As an ENTJ, I can say that we're constantly in a mental breakdown, but instead of stopping, crying and doing whatever normal people do when they're having a breakdown, we just keep going, we simply don't stop, and that's quite problematic
Honestly, that hit home. Developed an addiction a couple years ago and fell into depression. When things started getting less busy and work oriented/focused AKA christmas break, I decided to go to therapy, and the second I took the decision to go there was the second I decided to get myself out of that miserable state I was in. Kinda lost myself in this post but it really talked to me so yeah. Basically, yes, we dont stop, we dont cry until we get that small break and realize what's been going on.
omg this! 😪 I developed so many health issues because of this. And the worst part is, I don't even know how to control/prevent it. I would think that I am doing perfectly fine, and then all of a sudden I'd get a visual migraine. 😩
@@margaretgaby4506 I wasn't either. But when I got my degree I was really happy, also my mom hype...some food, etc. Real thing lasted like a minute and then I was asking about Master's degree.
"They often push themselves at the expense of their physical health"- darling I had a panic attack at a professional scientific debate and started bleeding through my nose- I told myself to "suck it up", stuffed Kleenex up my nose and gave my speech against people's advice. Went home with the best speaker trophy nonetheless. Health? Haha nothing in front of my GOALS
To this day, I still don’t get why people make such a fuss of bleeding noses. It’s nice that you still did you’re speech. I’m happy for you all the way from here :D
Or me, who had an asthma attack after sprinting to win our 6th grade relay race at sports day. Our whole team came home with gold medals - I just had to take mine to the doctor's office while I went on a nebuliser.
I did one of my final highschool exams while my toe was bleeding through it all. When it was all said and done, I left the exam room with a blood-soaked shoe, a dizzy head, and a pass. It was worth it.
ENTJ's get a bad rap for being ruthlessly goal-oriented but have you ever picked on one of their friends? Then the goal is to ruthlessly protect. I'll always stand up for my friends and sometimes even voice the concerns of others when I know they won't stand up for themselves. We definitely have the "Nobody picks on my friends but me" attitude lol.
Haha yes I agree. I seriously told my friend “I’ve been kind of mad lately- so if there’s someone you need revenge on, nows the time lol Bc I want to DESTROY EVERYTHING THAT MOVES”
I 100% relate to this. We're the people who will take our Fi friends out for dinner - they might find a problem with their meal, but brush it off so as not to "cause a fuss". _We're_ the people who will call the waiter and make the complaint on their behalf. It's not a "fuss" to get the quality you've paid for.
My friend is an ENTJ (she was “too busy” to take the test). She graduated as a Physical Therapist Assistant, was a model for a gun magazine, then started renovating and selling up to 10 properties at a time while working full time as a PTA during the week and traveling out of state to an accelerated Doctor of Physical Therapy program on weekends. And she loves to travel on “free weekends” with her mother who has completed over 100 marathons around the world. I can’t even make this up
Oh, this is so true! I feel your friend. We (ENTJs) really enjoy spending a lot of things all the time. Funny, we are not aware how we were able to manage those stuff. We just don't want to waste our time and energy. 😂
Sounds like ENTJ jumper, leading with Te Se. These are the more extroverted ENTJs. There are the subdued ones with double feminine FF functions with Te Ni, often mistaken as lead introverted perceiving types.
Me being accepted in one of the top medical schools in my country "I’m in!" Doesn’t have another immediate objective in life "Why do I fell like a failure now?"
Hey! You might not have another objective right now, but you MUST be proud of yourself for achieving your first goal! The fact that you want to achieve more things, doesn't make the already achieved things less significant, so you are not a failure!
"The moment one goal is achieved, it's almost instantaneously replaced by another." Actually, as we approach the end of one goal, we are already planning the next one, so the actual point of achievement is sort-of a let down, because mentally we have already moved on. But another excellent analysis!
Gosh, does that explain a lot about why I haven't been getting any of the self help books finished very quickly. Skip the b.s., move along, move along - okay, I've mostly learned this, set it down and start another book. "I will finish you later." Yeah, 2.5 weeks, months or years later. Or, maybe it does. I just took the inventory again and it now said ESTJ but I am told they are often at least one letter off from right and I used to always get INTJ and INFJ.
It’s crazy my ENTJ father tried to teach me that I have to go through life as if I’m playing a game of Chess. Strategic and almost Ruthless without caring about anyone because everyone is out for themselves. Dang he’s a pessimist. My ENFJ mind loves just chilling with everyone.
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Entj's can be self sacrificing in the pursuit of their goals. They can be relentless towards others because of this. Many do not realize this about them. Great video, thank you!
my closest friend is ENTJ and she can't understand why everyone doesn't appreciate what she does for them. lol Me ENFP........ I'm her human motive council. She comes to me to understand why people are doing and being as they do and be, without the right or wrong of it.
@@scrillion6 I think I could help, she might be playing bad guy to help people but when there cured she tells them yep I was a cunt on purpose look how happy you are now , they never believe us .. Yeah sure you was, but its true we really don't care as long as it gets results.
STOP! I find it impossible to be happy with the arrangement of my bedroom furniture. There just _has_ to be a "best way" to do it and I'll be _damned_ if I don't find it!
The biggest problem with me being an ENTJ is the damn friends department, they all like to chill around and then I start to freak out because I'm not doing anything which makes me feel weird. I'm NEVER satisfied with anything(many people have said this to me, and I at time agree) which makes me feel weird... struggles of being an ENTJ.
I can't agree more with this opinion. Let's get this straight, I know hundreds of people around me. I have 0 (Zero) friends. Fact that I will never get any friend is so certain because I know it (my fucking Ni). How do I know it? Because of what you said, I have issues with the fundemental of friendship concept and what people attain to it. I can't just fit in it and I think I never will fit in it either.. So now what? Am I banished into loneliness? Well it's not that I crave for someone's presence but when it hits me IT HITS HARD that I really feel the existence of someone but I just don't know do I really need it to fill the emotional gap by again utilizing the relationship (friend or girlfriend) for the sake of my mental health or just for the sake of a bond. Everything is so easy and hard for me at the same time. I go outside doing stuff such as socializing or drinking from month to month other than that I've been focused on my job for the last 9 months because every single minor step of my job requires time for it and everything is chained to each other so I can't finish working when I get to home and when I can't finish I can't feel relaxed or accomplished. FUCK.
This is what I realised when covid started. I don't actually enjoy spending time with people just for the sake of it, unless we are actually doing something. Makes sense why the only time I'd meet some of my friends was if we were going hiking, rock climbing, or any other activity. I even used covid as an excuse to not meet people for over a year, because it would be a waste of time. If I am texting them, I can still do what I was planning on doing, and be productive, but if I meet them in a cafe or similar, I have to waste time to go there, waste time to return home, and focus all my attention on them, which to me seems utterly pointless.
Same. I limit friendships simply because I don't want to be fake and act interested in their feelings when I'm clearly not. When I was younger I used to invest my time actively listening to serve the friendship, but I'm just not interested in spending time doing things I don't wanna do. Specifically, listening to others who want to complain but not solve the issue which is my biggest pet peeve.
Unhealthy, I'm an ENTJ and i do not feel like that. You can efficiently have fun, efficiently seek meaning, efficiently deal with emotions. Efficiency doesn't just mean 'work', that's childish
I'm a ENTJ, and I believe that the "ignoring feelings" isn't really accurate. If we need to get something done, we have to keep in mind that people have feelings and do our best to understand them for these feelings to not be a problem in the future, disturbing people's management. Those who can't feel empathy are just emotionally immature, in my opinion. However, people might not always realize that we did care about their feelings when we made certain decisions and that's because we're trying to be fair and effective, not nice.
It's always hard to be ENTJ, because when you take the lead in an emergency situation and do what really helps you solve the problem, people accuse you of pushing them or not thinking about their feelings. But you were simply efficient and it worked not only for you, but for everyone who was in the team with you. If you had not taken control into your own hands, the team would not have been able to cope with this problem, because sometimes democracy does not work and delays the time for decision-making. But you will be considered an insensitive tyrant.
Napoleon wasn't wrong, an empty throne always temps me too. Thank you for the honest depiction of ENTJs without harping on emotions, refreshing! I am now subscribed.
@@kr-666 I do, but he annoys me. He is too long winded, it takes ten minutes until he gets into the subject and he meanders. I am an ENTJ. We need to get to the point!
My main problem as an ENTJ is the constant bombardment by everyone saying I don't grasp other people's goals or intentions. You're wrong. I am very good at noticing and understanding these things, I just dont bother to discuss them if I see no interest or point in them. I'm not on the "Notice me senpai" train, and I'm not sorry for that, but GOD does this shit annoy me sometimes.
Totally get this. I'll always be like "oh I thought we're done with this part" whenever people seemed to take forever just to get to the point about what their aims were, or tried to explain themselves (usually ++ doses of manipulative twists to it to get me into doing what they want). I always have to remind myself to be patient and just let them have at it (except if they're taking too much of my time and being inefficient about it), because you know, it's a relationship and that's a safe way to ensure I'm not being unfair/wrong in my assessments about a person; but it does gets tiring very quickly whenever people get into the same kind of narratives (that they're special unique beings, and no I don't get them. The most exasperating are the ones obvious in their wishes to be seen as holier than others, bc the insincerity stank!) I really honestly thought we are all so obvious, being you know, human being. We are calculable, using the right approaches and methods. Being wishy washy about those things are just plain time-wasting, let actions speak them!
Describes my boyfriend accurately. After he achieves something he thinks that his life doesnt have meaning anymore because the goal was already reached. So he looks for new things to achieve. I really envy him. I am an infp and im a potato 😂😂😂😂
Yuleta Orillo holy shit kudos to you for handling a relationship with a Te dom! I'm an INFP too and I still see my own Te with suspicion, let alone Te doms lol. I see them as bossy at best and ruthless at worst. Maybe I only have encountered badly developed Te doms.
In this comment section I have started to wonder, have I failed as ENTJ bc I have manually learned to respect humans and count their feeling when they don’t block my plan. I just set goals for people I care and then act so that I help them to reach those goals. If I respect one I of course won’t decide what they want but I decide they must become something and I won’t act way that prevents their success. This has lot to do with the fact that I am in school where people are still developing and in very weak state. Bc I don’t have given authority (and my school system often tries to hold me back) I must sometimes even adapt. Basically the point was, give people around you goals and then don’t intervene.
I am an older ENTJ woman, which I understand is quite rare. I related to your FI explanation of careers in mid life. I had that exact feeling. I wish I had known my powers as a young woman, but growing up in the 50's and 60's, my independence and big picture view just was not at all encouraged by my WWII generation parents. I am not that goal oriented, but I organize everything! for efficiency, even how the kitchen is set up! And I try to help people but end up coming off pushy and not kind to their feelings. It has been my goal to change that and let down my armour!
Aye my ENTJ elder sister, shake off that dust and clutch what ever is in front of you that you find fascinating. Everything isn't easy to switch up on the drop of a dime, I get that. But the journey ain't over until you're dead ya feel me? If you want to bust into a new thing at 65 75 95 and you've got your wit about you, then go for it. Don't let these hoes hold down your inner passions! You were meant for something great it just might not have been time to start on it until now 😉🥰
As an INTP i admire ENTJs a lot. I'm an engineering student and I struggle being productive. My grades are going downhill and I need to really get my shit together. Sometimes out of stress I get super organized, super productive and super punctual, but it's just mentally exhausting. Recently I had a breakdown and I havent studied anything ever since. Respect for ENTJs. :)
Shit I'm a ENTJ engineering student and I want to blow up the whole lab building with the bullshit the profs are doing. My grades are slick suffering but Ill never give up
Yes, I am also an engineering student and intp how suffering from low production, grades, and etc. I am not an idiot, but I have hard time being motivated and productive.
@@AG-wd7ng @The Sharingan Knight I made this comment as a youngling with little information on MBTI dichotomies. Turns out I am cognitively an ENTJ. I was just extremely unhealthy on Fi grip and had poor self regulation. It was kind of surprising because at first I look like an IxxP type. Last few monthsI have worked on discipline and self control. Something clicked in me I dont know what, maybe Ni auxiliary is developing? Maybe I have come to terms with my problems? Whatever it maybe I am glad I can think straight now and work. Deleted discord, instagram, reddit. Best descision ever. Hope ya'll do great.
@@AG-wd7ng Know what you want to do, where you want things to go; and whats holding you back from doing so. To move forward you need to have a strong present. You cannot control time, timetable is ineffective cause there is always something coming up, instead just assign short term goals first to get used to doing stuff. A goal for a day, a goal for the week. Its kinda hard but things do pick momentum and it becomes a bit easier. know the problem, know whats causing it; first descend solve then ascend. Thats how its been working for me. And dont consume useless infomation, this here is a brain power killer. Journals and planners do help. Don't lose sight of what you want things to be.
ENTJ ProTip: regular physical activity quiets the restlessness. Focusing on good form (yoga, pilates, dance) requires being in the moment, and that's when feelings and all the puzzle pieces click together smoothly (context: thinking about that personal life outside of work you don'treally have, but really want). Like my thoughts and ideas are streamlined because I'm not wasting it on every what if, just the what if's that my heart also cares about. Second pro tip: thinking about what you want is not selfish. It's an important piece in the we love and care for you pie we keep baking and trying to force feed others, I mean lead a horse to water.....
I'm not sure if this is an ENTJ trait but I also have an intense sense of responsibility. This has been a useful trait when parenting. I'm not the most sensitive or patient parent but I'm fiercely dedicated to my kids.
@@BenDonahower It could probably be an ESTJ trait, since it's "responsibility" towards your children. I don't think ENTJs take responsibility towards other people and that they often care about their own goals.
@@BenDonahower Idk about it man, but in my perspective ENTJs don't comply with anything related to emotions. And "intense responsibility" is related to emotions and care. I just think ESTJs would more likely to have such responsibility due to their sensing trait for conventional ideas. However I do think that ENTJs could have that responsibility as well, I just presented my previous reply to you based on my perspectives.
This is so so accurate. I had a conversation with my boss recently about having worked non stop for 4 months without a break, risen to the top 10 in my firm, but now I’m teetering on the verge of an emotional breakdown, but I just can’t stop chasing my goal. Anyway, thanks for this video! This was fantastic. It’s nice to have someone not just explain who you are, but rather why you are who you are.
Remember even scheduled time for relaxation can help you reach your goal too. Being better rested will help you think clearer and have more energy to chase your goal. Slow and steady wins the race.
As an ENTJ I truly agree with this. I feel most of the time during my social encounters, people generally expect me to plan the day, to decide what we'll do. I love changing other people minds but not in the same sense as ENTP, but in a more practical and less theoretical perspective . I also happen to be a psychologist so I can usually sense how other people feels with me, if someone's nervous or curious.
It's definitely interesting when you add all alterations of ENTJs. I'm an ENTJ that is not seeing my employees as chess pieces alone and actually spend time on getting to know them better. I used to be ruthless and focused on myself and found nothing but struggle. At least this way I can keep sailing towards my plans easier and better with peace of mind. No personality type should be overly generalized, every personality has their own mini quirks that makes them unique.
We are all in this community together! A better life for one person should be a better life for the community! A worse life for a person is worse life for the community! When you treat someone poorly it comes back at you, because you are part of the community!
I do, too. The problem is, in the end of the day, I used to ask myself, do I really a kind guy, caring for everyone in my team? Or I get close to and know them better just because I need to know the power and weakness of all my pieces to play efficiently and planning ahead? This gray area is where I keep questioning my own sense of "right and wrong" as a human.
Part of the reason I think that Intps and Entjs get along is because what the Entj considers unimportant details are the things intps excel at, and the things intps consider to be unimportant details, Entjs excel at. From an intp perspective it’s great, because suddenly all of my thoughts just... like... happen. In the real world. It’s great.
I lovee ENTJ.. well a mature one ☺ I was in a situationship with a entj.. he would over work himself..when he gets overwhelmed, he would get in this depressed mode, annoyed, angry all the time... he would get flu easily because he wasn't taking care of himself... I would keep telling him to go to gym, and eat healthy...I would ask him what he ate to make him think about eating... I knew I would sound annoying but his mood would pick up in a few days after gym and a proper meal.he would tell him his plans and I would tell him what I think and he would sometimes consider my input... He appreciated me, I know this because he was protective over me and my emotions... listened to me talk about my emotions even though he didn't enjoy it, he thought it was a waste of time, but he would LISTEN. Unfortunately we were no compatible, his love language was too different from mine that I couldn't feel loved by him, I knew he did because he kept saying it and planning his future with me, but I didn't FEEL he loved me enough so I moved on. I love ENTJ. Their focus, ambition, honesty and complexity...I just like cheering for them... as an infp, we need an entj friend...
It is important for people to take care of their health no matter the personality and understanding your emotions and when do they come from ISN'T a waste of time! Happy for you!🙂
Lord, some of this is SO accurate. Myers-Briggs put my ENTJ scores at the edge of the envelope. 40 years ago, I worked full-time - commuting into NYC - went to graduate school full time, coached kids soccer - was prez of the soccer association - was a Boy Scout leader, and developed courses for my university - which I later taught. Didn't seem onerous at the time, but I doubt I could do it all now. I have to admit that others' issues and concerns were never a priority - cost me a few friends - so what. Approaching 80, I'm definitely slowing down - only teaching martial arts and being a township supervisor.
i’m an entj and i knew that we were very goal-oriented people, but i thought that sense of uselessness after completing a task was just me 😂. so glad to discover that this is what goes on in other entjs minds- good job on these videos- they’re very helpful
As an INFJ, I find it so interesting to know ENTJs. Their intriguing personality makes me want to know them better. I like to understand them because I know that behind that rigid and intolerant mask, a fragile person is hidden. Although I'm not close to any ENTJ since I find them difficult to approach, I like to admire than from distance. Somehow, that "mean" and intolerant soul I once found arrogant, became a sweet something I'm so interested in.
Its the same for INFJ's for me. I'm not really close to INFJ's but they really get my attention with their uniqeness. Hoping to find some INFJ people around me :) - fellow entj
As an ENTJ, I am a director and I am always looking for something more to do, something more to climb. My weekends are full, it's always something. I do not sleep, if I do, I get four hours tops. I can relate to some of the issues you are highlighting. I am a workaholic, but I always make sure I make time for other things, I somehow fit all of my needs into a package; most think it a miracle. My friends have no idea how I can manage so many items, but it all comes down to time management. Everyone can do as much as I can, you just have to plan accordingly. Some people think I am aggressive, and in a way. I am, but I am just trying to get things done, if I do not push, then there is no pull. Even in my friend group, if I do not plan something, nothing may happen. I am friends with a lot of passive people. which is fine because to be honest, I like leading. I don't mind if someone else takes the lead of course, but the planning is fun and I like to be involved in the 'push' so to speak. I can also relate to the materialistic and the ability to adapt, all of those things are thrilling to me. Thank you for detailing this in a video.
Your videos are gold nuggets. Concise and every sentence makes me think it through my experiences. Probably all confirmed with the least bias probability. An impressed intj here haha going now for the entp. Keep up the great work man.
I am an ENTJ. 21. Every birthday of mine is the time when I am truly sad because of how I feel like a failure and feel like I haven't achieved anything. And unfortunately, the time is near and i am absolutely dreading it. There is no particular reason of writing this comment to be very honest.
I love the honesty of this comment. I think that’s often the case for certain types of people on particular milestones such as birthdays. I can relate to this sense of constantly feeling like I need to be doing more, it can be very dangerous indeed. If you haven’t already done so then feel free to check out the LoveWho discord server, you might enjoy connecting with some of the people on there ~ Nathan
@@lovewho The fact that you need to do more, mustn't stop you for acknowledging what you have already achieved and be proud of it! Even the smallest things matter! Don't beat yourself up! Progress is an infinite journey! What you have achieved matters!
@@lovewho I have the same feeling of like doing more. I go to the gym, meditate, journalling, cold showers. I obviously dont do these everyday but im triying. And always optimizing everything possible in the most efficient manner and its fucked up. I talked with a friend about that i was always striving for perfection on diet, gym workout, etc
Fascinating analysis. My ex always complained that I was alway looking for problems to solve and didn't spend enough time investing in emotional stuff. I started as a archive clerk en ended as an unemployed bum. And in the middle I also got to be the finance director of the private trust of on of the richest families in europe and was going to be adjunct director of the biggest trust company in the world. Then I got my mid live crisis, sold everything spend a year wandering though europe thinking a lot, seeing everything and spend a lot of money and ended up on unemployment benifits for the last 7 years and I havent been happier. No stress, no deadlines, no people whining when stuff is done and no reponsabilties anymore. Love my new live. Just doing absolutely nothing except watch a lot of youtube al day long.
Very accurate. I personally dont feel materialistic however, . Nor do I care to be a show off. I'm just trying to life in the most logical way possible.
I connect with this. You're not alone. Also, I feel like I'm kind of not an ENTJ at times when I'm *slightly* procrastinating or something like that, as everyone drives hard the fact that they're intensely efficient (which I do feel, but... one more episode. Come on).
I see it sometimes I can be very very minimalistic, other times I can be very very materialistic I don’t know if this is because I’m a Sagittarius ENTJ or what
Well said! 👏👏👏 It is important to deserve your breaks and to be happy with what you have and to be rational! I think that some part of the ENTJ materialism can come from their need to see the idea that they have materialised in order to be proud of it and to be a proof for their achievements when they doubt themselves!
@@user-tw2nk9lj6r wow. You are an entj. Nice!!! It's hard living in a world where no one understands an entj but another entj. We are so few and far between. I have always deserved my breaks. I will do anything I set my mind to with the wrath of God behind me. I have made the mistake of trying to show jealous people the way ... deluded into believing I could have a team. I had an ego death just recently. Had to humble myself from thinking I could fix people. .lived in disappointment from betrayals. It hindered me. Hard. I bounced back quick though. And I will live the rest of my life in peace and success. As. Success comes easy to me. Because I am disciplined. And honest. And care about being a good person. I know I'm a leader. I don't need credit. I thought I needed people to get off their ass. But I'm finding now that I got off mine. Mentally. I'm finding the right like minded people. I have great motivation and inspiration. I do not live in jealousy or insecurity. If I want better. I do better.
Thank you! I'm an ENTJ struggling to get the rest I need because I often go above and beyond every task I do which causes chronic fatigue because I almost always never get enough sleep. Really needed that advice at the end. 👌
this is so accurate. my first job after college was a CFO of a start-up in the bay area and everything this video said is surprisingly true. After 4 years, I finally asked myself for the first time why I was doing it and I had a hard time reconciling my thoughts and self awareness into real life.
when you talked about the mid life crisis and the 'why' about some entj's career i felt related. i've been with therapists my whole child and teenage years to treat my g.a.d but when i reached my 27 and fell onto bed feeling like my chosen path was totally a mistake i took the initiative to talk about this with a therapist, like, for the first time in my life, on my own and not because teachers or family told me to do so. it was just after that, that i discovered the whole entj thing. and holy cow, it was such a revelation to me, understanding what is this all about and how to handle it have made me feel better than any therapy session 😂 right now i find it hard to motivate myself, tho, i wanna blame quarantine and lockdown for now, i guess it's just a matter of time til i can put my hands back to work again... thank you so much for your video
Bro... nailed it. I thought I was INTJ up until recently, and the things you're mentioning here are all the hangups I had about being INTJ. Lacking the 'why,' hyper valuing Se and aesthetics, adaptability to circumstances, being a ruthless pragmatist, etc etc Good content.
Funny being an ENTJ it's a difficult personality type especially being a woman, I feel like if I met another one its like great but I wouldn't like wanna hang our or date one. Your basically proud to be one b/c you have goals and ambitions but you hate being one b/c you realize how much of a nuisance you are too everyone else when you feel like your right when EVERYONE is telling you you're wrong. Very hard I'd like to think I'm nicer than most ENTJs considering my sister is an INFJ.
Just discovered your channel and now following your blog. So many useful insights - dare I use the term life-changing. You're a talented man. (And I'm an ENTJ.)
This is a great video, and I really connect with this. Explains almost perfectly the mechanics of an ENTJ, and the quote at the beginning of the video was a great introduction for this personality type. Also debating internally whether I should send this to my ESTJ/ESFJ parent... it's rough (jk but still). #ENTJ
usually i plan out all my goals from short to long to very long. i feel let down when i don’t have goals, and i need to have larger goals to have energy and be excited for what’s to come - so the next goal is my reward 🎉🤩
i don’t lack the “why” just can’t afford the time to explain it 4 free on other people’s timetable without jeopardizing myself. it’s honestly so weird how ppl take this personally as if you’re supposed to throw your whole life away 4 them. when the only reason they want anything to do with you is bc you have a life in the first place. happened to me yesterday when i was walking around the block & some rich guy pulled over & started demanding to take me out the same night. like u pay up front for the opportunity to convince me or to learn more. you’re the one that wants a relationship right now, i’m busy & can barely handle it. there’s simply not enough of my time to go around 4 everything i have to do. he got one warning before he got blocked 4 being too domineering. or 4 instance when a company wants to hire u but won’t let you fix what’s wrong with them. like if u know how to make it work, why hasn’t it worked with anyone else ? because you’re absolutely clueless, that’s why u need me, so we’ll do it my way. how i see it at least.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Please try make time for everything you want to do, more than the things you have to do! And when people aren't ready to accept no for an answer or an advice because they think they are always ride that is their own problem!
I am an ENTJ who is constantly driven to achieve my goals, but I always struggle with my social anxiety and is hard for me to speak with people even if I enjoy big projects, parties and being around powerful people. I love being the spotlight and I will do anything to win it no matter what, I also get that low by putting obstacles around people so they don't gain any recognition. Sometimes, I am lazy too because of my INTP shadow..
i had known i am an ENTJ but just didn't want to accept it cuz they were so misunderstood. well times goes on and after seeing some stuff i can agree that I'm totally an ENTJ, everything matches up and i have never made full use of my potential that i never did, but after watching this I'll start working rather then procastinate and wonder i feel so empty whenever I'm free
Thanks for the Videos, the stereotypes and the 16P test made me think at first that I was an ENTP, but after that I took functions tests , each one saying I am a Te dom, so I thought I was an ESTJ. But after watching more videos(yours were a great help) and reading more about functions and personality types, I can say that I am an atypical ENTJ
It is important to understand their intentions. We are very much mis interpreted by more sensitive types. But there are many that love our directness and honesty and no bullshit!
I've been told I was being over bearing ... when really, i just cared . My friend was making bad choices in choosing a car by letting her emotions get in the way of making a rational decision and I saw it. All I suggested was looking. Perhaps give her time to think about it by the end of our shifts. She said that to me and it pissed me off. So shes in her feels about not knowing what to do and basically projecting . And I was genuinely just trying to give her time but now I'm frustrated so I probably do look like an asshole. When I am not!!! I see people bad mouth entjs. First of all i dont even know if I've ever personally met another entj . But being quite self aware of myself , i know for a fact people have the wrong idea. Did you know entjs "walk around thinking they're bad people" subconsciously? Because we have been misunderstood our whole lives. Because we dont understand feelings "like that" it's not like we wallow in self pity. We actually go above and beyond to help others on a level much higher than people would imagine . So I guess we tend to look like "assholes" ? Because others dont understand? Idk about other entjs but I can assure you I'm highly aware that WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER! and I am very passionate and driven in doing everything in the most efficient and logical way possible. If you have a way that is more logical to doing something. I'm all ears! I'm definitely in no way shape or form above constructive criticism. So how does that make me egotistical? It doesn't. But I've noticed others own insecurities flare and project my way. And I know I'm innocent. Oh well. Sorry for the rant. Lol. God speed
@@gabepetro358 in true INFP fashion... I feel kinda crummy now. I should've said that my experience was not the best and that doesn't extend outside of that. But it's too late now. Yours was a good explanation, giving insight into and from and actual ENTJ. Thank you for taking the time to do so.
@@PhotoRubio oh. Dont feel bad. Lol. I can almost see how we can be taken the wrong way. I do get it. And we mustn't forget we may have our "personality types" but differences in environmental upbringing etc also play a huge part in ones "personality " so just like most everything else no two beings are alike.
"The consideration about how ppl around them may feel comes much much later.. as in.. never" LOL. Not completely accurate: as an ENTJ gets older they get better at this. However it requires extra work, so i personally don't switch my "oh wait! I may hurt your feelings" brake on unless I care.
The entj I know told me “you can understand I have taught many people what i’m teaching you but no one can understand “ I crave that Ni that the entj has and I love intj and entj befriend them and your life will change for the better - ESTP
Goals are the end result. Plans are saying what you're going to do and when. I just have goals, as my plans have been ruined a lot by others and myself, so... Semper Gumby.
Spot on! My Dad's an ENTJ. Although, he was raised by a preacher who taught values very strongly so he had some values that drove his career in the non-profit world.
As an INFP I'm marrying an ENTJ, one day. Any other type, I'm sure I couldn't stand. You guys are unstoppable, blunt, no-nonsense... and you cut through the red tape of society. Your minds are always ticking. Always do you over-think the steps of your next action, with a lot of consideration. That is something I admire.
This is brilliant, I appreciate your insight. Being in my midlife crisis, a former helicopter pilot, military sales executive, drone designer, robotics designer, business creator of and owner to a 3d wall and metallic epoxy floor company I feel so bored. So I took up law studies. I've decided to file a lawsuit against my state. Thank goodness my motorcycle accident slowed me down last year, I've got too much time.
I have a friend whom I think is an ENTJ. He is indeed very ambitious about his career. But interestingly, I think that his extroverted energy is mostly used on his personal social relationships, as he doesn't seem to like professional leadership positions very much. He tends to solve problems mainly using Ni. I think that the kind of power that he seeks are mostly intellectual flex and wealth (in order to buy nice things). That's why sometimes I'm not sure if he's really a Te dominant. But he's also pretty obsessive, and sometimes go to extremes to control his behavior to achieve personal goals, like in an almost OCD kind of way. And I totally agree with the Se and Fi part. He really cares about his personal style and presentation. And I think he tends to ignore moral questions in order to focus on "winning" in life.
So deep and concise. I (INTJ) am in pure mathematics academia (Been in school forever other than mandatory military service years) so I never got to meet ENTJ. I guess they abound in the business world. I kind of have a fantasy where ENTJ woman would overwhelm me with her, Te-Ni haha.
As an ENTJ woman dating an INTJ man for more than 3 years now, let me tell you. Relationships with an entj woman + INTJ man are full of debates and struggles, but SO REWARDING. I feel like I'm growing up at 10x speed, and I support my partner in his own dreams. Overall a very stimulating relationship
I definitely don’t stay up late to make sure all my assignments and projects are perfect before turning them in so I get a 100 and don’t mess up my gpa -ENTJ
As an infp who befriend an entj this type is on of the only person that somewhat understood me and my plight and surprisingly respect my ideas/vision. Entj also give me one of the best most deepest talk which I always appreciated.
I’m just 43 seconds in and had a moment of “oh shit. he gets me” 😂 Reorganizing the living room… this… I cannot have the living room the same for more than a few weeks. Drives me nuts.
As an ENTJ, I can say that we're constantly in a mental breakdown, but instead of stopping, crying and doing whatever normal people do when they're having a breakdown, we just keep going, we simply don't stop, and that's quite problematic
there's something to it, maybe that's why we keep moving forward
Honestly, that hit home. Developed an addiction a couple years ago and fell into depression. When things started getting less busy and work oriented/focused AKA christmas break, I decided to go to therapy, and the second I took the decision to go there was the second I decided to get myself out of that miserable state I was in. Kinda lost myself in this post but it really talked to me so yeah. Basically, yes, we dont stop, we dont cry until we get that small break and realize what's been going on.
omg this! 😪
I developed so many health issues because of this. And the worst part is, I don't even know how to control/prevent it. I would think that I am doing perfectly fine, and then all of a sudden I'd get a visual migraine. 😩
Same.
Usually it’s antisocial/psychopathic personality from a trauma that wont allow to feel vulnerable
So I graduated and I had my 5 seconds of happiness and then yeah nothing. Lol being an entj is difficult.
Lol People always ask "Are you excited about graduation?" I'm like "yeah" but there's no fanfare.
@@margaretgaby4506 I wasn't either. But when I got my degree I was really happy, also my mom hype...some food, etc. Real thing lasted like a minute and then I was asking about Master's degree.
“How do you feel about being a high school graduate?” I feel like I’m going to study this summer and get ready for college.
@@yasminout Trust me, I've been working for years, and taking a mster's degree is still in my list of goals.
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pretty sure the expression "work hard, play hard" was invented by an ENTJ.
Doubt it! Who has time for play! Play just delays the goal imho
For us ENTJs, work IS play...and definately...do not get in our way. 👍
I am an ENTJ and this is written on my notebook
@@esrabapir771 :-D
YES!
"They often push themselves at the expense of their physical health"- darling I had a panic attack at a professional scientific debate and started bleeding through my nose- I told myself to "suck it up", stuffed Kleenex up my nose and gave my speech against people's advice. Went home with the best speaker trophy nonetheless. Health? Haha nothing in front of my GOALS
To this day, I still don’t get why people make such a fuss of bleeding noses. It’s nice that you still did you’re speech. I’m happy for you all the way from here :D
Or me, who had an asthma attack after sprinting to win our 6th grade relay race at sports day. Our whole team came home with gold medals - I just had to take mine to the doctor's office while I went on a nebuliser.
@@roisinnigcrainn7722 or me who had no-water-no-food fast on a match day. but i still played anyway🙃
I did one of my final highschool exams while my toe was bleeding through it all. When it was all said and done, I left the exam room with a blood-soaked shoe, a dizzy head, and a pass. It was worth it.
HAHAHHA YES WE WOULD DO ANYTHING TO ACHIEVE THE THINGS WE WANT! IN THE ENTJ WAY! XD
ENTJ's get a bad rap for being ruthlessly goal-oriented but have you ever picked on one of their friends? Then the goal is to ruthlessly protect. I'll always stand up for my friends and sometimes even voice the concerns of others when I know they won't stand up for themselves. We definitely have the "Nobody picks on my friends but me" attitude lol.
Haha yes I agree. I seriously told my friend
“I’ve been kind of mad lately- so if there’s someone you need revenge on, nows the time lol Bc I want to DESTROY EVERYTHING THAT MOVES”
I 100% relate to this. We're the people who will take our Fi friends out for dinner - they might find a problem with their meal, but brush it off so as not to "cause a fuss". _We're_ the people who will call the waiter and make the complaint on their behalf. It's not a "fuss" to get the quality you've paid for.
@@roisinnigcrainn7722 omg this is just straight up facts
Same. I hold grudges like a mf too. I don't win fights. I win wars. Guaranteed.
NOO BUT FR THIS is so true
My friend is an ENTJ (she was “too busy” to take the test). She graduated as a Physical Therapist Assistant, was a model for a gun magazine, then started renovating and selling up to 10 properties at a time while working full time as a PTA during the week and traveling out of state to an accelerated Doctor of Physical Therapy program on weekends. And she loves to travel on “free weekends” with her mother who has completed over 100 marathons around the world. I can’t even make this up
Oh, this is so true! I feel your friend. We (ENTJs) really enjoy spending a lot of things all the time. Funny, we are not aware how we were able to manage those stuff. We just don't want to waste our time and energy. 😂
I think if they would do the research, ENTJs would be most associated with polymaths.
Sounds like ENTJ jumper, leading with Te Se. These are the more extroverted ENTJs. There are the subdued ones with double feminine FF functions with Te Ni, often mistaken as lead introverted perceiving types.
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Also ambition is our greatest curse and blessing
Vlady Yakovenko haven’t agreed to anything better EVERRR!!!
Agreed! An ENTJ female here
@EXCEPTION So many things to achieve and so little time to live...
Blessing first
Man this is so true. Living in the ‘grey’ areas of life is a process
Me being accepted in one of the top medical schools in my country
"I’m in!"
Doesn’t have another immediate objective in life
"Why do I fell like a failure now?"
Hey! You might not have another objective right now, but you MUST be proud of yourself for achieving your first goal! The fact that you want to achieve more things, doesn't make the already achieved things less significant, so you are not a failure!
"The moment one goal is achieved, it's almost instantaneously replaced by another." Actually, as we approach the end of one goal, we are already planning the next one, so the actual point of achievement is sort-of a let down, because mentally we have already moved on. But another excellent analysis!
Duuuude! Yes very true!
This is the truth.
Truth. Ppl were like congrats you did this that and is great. I'm like.... yeah.... moving on to the next point.....😂
Gosh, does that explain a lot about why I haven't been getting any of the self help books finished very quickly. Skip the b.s., move along, move along - okay, I've mostly learned this, set it down and start another book. "I will finish you later." Yeah, 2.5 weeks, months or years later. Or, maybe it does. I just took the inventory again and it now said ESTJ but I am told they are often at least one letter off from right and I used to always get INTJ and INFJ.
Your eyebrows are like Entjs...Alert...assertive....and LARGER than LIFE. Nice eyebrows tho bro
Lol I thought big eyebrows is an INTP thing
@@lalakuma9 I'm an INTP and I have big eyebrows. Not as big as him though.
@@lalakuma9 bruh this comment has me re-evaluating everything 🥺
Now I wanna get 90's spaghetti thin eyebrows for shits n gigs...
What are you saying?! there is no relation between how our faces look like and our personalities😂😂😂
It’s crazy my ENTJ father tried to teach me that I have to go through life as if I’m playing a game of Chess. Strategic and almost Ruthless without caring about anyone because everyone is out for themselves.
Dang he’s a pessimist. My ENFJ mind loves just chilling with everyone.
Wait....thats sound moreee like ESTJ...
Life is a chess game where everyone is your peice and your enemies.
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Likewise enfp girl with entj dad.. it wasn't easy
You're mistaking ENTJ for ESTJ i think.
Entj's can be self sacrificing in the pursuit of their goals. They can be relentless towards others because of this. Many do not realize this about them. Great video, thank you!
my closest friend is ENTJ and she can't understand why everyone doesn't appreciate what she does for them. lol Me ENFP........ I'm her human motive council. She comes to me to understand why people are doing and being as they do and be, without the right or wrong of it.
@@scrillion6 I think I could help, she might be playing bad guy to help people but when there cured she tells them yep I was a cunt on purpose look how happy you are now , they never believe us .. Yeah sure you was, but its true we really don't care as long as it gets results.
@Duy N.K I know two who have that same issue, because they find stumping for that degree a useless waste of time and irrelevant.
Indeed, well said :)
Godbless
I believe entj are the least self sacrificing people yet better more selfish I m one so I can tell
"they may not always have minions they can delegate to"
I feel personally attacked 😂
“or rearranging the living room furniture” dang, why are you calling me out like that... ~ ENTJ
My bad!
Lmbo, I was just talking about this today.
Me too 😂
STOP! I find it impossible to be happy with the arrangement of my bedroom furniture. There just _has_ to be a "best way" to do it and I'll be _damned_ if I don't find it!
@@roisinnigcrainn7722 😂👏👏
The biggest problem with me being an ENTJ is the damn friends department, they all like to chill around and then I start to freak out because I'm not doing anything which makes me feel weird. I'm NEVER satisfied with anything(many people have said this to me, and I at time agree) which makes me feel weird... struggles of being an ENTJ.
I can't agree more with this opinion. Let's get this straight, I know hundreds of people around me. I have 0 (Zero) friends. Fact that I will never get any friend is so certain because I know it (my fucking Ni). How do I know it? Because of what you said, I have issues with the fundemental of friendship concept and what people attain to it. I can't just fit in it and I think I never will fit in it either.. So now what? Am I banished into loneliness? Well it's not that I crave for someone's presence but when it hits me IT HITS HARD that I really feel the existence of someone but I just don't know do I really need it to fill the emotional gap by again utilizing the relationship (friend or girlfriend) for the sake of my mental health or just for the sake of a bond. Everything is so easy and hard for me at the same time. I go outside doing stuff such as socializing or drinking from month to month other than that I've been focused on my job for the last 9 months because every single minor step of my job requires time for it and everything is chained to each other so I can't finish working when I get to home and when I can't finish I can't feel relaxed or accomplished. FUCK.
This is what I realised when covid started. I don't actually enjoy spending time with people just for the sake of it, unless we are actually doing something. Makes sense why the only time I'd meet some of my friends was if we were going hiking, rock climbing, or any other activity. I even used covid as an excuse to not meet people for over a year, because it would be a waste of time. If I am texting them, I can still do what I was planning on doing, and be productive, but if I meet them in a cafe or similar, I have to waste time to go there, waste time to return home, and focus all my attention on them, which to me seems utterly pointless.
Same. I limit friendships simply because I don't want to be fake and act interested in their feelings when I'm clearly not. When I was younger I used to invest my time actively listening to serve the friendship, but I'm just not interested in spending time doing things I don't wanna do. Specifically, listening to others who want to complain but not solve the issue which is my biggest pet peeve.
@@lanapapalii definitely agree with this. If you just want a shoulder to cry on, I am not your person. 😅
Unhealthy, I'm an ENTJ and i do not feel like that. You can efficiently have fun, efficiently seek meaning, efficiently deal with emotions. Efficiency doesn't just mean 'work', that's childish
I'm a ENTJ, and I believe that the "ignoring feelings" isn't really accurate. If we need to get something done, we have to keep in mind that people have feelings and do our best to understand them for these feelings to not be a problem in the future, disturbing people's management. Those who can't feel empathy are just emotionally immature, in my opinion. However, people might not always realize that we did care about their feelings when we made certain decisions and that's because we're trying to be fair and effective, not nice.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 a wise choice!
Also you may not have empathy but compassion! People who lack compassion are immature!
It's always hard to be ENTJ, because when you take the lead in an emergency situation and do what really helps you solve the problem, people accuse you of pushing them or not thinking about their feelings. But you were simply efficient and it worked not only for you, but for everyone who was in the team with you. If you had not taken control into your own hands, the team would not have been able to cope with this problem, because sometimes democracy does not work and delays the time for decision-making. But you will be considered an insensitive tyrant.
Napoleon wasn't wrong, an empty throne always temps me too. Thank you for the honest depiction of ENTJs without harping on emotions, refreshing! I am now subscribed.
Not going to lie, getting a subscription from an ENTJ always feels good! ~ Nathan
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Its scary how accurate these videos are damn
I (INTJ) second.
This was very good and I have watched alot of videos on ENTJ Very concise and right on!
try watching C.S. Joseph
@@kr-666 I do, but he annoys me. He is too long winded, it takes ten minutes until he gets into the subject and he meanders. I am an ENTJ. We need to get to the point!
My main problem as an ENTJ is the constant bombardment by everyone saying I don't grasp other people's goals or intentions. You're wrong.
I am very good at noticing and understanding these things, I just dont bother to discuss them if I see no interest or point in them. I'm not on the "Notice me senpai" train, and I'm not sorry for that, but GOD does this shit annoy me sometimes.
I'm with you
Totally get this. I'll always be like "oh I thought we're done with this part" whenever people seemed to take forever just to get to the point about what their aims were, or tried to explain themselves (usually ++ doses of manipulative twists to it to get me into doing what they want). I always have to remind myself to be patient and just let them have at it (except if they're taking too much of my time and being inefficient about it), because you know, it's a relationship and that's a safe way to ensure I'm not being unfair/wrong in my assessments about a person; but it does gets tiring very quickly whenever people get into the same kind of narratives (that they're special unique beings, and no I don't get them. The most exasperating are the ones obvious in their wishes to be seen as holier than others, bc the insincerity stank!)
I really honestly thought we are all so obvious, being you know, human being. We are calculable, using the right approaches and methods.
Being wishy washy about those things are just plain time-wasting, let actions speak them!
Dynestis the most entj comment
FINALLY SOMEONE WHO GETS ME! I tire of this bs assessment (from people who don't know what I'm thinking) too. - ENTJ
Join the club man. I have the same problem.
Describes my boyfriend accurately. After he achieves something he thinks that his life doesnt have meaning anymore because the goal was already reached. So he looks for new things to achieve. I really envy him. I am an infp and im a potato 😂😂😂😂
Yuleta Orillo holy shit kudos to you for handling a relationship with a Te dom! I'm an INFP too and I still see my own Te with suspicion, let alone Te doms lol. I see them as bossy at best and ruthless at worst. Maybe I only have encountered badly developed Te doms.
ENTJ: I really need to get my work published and recognized. *works tirelessly*
INFP: But what does all of this mean anyway?
I wonder if it works for entj female and infp male
@@downsjmmyjones101 **stares into the camera in INFP**
In this comment section I have started to wonder, have I failed as ENTJ bc I have manually learned to respect humans and count their feeling when they don’t block my plan.
I just set goals for people I care and then act so that I help them to reach those goals. If I respect one I of course won’t decide what they want but I decide they must become something and I won’t act way that prevents their success. This has lot to do with the fact that I am in school where people are still developing and in very weak state. Bc I don’t have given authority (and my school system often tries to hold me back) I must sometimes even adapt. Basically the point was, give people around you goals and then don’t intervene.
I am an older ENTJ woman, which I understand is quite rare. I related to your FI explanation of careers in mid life. I had that exact feeling. I wish I had known my powers as a young woman, but growing up in the 50's and 60's, my independence and big picture view just was not at all encouraged by my WWII generation parents. I am not that goal oriented, but I organize everything! for efficiency, even how the kitchen is set up! And I try to help people but end up coming off pushy and not kind to their feelings. It has been my goal to change that and let down my armour!
Me too! Growing up in the 80s was a little easier I'm sure, but it's crazy how I dominate my spheres of influence. I have a power kitchen. Haha
Aye my ENTJ elder sister, shake off that dust and clutch what ever is in front of you that you find fascinating. Everything isn't easy to switch up on the drop of a dime, I get that. But the journey ain't over until you're dead ya feel me? If you want to bust into a new thing at 65 75 95 and you've got your wit about you, then go for it. Don't let these hoes hold down your inner passions! You were meant for something great it just might not have been time to start on it until now 😉🥰
@@patriciaeddishaw9244 so proud of your journey despite those obstacles 🥰
Same here, took a while to figure myself out and any more, I am not willing to sacrifice who I am to please others.
@@AppleAbston Preach🙌
An ENTJ coworker once said before parting ways for a better opportunity, "Don't waste your potential, I know you're capable of much more" -INTP
REALLY WISE friend! Wise decision would be to never forget this!
As an INTP i admire ENTJs a lot. I'm an engineering student and I struggle being productive. My grades are going downhill and I need to really get my shit together. Sometimes out of stress I get super organized, super productive and super punctual, but it's just mentally exhausting. Recently I had a breakdown and I havent studied anything ever since. Respect for ENTJs. :)
Shit I'm a ENTJ engineering student and I want to blow up the whole lab building with the bullshit the profs are doing. My grades are slick suffering but Ill never give up
Yes, I am also an engineering student and intp how suffering from low production, grades, and etc. I am not an idiot, but I have hard time being motivated and productive.
@@AG-wd7ng @The Sharingan Knight I made this comment as a youngling with little information on MBTI dichotomies. Turns out I am cognitively an ENTJ. I was just extremely unhealthy on Fi grip and had poor self regulation. It was kind of surprising because at first I look like an IxxP type. Last few monthsI have worked on discipline and self control. Something clicked in me I dont know what, maybe Ni auxiliary is developing? Maybe I have come to terms with my problems? Whatever it maybe I am glad I can think straight now and work. Deleted discord, instagram, reddit. Best descision ever. Hope ya'll do great.
@@silkysille I am happy for you, that sounds great!
Can I ask how you worked on controlling and disciplining yourself?p
@@AG-wd7ng Know what you want to do, where you want things to go; and whats holding you back from doing so. To move forward you need to have a strong present. You cannot control time, timetable is ineffective cause there is always something coming up, instead just assign short term goals first to get used to doing stuff. A goal for a day, a goal for the week. Its kinda hard but things do pick momentum and it becomes a bit easier. know the problem, know whats causing it; first descend solve then ascend. Thats how its been working for me. And dont consume useless infomation, this here is a brain power killer. Journals and planners do help. Don't lose sight of what you want things to be.
ENTJ ProTip: regular physical activity quiets the restlessness. Focusing on good form (yoga, pilates, dance) requires being in the moment, and that's when feelings and all the puzzle pieces click together smoothly (context: thinking about that personal life outside of work you don'treally have, but really want).
Like my thoughts and ideas are streamlined because I'm not wasting it on every what if, just the what if's that my heart also cares about.
Second pro tip: thinking about what you want is not selfish. It's an important piece in the we love and care for you pie we keep baking and trying to force feed others, I mean lead a horse to water.....
I'm a entj and i worry how i will treat my kids. I'm just to intolerant
Don't worry, just be low-key intolerable to your children. I'm sure they wouldn't have a problem with that.
I'm not sure if this is an ENTJ trait but I also have an intense sense of responsibility. This has been a useful trait when parenting. I'm not the most sensitive or patient parent but I'm fiercely dedicated to my kids.
@@BenDonahower It could probably be an ESTJ trait, since it's "responsibility" towards your children. I don't think ENTJs take responsibility towards other people and that they often care about their own goals.
@@freshprince69 Hm, I wonder what it is then because I'm very strongly ENTJ. Perhaps it's because I look at family success as a long-term goal?
@@BenDonahower Idk about it man, but in my perspective ENTJs don't comply with anything related to emotions. And "intense responsibility" is related to emotions and care. I just think ESTJs would more likely to have such responsibility due to their sensing trait for conventional ideas. However I do think that ENTJs could have that responsibility as well, I just presented my previous reply to you based on my perspectives.
This is so so accurate. I had a conversation with my boss recently about having worked non stop for 4 months without a break, risen to the top 10 in my firm, but now I’m teetering on the verge of an emotional breakdown, but I just can’t stop chasing my goal. Anyway, thanks for this video! This was fantastic. It’s nice to have someone not just explain who you are, but rather why you are who you are.
Remember even scheduled time for relaxation can help you reach your goal too. Being better rested will help you think clearer and have more energy to chase your goal. Slow and steady wins the race.
Oscar Goodwin23 I need to schedule more resting time. Thank you 😊
Curious ENTJ here.. what do you do for work? I'm trying to figure out what career or business to get into.
Jensy Dominguez I’m a Technology Consultant. Perfect job for me. I get to strategize all day and fix things.
Emma N I’d like to PM you and ask more, but it looks like CZcams disabled the feature. What do you consult tech companies on? How did you get started?
ENTJ here burnt out from a 12 hour workday yesterday haha. Go Fi!!
As an ENTJ I truly agree with this. I feel most of the time during my social encounters, people generally expect me to plan the day, to decide what we'll do. I love changing other people minds but not in the same sense as ENTP, but in a more practical and less theoretical perspective . I also happen to be a psychologist so I can usually sense how other people feels with me, if someone's nervous or curious.
It's definitely interesting when you add all alterations of ENTJs. I'm an ENTJ that is not seeing my employees as chess pieces alone and actually spend time on getting to know them better. I used to be ruthless and focused on myself and found nothing but struggle. At least this way I can keep sailing towards my plans easier and better with peace of mind.
No personality type should be overly generalized, every personality has their own mini quirks that makes them unique.
We are all in this community together! A better life for one person should be a better life for the community! A worse life for a person is worse life for the community! When you treat someone poorly it comes back at you, because you are part of the community!
I do, too.
The problem is, in the end of the day, I used to ask myself, do I really a kind guy, caring for everyone in my team? Or I get close to and know them better just because I need to know the power and weakness of all my pieces to play efficiently and planning ahead?
This gray area is where I keep questioning my own sense of "right and wrong" as a human.
Well that caring for them is actually your way of playing them as chess pieces since you have discovered that it is better for the work
An ENTJ can mimic other personality types flawlessly if it’s necessary to accomplish their goals.
We can. I don’t want to though. It exhausting and I feel I won’t know who I am by the end of it.
Part of the reason I think that Intps and Entjs get along is because what the Entj considers unimportant details are the things intps excel at, and the things intps consider to be unimportant details, Entjs excel at. From an intp perspective it’s great, because suddenly all of my thoughts just... like... happen. In the real world. It’s great.
I lovee ENTJ.. well a mature one ☺
I was in a situationship with a entj.. he would over work himself..when he gets overwhelmed, he would get in this depressed mode, annoyed, angry all the time... he would get flu easily because he wasn't taking care of himself...
I would keep telling him to go to gym, and eat healthy...I would ask him what he ate to make him think about eating... I knew I would sound annoying but his mood would pick up in a few days after gym and a proper meal.he would tell him his plans and I would tell him what I think and he would sometimes consider my input... He appreciated me, I know this because he was protective over me and my emotions... listened to me talk about my emotions even though he didn't enjoy it, he thought it was a waste of time, but he would LISTEN.
Unfortunately we were no compatible, his love language was too different from mine that I couldn't feel loved by him, I knew he did because he kept saying it and planning his future with me, but I didn't FEEL he loved me enough so I moved on.
I love ENTJ. Their focus, ambition, honesty and complexity...I just like cheering for them... as an infp, we need an entj friend...
It is important for people to take care of their health no matter the personality and understanding your emotions and when do they come from ISN'T a waste of time! Happy for you!🙂
Well done, efficient, covering all points with no excess or sentiment. Very ENTJ. Ahhhh sometimes I wish I were ENTJ.
Lord, some of this is SO accurate. Myers-Briggs put my ENTJ scores at the edge of the envelope. 40 years ago, I worked full-time - commuting into NYC - went to graduate school full time, coached kids soccer - was prez of the soccer association - was a Boy Scout leader, and developed courses for my university - which I later taught. Didn't seem onerous at the time, but I doubt I could do it all now. I have to admit that others' issues and concerns were never a priority - cost me a few friends - so what. Approaching 80, I'm definitely slowing down - only teaching martial arts and being a township supervisor.
Spot on! ENTJ female
Same!! *high five*
Me too, hard life.. Wouldn’t be anybody else tho 😝
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i’m an entj and i knew that we were very goal-oriented people, but i thought that sense of uselessness after completing a task was just me 😂. so glad to discover that this is what goes on in other entjs minds- good job on these videos- they’re very helpful
You can always have other goals and still be proud of the already achieved ones!
As an INFJ, I find it so interesting to know ENTJs. Their intriguing personality makes me want to know them better. I like to understand them because I know that behind that rigid and intolerant mask, a fragile person is hidden. Although I'm not close to any ENTJ since I find them difficult to approach, I like to admire than from distance. Somehow, that "mean" and intolerant soul I once found arrogant, became a sweet something I'm so interested in.
Its the same for INFJ's for me. I'm not really close to INFJ's but they really get my attention with their uniqeness. Hoping to find some INFJ people around me :) - fellow entj
@@realgranolaappleraspberry8053 that's so sweet, I hope you can understand more about this hidden uniqueness when meeting an infj 🥺
I’m an INFJ too haha, I’m here bc I’m thinking of writing an ENTJ character
Yes have fun trying to er, break into our hard shells. It'll be quite the challenge and if you do manage to, you'd find us to be pretty nice too.
As an ENTJ, I am a director and I am always looking for something more to do, something more to climb. My weekends are full, it's always something. I do not sleep, if I do, I get four hours tops. I can relate to some of the issues you are highlighting. I am a workaholic, but I always make sure I make time for other things, I somehow fit all of my needs into a package; most think it a miracle. My friends have no idea how I can manage so many items, but it all comes down to time management. Everyone can do as much as I can, you just have to plan accordingly. Some people think I am aggressive, and in a way. I am, but I am just trying to get things done, if I do not push, then there is no pull. Even in my friend group, if I do not plan something, nothing may happen. I am friends with a lot of passive people. which is fine because to be honest, I like leading. I don't mind if someone else takes the lead of course, but the planning is fun and I like to be involved in the 'push' so to speak. I can also relate to the materialistic and the ability to adapt, all of those things are thrilling to me. Thank you for detailing this in a video.
Any tips on time management?
Your videos are gold nuggets. Concise and every sentence makes me think it through my experiences. Probably all confirmed with the least bias probability. An impressed intj here haha going now for the entp. Keep up the great work man.
I am an ENTJ. 21. Every birthday of mine is the time when I am truly sad because of how I feel like a failure and feel like I haven't achieved anything. And unfortunately, the time is near and i am absolutely dreading it. There is no particular reason of writing this comment to be very honest.
I love the honesty of this comment. I think that’s often the case for certain types of people on particular milestones such as birthdays. I can relate to this sense of constantly feeling like I need to be doing more, it can be very dangerous indeed. If you haven’t already done so then feel free to check out the LoveWho discord server, you might enjoy connecting with some of the people on there ~ Nathan
@@lovewho it certainly feels nice to know that someone gets it. Thank you so much Nathan. It Means alot.
@@lovewho The fact that you need to do more, mustn't stop you for acknowledging what you have already achieved and be proud of it! Even the smallest things matter! Don't beat yourself up! Progress is an infinite journey! What you have achieved matters!
@@lovewho I have the same feeling of like doing more. I go to the gym, meditate, journalling, cold showers. I obviously dont do these everyday but im triying. And always optimizing everything possible in the most efficient manner and its fucked up. I talked with a friend about that i was always striving for perfection on diet, gym workout, etc
Great overall explanation.
Perfect length, best introduction to the type that I've seen!
Nice job Nathan!
Fascinating analysis. My ex always complained that I was alway looking for problems to solve and didn't spend enough time investing in emotional stuff. I started as a archive clerk en ended as an unemployed bum. And in the middle I also got to be the finance director of the private trust of on of the richest families in europe and was going to be adjunct director of the biggest trust company in the world. Then I got my mid live crisis, sold everything spend a year wandering though europe thinking a lot, seeing everything and spend a lot of money and ended up on unemployment benifits for the last 7 years and I havent been happier. No stress, no deadlines, no people whining when stuff is done and no reponsabilties anymore. Love my new live. Just doing absolutely nothing except watch a lot of youtube al day long.
As an ENTJ, sometimes I put aside what I want or what I feel to achieve my goals
It's useful but hurtful
Very accurate. I personally dont feel materialistic however, . Nor do I care to be a show off. I'm just trying to life in the most logical way possible.
I connect with this. You're not alone. Also, I feel like I'm kind of not an ENTJ at times when I'm *slightly* procrastinating or something like that, as everyone drives hard the fact that they're intensely efficient (which I do feel, but... one more episode. Come on).
I see it sometimes I can be very very minimalistic, other times I can be very very materialistic I don’t know if this is because I’m a Sagittarius ENTJ or what
@@peppersych6127 I seriously go hard at everything I do to "earn the right" to be lazy and have those procrastination days. Lol
Well said! 👏👏👏 It is important to deserve your breaks and to be happy with what you have and to be rational! I think that some part of the ENTJ materialism can come from their need to see the idea that they have materialised in order to be proud of it and to be a proof for their achievements when they doubt themselves!
@@user-tw2nk9lj6r wow. You are an entj. Nice!!! It's hard living in a world where no one understands an entj but another entj. We are so few and far between. I have always deserved my breaks. I will do anything I set my mind to with the wrath of God behind me. I have made the mistake of trying to show jealous people the way ... deluded into believing I could have a team. I had an ego death just recently. Had to humble myself from thinking I could fix people. .lived in disappointment from betrayals. It hindered me. Hard. I bounced back quick though. And I will live the rest of my life in peace and success. As. Success comes easy to me. Because I am disciplined. And honest. And care about being a good person. I know I'm a leader. I don't need credit. I thought I needed people to get off their ass. But I'm finding now that I got off mine. Mentally. I'm finding the right like minded people. I have great motivation and inspiration. I do not live in jealousy or insecurity. If I want better. I do better.
Great vid Nathan. Niceely structured as usual too.
I have an ENTJ kid, & all that you mentioned is vividly clear.
Have a great day.
Thank you! I'm an ENTJ struggling to get the rest I need because I often go above and beyond every task I do which causes chronic fatigue because I almost always never get enough sleep. Really needed that advice at the end. 👌
Wow, so in-depth man, thank you. Felt like you were inside my head
this is so accurate. my first job after college was a CFO of a start-up in the bay area and everything this video said is surprisingly true. After 4 years, I finally asked myself for the first time why I was doing it and I had a hard time reconciling my thoughts and self awareness into real life.
Glad to hear you found it accurate!! ~ Nathan
when you talked about the mid life crisis and the 'why' about some entj's career i felt related. i've been with therapists my whole child and teenage years to treat my g.a.d but when i reached my 27 and fell onto bed feeling like my chosen path was totally a mistake i took the initiative to talk about this with a therapist, like, for the first time in my life, on my own and not because teachers or family told me to do so. it was just after that, that i discovered the whole entj thing. and holy cow, it was such a revelation to me, understanding what is this all about and how to handle it have made me feel better than any therapy session 😂 right now i find it hard to motivate myself, tho, i wanna blame quarantine and lockdown for now, i guess it's just a matter of time til i can put my hands back to work again... thank you so much for your video
I love your voice. You kind of sound like Stewie.
Stewie is a total ENTJ
LMFAO
Bro... nailed it. I thought I was INTJ up until recently, and the things you're mentioning here are all the hangups I had about being INTJ. Lacking the 'why,' hyper valuing Se and aesthetics, adaptability to circumstances, being a ruthless pragmatist, etc etc Good content.
Funny being an ENTJ it's a difficult personality type especially being a woman, I feel like if I met another one its like great but I wouldn't like wanna hang our or date one. Your basically proud to be one b/c you have goals and ambitions but you hate being one b/c you realize how much of a nuisance you are too everyone else when you feel like your right when EVERYONE is telling you you're wrong. Very hard I'd like to think I'm nicer than most ENTJs considering my sister is an INFJ.
Just discovered your channel and now following your blog. So many useful insights - dare I use the term life-changing. You're a talented man. (And I'm an ENTJ.)
You described me 100% (which made me almost like you.) Also: I appreciate your way in talking: short and precise! Good job!
Excellent analysis , clever insights and quite accurate especially with polar Si coupled with inferior Fi advice at the end...
This is a great video, and I really connect with this. Explains almost perfectly the mechanics of an ENTJ, and the quote at the beginning of the video was a great introduction for this personality type. Also debating internally whether I should send this to my ESTJ/ESFJ parent... it's rough (jk but still). #ENTJ
usually i plan out all my goals from short to long to very long. i feel let down when i don’t have goals, and i need to have larger goals to have energy and be excited for what’s to come - so the next goal is my reward 🎉🤩
Please keep these "In the mind of..." videos coming. You are doing an excellent job. New subscriber!
making looking after others a reason to look after myself speaks to my ENTJ soul.
i don’t lack the “why” just can’t afford the time to explain it 4 free on other people’s timetable without jeopardizing myself. it’s honestly so weird how ppl take this personally as if you’re supposed to throw your whole life away 4 them. when the only reason they want anything to do with you is bc you have a life in the first place. happened to me yesterday when i was walking around the block & some rich guy pulled over & started demanding to take me out the same night. like u pay up front for the opportunity to convince me or to learn more. you’re the one that wants a relationship right now, i’m busy & can barely handle it. there’s simply not enough of my time to go around 4 everything i have to do. he got one warning before he got blocked 4 being too domineering.
or 4 instance when a company wants to hire u but won’t let you fix what’s wrong with them. like if u know how to make it work, why hasn’t it worked with anyone else ? because you’re absolutely clueless, that’s why u need me, so we’ll do it my way. how i see it at least.
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Please try make time for everything you want to do, more than the things you have to do! And when people aren't ready to accept no for an answer or an advice because they think they are always ride that is their own problem!
Insight, concise and interesting. Looking forward to something on ISFPs who have the same top four functions in reverse order.
I am an ENTJ who is constantly driven to achieve my goals, but I always struggle with my social anxiety and is hard for me to speak with people even if I enjoy big projects, parties and being around powerful people.
I love being the spotlight and I will do anything to win it no matter what, I also get that low by putting obstacles around people so they don't gain any recognition.
Sometimes, I am lazy too because of my INTP shadow..
Self-awarness is the first step of self-improvement!
i had known i am an ENTJ but just didn't want to accept it cuz they were so misunderstood. well times goes on and after seeing some stuff i can agree that I'm totally an ENTJ, everything matches up and i have never made full use of my potential that i never did, but after watching this I'll start working rather then procastinate and wonder i feel so empty whenever I'm free
Thanks for the Videos, the stereotypes and the 16P test made me think at first that I was an ENTP, but after that I took functions tests , each one saying I am a Te dom, so I thought I was an ESTJ. But after watching more videos(yours were a great help) and reading more about functions and personality types, I can say that I am an atypical ENTJ
All of these are fantastic. Well done.
They can be utterly hot or utterly unbearable. Difficult type for me to get along with. Their lack of Fe makes me wince at times #ENTP
(INFP) Have an ENTJ father... Nuff said.
It is important to understand their intentions. We are very much mis interpreted by more sensitive types. But there are many that love our directness and honesty and no bullshit!
I've been told I was being over bearing ... when really, i just cared . My friend was making bad choices in choosing a car by letting her emotions get in the way of making a rational decision and I saw it. All I suggested was looking. Perhaps give her time to think about it by the end of our shifts. She said that to me and it pissed me off. So shes in her feels about not knowing what to do and basically projecting . And I was genuinely just trying to give her time but now I'm frustrated so I probably do look like an asshole. When I am not!!! I see people bad mouth entjs. First of all i dont even know if I've ever personally met another entj . But being quite self aware of myself , i know for a fact people have the wrong idea. Did you know entjs "walk around thinking they're bad people" subconsciously? Because we have been misunderstood our whole lives. Because we dont understand feelings "like that" it's not like we wallow in self pity. We actually go above and beyond to help others on a level much higher than people would imagine . So I guess we tend to look like "assholes" ? Because others dont understand? Idk about other entjs but I can assure you I'm highly aware that WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER! and I am very passionate and driven in doing everything in the most efficient and logical way possible. If you have a way that is more logical to doing something. I'm all ears! I'm definitely in no way shape or form above constructive criticism. So how does that make me egotistical? It doesn't. But I've noticed others own insecurities flare and project my way. And I know I'm innocent. Oh well. Sorry for the rant. Lol. God speed
@@gabepetro358 in true INFP fashion... I feel kinda crummy now. I should've said that my experience was not the best and that doesn't extend outside of that. But it's too late now. Yours was a good explanation, giving insight into and from and actual ENTJ. Thank you for taking the time to do so.
@@PhotoRubio oh. Dont feel bad. Lol. I can almost see how we can be taken the wrong way. I do get it. And we mustn't forget we may have our "personality types" but differences in environmental upbringing etc also play a huge part in ones "personality " so just like most everything else no two beings are alike.
"The consideration about how ppl around them may feel comes much much later.. as in.. never"
LOL. Not completely accurate: as an ENTJ gets older they get better at this. However it requires extra work, so i personally don't switch my "oh wait! I may hurt your feelings" brake on unless I care.
Good point! Also that last quote made me laugh ~ Nathan
Excellent breakdown love it. 5 mins and none wasted
THANKS. I LOVE THIS GUY.!
The entj I know told me “you can understand I have taught many people what i’m teaching you but no one can understand “ I crave that Ni that the entj has and I love intj and entj befriend them and your life will change for the better - ESTP
Goals are the end result. Plans are saying what you're going to do and when. I just have goals, as my plans have been ruined a lot by others and myself, so... Semper Gumby.
This is probably the most accurate description of myself. Thanks!
Thats great to hear! ~ Nathan
Thank you for helping me out understand myself
Spot on! My Dad's an ENTJ. Although, he was raised by a preacher who taught values very strongly so he had some values that drove his career in the non-profit world.
As an INFP I'm marrying an ENTJ, one day. Any other type, I'm sure I couldn't stand. You guys are unstoppable, blunt, no-nonsense... and you cut through the red tape of society. Your minds are always ticking. Always do you over-think the steps of your next action, with a lot of consideration. That is something I admire.
I am sure many ENTJ LOVE inspiring people!🙂
유머도 있으시네ㅋㅋㅋ 잘 들었습니다 공감가는 부분이 많네요!
This is brilliant, I appreciate your insight. Being in my midlife crisis, a former helicopter pilot, military sales executive, drone designer, robotics designer, business creator of and owner to a 3d wall and metallic epoxy floor company I feel so bored. So I took up law studies. I've decided to file a lawsuit against my state. Thank goodness my motorcycle accident slowed me down last year, I've got too much time.
Bruh 😂
Good advice. Look after yourself in order to look after everyone else
Refound myself and this is sooooo on point.
I have a friend whom I think is an ENTJ. He is indeed very ambitious about his career. But interestingly, I think that his extroverted energy is mostly used on his personal social relationships, as he doesn't seem to like professional leadership positions very much. He tends to solve problems mainly using Ni. I think that the kind of power that he seeks are mostly intellectual flex and wealth (in order to buy nice things). That's why sometimes I'm not sure if he's really a Te dominant. But he's also pretty obsessive, and sometimes go to extremes to control his behavior to achieve personal goals, like in an almost OCD kind of way. And I totally agree with the Se and Fi part. He really cares about his personal style and presentation. And I think he tends to ignore moral questions in order to focus on "winning" in life.
So deep and concise. I (INTJ) am in pure mathematics academia (Been in school forever other than mandatory military service years) so I never got to meet ENTJ. I guess they abound in the business world. I kind of have a fantasy where ENTJ woman would overwhelm me with her, Te-Ni haha.
As an ENTJ woman dating an INTJ man for more than 3 years now, let me tell you. Relationships with an entj woman + INTJ man are full of debates and struggles, but SO REWARDING. I feel like I'm growing up at 10x speed, and I support my partner in his own dreams. Overall a very stimulating relationship
I'm ENTJ and I'm studying engineering, in the future i would love to undertake!
but knowledge is power bro (sorry my bad english)
I’m an entj and I relate to this SO MUCH. Does no one else feel like this? I had no idea.
It's nice to hear how great one is from time to time:)
damn this is the best and most accurate video of my type!
@@NathanJGlass you're welcome! Keep going
I definitely don’t stay up late to make sure all my assignments and projects are perfect before turning them in so I get a 100 and don’t mess up my gpa -ENTJ
just what I needed to hear
I’m an INTJ and my boss is an ENTJ. I believe the commentary on both nailed it.
Brilliant video
Cool analysis.
Love this video 😍
As an ENTJ, I want your classic Machiavellian face!
We make it happen. Great video.
Great entj video❤
As an infp who befriend an entj this type is on of the only person that somewhat understood me and my plight and surprisingly respect my ideas/vision. Entj also give me one of the best most deepest talk which I always appreciated.
OMG... this is so accurate, I'm so impressed.
Brilliant!!
Thank you!
Brilliant!
I’m just 43 seconds in and had a moment of “oh shit. he gets me” 😂 Reorganizing the living room… this… I cannot have the living room the same for more than a few weeks. Drives me nuts.
Wow finally a great video that describes ENTJ love it. I can relate to the comment section