HOW MATURE INFJs OVERCOME THE CHALLENGES OF TAKING ACTION
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: There are many reasons why the INFJ has trouble taking action. Their creativity and imagination can lead them down a path that might not be clear-cut or easy to navigate, which makes it difficult for this type of individual to take quick decisions without much input from others -- especially if their ideas depend on how they feel about something rather than what's actually happening in reality! The thing is: You don't need an MBA degree just because you're afraid of making mistakes; sometimes all we really want out of life--or at least our careers!--is some guidance through dark waters so there won’t be any more wondering when everything will fall apart again.
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Do you have a hard time taking action on your great ideas?
But I hate making unilateral decisions
I can tell a fresh story of mine. This year is my first year on a big motorcycle after I took my category last year. My brother who bought his machine in 2015, left it in the yard year after in 2016, he quit riding, but he inspired me on motorbikes so I bought myself 50 cubic bike, but in the end of 2020 my brother propose me his bike for me and I said yes, I just have thinking about that and I want to start a job so I can take my category in 2021 and I did it, but my brothers old school machine took me a lot of trouble and enxiety till I got it in condition for riding again and during that proccess I gone through all that INFJ suffering from enxiety. For example yesterday on Wednesday I had to do my last test drive, but despite I knew that I done so much to have the motor running again I spended half of the day procrastinating about that 1 percent probability of failure till the moment that I realize that I can't take the enxiety anymore and the test drive was perfect as I expected. As I replay that situation over and over I realize that the real problem wasn't the fear of failure, it's all about that making action INFJ problem. I know what to do, and I know that I have to do it and in the end I do it, but on a price of all that unnecessary enxiety because of crossing the boundaries of my comfort zone. Well on the other side words cannot describe your happyness of realizing that you have gone all the way and you have succeded, but still it's totally unnecessary to worry your self that much.
Yes I do, mostly because I have a lot of haters created from an abusive narcissistic relationship. I've had a campaign of hate run on me to the upmost degree, hard to overcome that.
Would you recommend Low-fi Frequencey For and IFNJ? I use it for grounding. It's really not my best. I would rather most listen to Nature. Rain. Thunderstorms. Grounding.
.but since we live in a digital world...
Respectfully, only as a 1ST/2ND- ish option.
(I know The People, are here. this respectfully, is a noted count.)
I haven't found another other much like me. Before I had to answer as Mei. I wont apologize.
So to find this, to find you. It's conquring.
I have an Estranged father, who demands and craves his place. Adopted parent who. treats me like I'm a Nike Swoop. Just Do It.
I'm here too.
Living in the in out
Can I come into the out now?
...dont dismiss me.
😎No.
But I'm a cognitive empath who constantly checks if his 'rubber meets the road.'
😏With rubber I obviously don't mean a condom.
I get quite a knot in my stomach when I’m stuck between idea and action!
I see a big difference between how I am in my work and in my private life.
In my work I am super confident, have ideas about how I want things to go, ideas go there on a do-do list, and me or a colleague picks them up. No problem to inspire people, see regularly that it is less than my vision, but I keep pressing until it is the way I want it.
A colleague called me the most pragmatic person he knows. And yes I always go for the solution, continue where others (seemingly) would have stopped long ago. But I get things done. That is very rewarding.
I experience my work as a well-paid hobby instead of 'work'. I made several conscious choices that brought me to where I am today. It didn't happen by itself. I only work 4 days a week to get enough rest, also a conscious choice.
But Private... haven't been on vacation for 20 years and there's no partner in my life, clearly still the introvert, but things I'm working on right now in my life. If I can do it in my work, it should also be possible in my private life.
So yes, stay or start practicing and things will get better.
Thanks for your honesty - I had that same dichotomy too - "lazy" at home yet Uber productive at work - This space here is so awesome for me because Wenzes is teaching integrating our gifts - strengths - in all areas of our life - She kindly reminds us we will never be ENFJ or ESTP yet we can grow our SE by "being" an INFJ who does take actions in incremental steps for X amount of time and before you know it "IT" is now YOU! Invaluable information for this EPIC INFJ!
I just retired, which is a significant transition. So what to do now is a sea of possibilities and bliss for this INFJ.
I've been trying to get the ball rolling with my goals, but it's a soul killer when you feel trapped in your community and noone has your back. It is almost like you're ignored. By the way, my goal is a musical career.
I know the feeling...both in music and photography. A small support cast ...even a couple in my life would be beneficial.
I have felt and have moments like this sometimes - I challenge all INFJs who do not at this moment have the external validation of our goals/dreams - accept the following 1. IT IS NORMAL that people will not come along as you expect - take the first tangible steps to manifest your goals - First believe and then others will eventually too (take Wenzes channel as an example of this)
2. In the beginning of manistestig our goals - we hardly believe - AND This TOO is OK - your faith will grow as you take real world SE steps towards them
3. The more your faith grows in your goals (thru actionable steps) you start to care more of how you feel about your goals instead of another person. Some would say this sounds counter intuitive- but the way it works is ALL THINGS start and end with you - So go get em!
I must say I actually managed to take first steps in everything, but the critical point is where it goes so far that people can see me and therefore judge me/my work. That's so scary and I'm trying to work through that point right now with all my projects. And also that thing of too much thinking, re-thinking and rumination. I wrote myself a note that I take now a week of vacation of my ruminating thoughts, because from one week the world won't end. I hope it'll work :)
I think that ideal thinking has a major role in delaying our orientation towards the goal, idealism will be a major obstacle in accepting mistakes or poor results, we know logically that the path towards the goal will never be perfect as we imagine it, especially the beginnings, so we fall into the trap of procrastination and excessive thinking..
Edit : The solution provided by Wenzes, very important and brief, I'm talking from experience I learned that after a long time of trying
Damn on point
Samne happens with me .I m currently working through it.
You are always spot on with my daily glass ceilings. The whole taking on the identity rather than willing yourself. You have such a gift. Thank you for always posting
I have found (as an INFJ that struggles with ADHD) that small dopamine hits (such as watching this video) after I perform an action task for some time, helps loads.
At the moment I am annotating a book for one of my summer classes and while I love reading, it's an active version of it that drains me. I will give myself a goal, then when that goal is reached, I will give myself ten or fifteen minutes to play in my mental playground.
Thank you for your posts. You consistency, style, and content are always on point. I've never seen a video of yours that was 'too much' or 'too little'. Love your work.
I am watching you since three hours from now (what an INFJ thing ?!😁) I just want to say I love you keep what ever it takes keep going 👍🔥🔥
The difference between what you wanna do as appose to what you have to do has always been a struggle, and having too many projects on the go. One thing is always done at the expense of something else.
Thankyou Wenzes. Last night I was sighing at the new microphone that I purchased with the goal to start a podcast. This video is like a sign to me that I need to start using it but slowly in order to enable my brain to adjust to the idea of recording my voice. Sending you a large sister hug!🎤💗🐢
This video has given me insights to enrich something I was doing. Yes, I have learned how to take action. But I often have likened it to stepping into a lake or swimming pool on a hot day and finding it hard to get used to the cooler water. Sometimes I had to ease my way in and other times I had to jump in quickly. Once I got into the water and got used to it, I found out it wasn't hard to do it all and in fact, was enjoyable. When keep this analogy in mind, I find it easier.
I liked it when you said it's possible to create an identity based on keeping the promises made to ourselves - and then take conscious steps (often small) in that direction. This video is practical, down to earth and meets us right where we're at.
Right when I wondered..
Same. Like it was timed for us in this exact moment
I have a lot of goals and dreams on where my life ends up, but each day I am frustrated cause it's just such a big goal and dream and so many loops. You know what though I started building confidence in just normal routine for myself like washing my face daily, I am amazed it's just part of what I want to do now vs need half the time.
4:15 OH MY GOSH this topic is a reflection of where my life is right now! I’m stuck! I come up with so many ideas for my future success but NEVER follow through with them 😫
It has helped me enormously that I found my some kind of optimum level of working on my goals. The beginning of this week has been very productive and what is great, I am not exhausted at all. This all is a sort of synthesis between your videos and myself.
Love from a Cameroonian 🇨🇲 INFJ trying to figure this whole MBTI thing out😅. Thanks for your videos
Analysis paralysis ✋️😔
This is a delicious food for thought CZcams production Ms. Wenzes. Thank you 🤔❤️🇺🇸
You are such a blessing. Thank you so much for this ❤
"steady losin' means you ain't usin' what you really think is right" - John Prine 🙏
I agree to what you said thank you for the better advice coach wenzes😊
Thanks for making this video. Found myself stuck there for a bit, this frame of thought makes sense.
You're a good soul, and a great coach.
Very helpful. Thank you very much.
Just the push I needed right now! Thank You 💖
You put this up on my birthday.💚 I can relate to this, ive had both times in my life, I can embark on huge streams of action when its feeling right & my passion is sparked. The last round was very exhausting though, sm biz startup for many years, it left me drained & neglected, & frankly abandoned, because I got sick & discovered my home/office were loaded with toxic mold, even though a nice place. It was devastating & shattered my flow, & surrounding relationships. Ive mostly been on a break since then, several years now, though I still work a little minimally, & still have my wide interests & passions I deep dive on, but so far ive not raised enough energy to fully flourish again, basically languishing. Hopefully soon I will venture out again, these reminders & insights you've shared are helpful & encouraging, I appreciate it! It may be difficult from this current place im in, but its well worth it, and I know this to be true from my previous actions. Next round though, I will be wiser & also take more care for my own well being, to protect my own stability/position by not trusting too much & giving over too much to others, & not let myself be drained down by it all, without good steady recharging. Thanks for the great content!💚💚💚
Thank you so much Wenzes for all you do and for these videos. As a male INFJ, I feel so lucky to have found you. Feels like a true mentor speaking to you. A teacher. You´re incredibly wise, and its very obvious the INFJ traits. So many helpful videos. Trying to slowly consume all of this and apply the knowledge while liking and giving you view time trying to support your channel so you can grow. All of what you said here rings so true. I find myself listening to some of it several times to really understand it. Thank you so much again for everyhing you do. You´re amazing! Feels so good to have a sort of mentor in you. Thank you so so much! This video is going to help me get my business and podcast going much more consistently. What you said about making it part of your identity makes so much sense. I´m definitely going to be working on that. Right now this very moment.
Also some INFJs are actually ambiverts assertive without having to be always confrontational I'm an ambivert kind of INFJ-A still assertive appreciate what I already have but still have some goals for the future
Yes, sometimes. Great video Wenzes! Hope you’re having a great day. 🙂👍🏼🌹
Great video and advice! I totally relate to being in that stuck mode. I do believe a lot of that does have to do with the infj functions, even though other types may have this problem as well, but I think it's definitely more of a struggle for the infj, probably because of the overthinking, and possibly the fact that a lot of the times, there is probably a huge gap between our vision and what something actually would be in reality, which then requires learning to take the steps and keeping the balance while doing so, in order to move forward with whatever we are focusing on, which can be quite difficult, but nevertheless is absolutely necessary.
My is time. I get stuck on if I am going to waste my time. It is because I have done it in the past. I then fine myself stopping.
I used to have these thoughts alot - why even bother starting - I don't want to waste my time - but here are some ideas if you want to become unstuck 1. At whatever you sat out to do you will suck at first (remember what it was like first learning to ride a bike) BUT as long as you keep going - you will improve 2. Saying yes to the promises you have made to yourself should never be seen as a waste of your time - who better to invest your time in than yourself (hence why you watched this video!) 3. Separating your worth from what you achieve is a healthy habit to build- then it's easier to see failures as new data to assist you in the future versus a confirmation that you're a loser - You are in the right place! I can not take credit for the above advice - these have been life hacks shared here -
@@DearYoungerSelf111 thank you. 😊
How many other INFJs put vehical problems on the back burner until the last minute like me haha!
Thank you.
Working in this a few more weeks the money is the problem
Do I have a hard time taking action on my great ideas? Yes. On a personal note, not as much now as it was earlier in my life. Nowadays, with me being single, I don't have the limitations placed on me as before when I was married. (No offense meant). It still takes time to save up money, coordinate vacation time from work, etc. On a professional note, it's a matter of getting upper management people to listen and at least "run it through the mill" to see if it works or not. My mind is always working, and my mindset is constant improvement.
Really needed this…. Thank u
Thank you
Great video Wenzes
I'm usually like a kid; I wanna have fun and enjoy, video games, movies, anime, etc. But when it takes to mature action, I'm more mature/strict/responsable than most people I know. Idk if it's weird. It's like I have two personalities but at the same time I haven't. Maybe I'm like a kid in the F part. I wanna full enjoy of my hobbies. And when it takes to mature actions, I use my J part. Idk. I'mstill new at the MBTI thing.
So idk if I'm mature or inmatureor both in the right moments.
⚘️ Yoooo ⚘️
We break the law of attraction that states if it's 100% in your head it manifests, haha. No, you must also move your ass
Not anymore
I was in a relationship with Cyndi 22 years. She never said anything about being an INFJ personality till the last year. When she new ,I found out about her drug addiction to opioids and started asking questions. She. Gone in a mode of getting out of the relationship. She has been steeling her mothers drugs for 25 years. And borrowing from her daughter that is a nurse .. people that get opioids from a doctor are self induced. And are in great danger. She is gone in hiding. And her DNA has changed. She is caught up in her drug problem and will not face the truth. She will take this drug to her grave..help or no help. She has lied to herself. I must stay away. But her grand daughter is the one who suffers.
Thank you for explaining it so nicely. 🤍🤍