apartment that I'm rarely in. The all inclusive alternative is a good plan. The parents probably thought because OP was making good money, OP would keep paying since they had enough money anyway. Parents are silly and entitled and OP is 100% not the asshole.
Third story reminds me of that story of the OP who gave his dad half his money to help pay for a car, and his dad bought the car for his wife instead "as a prank." This story isn't as horrible as that, but if Kayla knew and was told "Hey, we're saving up money, we might be able to get you a laptop," and the sister gets all excited. But then the prank happens and she's suddenly told "Never mind, you're getting gift cards instead." And expect your kid to not get upset is ridiculous. Get your own child's hopes up for nothing. If you can't afford it, be honest and teach your kid patience or encourage them to save up for it themselves. And to punish a child for getting upset at a prank is ridiculous. I have a feeling Kayla is not her mother's favorite.
If you pay rent at your your parent's house, you should have a say.
Living in Canada, it's sad I didn't even bat an eye at $1800 rent for just a single room in a house.
That's just how bad it is now.
(Also please don't look up apartments in downtown Halifax, NS. Your brain will melt at the prices.)
I am from Edmonton. $1800 is almost enough to rent a whole house in some areas. Those parents are insane.
My mortgage is $2000 a month
" How you gonna chew MY FOoD-" 😂😂😂
Surely they have to appreciate that if you’re moving out, and now have to pay to live somewhere else. The money you were giving them is no longer available?
Why would they appreciate any kid that isn’t their golden child?
I don't think the parents are exactly firing on all cylinders.
if i were op 3, i would keep a close eye on the laptop because the wife sounds like a person who i do believe will return the laptop 1ce everybody's guard is down especially if she's digging her heels in this much over the issue of the daughter not deserving it
Wow, I can’t believe you could ever say that the op in the pregnancy story was ever any kind of a AH, she was so considerate of her sister that she was trying to keep it a secret so she wouldn’t upset the sister, it’s not like she could’ve pretended that she wasn’t pregnant when she got invited over for that dinner
I live in Toronto, and as of January 2024, my building is listing bachelor apartments for 1800 a month. Many fellow Canadians listening to the first story probably didn't bat an eye at that overhiked rent
1st story: hmm I wonder who the favourite child is 🤔
rSlash. We said to cool it with the Misandrist convictions. Not to *Go the other direction.* Story 4 is 100% NTA
Nta: obvious favoritism your bother is the golden child
Lmao as a fellow Canadian 1800 per month is the average cost of a studio apartment in Toronto 😅