Moving to New York City in 2023? What to ACTUALLY expect.
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- čas přidán 7. 01. 2023
- This is what no one tells you about what living in NYC in 2023 if you're just an average person like me. If you're going to move here this year, LISTEN TO THIS ADVICE. The city has changed since the pandemic and not for the better, but we talk about good things about the living in NYC too :) Good luck with your move!
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When I moved here, I was told that moving to NYC is like joining the Marines. You get torn apart and then rebuilt stronger. I got through some of my toughest times by feeling proud about how strong I was.
Beautifully said
That’s actually life in the US not only NY
@@ChelseaCallahanhow can I contact you ? I want to ask you a frw question about NY. I am located in California and want to move there. Thank you,have a good day
@@theexplorer366 I live in midtown Manhattan on the east side, and I totally disagree
I really hate how white people always get blamed for gentrification in New York City when it is actually Jewish people doing all the gentrification
Native New Yorker here. Safety tip: don’t flash jewelry or lots of cash. Don’t walk around with an expensive designer handbag (even a fake one). Always be aware of your surroundings (a.k.a. “situational awareness”). A vast majority of New Yorkers are really good people.
NYC is like any other large city. Be smart, blend in, and you should be fine.
Awareness is an urban thing. As someone brought up in India, even though it was safe, I always always keep a third eye cause there’s people everywhere. And if u live in the Midwest and you visit any big city, you need to be aware. You can’t leave your doors unlocked lol.
Are things that bad in NYC? Ive visited a couple of times since 2000. In London Ive never needed situational awareness but maybe its because Im a man and Ive also been lucky. NYC crime news is making into to UK news outlets so even though its a big city, I think perhaps theres also a real problem there right now
I just visited New York City, and I am from Cincinnati. I never been anywhere outside my home city, and visiting New York City is a different experience. It’s so easy to blend into the crowds, mind your business, and pretend you’re from there
@@xParesh Although London is bigger than NY by nearly double and has a larger population, we are blessed to have better safety and security. I am a woman, and I never needed situational awareness here, either. In NY, on the other hand, people need to be more cautious indeed.
He’s dragging it I live and is from NYC I wear nice bags and jewelry you only get pressed late at night. Definitely take percussions but you don’t need to look poor on the streets.
If someone is trying to move to nyc cuz they think it’ll make them the person they want to be or they’re trying to run away from their past just remember you’re still gonna have to live with yourself now and the city can only change you so much especially if you’re not the type of person to make the effort to integrate into the community. New Yorkers are very community driven and people are always busy hustling to stop and be your friend. Come here with a passion and something to offer tbh. That’s my advice cuz when the going gets tough you’re gonna need someone’s couch to sleep on as you go through the waves. And learn to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. You’re gonna meet the absolute best people ever and the worst mfs in the galaxy here.
Very solid advice
I met the worst guy today and I wasn’t even in New york he was just from there.
@@henribebo 😂😂😂
I lived in NYC in the mid 70s until the late 80's, NY was on fire then there was so much going on it was an affordable city for 'Anyone' a waitress could have afforded a great apartment just being a waitress at a diner, the art scene was off the charts, the combination of people was so vast, yes the city was somehow downtrodden but that only added to the backdrop it was an incredible time. I lived all over lower east side, Soho (when barely anyone lived there) finally to the West Village on lovely Christopher st. by the late 80's I moved to Europe and made my home there. Then in 2010 I moved back to NY to the East Village on East 10th st. There were several reasons I moved back, but bottom line it was a great disappointment on so many levels. My rent was outrageous for what the apartment was, criminal, still I hung in there hoping I'd find a way...I am of a certain age but had some means and the abilty to have a life there, but somehow NY just doesnt really let you have a life, unless you are a millionaire or maybe multimillionaire...The energy of the city is all about making money, the hustle of life..For a young person it can be exciting but with the cost of rents I think it is more damaging to the spirit. The energy of the street is so different, there's a dead shift or something like it...I like change when change is good, but the change in NYC is not a good one, and now with more crime whats the point? The sad thing is where to go? For a young person what other city can offer a future? I feel for young people today...I lived through the hurricane in NY, then I was in NY throughout covid and finally in 2021 moved back to Europe...No place is perfect, that is for sure, but somehow Europe has a quality of life and it is more affordable...Good luck to anyone who tries to take a bit out of the Big Apple.
Thank you for sharing your story!!
@Nicolas B. Henry Your life in Madrid sounds wonderful and affordable! Compared to NYC prices its a bargain. Nice your work takes you to NYC a few times a year, thats the best way to spend time in NY visiting not living there...Yes NY has wonderful museums etc. but the arts in NY now is all about business. Not many young artists today can afford NYC rents. I lived in NY in the 70s and 80s when Jean Michele Basquiat, Keith Haring etc. were living there they were such a big part of the art scene and it wasnt all about the money it was about the heart of art, there was a freedom and a lifestyle which is gone from NY. It's all big business now. Anyway enjoy all your travels and your lovely home in Madrid!
you lived in NYC at a great time. I love the movies from that period - Annie Hall, Fame.
Yes..no more CBGB in NYC.
My aunt also lived in NYC during the mid 70s until the mid 90s and has exactly the same opinion as yours. She is also of some means but i always hear her complain about just how full of "normies" it is and how expensive was the city's gotten, when first when i heard her complaints i thought "nah yes getting old, thats it" but I lived there in the mid 90s until 09 and it was the best life experience of my life, being there in my late teens, then 20s and 30s and it truly was a play ground for all. Rents were very affordable, it was a mix match of the best people had to offer with the worst people had to offer, everybody together, dancing lol. After i moved ive lived in Costa Rica, Dom Rep, Berlin, London, Amsterdam and Madrid. And everyone of those places its been like easy mode compared to the grit of nyc. I have friends that make 125k+ and are STILL struggling with costs of living, like how? lol, my brother still lives there and i visit him and friends often and that play ground seems to be getting more exclusive. And today it is very expensive but with the crime of the 70s or even worst, that doesnt even make sense. Who is this city for now?? I love NYC, dont get it twisted (in the 90s it was still gritty, i loved skateboarding around town with my friends, the early 00s revival of garage rock and underground techno parties, etc, etc) but im glad that i moved when i got out of there.
Whow! This is an experience for me being a native New Yorker, to hear a perspective from someone who decided to give this city a try. Just to state in advance " I love New York!". All of my life when I have traveled to other cities and a few other countries of always asked myself at the time could I leave home and move here. The answer has always been no. After living in New York it's difficult to live other places. This city is a place of some much art, culture and information that you don't have go looking for it just comes right at you all the time. People here are so industrious and creative. It's so energizing to be around people who are always planning and moving with their next project. That brings about an quiet respect for the artistry in all of us. Sorry to say I just don't get the suburban way of existing; to me that's not getting the most out of life. I don't complain about those things non-natives complain about because I find it just as unsafe in non urban areas. Life threatening car accidents from driving at high speeds after a night of drinking at social events and being in sparsely inhabited neighborhoods at night by myself is scary to me. I am use to the protection of many people being around. The slow pace of retail service is such a downer for me and the uninformed dialogue amongst people in general leaves me socially distant. I like people who are want to make things happen and who seek creative ways to live an engaged life. So I truly feel blessed that my parents chose to move here and give me the opportunity to have an exciting life! So, to all who think that this might work for you, Welcome to New York! There's a lot of of Love for life here!
Thank you thank you thank you for sharing this!
@@ChelseaCallahan You are so welcome. Thank you for sharing your response. I just want to share with you that I took a trip around the country ALONE on the Amtrak from New York to Cali and back. Stopped at a few places along the way, including the Grand Canyon. It was one of the most rewarding things I did for myself. I always wanted to see the country on the ground, and one day I decided that I would stop waiting to find the person who wanted to do the same. I booked my trip on a two week "Rail Pass" on Amtrak. I set up an itinerary with a sales associate and I had a great time. The key for me was that I only had a small carry -on bag that I could handle anywhere I went. It was a little like "glamping" because I planned out everything so I could be in safe places, as train travel can be a bit rugged. And no, I did not get a sleeper car. I met so many interesting people from all over the world by being with with everyone in the regular coach seats, taking photos from the observation car, and eating my meals in the snack and diner cars. Most important to me was that I did it by myself, on my own terms, and have been enriched by the whole experience. So Kudos to you for trying new places and having the courage to change your life toward your vision of " your best life"! Go Chelsea!!
I 100% agree with what you are saying. No other city is like NYC and all of the things you outlined are true. However for those who of us who were not born here it is considerably more difficult to survive the long haul. I emigrated here 12 years ago and am now trying to leave. I love the city but I just can’t afford to live the life I want here. And I make 135k per year so it’s absolutely insane that even in this salary I can’t afford a half decent apartment in a good area. Everything is 3k and up lately and after the high taxes and extremely high costs of living that is about 50% of my income which is financial suicide to pay.
This coupled with the fact that I will never be able to afford to buy anything substantial here has left me with no options but to leave. I will miss New York of course but I count myself lucky to have been able to stay this long.
@@ChelseaCallahan hey I’m moving to New York next week could you lead me in the right direction of a good job or landlord
yea you're nuts...and in the minority of what native born/raised real new yorkers think
I’ve been here for 18 years. I came to the city for college and stayed through the recession. The ups and the downs. I definitely missed the beat when I should have left: 2008/2009 or 2014/2015. If you are not a native New Yorker with insanely cheap rent or a rich kid/neppo baby, or someone lucky enough to make $130k, then you will struggle.
Years of multiple jobs and running yourself ragged is going to wear you down. It will. You won’t notice (as I didn’t), but you will be worse for your wares. Before you come here, make a list of all of the things you want to see and experience. Actively start crossing off those items. When you are finished with them all, look at your savings account and career prospects. Did you marry someone who makes more than $150k? No? Then move. Spending $2400-$2800 monthly on a room, studio, 1 bd with utilities at less than $100k gross income is going to bankrupt you. Retirement? Forget it. So… thank yourself for surviving and doing all things on your list and move out of the city. Tell yourself that you made it (because you did) and save your future self. So many people are edging closer to 40 and have absolutely nothing. No amazing memories and vacations. Missing time with family and chosen family. Don’t be us. Full discloser: I make $100k. My apartment is $2000. It’s not tenable without being extremely cost efficient. I remember the comfort and ease of being middle class elsewhere. City kids don’t know that feeling. We do. It’s our advantage (IMO). When I leave, my apartment will sky rocket to $4000 a month. Consider that.
You should look into alternatives of living like homeshare and airbnb
What person in their 30s on 100k who has lived in apartments wants to start living in air bnb? Sounds like a dystopian nightmare- the commenter is wanting a better quality of life and more bang for their buck, not to live in even more precarious situations paying a conglomerate a huge chunk of their salary with zero tenancy rights.
@deee3950 this is amazing perspective and insight, thank you
Appreciate ur insightful comment and totally agree with you! ❤
Thanks for sharing you very honest testimonial. You need to find a good place to live your life so you can actually enjoy it.
Chelsea, have to say, I love the realistic POV of what moving to this city entails. I think it’s refreshing and very well needed on this platform as often times the glamourised videos are rewarded with most the engagement.
It’s a blessing that I stumbled upon this before I move to NYC from Europe in the next few months. Appreciate all the advice you’ve shared!
Thank you!! Have a great move! ✨
“You deserve a chance to recreate yourself “ that got me. It’s what I needed to hear today. Thank you
Currently binge watching your videos and as someone in their early 40s who lived there in their 20s, all this advice is super real. There are a lot of things about NYC that are indicative of living in a big city (I was born and raised in Chicago and live here now but was in NY for almost 10 years). However, there are certain things about NYC where if you’re not super rich or grew up there, it’s true that you’re going to just have to adjust your lifestyle and expectations in order to stay happy and sane. Money will always be an issue - this is also why i see a lot of couple shacking up to save on rent and have double income (even when it’s a terrible idea). You’re going to have to get used to seeing the occasional rat in the subway or a mouse in your apartment or a roach, unless your apartment is brand new. NYC doesn’t have alleys so you’re gonna walk by mountains of trash on the sidewalk. It is what it is. And the process of getting an apartment will test your patience, your speed and your resources (money, guarantors, time). I felt like a pioneer running to the nearest plot to stick my flag down before anyone else got to it. The amount of times I’d go to open houses or showings and a person is already there writing a check with a smug ass face…
I do agree that the trade-off is worth it, though. Living there has changed me - it’s made me even more street smart and aware, which has helped me and friends out in weird situations here in Chicago. The amount of culture and creativity around is legit, even the street fashion in downtown Manhattan or Brooklyn is awesome. Art is everywhere. There’s a ton of stuff you can do for free. And it forces you to really get to know your neighborhood, your neighbors, the dude who runs the corner store, etc.
I will push against the Midwest Nice thing that a couple of people have mentioned in the comments. I think Midwest Nice is like Southern Hospitality: it can be nice, but it can also be SOOOO backhanded and fake. I never thought NY folks were mean. I just think they don’t fuck around or bullshit you, which I appreciate WAY more than “niceness”. Because in Chicago I’ve had my chain ripped off me and nobody did anything, but in NY a similar thing happened and 10 strangers ran after the guy. They can be “harsh” but they’ll also have your back when you’re in a bad spot. I would rather have that than a warm hello or whatever.
Love love your insights. Thank you for sharing!
moved here by myself some months back, and its been tough, even with knowing a handful of people that already lived here before i showed up. community building is hard, living comfortably is heinously expensive and meeting your basic needs is inconvenient if you don’t make a lot of money. but i will say i’ve had the opportunity and inspiration to pursue new hobbies and old passions, and have met lots of new people. and i feel like i’ve only barely scratched the surface.
How do you meet new people?
I'm doing a "test run" of living in NYC for this month and this was really helpful to watch in advance of my mini move! Thank you!!
I was not at all raised anywhere near nyc but I always dreamed of going there and being able to restart and become the person I’ve always wanted to be and I thought as I’ve learned more about it even without living there I understand this video totally helped to like, realistically, set my mind this is how I always expected it to be, but like to hear that you can restart and it’s a good place, even with all the struggles and terrible things that happen in New York It’s really nice because most of the time I constantly see people moving away from there and I totally understand why they wouldn’t wanna live there but for me I understand all the horrible things that are going on there and for me I think it would be totally worth it to just go out there and at least try for a little bit, so yeah I think everything you put in the video was amazing and great advice . Thank you, thank you so much for sharing your perspective.
Theis video presents a lot of good advice. I moved here 18 months ago. I was lucky to have a good job with a good income. But even so, I had to really adjust my standards of living. But I knew that would be the case. I managed my expectations before moving here, really tried to imagine the reality of living here, and told myself to give myself the time to adjust. New York isn’t Disneyland. But it does offer incredible experiences, as this video states. So just know that you need to make some sacrifices but that, hopefully, what you gain will absolutely be worth it.
Thank you! Moved here last year and been having a tough time finding my crowd and making new friends but the thought of transformation always puts me at ease whenever I question whether this city is for me or not, whether I belong or not. Anyway, great advice. I appreciate it and so glad I stumbled upon your video.
I was born and raised in nyc, my heart belongs to thee!!! But if you're not making $150k-$250k, you will stress and live a great percentage in misery. For those that are not in the category of living above the survival phase, you're there to say that you live in nyc! Not getting the utmost of what the city can give you. I live about 1½ hours away in PA and still visit this wonderful city without it sucking my life out!!!
Or you save before you move and put a downpayment on a condo and then do monthly payments with your regular bills most likely way cheaper then rent. Do a 15 year loan.
@@SamSquanch-mv1qg Again, it comes down to your profession and wages.
I've lived in NYC for 50 years and on Staten Island for 48. My landlord ordered me to leave (no lease) and I can't find a place I can afford that will take me and my three cats. So I'm moving to Pennsylvania. On one hand, I am sad to leave. On the other hand, it will be an adventure. NYC is an expensive place for a retiree to live. And because of COVID, I've been locked down for three years. And now there's a rise in crime. People my age getting mugged for no reason. Still, I will miss Staten Island. I love the hills, The Bridge, the Ferry and Lady Liberty in the Harbor! (I recommend the free "yacht" tour of NY Harbor from the Staten Island Ferry. An hour round trip. There's a new shopping mall, Empire Outlets, next to the Ferry.)
I have been living here about 20 years and I really couldn’t agree more with your perspective. I really appreciate your authenticity in all your videos. Yes yes yes to everything you brought up. I moved here alone in 2001 and can relate to so much. Now I’m married but being alone and reinventing myself multiple times in this city has taught me a lot. 9/11 happened right after I moved here and it was equally as traumatic as the COVID lockdown.
I live in Ohio and the lockdown wasn’t that bad at all here. Most people didn’t follow it.
I discovered your channel a few days ago and you are officially my favorite youtuber!!!! I am binging your videos. Your content is amazing, thank you! Taking my first solo trip to NYC at the end of this month and your videos have been extremely helpful.
ahhhh this makes me so happy 🥹 have the best time on your solo trip!
Cool video! I’m born and raised in NYC and it seems like a lot of people not from here have this notion that it’s extremely unsafe here. Which isn’t the case! The data shows NYC is by far the safest big city in America and it’s safer than small town America when taking population density into account. Far safer now than it was in the 80s & 90s. There’s a really great article from Bloomberg comparing crime statistics in NYC to other cities and small towns with data if you’re interested in reading more into it. I personally love it here because it’s a walkable city with good public transportation, so you don’t feel stuck having to drive everywhere. Similar to European cities where walking, trains, or bikes are the norm.
Interesting perspective! Everyone’s perception of safety here is different too depending on what they’re used to
@@ChelseaCallahan Well objectively the statistics show it’s literally the safest big city in America and safer than quite a lot of small towns. Like any big city it’s going to have some issues but the fear-mongering from the news and some people not from here is displaced. It’s literally safer here than it’s ever been before especially compared to the 70s, 80s, and 90s. Best of luck!
@@Yaowza1227 totally! thanks for sharing
your wildin cause im born and raised in NYC and I literally was walking to the train in BK and a dude got shot out of nowhere. Crime went up after covid.
Is not that is unsafe people are just stupidity rude and no one cares about you unless you are outgoing
As a New Yorker I beg of anyone thinking about living in NYC - DO NOT DO IT . The city has NOT snapped back since March 2020. Rent and real estate prices are only good for people in finance, corporate law, or have a trust fund (annual income $200k plus). The subway system is poorly managed and miserable. Crime is up. Everything costs more. The city is losing income rapidly and soon will be making difficult services cuts similar to the 1970's. There is no sense of community because almost everyone is transient. The artistic and cultural scene is only good for visiting to see performances and galleries.The city is not conducive for emerging artists.
My advice is to live in a smaller city that still has the positive aspects of NYC without all the negatives. (Buffalo, Rochester, Austin, Detroit, etc).
If you really want to live in NYC, I would wait a year to see if things change (it always does). If you asked me in December 2019 if you should move here - absolutely, just not right now.
Thanks for this. Moved here from Philly a few months ago when I got a new job based in the city with a big salary bump. But it's not big enough! Was recently driven out of my apartment by rodents. I'm considering moving back to Philly until I get closer to that $200,000. I just don't think I want to live with roommates at this point in my life. And I think remote work has really diminished the purpose and drive I used to feel when I would spend time here pre-pandemic.
As someone born and raised in Austin, it in no way has the positive aspects of NYC, and is on a different plain of existence. I am not saying it is a horrible place, just that it cannot even really be compared as a true alternative.
@@SomeDSquares Yeah you're right I tried Austin for 2 weeks and I'm back in NY. Can't compare at all
@@benfelps Likewise, I just got back from 2 weeks in nyc a few days ago and returning to texas is a big culture shock. planning to move with my partner up there next spring and so excited for change of pace!!
This video just made me even more excited for my move 😌 with its ups and downs, the exploration, the excitement, and the crying 😂 also coming from a small town and visiting a handful of times, I’m excited for the journey that I can’t even fathom what it will be like yet. It’s a new chapter for me, and it’s my next chapter.
Always appreciate your honesty, and it’ll be great insight for many others as well 🙏🏻
yesssss! the unknown can be so exciting!!
@@ChelseaCallahan definitely!! Something I’ve truly realized in the last year, is that the magic is in the unknown 😌 we just have to be open to it
Small convo but an impact as I make changes myself. Born and raised in the city but hopefully soon moving to another community. Definitely exciting and trying to enjoy the magic behind the unknown.
Please let me know how it goes. Went to New York last month my first time. I am now obsessed with it. From Texas.
I'm moving there too. When are you moving?
This video helped clear my head a bit. I've been wanting to move to Brooklyn and follow just one crazy dream in my life, even if it's short-term. I appreciate your realistic perspective. My parents were born and raised in NYC and this was basically their experience, too.
Love your realness. I live in LA and miss visiting NYC; used to visit a lot pre-pandemic. Will get back there this year. Keep it up, ‘23 your year!
My family and I were in New York in October and we had a great experience overall. We are born and raised in LA so also from a big busy city, but it’s definitely very different from NY. We would not be able to live in NY but definitely want to visit again. Wishing you the best!
Thanks for this video. I lived in Brooklyn NYC from 2007 - 2014 am dying to move back. Have made several visits to NYC since moving away to visit friends or solo explore, but have been unsure about the affects inflation and pandemic. This video confirms: if I move back, the way to live in Brooklyn/Queens is STILL live with roommates! Do not move to NYC to be too house poor to enjoy what the city has to offer. Thanks for the straight-talk!
I have a close friend who moved from NYC to live here in Oklahoma, and trust me when I say “people here are so friendly” but I feel like a part of him wants to go back. Now I’m talking to him about moving there with him, so I can experience something new and different, and he will have a friend from here with him to show his world to. I’m probably the most resilient person I know and I know I can survive the stress of changing my life to how it will be there. This video is super helpful to know some of the realities I’ll face, and I appreciate that so much!
Id rather live in oklahoma
Great video Chelsea! I live in Atlanta and it’s the exact same situation. Thank you for sharing and I look forward to watching more of your content ❤
Thanks for watching ❤️❤️
Really? From my exp Atlanta was very slow paced and the rent was 1/4 of what it is in NYC. When I moved from atl to nyc, it was major culture shock.
I appreciate this video so much! Really needed a realistic point of view of this city!
I appreciate your honesty and not sugar coating what living in NYC is.
and Yes the Subway is more dangerous than the streets at this point
I've been harassed, insulted, seen naked homeless at night and many, more stuffs .It gives me anxiety evetime I have to take it, so I try to avoid it as much as possible.
I'm from Austria, I moved to NYC 2 years ago to work at the NYU Langone. I moved because it was a personal dream that I pursued for my whole life. It's tough often to life in this city but at the end I don't regret this decision. Otherwise I had my toughest battles in my life in this city. I can fully understand people that are struggling here because I often do as well.
I was born in NY but my mom was overwhelmed there when I was a kid, so she moved us to MD which is where I live now with my own family, but I just love your videos! Keep up the great work. ❤
Such good advice. I’ve been thinking about moving there solo as a 100% remote worker for some time but am on the fence. I really appreciate your thoughts on all of this. ❤
Best of luck with whatever you decide!
Chelsea, I love your videos. I have commented a few times that your videos are literally the most realist viewpoint of NYC that I have seen online. This video is no different. I recently went to NYC for 5 days and I have been there before in the past. This was the first time I have been by myself and I decided to treat this experience as if I had actually lived there. By this I mean I let myself take in all of the things that I loved about NYC but also, acknowledged all of the things that would personally bother me. I left the city a bit different than I had before. My comment is absolutely not to hate on NYC at all. But I think I realized this time... I had romanticized NYC in way that was so far from reality that it didn't really fit into who I am. I've traveled to so many countries and I've been to so many cities, and the NYC subway is by far the grossest thing I have ever encountered. It's dirty, garbage everywhere, and people just jumping turnstyles as your are paying to get through - yes I did let that bother me. I have ridden some of the most cleaniest and efficient subways in the world - tokyo, seoul, taipai - and in my 5 days, I just kept thinking... this could be so much better. The cost of apartments is so high. And I think that living with other people is not something I desire and feel comfortable with (lots of personal reasons - all roommate situations, not romantic issues). And I do think landlords, all over this country, are taking advantage of people by exploiting rent. Except in NYC it's impossible unless you have a high paying job - which I do not. I know you spoke about moving many times, and I have seen that with each and every person I watch on youtube. And I hate moving... but to move just because of rental increases is just absolutely astonishing to me. Bad neighbors is one thing, but just being out-priced by your landlord is another. Now, I do love the history of NYC and the city itself is extremely unique and beautiful when you really take a look at what it has to offer. But I do not understand why the crime rate in NYC is so high. I made sure to be completely alert when I was there and not even carry a bag... I don't want to say I was paranoid, but after seeing videos of women getting their phones snatched out of their hands while sitting inside of a coffee shop and the thief ran away with it, just broke my heart. Again, having traveled to other cities, with more people, but lower crime rates, I do not understand what is going on in nyc. I still think someday, I would love to experience living in nyc... I do. I know I wrote a whole story about how my most recent trip changed my perspective, but if I had more money, I would be able to control the neighborhood I lived in and the building I lived in - especially the proximity to central park. At this point, it's really just money that would afford more freedom in a city that seems to be all over the place right now. Again, I LOVE your videos. They are the most realist of narratives that I have come across on youtube. I thank you for that. I think sharing your point of view can absolutely include those wonderful moments that you experience - and you do! But I think for so many people, like myself, who don't live in nyc, but desire to, we all get this insanely romanticized version of what we think nyc is, at that couldn't be farther from the truth. I primarily work with international clients for my job, and I hear many people describe nyc as something that doesn't exist. They have never visited and they don't have high crime rates or homeless in their big cities - or it is so small it is not problematic. When I explain to them about the garbage that piles up on the sidewalks and then show them photos - they look horrified! I watched a video also explaining why there is so much garbage on the sidewalks... but I still can't stop being grossed out by it. On a side note... while I was in NYC in december... someone... asked me for directions!!!!! And I actually KNEW where to send them!! While I'm definitely not a local, I felt pretty proud of that moment. And I also know how to pronounce Houston St. correctly. Can I be called an honorary tourist at this point???? 🤣🤣🤣 I hope you have an awesome day! If you read my novel, thanks for listening!
Thank you for saying this!!! I understand exactly what you mean ❤️ and yes you are honorary tourist hehe
I have never been to NYC but I'd guess the crime rate has to do with the economic circumstances a lot of people live in, just look at the rents. The poverty rate in New York is 14 % I believe, which is huge. As Chelsea mentioned, the rich get richer and the poor get poorer, the capitalist utopia.
Giuliani cleaned up crime in the 90s.. Eric adams doesn't seem to have a clue.
This video was sweet and truthful. Born and raised in nyc (still here) the focus is safety yet fun. Not concentrating on the rent rises, it does take a year or so to feel you are part of the community. Being proactive, staying alert and most of all enjoy the scenes. NYC does have alot of wonderful people and places to enjoy.
This was an incredibly genuine video. I appreciate the “tough love” aspect.
Thank you so much for your transparency ❤ really appreciated this video 😊
Your an amazing human being! World needs more people like you❤️.
I have been binging your videos, you have excellent editing skills and content..
Thank you Ann! You’re awesome ❤️
Love and appreciate this candid info. I’ve lived in the city of Chicago for ~10 years and would echo all of these things. It’s an adjustment. No all glamorous but the struggle is generally worth it :)
Man I learned along time ago that if you are struggling depressed in the city you live in now you will struggle & be depressed 10x more in a bigger city like NYC but that doesn’t mean things can’t change and get better because no matter what happens or what we go through as people you will always get through it because you always have you just have to step into it for example if you cut your nails in a week they will grow back again if you cut your hair in due time it will grow back again and the same method is in alignment with life because we all have the same 24 hours a day and its nothing you can do to fix a problem from last year Yesterday or not even a hour ago it’s over! You have grown past it we are so much more capable than we can imagine if we live in the present moment
Your video just hits it on the head. I’m born and raised here. And now work for the MTA as a conductor for 15yrs. One thing for me that’s a pet peeve since post pandemic (2020-2022). Is the people now smoking (vapes, weed, cigarettes) is mind blowing. Part of the blame is the passing of the legalization of weed. Since then ppl think it’s ok to smoke anywhere now. So annoying for MTA worker.
Yes 100%! I can’t imagine what you must deal with as a conductor but thanks for everything you do 🏆
Chelsea, I am a born & raised New Yorker…lived here (NYC) my whole life…LOVED ❤YOUR VIDEO! I will add that in some buildings, packages DO NOT get delivered to you if you live on a high floor walk up! UPS, Fedex, Amazon, USPS pretend they stopped by and say you’re not home just so they don’t walk up the steps. The rents are that high only in downtown Manhattan & gentrified places of Manhattan & Brooklyn..however, cheaper rent = compromising safety & glamour 😮tired of seeing syringes 💉 already! Thank you for your honesty.
I needed that video❤ thanks so much for all these honest insights
wow you explained that perfectly and validated me so much. i just moved here for college and i need to get an apartment before next summer and this has helped SO MUCH like thank you love
I appreciate your time and advice. You know you cover topics I wouldn't even think of, so thank you very much. Have an awesome day 😎
thanks you too!
love this. very accurate. going on my second year of living in the city after moving here by myself at 18!
Very impressive for you to move there at 18! I would like to hear/know how you did it? Where did you move to there? Roommates? What borough?
I’m glad you did this video to let others know what to expect when moving to NYC.
80 times the rent, whoa! I'm a native New Yorker that left 8-9 yrs ago. Thinking about moving back so I'm watching video to get the pulse of the city. Growing up there was really cool as a younger person, not sure if I have the strength to endure there now.
Great video Chelsea! I also live here in NY & I think you explained it perfectly
Thanks for sharing your experience and your honesty!
You're awesome Chelsea 👌.
Very inspirational!
I lived in Toronto, Canada for seven years, in close cities nearby... never again! Too much arrogance.
I loved leaving southern Ontario.
God bless you!!
This is very helpful.
I got a lot of value from your video.
Take care.
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Thank you for the unfiltered nyc life. I’m moving soon and it’s awesome to see the reality 😊
First video, and I appreciate how authentic she is! ❤
It was extremely interesting both as a reference and as a personal experience. I wish it was longer and you went into more detail. Anyway, this was a pleasure to watch, and I actually did it twice, because I can relate to quite a few things you touched upon in this one
!! let me know what you’re like more detail on, I’ll probably make a follow up video at some point!
@@ChelseaCallahan There are quite a few things you can make a follow-up on:
1. How did the prices change for commuters in NYC? Any new stuff on unified subway-bus-ferry tickets / transport cards?
2. Any new infrastructure for using your, let say, mobile phone to pay for subway?
3. You told the routine was important, and you struggled without it at the beginning. I'd love to hear about your routine. Especially I'm interested on how you organise your evenings after work.
4. What about groceries and all the day-to-day stuff? Has it become more expensive? With quite a few businesses closed, is it more of a challenge to go grocery shopping in NYC? Maybe create a spending report for an average week?
5. I'd love to see a Chelsea Callahan approved Fresh Ney Yorker checklist (with a downloadable PDF if possible) containing the things one absolutely must do in the first month after moving to NYC.
6. You're speaking about those *aesthetic NY lifestyle " videos. I mean, come on, opulence has its esthetics, sure, but what about your "average Joe" aesthetics? What do you find beautiful in the neighborhood you live in?
I'll let you know if I come up with something else :-)
@@ANDRSNS thank you!
Spot on regarding routine, it really helps so much!
Everything about your video was perfect I am actually moving to Queens from Charlotte in August due to a five-year relationship where it's not going to end in marriage so I'm going to go my own way and heats going his so it's kind of like a sad time in my life and I haven't xiety about the move but your video really made me feel more comfortable because you are being so transparent and real I love the part about not coming with any expectations or morsel have an expectation that you will have a bad time because that way I won't get my hopes up and then get disappointed and I was planning to stay for a year with a friend for free so I am ready to just see what the future will have for me in New York thank you for your video it's so helpful
Thank you so much. That was so brutally and bravest honesty. And still, loved the silver lining at the end. Thank you! ❤
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thank you for still wearing your mask on the subway 🥺 i moved out of new york last year but this video has been such a great source of information and updates on how things are since i left
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YES. Thank you for being honest. Not all cities are for all people. I appreciate your candor. The people I know who love the city are the ones with the means to live in Tribeca/UWS.
this video speaks volumes to my current life point. thank you! hope to run into ya and be creatives. thanks again for this vid
Glad you’re sticking with the city! I was born and raised in NYC, and experience some of the same realities as you. Looks like you’re on the LES- a great neighborhood!
I live uptown!! But love the LES very much ❤️ thanks for watching
4:12 I appreciate you being sympathetic about the homeless situation. I've watched other vlogs where they called the homeless "creatures" 😮
Here in SF the Bart, which is the subway here can be dangerous too but just mind your business and your fine. Also, I walk in the tenderloin a lot which is the drug area you could say, but if you mind your business and walk like with confidence they leave you be. In fact I even know a couple of them by name since I see them everyday on the way to work.
Excellent video, everything you said is true! I think that if you can live in (and adapt to) New York City, you can basically live anywhere!
I definitely agree with you when you move anywhere you always take a risk you always take a risk when you're moving somewhere new but it could be a good experience or bad depending on how you perceive it
I rarely comment but I absolutely loved your take on the city as a regular New Yorker not just what we see in the movies. I've been to NYC several times as a tourist and loved it but I know the reality of living there as a local is very different as I am a Londoner myself and know about all the sacrifices an ordinary person needs to make to live in the city and get by. I can see you love NYC. I would highly recommend a trip to London. I always saw NYC as an 'American London'. I think you'll find the same craziness you love in NYC can be found here and if you're on a vacation here then you can get to see the best of it without having to deal with the problems locals do. I look forward to more of your content!
Thank you for this! London would be so fun 🤩
This is helpful to me. Truly. I won't be moving to NYC in 2023, but considering it in 2024. I have visited NYC a total of 4 times and have always loved it. Obviously, living there is completely different. This might sound a bit weird but I feel like NYC is calling my name. Now, I was born and raised in the south. The city I live in, has no opportunities for really anything. It's one of those conservative-dogmatic religious towns with a bunch of old people. (No disrespect, just trying to describe it) and I used to be very religious and right-wing, but I have shifted the opposite direction. Because of the small-townness and me leaving my religious community things have gotten very lonely. I have befriended 2 AMAZING friends but it still sucks. So, like you said I want to start over. I want to also push my self to do something that scares me. I'm riddled with anxiety, and can easily let people walk all over me. I'm the complete opposite of a New Yorker. But, I want to try, at least. The thing is because of my anxiety I have let so many things pass me by, but almost every time I've pushed myself despite me being scared, I've rarely ever regretted it.(I've also started developing a thicker skin! But still struggle) I like what you said, and if I go in with really low expectations, it helps lol. At the end of the day I'm not sure if I'll end up in NYC but I can't help but keep thinking about it. Also last thing I'll say, I've been around some very bad crime areas in my city and have thankfully survived, we have a pretty bad homeless population, and crime is actually pretty bad. Obviously compared to NYC it's different. It also helps in a way that I'm a dude. Not immune to crime obviously but definitely I feel more safe being alone (I also have one of my best friends currently who lives in NYC so that helps). Anyway, I'm going to watch your other content and see if I can gleam more info from you about NYC as I like to be as prepared as possible . Thank you so much Chelsea!
Hey Chelsea! I discovered your channel one or two weeks ago and I love your videos because they‘re so real. Keep up the good work and the subscribers will follow. :) I love NYC and I’m going to live there in 2026. Greetings from Germany. :)
hi!! thanks very much for the support! see you in 2026 :)
Thank you for the honest information. My dream is to move to NYC and from living in a third world touristy country I know that there is another side of the city that only the locals would know about what real life is like as opposed to what people see on TV and from magazines and CZcams influencers and this was what I was looking for.
i am planning on moving to NYC so i can START A NEW LIFE - - much love and thanks for the video
Love your wholesome opinions, it hits the innermost inspiration one can have moving to NYC
love your videos! thank you Chelsea!
Thank you for this. I’m living upstate working remotely and have debated whether or not it’s worth living in nyc as a remote worker when I can come into the city on weekends anyway. All of my friends/family are upstate. I think your video makes it sound like I should just stay here and keep coming in during the weekends, I appreciate the info
depends on what you want! could be nice to try something new down here and if it doesn’t work out you can always go back up, sometimes the risk is worth it ✨
@@ChelseaCallahan very true
Thank you for this video! I'm currently debating whether or not to move. I'm 32 and have a lot of stability where I currently live. I could live comfortably for the rest of my life if I stay, but there's this part of me that doesn't want that right now. I live comfortably, but I live in a smaller city that I grew up in. There's nothing really exciting for me here anymore, and I feel complacent. Not knowing what I really want for myself.
I've always wanted to live in NYC, and I feel it's one of those things that I'd regret if I never did it. I'm just scared to start over in a tougher place. Although the challenge of it seems exciting to me.
This video helps with managing expectations, and has given me a lot to think about.
Can't hurt in giving it a try for a couple years! Come visit for a week and explore the neighborhoods and see how you feel.
I'm in a super similar spot and the same age. I'm moving to NYC in February and leaving all my big furniture behind. I struggled with the decision because I have everything I need here that means I'm successful, but it's not enough for my soul.
Same here! I live very well in my country, it is very stable nowadays and it’s an island, which makes it very calm and slow life. Despite that, I would like to live for at least a year in NYC because I feel like I need a change to meet different cultures and I love that rushy life from the city. I am very extrovert and I think I could make it. The problem would be looking for a job that lets me work there. I am a project manager
I would love to see you talk about the different neighborhoods in NY. Great video, really enjoyed x
This video made me tear up ( most likely due to my period) but also because its hopeful and positively realistic. Every time I watch a video on NYC I hold my breathe and think this is it this will be the video that makes me realize I cant handle living there for w/e reason. Each time I'm pleasantly surprised with myself which is saying a lot. Sorry if this rant doesn't make sense but I just appreciate you making videos on the reality and beauty of the city even when you don't have a lot of money. Thank you! Im planning on moving in 2024.
this makes all the sense in the world. your passionate energy will serve you well here! excited for 2024 you got this ❤️
Please keep us updated :-) I’m from Texas and just visited in New York last month. So obsessed with it. Can’t wait to get out of the south!
This doesn’t have to be a huge deal. Just sublet a rental for 1-6 months. This doesn’t have to be a dramatic crisis.
I'm also moving there in 2024. I'm si excited to be therr and experience the greatness of the city. I'm doing all my research now and getting ready.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet wait really? Omg can u keep me posted??!?
i’ve wanted to move to nyc from nashville since I was 9… hopefully i’ll fulfill that when i move out
As a native new yorker and it being the only place ive ever called home, you really just need to blend in dont make eye contact walk fast and confidently and dont wear designer stuff even if its fake
I relate with that being from a secluded area navigating through life after being sheltered away my whole life. It's been a tough learning experience. I'm built for it but my morals aren't from this Era. It's rough
Hey Chelsea😊 the way you are talking is so calming and helpful.
I have just one month here in NYC and everything seems so difficult. I just started a job as a cashier but I think i can’t do it and I want to quit but I am afraid that i will not find smth else😔.
ive been living here since 1994 (29 years) ever since up to before covid and even after 911 the city was great in regards to crime. Now is sad to see crime sky rocket, immorality, migrant crisis, high rent prices have really created a dent in this city. Its not the city it used to be. But i am optimistic and pray to God that we can take our city back, not as how it used to be but even better, safe and prosperous!🙌🙏❤️
Great great video. Loved how you articulated your insight on how to adjust to the city for those of us like myself who are not from here but plan or ended up moving here to NYC. It’s a love hate relationship for sure. This city lives up to all its stereotypes. Some people embrace it and stay some don’t and leave. Prior to moving to NYC I lived in the DC area and prior to that I lived in London. NYC is definitely more interesting than DC imo however I’m actually considering re-locating back to either London or somewhere in Europe thus my decision to take up learning German. I want to visit Berlin and revisit London as they’re quite urban which I like but nowhere near as ghetto and crowded as NYC lol.
Great video, thanks for sharing your experience and opinions.
This is sobering, thanks for the honesty!!
Thank you for this video I’ll be moving there this winter
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I 100% agree with you. I’ve been living in the suburbs/country for a long time and I honestly hate it because there nothing much to do. After falling in love with Korean Culture, I started to watch expats living in Seoul, Korea and their lives seemed to be so fun. But after I realized how much I would have to save if I wanted to live that kind of lifestyle I honestly just started to feel extremely sad. I really see city life as an escape from the boring mundane country life. (I know it’s not sunshine’s and rainbows but I at least want to experience it for my self).
you watch too much tv or are online too much, this is fantasy land. its not sex and the city.. it doesnt matter where you are, its who you are. bored.....your boring and will still be boring in the city. have a nice day.
@@lindaostrom570 I can actually agree with you on some parts of what you said. But change can help bring more fun into your life.
i've lived in a city all my life (singapore) and i can say it's like the opposite for me lol
it could just be this country in particular, but life is always so hectic and the rat race feeling is real. schools are like factories trying to churn out model students. we're just getting prepared to take on 9-5 jobs. we look out the window and just see blocks of apartments or cold office buildings or something like that.
to us, the countryside feels magical. the cottagecore fantasy is mad popular, and i can understand why! it's like holy shit, i get to touch grass? i get to have a house and not live in a tiny box up in the sky? i have neighbours that are friendly??? birds? trees? all rarities in the city. like as far as greenery goes singapore does pretty well, the government does make quite an effort to include plants where they can. but it still can't compare to the real thing ya know?
it's just kinda funny to see how the grass is greener on the other side. but i just really wanted to tell you that where you live is someone else's dream, and hopefully you can find some comfort in that! and it's never too late to live/visit a new city, i'm sure you'll be able to save up and see korea one day! all the best to you
@@flowercities I totally agree with you. You’r feelings about the countryside is similar to mines about the city. We both just want a new experience.
That’s the exact reason why I get frustrated
When people (especially my mom 😔) tries to shame me and make me feel like my reason aren’t good enough to want to leave and move to the city. Yes, the place might not be as I imagined but how will I ever know if I’ll like it or not if I don’t give it a try. Nothing in life is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you should try anything new because of that.
@@imaginary-yl2cw ive always loved living in cities (NYC, London, Amsterdam, Madrid, etc) i like the speed of a city, its hectic, its noisy and the possibilities to have fun and get into trouble are endless. I mean i love going to the country side as well, for vacation, 10, 14 days and im golden, its a reset brain kinda thing. After that time frame i start missing all the plp arround me lol. Ooh one of the rules that ive always had when living in a city is always live in the city center or where is at. I havent own a car in a very long time (my GF does but she works in the outskirts), i just love that feeling of being any day of the week and i step outside my house and the fun starts, you dont know what you are going to encounter or having a lot of things walking distance (walking is how to really get to know a city and getting lost in it, i remember getting lost so many times in Tokyo that it was better than when i made plans for the day) however by living in the center there are things you have to let go, 1 room instead of 2 rooms, done, no swimming pool, ok, and so on. What are you willing to give up to live in the center? Its one of the big things for me when i move to a city.
I love New York and everything it has to do. I was born and raised there but my family and I decided to move to Florida didn’t make sense to pay so much in rent if we didn’t feel safe in our city anymore and we didn’t agree with the strict mandates 🤷🏽♂️
Where in Florida did you move? I am considering moving there. Been here for over a decade but finally priced out. Thanks
Welcome to Miami! Right now Miami Rent is almost if not the same rent prices as New York and not to even mention the struggle to find an apartment now a days!
Yesss loved this video! I just subscribed to you a few weeks ago because I’m planning on moving to NY sometime this year and this was just what I was waiting for! Thanks Chelsea ❤️❤️
Yayyy! So exciting about your move :)
Really appreciating this video 🙌
Beautiful content… I love it… keep on creating❤
Wow I looked up Living in York stuff but you put a lot of interesting opinions in this, subscribed :)
I just stumbled across your account and with this being the first video I watched, I am highly impressed and happy to say this is the most realistic NYC living vlog I have ever seen. I'm excited to watch more of your videos... I'm interested in hearing your input on moving to the city and finding a job, what is the process like? Are there any tips you have?
So glad you found me :) I love that topic, I have a video on it but it could use some updates. Might do a remake soon! Thanks for watching!
The safety issues you shared are pretty standard across any big city. Just be savvy, aware of your surroundings, and exercise caution when walking around with valuables / at night and you should be fine.
yup!
It’s really true, I’m from St. Louis and I was really surprised to realize that I actually felt safer in New York versus at home. I think a lot of people really over exaggerate how dangerous it is because they haven’t been there or whatever but it really is just be aware when you’re walking around and you’ll likely be okay! Any city comes with safety issues because there’s so many people doing their own thing.
I’ve lived here for 21 years and it’s really bad now, it’s the scariest I’ve ever seen 💙🙏🏻💙
i went there this past february with my older brother and sister to see phantom of the opera before it closes!! btw, best show everrr, i’m determined to be in that show one day! i just loved the city, most of everyone was nice! just being there felt so refreshing and new! i just really hope to one day live there, and make home! p.s. i hope it gets safer, especially on the subways!
This video is amazing and incredibly true
I’m moving to Seattle and still find this info helpful! Being the bravest version of myself as I enter a new city with no connections - we got this 💪🏼
hell yeah! good luck
Did exactly what you're doing 5 years ago. This city in and if itself needs it's own video like this lol. And yes I'm aware there are already many of those videos but my comment is just to reiterate how uniquely challenging Seattle is in and of itself. But I wish you well! Welcome to the PNW. The most depressingly breathtaking place you may ever live 😄
Moving this upcoming August after graduation and bar exam! Thank you for a real take on moving to NYC.
wow! congrats on graduating and good luck on the bar!
LOVE the honesty of this video. Seriously lacking on YT. Thanks! 🙏
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Very Informative video Thank you! I been living here for 10 months and whewwwww this is a crazy experience I'm about to start documenting it. Because I feel like my life is a movie here. You definitely have to be tough to live here
You understand 🥹
Hey Chelsea, I love your channel and have been following along as I’ve been gearing up to make the move but am struggling to secure a job. I live in Maryland and have been prioritizing travel into the city to be available for interviews/network etc but it’s been the biggest struggle. I’m planning on subletting in august for a month so maybe that will help but was wondering if you have any tips. Thanks !
So, I actually plan on Saving $10k before moving there. Glad this was an accurate number. Thank you for this video.
Your videos make my day!
you’re the best!