INFJ LIFE COACH | ACCELERATE YOUR LIFE THROUGH EXTRAVERTED SENSING (SE)

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  • čas přidán 26. 08. 2024

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  • @Wenzes
    @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +12

    What are some of your biggest hurdles when it comes to accessing your SE`?

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +13

      I understand that, put pissing people off is sort the byproduct you can't remove. Stepping into your SE means making YOUR vision a reality. It is hard and draining but you reenergize and do it again. With time your reality looks more and more like your vision and you will realize it takes less and less energy to move forward. You become stronger AND there is less and less resistance because your reality already looks so much like you would like your NI.
      Best thing I ever did.

    • @kompassi4294
      @kompassi4294 Před 4 lety +4

      Talking. I am wondering how should I express myself to others so that I wont get hurt. I do it anyway, but becouse I do it I can see that the fear dont go away. I would love to hear your viewpoint on how to have a conversation and infj's weaknessess, strenghts and developement and is there a differences between infj male and female conversations.
      And btw, this video was a blessing. This is exactly what I go through: developing Se. I have been going to different groups and have seen great developement in a fairly short time. Started gym, made a budget, read about boundaties and applying them, planning future, cleaning my house, eating well, planning career etc. I am starting to really feel and see differences of people, but my obstacle is getting to know people outside on the group. I see almost always one person that resonates and I would like to know more from them. I just realised this. So I should initiate. I am also a man, so maybe men particularly should initiate? As an infj male i am sensitive, but I see the high intuition is a benefit, becouse I can also see more easily to whom I can approach safely.
      Thank you, this video really touched me.

    • @karinavintimilla-figueroa6844
      @karinavintimilla-figueroa6844 Před 2 lety

      So helpful. Thank you so much.

    • @Ajuar1
      @Ajuar1 Před 2 lety

      HI WENZES,
      WOW. I AM SO INSPIRED BY YOUR VIDEOS. THERE R SO MANY VIDEOS OUT THERE TALKING ABOUT INFJ BUT YOURS IS TRULY OUTCLASS. FAR AHEAD. YOU ARE DOING EXTREMELY GREAT WORK. CONGRATS.
      IN YOU AND WHAT YOU SPEAK, I CAN SEE MYSELF AND YOU RIGHTLY SAID, SE IS MY BIGGEST OBSTACLE.
      BUT IN ONE WAY I FEEL A LITTLE DIFFERENT FROM WHAT YOU NARRATED OR MAYBE I UNDERSTOOD YOU WRONG. I AM A BUSINESSMAN, IN A FAMILY BUSINESS IN INDIA AND UAE.
      EVEN THOUGH EVERYONE COMES TO ME FOR ADVICE SOLUTIONS, COUNSELLING ETC, THEY ALL KNOW VERY WELL, HOW SLOW I AM WITH MY ACTIONS. LOL.
      MOST OF THEM TAKE MY ADVICE OR STRATEGIES MOST OF THE TIME. BUT MOST OF THE TIME THEY ARE ALL WORRIED ABOUT THE ACTION OR IMPLEMENTATION PART ON MY SIDE.
      SO WHEN I FINALLY WITH A LOTS OF EFFORT GET TO MY SE MODE AND START TO IMPLEMENT, THEY ARE ALL SO HAPPY & IMPRESSED RATHER THAN GETTING AWAY FROM ME. I AM HERE REFERRING TO MY PARENTS, PARENTS-IN-LAW, OUR MANAGEMENT LEVEL MANAGERS ETC.
      THEY ALWAYS COME IN AND SAY THAT ONCE AJU GETS INTO ACTING MODE, THERE'S NO STOPPING UNTIL HE COMPLETES THE TASK WHICH MANY OF THEM THOUGHT IMPOSSIBLE OR VERY DIFFICULT. THEY FEEL, I HAVE MANAGED IT WITH SO MUCH EASE, WHAT THEY THOUGHT, MAY NOT BE POSSIBLE.
      THEN THEY ALSO ADD AND SAY THAT AJU ONCE GETS ON SOMETHING, HE IS UNSTOPPABLE BUT HE NEEDS TO HAVE THE INTENTION TO START IN THE FIRST PLACE.
      BUT MY ACTUAL ISSUE IS NOT WITH MY INTENTION. I HAVE THE INTENTION MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE BUT ITS ALL TO DO WITH MY SE PROBLEM WHICH I TRULY UNDERSTAND NOW. THANKS, A TON TO YOU WENEZES.
      WHAT I MEANT TO IMPRESS HERE IS THAT I MOST OF THE TIME FELT PEOPLE GETTING CLOSER TO ME AND HAPPY FOR ME WHEN I GET TO MY SE MODE, BUT WITH FEW EXCEPTIONS WHEN I HAVE A DIFFERENCE OF OPINION WITH THEM, AND I GET TO MY SE MODE.
      THE HAPPY PEOPLE ARE ALSO MOST OF THE TIME WHO ARE ALSO BENEFICIARIES OF MY SE MODE.
      I M SOMEONE WHO SUFFERS GREATLY BECAUSE OF MY INFERIOR SE MODE.
      DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH OF DIFFICULTY I HAD TO START PENNING DOWN THIS REPLY? LOL.
      I AM SUCH A WELL-WISHER OF YOURS AND YOUR TALKS HAVE GREATLY HELPED ME IN UNDERSTANDING MYSELF EVEN THOUGH I AM NOT SURE IF I AM AN INFJ IN THE FIRST PLACE. YOU KNOW VERY WELL HOW MUCH I WANT YOU TO KNOW ABOUT WHAT I FEEL, YET I FOUND IT SO DIFFICULT TO GET STARTED WITH THIS REPLY, THEN IMAGINE, WITH MY USUAL WORK. AND I WANT YOU TO KNOW HOW MANY DIFFICULTIES I FACED.
      JUST AS MUCH DIFFICULTY YOU HAD IN TAKING A SHOWER, WEARING YOUR MAKEUP, AND DOING YOUR FIRST VIDEO.
      THIS IS WHAT I FEEL IS THE BIGGEST OBSTACLE IN MY LIFE. THANKS, A TON ONCE AGAIN, AND SORRY IF WAS TOO LONG.
      ALL THE BEST WENZES. YOU ARE DOING AN AMAZING, AMAZING JOB. HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON.

    • @jessmason2112
      @jessmason2112 Před rokem

      Cash and Labor. Besides the egomaniac "want to be thugs from the neighborhood who are cowards and like to hack and stalk because they are cowards".

  • @Godisgreatamen999
    @Godisgreatamen999 Před 4 lety +19

    I always wanted people to make me successful. For years I was relying on people

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +5

      We grow and we learn 👍😊

    • @bribai82
      @bribai82 Před rokem

      Interested to know what helped you overcome this?

    • @Godisgreatamen999
      @Godisgreatamen999 Před rokem +2

      @@bribai82 I built something myself from the ground up. My other problem was I would rush into things, I didn't have a problem with the work, it was just the direction. I took time to consider and asked for advice. Then when I started I knew I was on the right path and didn't get distracted and just relied on myself

  • @striderwolf687
    @striderwolf687 Před 3 lety +13

    This is why I love this channel vs. any other INFJ ones. All the rest are ok and provide info on understanding ourselves, but that’s about it. Most of the time it’s commiserating about being an INFJ.
    This is a great video that is the opposite! Love it!

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 3 lety +4

      so happy to read that :)

  • @jeannined7532
    @jeannined7532 Před 3 měsíci

    As an INFJ, If you are ready to accept personal responsibility for your life and challenge your codependency, this is THE best CZcams channel for you! Wenzes, your insight about the motivations that drive the INFJ personality are so spot on, and the willingness to pivot to SE inferior function is exactly what I need. It's a direct challenge and a humbling experience for my perfectionism, to explore the magic door that is SE. To be conpletely ok to be adequate in this SE function and not excellent jkicks toxic shame to the curb! Thank you!

  • @sxcow
    @sxcow Před 4 lety +18

    It’s true i dedicated 2019 to improve my health and train for 5k and I didn’t even have time to listen to my friends complain and wanting emotional support because it took a lot of energy and time to even recover from them. After the 5k I realized that kind of relationship was only weighing me down and I’m more careful with my energy and where I put it now I want to tap into business … thanks for the video xo

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +3

      👏👏👏 great 👍

  • @chrisw9122
    @chrisw9122 Před 4 lety +5

    Your advice about creating time to hang out with friends, gave me anxiety lol. I can't hang out with myself? Way cooler conversation. Also,I have noticed on dates I switch into SE, because the person isn't talking. Getting ready to go out is big deal for me since I only go out twice year. So I make the most out of the dates (I get their whole life story and assess the compatibility). They then say, "You are introverted?" I am indeed, but sitting in silence with a stranger while atmospheric SE is all around is pure torture, so I talk to fill space. I guess I have been creating vaccums all these years. I have dated an ENFJ (I asked him to take the test lol), he was fun to hang out with very different from my usual dates. They are like walking amusement parks. Very entertaining and warm. Great video, btw.#intj

  • @lxf9914
    @lxf9914 Před 4 lety +13

    You describe this so well and I enjoy your insight. It is good to have a fellow INFJ on the road of life and of the same mindset. Thanks for your insight!
    The best way into Se for me has been simply to get the blood pumping. I run and lift weights. There is nothing better for me than that even just a few times a month. lol no joke it still works.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +4

      It doesn’t have to be much, but tapping into SE will make a huge difference 👍 happy you are taking care of yourself

    • @khorLDW
      @khorLDW Před 4 lety +2

      I've been doing this too. Helps a bit.

  • @khorLDW
    @khorLDW Před 4 lety +7

    I need dis. Seriously, I started realizing this a few months ago, the necessity to work my Se. I'm doing it gradually and always evaluating specific experiences after time. Thanks for the video.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +4

      Glad the video gives you another push in the right direction for you 👍👍👍 consistency and small wins over and over again. You got this!

  • @JaykKeyyan
    @JaykKeyyan Před 2 lety +2

    Wow, thats the story of my life. You help make me see better.

  • @deborahwolff5651
    @deborahwolff5651 Před 2 lety +2

    I really needed this video, thank you. I'm looking forward to using my SE vision of what I can achieve,

  • @ruanvandenberg3901
    @ruanvandenberg3901 Před 4 lety +8

    Another wow video Wenzes! How would you summarise SE in a sentence or two? Love the fact that you point out our NI will function on autopilot because it is a core identity thing. We never have to worry that we will lose that..if I know I have compassion that is part of me and I do not have to work to flow in it. The erroneous notion we have is that if I stand up for myself, that means I am no longer demonstrating compassion... we need to grow a thicker skin to make our impact as infj actors. Thanks for giving language to these issues !

  • @EllaDuncan_
    @EllaDuncan_ Před 4 lety +7

    I am all about every aspect of this video. I’m working on my Se now. This is the piece of the puzzle that’s been elusive to me for so long bc I got so far into my head and my perception my Ni took over my life. And then I knew exactly what you were saying w the Fe going haywire too lol... So yeah, one step at a time. 💜 Thanks for the moreso actionable applicable insights on this. You’ve done the work it’s really cool to see as an example. I’m on the way!!! Love your channel!

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +1

      Woohoo!! Happy you are taking care of yourself and taking control of your life 👍 way to go 👏👏

  • @johanneswicklein4975
    @johanneswicklein4975 Před 4 lety +8

    I never felt so personally attacked my entire life. You actuall tell me to stop being an invisible ghost by filling my body with myself?
    Absolutely heretic!👻

  • @fiction589
    @fiction589 Před rokem +1

    I am Infj and have an Infj friend, and she even has an Infj sister. The other day we sat on a table and I expected some really deep conversations, but ... we were scratching surface only. 😅 everyone guarded, trying not to let others look too deeply into her soul. Really, I have formed much stronger and fulfilling relationships with extroverts. They open up easily and that drags me to open up, too. Another Infj friend may understand you very well, but 2 reluctant people holding back all the time, that is really not a too great dynamic 🤣
    By the way, she has a lovely extroverted husband, i think Esfp, and my bf is Enfj. It works fine.😁

  • @TyGee777
    @TyGee777 Před 2 lety +1

    This is the epitome of a real life coach! My goodness this is just phenomenal!

  • @AudeSeyntMartinTheINFJlawyer

    Great. Video made me realised the underlying reasons of my past romantic relationships

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +1

      Glad it‘s helpful Aude 😊👍👍👍

  • @souflondon1
    @souflondon1 Před 4 lety +3

    thank you for living an epic life. leading by example.

  • @ocho8172
    @ocho8172 Před rokem

    Outstanding, and VERY inspirational! Thank you, Wenzes!

  • @caentaurili
    @caentaurili Před 2 lety +1

    Oh this explains so much!!!

  • @lindateuling7862
    @lindateuling7862 Před 4 lety +4

    Watching and listening to this video made me think about my own experience with the teaching profession. Teaching grounded me. I learned to give of myself in a constructive, practical way. ( I made a lot of choices before I knew much about Myers Briggs in general and SE in particular.) This video was an uplifting experience, as it made me realize that most of my choices were right! 🙂

  • @scottlurken9667
    @scottlurken9667 Před rokem

    I get it. Brilliant bit of information. Certainly a window or door out of that hole I have dug for myself soooooo many times.😊😊😊❤😊😊😊

  • @sergiosotomayor2685
    @sergiosotomayor2685 Před 2 lety +1

    Hey! I really like your channel, I wanted to share that I struggle with assertiveness recently as I just found out what you talk about in the video, that I realized how it was always the other story and not mine... thank you for your advice!

  • @WillBlacksilver
    @WillBlacksilver Před 3 lety +1

    2:06 - Now I know why the right side of my head feels so heavy.

  • @xtalking2501
    @xtalking2501 Před 4 lety +2

    I feel like I will need to watch this video couple of times more, so good, and exactly what I needed to hear.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +1

      So happy the video is helpful!!! Yes, watch it a couple of times. There is always something new we learn when we rewatch, re-listen or re-read something that resonates with us.

  • @marycain5668
    @marycain5668 Před 4 lety +1

    Ahh so now I understand....why I hate falling in 💕love loosing ⚡control lol

  • @jamielah976
    @jamielah976 Před 3 lety +1

    I absolutely loved this.

  • @promitadas1450
    @promitadas1450 Před 4 lety +1

    This video is exactly what I needed! I realized the points you made by myself in an abstract sense but you really put it into words!

  • @fredengaymusic7242
    @fredengaymusic7242 Před 3 lety +1

    I love it wenze. Thank you so much!!!

  • @DandinXY
    @DandinXY Před 4 lety +4

    Awesome that you did this video now. I've been studying these concepts of Hod and Netzach in Kabbalah, and they seem to mirror Ni and Se closely if not exactly. With these two studies side by side I can really see how relevant Ni and Se are to relationships; and your graphic of their levels at the beginning show that well. And the concept of energy contributing to both as well - maybe energy =/= Fi but it seems related

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +1

      👍👍

    • @mgdkns6678
      @mgdkns6678 Před 3 lety +1

      Please explain how it reflects in Hod and Netzach! I am fascinated by Kabbalah but I understand only the basis, let’s say. Thank you so much!

    • @DandinXY
      @DandinXY Před 3 lety +1

      @@mgdkns6678 At first I viewed the Ni-Se relationship as being more like Keter to Malkut in Kabbalah, and in some sense I still do. But Keter to Malkut is like a complete manifestation from imagination into physical matter reality, which can happen in many ways and within individuals of all different sociotypes. So Keter to Malkut is a different dimension of its own. Now, there are some new isomorphisms I have noted between cognitive functions and sephirot, and I have a little drawing of them. I will upload and link to show this diagram...

    • @DandinXY
      @DandinXY Před 3 lety +1

      @@mgdkns6678 ibb.co/Pgwwj1v Ok, here is my diagram. The Fi/Te axis is not listed with Kabbalah equivalents here; I’ve had ideas on why that might be, but at this time I cannot detail them. There are also some ideas about how brain chemicals might be mapped within this system of isomorphisms

    • @DandinXY
      @DandinXY Před 3 lety

      @@mgdkns6678 Tiferis and Yesod may indeed be Fi and Te respectively, leaving Keter, Malkut, and Da’at the hidden sephirot as the three sephirot that go beyond cognitive functions into other dimensions of manifestation

  • @AbdulazizMaiof
    @AbdulazizMaiof Před 4 lety +2

    thank you for your helpful videos.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +3

      My pleasure 😊👍

  • @SykeeNot
    @SykeeNot Před 4 lety +1

    Awesome channel.Hard work always wins in the end👍🏼

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +1

      Glad you like it :)

  • @zidanethalib
    @zidanethalib Před 4 lety +3

    8:55 was so true. Thanks.

  • @DandinXY
    @DandinXY Před 4 lety +2

    This is the first time I have seen the stat - 10k subs! Good job Wenzes :)

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +1

      Thanks Dandin 😊

  • @davorinrusevljan6440
    @davorinrusevljan6440 Před 4 lety +2

    What the heck is that SE? I mean real world example, what it is responsibče for, and how it works?

  • @naturelover1284
    @naturelover1284 Před rokem

    If we attract insecure people...do they sense it before they even meet you? It seems initial conversations are the most crude and uncomfortable. When a busybody corners you as a new toy to bat around I sense she somehow feels you are better than her. For she calms down when she finds out enough to know she is better somehow in societies expectations. I find if you stroke their ego they leave you alone. If they feel your life is a mess they move on sooner. It is better to just lie about your family for safety, and a job.

  • @lauraelzey6371
    @lauraelzey6371 Před 4 lety +2

    I almost feel that your explaining the dance between a narcissist and a codependent. It’s hard for me to be the alpha even though I know I could. Is a good way to to explain Se as kind of like a Neanderthal or a totompole* in a way? Not saying that in a mean way but like “surviving” instead of thriving?
    I feel like I Know how to thrive but I don’t follow through with all of that understanding

  • @etherealrosegold
    @etherealrosegold Před 2 lety

    As an infj Muslim woman, prayer to Allah (God) really helps organising my vision and even praying that I put in the effort...as we know what we should do, but to actually doing it...hmm

    • @Estranger344
      @Estranger344 Před měsícem

      & zikr before helps to counter Ni-Ti Loop

  • @NL-st2ul
    @NL-st2ul Před 4 lety +1

    You are so beautiful Wenzes. And I love your house and your videos (not just the content but visually). Thank you for sharing your insights:)

  • @alicem3642
    @alicem3642 Před 4 lety +1

    Thank you

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +1

      you're welcome 😊 glad the video was helpful!

  • @spencercooper2258
    @spencercooper2258 Před 4 lety +1

    Thank You 💰💰💰

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +1

      You're more than welcome :)

  • @LostSoulAscension
    @LostSoulAscension Před 3 lety

    16:12 woah, this part is so interesting!

  • @alshimasalah1813
    @alshimasalah1813 Před 2 lety

    💙❤️

  • @Khushi-xv6ey
    @Khushi-xv6ey Před 3 lety

    personal time stamps - 19:08
    25:29

  • @shoestring9964
    @shoestring9964 Před 2 lety

    25:15

  • @TyGee777
    @TyGee777 Před 2 lety

    👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏...

  • @pressure609
    @pressure609 Před 4 lety +2

    My biggest challenge is leaving my comfortable bed.😋😎
    'Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway.' R.D.Jr.

    • @Wenzes
      @Wenzes  Před 4 lety +4

      😉 just make sure you really are doing what you want and are really just smiling and not putting yourself in your own jailcell

  • @beniditolevu1074
    @beniditolevu1074 Před 2 lety

    I was just stuck in the 5 minute range for about an hour coz I was getting so distracted 😅

  • @jessmason2112
    @jessmason2112 Před rokem

    👍

  • @TippleGang
    @TippleGang Před 4 lety +1

    I'm Early. YAAAAY.

  • @harishkumarthangavel5350

    🙂

  • @TheWisdomOfTheAges_PsyM_Revd

    Note to myself: I'm the 666th like.

  • @wendysmith9682
    @wendysmith9682 Před 4 lety

    Writes a comment. Deletes it. Again.

  • @johnrage8163
    @johnrage8163 Před rokem

    Giving up the Ni kick is going to be hard I keep thinking I'm going to get smarter or rich I'll give the right side of my body first choice the vision this video gave me scared me at first ❤️ utoob algarytm

  • @shoestring9964
    @shoestring9964 Před 2 lety

    23:17