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    Margaery Tyrell might be the most underrated player in Game of Thrones. And it’s a shame that she meets her end so early, at least in the show, because more than any other character I’ve covered, she has the most to teach you about how to behave in the real world.
    Which is cool, because unlike Littlefinger and Tywin Lannister, I don’t have to tell you NOT to do these things. We’re talking about good stuff here, so you’ll want to apply a lot of this even if you don't live in the Game of Thrones, beginning with Margaery’s first incredible talent: her ability to build rapport with anyone. She has a number of incredibly effective strategies.
    00:16 Build rapport as the HBO show Game of Thrones here shows
    06:33 Learn as much as you can about the person to truly empathize
    07:39 Lead them as shown as examples here from Game of Thrones
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  • @lamargordon6017
    @lamargordon6017 Před 6 lety +9682

    Always loved Margaery. She had a way of getting what she wanted without threatening or killing anyone. Just manipulation, subtlety and seduction at its finest.

    • @jadebelle3726
      @jadebelle3726 Před 5 lety +50

      Agreed

    • @Harvey_Mod
      @Harvey_Mod Před 5 lety +71

      She was so good

    • @bomapdich
      @bomapdich Před 5 lety +308

      And her manipulation always make the opposite party feel like they are also in the win. It s a win win

    • @aintgonnaletuknow5758
      @aintgonnaletuknow5758 Před 5 lety +36

      Na I don't like Margaery the way she act and care for others just feel ... so fake and deliberate

    • @bomapdich
      @bomapdich Před 5 lety +208

      @@aintgonnaletuknow5758 true, but she has never done any harm to anybody. She might be fake as hell but she is not evil.

  • @octoberboiy
    @octoberboiy Před 6 lety +8031

    Also the only reason Cersei didn’t fall for Margery’s tricks was because she used to try the same thing on Rob Baratheon.

    • @NostalgicMem0ries
      @NostalgicMem0ries Před 5 lety +874

      true. cersei is 20+ years more experienced version of margery.

    • @India.H
      @India.H Před 5 lety +363

      Nostalgic memories And Cersei doesn't have a conscience.

    • @Mini-Toast_
      @Mini-Toast_ Před 5 lety +407

      No she didn't. Cersei is a very narcissistic person who tries to control people like Tywin does. She might have learned after many years to be a more endearing personality. But that would be well after she burned her bridge with Robert.

    • @ilonakhedongu9150
      @ilonakhedongu9150 Před 5 lety +153

      @@NostalgicMem0ries no she's not. margery wouldn't sacrifice her family for throne

    • @NostalgicMem0ries
      @NostalgicMem0ries Před 5 lety +10

      @@ilonakhedongu9150 ha, i doubt it.

  • @anandiganguly3086
    @anandiganguly3086 Před 5 lety +5350

    Margery was a really brilliant character. She had so much more to offer. They shouldn't have killed her so early. The Tyrells in general are probably the best family.

    • @totalherenow
      @totalherenow Před 5 lety +266

      That's exactly why they were killed off so quickly.

    • @Harvey_Mod
      @Harvey_Mod Před 5 lety +150

      Same thoughts bro. Olenna was an OG

    • @bomapdich
      @bomapdich Před 5 lety +90

      GRRM has the neck for killing his best characters. What does it feel like to drown your own children? I’ve always wondered. He must’ve loved the Tyrell just as dearly.

    • @md28stads
      @md28stads Před 5 lety +63

      Grandma Tyrell was the best character ever!!!!

    • @mevox
      @mevox Před 5 lety +1

      The Professor ??? Where did you hear this? She found out about her death when she got the script.

  • @lesegomoabi1685
    @lesegomoabi1685 Před 5 lety +1727

    That's why Cersei didn't like her, for she was the only one that could influence her children better than herself. Cersei has a sensitive nerve to anything that can take her power away.

  • @mughwortslongshot4545
    @mughwortslongshot4545 Před 5 lety +2867

    Also, according to the costume designer, the way Margaery dresses and does her hair are also part of her trick to gain people's trust. She often wears sleeveless, revealing dresses and pulls her hair away from her shoulders to signify confidence and openness. Unlike Cersei who lets her hair hangs in front of her chest and wears long-sleeved dresses all the time.

    • @The123carrera
      @The123carrera Před 4 lety +186

      Just be hot and that’s it

    • @Nobody-gs6hh
      @Nobody-gs6hh Před 4 lety +44

      @@The123carrera Yep, I'd follow her anywhere !

    • @uiraideszen3223
      @uiraideszen3223 Před 4 lety +8

      She is a vampire

    • @horsegirlb7120
      @horsegirlb7120 Před 4 lety +161

      Cersei understands that though, it's a conscious decision. "She dresses like a harlot for a reason"

    • @irinaiacob8833
      @irinaiacob8833 Před 3 lety +89

      Cersei was older than Margaery: the same dress wouldn't look the same on their bodies, even if their bodies were the same size and shape. It's all due to age and its effects on the skin. With a sleeveless dress, Margaery also gives the impression of innocence, even though people knew she wasn't innocent.

  • @roscoedash6673
    @roscoedash6673 Před 6 lety +1600

    The standing by someone's side tip is actually genius. It's so much more comfortable to stand and talk to someone next to you in a party than it is to talk to someone in front of you. So much less awkward and socially demanding.

    • @Dark_Voice
      @Dark_Voice Před 5 lety +30

      And you know what? I actually prefer the other way. I love to be the opposite and discus things face to face not shoulder to shoulder.

    • @hardwirecars
      @hardwirecars Před 5 lety +20

      i like to be face to face so i can read there facial expressions

    • @notsorandumusername
      @notsorandumusername Před 5 lety +30

      It's not about you. It's about how the other side responds. Try it out, see if it works.

    • @prinstyrio0
      @prinstyrio0 Před 5 lety +25

      Indeed, the thing with standing side by side to someone can also go into how by doing so, you aren't making the other person feel forced to look at you when you talk incase they feel shy, awkward or number of things. They can give an occasional glance and it can feel like a reward, instead of if you're infront then if they aren't looking at you both you and the other person can feel awkward.
      That ofcourse can change depending on the person, but generally I think this will always work much better with any stranger you meet or someone you'd like to befriend more majority of the time even if someone prefers face to face.

    • @kirstenvogel9620
      @kirstenvogel9620 Před 2 lety +3

      My roommate's teenage daughter came to live with her/us-3brm- and they did not agree on much so I looked up how to talk to a teenager and this was a suggestion and it worked. Standing next to her not 'confronting' her [plus listening, respecting her, not telling her what to do but pointing out pros & cons] But that opened her up.

  • @theDarkness558
    @theDarkness558 Před 3 lety +1065

    So, basically, Margery read the book "how to make friends and influence people"
    1. Be polite
    2. Build rapport by talking about what the person you talking to like.
    3. Be empathetic and demonstrate.
    4. Reframe how the person can win if they do what you're saying.

  • @krowkovtuber
    @krowkovtuber Před 5 lety +5873

    “i do believe that Margaery is a kind-hearted character”
    or is it because she manipulated you into thinking so?
    hMmmMm?

    • @HTMR-de8gz
      @HTMR-de8gz Před 4 lety +406

      Manipulation is not inherently evil, sometimes we need a little bending and pressure to help us improve ourselves.

    • @NormallyImKim
      @NormallyImKim Před 4 lety +190

      Manipulation is not always evil.

    • @dashavike8579
      @dashavike8579 Před 4 lety +133

      Sometimes people manipulate to help others be better)

    • @brianlam257
      @brianlam257 Před 4 lety +152

      When Joffrey is grilling Tyrion at his wedding, Margaery looks genuinely uncomfortable about what Joffrey does, so much so she tries to interfere. Meanwhile the other lannesters including Tywin and Jamie are just watching.

    • @kristiannoel4866
      @kristiannoel4866 Před 4 lety +31

      @Ivana Ivanasarah I remember hearing of Princess Diana doing something similar to that with victims of leprosy amongst other acts of kindness, which are too numerous to mention.

  • @JLogg444
    @JLogg444 Před 6 lety +2946

    I love Margaery. She's one of the only characters that doesn't make enemies, but allies and (as far as I've seen) hasn't been killed yet. She's beautiful and extremely charismatic.

    • @Consolous
      @Consolous Před 6 lety +220

      Xenon Rising She's kind of enemies with Cersei.

    • @antonia7463
      @antonia7463 Před 6 lety +676

      ,,as far as I've seen'', hehe

    • @JLogg444
      @JLogg444 Před 6 lety +227

      Consolous Yeah well, Cersi is enemies with everyone. No one but her family likes her ;p

    • @SandowMovesets
      @SandowMovesets Před 6 lety +29

      Lmao

    • @magiv4205
      @magiv4205 Před 6 lety +74

      Not even her family likes her lmao

  • @arnavrawat9864
    @arnavrawat9864 Před 5 lety +2595

    Game of thrones character : *exist*
    Charisma on Command : It's free real estate.

  • @paxwallacejazz
    @paxwallacejazz Před 4 lety +463

    Doesn't hurt that she's so outrageously gorgeous.

  • @flintbosco8758
    @flintbosco8758 Před 5 lety +5297

    This seems like a good channel for sociopaths

    • @ashdrummond2309
      @ashdrummond2309 Před 5 lety +79

      Me lol

    • @gabrielaonate7692
      @gabrielaonate7692 Před 4 lety +502

      Some people find it hard to express themselves with others, and not intentionally, there are real things such as introversion, shyness this type of videos are actually helpful for people who wish things to be different when interacting and socializing in a daily basis

    • @peytongomer2305
      @peytongomer2305 Před 4 lety +18

      BaioWithMayo what do you mean by socially burned? I am socially awkward and I’ve always thought it was because of experiences that occurred in my childhood so I’m wondering if socially burned applies to me too.

    • @patlampkin
      @patlampkin Před 4 lety +24

      The diagnosis of sociopath is one that no serious psychiatrist has made since the 1960's.

    • @TESkyrimizer
      @TESkyrimizer Před 4 lety +17

      Or people who think they are slick learning this stuff when they can't befriend a paper bag

  • @adrianneji1234
    @adrianneji1234 Před 6 lety +5979

    *3 STEPS TO INFLUENCE ANYONE*
    *1. Build Rapport*
    - Physically put yourself on their side
    - Make physical contact (a lot but not too much)
    - Get them to talk about the things that they care about
    *Men* often like to be asked about how things work, *problem solving*
    *Women* on the other hand often enjoy to share their *emotional experience*
    - Indicate that you care about their opinion
    *2. Learn how they view the world*
    - Be an active listener
    - The best way to get someone to open up is to show vulnerability
    - Get to know what makes them tick
    - Empathise with their feelings
    *Pacing and Leading*
    - State their world view
    - Mirror back how they must have felt or feel
    - Share that you've experienced a similar situation or feeling that they just found themselves in
    - Sometimes is just as simple as saying the words ''I understand''
    - Truly try to step into their shoes so you can lead them with much less resistance
    - You can also give them a reputation that they'd like to live up to *(praise the person for what they are doing)*
    *3. Lead*

  • @Lifestarterpack
    @Lifestarterpack Před 6 lety +905

    "If you give them your love, they will return it a thousandfold."

    • @Eric-sy1xu
      @Eric-sy1xu Před 6 lety +42

      Life Starter Pack If only it were so easy

    • @stewartbon1803
      @stewartbon1803 Před 6 lety +9

      Life Starter Pack you have a cool channel!

    • @mylefnepple1936
      @mylefnepple1936 Před 6 lety +30

      "Me mum always said, if you're kind to strangers, strangers, will be kind to you."

    • @cestarianinhabitant5898
      @cestarianinhabitant5898 Před 6 lety +27

      It is that easy, if you are the one perceived to be in a position of higher social standing. If however you are seen as either in a weaker or equal social standing, you're just a resource to be used.

    • @juanpaulomiranda727
      @juanpaulomiranda727 Před 6 lety

      So did Arya really killed them? Because she didn't eat it, instead she ate her bread.

  • @NKWTI
    @NKWTI Před 5 lety +683

    She was a likable and genuine version of Cersei with even more skill at that craft than Cersei herself. That pissed her off a lot.

    • @RobBCactive
      @RobBCactive Před 3 lety +4

      Cersei was a lot more fun though

    • @dysplasiaanaplasia4128
      @dysplasiaanaplasia4128 Před 3 lety +6

      So smarter than her that she got killed by cersei ... no, cersei is way smarter the problem is cersei is emotional sometimes.

    • @di3393
      @di3393 Před 3 lety +6

      @Donnie Darko lol.. like Daenerys lol.. in my opinion she is more like cersei than daenerys.. daenerys was a warrior a conqueror while margery is a goldigger/freeloader.. yeah she would've made a good queen or a politician but she would've never be able to make a mark in history or conquer anything by herself

    • @rfox2163
      @rfox2163 Před 3 lety +1

      I love Cersei and didn't like margarey

    • @chadwilliams3740
      @chadwilliams3740 Před 3 lety +21

      @@dysplasiaanaplasia4128 she got killed because she underestimated the length Cersei would go to get what she wants. Which as you saw was pretty extreme but meh

  • @zacharyhawley1693
    @zacharyhawley1693 Před 5 lety +918

    To be fair. In any other setting, Margery would have won definitively. It's just that Cerci out-dumbed everyone and then went the crazy route out of desperation and panic.

    • @breannahaiden4495
      @breannahaiden4495 Před 5 lety +93

      Zachary Hawley I agree, Margery definitely could have one the game of thrones if Cersei didn’t act out of desperation and take the easy way out.

    • @joesubel
      @joesubel Před 4 lety +98

      That move made Cersei lose in the long run though, no more support from the Tyrells and most of her armies only following her out of fear that they might be killed resulting in her putting her trusts in the treacherous ironborn and sellswords. Tywin was right when he told Cersei that "you're not as smart as you think you are.".
      George would've written their deaths and Cersei in a different more interesting way imo. Show Cersei just turned into female Lex Luthor lmao

    • @haziq12ish
      @haziq12ish Před 4 lety +13

      Plot armor* cercy had plot armor

    • @haziq12ish
      @haziq12ish Před 4 lety +1

      And the fact that people didn't care about it

    • @mihaa94sky
      @mihaa94sky Před 3 lety +2

      Wildfire aka deus ex machina

  • @avatarmage34
    @avatarmage34 Před 6 lety +636

    Step. Step. Step. Step.
    "We could arrange to have you carried."
    SAVAGE 😂😂.

    • @shaunablack1671
      @shaunablack1671 Před 4 lety +18

      Did he literally just threatened to injure him to the point of needing to be carried that's even better than his son's threats.

    • @aranattack6071
      @aranattack6071 Před 3 lety +40

      @@shaunablack1671 nah not really he made him look like a fool because he was lazy af by making him feel smaller and the voice tone change

    • @theDarkness558
      @theDarkness558 Před 3 lety +15

      I think it can be interpreted in both ways, and it's even better this way.

    • @teabiscuits4073
      @teabiscuits4073 Před 3 lety +8

      I think we can all agree that tywin is amazing at getting joffrey to shut up 😂

    • @focusone34
      @focusone34 Před 2 lety +2

      @@theDarkness558 Double entendre

  • @ishbanyadav
    @ishbanyadav Před 6 lety +2629

    My latest personality is always according to the latest video from you.

    • @alessandrodonadi1368
      @alessandrodonadi1368 Před 6 lety +37

      Mr IY note: stay away from mr IY if latest video reports dirty tricks

    • @DeadPalooza
      @DeadPalooza Před 6 lety +26

      Mr IY my first time watching this channel and I right away wanted to mimic this personality lol

    • @HanQ28
      @HanQ28 Před 6 lety +20

      That is so cute lol

    • @scanvil3766
      @scanvil3766 Před 5 lety +8

      no. his personality will just always be according to the final video

    • @roddo1955
      @roddo1955 Před 5 lety +12

      Then you are empty. You are nothing. However if you apply these tips according to your own personality and environment, it might work for you. Or, maybe you'll find you don't need to all of those tactics. Be yourself, first.

  • @rustaard
    @rustaard Před 5 lety +639

    Reminds me of the quote, I think by Albert Camus: "Don't walk in front of me and lead, don't walk behind me and follow, walk by my side and be my friend" 👍👌

    • @Theemightguy
      @Theemightguy Před 4 lety +7

      Thank you for sharing this it’s beautiful.

    • @Amytianaglobal
      @Amytianaglobal Před 3 lety +5

      I may have just found my wedding vow.

    • @dysmissme7343
      @dysmissme7343 Před 2 lety +3

      Idk if this is actually a quote form Camus- I’ve only heard it in the form of a song in Jewish middle schools

  • @lol_vevo
    @lol_vevo Před 5 lety +1437

    Step 1: Be played by Natalie Dormer
    Profit!

    • @JD..........
      @JD.......... Před 5 lety +62

      Step 1: be a 10
      Step 2: Profit

    • @Gunth0r
      @Gunth0r Před 5 lety +102

      I'd like to be played by Natalie Dormer

    • @Sakixlover
      @Sakixlover Před 5 lety +8

      This comment by ayy and subsequent reply are golds

    • @kubli365
      @kubli365 Před 5 lety +6

      Your PFP belongs in a museum

    • @Gunth0r
      @Gunth0r Před 5 lety +1

      @@kubli365 are you talking about my face?

  • @TheCharismaAcademy
    @TheCharismaAcademy Před 6 lety +2625

    She had the ultimate ability to connect with people regardless of background.
    She was also very aware of the power structures that REALLY ruled Westeros.
    One of your best videos to date Charlie!

    • @businessmastery8748
      @businessmastery8748 Před 6 lety +45

      THIS! her grandmother even said so. But you are right about awaremeness of real power

    • @TheCharismaAcademy
      @TheCharismaAcademy Před 6 lety +49

      I think she was the most likeable character yet in the show

    • @david_oliveira71
      @david_oliveira71 Před 6 lety +1

      +Charisma Academy Soo True, +Charisma On Command/(Charlie) a really important context and informational Video, thx :-)

    • @SarahAndreaRoycesChannel
      @SarahAndreaRoycesChannel Před 6 lety +2

      Well no, she lost to the cult and she did know it, shooing the family matriarch away because she did know that she is entirely powerless to turn this around and even her mentor would only harm herself.

    • @synonymrolls8531
      @synonymrolls8531 Před 6 lety +39

      +Sarah She was right to turn Olenna away, because she was aware that they were playing a very dangerous game and as intelligent as the Queen of Thorns is, she roasts Cersei every time she lays eyes on her. Cersei has a reputation for being very vane - this wouldn't bode well. She was doing well with the Faith Militant, actually. I'd say she "lost" a battle when the High Sparrow made Loras swear to basically be a monk but she was about to escape the Faith's clutches before Cersei blew them all up. I'm still not over her death :c

  • @jamievdw6228
    @jamievdw6228 Před 6 lety +1562

    Margaery and the Tyrells in general are such amazing characters, so sad about what happened last night :(

    • @sleymateus6018
      @sleymateus6018 Před 6 lety +84

      Omg yes... I was still trying to get over Margaery's death and then...
      At least Olenna died with style

    • @synonymrolls8531
      @synonymrolls8531 Před 6 lety +60

      The Tyrells were the best. "Every rose has its thorns" - And Olenna was the thorns of House Tyrell. She got a very, very good sendoff, sadly unlike Margaery. Everything about that scene last night was amazing, she gave Jaime 3rd degree burns throughout.

    • @jamievdw6228
      @jamievdw6228 Před 6 lety +30

      Yeah Olenna had a really good exit, Margaery's was okay because she knew exactly what was happening and showed her strong intuition, but I wished that when she died she had a scene entirely focused on her death rather than just thrown in with everyone else, especially because of how big her impact was imo

    • @songbird7450
      @songbird7450 Před 6 lety +57

      I feel like Olenna, with her last breath, decided the future of house Lannister. She planted enough doubt in Jaime for him to finally turn against Cersei. She died, but not without letting her poisonous thorns strike one last time.

    • @charlie172011
      @charlie172011 Před 6 lety +1

      Wasn't Olenna supossed to go with Ellaria? And she didn't sold out Littlefinger!!

  • @edwing9991
    @edwing9991 Před 5 lety +360

    She is the true meaning of a trained "Empath"!

    • @vaughnrob4548
      @vaughnrob4548 Před 4 lety +18

      @@The482075 I'm an Empath and I could tell you that us (INFPs, the mbti thing) aren't the types who would manipulate people. Maybe we would want to, but then our conscience will bug us forever even if we just think of doing it. So yeah..
      P. S. But hey, if there are INFPs who would manipulate people, I'm pretty sure they wouldn't be able to handle themselves and then just do something to stop it. (im not gonna tell what they would do, just.. No)
      P. P. S. But if there are also Empaths who aren't INFPs, well I'm sorry, okay? I didn't know. So I would most definitely wouldn't understand what they're thinking.

    • @vaughnrob4548
      @vaughnrob4548 Před 4 lety +5

      @Bob Oh sorry, I didn't mean it like that.. Sorry.
      INFP is a personality type, and well, we're also not the only ones who are Empaths. The whole NF's are Empaths. Just.. Search for it, I'm way too lazy to explain everything. :)

    • @monkiram
      @monkiram Před 3 lety +7

      @@The482075 Somebody who is truly empathetic would not use your opening up to them against you. Somebody who only pretends to be empathetic on the other hand, may do the things you describe. Most likely, somebody who is able to successfully feign empathy to the point that you believe them truly empathetic when they really want to manipulate you, is likely a psychopath, which means they have no empathy at all and is the latter person you described. So I don't think I agree that somebody very empathetic is as dangerous as somebody who lacks empathy

    • @The482075
      @The482075 Před 3 lety +1

      @@monkiram Fair enough.

    • @The482075
      @The482075 Před 3 lety +1

      @@monkiram Yeah I've thought about it. Made that comment a year ago. I no longer stand by it.

  • @itsalovelybae
    @itsalovelybae Před 5 lety +94

    I love this video! So often, the power of feminine energy is overlooked but it's truly one of the biggest tactics a woman can use. Margarey lived in her femininity and her empathy and that's where she found her power. And she was the only character to consistently do that. She was definitely gone too soon, loved her and Olenna. I'm sure every woman can agree with the bit about us wanting to just vent about our problems sometimes without looking for a man to fix it for us, haha!

  • @BigBrotherMateyka
    @BigBrotherMateyka Před 6 lety +907

    Margaery was also a crowning achievement in Game of Thrones as a series; while she is in the books, she is merely represented as a minor character, but it's in the television saga that her character truly comes to life and is fully fleshed out.
    P.S. This was a very articulate and insightful analysis.

    • @GoldenRose116
      @GoldenRose116 Před 6 lety +13

      please the only thing that book Loras has over show Loras is one unshown battle, a comparing with Jaime and becoming celebrate (why must the only gay character be the one who never have sex again)
      Plus book Loras was also extremely self absorbed and arrogant, while in the show he is much nicer and actually tries to cheer people up.

    • @kiera6326
      @kiera6326 Před 5 lety +36

      Natalie Dormer tends to add something unexpected to all of her roles.

    • @livcaitbff
      @livcaitbff Před 4 lety +3

      Golden Rose okay but this comment was praising Margery, not Loras

  • @RareCandeh
    @RareCandeh Před 5 lety +491

    Margaery Tyrell won't ever die in the books. George has already implied it saying, "Most of the characters that the showrunners have killed off will never die in the books."
    I think that when Daenerys arrives in Westeros, Maegaery and the Tyrells will find some way to support the Targaryen rule. The Tyrells were on the Targaryen side during the rebellion. It's possible they may even abandon the Lannisters, who knows.

    • @SJPace1776
      @SJPace1776 Před 5 lety +13

      Because who rules a kingdom matters in the books.
      Right now the show has the Stormlands, the Reach, and Dorne run by...

    • @teamblack204
      @teamblack204 Před 3 lety +6

      I don't think this will happen. Many of the Tyrell's governor of sanjaks will end up betraying Mace, especially Tarlys. It's possible that those governor of sanjaks will support Aegon Targaryen (!) instead, against to Cersei. Daenerys will not arrive at Westeros soon since she's found by Dothraks. But when she does, I think she'll probably find out that Aegon is not Rhaegar's true son, which makes her the true heir until they learn the truth about Jon.

    • @shaunyg4156
      @shaunyg4156 Před 3 lety +15

      Yes but in order to betray the Lannisters they'd have to kill tommen so Margaery will be free of him and I don't think anyone in house tyrell is cruel enough to kill an INNOCENT child, not even Olenna who had a personal reason for killing joffrey but not tommen who she'd only be killing politically and I don't think she would do that

    • @TheFuschiaDragonfly
      @TheFuschiaDragonfly Před 3 lety +1

      I want this scenario to happen

    • @IchibanOjousama
      @IchibanOjousama Před rokem

      She will die

  • @jjstarrprod
    @jjstarrprod Před 5 lety +719

    Would have been nice if Daenerys had met at least once Maergery. She would have learnt a thing or 2 about empathy and how to be good at the game without, you know, torching an entire city.

    • @NA-yq4pe
      @NA-yq4pe Před 4 lety +15

      I don't know, I feel like Daenerys Would have had that coming in one way or another, I mean it wasn't the first time she torched people, and also her father and brother were both crazy so it's in her genes too, etc

    • @akshayapradeep9793
      @akshayapradeep9793 Před 4 lety +46

      @@NA-yq4pe I agree but they didn't do a good job of building up to it. I think they should have had a season of showing dany going more and more crazy. It felt weird for them to have had her torch the entire city just like that. Wish they built it up more and spent more time on it.

    • @NA-yq4pe
      @NA-yq4pe Před 4 lety +20

      @@akshayapradeep9793 I agree, it was definitely rushed and either a couple more episodes or another season were necessary to make her progression less abrupt.

    • @zainaberh6215
      @zainaberh6215 Před 4 lety

      True

    • @kim7990
      @kim7990 Před 3 lety +2

      @@NA-yq4pe that's what Cercei did too

  • @ilovenycsomuch
    @ilovenycsomuch Před 5 lety +51

    I LOVED Margaery, no one ever talks about her! She’s so gorgeous & smart, a total QUEEN & so inspirational (I have to say it, GOALS) I was so upset when she died & of course that didn’t seem to matter to anyone else I talked to smh. She should be a much more popular character from the show than she is.

  • @borntodie297
    @borntodie297 Před 6 lety +441

    Mergaery is my favourite female character in GoT for a reason.
    She played the game well, just a pity they did not let her pick up on Cersei her absense fast enough to leave the damn place.

    • @Toastcat890
      @Toastcat890 Před 5 lety

      She could have it's just that there wasn't enough time to develop her character since the books aren't finished.

    • @GodsFaveSim
      @GodsFaveSim Před 5 lety +2

      They probably would’ve developed her further but since Natalie wanted to leave the show there wasn’t much they could do.

  • @jackiecook535
    @jackiecook535 Před 6 lety +728

    I was also dissapointed Margery is gone. Of all the manipulation that goes on in the series, her style is the one we would most likely encounter on a daily basis. Though I disagree her intentions had any true acts of kindness. Everything she did was nothing more than wanting to invent herself into a persona people would trust while she used that trust for her own gain.

    • @GoldenRose116
      @GoldenRose116 Před 6 lety +115

      meh i don't think so, she has shown allot of times to be genuily kind even if it doesn't help her case like with Loras or Sansa after the engagement with Loras was off, Sansa had no real use then but she still went out of her way to comfort her because of wedding with Tyrion, and was shown to be upset with Joffreys dwarf play. Not just for Renly and Loras but she was also angry because of Robb and looked concerning to Sansa. Plus even in private moments with just Loras or Olenna she proves she is a good person

    • @quizzlybear
      @quizzlybear Před 5 lety +103

      I would normally say this is true, but even when she's with family or loved ones who know her or when she has nothing to gain she is still actually kind. She has never once done anything cruel or evil to ANYONE! Except maybe throw some shade at Cersei. Does it matter if her intentions are pure? She feeds the poor, give Sansa a friend and never once has she done anything to contradict this behavior even behind closed doors. Hell, she doesn't even judge her homosexual brother. Everyone is happy in her presence and benefits from her kindness. So does it truly make her a bad person?

    • @thegone7
      @thegone7 Před 5 lety +18

      Quizzly Bear, you made seriously good points, she knew how to get people on her side by going over to their side and seeing it from their eyes. She made friends and definitely felt kindness and love seeing how sweet she was to her brother and grandmother, she is an amazing character who showed how you can show empathy and yet be so genius about it. Connecting to people and social networking was her greatest strength.

    • @MrKannibalus
      @MrKannibalus Před 5 lety +34

      She is not bad, just ambitious. She builds rapport with people that are useful to her, she doesn't necessarily like all of them.

    • @kingkylie9655
      @kingkylie9655 Před 5 lety +8

      She was still a kind woman lmao. littlefinger is using charisma for power, but margaery used charisma for peace. She just wanted a peaceful kingdom

  • @flyingpotatoe1299
    @flyingpotatoe1299 Před 4 lety +61

    I love how half of the comments is just mentioning her beauty

    • @EmmyV2002
      @EmmyV2002 Před 4 lety +1

      No one cares about her beauty. That's it.

    • @yee5163
      @yee5163 Před 2 lety +1

      @@EmmyV2002 what?

  • @isabelfornos6589
    @isabelfornos6589 Před 4 lety +18

    as someone who works in a call center, the pacing and leading at the end of the video is so beautiful when done properly. our training is to always have control of the call, but when a customer has made it a point to take the control to empathize with us- we do go that extra mile. i promise you that.

  • @60secondsuccess39
    @60secondsuccess39 Před 6 lety +2139

    3:56 No wonder she is so upset. There is a nail dead centre in her forehead.

    • @TheCharismaAcademy
      @TheCharismaAcademy Před 6 lety +71

      Literally laughing at this XD

    • @BLX0
      @BLX0 Před 6 lety +173

      And she only wants to talk about it...

    • @IlyaKokoev
      @IlyaKokoev Před 6 lety +39

      You can see whole that video by searching "It's not about the nail"

    • @callumgallacher8747
      @callumgallacher8747 Před 6 lety +3

      60 Second Success you are everywhere

    • @AR7271
      @AR7271 Před 6 lety +3

      This TV show is boring. Great analysis, though!

  • @SuperAquiredTaste
    @SuperAquiredTaste Před 6 lety +1720

    Would Ser Davos from GoT make a good video? He tends to pop up when people are failing in negotiations and turns them around rather well

    • @ZeriocTheTank
      @ZeriocTheTank Před 6 lety +177

      SuperAquiredTaste What do dragons breath? Fire!
      This is Jon Snow............. he's the king of the north.

    • @mycelia_ow
      @mycelia_ow Před 6 lety +16

      ZeriocTheTank, king of the north! King of the north! King of- *red wedding*

    • @SJNaka101
      @SJNaka101 Před 6 lety +15

      SuperAquiredTaste I actually have been thinking about Davos since he started these GOT videos

    • @thunderdrake13
      @thunderdrake13 Před 6 lety +139

      Lmao "This is Jon Snow"

    • @myurimohan7628
      @myurimohan7628 Před 6 lety +98

      Yes! Ser Davos, whilst not amazing at proving himself to be good with first-hand communication, has offered very truthful statements about the situation for a certain house (as their advisor), and it's usually his raw truth and experience that makes him so valuable to that house. He knows what each house can offer up, their allies, enemies, troops, values, etc. and he's just enthralling to watch, in my opinion.
      Also, he's just a great personal hype man/friend. I can see the friendship between him and Jon blossoming. :)

  • @CourtneyCoulson
    @CourtneyCoulson Před 5 lety +64

    I've actually been doing some of these techniques for years subconsciously and I can attest to how effective they are. It was great to have these skills explained though, helps me be more aware of them and myself. I've definitely noticed you can get much further with customer service agents if you try to make friends or at the very least see them as a human being. Screaming and intimidation gets you nowhere.

  • @53strat55
    @53strat55 Před 5 lety +97

    9:48 is a interesting scene, she actually tells geofry what her strategy is. Return love to get love. I also do believe she did manipulate but also had a kind hearted side. I never really see her abuse innocent people.

  • @emmalee9394
    @emmalee9394 Před 6 lety +528

    How to Win Friends and Influence People - GOT edition lol

  • @RuslanaNess
    @RuslanaNess Před 6 lety +163

    she was my FAVORITE character because of her smart manipulation, im sad that her role was short

  • @ahnafahmed504
    @ahnafahmed504 Před 3 lety +42

    This channel made me realize how well written and detailed game of thrones is. Until the last two seasons of course

  • @jacobnesbitt824
    @jacobnesbitt824 Před 5 lety +25

    Honestly I loved Margaret’s character, she was so manipulative, yet had a super kind heart. I was also very sad when she died

  • @iulianam4106
    @iulianam4106 Před 6 lety +124

    Her voice is so soothing

  • @myowncomputerstuff
    @myowncomputerstuff Před 6 lety +282

    I just remember watching seasons 3-6 of GOT in awe at Margaery. For once I felt like a character was handling things the way I would. No brutish outward displays of strength. No threats. Just lots of schmoozing and flattery to keep everyone (except that bitch Cersei) on your good side.

  • @cityofdreams23
    @cityofdreams23 Před 5 lety +105

    Margaery is definitely one of the best characters on the show.

  • @harithulasidalamappo6937
    @harithulasidalamappo6937 Před 5 lety +52

    I love how Joffrey was scared when Tywin climbed the steps

  • @Kaorak
    @Kaorak Před 6 lety +381

    Margaery was intelligent, she knew how to get close to those who needed it, but as a social climber her family was, she chose one of the most dangerous families to get involved in, remembering that she even deceived the High Sparrow, which, despite being a fool, who was dealing, but she lacked the element of surprise, the strength that Cersei has at one point, instead of playing the game, turned the table and dropped all the pieces that thought they could with her.
    Margaery with her cunning, which she had in abundance. A talented manipulator who knew how to stick to judicial politics. The strength of this character lay in his ability to win the minds and loyalties. Margaery possessed the tact and courtesy that Cersei lacked. Margaery worked within the social standards of "adequate" femininity in Westeros, but deftly turned them in her favor, to orchestrate political maneuvers behind the scenes.
    Although Margaery has developed many different facades, depending on who she is trying to manipulate, she has genuinely shown a good heart, compassion and empathy.
    She also showed genuine concern and tried to form a friendship with Sansa, even offering her help to leave Porto Real after the wedding with Joffrey - although this may have been partly because she had the longer-term goal of good relations with the North , feeling that the unstable Lannisters would not be in power forever.
    She shared a very strong bond with her grandmother Olenna, sharing her acuteness for manipulation and political maneuvering. Although she had developed many facades to influence the opinions of others in her favor, she was extremely loyal to her family and home, and would make great efforts to keep them safe.
    Queen of Thorns, what character ... what character ... deserved a video too.
    She was also known for her wit and sarcasm. As a result, Lady Olenna was popularly known as Queen of Thorns, in reference to Tyrell's secrecy - a rose - and his sharp and barbed comments. She seems to have a very dark sense of humor and likes to mock those around her, including her own family. Despite this, Olenna clearly loves her family, especially her grandchildren.

    • @francisthompson3772
      @francisthompson3772 Před 5 lety +9

      Thank you! Because we see a lot of events concerning her by Cersei's perspective, a lot of people seem to forget she's actually quite a good person!

    • @allllll5609
      @allllll5609 Před 5 lety

      *King's landing

    • @tracys169
      @tracys169 Před 4 lety +12

      I agree completely. Although I do think Margaery said "yes" to the engagement to Barantheon/Lannister partly due to her father's doing. I don't disagree that she liked the idea of being "the Queen." Even Olenna remarked how silly her son (M's father) for (paraphrasing here) insisting to play with the "Lions." Olenna (which I agreed with) definitely didn't think it was the best idea to get involved with a dangerous family like the Lannisters but they had to do the best they could.... I think The Tyrells managed to stay on top because of they didn't covet the 'ultimate' throne directly, they just want to secure a top position but not necessarily the number one.

    • @planetruther
      @planetruther Před 3 lety

      Reminds me of Megan Markle..

    • @SS-bu8ez
      @SS-bu8ez Před 3 lety +2

      @@planetruther No way. Megan Markle buldozes her way through with a smile. Maybe she's a combination of Cersei and Margaery.

  • @epayne6
    @epayne6 Před 6 lety +350

    Margery's best quality was, as stated, her ability to empathize with anyone.
    Her biggest flaw, failure of imagination. Not seeing the Red Sparrow for the insane ideology that he was, not seeing Cerci's true evil until it was too late, and not realizing that her family member would be butchered the way he was.

    • @GoldenRose116
      @GoldenRose116 Před 6 lety +54

      to be fair, its not like she could have done anything against either one, starting with season 5 she lost control of the situation and could only to some slight damage control (like her own release, let Olenna return and stop Loras's beatings)

    • @lilbihxxx1234
      @lilbihxxx1234 Před 5 lety +41

      Are we watching the same show? She tricked the High Sparrow into thinking she was influenced by his ideals. Guess she tricked you too...

    • @cassandramcbride7007
      @cassandramcbride7007 Před 5 lety +11

      Margaery was trying to control the situation by not having too much collateral damage. Like Olenna did, after Renly death and putting Margaery as joffrey wife, and dealing with Tywin and Tyrion. Unlike Cersei, Margeary was more controlled by High Sparrow. High Sparrow was in doubt about her believes, so he control and test her everytime. Margaery had septa unella at her side every day. She had no way to have information of Cersei moves before the explosion. Probably she didnt had any information about Cersei secret meetings or attempts to control small council. Margaery was completly in the dark, only having Tommen to manipulate at same time trying to Take Sept Unella of her shoes, by proving her loyalty to High Sparrow (This was things that Cersei didnt had to deal, she had more time to plan things) Plus, Marg had to deal with her brother torture and how to stop it and put him into safety. At that point, every Tyrell was in danger, thats why she send Olenna home. She had too many things to deal at same time. She did saw Cersei last move, but she was powerless against High Sparrow. (We do not know if Margeary could run away in safety, if High Sparrow had listen to her. Time is sometimes weird in GOT)

    • @feroze2887
      @feroze2887 Před 5 lety +23

      Everyone has forgotten how she pissed off Cersei when she suggested Tommen to send Cersei back to Casterly Rock and when she subtly threatened Cersei after the wedding. This was her first mistake after becoming queen which led her to loose control.
      Cersei saw through it immediately and decided to act. She knew that she is loosing control on Tommen and that Margaery as the new queen will take control and over shadow her in everything.
      Maergaery's fault is that she is not careful when circumstances seem favourable, especially with people like Cersei. She thought that becoming a queen was enough and that she is powerful and safe.

    • @gcg8187
      @gcg8187 Před 5 lety

      @@lilbihxxx1234 yeah lol

  • @joncheskin
    @joncheskin Před 5 lety +10

    Margaery played the game of thrones very well, and in fact used all of these techniques to great effectiveness. In the end, however, she was done in by a character that was more ruthless and plotting (Cersei). One of the main themes of the show is that people like Cersei are quite successful and people like Margaery are often vulnterable to a mistake or a moment of weakness.

  • @randomfox12245
    @randomfox12245 Před 4 lety +10

    As someone who worked in customer service over the phone for a year, I can tell you that example of you calling in and getting that extra help by just showing common decency and basic consideration makes all the difference in the world. I have bent over backwards to help customers who were understanding and patient with me despite their frustration at whatever they were calling in about, whereas by that same token i have been deliberately obtuse and difficult with customers who talked down at me
    The secret to getting people to do what you want is to just be nice to them

  • @shadowofdancingleaf
    @shadowofdancingleaf Před 6 lety +310

    Margaery is hands-down my favorite Game of Thrones character, and it's so great to see someone break down what exactly makes her such a great player in the game. All your videos are great, but this has to be my favorite so far. Nice work!

  • @derangedmaniac3827
    @derangedmaniac3827 Před 5 lety +131

    The same actress who played Anne Boleyn in the Tudors.

  • @ChildOfAshes1
    @ChildOfAshes1 Před 5 lety +18

    Margaery was the epitome of Queen!! She knew how to play the assholes around her to survive. She did it with such wit and grace. 💪🏼 So sad when she died. 💔

  • @harithulasidalamappo6937
    @harithulasidalamappo6937 Před 5 lety +124

    Us : Margery Tyrel is one of the most charismatic personality in GoT
    Olena Tyrel : Hold my wine
    😂😂😂😂

  • @artsmartanna
    @artsmartanna Před 6 lety +195

    Can I suggest to make video about Sansa? Everyone underestimates her. During seasons she was believed to be stupid girl with stupid dreams, she isn't a player. Of course, she has been learning so slowly, but it will be interesting to reveal her personal story

  • @insanecuckooman8342
    @insanecuckooman8342 Před 6 lety +522

    step 1: be margaery
    step 2: whatever, everyone will adore you.

  • @skyhope5105
    @skyhope5105 Před 5 lety +11

    When I watched and saw her character I knew that she was something beyond. I just couldn't figure her out. But she is something called a soft power. Stronger than any kind of force.

  • @myacct8304
    @myacct8304 Před 4 lety +13

    Wow, I do a lot of these things very naturally, out of genuine care....and I always thought (and was told) that I was weak and sensitive for it. Thank you for helping me realize that there is power in kindness :)

  • @inzommberznulest3184
    @inzommberznulest3184 Před 6 lety +93

    She's one of my favourite characters on GoT. The way she played the game is very smart and real.

  • @jackiesewanna3808
    @jackiesewanna3808 Před 6 lety +233

    But I wonder who decided all these body languages, the actress or the director

    • @synonymrolls8531
      @synonymrolls8531 Před 6 lety +69

      Both. We're talking about the character though, not the people behind Margaery, so it doesn't matter.

    • @thanhlytherapy
      @thanhlytherapy Před 6 lety +83

      I think it's about knowing the character and truly embodying them, the body language then follows as you are in character

    • @theresaz6119
      @theresaz6119 Před 5 lety +17

      Lady Olenna

    • @mulliganstew72
      @mulliganstew72 Před 5 lety

      director.

    • @kylieberk6220
      @kylieberk6220 Před 5 lety +2

      A good actress would most likely do it herself.

  • @Person01234
    @Person01234 Před rokem +17

    To be fair the same characteristics (particularly being able to empathise) meant she caught that Cersei was going to get rid of them better than anyone else in the room. "She knows there are consequences for not attending but she chose not to attend anyway, which means she doesn't intend to face those consequences".

  • @qualix7
    @qualix7 Před 5 lety +27

    I've always thought Margery was one of the most powerful characters in the series. She could have changed Westeros' fate for the better. The polar opposite of Cersi -- manipulation of people toward the collective good.

  • @corinnegaston8790
    @corinnegaston8790 Před 6 lety +105

    Great video! Although, I never considered Margaery Tyrell to be underrated. Everyone I've watched the show with and I have always gushed about how well she played the game, especially as a woman in that world. She loses her cool a couple times (SPOILERS: when Loras is taken prisoner and then with the High Sparrow at the trial in the Sept) and you can see her quickly rein it in because she knows that losing her temper won't get her what she wants. Kind, but a master manipulator. Brilliant character.

  • @honzanovak9135
    @honzanovak9135 Před 6 lety +592

    You should do hodor charisma breakdown

    • @umbraemilitos
      @umbraemilitos Před 6 lety +183

      Honza novák "Notice how Hodor hodors in this scene. Now this may not work for everyone, but when Hodor hodors, notice how people always listen."

    • @paulpincemin5700
      @paulpincemin5700 Před 6 lety +30

      Honza novák I try to hold the door for everyone. So his death is not for nothing.

    • @The482075
      @The482075 Před 5 lety +31

      I know this is a joke but you could do a video about him. He is a charming character with warmth and kindness. Due to his lack of speech, we the audience have only his body language and actions to go by.

    • @LetsStopThisSong
      @LetsStopThisSong Před 5 lety +7

      hodor? hodor.

    • @hollymoon21
      @hollymoon21 Před 5 lety

      hodor hodor hodor

  • @hendragnw26
    @hendragnw26 Před 5 lety +46

    Margaery is a great influencer, not everyone can copy her works. And only Batman is immune to her skills

    • @rohan_4dr
      @rohan_4dr Před rokem

      As a batman, i very much agree with you. Every time I watched her i felt there was something wrong. I felt uncomfortable while shes on screen.

  • @geovaniraffaelli4508
    @geovaniraffaelli4508 Před 4 lety +198

    Rule 1: Be attractive
    Rule 2: Don't be unattractive

  • @cisium1184
    @cisium1184 Před 5 lety +39

    2:02 This is why people have such intimate conversations in cars.

  • @flowfi13
    @flowfi13 Před 6 lety +84

    Not going to lie, I see a lot of myself in the way Margaery acts...never have I thought that the way I act was to influence people. It's surprising how far empathy can get you though. True empathy, not just feigned empathy with a hidden agenda, although I guess the latter can help you get what you want ultimately.

    • @lilbihxxx1234
      @lilbihxxx1234 Před 5 lety +15

      Me too. I always wondered why people easily open up to me and I mirror a lot of the same things she does in order to get to know people, but not having the intention of influencing them.

    • @queenbee7074
      @queenbee7074 Před 4 lety +3

      Fiona L true empathy doesnt work on psychopaths and a lot of people in management are pretty f’ed up

  • @feliceflanagan3077
    @feliceflanagan3077 Před 5 lety +2

    This is the best explanation of empathy I’ve ever heard. Most people think it’s sympathy but you got it spot on. 💜

  • @JFeldman22
    @JFeldman22 Před 2 lety +4

    Charlie, I am eternally grateful for your channel. I paid a life coach for a year, and while we made a huge amount of progression, these real life lessons as told through one of my favorite shows has really helped me grow as a man. Thank you.

  • @ddeloera
    @ddeloera Před 6 lety +25

    I've never visited this channel before, but I just had to click it as soon as I saw my love Margaery

  • @WWVND
    @WWVND Před 5 lety +30

    Before I even start watching this video, can I just say....
    I love how you can use Game of Thrones to break all these sorts of things down.
    This show and it's characters just does such a great job at these things.

  • @vissaerra
    @vissaerra Před 5 lety +17

    The sad thing about Margaery's death is that she died due to her love for her family. So this still shows, that you really need to abandon every bit of your humanity to completely manipulate someone.

  • @sethlaske6338
    @sethlaske6338 Před 3 lety +3

    I never noticed the problem solving versus emotional experience thing. It makes total sense I just needed to hear it in words to notice

  • @malikevans634
    @malikevans634 Před 5 lety +13

    When you look at all the small details and realize what they mean, you just appreciate the big picture so much more.

  • @cyberwriter21
    @cyberwriter21 Před 6 lety +52

    Cercei did that because she saw her younger self in Margeary, and she knew that she was a real treat to her.

    • @ichigo9464
      @ichigo9464 Před 3 lety +2

      True tho

    • @infjelphabasupporter8416
      @infjelphabasupporter8416 Před 3 lety +12

      ... I don't know. Cersei didn't seem very charismatic when she met the witch. She's a malignant narcissist, and the symptoms often begin in childhood. Therefore, her ego and anger must have always been in the way of making her an empathic manipulator like Margaery.

  • @MrCapr1945
    @MrCapr1945 Před 5 lety +5

    videos like this make me admire how well- written the show used to be...and then make me cry when I realise how they ruined it

  • @TheRookie2467
    @TheRookie2467 Před 2 lety +1

    Your personal story with that agent reminded me of a time I chatted with an agent through a chat room, when I was looking for a certain product but she doubled checked the inventory and they were out of stock. I still thanked and praised her for taking the time to try to help. She then told me she was nervous on telling me because other's were aggressive and would insult them with the news. I then told her that agent's can't solve our problems. We then ended the conversation by wishing each other a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year.

  • @janisl.6982
    @janisl.6982 Před 6 lety +723

    Please make one about Hitler's speaches and how he made the people follow him.

    • @roscoedash6673
      @roscoedash6673 Před 6 lety +105

      Very tough to explain charisma when you have language, culture, and time-period barriers.

    • @HamzahHusain_the_sexy_beast
      @HamzahHusain_the_sexy_beast Před 6 lety +1

      Benny Kreiler damn lol

    • @renze7133
      @renze7133 Před 6 lety +3

      Benny Kreiler awesome man!

    • @Red_Pill_
      @Red_Pill_ Před 6 lety +83

      youtube will flag him as a racist and delete his channel

    • @tesso.6193
      @tesso.6193 Před 6 lety +1

      interesting suggestion

  • @user-ok7gr2lw2j
    @user-ok7gr2lw2j Před 6 lety +54

    Wow! I was researching about Margaeey for couple of days and by the way I never watched the GOT. I just got interest on her. And you uploaded a video on her. Thanks!

  • @nateo200
    @nateo200 Před 3 lety

    I love this channel as it genuienly explains why I enjoy interacting with people even when it is uncomfortable or difficult!

  • @the_picsopedia
    @the_picsopedia Před 5 lety +1

    You forgot to mention how she smiles n makes the other person more comfortable in opening up to her. That's the most easy way to break the ice.

  • @FelipeVergara
    @FelipeVergara Před 6 lety +84

    Make a video about VARYS!

    • @nassorm5634
      @nassorm5634 Před 6 lety +2

      Felipe Vergara I agree.. He's the most interesting character for me.. The way he carries himself..

    • @roddo1955
      @roddo1955 Před 5 lety

      Varys cannot be quantified through conventional means.

  • @SupImJoeDaMan
    @SupImJoeDaMan Před 5 lety +17

    Was so mad when she died... she legit... was my favorite character.... so mad still.

  • @BucketWheat
    @BucketWheat Před 2 lety +2

    I never saw this Movie... but the 'lessons' you point out are wonderful!
    I do not try to "control" others... but I DO try to Encourage them, and that sometimes means being able to 'lead' them in a particular direction.

  • @kileygarrett2141
    @kileygarrett2141 Před rokem +2

    On Pacing and Leading - definitely a trick I use regularly, especially with customer service agents and other retail staff. Even on the side of the retail staff I used it on customers. I first learned about it under a different name while doing my undergraduate, can't recall at the moment, but its a good trick to use if you find someone getting increasingly frustrated with you. Never underestimate how much your attitude affects those you're interacting with.

  • @Earthling108
    @Earthling108 Před 6 lety +8

    Okay I paused at 12:08, it's absolutely crazy how you got your furniture delivered in 5 days after speaking so empathetically to the customer service representative. If it were my dad, he would have shown anger and frustration. HOW could things work like that with you? Goodness!! Wow. And by the way, I learned the same exact things through a doctor that I knew. God bless him! He taught me patient interaction and body language. I'm a pre-med by the way.

    • @woodsprite5
      @woodsprite5 Před 2 lety

      @Earthling108 "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar"--as the saying goes.
      And--way to study rapport with patients! Essential skill that was formerly vastly underrated. God bless YOU in your studies and your career.

  • @Skarletkombat
    @Skarletkombat Před 5 lety +6

    Margarey Tyrell was one of my favorite GoT characters. RIP Margarey Tyrell

  • @akaneshio6406
    @akaneshio6406 Před rokem

    This seems like a great way to just make a friend. Like, it's not pretending if you do wanna know things about them and actually empathize with them, it's just a more confident/controlled (you controlling YOURSELF, not them) conversation, so they still see who you are and you're not lying about anything

  • @Pamela-mj7db
    @Pamela-mj7db Před rokem +1

    Margeary knew how to use her beauty and intelligence. That's what I loved most about her.

  • @ArcasDevlin
    @ArcasDevlin Před 6 lety +191

    My boyfriend and I are the opposites on "gender-based interest gathering". I prefer to explain how things work and I am generally blunt. He is prone to be emotional and wants to be asked about his feelings. I am not contradicting the way it typically works, though I think it's society's fault that it works that way, only giving an example of one of those "this isn't always the case" things he mentioned.

    • @ivetastripeikaite307
      @ivetastripeikaite307 Před 5 lety +49

      I think it's important to mention that people aren't automatically more logical or emotional due to their gender. Rather it is heavily influenced by a person's upbringing and the society you reside in.

    • @zetaforever4953
      @zetaforever4953 Před 5 lety +17

      I think it's more about the thinking/feeling spectrum (MBTI) than about gender. Most men are thinkers and most women are feelers, hence those are the stereotypes. But what really matters is the temperament and not the gender itself.

    • @beamaeagsalud4428
      @beamaeagsalud4428 Před 5 lety +3

      Left/right brain dominance, hormones

    • @t091293
      @t091293 Před 4 lety +10

      @@zetaforever4953 I work as a clinical psychologist, trust me, it is just simply not true what you say lol

    • @zeroloda1311
      @zeroloda1311 Před 4 lety +1

      @@t091293 May I ask your opinion on the issue?

  • @giovannicilona9314
    @giovannicilona9314 Před 6 lety +325

    You should do Harvey Specter

    • @XavAlexandre
      @XavAlexandre Před 6 lety +9

      Agreed, though Harvey is quite the piece since he has what characters from GoT don't: the writers on his side.

    • @sonkad2
      @sonkad2 Před 6 lety +1

      Spartaco Boh YES!!!!

    • @codebreakerowns
      @codebreakerowns Před 6 lety +15

      Literally been trying to get Charlie to do Harvey Specter or Jessica Pearson for the past 6 months but he's on the GOT hype train right now instead. What I will say is dreams do eventually come true lol

    • @thaivunguyen8728
      @thaivunguyen8728 Před 6 lety +4

      So true. I would love to see charlie do analyst on harvey and jessica

    • @chitteshsham965
      @chitteshsham965 Před 6 lety +1

      correctly!

  • @bonniedoon4071
    @bonniedoon4071 Před 5 lety +1

    A lot of these methods are things I'm learning at university to become an effective Alcohol and drug councelor, it's amazing to see this kind of information on CZcams, good work!

  • @Tamingsouls
    @Tamingsouls Před 5 lety

    You have a great analysis, I had to agree with everything you explained without question because you sounded so respectful!

  • @MuffinsCrib
    @MuffinsCrib Před 6 lety +28

    She is drop dead gorgeous.

  • @janavanrossum6174
    @janavanrossum6174 Před 6 lety +5

    "We could arrange to have you carried" is the best line ever

  • @barbarac2014
    @barbarac2014 Před 5 lety

    Binging and busy taking notes, I appreciate you guys

  • @TruthofDilly
    @TruthofDilly Před 4 lety

    YOU and the way you explain this complex human act is simply the best my friend! Thank YOU 🙏

  • @chiffmonkey
    @chiffmonkey Před 5 lety +5

    The things you said about Pacing and Leading are quite interesting, it's something I've toyed with before but never really constructed such a good definition of it. There's a particular kind of dead-end argument that can be solved using it - an argument that only exists due to different word usage. And this technique is pretty much the only way to break the deadlock. Forget your own lexicon and use the other person's. Deconstructing their ideas using... their ideas.

  • @Forflies
    @Forflies Před 6 lety +75

    1 Million!! Huge congrats Charlie :D

  • @shanedaniel8954
    @shanedaniel8954 Před rokem +1

    Cool video dude. Your videos always have something actionable that I can try in real life. I really liked the example that you used with the lady at the moving company. And the side by side talking.

  • @saajr7400
    @saajr7400 Před 5 lety

    I found this video incredibly helpful as well as entertaining since we get to learn from a game of thrones character. I took notes, literally. I can already tell that by taking cues from her that my conversation's with other's have become better. Thank you for putting together this video, I appreciate you :).