r/Trueoffmychest I Caught My Brother ****ing His Daughter
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0:00 Intro
0:09 Broke my wife
2:38 Down in the comments
3:59 Cheaters
7:11 Divorce
9:55 Comments
10:45 The mistress
14:55 Comment
15:02 Awful situation
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Wow. If I had a wife who openly told me if her husband came back from the dead that she'd divorce me all because her kid called me dad, I'd tell her "I'll save you the time. We're done." That is arguably the worst thing to say to your spouses face.
Ikr? All that over the stepson calling OP "mom"? Jeez, calling this an overreaction would be an understatement.
@@dracko158 Yep, and for all intents and purposes OP is his mom at least to the child she is. She's been in his life since he was 3, that's over half his life.
That story is actually so much worse. OP clarifies in the post's comments that her husband has been celibate since his late wife died, they've never had sex and that doesn't bother her, because she's never had sex, so she can't miss what she's never had. The dude legit just married a nanny for convenience. OP says in comments over and over again that she's too ugly to ever find someone else, so she's happy having even that relationship. She's not going to divorce him or go anywhere.
If it were me, I would gladly serve him divorce papers the next day, then say “enjoy being a single father then”
I know right? He knows his wife can’t come back to life and he’s grieving because of course he’s forever feeling the loss of his dead wife but he can’t accept the fact that his kid sees OP as his mom. Why did he remarry if he didn’t want someone to “replace” his dead wife.
Story 3: "If my wife came back from the dead, I would divorce you in a second!" Lady. Take that as the MASSIVE red flag it is and divorce him first. That is NOT the kind of thing you need your husband thinking. That man needs therapy, and you need to protect yourself in some way (if divorce isn't the option you want to go with, there are plenty of others). It would suck for the kid to lose the person he considers his mom, but your husband revealed that this is not he loving marriage you thought it was.
The fact he kept comparing OP to his previous wife is a massive red flag. The "You will never be his mom" and "how dare you let him call you mom" would be my breaking point.
He wants OP to spend money on him and treat his son like her own but doesn’t want them to bond as mother and son
I don't understand this guy... why, if he is so attached to his late wife and cant move on, did he looked for another woman and married her? what's the point if you don't want to love her? or did he just want to fuck someone? that still doesn't make sense,he can do that with tinder... I don't know, anyone have an idea of what's happening here?
@@dinlupus3196He wanted a maid/nanny for his kid, not a real wife. Dude probably isn't a great Dad either.
Given how he blew up at her i wonder if they would let her get full custody. A court hearing the kid called his step-mom "mom" would probably say a lot about how much he loves her and she should be in his life.
The mistress story had an update:
OP decided to cut contact with the friend and the husband. OP will be getting divorced.
Good.. that " friend" is trailer trash....
Wasn't the friend also her husband's mistress before she married him too?
Shocking.. the "friend" is garbage....
@@Sencilia yep
@@Sencilia bro tried to make a harem and failed ^^
Story 4: Yet again, there is already an update. The friend's husband was already married when they started dating, so she LITERALLY was a mistress, and then married him. But he was indeed not as wealthy as she assumed
Shocking....
I knew it, there's no other reason she would've reacted that way unless she's experienced it first hand
@@Zaynesjasminesounds more like an inexperienced mistress
Why no one is talking about the abuse in the last story?
OP was right in calling the cops and should contact the CPS, not posting in social media.
No one is talking about it because it's so utterly fucked up that nobody knows where to start on it. I also came to comment on this but god damn, what do you even say?
@@paulineisme whats the name of that story? I wanna read the part Dabney blurred out
Cuz it's fake
She did what she thought was right. Posting it on sm might not be sane to some but it has dates and info that makes others aware of what kind of sick monster her brother is.. that poor baby needs saved..
@@grgteodorescu1 Hey man! You seem to be hate watching R/Slash. Maybe go get a hobby or a job instead of wasting your time hate watching a reddit youtuber. ❤
Story 1: He said he loves her for more than her looks. Maybe it's just because I'm not attractive, but it seems to shallow to me to dump an entire relationship because he didn't scream from the rooftops that she's pretty. Especially cause he did so afterwards, anyway. What a stupid way to end a relationship.
Especially from a drunk guy. Most guys I know, when fairly drunk, think they have a shot with Scarlet Johansson and Beyonce. The entire relative scale for appearance just gets binned until it can be pulled out from under the vomit the next morning.
The wife just has a fragile ego
Send the wife may have unresolved trauma that she kept hidden until a drunk comment from hubby opened the wound back up. If this is all it took for wife to break, there's some deep damage she's carrying.
@@MrDoverfieldor her feelings or just hurt?
@@missm2925 I honestly think the wife’s insecurities are resurfacing again. The OP complimented her but she twisted it into an iny
Your hunch was spot on in the Mistress story. There was an update where OP found out her friend was in the mistress's shoes before.
The woman who witnessed her brother doing the unspeakable: She was right to speak out, because it could make the difference between whether or not he has future access to other children, and it •might• stop the abuse he’s already committing (although unlikely). But the •way• she did it? What a mess.
Yeah it’s one thing to expose a creep on social media it’s a whole other thing to also include the victim in the post that’s fucked up..
That is assuming he's a creep.
There are medical conditions that could be at play that OP might not be aware of. She was right to tell the wife and call the cops if she thought the child was in danger. If there was evidence of wrongdoing, then they can make the call about what to do with the father. If not, then she just outted a man as a "p-word" wrongfully and that bell can never be unrung.
There are conditions that make a little girl's privates try to seal shut. The treatment is thorough cleaning of the area and application of some sort of creme. From the point of view of someone who didn't know about it, it can certainly look inappropriate, but it's actually quite necessary. You going to tell a father that he can't take care of his own daughter?
Again, telling the mother and calling the cops was the right thing to do. Blasting a guy on social media without knowing the full story is not.
@@LifesGuardian Who’s blasting anyone? Names weren’t given.
@@josieau OP. When she put it out on social media. Even if she didn't say names, "My brother" is pretty clear.
Imagine remarrying a woman you're supposed to love then yelling at her for loving your biological son. Dude. Get therapy, overcome your grief instead of dumping it on your family
Yeah, that guy sounds quite emotionally constipated or something. He’s so busy looking back at the past that he can’t see the amazing present right in front of his eyes. He technically needed therapy 10 years earlier, before he decided to remarry. He probably thought remarrying would fix it, but it’s backfired now.
Regarding the story with the dead mom: that boy lost her when he was tiny and if he remembers her at all, it's very little. She has always been a dead idol to him, he's been at her grave every weekend for his whole life and the moment he shows his stepmom love, his dad absolutely chews her out instead of looking inwards and realizing that the child's mother is in his life. The woman who birthed him might not be any longer, but that doesn't mean he doesn't love a living human like he would have loved her, had she still been in his life. The dad needs therapy.. it's just no longer a normal grieving process if it's this raw after 10 years..
I'm not sure the bio mom is an idol to the son. Does it say that anywhere? He only knows stories. The father needs therapy and the son maybe as well thanks to the father.
@@Shimonotoki it doesn't say so, what I meant by idol was exactly the vague stories of a woman he probably hardly remembers
@@DullyDust I see. I mean, it is very possible, that because of the stories, the son has a highly idolized version of his bio mom in his head. And that can be problematic in his future.
I just asked because sometimes people find the story on reddit and see other additional comments not presented in the video.
what OP means is that the dad idolizes his late wife and sorta deifies her to the son, as like this perfect important person he must pay respects to once a week. To him, she’s not his mom, just someone who birthed him
In the final story, there was an update saying the Facebook post was taken down. It seems like OP wasn't thinking straight and when people started messaging them and explaining the harm it can do, OP realized and took down the post. We can only hope it won't follow the little girl further into life.
What was the name of it
@@azeamonero9886I caught my brother touching his daughter inappropriately
My guess is OP wanted a paper trail so brother would have a harder time weazling out of it
@@alexanderhenby1362paper trail doesn’t mean shit for abuse, its word against word and exposing a little girl abuse on social media is utterly disgusting.
I would argue that if the family is trying to hide it and side with the P-word brother that social media is the way to go because it puts more eyes on the family, and adds dates and times for CPS to look back on. I have seen families totally clamp down on something like this to save face, and the only way the kid got out to safety was through strangers and family friends.
Story 3: That man needs therapy or a divorce. To be morning the loss of your wife that way for 7 years, good heavens. He's still married to a dead woman.
He wants OP to be a mother in every way except for the title
I think at least 10 years if they were together a total of 3 years and the son is 13. He is robbing his son of a life and a mother. That’s not even touching on how he is treating the women his is currently married (she isn’t his wife with the way he acts).
Reading all of OP's replies, this whole marriage is a sham, they met when she was 19 and he was 29, they've never had sex in 10 years. She's a glorified nanny to him and I can only hope she gets away.
I dated a girl who was like this. She had a shrine to her late husband, a man who berated, belittled, and even assaulted her before taking his own life. It is bizarre because throughout the relationship, she started showing similar signs. She was even saying "people have a right to choose suicide" whilst taking antidepressants.
During a vacation to Machu Picchu, I ended up saving her life. It wasn't glorious or anything, i just kept her from going on a hike that was too high into the mountains as she was beginning to pass out. This resulted in her picking a fight with me and we broke up when we got home. I don't know how to word this any better, but it feels like I may have actually averted a suicide attempt and she broke up with me for it. Not sure how to feel about that...
That man needs therapy -or- and a divorce
story one: when op said his damage control was worse i was expecting worse. But hearing “my wife is beautiful i just love her for other things” is such a huge confidence boost. You think i’m pretty AND you still love me for other things like my personality and my humor and everything else?? This wife has some major insecurities she needs to work out lol
right i think i immediately understood his thinking. just an extremely unfortunate way of wording and then an unconvincing damage control i guess.
I thought I was crazy because of someone said the first thing he said I would be like 'Ex was pretty but that was all there was, wife pretty but so much more than that.'
I just find it shocking how people are laughing at the dude and blaming him as if the wife isn't ruining a SEVEN YEAR marriage with 3 kids which could also most likely affect them all because of one drunken comment
There has to be more to the end of the marriage than this. He's definitely not telling us how bad his relationship was before.
@@Avrysatos Can you show me evidence that there has to be more than this? We live in a no fault divorce system, you do not have to have any reason at all to leave.
Last story is a good example of my past experience of social médias. People would rather hide the fact that their relative did something horrible, than calling them out for said act and risk shame by association.
Removing a victims privacy on social media is disgusting. Ever hear of just soeaking to people when you want to tell them something?
The brother deserved to be called out
@@KadeStringer2.0 The daughter did not deserve it
A big part of the reason why abuse and toxic behavior is still rampant is because people, especially the family, try to keep it under wraps! "Oh, that's a private, family matter" is toxic speak for "we don't want the family to look bad to our friends, community, and congregation, so you just stay quiet so we can pretend it didn't happen", just like "be the bigger person" means "we don't want to deal with the other guy's attitude and meltdown, so just appease them", and "keep the peace" means "put up with the abuse and toxic behavior so nobody has to deal with the actual problem"! I understand wanting to respect the child's privacy, but I would want to know if there's a threat to my child's safety in the community! I know enablers like these who either blame the victim or deny that it actually happened, even though the perpetrator is still in prison. "Oh, the girls lied" or "he didn't get a fair trial" are the bull$h!t excuses they use to defend the R-word-ist! IF YOU DEFEND AN ASSAULTER BECAUSE "FAAAMILY" YOU ARE A TERRIBLE HUMAN AND ENABLE THE EVIL IN THE WORLD TO CONTINUE, AND I HOPE YOU REAP WHAT YOU'VE SOWN!
Preach it loud and clear. So, Mr. rslash and everyone else saying not to post it on social media to hear. That they are wrong for having that mentality and part of the problem.
Well it's fake as OP is bored, 15, and doesn't even have a brother.
@Kati_P the court of public opinion is far harsher than the justice system. I get you are looking out for the victims but what about those who get wrongly accused. I have read and even witnessed scenarios where the dude was wrongfully accused beat the system but still lost to the court of public opinion, many of these people took their own lives because living was just not worth when the person you care about will one day come to resent you all because the Jones' told them about that incident way back when you allegedly diddled them. Just saying please be nuanced and don't just jump on the "I'm right everybody else is wrong" bandwagon
THIS!
As a CSA survivor (before the internet), all I can say is the conspiracy of silence protects the abuser and the enablers. It does nothing to help the victim, and I would argue even harms us by, among other things, stigmatizing us (instead of the abusers who are protected by the silence) and hindering us from getting the help and support that we need (by making it a shameful thing that we can never speak about, with the shame falling on us since everyone is rallying around protecting the abuser and the 'family's good name').
Wholeheartedly agree! I wouldn’t want my children near evil like him, family or otherwise. I’d want to know before dropping my children off at their Aunt and Uncle’s house! The entire family is delusional. Help the wee lass, not your reputation!
That poor stepmom. I have a stepdad, he refers to my sister and I as his daughters (I call him by his name but refer to him as my parent). You’re right Rslash, having a caring stepparent is something I am blessed to have and I don’t get why the dad acted that way.
My guess is he doesn’t care about anyone but his dead wife and his dead wife exclusively
@@bibigamer502 that is just insane to me. Although in highschool, my teacher told me about this man’s fiancé that passed away. The man ended up getting married later on (obviously to another woman) and whenever he did, his late fiancés family was mad at him because they still thought he was hers and she might come back. Very sad stuff.
I was raised by my stepfather since I was 7 and he IS my dad! Hands down he raised me, taught me so much and helped form me into who I am. Regardless of the ups and downs of our family dynamic he is my dad.
@@bibigamer502I feel like he married OP to have a nanny and a maid, NOT a partner and mother figure for his kid.
My dad is a step-dad to my two oldest sisters. I have always thanked him for being such an amazing step-dad that in my family there is no distinction.
One of my sisters even used his middle name as her son's middle name.
There are so many step-parent horror stories on reddit, I'm glad there are good ones too
I agree with the last one, when there are children involved, the adults should do their best to protect their identity. Also "not airing out family drama" is just code for "we support the abuser."
In this context, yes. But some family drama, such as an argument, shouldn’t be aired out. There is such thing as too much information. Also can people read my comment properly before replying please.
@@NovaG0 Child rrpe should not be kept quiet at all ever period.
@@NovaG0child molestation isnt "a family argument" though.
@@niyakii6205 that’s why I said in this context meaning the story told 😑
@@Clyde-S-Wilcox Read my comment again: in this context, yes it should be aired out. Period
How is it that I understood what OP was saying in the first story? It sounded to me like he was saying that his wife is more than just her looks?
That's what he TRIED to say. What it CAME OFF AS is a wholly different story. If I were there listening to him at the time, I'd also think he just tries to cover that he just doesn't think his wife is all that attractive, but settled with her for those other reasons.
it's so weird to me that his wife didn't get that's what op meant
he literally called his ex is "just looks", meaning that his wife is more then just looks (but is still beautiful)
People are being too harsh on him for no reason. Man was drunk and had a perfectly valid point, he just couldn't get it across in the right way.
More like the wife had been deeply insecure for a lifetime and couldn't handle the slightest negative comment. Doesn't help that op seems dumb enough, without alcohol, to sit down and properly explain it to her.
@@klocugh12 settled? Sorry. I have dated some of the most attractive women in the world, staying with them would have been settling. Most wildly attractive people's brains are broken, because they have never experienced normal life.
What isn't settling is being with someone you fit with and value things other than just their looks.
Yeah, I’ve had a partner make a similar remark and didn’t take it as “she’s hot and you’re not”. I took it as “she’s hot, but has an awful personality; you’re also hot, but you have a good personality and I like being around you for more than your looks”
I feel like OP and his wife could really use going to marriage counselling where maybe the counsellor could help him actually put into words what he was trying to say.
Story 3: Dude, this guy is toxic as hell. All OP did was give her stepson a nice gift, and the stepson called you mom, it's honestly quite sweet. What I am confused at is why did he yell at you for that? "How dare you let him call you mom"? Like bro, SHE didn't ask him to call her that, the stepson himself called her that! This guy needs serious help, if he refuses, divorce him. I wouldn't want someone who thinks I am replaceable be my husband.
Absolutely! He’s not a good father to his son or a good husband to his wife.
The story about the husband who got butthurt about his son calling his wife mom is that the husband needs to calm the hell down and hope that the biological mother haunts her abusive husband dreams at night and saying that she's unhappy about how he treated his new wife
saying that she's unhappy about how he treated his -new wife- son. he is denying his son a maternal figure
I could hear the laugh being held back when he said "lady booby poop says...." 😭😭
He visits his dead wifes grave EVERY DAY, over a DECADE after she died? Nah girl, that was a MAJOR redflag, he has NOT moved on, and doesnt love you, he just wanted a bang maid and live in nanny.
Wow, and I never once thought we'd ever get a story where we have the opposite of a story about a child who's dealing with a step-parent who tries to make sure they are the new parent without even trying to be a parent while the other parent is on the step-parent's side and doesn't stop the behavior, but here, it's the opposite where instead, the step-parent actually does be a parent figure for the step-child and succeeds with it while the other parent is mad at this because it really seems like he believes that biology is what makes a family a real family, even though we've seen that this isn't true.
Yeah I'm surprised more people weren't commenting on that. This guy, I sympathize with - but he visits the grave every, single, DAY? And drags his teenage son there EVERY WEEKEND? A few times a year, maybe even once a month, I get it. However, this guy is not only actively wallowing in his grief, he is insistent that both he and his son *stay* in that immediacy of grief. I would be very interested to see the son's opinion on how he has never been allowed to process his mother's death from an older, more removed standpoint. And of course, the son is being denied a maternal figure on top of all this. He will grow to resent the dad, no doubt in my mind.
@@ScarlettOcean92 💯
Holy shit, what you just typed out is disgusting.
I haven't watched the whole video yet, but from what I heard the guy in this story is wrong.
But saying "because he visits a grave of the woman he loved, he doesn't love you and that's a major red flag" is fucking morbid, Jesus Christ. What is wrong with you?
If I remember correctly, the guy in story 1 edited his reddit post to cut out what he ACTUALLY said the first time to his friend, which was something to the effect of "My wife is only a 6 and she's a better wife than my ex who was more attractive." He literally gave her a low number score, assigning her beauty to less than desirable while comparing her to an ex, but when he got backlash for it in the comments he changed it.
Oh, if that’s the case, that’s way worse.
6 isn't low, but I digress. That does makes things worse, but still doesn't warrant a divorce. Besides we have no way to fact check that.
Oh YIKES. Yeah he definitely f'd up.
So she is above average and she is mad? I would hace understood if he said she was a 3 or 4 but it seems to me that it was more her insecurities rather than what he said
@@fallenprometheushe basically openly admitted he doesn't find his wife pretty. That'll ruin any intimacy in a relationship instantly.
Story 3: this guy is either jealous that you're closer to his son then he is, or he got married too soon and actually isn't over his wife's death. So the idea of his son sees anyone else as the mother figure makes him so mad that he's willing to blow up your marriage over this. You have absolutely nothing to fix this is all on him.
Apparently there's an update on the story and the man started dating her when she was 19 and he was 29....so it was a lie from the beginning
@@SamuelMaybird whats the name of the story
Divoce: From the husband's rant towards OP, it looks like he's seeing OP as trying to straight up replace his dead wife as the stepson's mom over one single present.
That's not what is going on, OP is being a decent maternal figure, not deliberately trying to replace the bio-mom. The stepson needs a maternal figure, and the husband is ruining it
Story 3: Sounds like the husband remarried to get a free nanny.
Pity she probably can't keep contact with the kid if she ditches the husband. The kid sounds great.
Story four (i think): It was confirmed in an update that the OP's (ex) best friend was the "other woman," and her husband was using his then wife's money to take the (ex) bestfriend out on dates. OP and the (ex) best friend had been friends since preschool, and OP has booted her and her husband out of her life.
Did first OP made a huge mistake? Absolutely. But if he has been a good husband otherwise, one single word fumble while not thinking straight shouldn't end a 7 year marriage with 3 children. Especially because he did say he loved her, even though he offended her appearance and self-esteem.
He should continue apologizing and making sure she feels loved and appreciated. Try counseling, everything to make her sure he's sorry, she's important to him and although a fool, he loves her very much.
Nah, the wife is just being a modern day woman. If all it took was one drunken statement then she would've cheat on OP eventually. This is why I don't feel good about getting married.
@@gundamnduke0"modern day woman"?
Maybe it wasn't just this one thing, but this was the last straw.
We see the story from his perspective but what if there was alot of things wrong for a while now and after this night she realized she was better than this.
How to say you you aren't a respectable person without saying you aren't a respectable person@@gundamnduke0 Other people reading this, how much you wanna bet this dude thinks Andrew Tate did nothing wrong?
@@leticiaguelere1222 That's true, the story is from his perspective, so he might've been doing things wrong for a while and not even realizing, this last stunt finally breaking his wife's patience.
Anyway, he is in the wrong here and should continue apologizing and trying to make up for it, to show her he actually cares. At the end of the day it's her decision to continue or not the marriage, but at least he should do his best to prove how much she means to him as to not regret even more later.
"You'll never be his Mom""I'd divorce you in an instant" save this dude the trouble.
Holy crap the stepson story… I met my husband when my son was 3. My son calls him by his name but also refers to him as his dad, even though his bio dad is in his life, too. My husband calls him his son in return. I would never ever tell my husband not to do that. Even if he didn’t want to call him “my son” I wouldn’t be mad at that. It’s a personal choice and I’m just happy it worked out. My son does have 2 dads and they’re both amazing.
The Mistress story has a few updates.
She’s getting a divorce and cutting people out of her life and it turns out that “friend” was also a mistress before this new mistress and she found out she’s been replaced and that’s why she was so mad.
Cheaters: Geez, OP did everything for her sister, and she was repaid via the sister sleeping with OP's now-ex-BF. What the hell. Don't come crawling back
Most people have superficial attachments and relationships that end up holding them back. Honestly, the starter probably did both of them a favor. Not that it excuses anything.
Story 1: commenter asking “why didn’t he just say this” HE WAS DRUNK. He was drunk at seemingly a get together where he probably wasn’t the only one drinking. Yes it is an excuse for saying something stupid, it literally makes you stupid. It prevents your brain from working well. Wife is blowing it way out of proportion too because she has 0 charity or forgiveness in her heart for the man she married, the father of her kids saying a stupid thing while drunk. Unless op is just an abusive pos or chronic alcoholic and makes her feel bad constantly but based on the info we have it seems ridiculous to go divorce mode over that. Op and his wife need to get in counseling yesterday tbh.
Agreed. If his background information is accurate, they had a good marriage, and 3 kids that OP sounds proud of. OP did step it with his statement and damage control, but to go, yeah, "I am going divorce you" over a very poorly worded statement seems a little ridiculous. The wife may have more going on that wasn't covered in the story. Counseling minimum for sure.
THANK YOU!! She has some major insecurities is one drunken moment causes her to derail her marriage. Plus, the comment wasn’t even negative. The way I interpreted it was “My ex was all looks and no brains. Now I’m in love with a woman who has it all.” But she had to play the victim and think she was called ugly. Pathetic.
Finally a reasonable response to this! People, including Rslash, putting all the blame on OP is ridiculous.
Either that or she was looking for a reason to check out already.
100%. If she threw the entire marriage away for one drunken interaction, there is either a LOT of missing information about their marriage or the wife is a vengeful, grudge holding, spiteful person with major insecurity issues. He even apologized repeatedly, said he was stupid and tried to make amends. There is no way a healthy relationship couldn't weather one single drunken comment.
Drunk Story: Honestly OP should’ve just said, “What I mean is my wife is pretty and smart/talented instead of being just pretty”
Mother Story: What’s crazy is the father wanting OP to treat his son like her own and spend money on his son but doesn’t want OP to have the title of mom. That poor boy is going to lose a mother again cause his father is an insecure wimp
Cheating Husband Story: The husband wants OP to cry about how much she loves him and to give him that ego boost. Why should you give this woman an easy out when she’s stealing your husband?
Horrible Father Story: According to the first post: When I opened the door he had her on his lap touching her and she had no underwear on. When he saw me he jumped as if I wasn’t supposed to see what was going on.
tbf that pretty much IS what he said. either OPs wife was _already_ super insecure and this was the last straw, or OP did something way worse than what was said here.
Ya seems like they already was looking to leave him for a new guy she was just waiting for something to turn it on him funny how she covers up for him yet post half naked pics online fishing for guys
@@god-rj5wfIt was more-so the delivery making it seem like he only saw her pretty after they dated
That IS what he said, just in a muddled way
I totally understood what he meant. I don't understand why the wife and everyone else is freaking out. Poor OP.
Story 2: got to love how a family member will wrong you this much then give you crap about being family and forgiving each other when they didn't give a s*** the entire time they were wrong in you. Your sister got off on the idea he thought she was better than you, if that's not a undeniable sign she jealous of you I don't know what it is. And of course even though it was a mistake that lasted a whole year, she's still with him, and you're supposed to be okay with it because she's going through a rough time.
Screw that she got what she wanted now she has a boyfriend, it only costed her a sister.
The third story reminds me of a joke someone made about a movie: "I love you deceased wife. I-I mean, Jenny."
that last story, geez. that poor little girl
The stepmom story.
Kin is bound by blood. Family is those who love you unconditionally.
There is some overlap, but just because you don't share blood with someone has no bearing on whether you are family or not.
Unless your OP’s husband and think family is only those who are related to you by blood
@@bibigamer502 And he will find himself sad and alone at the end of the road.
the title … gives me the creeps
I was about to comment on that. Normally daphne puts like a clickbait title that sounds waaaaaay more outrageous than the actual story. A title like "I like to fist my sister" and then its a story about a guy who likes to fistbump his sister. Fingers crossed that's the case here. Or that its fake reddit bs like most of these stories.
Well yeah
The second story reminds me of when my sister found out her husband was cheating on her. She kicked him out and he moved in with the mistress. He called her sometime later to talk about how sad the mistress is and how hard she is taking everyone hating her (we live in a small community. Word gets around fast). My sister said, "I do not care at all" and hung up.
1rst story : while I was sober, I said something similar. But without thinking, then, before sinking deep, I said :"I started the relation for the look, I stayed for her mind and heart" and she went from angry to loving, and I was like "danger avoided!"
Lol good save! And better yet, it must have been clear that you meant it! It Was clear and direct with no floundering as if trying to come up with a lie to save face. I think the wife has something else going on in her head, maybe something from the past, and this just lit a fire. The guy floundering to explain, which can be quite hard to do while drunk, may have seemed like he was just trying to pander rather than what he really felt.
In the last story: the problem is not exposing the brother, the problem is exposing the daughter, the wife, and the rest of the family to all of the backlash that is going to come from having something so awful posted on social media. That little girl is never going to know a moment of peace for the rest of her life because of this. Her personal, private trauma is now on the internet for everyone to comment on. It's not that the OP shouldn't have told anyone, but it wasn't her place to plaster it all over social media.
I literally just dropped off my stepdaughter at school, listening to the stepmother story made me cry while driving. My husband calls me his daughter's mother, even tho her bio mom is still alive and in the picture. My stepdaughter calls me her bonus mom. I could NOT stay in the relationship if everything I do for her was diminished in such a cruel way. I understand the love and connection parents had or have thru their child, and I gave my husband an out one year after we got together when the mother of his daughter wanted him back. I told him he and I could separate and still be friends since we don't have a child together and possibly never will. He said no and that if we were to ever break up for any reason, he'd remain single.
If my ex-wife ever remarried, I wouldn't be pissed off if my kiddos bonded with their step parent. I have friends who are close to their parents and step parents. I have a great co-parenting relationship with my ex-wife, and we talk about everything when it comes to parenting decisions.
I feel so bad for OP in the third story. She is his mom. She's been parenting him. Bonding with him. She is amazing. I feel so bad for OP and her stepson because the husband/dad is awful.
Cause he only cares about his dead wife and not a single living thing that isn’t her?
Last story: I'm absolutely with R/on this, I get you wanted to call out your brother but to do that you made your niece's trauma public. That's the absolute worst thing you can do to the girl in this situation, especially since the police having conducted of investigation yet.
With that being said the f*** is wrong with your family, they care more about keeping and maintaining this marriage instead of the fact he was assaulting that poor girl, I really hope the cops can get him away from her so you can help keep her away from this f***** up family.
Where can i find the story?
as someone who had a step parent, I can totally vouch for the love of a step parent, I was a teen when my mom remarried so I never called my stepdad 'dad' because it was awkward but he didn't mind. He looked after me when I broke my elbow (first night I woke up after 4 hours of sleep from pain and I couldn't open the pill bottle so I laid on the couch) my stepdad came out and asked what I was doing on the couch this early (it was around 6 or so in the morning, I normally slept till 9 or 10 if I was tired and didn't work) and I told him, he asked why I didn't wake him up, I didn't want to bug him and he said 'I WANT you to bug me if you're in pain' so he got the bottle open for me and took my pain meds, fell asleep right after. hell, even after I got a new place, he had empty nest syndrome, since he couldn't work, mom could so she had the distraction, I would call my stepdad nearly every day to check on him and my mom, if I didn't call, he would get worried and call me to make sure I was alright, when he had cancer, I tried not to cry, later learned what stage it was, I was crying, when he got worse, I cried, when he passed, I sobbed/ugly cried. he was truly the parent that stepped up, my point is that anyone would and should be happy that they have a parent, that even if they aren't related, cares about them! hell to love them as their own! that was what matters, what that dad did? made me want to smack him
The final story, family telling op off for posting it on social media because "we need to keep that stuff private", I thought ops response was gonna be "so you want to "keep it in the family?" Because it sounds like ops brother is already trying to do that".
But all seriousness aside yeah op shouldn't have posted it on social media for everyone to see, and defo feel bad for ops niece
First ops wife forgot an important rule. Never attribute to malice, what can equally get attributed to stupidity
i hate that i scrolled down as long as i did to find something like this, because yeah that story can be summed up as that, just a shame that the marriage may go down the shitter for it though
@@Riftdancer527 especially because of the fact that they have 3 kids
And especially after 7 years with OP, I feel like she should have known to give a lot of credit to stupidity.
But also he never said she didnt have looks, he just said the first wife only had her looks going for her.
That last one hit the feels. OP did the right and wrong thing here. Call the cops, sure and CPS but don't blast it on social media because now everyone will say you were mistaken and no one will protect that little girl. The cops will find no evidence, they will coach the little girl and CPS will see nothing wrong even if there are signs of abuse. You will be ostracized from the family and your only option would sadly be no contact with your family because they will never let you see your niece again.
Mistress story: Right on the money Rslash in the update she left the friend and the husband
In regards to the second to last story you were right on the money. OP's friend was a mistress, and let's just say that friend was dropped. I heard that story from another reddit reader so that's why I know that. Don't remember the name though
Story 1: she’s halfway if not 3/4 out the door. When she reaches a particular goal only she knows, you’ll find her at the door with her bags packed.
While I agree that the little girl should not have been outed like that, it is the responsibility of anybody that knows the situation to advise any person in the brother's life that it is not safe for him to be around kids
That last one was brutal to get through but I agree with OP posting it on media, not the way they did it though. To be fair, it’s hard to think clearly in situations like that. I would’ve waited to see what the family does about the situation and confront them as much as I could first. If they try to sweep it under the rug, and the cops/cps throw their hands up, post it without identifying the victim. It’s hard to pretend something never happened when it has a fat spotlight on it. If he gets away with it after all this, he’s going to keep doing it and that little girl deserves better. Please continue fighting this OP, just because they’re family doesn’t mean they’re right. They know it’s wrong, but in these situations family WILL choose a side and sometimes they choose poorly.
I understood immediately the first story, he means that you can’t just fall in love for someone’s looks, his wife had looks and a great personality
Last story:Agreed that calling the police was the right call but not posting it on social media. OP should have contacted CPS so this doesn't get swept under the rug. I don't think the age of the little girl was mentioned, but I imagine she's at an age she doesn't understand what was actually being done to her. It's sick though that the family seems like they want to take the side of a child diddler. I hope that little girl gets somewhere safe and nothing further like this happens to her.
That last story stung, I hope that girl gets the hell away from her father if he could even be called that. The family is no better for defending a damn abuser.
Story 4: Found a comment by OP which says that the friend married a 'rich divorcee' which she now is suspecting wasn't a divorcee, meaning her friend was supporting the mistress because Best Friend might have been a mistress. And apparently after they got married there was 'financial troubles' which meant he wasn't buying her stuff, probably because of the alimony payments from _actually_ getting divorced.
Last story: Why did the brother jump away like he had been caught? Better question it sounds like he wasn't arrested. WHY?! And that entire family is garbage for supporting him and not protecting the kid.
Imagine your husband depriving his own son of a mother just because "If my wife came back from the dead, I would divorce you in a second!" bro needs thearapy, badly
The brother didn’t keep his daughter’s privates private; why should he get any privacy in return? That’s probably one of the more messed up stories I’ve heard, and I’ve been listening to Mr. RSLASH for years.
Wtf are you talking about she literally walked in on him. It's not like he was at a strip mall or something he was in a private residence how much more private can you get than that? Your logic needs reassessment.
The story is fake. Literally from the words of OP's mouth as I DM'd him earlier.
@@krystaldragons6040I do not think you understand.
The DAD wasnt giving his daughter privacy by doing the nasty shii he was.
Is that easier to understand?
@@lillylovegood2300 and what nasty shii was that? It's people like you who are quick to accuse that make it so parents who have done nothing wrong end up commiting sudoku. Cops CPS and other authorities exist for a reason you know.
@@krystaldragons6040 whatever they saw was bad enough that even Dabney wouldn't read it on CZcams.
Maybe check yourself. Also, using a form from traditional Samurai honor system instead of a friendly term we all know shows just how young you are, you don't understand. Get help.
Story 3 - my dad passed away when i was 5. My stepdad was a better parent than my own mother, when i got pregnant i told him before her even though they are not together anymore. him stepping up was the best thing for our family. i no longer talk to my mom and tbh when i got preganant i couldnt even remember her phone number, but i remembered this, If my mom treated my step dad like that i would be upset. he stood up, was never a creep, and NEVER once called me his step kid, i was HIS KID, even though i would call him my faux pa. And as a kid that felt really good.
With the mistress story: What the friend meant was that the mistress was obviously lied to about one thing, and might have been lied to about other things. It might be that he told her he was already divorcing his wife before they got together. Cheaters most often just manipulate their AP by not being honest about their marital status.
However, if the ONLY lies she was told were about his finances/resources and she pursued him knowing she'd be a homewrecking gold-digger, she deserves all she got.
Story required more context regarding that bit. IF she was manipulated by this man into thinking he was in the process of getting divorced before she got with him, OP should have warned her about his lies before he can trap the young fool, that would be the morally correct thing to do. If she wasn't lied to about that, OP is entirely justified in not protecting her at all from her own greed and selfishness.
Edit: According to some comments, the 'friend' was herself a gold-digging homewrecker who got scammed into thinking her AP was rich when he wasn't, so the motivations were indeed driven by selfishness. It's somewhat understandable that the OP didn't follow her advice. Apparently the OP also cut off both the friend and is divorcing the cheater. OP never informed the mistress of the deception. I hope for everyone's sake that the mistress was as scummy as the ex-friend OP rightfully ditched and not simply a victim of manipulation.
'If my wife came back from the dead'
She's not going to dude, and his selfish stupid behaviour is going to drive her out and son now lost 2 moms.
Story 2: Tbf, it was the mistake. The mistake she meant was that she didn't hide it well enough.
Story 3: Holy crap, talk about dude's mask falling off.
She was _giggling_ as her father did that to her?? The implications of that alone gives me all sorts of nope.
Story 1 - I understand exactly what he meant. There was no ill intent, and when drunk, it's not easy to put what you mean into words when drunk.
Step mom story: girl, RUN. FUCKIN. RUN. This is the most blatant red flag I've ever seen. Your stepson needs a mother figure, and your husband is trying to deny that. What's his problem? Jeez.
Story 1: Imagine a woman drunkenly said her husband wasn't the hottest guy that she's been with but she likes him for more than just looks. Then, because she's drunk she had trouble explaining what she was really trying to say. Now imagine that guy checked out of his marriage and stopped having time for his wife and kids so he can start focusing on the gym instead. Then starts posting pics of himself on social media without his wife and kids to show off how his body is improving.
Then go ahead and tell me reddit wouldn't absolutely blast him for abandoning his family over his stupid vanity when his wife actually values him as a whole person and not talking to her when she was sober to have her explain.
6th story: Best of Redditor updates has the full story including an update where the OP confronts her friend about her behavior. It dawned on OP that her friend has always been a gaslighted her and she also asked the friend if she had been her (the friend's) husband's mistress and that's why she reacted the way she did about OP's situation? OP didn't answer her until the next day when she called her bitter and jealous, but sounds to me like you were spot on, Dabney. That's EXACTLY why the friend reacted that way because she'd been a mistress herself.
Day twenty-two of asking for a return of Tales from Tech Support!
Story one: You know what they say, OP: Drunk lips speak sober thoughts. You didn't "break your wife", you showed her that even after seven years and three kids, you still think about your ex. What you did was break the trust that she had built towards you with that one sentence. (After hearing the "damage control"): good gods, OP.... Don't be surprised if she asks for a divorce soon.
Third story, I'm really confused as to how or why the guy married OP? OP mentioned they bonded over hobbies and such but that isn't enough to really get married over. I wanted to guess convenience but that doesn't really line up and obvious love was thrown into the garbage the instant he started yelling about her being seen by his son as a mother figure. But OP should still talk with *her* son and keep things open there, regardless of what her toxic husband says. Their son is old enough to start making choices and he chose to see OP as a mom. Also let's be real; if she did come back from the grave their son would have two moms, no dad. Only someone as horrible as him would see him immediately dropping his current partner for them as a good thing.
She bonded with the son over hobbies I thought. Or maybe I misheard?
Husband in story 3 needs to get over himself. He loved his wife, we get that, and she is his kids biological mother....BUT THE KID DOESNT KNOW HER!!!!
He has no bond with this woman, and yes that will be upsetting to some but that's how it is. He can hear happy stories about her and maybe grow fond of her that way, but if this goes on she'll be remembered as the reason he's not allowed to bond with anyone because he lives only for this woman he doesn't know and must worship at her shrine forever
THe dad's ruining this kid
In a similar story an OPs wife died in childbirth....so his twin daughters have ZERO memory of their mom, and he went nuts when his daughters wanted his new wife included during mothers day at their school. He told his wife to tell them she doesn't wanna be their mom and for them to stop trying to be her kids. Like he was such a dirty coward. He wants to control his daughters and shun his wife...but tells her to look like the bad guy, so he could swoop in all 'Oh the mean lady doesn't love you like a mom but you have a real mom you dont know at all'
Weak
Listening to the Father/Stepmother/ late mother story:
1) he goes to her grave every day (*sounds like he is still not over her or ready for a relationship*)
2) 10 years together and it sounds like he doesn’t care to make you a priority (*almost like he’s still hasn’t gotten passed his late wife*)
3) OP bonds with stepson by being there for him and caring for him with any boundaries he set (*that’s so sweet!!*)
4) Hubby yells and screams when son acknowledges OP in a maternal sense (* YEP! Not over his late wife*)
5) “If my wife were to come back, I’d divorce you” (*YEP! Called that one*)
6) YOU WILL NEVER BE HIS MOTHER!! (*sheesh dude will never be happy in a relationship since the only person he views and prioritizes is his late wife*)
Story 3: im in a similar situation, EXCEPT when my two kids started calling me mom, he was happy. He even said not to worry about his family or his in-laws if and when they’d hear the kids call me mom. After some time the in-laws (biomom’s mother) refers to me as their mom. My kids even tell ppl they have two moms, their mom in the sky and me. I’d leave him if he ever said anything like what op’s husband said, but id secure some sort of custody/legal guardianship over the son first so dad can’t cut me out of his life. I’d also explain to the son why I’m leaving his dad so he doesn’t blame himself.
Story 2: I hate that in most of the storys where people cheat, they have to make it seem like they're the victim, op should feel sorry for them and not even apologize
Story 3: While I hate Reddit’s typical response to any marital problems being "divorce!", I would break up with that husband the second he said those words and it would take A LOT of work from him to make me even consider giving him any chance. What a piece of sh*t.
I may be 30 but i really laughed hard at rslash saying "lady boobie poop" 😅
My father has two daughters from a previous relationship that my mother is a step-mother to. They call her mom; their mother and our father don't care because they rather our family has a solid foundation where we all can get along, rather than multiple sides constantly butting heads. Plus, their mom was in a pretty bad relationship for a while, so she appreciated that my sister's had more people to trust to take care of them if needed.
People running into the comment sections.
Tbh I think the wife from the first story nuked her marriage not op. Yes he said something stupid but not worth ignoring your partner.
Oh i saw the mistress story's update on Insta some time ago! Turns out OP's friend's situation WAS that she was the mistress in her previous relationship and hid the truth from OP for forever. OP I think was told that her friend was the one cheated on but it was actually her being the homewrecker. That's why she sympathized with her ex's mistress. They are no longer friends.
I checked out the comments for the OP on story 3 and oh my God I feel so bad for her she's insulting herself basically saying she deserves to be in this because she'll never get a better relationship she doesn't deserve to take his crap at all and she may love her stepson but she deserves better I genuinely hope that she can at least convince her husband to go to therapy with her to see if they could fix their relationship and if not then even though it could kill her inside to lose her stepson she should divorce his sorry ass because if he wants to say he would take his dead wife in a heartbeat then she can save him the trouble and leave because she does not deserve to be abused emotionally at all in that way
I think I'm understanding wrong cause I don't think the first story was that bad. Like, it was definitely tactless and an oof, but I think it's pretty obvious he didn't mean it like that.
There had to be more going on before the 1st op said what he said. If that comment broke her it has to be the straw.
Story 1: I don’t understand people who think being drunk means people tell their “real minds”. Because anyone can be a giggling drunk and then next time they’re a crying drunk.
But damn I got to say that damage control was a GOD DAMN MESS!
5th story: Props to OP for doing all what she could to save her nephew. With that said: the rest of the family, yeah, something tells me this is *not* the first time the brother did something shady
I’m sorry but the woman in the first story is seriously overreacting. Shocker.
I rather die alone than be with someone who doesn’t hold me way above anyone else, especially their dead ex. The moment that man says I’m his second choice, I sure hope that I’d be taking everything he owns and leaving him to go find his third choice.
First story damage control suggestion: "Looks are not everything, else my wife would have never married me"
Last story is an absolute nightmare. How does that happen with HIS WIFE and OP both in the house? Did SIL know about it? I'm glad he got caught, who knows how long he's been grooming her. And the family is defending it and calling it cleaning? Who are these sickos? I agree that blasting them on social media is wrong, especially when you have the legal matters pending.
The third story reminds me a little bit of Gabriel Agreste from Miraculous Ladybug. Gabe cares more about his dead wife than his own son and condemns Nathalie for helping Adrien become his own person.
If this guy is treating his wife like that, in what ways is he treating his own son that he isn't telling us?
I hope OP’s niece truly gets help and out of that situation. That’s always been my worst fear with my nieces. Keep fighting for her OP
OP in the first story also left out that he called his wife a 6/10
What? Another comment said he edited out saying she was a 3/10 insted of a 6/10.
...So was that an edit too?! Eitherway...being drunk doesn't mean being honest. It just means your thoughts are mega unfiltered for no reason.
But it does make OP seem like he does like to cover up the truth.
So while I think OP may make it seem like one time incident.. something tells me now it is not controlled.
No wife would start doing this when they get a 3/10 or 6/10 from a drunken comment and the damage control seems the same drunken stupor that would make the original comment.
So yea OP is hiding something.
Riordanverse probably refers to more books like Percy Jackson, as the author's name is Rick Riordan. They're nice books for older children and pre-teens. And she IS his mom.
Story 1: Guy said something that most people would understand to be a compliment and she takes it wildly wrong and your only advice to OP is essentially "sorry about your luck idiot!" That relationship isn't over because he said something. Counselling for them and therapy for her sound like the best choice. She has some deep seated self esteem issues that she needs to stop injecting into the relationship. Also she needs to get off Facebook because she is using that to "validate" her internal story of what actually happened. OP tried to talk her up and the wife took it as an insult. Ridiculous.
yeah rslash is a lot biased towards woman alot on this channel.
rSlash is actively pissing me off. He is acting like _he_ wouldn't do something stupid while drunk. If he got drunk and said something stupid, he would want the forgiveness from his wife, too.
Prepared to have my faith in humanity shattered a little more 😅
Ive never had more confused faces come from me from these stories b4 😂. Wild stories for real. Great video rSlash
Divorce Story: I feel bad for OP because she should’ve known from the jump that never being 1st in his eyes and the fact that he visits his ex wife’s grave everyday means he’s still not over her. Poor lady man, she seems so sweet, I would be honored and humbled if a woman basically bonded, loved, and cared for my son the same way his mother would’ve.