"Not Like Other Girls" - the Culture of Internalised Misogyny | Antonina Stępak | TEDxYouth@2SLO

Who are the "Not Like Other Girls” girls? And why do they feel the need to detach themselves from other women like that? Antonina Stępak will explain why this phenomenon exists, what it says about our society, how it is inherently connected to internalised misogyny, and what we can do to stop it. My name is Antonina and I am 14 years old. I am passionate about political science, literature, and music. I have always been interested in social issues and the subject of my TEDx talk is very personal to me. Internalised misogyny is something I had experienced myself. The "Not Like Other Girls" Phenomenon, which I will be discussing in my talk, is very present in our culture, and it severely affected how I saw myself in my early years and how I interacted with my peers. When compare my younger self to the young girls today I see how little society has changed, and how much change we still need to make to defeat limiting societal standards and give the next generation equal chances regardless of gender. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@user_19890]

As a masculine girl this is so true. I’m everything you described, not to be different, just to be myself.

[@chriss.3740]

There is nothing wrong with being like “other girls.” They are people with interests too, and you’d be surprised to see how much in common with girls.

[@danielalizbethcastropineda9720]

THATS THE WHOLE POINT, we have so much in common buts they feel bad admitting that, because femininity is like a CRIME to society.

[@sarakjeldsen769]

I was just thinking about this. The "othering" you see sometimes from other women, or women demeaning themselves or other women, etc. The cool girl rhetoric is so true - and it serves to put down women who are more "feminine" in behaviour.

[@gram.]

That's mens faults

[@knzmb605]

I want society to consider video games not as "manly" trait.

[@00Daddy]

Wtf why

[@fannygonzalez3211]

this video is so underrated

[@kaelanmartinezdeescobar1870]

This video sucks

[@blairwaldorf9468]

@@kaelanmartinezdeescobar1870 Silence.

[@krystalmemije4606]

love this video!

[@lilangel1773]

lovedd

[@lilypena1511]

❤️

[@yewo.m]

"You're not like other men". Simply saying that on its own doesn't carry much positive or negative meaning, in my opinion. It ultimately depends on the context and why the person said that, in determining whether it's a complement or not. Like, what if the person believes most other men she's met are jerks, but you're special? It would be a complement, in that case

[@xmartinx666x]

Internalised Misogyny does actually mean accepting traditional gender roles

[@Yeetmaster3000-co4on]

No it doesn't. Misogyny means you hate women.

[@bushmg1061]

Are you telling me women aren’t allowed to be different? That’s lunacy! Get real.

[@delilahhart4398]

That's not what she's saying. She's saying that stereotypically masculine traits are more valued than stereotypically feminine ones. Women and girls who display more stereotypically masculine traits are often praised more and taken more seriously than those who are stereotypically feminine. Women and girls have internalized these attitudes. Gender stereotypes should be done away with, and people should all just be allowed to be themselves and be accepted for it. That's the point.

[@bushmg1061]

@@delilahhart4398 I was speaking about her insinuation that there’s something wrong with a woman saying “I’m not like other girls,” which is patently ridiculous. Obviously that conclusion was not the focal point of her thesis

[@yikxuan2977]

@@bushmg1061 Yes because saying "I'm not like other girls" suggests that it is a *bad* thing to be like other girls. (which she says is because society views femininity as weak and masculinity as strong)

[@victoriaalbastra6325]

She's obviously referring to the "pick me" girl trope. If you don't get it, you don't get. Stop wasting our time.

[@gram.]

@@delilahhart4398 yeah, like they're valued in the workplace and women with masculine traits are paid more than some men, that's how it is, nature, deal with it

[@madmax5841]

Femcel theories

[@kaelanmartinezdeescobar1870]

What world does this woman live in? No one thinks that way

[@iila]

It's called Earth. You may not know. Which world are you living in?

[@bushmg1061]

@Iila Actually, _you_ seem to be living on Planet Sass

[@jaguarholly7156]

nah, i agree with Kaelan. This woman is making the typical mistake of thinking that what Hollywood shows is what real people think. Shes just one cancerous cell spreading from the massive tumor that is Hollywood. Not her fault, its sad. But still, just coz u feel bad for a cancerous cell doesnt meanit isnt sick and needs to be rejected by the healthy cells.

[@yourdagan]

Women are crabs in a bucket.

[@mohammedmansoor4347]

I would say Hijab for Womens and Girls to end the MISOGNY among peoples.

[@delilahhart4398]

Forcing women and girls to wear a hijab is more misogynistic than anything, because they're being dictated to about how they should dress.

[@arisamelody]

out of sight out of mind? i’m sorry but ur idea of modesty is inherently misogynistic

[@mohammedmansoor4347]

@@delilahhart4398
Women wearing hijab is fortold in both Quran and Bible.

[@mohammedmansoor4347]

@@arisamelody
So you mean showing women's boobs in public places and freedom of doing every shameful activity is your culture right, in reality it sucks.

[@delilahhart4398]

@@mohammedmansoor4347 I don't care what the Bible and Qur'an say. Women and girls shouldn't be forced to wear hijabs against their will.