THE 5 MOST INTIMIDATING QUALITIES OF THE INFJ (that make others run for the hills)
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Get ready to uncover the hidden powers of the INFJ personality that will make everyone else tremble in their boots. As INFJs, we may not even realize how we exude a certain intensity that puts others on edge. But it's time for us to embrace these qualities and appreciate just how awe-inspiring they truly are. Join us as we dive into the top five intimidating traits of the INFJ and unveil the true essence behind the mystery. It's time to own our strengths and understand what makes us so fascinating.
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What are some of your qualities as an INFJ that seem to make others "run" from you?
what is important to the world is secondary to us and this makes them mad 💥
I am frankly a matter of fact person - you know the someone who has no problem helping a person by making it make sense to them I am no push over!
Being a peaceful person with nothing to prove. Validating ourselves through discipline, effort and accountability. Being very much our own entity and complete within ourselves. 🤍
I like to skip the BS in the shallow end. When I was younger I used to swim so far and so fast to the deep end that very few people could follow. They would often have very negative reactions once they got to a certain point with me. And I would ask them why they couldn’t simply make the choice to go a little further with me. Funny, thinking about it now, it’s like I was speaking in a different language. A hard-learned lesson, to be sure, because I did end up alienating a lot of people. This was a great video! It’s clarified a lot for me. Keep doing what you do!
At age 73 I have experienced all of these reactions from people throughout the years. I have done a few door slams also. I wish I had known how to set boundaries in my younger years but happy to be able to set them these days. Thank you for helping me understand my personality type by watching your videos.🤗
We're not intimidating, they are intimidated.
Love this… this is are swag 100%
A valid distinction.
Apparently the spaced out deadpan expression is scary..
😅😂😂 yeess infj do nothing, we just do brutal honesty and as it is. No drama no fake 😅😂
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Being quiet.... For some reason ppl can't deal with it.
True
Quiet means a projection magnet. It’s automatic invite for thumping on.
@@karieificationthis is a lowkey genius quote
@@chiefbeef5590 how did that hit you? Can you relate?
@@karieification the level of gravity of the quote. People don't realize how much someone always being calm chill person literally scares people to the point that they will hate you. Not all people, but most people will somehow feel more uncomfortable around a generally calm person than a serial killer people are very backwards that's all
INFJ, one of the "eff around and find out" kind of people.
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I lay out my boundaries early, and what I don't tolerate. The rest is on them. The testers, pushers, and non believers find out quickly that I meant what I said.
I’ve been asked so many times “can you read minds?” 😂 “are you a witch?” No. I can read you. Your habitual behaviour.
Calm waters run deep.
Reading minds.
We're martyrs.
Always one step ahead in their minds.
We know people's insecurities.
Sooo true. I read people's insecurities/childhood traumas very well. Both a blessing and a curse.
I'm an infj and I get triggered easily unfortunately
I’ve noticed most people who feel intimidated by me are insecure. The other times I recognize it’s simply, spiritual… I realize that’s deep but. It is, what it is.
"I am going to let that slide because they don't know who they are talking to." Oh I can relate that especially since menopause helped me get in touch with that side of me.
I never "get mad" out of nowhere. I make a conscious decision before an argument or anything like that happens. I thought everyone was like that until I became an adult and learned about the personality types.
This.
INFJs can see right through people. I think this is what scares people - and also not afraid to confront things are they are.
We are the gate keepers. Whatever we don't stop here, will be at your doorstep. If you have an infj in your life - better listen to them. ❤
Im more of a key master ;P
@@MegaCyberleaderZuul?!?
You GOT that right....gate keepers with a secret golden key :)
Doesn't that epend on whether they are educated, thought-through, self-knowledgeable, emotionally sound and mature, self-taught, active and healthy to do all this, with a good upbringing to know the importance of true, holistic education?
@Medietos No. If your infj isn't a doctor, go see your doctor. If they are, you've won 🏆 😉. Infjs are naturally very loving and protective of their family/partners so you better listen to them. Us, ofc. Everybody has a learning curve, it's unrelated to the infj natural strive to learn and grow.
Wenzes level of presentation is so deep ,that it reaches down to the DNA of the INFJ. Listening to her relate to the unspoken truths of the INFJs psyche is so uncannily accurate it’s spooky . 🙏
Basically proof she’s an INFJ 😎
One of the strangest parts of being an INFJ is being able to have endless conversations about the complexity and depth of my emotions. As well as having more wisdom than knowledge. The way I dim my light is by playing 'The Fool' archetype. And by dimming my light, people dont see how observant I am. When they see that, they have a weird reaction or maybe even withdraw from me for sometime while they wrestle with the very real question "if he can see everything about me, is he judging me for it?" I can 'feel' the sensation of people watching me thinking I am judging them. Until they realize I both see that and don't judge them. And then they see all the little things I threw in their path to build them up, because my intent and hope for deep relationships is to elevate those I get close to into a higher version of themselves. But even this, i came over some dark places. At my best, I want someone to succeed and become the person THEY want to be, not just succeed at fulfilling a role they chose or had chosen for themself. At my worst, I want them to receive equivalent reciprocal karma for their missteps and bad intent. Did I mention that INFJs are complicated yet??? 😂😂😂
Fantastic explanation.
Well said!!! I so appreciate your comment.
When someone is giving constructive criticism as an Equal respectfully without Malus and a sense of looking down at you thats not judgement.
I read somewhere as the advocates we speak Asif were delivering a message from another sauce, that could be the morals spoken off. A friend's told me her her Dad used to have a saying...
FACTS DONT CHANGE.
I have my own version that is..
The only person a bull#iter has to fear it someone with the truth....👍🇦🇺✌️
Introvert no words needed to destroy narcissistic egos
Only scared that I will fall in love with every INFJ I meet. I am an INFP by the way.
Right back atcha…❤️
I have found the retaliation of certain people who have understood that we can read them and their game can get pretty vicious, especially in the corporate environment.
Many people take the INFJ for granted. Yes it is enabling snd that is why we attract Narcs. We need to learn to keep our own cup full before we give to others.
Let get together. I’m INFJ with CPTSD .
@@ewuraamagrant4822 If you go through my description you'll find links to my website.
I cant say that I have ever met another INFJ and I think many of us have CPTSD. It may be good to talk to someone like minded.
We don’t attract narcissists- we repel them. They just exist, and we have to deal with them, from time to time, and they are very easily triggered by us.
@@AnaNomas-gu9hi I'm not sure I understand what your trying to say. My CPTSD comes from military service and trauma.
Basically I have a strong personality with high ethics and I will not bully or harm ANOTHER just to run with the pack. That makes me a target for bullies and Narcs because I do not submit to them.
You could say its a choice, but it doesn't feel like it to me. If they find out you can read them, then they will go all out to destroy you. They can't handle the fact they are so damaged, let alone have anyone else pick up on it.
Some call it the lone wolf syndrome. The one wolf that has the strength to walk away from a pack engaging in destructive behaviour.
Is developing CPTSD how it happens? Your either subjected to repeated trauma or your not. Its the psyches response to that.
@@AnaNomas-gu9hi have you considered the starseed theory? The 144,000 volunteers that came from higher dimensions to change the fate of humanity, the more advanced souls?
Coworkers with a control problem, if not thirst for power.. every now and then a new one comes into my life. I have a way of conveying to them that I won't let them control me and once this moment happens, they are forever different around me. There's some relief in this, a sense of power over myself, and that I made the world a slightly better place : )
Sometimes people can feel me seeing through them into their soul and it freaks them out because they do not like not being able to hide or lie. I have gotten really good with my non-verbal and indirect communication to subtly show or indicate things without having to directly tell. Every once in a while I catch a demon and they squirm bc they know I know that they know I know.
I love how you always advocate for us! My first reaction is self-criticism, and then, there's your voice, and somehow it always tells a much better story!! Thank you for your work!!
what is important to the world is secondary to us and this makes them mad 💥✨
As an INFJ Advocate I can't stand those bullies that emotional profile another. I will stand up against them.
I'd love to see a video about when an INFJ meets another INFJ given how rare that encounter is.
It would be like encounter of two great oceans 💙🌊🥂✨
Or you could just give birth to one like I did. Interesting to see the differences since he is male. Still a beautiful and amazing thing.
I had this happen last month! I was at a Pride event and one of the people at a booth for a therapist group was an INFJ. She and I had a long talk and it was almost like looking into a soul mirror. No, we did not click romantically. She is out of my league 😊
I have met people that I just knew in my head that they were also INFJs, and they confirmed that. You would feel like you are talking to yourself.
I've met 7 this year alone, all are at different developmental stages so they look very different from each other, even I feeling like an alien amongst them lol. But there's a beautiful fluidity, exchange of ideas, communication, open mindedness that's refreshing. People who don't just hear your words but the meaning behind it.
We help each other understand our internal dilemmas just by holding space for each other. Affording a space to speak from our hearts, in doing so we get to know each other and ourselves by those precise questions we ask.
Problem get solved faster. There's rarely any filters, we allow breaking of our own ideas of our bs that the other sees and calls out so leads to overcoming things faster, grow faster.
THERE'S less defence and more open mindedness to hear why the other says something, we generate a lot more possibilities together, it's like an expansion effect.
You feel like an echo of each other yet with a unique voice, and don't feel SO alone.
It's easy to spot our people. Like a chord that sounds like home. A familiarity of I know you without knowing you that is more intense than with most people.
After having found 7 in a year, I'm confused, how rare are we?
THE 5 MOST INTIMIDATING QUALITIES OF THE INFJ (that make others run for the hills)
1. Calm waters run deep -> 1:17
2. Reading g minds -> 6:04
3. INFJ are martyrs. -> 8:54
4. INFJ always one step ahead in their minds -> 13:20
5. INFJ know peoples insecurities -> 16:09
P.S It's not so hard to do the time stamps, try it out guys ;)
Thank you
Dimming our light to make someone else shine is not a facade, it's genuine. We would much rather someone happy than any other emotion. It fulfills us, It's deeply real, not a facade. (In primary school I use to make comedy to make people laugh and they would laugh so hard, hysterically sometimes even peeing their pants. I had to tone it down). I think what the point is, is that we should not wait for others to do the same for us, that won't happen. The world is not geared that way. We have to do it for ourselves. Make space for ourselves, go for our goals via any means possible, by hook or by crook.
I think b4 we get to the point of ppl looking down on us and thinking we don’t deserve our light/shine. But i got fed up with filling the wrong ppls cup & then i got used and left with nothing when i needed the simplest thing they didn’t lift a finger and basically laughed like that’s what you get for doing all this for me when i never gave anything in return
Use your INFJ abilities at the poker table
As an INFJ I recognized my self with a deeper understanding thanks for sharing.
Ive been going around challanging people who complain about the "system" They if they do nothing about it, its the same as letting the bad guys win, that we could change it together.
haha, the martyr thing is so true, the reason I use headphones is so I do not annoy people, the reason I wait for others to finish lets say going to the bathroom so I am the last is so they do not have to wait for me. people always find that behaviour a bit odd but never question it and this sort of "regulation" you have to your surroundings, i.e. not being loud on the telephone on a public space or making space for someone else are things a lot of other people do not even care about, you have to ask them that. I think it is because as INFJs that is our people pleasing mentality coming through but also our great perception. One time on a birthday my aunt was flabbergasted when I asked for decaf coffee cause my grandma can not have it and she realized no one else even thought of that. we often times analyze situations, have our own little sort of "cards" for each person, knowing their quirks and try to apply that to a situation. Back in the day when I was a kid I assumed everyone thought this way, but later came to realize I think a lot more about stuff and people than they do.
Yep, this has happened to me last month. It was someone more senior at work. I had my " say", and he RUN...it was said politely and to the point and publicly. Yes, it needs to be done, but with elegance and integrity.
In my opinion, if someone really wants to know your boundaries, they don’t have to be rude, mean, or try to provoke you to do this. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to answer them, but why don’t they just ask questions? That’s what emotionally mature people do, which helps prevent a whole lot of unnecessary drama or problems. Nonetheless, people are still entitled to their privacy whether they answer others or not, and others should respect that, back off, and leave them alone. But again, this is just my opinion.
They are immature.
Actually i feel all people whether infj or not have an inclination to grow and develop deep that means it is on our shoulders to self develop ourselves to the point of being a reference point a leader and a influencer for promoting what is truly good
Those types do not know how to behave. They are partly lacking social skills and do not even know it. Most likely, they are afraid of the answer they might hear.
Amazing how God made a few specific people to be able to just up and really help someone because we just grasp the situation so easily. The fact that every human, especially us infjs, are mades so wonderfully complex also shows the intelligence of a Creator!czcams.com/video/mIeRU12STNw/video.htmlsi=ir0cladvAsjU5Rhp
That is a beautiful thought. Thank you. 💖
@belladonna2104 God is a beautiful God - and desires us to know Him
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Hats off to Wenzes for standing up to her coworker! When I finally learn to stand up for myself that’ll be my biggest leap in social skills.
Same 🎉 let's go!! For standing up for yourself!! 😂
be prepared for anything.
I stand up for myself after the fact behind closed doors then I’m pissed I stayed silent all because I didn’t want to hurt their feelings. I know I could be brutal and wither them but then what? I know I’d feel bad. Just knowing is better than the actual doing. Yet, I’m still annoyed to be put in that position. People KNOW how to treat people. If they aren’t doing so that’s on them so if a repeated incident occurs I’ll usually door slam.
@@thirstonhowellthebirdandfriend Same here. I’ll ruminate over it for a while but when the actual moment was happening I didn’t want to hurt their feelings, even though they’re clearly trying to hurt mine. Plus I’m always questioning myself on whether or not I’m interpreting the situation correctly or not.
@@user-gn3ps7df5s Me too! Totally!
An ENTJ reached out to congratulate me on an honor I received and I was responsive, grateful and let them know to ask me if they promote their services on my platform in the future. The person immediately claimed I was triggered, insulted my intellect, insinuated I needed to speak to someone about people pleasing. All because I politely ask they honor a boundary. I had to block them.
ah, blocking them is so ez on social media these days, Imagine the before time.
✨dear fellow Lady charity nowadays people do not know to appreciate good work, they themselves do not give importance to good quality work neither do they have a vision of how to make true value shine on earth
I have no clue what this even means. Someone complements you, and you demanded that they ask you something? This makes no sense.
@@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied when she is requesting a help , the reply should be , we have this difficulty etc... instead they acused her thereby showing thier low moral conduct
And when we snap people look like we are crazy. I worked with a guy for 4 years and about 2 weeks ago, I finally snapped. He ended up quitting out of rage and anger. I had even requested that he not push me. He kept up. The bosses didn't do anything about it until I finally blew my top. People were like oh..it's that redhead temper, nope, I was just pushed to far.
As an INFJ i always expect the unexpected.I never get excited.
Damn you’re good
I like that calm cool analysis trait, it reminds me of Mr Spock; he usually was the one saving the Enterprise, but Kirk takes all the credit. lol
well, I have a hard time when other people are talking about themselves and I ask them questions and we go deep and I reveal to them what they don't see and they just get confused about themselves and end up resenting me :(
As an ENTP, I would LIKE to say date us ENTPs because we are always trying to better ourselves. Pinpoint our insecurities and help us in the journey of self-betterment. We ❤ you INFJ's! Once we get to the tactful ENTP... this is one of the best couplings possible!
INFJ-T ♓🖤
The calm is scary. Always has been. 99% of everyone who meets me is just naturally wtf? And feels as though I am just something dangerous. No matter how calm I am. And it's the creepy calm that horrifies so many others. They just cannot comprehend. And I'm like I'm just the nicest person. It literally takes hurricanes to get the calm to subside and the Shadow within to come out. And I have learned that this is always the absolute last option. But they can feel that we are just not the same. I've been to Prison once for long enough and never not once in any way did anyone at all even speak disrespectfully to me. And I was younger and didn't know I was an INFJ-A ♓ at that time and I was always trying to understand what the difference was and why no one treated me the way everyone is typically treated. 💯
I do have a coworker who seems to be trying to push buttons, but it's hard to tell if she is playing a power game trying to irritate others, or if she is just a self absorbed twit that doesn't know the effect she has on people. It's possible if I put her on notice she might wake up and be more aware, or she might stop playing her games. If I weren't so conflict adverse, and if she weren't so protected in the system, I might find out.
I have an employee who acts out in a moment when I ask her opinion and try to make a plan together and say "if you want me to do it your way just say so". I was taken aback because I saw it as working together/problem solving as a team and she sees it as being passive aggressive. When I ask why she was suddenly offended she says "it's just the way you say things sometimes". I think always working out scenarios in our own head and really needing time to work all the options with something unfamiliar and rushing that process by immediately engaging seems to trigger this person for some reason. Then later everything is fine with them after a cooling of period for them. I am sure she knows deep down I am not meaning to seem that way but she really does not understand introverted leadership mixed with sudden unexpected change lol
As an INFJ who has suffered with CPtsd most of my life I have outbursts fairly often when I’m pushed into situations that I have little control over other than to leave of course. In my own home with family I can snap but come back quickly. Also one family member is a BPD so because I’m the one who fixes and cares for everyone I get delegated to deal with them until I no longer can…🤦♀️
I've become very assertive and I have no fear , I learned I don't hold things in , and it's so light feeling ✨️
My INFJ no fear stories are legendary
At around 15 minute mark, thinking logically. -- quality number 4 -- can be very helpful in fields such as law enforcement , EMS, wilderness guiding, etc -- anything involving encounters with surprises or crises.:-)
I make space for others, it's not always about martyrdom
When you see the world often put others down, you want to help them feel good about their natural selves too. However, it can become enabling when you don't let them stand in uncomfortable feelings on their own
100%
Doesn't matter if you tell ppl. Since INFJ are so calm, it's mostly not even heard with the ears they need to hear the message with.
I am. Single, independent, professional, confident woman. I am not bound my society’s pressures. People don’t seem to know how to respond to me.
I hated when my martyred side come out. I regretted showing it every time. Now I live not as a victim.
I’ve have told people… you are better off putting your 2 hands on a mountain and moving it… I cannot let them rule me… if they can control your feelings they can control you…
This scares me somewhat. Theres nothing ive heard out of this ladys mouth that isnt who i am as a person. Its crazy how accurate that test is, genuinely phenomenal.
Thank you Wenzes! I grew up as a little boy saying “ never get excited”! I observed so many people spinning their wheels worrying about anything and everything. Not for me! That’s nuts! I observe it on the highways even the doctors office everyone looses their 💩! People tried to push my buttons but they always got warned “ you don’t want to release the beast”! After high school people backed down. People were respectful. I liked sitting in a mall around the holidays and watch people walk in and out. Trying to read them and their lives. It was enjoyable and often correct with the people I met. Often have three or more projects going on in my head at a time. Even when I’m reading I can think about other books and where what I’m reading applies. Woo hoo thank you Wenzes! You’re tops!
About us reading minds! I in general agree byt these INFJ like me who can predict what other are thinking currently & 4 myself very very very accurately predict the future behaviour & get it right , weather its seconds ,hours,days or decades! This is a superpower thats literally saved my life in some very dark dangerous situations. I am a (SRA) survivor & ive used this god given gift to out manoeuvre thousands of these cult members who are still trying to F with me!
So I no from my own life is sych a gift being an INFJ
#3 Why is it intimidating and triggering for others? I've got to find the why. If it was done for me, I would just say thank you and now it's your turn. That's the gracious and polite thing to do, is it not ?? It's not our problem, whoever is triggered or intimidated has an issue. Actually if you think about it, it is another gift toward (mental) health. I know if I am triggered or intimidated it's something I have to work on.
2:00 -- I used to work with a woman who I could tell was NOT impressed with me, for whatever reason. And one day she was telling me a story that I could tell, as she was telling it, was supposed to make me go, "whoa!" And it did not make me do that, because it wasn't that great a story. I was supposed to react to her description and to HER in-the-moment response. Each element was intended to get a reaction. I simultaneously felt this compulsion to not react at all, because I knew that's what she wanted. There have been other times when something similar has occurred, but I think this was the first time I was aware of it as it was happening.
Good for you.
Others would hear this as being bombastic and arrogant. But the thing is, it's all 100% accurate. What you are doing Wenzes provides so much value. To hear someone explain your entire life is incredibly liberating. Thank you for what you do.
Hearing all of this is like hitting the bullseye 👁 🎯 thankyou Wenzes! 😊
I'm an infj and I get triggered easily unfortunately, especially in the face of witnessing injustice or feeling taken advantage of
Plus it’s pretty hard to thank anyone if they won’t ever be real with you Thanking your phone isn’t a reality
I belive that many run from me because I challenge them to be couragious. I often act obviously unconcerned about peer pressure. I also really do see through the masks (it is always on my mind; what someone is hiding) and that makes them feel exposed because I guess I get right to the heart of matters which expose the charade. YET, I too use a mask, ugh. But, again tonight I removed the mask and it is true that Im WaaAAay better without it. And feel more honest.
Wenzes, You are so dead on on so many things, wow. I am really encouraged by your insighs. Please know you are being prayed for. Jesus bless you.
I found the dance of deception masked in "caring" for others (which we genuinely do) is delaying the inevitable. We know very early who might be tolerable to extend ourselves (and they) to further the relationship. I don't want to waste your time or mine.
Set "deal breaker" boundaries as early as possible and the strong enough to endure us will be attracted and the offended needed to find another who is like minded.
Ex: Think of me as a monk, which I am. I don't want to have set with you and I'm getting better at not hating chit chat.. Oh yes, please don't ever just stop by. I want to have meaningful talks with people and if that bothers you, I'm truly sorry.
Be blessed
Wenze's I concur with you people do run to the hills because of what I am.Wenze's your awesome.Jerome❤❤❤
Iam an african guy I've been following you and your videos has been such a blessing to me, thanks alot...
This was so 🔥 that I’m listening the 3rd time on my town trip! My hair dresser is also INFJ and we tend to drift to these topics. We both share these talks for the self understanding and clarity on boundaries. 🙏🏻 Thank you!! 💕
100% expert level
3) martyrs I have found in my experience I get this very same reaction from people e.g. whether Im like an open book & not hide things about myself or dim my light to make others feel comfortable. I get the same reaction which is I can see them getting flustered before my very eyes often changing the subject or cutting the conversation short and literally running from me. I get this with people I know very well as well as people I first meet. I also get people trying to compete with me a lot especially at work amongst some people I barely even speak to or even know.im very respectful and kind to people so find it Very baffling & confusing I honestly dont know what it is. Thats why im mostly a loner & keep to myself.
People have told me things like that. Comments about me being intimidating or scaring people. "Not messing with me". I never understand that....
You just need to know it’s there. You don’t have to understand it, nor should you ever apologize for it.
My mother … needed a reaction. Never could understand what she wanted that I wasn’t giving her. She used anger, screaming, beatings and taking away anything she gave me … presents, clothing, etc. I followed all the house rules. Honor student. Needed special glasses in high school. Explained it to her. She said get a job at Walgreens (three miles from home) on weekends/evenings and pay for them yourself. Instead of being upset and begging..I walked there, got the job, bought my glasses. Never understood her anger because I did exactly what she told me to do.
OMG… she made me a strong woman. Thanks, mom. Don’t love you, but I appreciate the strength of character that helped me through life.
Another illuminating video, Wenzes. I would love to see you do some content on Dario Nardi's research on the sub-types: Dominant, Normalising, Creative and Harmonising. And now I'm getting really demanding... how the Enneagram types influence the INFJ. Thank you so much again.
I'm an INFJ and I had went to a new school I realized that our teacher had been acting kinda off. (apparently she had just been through a messy break up and not told anyone). anyways as she was speaking I was staring dead into her eyes and she kept trying to avoid my gaze (and failed) before she got very self consensus and kept adjusting her clothes, fixing her hair ect... then she began to cry and was asking me what she was doing wrong, I remember being very confused and saying that she was doing everything just right. I still feel bad about it and it was around 12 years ago.
Narcissists will push and push and push. When your aware of them you never give in. Blows their minds. That’s when narcissists want to get aggressive and physical. Having punches thrown at my face in multiple occasions and I never flinched the narcissist walked away. Too bad soo sad for them!
We are strong and confident 💪 that's there own insecurities about themselves
“Their” but yes, I concur, 100%
Wow, I never thought of martyrdom as one of my qualities, but I get it.
Reluctant martyr.
sometimes I have to say, "i'm so sorry sweet heard, I can't down shift gears that low...so you need to step ..."
"many people intimidating me to make me feel unconfortable, not me who intimidating them, they talk bad words about me to make me feel unconfortable even they are not mention my name i feel those bad words belongs to me.i have strong intuition that's why i know their real intention and motives towards me,they want me to become one of their member that's the real story after i studied their behaviour and and patterns i conclude this true and correct!"
Love your videos! 🥰
I remember at a meeting the boss assembled everyone. Someone did a costly mistake. They kept going on and on and on. So I said I did it. They knew I didn’t. I was willing to be a martyr to get them to stop talking about their nonsense. They also knew I didn’t do it. The person who did make the error spoke up and claimed their shame. Later my coworker said why did you do that. Everyone else was so thankful that talk ended. Cracked steel was no one’s fault. Yes the person should have noticed some cracked steel during inspection 🧐. The boss should have noticed the cracked steel coming off the truck. Hahaha 🤣 maybe that was a little passive aggressive? I don’t care it wasn’t worth the waste of time and making everyone uncomfortable and stressed. Dumb dumb dumb some leaders are.
This is so true!
Good riddance to those who don't appreciate or understand us.
Preach.
I've been waiting for one like this. Thank you so much.
You are spot on!
every video from your channel is givin me goosebumps, never no one have helped me so much to understand my personality, thanks you so much
Girl it’s 2023 . People got through Covid. Some are struggling w depression during these financial times.
No one cares about personality disorders. Honestly. We have the people we need and love. Who cares
Gaslighting 101
Amen girl 🎉 so true.
Cool stuff. I believe I am INFJ.
Thank you sm🎉🎉🎉
You said it right 🙂👍
Great video👍❤
Wenzes, you nailed it, thanks! :)
Thanks 💜
Thank u
I'm literally watching this as everyone else are ringing in the new year, because I haven't wanted to "rock the boat". I swear, this video is pumping me up like some kind of pre-game warm up. There's literally not a better time that I can think of,.... to start a new!
I'm not doing this $#!+ anymore. I'm tired of feeling responsible for someone else's happiness, bending over backwards to make them happy, only for them to just be upset about something else, and on and on.... life's too short for this $#!+, I'm not the cause of her unhappiness and I'm not responsible for fixing it, especially when she does literally nothing to work on herself, because none of our issues are ever about her.
I don't know how I didn't see these things before.
I mean, when I hear you say these things out loud, it's super obvious. But being in the relationship and never actually hearing about this stuff before, I guess I was just blind to it all.
Normally, I would have gone into the new year all down and sad because she's upset and asleep on the couch and I couldn't make New Years fun for her and blah blah blah....
But instead, I'm pumped and ready for the new year and I'm not doing whatever this $#!+ is anymore.
Seriously, I couldn't have seen this video at a better time.
💯 facts thanks love your videos
So helpful and enlightening! Thank you!
Hello ma'am,
Thank you for the insight into the INFJ. I needed this information in order to understand the INFJ in my life. You have shown me through your videos that I let my guard down (as my own internal warning bell had told me before), and I let her get too close. But to be fair, she wiggled into my heart by herself...I was not looking for it or expecting it.
Thanks again for the videos.
Sounds like a "you problem" lol I like how you put it.
I've never seen myself as being intimidating. This is food for thought.
My motto is, “Don’t start none, won’t be none” 😂😜 4:58
Your a wonderful woman to me . Thank you for your logic..😊
I really love this channel but its hard to relate sometimes as an infj with severe cptsd. This channel represents where i want to be. So thank you.