Why the sexual pull to the narcissist is so strong
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- čas přidán 1. 04. 2024
- At its core, the sexual pull towards the narcissist is deeply rooted in complex psychological factors that intertwine with primal instincts and innate vulnerabilities within individuals. The narcissist exudes an aura of confidence, charm, and charisma that can be intoxicating, drawing others into their orbit with promises of excitement, adoration, and fulfillment. This allure is often bolstered by a carefully crafted facade that conceals the narcissist's underlying insecurities and manipulative tendencies.
In this video we will look at the complex interplay of desire, validation, and vulnerability that keeps individuals ensnared in the web of the narcissist's allure, often at great emotional cost. Understanding the underlying mechanisms behind this attraction is essential for empowering individuals to break free from toxic relationships and cultivate healthier patterns of intimacy and self-love.
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For me , it’s the mysterious side of them that keeps me ruminating. Logically , that’s why they’re so toxic .
its your mysterious side you want to explore, BUT there is a BIG HUGE WIDE BUTT so this is toxic negativity mindset. not healthy. Find Health and The Mind Follows. Peace.
Once you decide you're done, you realize the sex wasn't all that great. It was a performance and they were the star. You were just an extra on the set.
I can see that from a woman victim's point of view
@@user-cj5sb3iq1m It was certainly true in my case. Now he realizes that we had great chemistry and I could blow his mind in bed. I loved him very much and it was a gift I gave him. He's having trouble replacing me but he burned this bridge. While he had me, he treated our relationship like a game. I made him feel so good about himself.....and I felt like $hi+. I'm fine once I stepped back and looked honestly at the situation. He doesn't understand why things can't go back to the way they were, but he has no interest in changing things
Soooo true and so SICK❤❤
Spot on
It's all an act-it's why the relationship will never work. The honeymoon period was never real. It did happen-it just wasn't real.
They make you feel ecstasy at first. ❤
It’s a very dark energy ‘the spirit of Jezebel’ I believe this has a strong spiritual pull ! The female narcissist i know is a master seducer. Another wonderful vid thanks Anna.
She oozed sexuality.
Don’t forget the dark male incubus and female sucubus
Amen!!! I was just thinking about THIS.
Some have the incubus or succubus attached to them. Seen it in 2 experiences
That’s why my narc is obsessed with me. I’m a female narc, so I think he’s falling for the same game. He respects me as an equal and he’s definitely captive to my looks. I see him watching me all the time from his police cruiser. He wants me to see him studying every inch of my curves. I’d like to know what it would actually do to him if I seduced him. He’d melt.
It’s so weird! That happened to me! I never felt that way about anyone else!
Happy to be here from Virginia.
Me neither. Don't know why 😢😢
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My dad passed in January and the person that I’m talking about wants to go to Chicago and coordinate with her best friend after my dad‘s celebration of life that’s when I knew that she didn’t care for me
And I called her my soulmate. We’ve been together for five years long-distance relationship and I would have done anything for her and when she came to visit me two weeks after I got from Chicago, she got flowers for Valentine’s Day and didn’t even give me accept sympathy card so that right there let me know that she wasn’t thinking about me when she was planning to go hang out with her friends after my dad‘s celebration. What do you think ?
And didn’t even take her flowers and balloons back from my house. Have to come to see me when my dad passed away a few weeks after I got back from Chicago, including that having a sympathy card and saying I forgot when I asked her about it a week later, I got a sympathy card .
And a week after I told her that I didn’t want to speak with her no more and I didn’t want her around my family when the celebration of life happens in July and I haven’t heard from her in about six weeks nowp
Same here. It was the craziest thing I have ever experienced.
*Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, and tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain. -Fred Rogers*
It's WITCHCRAFT.
She told me she was a white witch (good witch). Intoxicating
I agree 100%
That’s what happened to me and one of the reasons I stayed so long. I was so sexually pulled to her even tho she rarely returned the favor. I’ve never felt that way towards anyone. still struggle with it at times but realizing what she is has made me lose a lot of attraction.
Most narcissist seem to be physically, very attractive people.
Perhaps they learn to use their looks from an early age to manipulate people and master their technique as they get older.
Yes I agree, well that is when we are young, but I know I'm ugly as hell now fat, and late 40's. But yes being very attractive, intelligent, and a warped personality applies to me and my friend she is so hot, in her early 30's always teases me, comes then goes. Its also about buying her the beer too lol. when I was young being chased, I had people buy my beer, for sex. So yea now I'm buying the beer for her, and can't wait to get some with her. Just afraid I will like it too much, and she will with hold sex, or get pregnant, damn...so I been trying to hook up with other people, even though I really want her more than anyone. She looks like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman, so hot, pretty smile, thin, but everything is about her, everything every minute it's exhausting, but I can be that way too lol.
True I've always been told I'm handsome since a young age. I use my looks to lure and capture victims without them knowing.
Absolutely yes. I’m a female narcissist. I remember being nine years old, delving through the recesses of Google, looking for “how to seduce men” and “how to be beautiful.” By the time I was out of high school, people considered me a swan, and I had droves of men getting obsessed with me.
I’d say I peaked in my mid twenties…I’m 28 now, so I’m definitely living in the glory for sure.
Guys please, you're freaking me out with these comments.😳
This happened to me for 7 years
My experience was more complex & disturbing with the ex I recently left, going "no contact" after exposing his first outburst of rage - out of the blue, with the most gutteral sounding bellow😳 I too had been overwhelmed with the unexplained sexual intensity, passion & lust I was feeling - like nothing before (& I've had my share of partners in my 69yrs). Even though I wasn't initially attracted to him physically, he quickly became the best lover I'd ever had, and was my 1st foray into a (Demonic) Narcissitic relationship. On two occasions, when we were intimate his eyes became glowing almond shaped, almost blinding, his slender body became rock hard & muscular, while his face morphed into a smiling Satan - like I was being welcomed into the DARK side. I had to close my eyes in fright & disbelief - feeling like I was engaging with the Devil - both euphoric & disgusting. There seems to be very little information on the unbelievably unsettling topic of Demonic sexual interaction.
They are possed by the darker entities ! They turned away from the light a long time ago !✨🕊✨
Ive been apart from my ex for two and a half years and lately I’ve been thinking of him sexually.. not sure why..because I in now way want him back. He’ll never change… he caused me a lot of heartache… and I have no interest in dealing with that again.
It’s because it’s the only time he’s nice to you
It’s conditioning and grooming
I'm still not totally free from him. But I'm trying to be strong and outsmart him. But it's hard really.
Ask Anoushka you are 100% right I tried to pick everything apart that you talked about and you're right every single time it's so hard to move on
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And I went in hook line sinker and the whole damn fishing pole
This happened to me. Just anchor,motor,and the whole boat,trailer.
Me too
@@elmaswanepoel1598 I’m sorry you went through this.
Your videos have helped with my healing 110%. Thank you, thank you, thank you. It’s been a difficult 10 months, but I feel like I have finally come out the other side and have reached indifference❤
I've been having issues dealing with someone and found your videos a few days ago. I had for so long been confused about why I continued to feel the way I do and why they reacted the way they did when I realized over a year ago that it was all a game to them and I went no-contact. They tried their hardest to get me fired from my job (we were co-workers) by complaining to HR with things like "He parks beside me all the time", where I only parked beside them a couple of times over 9 months as I didn't know which car was theirs and used the closest empty space. In the end I realized that I had to look after myself and left that job. My stress and some health issues went away pretty quick. A lot less anxiety and depressive episodes now and I am so much better off.
I look forward now to the newest videos and learning not only more about myself but also her. I worried for the longest time that I was a narcissist since it seemed like that is how they were portraying me. I do understand that I have some tendencies (as do almost everyone in some form at some time) that stem from childhood trauma from my parents but I am not even close to what actual narcissists behave like.
I am thankful for your videos and am grateful for my healing journey now on its way.
Yeah the sex was the only good thing about the relationship, so it hooks you in that way. Also, I think they know they have nothing else to offer you in terms of love or giving of themselves in anyway, so they use seduction and then pulling away to keep you wanting more. The ex was also very physically affectionate because again words and emotional affection were not going to be the way they win you over, at least not after the honeymoon period. They can't keep up that niceness for long periods anymore. When I think back on the things he said he would do, it was often said in front of someone else to impress them about how great he was to me (supposedly). Then he never did it, whatever it was. Just empty talk.
I’ve never known anything like it 👍👌🇬🇧
The strangest thing.. to hear someone talk of MY narcissist and know all her sexual guile and manipulation and behaviours. Drawn in knowing I had some attachment issues myself and reassured and seduced and made, yes made to fall in love - I couldn't help it - and then to be left high and dry and confused and questioning my mental self. And so I reached out to one of her former partners and heard his story mirror mine to a T. Then after no contact to be drawn in and in and captured again in her spiders web of deceit, lies and mistrust. I'm forever bonded as I've never felt love like it, she has my heart but not my soul. I understand what she is and what a fool she made of me.
She told me her ex tried to put her in the trunk now I understand why this is a very dangerous game he was not stronger than I am but I still think about her but I do know the no contact for 4 months
Never going back
*Like # 158* If you are "falling in love" for the first time this may be difficult to see or understand simply because it is your first time, it is all new, and you are uncertain of where boundaries are, you may not know how to set boundaries or even know why you need boundaries. Every sports game has boundaries. Boundaries can help keep you safe: physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially. Having mature and/or experienced friends, good communication where you can talk things out, talk things through, someone who may help you see thing more clearly. Good books, good movies, soulful music may also help give some advice, bring clarity and/or guidance.
You may not even know a boundary is.
@@darlamckinnon4546 This is true, especially when it may be a person's first time this is why I mentioned a few examples. We also have our intuition that may tell us, 'Something doesn't feel right'. But this cautionary feeling can be overlooked because we haven't had enough experience to learn to listen to it, and act upon it. But this is how we develop ourselves and boundaries. Smile. *Don't be scared. Be prepared.*
As kid, I knew very weird man, with veryyyy odd behaviour.
Now, after decades, when I met narc, his sexual attraction and warm-cold game, I recall that man from childhood.
They are exactly same.
I don't want to tell what that old man was(most disgusting, I latter findout).
That fact, that similarity, made my strong distant from narc.
First Anoushka - LOVE ur hair like this !
Another great video it helped me realize what I was going through thank you so much ❤
Your hair looks great !!!
I love your channel and your great insight and knowledge/wisdom. You are so beautiful inside and out Sweetheart.
My dear sis Anushka luv ❤ to u my sis. Thanks for educating and opening the eyes of victims 🙇♂️🤲
Thank you sooo much for explaining this 💫💫💫-Xclusyph Icon
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Exactly what happened to me ,Heartbroken 💔
It’s like HE has a Spell on me and every time I go to leave , I can’t get away ! He says he has no “gifts” ( I do….) and I feel he’s put a spell on me amd has for years
Totally
GET OFF THE DATING APPS. THE LEACHES FROM HELL INFEST IN THEM. Go Dancing. FACE TO FACE.
Fact
😂leaches from hell. Good description. Accurate
Happened to me but l am strong praise the Most High
But they have sexual issues, they cut you or or pull back so you advance so they feel needed, but what about you?
They push pull
I’m totally broken, she just left me and has gone into a relationship with her boss and is posting how much in love she is. She rejected me sexually and is sleeping with him in his office, he’s on his own with her, doors locked and blinds shut, she’s also moved in within. It’s finished me off
I understand man but remember if she truly is a narc she can’t commit to anyone and doesn’t understand what love is. Matter of time before she moves on from this guy too.
Let him have her. They will eventually destroy each other and Karma will get them both.
It may take a year or two to heal but your life will become calmer and one day you will be at peace with yourself.
I'm eighteen months no contact and each day I feel a little stronger. If I can do it, you can to.
Give it a yr or two...u will be stronger and more worldly...gluck
Came out of similar mate on the 10th Jan. She had a new guy within days after we had been together for two years. Just think of the abuse you went through when you’re thinking about the good times. Write it down so you can visualise it, it does help
The boss will be the next target, money, power, no love, I can pick up on narcissists now, they are everywhere ✌️👍
It is until their willy stops working bc of their unwillingness to be healthy at almost 50. 👋🏼 ✌🏼
Then they play games such as withdrawing their affection
I don't feel sparkles or the feelings like this is fate or from past life. Its not about them lovebombing but overall how we click together. I had with no one such a good banter as with these. Also its like normal people they either dont see me / aren't interested or are boring
I was so sad, but now I think I am lucky that it did not get to that point. I was very attracted but I said no, so he ghosted.
Hi, it's a great video but the background music is to loud. Thank you for your great content!
Grandpa was a little strange himself, not a “normal man”. He kind of a saw a woman or a person just as the were leaving, not as they were coming in the door. You can imagine living in a time where married couples stayed together. Happy, unhappy, that is what you did. So a man who just “takes off” and leaves your Mother is quite a shame to live with. So a man or woman coming in and saying “how’s your Mother”, I mean you know how people especially kids are. That is a lot to handle. So instead you choose to see them as the leave, “goodbye buddy, glad that you stopped by. Come again”. Now I would be blushing crimson red if I allowed someone to see me. But, did the narcissist find in you the missing woman and take you all the way to climax? And looking into his eyes who’d you see there? Since, from my own experience, I know it wasn’t him. I can be an ass-hole for a woman, if she really loves it. But I want to be the one she’s making love to not somebody else. I respect you, you know I do. I guess I’m egotistic. I have to be the one.
Hi
Is Anoushka still doing Lives on Tuesdays?
Next Video Reference: ":The Text Games Of The Narcissist". Good Luck. Nameste.
What happened with the LIVE today?
😔 I guess there's no LIVE today!
There is sound
How can I get online counselling with you? How much does it cost please?
🔊 THERE'S NO SOUND!
Try your volume button!
Lol. I’m so late
Well I like you lol
Well now i am. Like wtf? Why you do that?
Pretty sure it's because their demons