Mansplaining Mansplaining To A Man Mansplaining Mansplaining.
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- čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
- I really wanted this to be satire…but I’ve responded to this guy before. It is not.
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That other guy would be prettier if he just smiled more.
LOL
Absolutely! It seems like he doesn‘t know that nobody wants to be with someone who takes everything so seriously.
He probably has such a pretty smile, it would make so many women so happy
Lol and trott his pretty little self off and fix something❤️🤗🐝
Ah, that's the thing he missed!
If that guy keeps talking that way, he will never find himself a nice man to settle down with.
Made me spit take.
Gay men commonly don't behave that way.
Calling him gay is upgrading his status.
dont forget he just needs to wear some make up put on a pretty face, batt his eyelashes and not have accomplishments and just be a helpless flower.
@@k.r.fonsecadasilva4860 I’ve heard that to not be the case. men are still men. they act trashy no matter what.
Yep, incidentally, talking like that will have no negative effect in finding a woman though, which he probably prefers 😂
Ladies, next time a man is talking to you, make sure you interrupt him and let him know you already know what he’s going to say…see how long it takes him to realize it’s because you care and thanks you🥴
This happens often in our house the males think they know what you're going to say or what your protest is about and they're wrong all the time & when we go and do the samething they'll just ignore it & keep talking like they're right I'm learning to attempt to interrupt their interrupt and wrong assertion about what I'm saying and when they interrupt that I stop talking and walk away they're so wanting to win the convo they aren't trying to reengage with me and this shows me it wasn't about what was being said at all it was simply i'm a woman he is a dude therefore he feels he must challenge me on everything from games to scrubbing dishes so i'm spotting it faster I say something and in he rides on days he needs his pick me up and I walk away immediately or do something else not engaging cuz he ain't going to get energy from me then he's in a mood cuz he can't win.
@@destroyraidenyep. I don’t engage in insanity. If I have to, I’ll grab my keys and take a drive. 😊
@@MsAubrey Or drive away if that's the case. I'm learning there are some people intent on misinterpreting you and creating a false narrative.. Their perspective, their boxes and they have to fit you in, box you even, because they lack the open mindedness
@@SA-ey6nt in the cases I’m thinking about specifically, they’re not reasons to bail completely. It’s pretty difficult to explain in just some CZcams comments though.
Did this with my boss boss after he interuped me 5 times during a presentation were I said please wait until the end beacuse most of your questions will be answered in the presentation.. im now looking for a new job.. 😂
The guy says he's not talking down to us, while he is literally talking down to us with that camera angle.
And his tone, and his attitude, and his snark, and his eyebrows. Walking condescension. Lol
Yeah I wonder why women don't like him much?
Good catch! Already his way of filming suggests a power imbalance that is felt without it being mentioned by him at all. And I bet money that if it was pointed out to him, he would still deny it.
I noticed that too, lol. It was very interesting all of the non verbal communication going on from him, including aggression. And if you met that energy (which a especially empathetic people have a tendency to do) you'd be the one being aggressive in his eyes. I even have a problem with some people who are aggressive seeing my anxious but confrontational responses as 'aggressive and angry' not just fearful and passionate....have this problem a lot actually from angry people.... apparently other people can tell the difference, I have been told, when I am not being gaslit to crap, haha. It was a relief to know that......
Sums it up in a sentence. I don't even know if the dynamic was intentional, but it does have a deeply insecure aspect to it. That's a...pretty steep camera angle there.
The problem with a mansplaining is that it rarely addresses the actual issue. You have to listen to what the problem is if you want to give advice on it, not just assume you already know and the other person doesn't.
And also, sometimes people just need to vent about a problem and aren't looking to sit through tedious advice from you. Took me awhile to learn that you don't have to respond to a description of a problem by immediately barking solutions. That sometimes it's better to just listen and empathize. And when in doubt, ask "Do you want me to help you figure out what to do? Or did you just need to vent?"
@@user-ky8cx2tj7qfacts, I had to learn this too
Louder for the people in the back!
Also the whole reason mansplaining is different from condescending is because the person they're explaining to already obviously knows what they're talking about
@risky_busine55 Best one of these I saw was man trying to explain to a woman that she hadn't grasped what author of a research paper was trying to say...he hadn't grasped that the author was the woman he was talking to
Ironic that he suggests women don't want to solve problems when he clearly is one.
He just so desperately wants a woman to say "i can fix him" he needs it with his whole soul xD
DAMNNN 🔥
@@peterlong2580Not sure if this is either a sarcastic joke or an actual 'splain...
@@peterlong2580
That's actually so incorrect, lmao. Get outta here.
Feelings aren't even against logic to begin with.
Emotions are absolutely needed to make rational decisions.
Both go hand in hand.
@@peterlong2580maybe instead of defending the mansplainer, learn to actually listen. You can't solve problems if you don't listen to what the problem is.
Women: "Problem: we don't like being catcalled. Solution: stop catcalling us"
Men: "But it's just a compliment. It's my freedom of speech. You should just smile. We can't say anything anymore. Anything is harassment..."
Is it really us the ones who hate solutions? 🤔
😂 it’s only considered a solution when a man thinks of it.
@@rainbeauxunicorn5237 Yep. When a woman suggests an actual solution to a man like the guy in the video, she’s “being unreasonable” and needs to adjust her expectations
@@coolkumquats Yeah, cause that solution is just too hard for us. We can't be expected to actually CARE about other people. That's too much. We're the reasonable ones. /s
Lol the only men are really good at is projecting 😂
As someone who has found myself dressing increasingly masculine, every time some stranger thinks it appropriate to make comments about my body, I feel this. I am so happy that I am now nearly 50 years old, and I’m finally beginning to let myself be a little more feminine. Sadly, I stopped liking being girly by pre-pubescence, because of how creepy men treated me. And somehow I was the one with the problem.
The "not all men" !!! OMG that was comedy and satire GOLD
"Men are only logical"
Immediately proceed to be emotional and irrational.
Exactly.
With their logic relating to only one solution while a woman comes up with 10 different possible solutions 😂
What kind of narcissist approaches someone with one "solution" without including the input of others.
Yes, they have absolutely no feelings and are made of stone. And apparently anger is no longer an emotion.
My father was hardly an example of logic & reason....
Same guy: *loses video game* *proceeds to logically smash controller*
my friend and i were at Aldi a few weeks ago. we are both late 30s/ early 40s. it was kind of cold so the cart lock mechanism was sticking even after she put the quarter in. she tried giving it a little extra tug and some dude in his 60s rocks up, shoulder to shoulder with her , literally touching her, and says "you have a put a quarter in that slot." she said she had and dude reached across and pointed it out and said "right there" and she's like "sir, i did, it's just stuck" and he kept going for another 30 seconds until a young man came up and tried to ger the cart next to her and had the same problem. he got all up in her personal space and insisted she was incorrect. that's not someone caring enough to explain the problem and the solution, that's someone assuming you're too dumb to figure out a coin slot and only believing that might not be the case when another man says "oh, it must be the cold" and THAT is what we are talking about when we say "mansplaining"
Beautiful example.
@visshaldar -- I totally agree with that explanation of 'mansplaining'. There's certainly no shortage of men or women who assume the other person knows less when there's no supporting evidence.
@@ak5659 yes there are women who assume they know everything. however, mansplaining is a specific kind of sexism. the older guy in my story didnt get close enough to lick the young dude and start explaining coin slots to him. he only did it to my friend, a woman. he assumed the young man knew how the mechanism worked and when the young guy said "it's probably stuck b/c of the cold" old dude just accepted it, when he had ignored my friend for saying the same thing.
@@VisshaldarThis kinda shit fills me with an unquenchable, seething, violent rage. I am sure that man learned absolutely nothing from that scenario. So much for "logical" men.
@@Macabresque i thought bestie was gonna elbow peepaw in the face for a second.
One time I (a woman) was doing homework with a male classmate. I showed him my first attempt at a solution to one of the problems and explained that there was probably a mistake because it didn't agree with the answer in the book. He copied it down. A few minutes later, I found my mistake, fixed my solution so that it agreed with the textbook, and showed him my new solution. He told me I was wrong and spent the next ten minutes walking me through my original, incorrect solution as if he'd come up with it himself. You know, the one I'd shown him first and had told him probably had a mistake somewhere. I obviously never studied with him again.
Ugh, reminds me of a co-worker I had once. I show up for work one day and he's immediately offering to show me around, teach me where things are, and "help get you up to speed". The rest of my co-workers were having a silent giggle fit behind him because we all knew something he didn't- I was the supervisor. Then I finished getting my shit arranged and took my jacket off revealing the color of my shirt. Every lifeguard is in red except the supervisor. Mid word he just choked, then got mad at me for "letting him look like a fool". Like dude, I literally worked your hiring tryout, which was a whole TWO WEEKS ago, and you were acting like you ran the place, I didn't need to make you look like a fool, you did that all by yourself. He lasted like three months before our boss gave him the option to quit before he was fired. I mean who knew that showing up on time was part of your job?
I'm confused. Did he forget that it was your original answer he had copied? Did he believe the book was wrong?
@@waffles3629That had to have been one of the funniest things to witness.
That's hilarious, considering the work literally didn't match with the textbook answer. Not hard to figure out. I swear, there are dudes that just disagree just to disagree. You can't tell them anything. Jesus Christ could literally come down and tell him that the answer doesn't match the work. 😂
@@AleishaJones-ek1mi yep. The rest of our co-workers were just silently dying of laughter behind him. Like just because you don't recognize me doesn't mean I'm new, I was just working at the other pool. Of course when I said that he got really defensive and was like "Other pool? What other pool? We've only got the pools here!". Yeah, he was really digging that hole with gusto, like really, you were so ready to "educate" me about the workplace and you didn't even know how many pools we have? LMAO
A man asked me for directions since there had been a flood and his gps was taking all over the place. I gave him the directions he needed and he told me I was wrong. My co-worker, a man, gave him the exact directions and the lost man was like see, that’s how you give direction. Keep in mind, the notecard that my co-worker was reading from, was written by me. I wrote the directions out as we had so many drivers taken miles out of the way.
That's truly despicable.
That's sexist and misogynistic on his part
Yep, I'm non-binary but frequently mistaken for a woman. I had a patron at work ask me a question. Completely unsatisfied with my answer they turned to a co-worker and asked him, who said "Just like they said, the pool closes at 9", and the patron turned back to me and said "See, how hard was it to just give a straight answer?". 🤦
@@waffles3629 so frustrating.
@@trishayamada807 yep. A different time someone refused to even tell me his question, just walked up to me and demanded a man. I tried to get him to tell me his question, and he just refused stating he needed someone with some *AUTHORITY!* My shirt literally said "POOL SUPERVISOR" in very readable letters. He flat out refused to believe me, getting increasingly annoying, until at one point he spots something over my shoulder and gets a look of utter glee on his face, then quickly walks around me while saying "Finally, a man, someone who can actually answer questions" (note- I can't answer questions that aren't asked) . Turning around I got a look of glee on my face, because the employee he was walking toward had been an employee for like three whole days. Turned out he wanted to know the pool hours for that weekend- which the newbie didn't know. But he helpfully offered to get his supervisor, which was gratefully met with "Where is he?", "Oh, right behind you". And the jerk still had the audacity to say "Oh, so you weren't lying". 😒 Like really dude?
I love that the mansplainer does n't really know what mansplaining is. Perfect!
perfect example lol
somebody should... uh... _splain_ it to him
I was thanking the same thing 😅
"Mansplaining" has devolved to a man making sense to a female who doesn't wanna hear it.
@@christopherbrown5409 whatever helps you sleep
One of my guy friends from college explained to me how to order off a menu! I didn’t ask, nor did I need assistance. Mansplaning isn’t about solving problems, it’s purely infantilization.
That is so spot on. And it's definitely a power thing, because I've noticed more people started doing it to me once my health and therefore financial situation changed.
Suddenly all my common sense had disappeared apparently? It's like people are so convinced that illness and poverty are our own fault, that we have to be stupid for it to happen to us. Even people who'd known me for years (including women) started infantilizing me.
I'm convinced the guy in the original video has no idea what mansplaining is. At the very least he's not being intellectually honest.
Oh, wow, my sarcasm would have kicked in so hard. "Really? So, this is the food item and this number here ... the price? Wow. How did I not know that?" I'm sure that guy would have pointed out I was the problem, too!
@@sethh5106He has no idea what it is. He just loves playing the victim.
The fact that I know a guy like this 💀 good thing I'm avoiding him now not only is he speaking to me as If I'm a child but he's sexist and had said some homophobic stuff also he said "ADHD is not real its just laziness" what a 🤡 fr I really hope he doesn't like me anymore because I'm not giving him a chance (worst is I liked him at first until he showed his true colors then I realized he is a total walking red flag) also his teamwork or agreeableness is nonexistent, always wanting to share only his ideas not listening to others especially us women and thinking he's a genius and I hate him for almost screwing the group project I'm definitely not teaming up with him again 😒
I never knew i did mansplain things i was honestly completely unaware i was even doing it... until my last boss (a nonbinary person who was 15 years younger than me said) "I know you don't mean any harm with it but can you stop mansplaining things.... and i stopped (well it took a while but thankfully they were patient and just told me over and over again that i was doing it)
I really don't get why so many men get offended by people telling them we're doing something wrong.... it's a great chance to grow as a person and learn something.... nobody is born with knowledge... we're taught things.... and it's never to late to learn something new and challenge your own antiquated perceptions of things
Most of us, men and women, are not able to accept criticism as gracefully as you do. You are a master! I am so impressed. I am working on being more accepting of criticism, buit I doubt I will ever be as open as you are to it. Well done!!!!!
Outstanding growth mindset!
I think some men will recoil at the label. I might resist someone using that term because it seems to imply that some particular behavioral fault I have is a result of me being a man, which I realize is not the intent. I would think it's more productive to describe the problem rather than using that label.
@@aaronpolichar7936Nope.It's not any more productive. Y'all just deny it while bitching about us talking too much, using too many words to complain. I'm a 54yo woman who used to work on a construction crew and hire men to work on my farm (MY farm - where I grew up and spent decades farming - and they still mansplained farming to me). I've tried all the ways. Nothing works, so we use that term because, since it doesn't matter what we do, we might as well conserve energy and brainpower while still letting them know they're doing it. We KNOW y'all are going to deny it, but we point it out anyway because we hope that maybe the seventy-second time a woman tells y'all that, you'll finally believe it.
@@peterlong2580the only one acting like a child is you
I always find this "women want to talk about how it made them feel, men want to fix the problem" thing so silly, in part because this isn't actually a gendered thing. So many men hate actually finding solutions to emotional problems. Maybe they think they like it because they like to tell WOMEN how to "fix" their problems, but so many don't want to fix their own issues.
Besides, sometimes a solution isn't the point. Because maybe they have the solution or there is no solution, but they still want to vent about it. My best friend, who is a man, does this quite often. He will complain about the traffic (not fixable) and his job (which he actually likes) and it greatly improves his mood. I don't try to give solutions to things like that because 1. I probably don't have better answers than he does and 2. that's not why he's telling me this stuff.
And I think, in reality, a lot of men vent. They just don't get that women also do this. (And also there are some men who don't know how to vent, but notably this is *due to their emotions* and also *causes them to be more emotional*, not because they're logic-only beings like this nut would have you believe.)
These types of men are so emotionally incompetent they genuinely see emotional problems or emotional aspects of problems as not real or valid problems, just a thing delaying getting to the solution... instead of, you, know... half of the fucking equation we need to solve ein order for it to actually be sociologically effective.
"They don't know how to vent bc of their emotions which causes them to be more emotional" - SO TRUE!! My ex was closed off like fort knox. He would NEVER tell me how he felt about ANYTHING. I would ask if he felt lonely- because I sure did, living with him in stonewall city. But he'd always say nope, he's just fine. He ignored my emotions and his own emotions until one day he finally realized he was stressed out, and he blamed it all on me for trying to talk about emotions. Instead of talking about things or trying to deal with emotions, he just broke up with me and left me as a single mother. That's how these men who are afraid of emotions "solve" problems.
You're so right. Also, as a woman I usually DO want to solve problems. It's just that often the problems I want to discuss are emotional: something makes me feel a certain way so I want something to change to remove that negative emotional effect.
If a problem is practical, I usually won't need to talk extensively about it. Either I solve it myself, or I ask someone else to do it. But emotional problems require more extensive communication.
Unfortunately, I've noticed a lot of men (and "problem-solving" women) tend to want to move beyond those pesky emotions to move onto the "real" problem.
The emotions (and the person experiencing those emotions) are central to the problem buddy, you can't solve the problem without understanding the problem. By ignoring emotions and people, both of which are central to these types of problems, you've made it impossible for you to be of any help.
If I tell someone that I feel unimportant when they don't remember to buy me a birthday gift, and they take both that feeling and me out of the equation by "solving the problem" (tasking me with reminding them to buy something, and ideally also telling them what to buy), then I don't feel a whole lot more important.
And as it turns out, for some people the importance of emotions and individuals is almost impossible to grasp.
Yes!
When I need to explain something to my dad that has anything to do with emotions, I have to say, “I’m not looking for you to fix anything. I just want you to listen and understand why…” whatever it is and then tell him what I want him to know. 😂
My husband (who is sensitive and emotional and knows it, but hates it too 🙄) doesn’t understand that my daughter and I aren’t yelling AT each other or even mad, but we’re venting loudly TO each other. 😂😂 We have repeatedly told him this, but when we’re in the kitchen yelling or loud, he says, “What are you two arguing about? No reason to be mad…” He doesn’t get that we feel awesome after our venting sessions. We don’t blow up on people when the smallest thing inconveniences us, because we’re always blowing off steam! 😊
Absolutely! I'm a woman, but I'm totally a 'fixer' by nature when it comes to talking about problems, to the point where I have to rein myself in and remind myself that 'ways to fix it' aren't necessarily what the other person wants from the discussion. I think it comes from my background as a navy kid, where my dad would be away at sea for months at a time, leaving my mum, me and my sister to run everything while he was gone. That teaches you to be a problem-solver from a very early age.
The reason men cut him off is because he's not worth listen to.
Not because they know what he is going to say.😂
Exactly, but he's desperately trying to protect his fragile ego by blocking any cognitive processes that might come to any conclusions that is remotely critical.
And because they can’t stand his lisp.
I once had a guy mansplain my own period to me. It was surreal as hell. Thank you for explaining to me what I go through for an entire week every single month, much appreciated…
My first boyfriend actually admitted that he would just pretend to know things better than me- even about my own body- just to see if I would buy it. He was a real piece of work.
Sounds like he needs to try out one of those period pain simulators... just imagine how more in-depth his mansplaining could be after that!
I had a grandmother explain to me in great and incorrect detail how to live with my type 1 diabetes. She used to be a nurse before retirement, but not a diabetic nurse. I myself have lived with the condition for 16 years. She was grandmothersplaining right? Jokes aside, she definitely has some characterological issues such as a need for perceived superiority. And for the record I hate being spoken to like that, it's really quite hurtful.
@@3_m_1_7I have several chronic health conditions and have had people of both sexes try to explain to me how I should address various health-related issues. Two of the worst examples were from men, though. One guy didn't believe that I had been diagnosed with coeliac disease, rather than just claiming to have a gluten intolerance, the other is my oncologist who just doesn't get how dreadful the effects of menopause can be for a woman (he is otherwise lovely).
@@3_m_1_7yeah new term required I guess. Infantisplaining?
Dad started a habit of telling Mom, "No, no, you've got it all wrong." I had to point out (POINTEDLY) that she was saying the same thing he was, just using different words.
I'm going to blame the medication he was on at the time, because he realized he was being a prat and stopped mansplaining sh!t.
Holy moley. I remember my father saying that to my mother but no one dared to tell him he was being perverse, misogynistic, an irrational tantrum throwing immature jerk off that he was coz it would be met with physical violence- until he was tired… being rational, reasonable and fair was not in his vocabulary the moment he stepped in that house. Outside he knew people would see him for the real jerk he is if he showed his true ugly self. So he behaved. As an adult, working in at times a very dangerous job dealing with awful violent psychotic people, psychopaths and sociopaths, I had a better chance of having a rational respectful conversation with a drug addled violent thug than I ever had with that person who pretended to be my father. Ah but it is what it is. I don’t speak to either and I don’t have to if I don’t want to. So life is great.👍🏼
@@ZLLi661 we are not all fortunate enough to be born into our real families and have to go find them.
Family is as family does.
I call that violent agreement. I point it out to people all the time. I’m just glad that the people I’m surrounded by are good sports and stop to listen and think about what’s been said. 😂
Medication can do some WILD things.
I lived with my grandmother when I was growing up. She got cancer and went through an array of medications.
She was always very frugal since she grew up extremely poor. Evey penny she had was accounted for... one medication made her a shopaholic.
It wasn't just random stuff, though. It was little debbie snack cakes.... she couldn't even eat them. It got to the point where we had a deep freezer full. I was only about 12 at that time, and I finally had to take charge when we were in the grocery store. She'd load up the cart with cakes, and I'd put them back. She would get so mad at me. I can only imagine what other people in the store thought...
When we would get home, though, she would apologize and thank me for putting my foot down. Once she was off the medication, she went back to her meticulous budgeting, and we had enough little debbie snack cakes to last a year and a half.
@@cassandrahepp6445 That's fascinating. Possible evidence of Big Pharma conspiring with Little Debbie!
Years ago my best friend and I had an agreement that when one of us wanted to complain, we'd just be clear about whether we wanted solutions or comfort. And, properly informed about expectations, the one being complained to could provide the desired support in the appropriate fashion. Worked great.
Sounds like a wonderful agreement. Sometimes we just need to vent and want to feel seen and listened to.
@@coolbreeze5683 And weirdly, when people actually *ask* for advice, it's almost never because they actually want it- they just want permission to do whatever they had already decided to do anyway =P
Awesome
Yes, the phrase, I just need to vent, is extremely helpful!
That's kind of lovely. Because yes, sometimes I don't want a Flamethrower of Death pointed at problems, but just a shoulder-bump hug of "I got your back." (With an implied promise that if you want to call in the flamethrowers later - yeah. Got them warmed up.)
The dude says that other men say, "I know this, let's skip ahead." Thing is, women say that too, then get told to listen and stop being a [slur of some sort]. Dude also says women don't want their problems solved, as though women had explicitly asked for their problem to be solved in the first place rather than the man just assuming she wanted it solved.
It's important to note that in a healthy relationship, partners don't assume that stuff, or if they do, they don't complain about being snapped at because they're grown-up enough to recognize that they made an inaccurate call that is 100% _their own_ fault. They, you know, take responsibility for being wrong, regardless of their intentions.
100%. Not everyone wants to complain and get a solution. Sometimes people wanna be heard. If you are unsure, just ask “want me to help you fix this, or do you want me to sit with you for a bit.” That way you know for sure what they want, and they know that you are taking their feelings into account by asking what they want.
What I don't understand is how often women themselves talk about not wanting a problem to be solved and rather being listened to. They speak about it as if they actually have a serious huge problem that needs a solution and a man can provide it but they just want to rant, but whenever they give an example, it's actually not a problem that needs to be solved in the first place or the solution would make it a much bigger problem than it actually is.
One often cited examples is having a co-worker or a boss that is mean, manipulative...etc. and the often proposed solution is of course things like documenting the behaviour, confronting the person, speaking to the manager of the person bothering you....etc.
But if you ACTUALLY think about it then "venting my anger away to then keep going" is a much better solution in most of those scenarios because let's be honest: When does escalating such a situation doesn't end up in a huge mess and make you a target for being fired next.
It's not like women are venting about problems that need to be solved by escalating them and refuse to accept solutions they can't come up with themselves. At least I never once read an example where this was the case
I have never experienced mansplaining from someone who cared about me. It's always from someone who wants to make himself feel important by demonstrating that he knows so much more than me to the point that he will talk over my correct explanation of the information he is explaining erroneouly.
My first boyfriend was a manslpaining monster. He was so aggro about it. He hated when I was right about anything. He made himself look like a moron about the dumbest stuff. One time he came into the kitchen at work and told me I was opening a 2 liter soda bottle too slowly and that's why it was fizzing so much. He commanded: "open it fast, that's how it's done." I said no, it will explode out all over the place. He got all angry and kept insisting that I just open it fast. I was in shock at his attitude and a little bit intimidated by him. I was actually sitting there considering whether I should do as he said even though it made no sense, but I was afraid he'd get mad when it overflowed and blame me. Because that's how he was. But he was the boss.. So I was just sitting there frozen for a beat. Thankfully, his business partner happened to be sitting next to me and he explained to him how soda bottle physics works. Then my ex finally said. "Oh." And walked away. I just looked at the business partner and said "thank you."
(Eventually, I got counseling and got to the bottom of why I valued myself so lowly that I would have ever dated a guy like that.)
@@themaggattackI'd be tempted to go, "I'm not strong enough to open it fast. Could you please show me how to do it correctly?"
i have experienced mansplaining from someone who cared about me. he has acknowledged it later and apologized though.
@@zoyadulzura7490 That's the way to do it! Whether it's safe to laugh after the contents explode all over him is another matter. 😂
@@siiiriously3226Yeah, my brother was brought up that way, but I know he doesn’t mean to do it intentionally. So I gently remind him “Hey, I know this already, you don’t need to explain it to me.” The best way to find the ones that are unintentional vs the desperate ego-boosters is to just say matter-of-factly “I’ve already come across this information, so you don’t need to tell it to me again.” And if they get angry, they be an insecure idiot.
Honestly I only ever see that guy when you’re responding to him but man do I dislike him with a passion
I’ve never seen him lol. Do you know his name?
@@shadowoflugiaEh. Who cares?
@@shadowoflugia not a clue, luckily
Yeah, he REALLY "turns me off"... great birth control, no interest in even dating left
I feel like I get stupider the more I hear that guy talk
I have literally told a man something that he had never before heard in his life and then sat there as he lectured it back to me for half an hour. I told the guy that I already knew all of that BECAUSE I WAS THE ONE WHO JUST TOLD HIM and it happened many times.
yes. same. the hybris is amazing.
This just happened to me last week at my place of work! I explained something to a man, and then he explained it right back at me like if he was the expert and hadn't just asked me a minute ago how it was done. 🤦🏽♀️ Like for real?
Why the fuck was the other guy describing mansplaining as if it's some _"great logical feat"_ like every man is Sherlock Holmes?
Except sherlock was a nice, considerate chap. Like most things in the modern era, he was misinterpreted by male writers (moffat) to be far more mysogynistic and edgy than he truly was so they could justify their own personality flaws to themselves
@@facelessdroneAgreed. Moffat has skill, but he shouldn't be given full rein over properties like that. His Doctor Who era was noticeably lacking as well, despite a few great stories.
@@facelessdrone Sherlock was extremely racist, which books did you read???
@@zoyadulzura7490Yeees. Moffat is excellent at 2-3 episode story arcs but I feel like it doesn't work out when given full control of a whole season or show.
"Women also famously never want to hear solutions. They would rather discuss their current feelings"
He's so close to getting it. So close. When you do something that someone doesn't want, which upsets them, and you don't want them to get upset, stop doing the thing. But I guess this man would rather discuss their current feelings than hear solutions.
If I didn't know better I would think the other guy was parodying mansplaining by mainsplaining mansplaining wrong and you were just adding another layer on top for laughs.😂
I rewatched it and now this is all can see it as! 😆
It's so meta! 😂
I wish it was parody.
I love how talking about a problem to understand it is sideswiped as not solving it. Better to guess what the problem is and implement a solution, rather than understand what needs to be changed! Solved! Cue credits while the actual problem is identified and solved.
...while the actual problem goes unresolved....
Truth
Yeah. Like, everyone knows how to articulate problems precisely in the first five words so the solution is immediately obvious and can be restated and explained over the next 500 words.
also conflating "talking" and conversing-or-discussing. i imagine this guy thinks that one person talking is a conversation if it's him talking, and is a haranguing if it's not him.
edits: corrected typos, added hyphens
Us feelers just can't logically understand how this mansplainer doesn't realize he's manslpaining to... a camera. I guess we got too emotional listening to his bs again😊😊
It's easier for him. The camera doesn't get offended when he tells it how to do its job. 😄
He most likely has a specific audience in mind and he's speaking to them. I confess to a morbid curiosity as to the demographics of that audience.
@@ak5659 alpha bros
@@ak5659 Single men, Under 30, lower middle class (because those in poverty can't buy what supplements/online workshop he is selling), with social anxiety issues.
I cried twice during his video because I have no ability to moderate my emotions and my little lady brain doesn’t have that manly “logic” part.
He's right about one thing, women don't always want solutions when we complain about a problem. Because most of the time, *we already know the solution*. What we need is third party confirmation that there is a problem in the first place, because so often we don't get that. So often we get told that there isn't a problem, that we're just overreacting, that we're just being too sensitive and emotional. Usually by men like him...
"not all men" and "you should educate yourself more, you're being ridiculous" SENT me 💀
When my husband mansplains something to me it's usually repeating what I said in a slightly different way. I'm gonna start wearing his clothes and acting like him so he can see how annoying he actually is.
Mansplain back to him while you're at it. I wish you could figure out an easy way to video that. I'd pay money to see you standing there in his pants, using his mannerisms, repeating back to him what he just said to you, but in a slightly different way. I could watch things like that for days.
Yes, please post a video! 😁
A whole new channel! :)
Someone does mini sketches of confrontations where they slowly become the other person by subtly swapping clothing an accessories. It's the same person acting out both parts, but it gets me every time.
I can just imagine you slowly being dressed more and more like your husband each time you mansplain his mansplaining back to him. 😂
You are awesome and I need a video please❤
He's talking down to us, while literally talking down to us. Yep, no posturing involved.
If only some of *those* men had the brain power to comprehend what you just said to them. Thank you. 😌🧡
I had a guy explain to me that childbirth doesn’t hurt and that it was all in my head. I gave birth to two babies but it’s all in my head😂😂😂😂
Imagine how surprised he'll be to learn that his whole experience of life has actually been "all in his head"
This is a great representation of what mansplaining actually is like
This is the correct usage of not all men, thank you😂
Had a man recently try to explain to me how to use a WATER HOSE !!!! Now I know it's just because he cares. Just to be clear I am 45 years old and don't show any visible signs that I would need this kind of "assistance".
Haven’t noticed much overlap between people who can help you articulate things when words fail, and people who say things like “women are feelers”
😂 Oh, I like that one!
You: **says this shit**
Me: **exists**
My husband and I have a long time friend who mansplains things all of the time. I called him out on it once online and a couple of other guys came to his defense. He said, “It’s alright. Kathy and I go way back. She doesn’t understand that this is not mansplaining, this is how I communicate with everyone.”
To which I replied, “Yeah, I know you are a huge Clint Eastwood fan, and that somehow seems logical to you, ‘I talk to everyone like this, so it’s not mansplaining.’ But, see? Even though Harry Callahan ‘hated everyone,’ he really actually was a racist, and a sexist, and you actually are a mansplainer. Just because a line in a movie tells you that if you treat everyone with the same amount of contempt that it is somehow acceptable, that doesn’t make it so. Your belief that a line from a movie somehow absolves you from being an insufferable a$$*ole is wrong. And just because someone can ‘make it’ in NYC, doesn’t mean they can ‘make it anywhere.’”
If he does it to everyone, then it wouldn't be "mansplaining", as defined by feminists
😂 Did you ever hear from him again??
@@DawnDavidson I hope not; no man needs such bitchery in his life
@@DawnDavidson we really can’t get rid of him…and I’m friends with his wife. But we don’t talk much. He’s one of those people who shares enough of our lives for a long enough period of time that we are really like extended family. (I mean, I know enough about him to know he watched Clint Eastwood movies almost exclusively during his teen years in the 1980’s…we have all insulted each other numerous times, if that’s what you mean.😂🤷🏻♀️
@@katherinemcintosh7247 hahaha! Yeah, we can choose our friends, but who they marry is sometimes a different matter! 🤣
Apparently being able to do more than one thing at a time isn't an option. Imagine addressing someones emotions and then coming up with a solution couldn't be me ^^.
"Let me mansplain to you how mansplaining is love and you should just shut up and listen because nothing you say is important and we have all the solutions you can't understand."
I wonder if he's single.
My sister helped me understand mansplaining a bit more. A prime example is when men tell women about women's bodies or how women are in any aspect as if men know how it feels to be a woman, e.g "the pain of being kicked in the balls is way worse than childbirth", "periods are not that bad", etc. Another example is when men assume women don't know what they're doing.
Advice incoming, which is for me anyway lol...
Rule of Thumb is to always ask about the situation and NOT give advice right away.
Women to this all the time too, yet there are no sexist buzzwords thrown around
It's almost like it's about sexism and not a problem with a behaviour
I loved this! But then again, I guess I’m just a feeler. 🤷🏻♀️
🥂
Lol!
You had me at, "If you could just moderate your tone." I would be doing quite well if I had a nickel for the number of times something along those lines has been said to me. And note how you've perfectly captured that edge of contempt, superiority, and aggression to YOUR voice as you say it, which so well shows that it is the 'tone' problem is actually coming from the jerk trying to bully us for simply speaking normally. And the thing is, no matter how hard we try, we will never get our tone just right, because this isn't about our tone, it is about freezing us in the middle of speaking, making us second guess ourselves, increasing our anxiety by making us try hard to please our bully, who will likely be getting angrier because each time we try again to speak, it still isn't right - because what is right is that we Shut Up. And become subservient, voiceless, and needless, and ready to please them at all times. A cross between a dog and a slave, basically. I recommend reading "Why Does He Do That' by Lundy Bancroft to anyone else on here reading what I am saying and nodding their head. It is so incredibly eye opening.
“Men aren’t emotional”
….meanwhile they have a tantrum over their team losing and punch a hole in the wall 😂
It’s like…go back to the military where you belong, babe.
That's probably the one place some men shouldn't be
@@anjafrohlich1170It might teach them a semblance of self control 🤷♀️
But that's anger... they can be angry, it's manly and it's not a real emotion after all
@@cashwalk7253it doesn't change who they are deep down. The military is like alcohol, it'll just take you and make you more YOU.
As spokesperson for the entire military community and former military person, we politely decline him. /lol
Whenever my boyfriend mansplains sometimes I just look straight into his eyes and ask him “how was it any different than what I was saying?” Works like a charm, trained him to not cut me off.
“…what you perceive to be women” is one of the most trans inclusive statements I’ve heard. ❤👏👏
I love how you make that guy look like the fool he is.
Part of the problem when trying to explain mansplaining to men is that they generally can't experience it from women's points of view. The point of mansplaining is that a man assumes that he knows better than a woman does specifically because of a bias that women are less competent than men. The vast majority of men are never going to say out loud that they're explaining stuff we already know because of that bias. Many of them are probably not even aware that's what's going on. But being treated like you don't know what you're doing, even when it's a subject you're a certified expert in, is a very common and infuriating part of living as a woman.
When it comes to some subjects, women can assume men are incompetent, too. But mansplaining has a word because it's extremely common in the workplace, where women in specialized fields are likely to have their credentials and relevant training already be known (or at least implied), yet they're still treated like they know less than some random guy on the street. It's part of the broader cultural attitude that contributes to women earning less than their male peers and being promoted far less often despite being equally qualified.
So, no, if you're a man explaining something to a woman, you're not necessarily mansplaining. But you could come across that way even if you don't mean to. The solution is simple: before you explain something to someone, just quickly ask them if they'd like it explained. If they say no, then don't explain. They probably know what they're doing. And if they don't, that's not on you - you offered.
"I do believe that you believe that's what happens" 😂😂😂 me too 😂😂😂
That man is deep in his feels and doesn't have the skills to find his way out. Imagine being so fragile that being asked not to talk over people *feels* like an attack.
There was this time I had a question about a game; my dad kept trying to explain the part I already understood and never answered the question that I asked. He got pissed at me for not listening when I tried to clarify what I was asking about and went right back to the beginning of his explanation of what I already knew 🙄
this!!! my dad exactly. just he starts raging at me cause "i'm too stupid" while he doesn't even have enought emotional restraint to let me lay out the issue at hand. so rational.🙃
He doesn’t even know what mansplaining is 🤣🤣🤣
I once had two men explain how an L bracket works. I don't understand the problem or the solution they were trying to explain with that one.😂
The "problem" was your literally existing in the same space as them and the solution was to condescend you until you left 🙄
some of my fave responses when dudes mansplain shit to me:
you get really condescending about informing them that yes, you already know, and you've know for a while
"so awesome you know that too"
even better: "sounds like you just learned about that. and you're so right, i remember how amazing (whatever adjective fits) i thought it was when i first learned that too!"
or you play dumb and act like you have literally no clue what they're talking about and FORCE them to explain every single nuance in excruciating detail. And when they finally do, then you just dismiss it with "oh, well that seems dumb, pointless, unnecessary (whatever)" Or if it's a specific things they're going on about, like a band/show/movie, then you just say "oh, i've never heard of that, i'm not really into Kpop/Pokemon (some thing you know that dude will definitely get upset about you thinking he's into)
Mostly, i've just gotten really petty now when dudes start mansplaining dumb shit to me. I don't try to tell them that i already know or correct their inaccuracies. I just get condescending and patronizing AF. and i LOVe seeing these dudes unravel
"so awesome you know that too"
Now, this one's brilliant. I'm stealing. :)
@@mischarowe oh yeah, make it clear you already know, and be super condescending about it too. I also like "oh wow, did you just learn about that? it's really cool right?"
@@bottomofastairwell 😂
LOVE IT!
It sounds like that guy read 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' and believed every word of it
Simple arrogant explaining vs Mansplaining is the difference between educating and _asserting dominance._
A mansplainer doesn't actually care whether you know something or not. They're there to perform to you what _they_ know.
Arrogant explainers still think they know more than you, however they will _quickly self-correct_ if they realize you actually do know.
Arrogant explainers _pay attention_ to their audience. Mansplainers _do not._
Exactly! So many people don't get that mansplaining is inherently patriarchal!
It's the smallest form of 'I shall lead because I'm a masculine man'.
@@deldarel exactly! I tell this to men friends of mine who constantly worry they're Mansplaining to me. They're good men and need to know that not all explaining from a man, assuming a woman doesn't know, is Mansplaining.
They care about me. Mansplainers don't.
@kikijewell2967 I’m sorry to tell you this, but most of the people who complain about mansplaining these days, does not want to know this difference, in the slightest.
They are idiotic millennial men and women who are full themselves, just like TheSpeechProf is, and they never appear to really give a shit about discussing things like this, in good faith, like you do.
It’s been the key reason behind why I’ve been extremely sceptical of the whole mansplaining thing over the past eight years, and people like these really grind my gears.
I am a woman who Mansplains CONSTANTLY
...PLEASE DON'T NORMALIZE THIS. IT IS A PERSONALITY FLAW I HAVE AND IM WORKING ON IT
Same, girl. The struggle is REAL.
As a teacher, I have to stop myself from launching into explaining mode. It turns out that when you aren't in a classroom talking with students, other people can find your explanations irritating! Go figure.
@@Salicat99mansplaining and explaining aren’t the same thing though
@@Salicat99this is not mansplaining. Do you do this only to women? Do you do this because, as a man, you’re (more or less consciously) convinced you know better than a woman?
Just the fact that you can identify this tendency to go teacher mode means you’re self aware. Same with OP, aware of her own “personality flaw”. Yes you both can be guilty of unnecessary explaining something, but that’s not what mansplaining is.
So yes we need to normalize this. Individual flaws are just that, individual problems. Mansplaining is a symptom of a very large societal, systemic problem that needs to go. Mansplaining is one of the many ways women are undermined, particularly in the professional sphere. Identifying it is the first step to addressing the bigger problem: the legitimacy of women in places of power and authority. There’s a lot at stake.
I already hate that guy who is trying to tell us how to speak
I bet he's one of those guys that blame women for being celibate against his will... They should come up with a name for those guys. 🤔
Ha ha
Celnons? Unsexables?
@@Wednesdaywoe1975 Haha unsexables.... (Incel is the term)
@@Wednesdaywoe1975 "unsexables" is epic 😂😂😂💀
Idiots?
I think something can be read about the fact he’s got the camera so low that he’s literally talking down to his audience. Also maaaaaaaybe, just maybe, women also already have the solution to their problem in mind and just want to heckin vent!
Also talking about a problem out loud frequently helps you see a little differently and you can come up with the solution on your own.
@@darcy5761 yeah that’s super true too!
Or sometimes there just is no solution and venting helps you cope.
Real talk, one time a man mansplained mansplaining to me in an apology for mansplaining.
Not even a joke, he started out “I don’t know if you know what mansplaining is, but it’s when…”
I was so stunned I just waited for him to finish, accepted the apology and sat down for a while to process what I had just seen.
I laughed so hard, I teared up and died a little inside. This is the kind of humorous commentary that makes me both sad and happy simultaneously. Oh, the humanity.
My husband would like to refute the first guys points about mansplaining. Gboard insists that i mean manslaughter when i try to type the word.
"Not all men!....Not...all... men!" So hilarious how he uses Brospeak to make the point! LOL
Oh man you did way too good a job with this, pal. Got me heated and PO'd at you for no reason haha!
This guy didn't understand the assignment😆
I wonder what his reaction is when someone actually cuts into his mansplaining to say skip ahead and whether it's different based on gender. Although it does explain why some men feel free to interrupt women since they do it to other men.
My ex would always interrupt me. I heard him do it to another man he didn’t know, and the man made sure to tell him off about it.
omg lol imagine treating a mansplainer like an RPG NPC and just saying "...skip....skip...skip..." like they do in Viva la Dirt League 😂
As a man I can tell you men do interrupt each other all the time. If we get annoyed it's often because the man interrupting is trying to present himself as more knowledgeable about the topic... WHEN HE KNOWS HE IS NOT. Therefore it is not about the topic or explanation thereof. The guy is being deliberately aggressive; it's a power play hnd completely irrelevant to the topic.
Guys usually don't get annoyed if the interruption consists of a data drop.
Yep. I'm non-binary but I had a man get unreasonably angry with me "for hogging the whole conversation" three words into my first sentence in a 15 minute "conversation". When I pointed this out he screamed at me that I was being dramatic. 🤦🙄
@@waffles3629 He wins the tiara for being the real drama queen 👑
😂😂 Explaining... solves the problem... Duh! We should let men explain to men more about what is being explained so we dont have to explain. Thank you👌 👏 👏 problems are SOLVED. LISTEN UP LADIES! THE PROBLEM IS SOLVED! 😂😂 ❤
I have trained my husband over the past 30 year, when I have a problem, to ask, "Do you want me to just go 'there, there', or do you want me to fix it?" Well, Ok, that's his interpretation of me trying to explain that sometimes I just want him to listen and not try to solve everything, but it'll do. Except when I say something like, "DH, I can't get the TV to work!" "Do you want me to go there, there?" Aarghhhh!
I let my man know that just pretending to listen while I vent, is way less work for him, all he needs to do is nod and make eye contact - problem solved!
Actually, I'm impressed. In my experience most women just expect the man to read the woman's mind to know which one she wants.
@@peterlong2580I hope, for your wife's sake, that you are being sarcastic.
@peterlong2580 Considering that you didn't mark your comment as sarcasm (/s) and I still suspected that it was sarcasm, no I didn't fall into your trap. And your comment wasn't so much about "training" as it was about ignoring the needs of your significant other.
@peterlong2580 You came here to be "right". Please use /s in future when using sarcasm in text form. Remember that tone of voice doesn't come across in writing.
My favorite was seeing a guy online try to mansplain a period to a bunch of women 😅🤣
This made me laugh SO HARD… I’m so lucky that he manslained to me why he mansplains to me.
How do you not have cranial fractures from the blunt force trauma of *headdesk? Anyway, I salute your patience, Sir. I’d be reduce to inchoate screaming, by now. Yet you are as cordial and gentle as ever.
SIR! Sir. You are allowed to complain about a problem even if you can't fix it. Men can do this, too. You have the right. Also, we've probably run this exact scenario by 4 other people before you, and we don't want to hear the same solution offered that we might have already though of
So that guy who painstakingly broke down to me, a 37 year old woman, the super secret meaning of the song title "Foxtrot Uniform Charlie Kilo" was just trying to solve a problem.
now i wonder what the secret meaning is?😂
Did you know what the meaning of it was, beforehand?
I feel if that guy would just calm down and listen to what you're saying, get his feelings out of the way, then maybe he could solve his problem causing him all those feelings.
Yeah...that whole "Just interrupt the man if he's telling you something you already know" bit.........does he realize women can & do get KILLED for doing things like that? Like literally shot-dead killed?
@@peterlong2580 Mansplain a lot, do you, then? But no, I never feel dumb when interrupting someone mansplaining to me, no matter if they keep talking or not. I just marvel at their double-dose of arrogance - first dose causing the mansplaining to begin with, second dose being the arrogance that makes you think *you* telling me something I already know is more important than *my* time. Won't you feel silly when I walk off & leave you talking to the air.
@@peterlong2580 They way you said this like it's a point of pride instead of a deeply pathetic character flaw.
@@peterlong2580 Clearly not. Continuing to explain while people are telling you "I already know this" is utterly disrespectful. You're showing far less respect than you expect - which is far less than you've earned.
@@peterlong2580 So you're basically ranting at people without having the common decency and respect to actually understand that conversation goes both ways.
@wjm1319 “Does he realize women can & do get KILLED for doing things like that?”
How often does that happen?
Where does that happen?
What setting does that happen in?
What percentage of women who say that to men actually get killed on the spot for that?
Where does this happen in the United States or the developed world?
Among which communities does this happen? Because yes, ethnic cultures CAN have an impact on this, depending on what type of overall culture it is.
I genuinely want to know the objective answers for all these things, because what you just said is absolutely not something that normally happens, in most casual environments. We need to keep it real, here.
If we’re to address this as a serious issue, then it needs to be looked at and talked about as such.
Yeah, so many women don't feel safe cutting men off mid sentence, even if they know the topic. Women have to take care of men's feelings so much more than they realise.
When you hit with the "Not all men" - I lost it! Fully out belly laugh - thanks for that today.
I always start with "I'm just here to listen." And then stick to it. That's all my wife wants almost always, someone to validate her feelings, not be an advice columnist.
I do not understand how guys like this do not get it even after we have explained it. if we are talking about something and we don't want a solution that's just because we want to vent to feel better.
EXACTLY!! We can talk for more than one reason! Dudes like the mansplainer piss me off because they think "solving a problem" is the ONLY reason to talk - EVER - just totally ignoring the myriad of other reasons to talk. Like sometimes we want to talk to inform people of future plans (like "I'm leaving your ass"), let them know where things are (like the post office box key) and what to use them for (to find the divorce papers that will be sent soon).
Then again, I guess even that type of communication is solving a problem - a deadass mansplaining problem.
Then vent to someone who's good at being vented to.
Why is that NEVER an option?
@@christopherbrown5409 Yeah, to hell with women thinking a man could be a mature and reasonable partner! They should know that men are all immature babies who can't handle a mutually supportive relationship, right?
@@christopherbrown5409I come home, had a crap day, so I just tell my husband I am not talking with you ... I am going to call/see/go out with my girlfriend because you can't listen to me vent without trying to "fix" my problem.
I see no issues that could possibly arise from this.
@@christopherbrown5409 if we are venting to you that means we care about you and thought you cared about us. If you care about someone you let them vent. Don't be a jerk
Oh, how I love you, Prof. I simply adore you.
That's what it is. I dislike solutions. Thank for explaining
Honestly, the other man should watch how he presents himself online. That open jacket, showing his undershirt, pouty submissive facial expressions, all the while diving into what's clearly _not_ a man's area of expertise - discussing a problem - is sending a wrong message and he shouldn't be surprised if he doesn't like what this will bring upon him. I'm not saying - _I'm not saying_ he's asking for it, obviously. I'm not _that_ kind of girl. Maybe he's not _trying_ to invite women's attention. But how are women supposed to know?
Like what you did there, LOL
Marry me.
@@Wednesdaywoe1975ok
Eh, just dismiss him as an Andrew Tate wannabe and move on.
That’s my own advice, as someone who doesn’t really trust Taters, _specifically,_ and the Tate-like minority of men, in general (or Tater-Tots, his 14 year old followers, for that matter), seriously.
Him: "men are logical, women feel..."
Also him: "We do it out of love..."
🤔
Some men are good at fooling themselves that they are completely unemotional and logical.
As a dude who hates solutions, I can confidently say that women hate solutions /s
Someone finally gave me the best clap back to someone mansplaining you something. "Oh, you know that too? Good for you!" *carries on speaking*
I love you so much Chesko! this is freaking brilliant!!! 😂😂😂
Oh my gosh this was actually super cathartic. Do you do weddings and parties? I'd pay you to talk to some of my male relatives. 😂😂
You, sir, are a gem. This was brilliant!
As another guy I think he should adjust his camera angle as the looking down at the camera when mansplaining is definitely giving mixed messages of mansplaining down to me. Bugger I forgot I don’t have emotions, really I’m fine my logic just needs some adjusting.
Well, he's a special one. Doesn't understand the concept of needing to vent and makes up excuses for why he doesn't care enough about anyone to listen to them do it.
Love how the title uses the same word four times in one sentence but it still make sense
The way his voice strained on, "not. all. men." fucking got me. Very effective. Well said, dude.
Well, sometimes the "solutions" these guys speak of involves running away to their man cave, or to the bar to have drinks when things get tough. I have more than a few friends who want their husbands to spend time with their kids.
Wife's easy solution: asks husband to spend time with their family and kids.
Their husband's solution: say he's going golfing with the guys every weekend which is code for avoiding spending time with their family.
Also, sometimes when a guy comes up with a simple "solution", it means they don't have the ability to think there might be 10 different solutions but think their 1 solution is the correct and most important one.
One time I was visiting tourist attractions with some fellow older students. I figured out directions through the labyrinthine old city to our next destination. They were like "no you can't be right, women are terrible at directions". So I followed their lead and, lo and behold, it was the wrong way. Did they apologize to me? Nope.
This is every time my husband and I travel. I will know in my heart of hearts which way we need to go, but he will insist we go a different direction. I’m right literally every time yet this keeps happening.
Oh so when a man tried to explain to me how my period works thats not offensive thats helping. Sadly no solution came after😂😂😂😂
My favorite mansplaining story:
My best friend is a chemical engineer for a big medical supply company. She was showing around some of the company execs in her new lab the company had spent a lot of money building from the ground up. She was showing them one of the new machines they'd had installed and while she was explaining what it did one of the senior engineers interrupted her and said that the machine actually does xyz and it produced data abc. She corrected him again and he interrupted her saying he knew what he was talking about cause he was a senior engineer. She smiled and said, "I designed this machine." Whoopsie. He did not apologize.