How Sexism Affects us all | Julia Hardy | TEDxYYC

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  • čas přidán 6. 09. 2016
  • Julia Hardy tells us how she uses humour to combat endemic online sexism, and explains how the actions of this small percentage of men not only adversely affect and change women’s behaviour, but actually cause detriment to other men.
    Julie Hardy is a technology and gaming expert based in London, UK and hosts a new radio show on video game culture on BBC Radio 1. Specializing in technology, video games, CZcams and pretty much anything to do with the online self, Julia’s work has been featured by BBC TV, Bravo and BAFTA.
    Julia takes a passionate stance on online issues and created a blog called “Misogyny Monday” as a platform to raise awareness of the abuse that many women encounter online.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Komentáře • 938

  • @tickedoffnow
    @tickedoffnow Před 5 lety +375

    This woman is just telling the truth, when the truth is being told there will always be people that unfortunately don't wanna hear it

    • @BeGlamourlicious
      @BeGlamourlicious Před 4 lety +7

      Jimmy The Clown you are speaking the truth.

    • @thegreenwood6645
      @thegreenwood6645 Před 3 lety +3

      @@BeGlamourlicious Sexism don't exist, it's just in your imagination.

    • @mikebanning1773
      @mikebanning1773 Před 3 lety +15

      @@thegreenwood6645 it does exist, I'm a man, I have experienced it.

    • @mikebanning1773
      @mikebanning1773 Před 3 lety +7

      @@BeGlamourlicious He is wrong.
      .
      I talk to women, and they are never suspicious of Attractive men.
      .
      Women are not Afraid of Attractive Men.

    • @grace-eg6dn
      @grace-eg6dn Před 3 lety +7

      @@mikebanning1773 just because to ask a few women of their opinion doesn’t mean the rest of the female population agrees....

  • @MrAvaneita
    @MrAvaneita Před 6 lety +421

    The comments below.. cancer..cancer everywhere. Why do you feel so offended? She had a very good and funny and understanding way of drawing attention to a subject. She didn‘t point fingers, she just stood up for the people that don’t feel confident enough to do it and spoke out the thoughts in her and many other girls‘ head.

    • @missheartfull237
      @missheartfull237 Před 6 lety +32

      Avaneita because sexism. Her speech wasn't rough enough. Nothing will ever change as long as we keep getting gaslighted and puts men's feelings at the top of the list.

    • @lockandloadlikehell
      @lockandloadlikehell Před 5 lety +8

      Hypocrisy and stupidity is the worst.
      It's hilarious how she invents these fantasy scenarios.
      She actually thinks she's clever; it's so cute.
      ^^ that's called excessive neuroticism and agreeableness.

    • @rageturnedinwords3154
      @rageturnedinwords3154 Před 5 lety +6

      She did it gracefully.

    • @monkeyonfetanyl
      @monkeyonfetanyl Před 4 lety +2

      She’s literally calling men sexist wow

    • @squaa4116
      @squaa4116 Před 4 lety +31

      @@monkeyonfetanyl Did you miss the "not all men" part?

  • @stephridestheworld
    @stephridestheworld Před 7 lety +412

    The comment section below this video proves everything in this video to be correct.

  • @Gadgetsjon
    @Gadgetsjon Před 7 lety +631

    There have been many times throughout my life when I've seen guys, sometimes friends or colleagues of mine say or do things that are straight up shameful and at best, distasteful and at their worst, disgusting.
    And in those very moments, I've called guys on it and pointed out the damage they are doing, not only (potentially to that woman), but also, potentially for any other men she meets, including us (the guys in that moment).
    Then there's the other side of the coin that I like to bring to people's attention: What if that woman who you're harassing or bitterly insulting in a comment was your mother, daughter, sister, friend, partner? And it was another man doing the misogyny?
    Those guys would be the first to react passionately and aggressively in defence of their loved ones. So why inflict such disgusting behaviour on the loved ones of others?
    Just take a step back

    • @Gadgetsjon
      @Gadgetsjon Před 7 lety +20

      Daryl Bea Lotta Payne I'm not sure if this is a rhetorical question or not.

    • @lilmax86
      @lilmax86 Před 7 lety +17

      Wow. You're a real stand-up guy, huh? That's great. It is.
      Consider, though, that this stand-uppishness is stereotypically patriarchal. Feminists don't take kindly to patriarchy, you know, and they're not nearly done destroying it. Paradoxically enough, they are also very, _very_ keen on exploiting the patriarchal values they pose to dismantle, in order to keep policing others' behaviors. - As is abundantly clear in this video. - Either way, I would watch my back, if I were you.
      Let's take another step back.
      What if the disgusting behavior you refer to doesn't stem from misogyny. Think about it; if misogyny were an element, it would probably be the rarest one in the known universe. So maybe these guys react to the despicable behavior of the woman involved. Maybe the despicable behaviors of _other_ women have already done their damage in these men.
      THAT, dear friend, is the other side of the coin.
      Since you gave no specifics,, there's no way of knowing. By the same token, we may assume that this is the case just as well as you did in standing up for these women - or against these men, I can't really tell.

    • @lolfemfaillol3933
      @lolfemfaillol3933 Před 7 lety +12

      Jon Devo Your virtue signal is blinding me. Can you turn it down?

    • @Gadgetsjon
      @Gadgetsjon Před 7 lety +71

      What about loving and respecting others suggests I hate myself? I feel for you if you can't see how much easier and properous your life could be if you were free of your apparent ignorance.

    • @Gadgetsjon
      @Gadgetsjon Před 7 lety +58

      No virtue or signalling here. You seem insecure. You may want to work on that.

  • @preciousinfinity
    @preciousinfinity Před 7 lety +141

    Every time one of these videos comes up the comments are full of rants about how the person speaking isn't representing everyone in their speech. Do we really have to state every little thing? Is it not possible to talk about sexism against women without having to talk about sexism against men? Is it not possible to talk about racism against black people without talking about racism against white people?
    At no point in this video did she say that sexism against men didn't exist, or wasn't a problem. If she had done then I'd understand many of the comments.
    Do you really have to keep pointing to yourselves and saying 'but what about me?'

    • @josef7461
      @josef7461 Před 5 lety +19

      That's the problem. No one talks about mens issues. It's all about women's issues and men are getting sick of it. Both men and women face problems in our society, but womens problems receive much more attention and focus then mens problems.

    • @allisonplucker5931
      @allisonplucker5931 Před 5 lety +12

      So what are some of the men’s problems. I’m not trying to be rude about it. I just genuinely want to know.

    • @josef7461
      @josef7461 Před 4 lety +12

      @@allisonplucker5931 increased suicide rate, more workplace fatalities, more combat fatalities, more likely to be homeless, less likely to be granted custody purely because of gender, less likely to get in to college, no access to things like affirmative action, more likely to be incarcerated, will serve much longer sentences then women for equivalent crimes. To name the main ones.

    • @josef7461
      @josef7461 Před 4 lety +9

      @P S sorry dude but i gotta disagree. Feminists are doing these things, not women. Im sorry you have had a horrible experience with women in your life but i love the women in my life, but i also love the men in my life too, which is why i being up this point. I don't hate women

    • @josef7461
      @josef7461 Před 4 lety +17

      @P S all this reply and not a single fact or statistic, just anecdotal rubbish. Women regularly do denounce feminism, in fact in the Uk only a very low percentage of women call themselves feminists. My mother spent years rearing me and caring for me, and you say women dont care? You talk about women dismissing mens experiences yet you dismiss mine by telling me the women who i think care dont in fact care. I think you had bad experiences in the past and thats ok but generalising an entire gender based on the actions of a few makes you as bad as the feminists you hate

  • @doubleh333lix
    @doubleh333lix Před 5 lety +105

    I would play gun games when I was 10 online. My name was gender neutral but I’d use a female skin, a female skin that looked like a soldier.
    I got several obscene messages from grown men. It’s not like they knew how young I was. Still not okay.

    • @videoking1832
      @videoking1832 Před 5 lety

      lmao pls delete this comment

    • @videoking1832
      @videoking1832 Před 5 lety

      ignore it and just move on duh

    • @Nate-xy5il
      @Nate-xy5il Před 4 lety +16

      @@videoking1832 they can comment it if they want it's not hurting anyone sheesh...

    • @mikebanning1773
      @mikebanning1773 Před 3 lety

      I'm a Guy, And I Have gotten Obscene Messages by Women, about what they want me to do to them.
      .
      About what they want to do to my body.

    • @Why-yj3um
      @Why-yj3um Před 3 lety +3

      @@mikebanning1773 that is also a problem.

  • @ngodoy247
    @ngodoy247 Před 7 lety +156

    Two things you slowly realize on the internet; One, regardless of how you articulate yourself, people will always see what they want to see in what you are trying to say. Second, people often don't care to constructively fix the things they see wrong, but prefer to discredit the person and the argument to avoid seeing an individual as a person not too different from themselves.
    Regardless of the issue, most people seem more concerned with asserting their rightness on the internet rather than getting to the bottom of what the cause is. Then you watch both sides dig in their heels because the discussion turns into an ego battle rather than a constructive dialogue. Life is rough as it is, don't hate the player hate the game. Feminist or otherwise, people are just trying to hold on the best they can. .
    That being said, interesting points were made, there was some logic made that raises red flags, but I at least admire that she is trying to constructively deal with the harassment she receives on a daily basis. It seems a far better alternative than the verbal assaults in this comment section.
    Kudos and be well.

    • @frankiewinters1255
      @frankiewinters1255 Před 7 lety +15

      It is so refreshing to see a youtube comment of that length with not one spelling or grammar mistake. Finally someone who used 'their' instead of 'there in the correct place!' I could hardly believe my eyes when I read it

    • @micaelaelena5579
      @micaelaelena5579 Před 6 lety

      .

    • @LuciferXFallen290
      @LuciferXFallen290 Před 5 lety +2

      @@frankiewinters1255 that's pathetic of you

  • @kywha1e_
    @kywha1e_ Před 6 lety +14

    What I find fascinating is that there is a need for somebody to point out exactly how “sexism affects us all.” Meaning that there are people out there that constantly hear about the things that so many people go through while facing sexism, yet they don’t feel the need to do anything about it because it “doesn’t affect them”

  • @philima
    @philima Před 6 lety +157

    Julia Hardy just made my day!
    After having a discussion about sexism and rape culture with a guy who didn´t even realize that blaming the victim is really sexist. And that therefore, sexism exists. And thats just one point, one occasion:
    I personally am confronted with male people on a daily basis (who I like and who like me= no hate), that sport majorly sexist views without realizing it and probably thinking these views don´t cause harm. But they do.
    I feel like men need to step down from being offended and try to walk in womens shoes for a moment. It isn´t that women like Julia Hardy, who made it abundantly clear she isn´t talking about ALL MEN, dislike or hate men. Neither do I but I expect from fellow human beings to not insult or degrade me based on my gender (as I don´t wish men to be). Even if done without bad intention. How is that expectation hateful? Just be a considerate human being! Isn´t that supposed to be normal?
    Online sexism is escalating in the worst ways and it spills out into the real world. Please just respect people and stop treating others as inferiors, goddammit.

    • @falcongirl412
      @falcongirl412 Před 5 lety +5

      P. Marouf I honestly couldn't have said this better!

    • @josef7461
      @josef7461 Před 5 lety +5

      Victim blaming? Oh yeh you mean due process.

    • @sebastiankrajewski2029
      @sebastiankrajewski2029 Před 4 lety +4

      Turns out that women are far more sexist. Don't deceive yourself...

    • @itsJulesHardy
      @itsJulesHardy Před 3 lety

      yasss x

    • @MementoVita
      @MementoVita Před 7 měsíci

      Yeah I experience a lot of sexism from the women in my life and they get no feelings from it and don’t listen to me when I’m trying to tell them they treat me like sh*t, it sucks.

  • @tickedoffnow
    @tickedoffnow Před 5 lety +128

    She's not only accurate but funny, she should do stand-up

    • @itsJulesHardy
      @itsJulesHardy Před 3 lety +6

      oh wow just saw this - thanks XD

    • @ollieboy07
      @ollieboy07 Před 3 lety +1

      I disagree with both of those statements

  • @alexa548
    @alexa548 Před 7 lety +51

    Message was relayed perfectly! Not all men :D Good luck in the gaming industry, Julia ♡

  • @vladdracul1977
    @vladdracul1977 Před 7 lety +270

    A wonderful talk. A little bit of empathy from us guys wouldn't go amiss.

    • @darylbealottapayne8053
      @darylbealottapayne8053 Před 7 lety +3

      Hold onto that line and sinker, I'll get a pair of pliers to get that hook out.

    • @lolfemfaillol3933
      @lolfemfaillol3933 Před 7 lety +6

      Stephen Phillips You suck at life. This chick is so oppressed. lolz.

    • @matermatuta1462
      @matermatuta1462 Před 7 lety +11

      Stephen Phillips thank you another positif reaction from a man you give me hope i wish i was more surrounded by men like you bless you

    • @harryseldon6712
      @harryseldon6712 Před 7 lety +4

      Women lacking in common sense complain like Julia Hardy. If they have an attractive appearance, some men will side with them. Manginas - I think is the term for these men.
      Google: *theguardian+technology+half-of-misogynistic-tweets-sent-by-women-study-finds*
      More than half of 'misogynistic' posts by Twitter users in the UK and America are written by women, according to a new large-scale study. A report that analysed 19 million tweets over four years found three million posts including insults aimed at women. The users who had posted the insults were more likely to be female than male.

    • @Fandar
      @Fandar Před 6 lety +15

      Harry Seldon - More than half? What like 55 percent? That still means 45 percent of them are male and it still means men cyberbully women a lot. You don't see women cyberbullying men and calling them derogatory terms do you? So just because women do it more to each other, makes it less bad when men do it? If women don't do it to men, men shouldn't do it to women either. Thats like saying men are the primary victim of violence. Yeah by OTHER men. So it makes male violence against women less bad? But you rarely see a woman hurt or kill a man. These type of comparisons are made to downplay attacks on women by men. Only use woman-on-man attacks to compare with man-on-woman attacks. Don't use woman-on-woman or man-on-man. Use a reciprocal comparison or don't use any at all.

  • @karlhaynes3090
    @karlhaynes3090 Před 7 lety +63

    Any tips on misogynistic relatives? He treats women horribly.
    I'd love for my kids to know my older brother more, but I really cannot stand him being around my adult daughter.

    • @ilovetruffles99
      @ilovetruffles99 Před 5 lety +10

      I love my relatives, but some of them have struggled with inappropriate incestual feelings, and some of them are sexist and low-class. I limit my time with those individuals, and always have my dad or someone with me. That way, I get to see those relatives still, but I'm safe.

    • @AppleBottomJ
      @AppleBottomJ Před 5 lety +4

      Karl Haynes wow. Sorry to hear that but it’s whatever is best for your child..

  • @interghost
    @interghost Před 7 lety +61

    Julia is a great public speaker :) x

    • @loredelamore
      @loredelamore Před 6 lety +2

      No no she is not.

    • @symphony8518
      @symphony8518 Před 6 lety +5

      loredelamor yes she is

    • @m4nc0o
      @m4nc0o Před 4 lety +3

      kimjonun oh women don’t have rights in North Korea I see

    • @lativili9814
      @lativili9814 Před 4 lety +1

      @@Name-tc2dd Then tell me, what was exactly incorrect?

  • @WatchTerry
    @WatchTerry Před 7 lety +47

    This is a brilliant and very informative talk Julia. I think you made some extremely relevant points regarding the society that we live in now. 10/10 and great work.

  • @danashine1137
    @danashine1137 Před 3 lety +7

    Shes educated, independent and gorgeous. And her personal style is on point!

  • @BlueEyesBrittany
    @BlueEyesBrittany Před 6 lety +95

    I do not know if it is a very small percentage of men ... my experience tells me the opposite

  • @daisytallulah7297
    @daisytallulah7297 Před 7 lety +35

    Great talk, very inspiring. Thank you!!

    • @loredelamore
      @loredelamore Před 6 lety +2

      No no it was not an inspiring talk.

  • @dru1032
    @dru1032 Před 7 lety +36

    I wish there were more of you julia

  • @gperson1967
    @gperson1967 Před 6 lety +8

    Thank you Julia Hardy for speaking up. Keep talking back!

  • @Joh0abd
    @Joh0abd Před 7 lety +127

    No one hates men as a whole, no one hates women as a whole. Oppression on both sides exists, except that women tend to see the shorter straw of that oppression. Do not forget that there are countries where a woman is just a piece of property belonging to a man, with no access to education, childbirth at teen ages, and faces a genuine barrier in perusing a career. Those of you who swat away feminist claiming "oh first world problems" that's because that's what YOURE exposed to. While the remaining women of the world still faces issues that are simply cruel. Maybe some of those first world feminist have spoken so much about equality that you have become so utterly desensitized, but that's also what they're exposed to. There is utter injustice in this world towards the female race, and being an ignorant internet troll doesn't help the situation. These talks are not only listened to by "first worlders" they may hopefully effect someone's thinking in an oppressed society. Be educated, provide an example to lead by, women are just as important as men. And that's ok, not a ploy to diminish your manhood sir.

  • @mcqui1989
    @mcqui1989 Před 7 lety +22

    Love her, I can relate... a lot!

  • @lilmax86
    @lilmax86 Před 7 lety +44

    Women should keep talking and men should keep standing up for them.
    What a novel idea.

  • @ritapei758
    @ritapei758 Před 7 lety +48

    British sarcasm and come backs need to be a class I can take in school 😂

  • @teaghanlathers4461
    @teaghanlathers4461 Před 6 lety +6

    I love how many of the speakers in the TED Talks I’ve watched about sexism are women with British accents. They remind me of Hermione Granger, who is strong, and wouldn’t let a man be sexist to her any day.

  • @cheryl5667
    @cheryl5667 Před 5 lety +9

    OBSESSED with this talk!!!!!

  • @Jule1St11
    @Jule1St11 Před 7 lety +24

    lmao love the comments. Who forgot to disable them?

  • @sparxwil
    @sparxwil Před 7 lety +14

    Great talk. Loved the malware analogy!

  • @BlueEyesBrittany
    @BlueEyesBrittany Před 6 lety +15

    When women are badly treated whether verbally or otherwise and when it becomes widespread, men should realize women will end up rejecting any contact with men as potentially dangerous ... less and less women want to marry ... as a result .... as they are very scared of what they are going to suffer from trusting a man for a relationship knowing how devastating the consequences can be.

    • @happycorn298
      @happycorn298 Před 5 lety +6

      Yes, and men will start backing away from women because of the politically correct environment we live in today. "THIS MAN BRUSHED THE BACK OF HIS HAND AGAINST MY PANTS, RAEP"

    • @thebluetrain6797
      @thebluetrain6797 Před 3 lety +3

      And 3 years on we have the exact opposite happening. The MGTOW movement where it's the men who are shunning relationships & marriage because of extreme toxic feminism & the "Me too movement" encouraging & rewarding women who make false accusations about men.

    • @kdphotos4691
      @kdphotos4691 Před 6 měsíci +1

      @@thebluetrain6797 - You just made false accusations.

  • @ilariamarchese3810
    @ilariamarchese3810 Před 6 lety +3

    You're a great person, Julia. Thank you for speaking out and for your work :)

  • @gman2015z
    @gman2015z Před 4 lety +3

    Am glad Hardy is in the video games industry. She knows her stuff and her comedy and genius plus enthusiasm makes me happy to see what's coming up next in the industry.

  • @mayen67
    @mayen67 Před 4 lety +21

    The real question why these men do these things, they weren't born this way, they were moulded by there surroundings, it's kinda of like Bioshock infinite "will the circle be unbroken"

    • @ren-up3bf
      @ren-up3bf Před 3 lety

      I love the bioshock reference :)

    • @melinaPesak
      @melinaPesak Před 10 měsíci

      It's since we were christianised. Abrahamic religions brought the misoginy with them.

  • @lyndsaybrown8471
    @lyndsaybrown8471 Před 3 lety +4

    I love this talk. Tackling this with humour.

  • @marisa16kirisame
    @marisa16kirisame Před 7 lety +2

    we all have a story that we tell ourselves about how the world works and why we are faced with problems. that story is always only a partial truth, no matter how much we would like to believe otherwise. it isn't particularly surprising that many of us have a different story and we are afraid to listen to each other because we are so attached to our own story. i know that the youtube comments section is not where anyone goes to have a good discussion but i hope that if you will read this you will not begin arguing out of fear (also sometimes manifested as anger) and instead that you will be courageous enough to imagine why someone might disagree with you. there is more than one way to look at the world and you could learn something from walking in someone elses shoes for a change.

  • @carolinedesproches5110
    @carolinedesproches5110 Před 6 lety +5

    I absolutely loved it and she is completely right : let's assume our personal responsibilities. Plus, she is super cute and funny. Thank you !

  • @alexandrepv
    @alexandrepv Před 5 lety +5

    "One often meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoid it" - Master Oogway

  • @hsnyrbgm4761
    @hsnyrbgm4761 Před 5 lety +70

    All the sexist guys on here r getting triggered

  • @hemangchauhan2864
    @hemangchauhan2864 Před 7 lety +6

    I've followed Julia for quite some time, and I know where she is coming from, so when I heard that she did a TED Talk on sexism, I was intrigued, as she never mentioned it in her usual tweets and all. And also many talks of sexism I had heard, I wasn't all that satisfied with their conclusions.
    I can't say her method is the best (the comedy thing), but her idea of understanding where that commentator is coming from makes sense. It could be the sub-conscious thing she talked about, or probably he/she(no exceptions) must had quite a bad day, or probably watched a movie with lots of swearing. Who knows.
    I think, it could be combination of when to remain silent and when to speak.

    • @SometimesTurtle
      @SometimesTurtle Před 7 lety

      So you are some no-mind derp tard who tracks and follows all social media of some un-impressive individual, wow. You should keep that a secret bro.

    • @hemangchauhan2864
      @hemangchauhan2864 Před 7 lety

      SometimesTurtle Just an opinion, bro. Just an opinion.

    • @SometimesTurtle
      @SometimesTurtle Před 7 lety

      Hemang Chauhan An opinion that states a lot

    • @hemangchauhan2864
      @hemangchauhan2864 Před 7 lety

      SometimesTurtle Oh well...

    • @sarjim4381
      @sarjim4381 Před 7 lety

      You claim that a woman with a show called "Misogyny Monday" never mentioned sexism "her usual tweets and all"? You are either not very bright or just disingenuous.

  • @KASol648
    @KASol648 Před 7 lety +6

    Overall very good, especially the part about women being told they are sensitive, and their reaction to it. Couple of things I wish I had heard her at least mention: sexism to women from women, and sexism from men and women towards men. It is internalised in all genders, it goes both ways, and I feel like that should be mentioned, and not overlooked so blatantly.

  • @stunnaboymercy
    @stunnaboymercy Před 7 lety +6

    Good talk!

  • @TheAlexisTrust
    @TheAlexisTrust Před 7 lety +16

    What a wonderful talk. Thank you, Julia! Would love to see more like this from you. #YesAllWomen

  • @totalpartykill999
    @totalpartykill999 Před 4 lety +20

    the whole 'legs magically opening after a choose your own adventure' was great imagery

  • @NelliG22
    @NelliG22 Před 7 lety +44

    Well done, Julia

  • @KartenDeluxe
    @KartenDeluxe Před 7 lety +2

    Being silent is a powerful superhero power which not many humans can master. You can use silence as a powerful tool. To assert power, let people reflect over a sentence/action, you can be mystic and interesting, and its a strong way to show that you dont acknowledge bad behavior. Silence lets people think. And it might be a bit to little thinking now a days. But its still important to speak up when people are harassing you or bullying. Call the cops, dont speak with the vile people. Silence is powerful.

  • @oli_kate
    @oli_kate Před 7 lety +42

    You are an amazing speaker. You're funny and engaging. I really enjoyed this talk and I know exactly what you mean. The one thing I noticed which you left out about sexism affecting men too is the fact that society puts men into boxes. Granted the world is a man's world and it is worse for women on the whole but there are several things that happen to men too. Men are seen as weak when they cry or express their feelings, men are seen as feminine when they watch movies like The Notebook, men can't wear high heels or dresses (although frankly why they'd want to I have no idea, I hate high heels and dresses but that's just my opinion). An equal society would be if men and women had exactly the same opportunities and could wear the same clothes and they could both lead in dance and they both could pay on the first date and they could both cry over The Fault in our Stars and there was no domestic violence of any kind from either gender and they could both be stay at home parents and nannies and nurses, I could go on, and all of this was done without the batting of an eye or any rude comment. Anyway you're awesome. Thank you for being inspiring.

    • @El-zx4fd
      @El-zx4fd Před 6 lety +6

      Kate Olivier, yup. Large part of misogyny problem seems to be standards boys are brought up to. Boys cannot cry, should be tough, etc. - all those are emotionally damaging.

    • @loredelamore
      @loredelamore Před 6 lety

      Kate Oliver What are you on about? We live in a misandry society. At this point, us men is giving up on women.

    • @nicoleb1105
      @nicoleb1105 Před 6 lety +2

      I agree with you but i think she just wanted to touch the female subject.

    • @missheartfull237
      @missheartfull237 Před 6 lety +5

      They have their own movement 😂 after all, nobody cares about men's rights until a woman talks about women's rights (:

    • @jalix9574
      @jalix9574 Před 6 lety +4

      The patriarchy is a double edged blade. Feminists wish to help men to not be adversely affected by gender roles as well as women.

  • @djdc81
    @djdc81 Před 7 lety +15

    Great presentation and clearly a subject you're passionate about.

  • @KrazyKain
    @KrazyKain Před 6 lety +2

    Very insightful talk and hilariously delivered

  • @annaradacz9895
    @annaradacz9895 Před 3 lety +1

    Amazing talk!

  • @ark359
    @ark359 Před 6 lety +3

    Great video 👍 enjoyed the gaming references.

  • @jackwarr4251
    @jackwarr4251 Před 7 lety +40

    What a respectable woman Julia is. I totally agree though, I can see why having men sexualise you and treating you as a slab of meat can annoy women. It's degrading and disgusting that some boys think this will sit well with women when it is flat out disrespectful. Julia is very logical and understandable, a breath of fresh air from all these radical feminists that literally oppose the very thing that they stand for. That's probably why this video has so many dislikes, people probably just think "oh great, another feminazi"

  • @Lolly4twDasOrginal
    @Lolly4twDasOrginal Před 6 lety

    nice speech, thx

  • @nevokrien95
    @nevokrien95 Před 7 lety +11

    well thank you for not saying all men are harassing

  • @zinebmaha1744
    @zinebmaha1744 Před 7 lety +4

    Thank u very much..I loved ur idea
    great job ^^

  • @loggiesjohan
    @loggiesjohan Před 5 lety +4

    Cool!!!!Great sense of humor and still to the point......Two thumbs up :)

  • @jv-lk7bc
    @jv-lk7bc Před 5 lety +10

    5:53 Can i vote for this woman for something? anything...

  • @sharireilly353
    @sharireilly353 Před rokem +6

    Eloquently put. Thank you so much for sharing this Ted talk. I am 60 years old and have endured unbelievable treatment from male strangers throughout my life. Too intrusive to elaborate on here. It damages, to be treated as an object. To the point where I now feel sick to my stomach when even walking past a man on the street.
    Women are evolving to stop pretending it isn't happening. This work is important for a healthy society.

  • @toastymcgriddle2058
    @toastymcgriddle2058 Před 5 lety +3

    This is off topic, but I really like her hair. I loved the talk, but I also love her hair almost as much. They’re such goals

  • @vrtvrt4467
    @vrtvrt4467 Před 7 lety +18

    I think her basic points are:
    1. it is unacceptable making comments such as: nice t**s on that
    2. that men who make that kind of comments are in minority
    3. but that because they approach women, women gets suspicious of every man approaching them
    4. and that is infuriating that when you are upset somebody says you are overreacting
    And I don't really see how anyone can disagree with them, 1., 2. and 4. are just common sense.
    Personally, I wouldn't like to be called that, am suspicious of men especially at night because of really bad previous experience, and don't like when somebody tells me how should I feel about something.

    • @sharvaansharex
      @sharvaansharex Před 4 lety +3

      And it goes the other way round as well 🙏

  • @cleovintora59
    @cleovintora59 Před 4 lety

    Great video

  • @ilovetruffles99
    @ilovetruffles99 Před 5 lety

    Bonus point for biscuits! Silence never solved anything

  • @Raph1805
    @Raph1805 Před 7 lety +4

    It's a shame she did not elaborate more on the effect idiots have on gender relations.
    I've heard so many horror stories from female friends, witnessed quite a few incidents myself and most times stepped in when no one else did - although people usually do tend to intervene, so that's reassuring.
    And it's not about protecting a "hypocritical" woman, as some have said here, but helping someone when it is necessary.
    Man or woman is irrelevent.
    The only difference being that, statistically, women are being harrassed more often than men, on a daily basis.

  • @reubencole2830
    @reubencole2830 Před 7 lety +7

    Well sorry world if I've ever been sexist 😕

  • @inchristveluzageasenot5951

    Indeed🥺

  • @TheAronDark
    @TheAronDark Před 7 lety +4

    Nice job Julia Hardy :D

  • @EmilyRose1
    @EmilyRose1 Před 7 lety +199

    The misogynists are triggered

    • @summushieremiasclarkson4700
      @summushieremiasclarkson4700 Před 7 lety +21

      Valid criticism does not necessarily equte with triggering. This is the internet, a free for all platform including elements, people and manners that you don't like. Everybody gets threats and insults, I've gotten quite a few death threats. Harmless trolling. If you cannot handle it, get off of it. Using social media is not mandatory. And in case you think I'm being misogynistic, I'd say the same to any man.

    • @ZoidbergForPresident
      @ZoidbergForPresident Před 6 lety +17

      If you find that throwing insults and death threats around is fine on the internet" then why would answering those things and not letting them slip be forbidden?
      If one is too whiny too accept to be called upon his or her behaviour, one should just avoid using social media, right?
      Besides this goes well beyond social media.

    • @symphony8518
      @symphony8518 Před 6 lety +5

      ZoidbergForPresident stop winning like a triggered fragile man

    • @ZoidbergForPresident
      @ZoidbergForPresident Před 6 lety +3

      I'm a winner, deal with it! :D

    • @Name-tc2dd
      @Name-tc2dd Před 5 lety +1

      Emily Rose no u

  • @LadyLuvsYou
    @LadyLuvsYou Před 5 lety +4

    You are awesome woman. It's wrong that these men do this. Keep speaking out!

  • @noahdude97
    @noahdude97 Před 7 lety +2

    This woman is a genius.

  • @Why-yj3um
    @Why-yj3um Před 3 lety

    I’m so glad that it’s talking about both genders experiencing sexism and not just one

    • @MementoVita
      @MementoVita Před 7 měsíci +1

      Where you find that😂 must be invisible bc I can’t find it

  • @neko-uk6rb
    @neko-uk6rb Před 3 lety +4

    This reminds me of how one guy reply my comment telling me, how he usual ignore uneducated comment and he can't ignore my comments so he feel the need to reply mine, telling me how women bad this and that. His comments sounds a lot like sexist to me. I let him know how his comment is sexist and he got mad.

    • @NgNhLe
      @NgNhLe Před 3 lety +2

      I feel you deeply

    • @racheldixon5528
      @racheldixon5528 Před 3 lety +2

      This happened so many times to me in real life

  • @Lynz69xxx
    @Lynz69xxx Před 7 lety +22

    Nice one Julia! x :)

  • @larabedwards
    @larabedwards Před 7 lety +6

    Nice one Julia

  • @elizabethwaller9153
    @elizabethwaller9153 Před 7 lety

    How do you know who to trust???

  • @trippyptat8479
    @trippyptat8479 Před 4 lety +4

    im very confused on what her overall message was tbh...it was all over the place

  • @chloweful
    @chloweful Před 7 lety +125

    She's amazing.
    Stop whining and denying that sexism exists.
    She even said "not all men." For you pathetic MRA's.
    Even though she really didn't have to because it's already obvious.
    But to protect YOUR feelings she took it upon herself to state
    1) That she's not that dirty word called feminist.
    2) That not all men are like that.
    So get over it and accept some personal responsibility.

    • @matermatuta1462
      @matermatuta1462 Před 7 lety +5

      chloweful thank you for speaking out bless you

    • @harryseldon6712
      @harryseldon6712 Před 7 lety +14

      Sexism exists - equally. So why do we only hear from whiny women?
      Google: *theguardian+technology+half-of-misogynistic-tweets-sent-by-women-study-finds*
      More than half of 'misogynistic' posts by Twitter users in the UK and America *are written by women* , according to a new large-scale study. A report that analysed 19 million tweets over four years found three million posts including insults aimed at women. The users who had posted the insults were more likely to be female than male.

    • @realityjester3325
      @realityjester3325 Před 7 lety +8

      It was extremely subtle, but she actually argued that people who don't think they were sexist are. She might have said "not all men", but she stressed that sexism isn't an act, but an unconscious bias. That type of message implies that you don't have to do anything sexist to be a sexist.
      If she wanted to stop sexism, she should have presented some clear rules about what qualifies as sexist behavior. Without clear rules, her argument(towards the end) amounted to "sexism is defined by the experiences of females", if a woman says something is sexist, it is.

    • @doriangray7129
      @doriangray7129 Před 6 lety +1

      females is priviliged by law and society, so you supremisy ideology is wining just cos of it.

    • @zuriach1321
      @zuriach1321 Před 6 lety +9

      isnt it great to just emotionally shame other people for expressing their opinions or critique rather than make rational and factual debate?
      .... your entire comment is pretty much sums up everything wrong with you people. you glorify another womans opinion that is (ofcourse) equal to your own, and then put yourself on a moral pedestal and start shaming anyone who challenge these views.

  • @renehenriksen1735
    @renehenriksen1735 Před 7 lety +1

    Crazy these debates often becomes...

  • @motivation9294
    @motivation9294 Před rokem

    When fundamental behavioural(actions and reaction) differences is taken on redar, then sexist society also becomes fundamental.
    Leaving these fundamental------, and bringing sexism in the areas where it is not necessary then that it an offensive sexism.

  • @catsantos353
    @catsantos353 Před 7 lety +15

    Us women have been told for too long to be quiet 🤐 but to the anti-women/anti-feminists: it's time for YOU to sit down & SHUT UP & let us speak!

    • @dark_sunset
      @dark_sunset Před rokem +2

      everyone can talk. not just certain people.

  • @BornToPun7541
    @BornToPun7541 Před 6 lety +3

    Alison Tieman is right when she says "Men act; women are acted upon". This video proves Alison's point.

    • @ripsnip5336
      @ripsnip5336 Před 5 lety +4

      then maybe you need to teach women to act based on their own desires and try to rise above everyone else without wondering how their actions could affect other people

    • @josef7461
      @josef7461 Před 5 lety +5

      Sexist generalisation, also this video is just full of anecdotal evidence.

    • @melinaPesak
      @melinaPesak Před 10 měsíci

      ​@@ripsnip5336this is good

    • @MementoVita
      @MementoVita Před 7 měsíci

      Oh so you think women don’t have the free will to do things all because they wanted to? Pretty sexist man because I think women are mentally conscious beings but if you don’t think so then.

    • @kdphotos4691
      @kdphotos4691 Před 6 měsíci

      @@josef7461 - You need to look up what the word "anecdotal" means.

  • @Claire-pl8yc
    @Claire-pl8yc Před 7 lety +2

    +itsjuliahardy
    Julia, it seems at least 80% of that "small" percentage on the internet you talked about has gathered here today to call you a hypocrite and complain about generalizing. Oh! And don't forget those who claim feminism is "irritating". Basically, "Equality is NOT the way to go! We don't care because WE get paid more! WE have to stand up for our gender, while some of us are being that stereotypical guy objectifying women and insulting another gender. But WE don't care because, UGH FEMINISTS." Some of us aren't crazy okay? Just like some of you guys are like that. I was being sarcastic, and that's not what all men are saying, yada yada. I feel like I have to put this in or people will call me a hypocrite.

  • @LadyLuvsYou
    @LadyLuvsYou Před 5 lety +2

    Brave leader. SOOOO much bravery and strength speaking out!

  • @phoneticau
    @phoneticau Před 7 lety +3

    can't you use block function ???

    • @Name-tc2dd
      @Name-tc2dd Před 5 lety +5

      The block function doesn’t exist the penises get through it

  • @Fototheier
    @Fototheier Před 5 lety +6

    Get off the internet if you get insulted online. Everyone shits on everyone in anyway possible.

    • @kdphotos4691
      @kdphotos4691 Před 6 měsíci

      Nothing to do with "the internet." Men do this to women in real life too. The internet just made it easier for them to hide behind a keyboard and be bullies.

  • @cinerdella4693
    @cinerdella4693 Před 7 lety

    This is a good start into the issue, but she didn't really touch on why sexism affects us all.

  • @p.pardus8424
    @p.pardus8424 Před 7 lety +2

    Why blur out their names? Call those MFers out Julia!

  • @MrL0rn3
    @MrL0rn3 Před 7 lety +4

    I think I live in a bubble. I've never had anyone male or female evade a conversation with me.

  • @SickVapeTricks
    @SickVapeTricks Před 6 lety +4

    just, dont engage with toxic people online. jesus

    • @SickVapeTricks
      @SickVapeTricks Před 5 lety +3

      Lee Ara is it real life though? No it’s the internet. The same rules do not apply

    • @SickVapeTricks
      @SickVapeTricks Před 5 lety +2

      Lee Ara that’s all fine and dandy, but my point was “just ignore trolls” nothing other than that.

    • @SickVapeTricks
      @SickVapeTricks Před 5 lety +3

      Lee Ara also, the problem of internet trolls is solved if you seriously just ignore it.

    • @Jennijennijenni
      @Jennijennijenni Před 5 lety

      Youre a toxic person yourself, leave the internet you would be doing everyone a favour

    • @kdphotos4691
      @kdphotos4691 Před 6 měsíci

      @@SickVapeTricks - Men do this in real life too. The internet reflects how people behave in real life. You're defending creeps.

  • @ps123fan
    @ps123fan Před rokem +1

    i dont know why she has that smile at 6:06 when you see what the comment was about from 6:01....

  • @MattacksRC
    @MattacksRC Před 7 lety +1

    I've yet to see any one who can explain the function of misogyny and misandry.. these are things that exist. And, any time you have a thing that exists.. There is a purpose.

  • @goldenedge4261
    @goldenedge4261 Před 6 lety +12

    Why is she distancing herself from feminism? Why is she so concerned with making it clear that "NOT ALL MEN DO THIS"? If she had aligned herself with feminism, she could have shown the broad spectrum of types of feminists that are out there. Majority of us don't fight for feminism out of hatred for men, we want everyone to have equal opportunity...

    • @jv-lk7bc
      @jv-lk7bc Před 5 lety +2

      In what way has she distanced herself from feminism? i didn't hear her say that.

    • @MizunoEnma
      @MizunoEnma Před 5 lety

      Lisa Hernandez The comment section below is the reason why, even though it didn't help much. People are more likely to listen if they don't think they're being personally targeted. People still need to reflect on their own actions, conscious or not, but one step at a time. Plus a lot of men are like "I'm not like that at all" when it doesn't matter if you are or aren't. Past interactions have taught extreme caution and this was partly to explain that caution.

    • @chaitanyadivate4551
      @chaitanyadivate4551 Před 5 lety

      Because Feminism is Cancer

    • @josef7461
      @josef7461 Před 4 lety +3

      Pretty bloody quiet majority if i may say so myself, and pretty bloody loud minority if what you say is true.

    • @MementoVita
      @MementoVita Před 7 měsíci +2

      In what way does feminism actually care about men, that’s egalitarianism get it right. If y’all did there wouldn’t be rising popularity with meninism then. That’s what you all say it is, but have never showed it.

  • @miaytuxa
    @miaytuxa Před 7 lety +8

    a small porcentage???

  • @Reviews360Game
    @Reviews360Game Před 7 lety

    Amazing! But it saddens me that a lot of these talks aren't so well put forward, men such as my self feel that some of these talks are just giving men a bad name so I'm glad to hear this one is different with it not just aiming to upset men. I do think men get harsher punishments and can be wrongly prosecuted quite easy when it come to sex however men should know now that they need to be careful and they should do it at the right moment not when they are both drunk but I do agree with everything you said, keep getting your points across Julia!

  • @lolaby2
    @lolaby2 Před 3 lety +2

    Here we go. Go to the store tomorrow and buy some cereal with a female mascot :D I mean a real mascot, not merchandise promoting sales based on a tv show. Seriously. Try it. I’ll wait :D

  • @tickedoffnow
    @tickedoffnow Před 5 lety +17

    both misogynists and misandrists are monsters

  • @biostemm
    @biostemm Před 7 lety +9

    You constructed and knocked down that strawman quite skillfully!

  • @isaach1518
    @isaach1518 Před 4 lety +2

    We need more feminists like this

  • @trucomment96
    @trucomment96 Před 5 lety +2

    I know nobody will like this comment but I'm just going to say it. Depending on whether you're male or female, not being able to follow someone you work with and friends of one of your family members on social media is sexist. I don't find it awkward and embarrassing & following your sister's friends or your dad's friends on social media should be allowed.

    • @raphielohnef4678
      @raphielohnef4678 Před 5 lety

      +Tru Comment I think you should read up on the meaning of 'sexism'.

  • @bartdierickx5150
    @bartdierickx5150 Před 4 lety +3

    starting from 9 minutes.Basically boils down to: You are sexist, because I say so.
    It could perfectly be Jonathan was sexist without knowing it, or it could be you saw something as being sexist which wasn't sexist. It depends on the context. But saying you are unconsciously sexist is basically saying "you are sexist. Don't even think about contemplating on your actions, you can't know you are as you are not conscious about it and for some magical reason you can't evaluate your behavior based on unconscious decisions. You are sexist because I am telling you you are". It is an argument from a very authorative point of view. It is a logical fallacy.
    I agreed with everything in this video except this pretty cringeworthy moment.
    All in all, I liked it. Keep up the good work.

  • @moomemoome
    @moomemoome Před 5 lety +7

    Whenever we (women) point out sexism in the world, we get spammed with comments about how we’re SJWs, and how we’re complaining too much. And I think every woman is sick of it.

    • @moomemoome
      @moomemoome Před 5 lety +1

      Entrenched Mgtow You’re proving my exact point

    • @josef7461
      @josef7461 Před 4 lety +5

      @@moomemoome what sexism in the west could you possible be speaking about. Air conditioning? Manspreading? Get a grip

    • @igiveup6032
      @igiveup6032 Před 4 lety +1

      Actually a lot of women don't even care.

    • @MementoVita
      @MementoVita Před 7 měsíci +3

      Whenever we (men) point out sexism and misandry in the world, we get spammed with comments about how we’re incels, and how it’s impossible to be sexist to men. And I think every man is sick of it.

    • @moomemoome
      @moomemoome Před 7 měsíci +1

      @@MementoVita my man this comment is 4 yrs old what are u doing here

  • @tambell6270
    @tambell6270 Před 5 lety +1

    Oi you, I’m a grandfather and I resemble that accusation ! 😂😂😂😂

  • @wadeywilson1
    @wadeywilson1 Před 7 lety +2

    Great talk Julia. Enlightening, but not in a good way. Had the effect of making me think, and possibly to challenge others

    • @jv-lk7bc
      @jv-lk7bc Před 5 lety +1

      how is that not a good way?