HOW INFJs CHANGE THEIR LIFE IN A YEAR (this time for real)
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: What's your life purpose? People will say: To create the best possible future for yourself you have to do it through hard work, dedication, and perseverance. And as an INFJ it can be difficult to find that inner motivation sometimes but I always say: we are INFJs...we don't have to do "all the things" we just have to do the right thing. So let's figure out the few right things, so INFJs reach their potential and ideal goals.
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Let me help you out. INFJ are people who see Potential. However, they don’t have a very good sense of Possibility. Possibility is something an INFJ must take from an external source. Naturally we set out to find people that provide this information. Having both possibility and potential creates a stronger probability. Without both we don’t see a path forward. To give ourselves that desire to act on out goals we need to feel like there is a strong probability that it will happen. Find people who can provide this information and sense of Possibility. This becomes your purpose. All you need is to see that there is a possibility and that will drive you. Of course a bunch of INFJs are traumatized and they are afraid to move forward. This is why some of these people throw themselves at people. It’s our default reaction to trauma. The thing is that we need to throw ourselves at the right people. Only the right person will give an INFJ their sense of purpose. Embrace your dark side and find them.
Thanks for your wise words 👍
Spot on! For example if i want a good book to read, i would asked someone i think who read a lot and they would recommend me some and i will think that it is really a good book for me to read than to find it for myself. When i can also search and discover for a really good book for myself. Now that i am aware of it , do i really have to asked for it? I think?
What do you mean my embracing the dark side to find them? Can you explain please.
Also the right people will show us that we deserve to improve.
@@BeholdIamaNewCreation Wenzes has explained it before. An INFJs dark side is their willful ignorance about things that bring them recognition and reputation. It’s their shadow functions but their ENFP unconscious mind to be exact. All INFJ naturally avoid and are unable to develop this side of themselves without external aid. To attempt it only produces a sense of guilt and shame. It’s a built system that insures that you are interacting and relying on other people. Normally we seek out the person or people that make us aware of this side of us. Many INFJ aren’t fortunate enough to have these connections. These unfortunate people have acquired a sense that they are selfish. We know we need to be inspirational people but the act is so selfish we don’t want to do it but we need to otherwise we die inside. To embrace your dark side is to admit to yourself what it is you need and act upon that selfish desire as shamelessly as you can. Take care of your needs and everyone else can go fuck themselves.
I changed my life in a year. Quit my lousy job, cancelled my high rent, sold my stuff, moved back in with my parents, applied for a PhD and moved abroad.
11 months ago I started learning about MBTI, psychology, that I am an INFJ, and a few other things. Already I am nearing being able to take it to the next level. We INFJs are truly amazing in how our minds work. Other people are confused by it, have no understanding of it, and I only remain silent when they ask. For this 11 months, I have gone through awakening after awakening, at first the awakenings shocked me but over time, I got used to them. In only nearly a year, I have had so many awakenings that I'm not sure many people could handle it. I know I was overdue for at least most of them so it is what it is. I have always favored honesty but I find myself becoming more and more brutally honest lately. I am realizing those that deserve my empathy over those that don't. I know my life was never supposed to be as ordinary as it has been. I didn't know what direction to go in nor why I was how I was. It is funny how learning about the INFJ opened so many doors, especially learning I was one. I can see all the doors in my head and wow, that's allot. I feel a year is exactly what we need for what we need to push us to the next level.
@Light Shines Thank you, I admit that when I started, I truly felt it was going to take longer but I knew I couldn't stay where I was. Darkness and pain only by staying in the same place. I needed my light, and I found that pretty fast actually. It is funny that my light gets brighter the deeper I dive. I wasn't able to stay on the surface, the storms were ripping me apart. You don't have to worry about those storms from underneath the surface. Every since I found out about being an INFJ I can't wait to see how far I can go and whom I'll become. I no longer fear what I am capable of, because I know I'll do what I must for the right reasons.
How did u do that,I mean the awakening,pls help
@@faridaalao1941 To tell you the truth I'm not fully sure myself. I just kept learning about what kept me down, what blocked my path, what held me back. It eventually clicked and so many have happened since. But it wasn't only about my problems I learned about that brought me to my many awakenings, it was also learning about the things I love and have a passion for. I just constantly learned and didn't stop. I think that is what brought it all on for me. I know it could be different for everyone but I think for us, it is pretty similar. I have no doubt you will find how to trigger your awakenings.
@@faridaalao1941 Oh, and one more thing, do not rush it, time is needed for the best things in life, but for us INFJs, it comes quicker if you don't rush at all.
@@nickolaszissimos1189 thanks bro,similarly I av been learning nonstop too,d fact that I av acknowledge myself is a big one for me,I know every other thing will fall in place soon.
Atomic Habits reads that all we need to feel better is to change a pattern by just 1%, like airplanes do, changing their total destination.
@ Luisa Cordero . Thanks for that reminder. I'm going for increments of 1%. Hope that'll work...!
You're so on point. Energy management is essential. Being aware what drains and what energizes us.
What's been helping me:
- not forcing myself to "be more social" (it's what society tells us, it doesn't work well for us INFJs), remember to always put your needs first, lot of people will never understand how our brains work. Just give yourself permission to be yourself (i.e. INFJ) ❤️
- good sleep routine (going to bed at the same time, getting up at the same time)
- low sugar, low caffeine (1 coffee in the morning, 1 green tea in the afternoon), no alcohol, good diet (that includes quality fish)
- exercise (2-3 times per week) it helps with learning that in order to have results you need consistency, you cannot push yourself too hard and it takes time to get to a desired level of fitness - there are no shortcuts.
- cold showers (not forcing it too much tough)
- journalling
- staying away from dopaminergic activities such as video games, TV/Netflix and most importantly porn (advice for men: as INFJ you have great imagination, use it, don't condition your brain to porn plus for us INFJs there's no meaning in it and it makes us very low once we use it - that way you will have way more motivation/energy to start dating and finding a real partner)
- reading (usually in the morning, not forcing it though)
- not bottling up/suppressing your emotions, cry when you need to, listen to your emotions as they often will be using a lot of your energy just to get your attention (mindfulness/meditation and/or therapy is very helpful)
- checking physical health with the doctor (don't minimise your symptoms, listen to your body)
- avoiding conflict/cutting off toxic relationships (they can drain a lot of our energy)
- educational/inspiring/helpful videos on CZcams like this one 😎 instead of watching cat videos/memes for hours on end 😂
- not being too hard on myself (we INFJs are often prone to burnout: been there many times and learnt a lesson: it's easier to prevent it than to deal with the very ugly aftermath)
Yes, we INFJs have amazing vision, we just often struggle with executing it therefore it's necessary for us to have an action plan which include long term strategy where we have to take baby steps.
If you struggle with motivation or afraid to take action, remember this: you only live once, you have just one shot at it, make the most of it, don't waste your life, us INFJs we have a beautiful gift, we just need to learn how to use it and how to protect it.
I am 51 years old. There have been to many things in my life that I wasted my time on or I let go of the wrong things for the wrong reason. The best advise in this video was the manage your energy and don't be so hard on yourself. I will work on the things you say and get through these hard times. No more putting myself down. I know that grieving for ones life is and I am tired of feeling that pain and heaviness that comes with it. I will get right back up on that horse and show it who's boss. Fate can kiss my tooshie
Yeah, I have learned that, or at least in the process of learning it right now. I am 38, but it doesn't really matter the age, does it. As long as we learn, we will make it through. There is always something an obstacle the way, we can figure out the best way for us to get past that obstacle.
@@nickolaszissimos1189 yes we will
@@michelledrake5055 Damn straight
I relate to this being 57 and experiencing the feeling of wasting my life on minutiae and expecting myself to do "all of the things". Best wishes. ❤️
Be careful of that backslide INFJs every time I get really far ahead by following this kind of advice. I am feeling great. I'm advancing and not overburdened or overwhelmed at all, no toxicity to rid and then woop. Down that slide I go right back where I started. It's the biggest vulnerability that I have ever found and I recommend looking up the INFJ backslide.
Yes...its like a cycle of excitment and emptiness
No matter where you go, there you are.
I am starting this journey. Have known I was an INFJ for about 8 years now. Learned a lot from other channel's videos and from some written articles on the web. But you are the first "coach" who lives up to that moniker. You are not just explaining our unconventional personality but actively encouraging us to move forward. That is exactly what I need now. Thank you for all your recent videos and how much they have helped. Also your free downloads. Moving forward.
When I was a kid I wanted to grow up and have a different job every day. So I had 66 different employers between 16 and 40 yrs old. Now that I am retired (medical) I have time to work on creating something that allows me to do something different almost every day.
When I was a teenager, in addition to the obvious goal of becoming a husband and father, I also wanted to participate in every level of life....a lifetime of commitment to its exploration. Mission accomplished. No family though....just a house with a bunch of cars.
I have just decided to start a bulgarian INFJ and MBTI channel. We have channels about psychology, but not about MBTI and INFJ stuff so it's about time for that and by this video right in such a moment I ask myself is this topic some kind of a sign for me that I will build my epic life this way, by giving voice to my struggles instead of keeping them inside and worsen my quality of life and in the same time inspire other people. One thing is for sure and that is we need to talk about what we feel and with what we are not satisfied from our current life either with our own selfs or with someone trustfull with the idea that we will need changes that we will want to avoid, but it will be inavitable for us to change our lifes without them. That is the first and most important step, everything else will come automatically.
Sometimes we can get an idea that something would be good for us but it’s either not the right time or several things need to happen first. Over five years ago, I became interested in a position at work but found out that I needed a specific degree for it. So I stepped back and focused on other things but tried to change my job in other ways. Eventually, a new certificate program was offered which was less money and more flexible for classes. Just a few months ago, I landed the job I wanted at the location I wanted. It was such a long process but it was worth it. Start with what you have so you’re ready to go for an opportunity when it opens up.
The one change which could be referred to as "coming out of my comfort zone" is for me to approach women in order to maybe meet that "one". Yet, I have not been leaning forward to do that since I have been cautious and working on other significant improvements and projects. I'm confident that I am capable of being a good partner with someone. My hope is will she be capable of being a good partner. Patience is a virtue.
Thanks Wenzes, I do feel like my life is summarized so well by your words. In my past I led a life of escapism. Often feeling overwhelmed by the potential I see with my vision for life.
In my head I’m the president, or the next Batman, or a million dollar business owner and philanthropist. But struggle in the real world just getting to bed on time and up at a reasonable time.
This last year has been excruciating if I’m honest. Because I lost my whole family, wife and kids. I have been through so much trauma. So the thought of creating another life is a bit daunting.
I grieve the thoughts of this life in my head that I can create so easily. While in reality, I’m far from those dreams. The curve ball is, are those visions even possible? If so, do I even entertain them?
It’s like I’m cutting myself off from the dopamine hit of fantasy. Which is also the my source for inspiration. It’s like, how do I remain open to possibility, if that same realm is also toxic fantasy.
I know I’ve been so hard on myself. Comparing myself to others, envy, and then self-loathing. Anyway, I decided today I need to be kind to myself. And start with small habits.
Being homeless was hard. Losing my wife and kids was even harder. Losing my job for the 13th time was terrible. But losing my own self-confidence was the worst.
Thank you for putting into words what I’ve been dealing with for a long time. 😢. If I’m honest, I’m a tad jealous that you have figured out your purpose and followed it making it look seem less.
Because what I want is the same for me. Im cut off from all toxic people including most of my family. I have downloaded the 5 pillars poster. Perhaps I can start with my sleep patterns and go from there.
Thank you so much for this.
I have a reactive dog and already feel so much less of a failure by just understanding things now.
I got a lot of education on the topic, personal trainer and everything. Yet, nothing worked. I knew I wasn’t stupid, so what was the problem?
After years and years, I found out yesterday through your videos actually, that I love experiencing the dog walk through his eyes. By just doing my part, I “lose” the dog experience, but it’s such a good price to pay.
Today on our walk he listened so well to me and trusted me, just because I did my part, nothing more. Feels like totally ignoring him as an infj but I know it’s not the truth.
Thank you for this video, so encouraging ❤ many of us struggling to get somewhere in life often not having the energy or confidence to cope like other people. I often feel like a total failure and that what others have just wasn't meant for me , I'm watching my self talk and realise it's too negative and I'm not being kind to myself. I will watch this video again as a reminder that I should not give up and take more action x
Best video yet Wenzes, and I've watched a lot! Thank you for taking the time to break things down. I really need to internalise the goal setting and celebrating the little wins 👍🏾❤️
Thank you for this video. I truly wish the best life to all my fellow INFJs
Amazing video Wenzes! Your videos are always so thorough, relatable, and helpful. Thanks for all that you do for us INFJ's! 🙂🌹❤👍🏼
thank you
I've always got loads of energy always ,,life is just a f up ,people are nasty n sneaky
Awesome video!! 👍🤘😃
Wenzes loves to drop that INFJ fire content! 🙌
Thank you for your work.
This is beyond helpful!
That’s Universal Law: what you focus on expands. I am beginning to see an improvement all spanning from better sleep leading to better mornings where I am hardly late anymore! 🙏🏽
From today yes I am ☺️ going to list down my gratitudes though smal but I gonna try it and you are right I should track my steps of my epic life ... Hopefully 🤞I can come out of my mind and can take some actions...✔️
Thank you.❤
Excellent video! Very helpful
Spot on...
I enjoy your videos, I find them inspiring. Thank you.
Just recently discovered your channel. Love your videos and they bring me so much light as an INFJ and especially now being a mom to be. I feel the power inside of me more than ever, but still becomes difficult at times because I am an INFJ. Watching your videos helps me use the tools I have has helped me so much! Thank you! 🙏🏼💫🧿♥️🌱🧘🏻♀️🦋
Thank you for the insights...baby steps better than being stuck!
I've started a year of moving ahead not quite a month and a half ago - on my birthday. (I have found that "year" plans work more effectively that way).
Also, l'm allowing myself to enjoy the "process" of achieving what I want. My goals haven't changed a lot, but sharpening the process can make it even better. This video is an encouragement to keep doing what I'm doing and picking out new hints to make a good thing better.
This will be a good video to review!
Thank you
Awesome, Wenzes! Awesome! VERY good explanation. Sincere, and realistic. You always are. Thank you! BTW: Your latest background colors, etc. flatters you! Respectfully, Ocho 8.
🤔Bein' a trailblazer has always been easier for me than follow the beaten path / status quo.
I guess it has to do with me refusin' to belong to a group if I don't have to.
So the 1st thing I did was figure out the minimum amount of hours I've to work to survive financially. Now I only work 6 hours a day and am free to do whatever I want with the rest of the day.
😎I prefer working for someone instead of becoming an independant artist or create my own company, cauz I realised I needed a job to force myself to get out of my own head and confront reality.
I could've become a successful artist, but that would also mean locking myself up in my own ivory tower ie. my art which is not always healthy.
Having success would then mean bein' surrounded by yes-men, which would eventually mean being unchallenged which could turn into a toxic environment.
🧠I guess I've always looked for my perfect work-life balance.
This was brilliant, as always. Right on target with what i needed to hear. Thank you so much for investing your energy into helping the rest of us be better. ❤😊
I understand all of this, but I really wish my perfectionist ADHD brain would catch up on that and make it easier to accept those smaller steps and keep going. I'm still doing better since I saw your video on...what was it? getting 4% better?
Maybe I'll watch this and that previous video again over the next week and see if that'll help.
The things you talk about in the video are tragic. Lives that never started. And even though the pursuit of life was there, the few got there.
During this year, I do feel I have changed a ton and reinvented myself. You never know where the journey ends, when you are blazing new trails.
I like how, "Alex Hormozi" puts it, "If you're trying to build a bridge you need all the necessary skills to build each part and if its not getting built successfully its because you are lacking a complete set of skills".
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very interesting and learnable video.
domo-arigato👍🇯🇵
I am ADD/ADHD combo and my personality type is INFJ. Medication, meditation, and manifestation of One’s personality into reality. Step by step…
I'm working on launching my business 3yrs now, it still not there... there so many things to learn!! But I have accomplished really a lot... Even though people often say if you don't do it now you'll never do it, I just keep going...
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You should watch Jessy Cabrera because your perfect looking too
How do I share my INFJ with my adult children ? How do I explain , to them , how I function ?
Do u have a Discord?
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Calling all INFJs! I want to interview you with some questions! PM me for more info and here is a video of my thoughts! Thank you and look forward to hearing from you soon :)
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Lady Wenzes :
What's with the 🌈 .
I see it in my places....?
Thank you, Wenzes! This video inspired me and helped to restart my efforts all over again!