You Can Tell The Narcissist Hasnt Moved On REALLY THEY HAVEN'T!
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🎉how do thay behave around there children
They don’t do any work on themselves. They are clueless and live from moment to moment.
Mine broke up with me from rehab, I think the rehab environment became her new "supply", she discarded me after 9 years and 2 kids like it was all nothing. I think shes probably playing victim there and being coddled and being treated only for alcoholism, when really I think the alcohol is her self medicating her personality disorders. But how do you explain that to someone with NPD? You cant, so she wont be honest with the doctors there and get the actual help she needs to dig deep into her childhood and why she acts the way she does. You're right they cant do the inner work and it doesnt help they discard the way they do so they dont get any advice or input on what they did, no accountability.
I should have known with the way she discarded the previous guy after being with him for like 14 years (she drank in that relationship too so how am I the reason? Lol), poor guy called all the time crying and I actually remember telling her "its okay to talk to him, give him some closure and just explain", but she didnt not a word to him. Now I know how he felt :\
I was 21 when I met her so I wasnt aware of any of this and she was 8 years older than me (29 turning 30), she was so sweet at first that I thought I found "the one", we had kids but then shortly after is when I started to get abused and manipulated and gaslighted, she broke me down so much I left my job, she became breadwinner, wouldn't let me talk to friends, ruined me and wasted 9 years of my life, all I had energy for was trying to keep her happy, back rubs, dinners, lunches, breakfasts, cups of tea, bubble baths, etc. I just kept thinking I have to make her happy to fix this for the kids. What a fool I was. Now I have to restart life at a huge deficit while raising the kid alone. She discarded her kids too like wtf are these parasites.
They have a new supply groomed and vetted before they discard. So the narc is fine and leave us in the ashes. They emotionally checked out of your relationship months ago.
So true. that happened to me.
They don't nourish a relationship, they suffocate it. It's the chase/ challenge they like then they get bored. Sad, empty life.
Yes,
The narcissistic covert tends to live in with women who will just move into his house and have all the free sex without a commitment in marriage because he will not chase a woman woman..
This 78-year-old man has never been married because he doesn't want to commit to any woman.
Fortunately, I never bought into his grooming process. And knew how he treated his women.
Because his relationships never have last long!
He has money and doesn't want to get married because he states that " You do not have to have a piece of paper to make a commitment with sex.
He doesn't even take his women out on a date because he doesn't want to dress up. Instead, he looks like a hobo.
And when the relationship gets a bit tough, then out the woman goes, and down the road, he will groom some other weakling. Andvput on his charming mask!
And what this woman says about narcissistic men fits every description description of this 78 year old man.
This man doesn't like me because I see right through him, and yes, I am a challenge.
Love your post 📫.
@@Joe-hf3cn please explain..
Very well written, thank you ❤
This is perfectly put.
Very very true
The narcissist always has other supplies in line, just like the way they have so many flamboyant clothes in their wardrobe to exchange and wear to catch public validation!
This is on point lol
No one: Loves you while with you
Everyone: Loves you when you’re gone 🤷🏽♀️
Best thing to do after a Narc relationship is to give yourself time and space before entering a new relationship...because believe me if you have the stink of the Narcissist still on you and in your head..you will undoubtedly meet another one...why? because predators will automatically be drawn to your pain...whilst healthy people will give you space ....the Narc will see it as opportunity!!!
This is a great piece of advice ... you are absolutely right. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 😊
I went from one narc to another one. I had two either side of me for a short period…
True, it happened to me. Devastating lesson learned
My husband left me to another woman who was also discarded 1 months ago before me , they both were broken because they both were in unhappy relationship 😢 they will pay for the pain they caused 🎉
I read this a few months too late. Hoping my new person isn’t a narcissist and I’m being love bombed. She’s very kind and generous. With my broken brain I wish she made me fight a little for approval. Lol. Kinda fells when I had to fight to prove my worth it brings out the best in me.
I wish my narc would at least once Hoover me. I feel so crappy and forgotten by her.
He'll die alone and rot. And I can't wait for it😅
Who cares if.the narc moved on or not? It's not about them. It's about those who have become damaged by the narc and their own healing journey.
This just causes the victims to dwell on harmful emotional trauma.
Exactly
The weirdest thing is that even if they are the one, who leaves, they still cannot let us go, they want to have access to us, time with us, our support, like they don't get basic laws in this world.
The are delusional.
They are toddlers who still need momma in the background ( you!) Where they can sneak back to, whe he can't cope
.like crossing a stream, you carefully think which stone or boulder you can use to step on, to get across the water
They are always with new people. They were with people when you were with them. These are not faithful people. They need people to feed their ego. Just get rid of them and don’t worry about what they are doing. You want emotionally healthy people around you period, rather it be friends, family, co workers etc.
They lack emotions therefore they are perfectly shot to discard with zero feelings or thoughts.
It's been 1 year since he dicarded me and I still haven't moved on. I am still in emotional distress. I can't sleep and people that he talks to tell me things that he says and about his new girlfriend and I feel like I am going to go crazy sometimes. Never been treated so cruel in my whole life. I feel like my brain needs to be reprogrammed.
Seek out therapy, seriously
There is no such thing as a final discard. That’s just a term. It’s an illusion just as what’s happened is. See? You’re giving that term power too. It’s easy stop it. Your mind is extremely powerful. I loved this when I read it. A narcissist?
Final discard?
I laugh
You must be new here...
Discard, oh discard, who told you about the discard?
The final discard….. Lmfao...
Discards are a mythological mind twist and a figment of your own imagination. They aren't real. There are no discards here. That's not what's happening in this game.
No, what you actually have is a narc vacation. Grab your sunglasses, put your feet up and enjoy a cocktail. This narc vacation is going to be fun. You, my love, get this well deserved break.
You hear that? Listen closely... that, my dear, is the sound of crickets. That is the sound of peace. No fucked up mind games, no twisted truths, no talking in circles, no blaming, no throwing gas, no insults, no rage, no mouth to feed, no ass to wipe. You get a vacation from all that drama. Listen to those crickets,
listen to that peace. You
deserve that.
This is a time for vou to recalibrate vour emotional
balance and focus on you. You barely know you anymore. Go look in the mirror, you will need to find her again. Go find your friends, they will remember you. They will hold your hand and dry your tears.
They are here to hold you through your storm.
Create some new goals, new expectations, and a new version of you. This is going to be fun because you get to recreate the life you always wanted. You get to follow your dreams this time and not someone else's.
This is your fresh do over. You are so lucky. You are so blessed. Enjoy this narc vacation, you deserve it.
So, what about your narc? He too is on vacation. He's on vacation with side piece. He's enjoying the sun.
He might come back at some point but it will all be too late then. The girl he once knew will be gone. You will be a faded memory to him. You will be your new version of yourself. And that person won't be familiar to him. That person will be so strong and powerful.
She would never take him back. Her bullshit detector is no longer broken and she will no longer play the narc game.
Power up girlfriend. Your new life has begun. Tie your shoes and start chasing your new dreams.
You will be amazing...
@@juneberry1286 I did not refer to the discard as final. You do not know my life or the events that happened to me to give me all those words that sound like poetry. Maybe you should write poems instead of the giving advice that is worthless and you sound like you have no empathy for others. Take a minuute to think about those heartless words you used and maybe look in the mirror at yourself first before telling others what they should do.
FACTS!!! My ex narc was begging me to stay and not leave and in the same breath he’s telling me he met someone new and he loves her. It’s INSANE! I wished him well and wished him luck. He still Hoovers 14 years later. Cray cray and not normal.
FACTS!!! My ex narc was begging me to stay and not leave and in the same breath he’s telling me he met someone new and he loves her. It’s INSANE! I wished him well and wished him luck. He still Hoovers 14 years later. Cray cray and not normal.
I became the other woman while he was dating her and even when he said that he loved her. He said that he couldn’t stop being with me. When he started spending more time with her I could no longer live in that sick fantasy. He asked if I met someone would I still see him. I said no. I loved him but I would never do that to another person. I want unconditional love.
i had two nitemares of her cheating on me, so i walked away .... all the best in your freedom from him, don't go back no matter what !
You did the right thing by choosing YOU, he should not have put you in that predicament
They want to have their cake and eat it to
The narcissist will never be happy in my opinion. They will never really move on. You have to move on and do the work,like I did. Educate yourself and realize why you pick toxic people in your life. I finally know "Why". I come from a narcissistic family. I was the scapegoat. Does it sound familiar. You deserve to be loved and taken care of. I know I do. Who cares about the new supply. Believe me, they will do the same. Love bomb, then gaslighting, putting you down, etc. Be happy you are no longer with this person who has NPD. They will smear and stalk you. You can't control it... so accept it and go on. Thanks for your videos.
People with attachment wounds are not all narcissists.. Being trauma bonded / intermittent reinforcement and future faking etc etc makes people absolutely crazy and behave in ways they never ever would 😢 It’s absolutely life changing and changes the personality and the brain 😢 Years later the person still haunts individuals hearts & minds 😢
Narcs cant move forward because they are constantly reaching back and trying to hold on to past encounters and people they always leave a crack in the door for the "just in case" moment they feel has the potential to happen with the new person or a regurgitated supply relationship...
This is true unless they have been mortified. Narc mortification will lay them flat in bed for months, sometimes suicidal. Then they don’t Hoover.. this is done when you cheat on them or discard them before they are ready… or public humiliation.. many things can cause this
I hate that I feel this way and I’m sure it will eventually fade but I honestly hope he is haunted by my supply for the rest of his life
Or they discard u and threaten to take u to court do u so u get a restraint order and do it instead Lmfao
This is very true!
If you cheat on someone and discard them before they can discard you... Probably the narcissist is you. Why cheating? Why discarding? Why having another person aligned? Why not just ceasing the relationship in a healthy way, give some time to grieve, move on after a while, as functional caring people do?
I’m sure he’s moved on. He had a woman move in before our divorce was even final. I’m pretty sure he had married her. He is not watching me that I know of. It’s ok though. As long as he stays away from me I am happy. 😊
You have the right attitude!
That is the mindset to have... as long as he stays away then you will have peace 😊
🎉🎉🎉🎉
My ex and I ended our relationship December 17 1997.
My ex reached out to me on November 7th 2021 to tell me he still loved me.
24 years later.
@@Fairgreentube oh! I hope you sent him packing!
You forgot to mention the physical stalking/ or drive-bys, lol. Everything else you mentioned is so on point. My last LTR, she lived with me. Things sadly ended poorly almost 2yrs ago now. She is still doing drive-bys of my home almost weekly according to my neighbors. Imagine if I would have married her, wow.
I have a haram of gang stalkers. A lot of drive-bys, using police friends. It is utter madness.
Goodness, yes the drive by's are so intrusive. Im sorry to hear that you have to deal with this. It would seem she cannot let go of you and needs to know what you are doing. I hope that this does not intimidate you to the point that it stops you from living your life. That really is the anti-dote to just continue to live your life. It will trigger the abandonment wound which is triggering her and that is why she is driving by yours to check up on you. Wow, yes if you got married to her ... wow!
Being Trauma Bonded causes these types of behaviours too 😢 Seen it happening! Xx
I’m sorry that her monster/Narc is going off!! Meaning for you to please be careful and if possible install cameras!! She ( Monster/Narc.) may make attempts on destroying your vehicle, anything she can do without anyone seeing. I have gone through this.
Glad you are done with her🥂🥂🥂
@@dianelopez8344 Thank you. I've had surveillance cameras on my property for about 8yrs now. You just never know, lol.
In Anoushka we trust ❤
Thank you, I am honoured 😊
@@anoushkamarcin you have helped me so much and changed my life around Anoushka, you have no idea.
@@FrankiesFire I am sooooo happy to hear this, I really am ... keep going forward 💪🏼
100% true you just nailed it, I wish I knew this before I met my ex narcissist 😢
Thanks Anoushka!❤⚘
Let them behind...
Focus on healing...
Keep going up and no contact!
Don't do a rebound and don't climb into a bottle. I lost a decade to the bottle dealing with my last ex. That was my doing, she didn't buy the bottle nor fill the cup.
We could never have a honest talk of what was going on with us. He would always say it was my insecurities, and that only I thought something was wrong, and after he threw me out, he called me three weeks later to tell me I ruined his life, and I never heard from him cents, one huge, horrible argument and in two hours I was packing and leaving
all the best , do not go back, she said the same to me, i knew dam well it was her lies .. again as always ...
I was able to move on, 3 months after we split up. The thing that allowed me to let someone in to my life was accepting that the narcissist was never faithful to me and had numerous women the entire time we were together. Also seeing them flaunt the women around on social media. I realized they never were who they said they were. So in a way it kind of backfired on them. I'm truly lucky to be with a loyal and loving person. I have to remind myself often that what I went through wasn't im my head like they tried to tell me.
feel like someone punched a hole in to my chest the pain is insane 🥺i couldn't be with anyone else.
That’s a myth.
The pain starts to subside as time goes on. Keep focusing on your healing. You've got this 💕 Just try not to go back to the narcissist if you can because it only gets worse each time you return
@@Nikki_Nicole_ yes and thank you 🥰
Brother I've been there for many months. It will go away, you have to watch these videos about narcissistic person and rewire the way you think about her and she's the one. When you completely rewire, you will be free, happy and in peace. It will happen.
@@ty8xhuohmthank u❤
I hope she finds someone good and leave me alone
You're so nice to hope that cuz if she finds someone good she's just going to destroy him. I hope my ex narc dosent find anyone and if he does I hope that they leave him.too because he's just going to hurt them in the long run.
Dealing with a narc ..has anyone ever felt that perhaps we are the narc. In our attempts to figure the events that have ..happen....given the way we have been treated ..they make us feel like we victimized them .
I apologized to her a couple years ago and I still don't know why !!!
Been thinking about that since !
Went no contact April 22, I inadvertently broke N/C January 23 and realized I set myself back !!!
You gotta be careful around the narc, they will project all their guilt and shame onto you !!! Negative energy !!
Forget how you feel about them,
How do they make you feel ??
Yes :(
Yep
We have narcissistic tendencies but its important to know we arent narcissists. You shape to your environment
💯 Correct every word !
Thank you for sharing these experiences
Yes, right on target!
I really appreciate you!!!
This video has been a comfort ❤
Thank you.
So true. So rough all of this. Yes just stopped and silence.😢
This is eerily accurate
Omg this is so TRUE!
Amazing info thank you! This is the first time I have ever commented on a vid.
Thanks for this educational message. God bless.❤
Anoushka, thank you for making it clear!
Thank you, this video made me feel great. So very helpful. 👍
Great advice to help so many people
Anoushka so well said
Geez, you can explain the scenario so well that it opens up my eyes to what is truly going on! Appreciate that
Thank you so very much. Your words have helped me so much. 🙏🏼
ANOUSHKA I ❤ YOU !
THANKS FOR BEING A BEAUTIFUL SOUL AND HELPING ME PUT BACK THE PIECES FROM THIS NIGHTMARE THAT ALMOST ENDED ME ❤
Thank you Anoushka, you're, 💯to the point!!!2 narcs in a row, lesson learnt, I hope!!! 🙏🙏🙏
Wow! The Narc I am with now in the later stages of this relationship jumped into a relationship with me within the same month that they broke up with their last person. I actually know the last supply. It impacted my social circle. I really think they thought I was an absolute push over. I am weak enough to cry over this mess but strong enough to begin to see the craziness.. Wow! You explained it so well. Makes sense now...
Thank you! ❤
Thanks ma'am good reading i claim it strongly 🙏🌹💐 congratulations to you thanks again for your great support 😊
Hi Anoushka,I am going through exact situation.Married for 18 years with 2 teenage kids he divorced me and started dating exact same week (well atleast thats what I got to know).His new supply is painting the social media red with all their romantic trips and dinners,where as me and kids are struggling to survive .Theres not been a single day I dint feel like ending my life.when will this end? he has not seen kids since 6 months but sending me court orders for financial settlement.He has moved £100000 .I am waiting for Gods Justice.
Thank you 🙏
Thank you !
I literally cannot thank you enough for this video, this is exactly, 💯 and I mean spot on 💯 what has just happened to me, the trauma and pain is unbearable but this has helped me so much to try to understand it, it makes perfect sense. Your videos are so helpful and I have to say folks if you are struggling or doubting whether your narcissist will do this next, then look at every past and present narcissism box they have ticked why would the future narcissistic boxes not be ticked either?! This will happen! Healing and prayers peeps xx
Well said.
Hope they have moved on. I certainly have.Theyre short term. People you wish you never met. Their pattern is idealize, devalue disappear discard hoover....wash lather rinse repeat cycle. Disrespect and abuse is closure. They seek supply and rotate supply. Healthy people don't behave the way they do. It's a relief when theyre gone permanently. Their relationships are a pervasive and maladaptive pattern.
Missing The Loss Of Someone That Mistreated You Is Like Mourning The Loss Of Trash. - Natalie Lue podcast
I used to check his Instagram almost every day but I'm already done with it. I thought I'm losing another person that I love. But now, I feel sad for him coz everything that says in this video is true. I feel sad that he will get older without really seeing what life is about. Please take care, everyone.
so needed to watch this today. 13 years and discarded. Within weeks she is 'supposedly' madly in love with New Supply and away on holiday. 5 months on I am still trying to process it all..
I honestly didn’t know I was a narcissist until, I saw it coming from my 2nd partner who was also a narcissist
He hasn’t reached out ever after our break up not even ask mutual friends if I was OK I’m devastated. It’s been seven months. He looks horrible. In the pictures I’ve seen I’m just someone peeing. He threw me away like I meant nothing after four years.
count your blessings your freedom is yours for the taking, do not go back , for your own health .
Please know that you are being protected from the poison
Being away from narcs is a gift
......good video, sister
I get the weirdest texts from random numbers, im pretty sure its the narc
What does the texts says?
OMG me too! And an anonymous call from no caller ID.
@@hmnorvell3771 No texts, but odd numbers or anonymous calls.
She replaced me within 3 days..plastered kissing pics of them all over fb..I was never asked once to be in a pic :( she said she only met him that week but I don't believe her..I'd say he was already in the picture..then 4 months later she posts she's married on fb!.like wtf!..4 months!..I never knew a thing about covert npd or bpd til I met her..now I can't stop ruminating..hello from Ireland anoushka.
@west west yeah ur right I'd a feeling was something off alright..I doubt il ever hear from her tho..I'm in dublin Ireland she went back to Lithuania last October..but she's a drifter she gets bored of everything after a few months Jobs,friends bfs..I doubt she will ever come back to Ireland man..twice I reached out to her and she was rude and vindictive..I never got answers or closure..I'm grateful for your reply man
@@tekken278 ohhh she will!! She will make contact with you. It won’t last with this new guy and she’ll come running back. They always do 🙄
I know exactly how you feel. I thought I’ve been through a lot in my life but I was wrong…I didn’t really know what a narcissist was until now. These videos have helped me so much, I hope they help you too. Think of it this way…you were the lucky one. The poor person she married is in for it. Good luck to you.
@@lucye5752 I don't think she will Lucy she went back to live in Lithuania and I'm in dublin..I dunno if its all fake as I don't even think this guy is straight..theres noting in his page about being married or living in Lithuania or Any pics with her...its all on her page..i reached out twice to her before Christmas to see how she was and she was just vindictive and rude to me. I shouldn't have broke the no contract..I never knew a thing about love bombing or mirroring or Any of this stuff til I researched it after the relationship..constant flattery I got at the start..never met a woman that was that instense sexually either....really fast moving relationship it was and she wanted to move in together after only a few weeks..its insane all this stuff..so I'm still ruminating and learning about it all..thanks for your reply Lucy from Mark in dublin :)
@west west j
My narc was looking for my replacement while he was still with me. I found him on a dating site twice with a profile pic he had taken in my car
I caught my ex-narc on Tinder. The last time I saw her, I could feel it that she was mirroring someone else. Made an account and found her after 10 minutes of swiping. Any positive thought or emotion I ever had about her died that moment, blocked her on everything. The months leading up to this, I had already recognized the signs of it ending soon and started the healing process well before ending it.
I'm not changing! Her Mom told her He's a Keeper. Mom said to me a few times I need to take you home with me. Her 26 yr old dau said I know he treats you like a Queen. Her Loss!!
Thank you Anoushka for explaining things so clearly, I pray that someday God will remove the resentment,anger, and hatred I have for her🙏
You are welcome... the anger and resentment will subside in time 😊
You have the power over you. Do not give them any. You’ve got all the power.
Thank you for this wonderful video however, in my case I’m not on social media and I blocked the narcissist on my phone. I’ve had no contact with this person in over two years. I doubt seriously that I ever will have contact with them again, but you know you just never know about them, I agree with you they do not let go of their exes because when we were together that’s all they ever talked about was their exes so now they can talk about me and put me on that list also
Exactly what I went through recently….
Some use your kids to keep you hostage
He said to me, I was fine before I met you. It was great when I was with you and I will be fine without you. He said that the entire four years we were together.
My bed was still warm from the ex Narcissist in it ,when he text me to say that if I contacted him again.he would take out a restraining order out against me,my head was spinning, of course he had moved on to the next victim by then.
I’m so sorry
@wtcmedic911 Thankyou ..it's ok as it was 4 years ago but I must say. I still have moments of disbelief looking back and undoubtedly, Despair.
@@Joshualuv13 did he ever try to return?
@@wtcmedic911 oh absolutely..many.times at various intervals.
And not only did he try and walk right back into my life as suited him.but with no apology.Almost with an open attitude of ,oh well it's what I needed at that time but I'm here now ...type things ..utterly infuriating!
She says this stuff about me once that switch flips. And she claims change every few weeks
Anoushkas, this was by far your very best video, I loved your passion, your excitement of the subject matter. Thank you It was perfect for me, a very good understanding of, the discard and your given title. Loved it , a home run. David O
They are a Big Liar. Totally
A habitual liar doesn't change.
Took me 3 years to get over it all and still now im not fully right ir ready to try again with anyone. He pops up on chats after weeks gone by just to say he misses the kids when he stopped himself from seeing them. Even the kids finally decided they dont have a dad and dont care if they see him or nlt. They ask each other why is the other sibling even bothered. Its hard for a child with a lot of autism to see anything bad in his dad and he begs day after day to see him. Ive even stood outside the flat with my son to show him his dad wont answer the door. We stood for 2 hours in the rain and all the man did was peep out of his window to see our son crying in my arms and didnt give a damn. I told my boy now you see he wont open the door to you we never ever do this journey again. He still believes his dad will open the door. I have to protect my kids from emotional abuse so now i refuse them to see their dad. Hes a disgusting piece of poop.
She tried to avoid and not talk to me till i went over and found out she was just done, and better alone etc, and it was like she was single before we even talked in her mind, she didnt care about anything I said at all.
She told me i was delusional trying to discuss etc or not agree to stuff she said about me towards her
The Narc made my life hell !
He went with a women and lived near me . But shes kicking him out now and wants to move in with me lol
I had the strength too say NO WAY NEVER.
So he didnt win the game 😂
And it's gone quite . Feel sorry for the next victim.
They are NEVER happy
I’m watching them also, maybe I’m a narc.. I can’t get my head around things or process things, I just want things to be ok.
Same, but I think it has more to do with my own sense of emotional safety and keeping up with how things are going with them... a pre -emptive preparation. I found myself driving past years later and being disappointed that I did not see nappies and babies toys......still the same 15 years later only everything is dingier, dirtier, more overgrown and nothing has changed. It makes me feel better to know that in spite of.. I made the right decision and they no longer illicit guilt in me.
No ... just because you're watching doesnt mean that you are a narcissist. I feel that in your situation you're trying to get answers that you havent got yet. This will eventually subside and things will start to make sense. It would seem that right now things are confusing and you want answers. Hope this helps 😊
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@@anoushkamarcin precisely where I’m at right now. We had absolute trust for 10 years, and now she has locked her phone, hides conversations, has this limerance guy at work and everything. But we still operate like a “normal” married couple, she just won’t talk about ANYTHING. It’s so confusing and painful.
She won't show me because then id know for sure she was full of bs from stuff she had said and reason for leaving
Security camera s make em move on 😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉
it does suck to see her with a new guy for months but still stalks me 😬
She's stalking you for future supply (hoover). She will eventually dump this guy and go to another or try coming back to you. I've been through this twice in my relationship with a covert narc. I unfortunately didn't realize at the time people with NPD even existed. I found out after I left her the second time and for good. I saw the same exact pattern being played out and had enough of her cheating. Everything Anoushka said is 100 % accurate. Please don't fall for the Hoover. They only want you back when no other supply is available. They will eventually discard you again and the cycle will repeat itself over and over again. Good luck to you and stay strong.
But my x is with my daughter i know
How awful not having the ability to discern the great and special believing everyone is the same victims with souls should sue for wasted time and energy, sick♥️🐸🙏
Pathological!
It took took 8 days from so in love and life good cause im in it to fully breaking up because of one day got upset or dissapointed how things went one day
It's so funny they always say soul mates don't they. Whenever I hear someone say that now I'm like red flag. The ex narc I was with said I was her soul mate two years later she was calling the police making up false aligations.
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my narcissist got into a new relationship before he left me, I found out by accident. She called him when I was in his presence.
He used to tell me I was the problem I had red flags and I would stand there crying asking him then tell me what are they help me to become better for you and he would say figure it out that’s on you that’s all I ever got from him he would say I was jealous. Oh yeah, women are calling you all day long. Your exes call you every other day. I have a goddamn right to be jealous.
Get out of it and get in reality they are never. Going to change they are horrible people they don't give a dam about no one get out and stay out these people are never happy no matter what you do for them I am glad to be single yes I get lonely sometimes but I rather be lonely and have a man and still lonely that's even worst
The fact is most of the time, what we term new supply is an ex or an old friend.
My narc met me in high school we lost touch met again about 15 yrs later moved in made a life got married had twins then left just like back in high school. Wish I knew about narcs a few years ago, she is a walking red flag
I was discarded in public constantly looking at other men saying hello to them when I went to toilet I heard it and said I was hearing things or was it my wallet was empty
Thank you for your post they really help I’m oscillating between good bad days I want to get to the point that I feel like it was not personal to me
We had three together I had our pic on my WhatsApp to tell the world I was with her she just had pic of her only her on her Facebook only her on insta I feel such a fool at times and the IM messages list was incalculable when I confronted accused me of stalking
People really need these posts I know I do and I know one day I be ok I don’t want revenge I just want to feel human and worth something
Is there a way to know if they are watching? She unfollowed me and then removed me from her followers. Using the instagram stats I have hundreds of non followers checking my postings? Ty
My ex told me if she stays with me she will kill herself. In two years shes left me 15 times. I blocked her after that comment. No turning back.
Can you suggest tips for when your spouse's ex is the narcissist who they have kids with and you have to have a decent interaction for the kids sake?
What I would suggest in this instance, is to be yourself around the children, your relationship will be with your partner and their children and not the ex-narcissist. Sure, they will get information from the children, but if you act out of integrity and authenticity you cannot get faulted fro that which is what the ex-narc will be looking for to devalue you to your partner with. You have to be yourself and in terms of communication with the ex-narc keep it brief and pleasant (like a business interaction). Hope this helps 😊
So But ours was not True tooo. 😢
My narc went off with the new supply bc he got kicked out of his rental. New supply is paying for the hotel they are living in. They’re in a hotel bc he doesn’t wanna move in with her. I’m curious as to how this will play out, will he discard her too?
You don’t always see anything on social media. What if you’re blocked and they have a private account, how do you see anything? You can’t. So, this is just a theory and assumption. Not all narcs advertise the new supply.