Life After Divorce: The Healing Process
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- čas přidán 26. 06. 2024
- Hey y'all! It's been such an interesting challenge to share these moments with the world but I remain led, convinced, and convicted to do so. I really hope it helps. I hope you see the possibility for you in whatever you are going through. I hope you see reflections of the way God shows up in your life through the way He shows up in mine. Keep going, God has prepared the way!
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Chapters:
0:00- Intro
0:59- Topic Series Intro
1:41- Healing begins...
2:31- Denial & Bargaining
7:48-Anger
12:53-Depression
17:44-Acceptance
21:16-Healing ends...
Scriptures:
Isaiah 41:12-13
Joshua 1:3-9
Jeremiah 29:11
Connect with me:
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#divorce #divorcestory #depression #anger #acceptance
I’m not Divorced but I’ve decided that after 8YRS & 4 Kids it’s time for Me to walk away. I’ve been in Denial for Years because I wanted it to work for the Children. But walking away Years ago is Something I should’ve done; but I stayed out of Fear & Shame. Some Days it Hurts some Days it doesn’t but I feel Peace. Thank You for these Words and all of the Words from everyone in the Comments.
Juuust dropping by to say I love your profile name 💛 And of course all the best to you during this time ✨
Update us did you file for divorce
@@LilMizzLae Thank You so much Beautiful! ❤️
@@xfacme7815 Hi! Because of the Laws in my State we have to be separated for 365 Days. Before I can file. 🙄
We were in it for 8 years as well with 4 kids just got finalized a month ago I just decided to choose me first.. You got this sis❤❤
Oh yes the healing process took me years and lots of therapy. My divorce opened me up to going even deeper into my childhood trauma. And over time rebuilt an amazing life. It takes times ladies but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. ❤
Love this, especially about how it helped you work through childhood trauma! This right here!
Can you recommend a counselor that helps through the childhood trauma?
When you said "I lost nothing" - so powerful!
It took a minute to see it, but God had more provision than I could have ever asked for!
My divorce finalized in March of this year and I thought I was finally in acceptance because I started the grief process during my marriage as you did. My ex called me today and I entertained his conversation, and by the end of the day I was in depression....I mean bad thoughts, unlike me. I saw this video and it helped bring me through this evening because I could not see the light. Thank you for allowing GOD to use you as a light in my darkness. It's ok to be where I'm at it's part of the healing process. 🕯️.
God is so good! Even in these situations He connects us to back to Him reminding us of His faithfulness. It’s such a difficult process and the triggers can be so sudden. As long as we keep reminding ourselves that we can make it through, the next thing we’ll be doing is marveling at how we did, in our own time. Everyone’s journey is different and every feeling is valid. Thank you for watching & even more so for sharing. I know you helped someone else with this comment💜
@Rashellerole, I completely understand. This will be five years since the separation and divorce. 23yrs of total commitment. I love my husband, and thank God my love for Jesus was more powerful than the love of my husband. I couldn't have made it without my relationship with God. My ex husband had called me or I would see him and it would cause me to be sad ,angry and a hot Mess inside . I'm working on healing by God's grace and hearing other people's thoughts and testimony is so helpful. Be encouraged we will make it . ❤
Those 5 things, honey I think I added a few more 😂. I can laugh about it but it still stings smh and I still need help . This is good. Thank you for this post ❤ Also I really found out that the ministry we were under was not prepared in any way to counsel us on this . The ministry need to be ready and equipped for issues like this .
Back at my parents at 37 right before my 38th birthday. I’m now going back to school. I grieve because I’m still hoping to bear children at my age. This is the hardest, most crushing experience. God is with us. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
I am 30 left my marriage in June with one kid and pregnant with another trust and believe God blessed by allowing you to walk through it alone. It's so hard on kids. My mom didn't hit menopause till she was 50 and had all her kids at what doctors consider high risk. God can still bless you my love with beautiful babies. Watch him make sons out of stones.
@@shimeKelo thank you 🙏🏽 that was so encouraging. Sometimes divorce happens and for good reasons. I truly pray 🤲🏽 for you and your children. May God protect you, provide for you and comfort you in this difficult situation. In Jesus name Amen 🙏🏽
@@shimeKelo i left my marriage with no kids only ivf nothing is more depressing than that with no family support limit friends, we kept keeping in touch quite frequently. then a few days ago he called i entertained his conversation got me all worked up he having kids somewhere else from in marriage. i almost got over him we all need to form a group for this
Thank you! I left a 32 year marriage. After listening to this I realize I am not insane.
sending love
Thank you so much for sharing your testimony. We have an 18 month old son and I am contemplating divorce with his father as we speak. God has shown me too many signs and it's time to leave. It's hard because I've never imagined my life to be this way and I don't want this affecting my child. Thankfully my parents have opened their home to us. Please pray for strength for me as I navigate this journey
I am praying with you! The journey to the other side is so personal and everyone has their unique challenges but I have so much faith that God has you covered. Do whatever you need to do for you and your little one. Rooting for you!
Thank you so much for sharing. I divorced and 5 years later started dating my ex husband with the hope of remarriage, and it failed. It feels like divorce all over again. I am so sad, I am unable to express how much. It is overwhelming and constantly on my mind.
I appreciate when you said you were mad at yourself for not dealing with the trauma that led to the marriage and showed up in the marriage. Woah! That was me. I’m here now, picking up the pieces and trying to navigate this new life that I didn’t want but needed. I know Father God is with me, it still hurts though and I wish I could see the light. I am not suicidal, just wish I could fast forward to a healed and better time in my life. I am praying for anyone that hurts due to divorce and I ask that you guys just pray for me. Thank you again for sharing and God bless ❤🙏🏾
Thank you for your comment! This process is very overwhelming. It hurts so bad. I'm with you on wishing we could fast forward to a better time. I also pray for you, and anyone else that is hurting due to divorce as well. May God continue to keep us, heal us!
@@sharelleprentice3850 thank you im going through the same even though i've been separated from 2020 he staring me along while he's creating babies w the home wrecker i just get down. mostly at nights i tried to make myself so busy to get the feeling out my mind, struggling with fertility only ivf
Going through divorce after 23 years with an abusive, alcoholic spouse. God knew I needed to hear this word today. Thank you.
I cannot believe how this word was TOTALLY meant for me to receive TODAY.
God is amazing!
Thank you!
I’m sooo glad this found you! Praise God!
Thank you so much. I’m divorcing a narcissist and this was very encouraging.
Thank you for this video, I am still going through all the stages of grief, also the one feeling that I am having the hardest time coping with is, The Embarrassment. I can't shake the embarrassment.
That one was so so tough! I’m praying with you that embarrassment gets broken from you. It doesn’t matter how long you stayed, when or why it ended. Who was wrong or right. Your story is who you become not what you went through.
Thank you for these videos. I’m currently going through a divorce of a short term marriage (11/2020). Once I told my family what was going on and moved back home, I felt a sense of relief and peace that I had never felt in my marriage. I felt it when we were dating but not while living together. We have a baby together so our situation is more complicated but I’m still so proud of myself and don’t feel like a failure at all. And I have nothing to prove. I know i tried my best as a wife and stepmom and there’s no doubt that I’m a wonderful mother. This is one of the most difficult times in my life but I still feel like I’m on the right path in giving myself and my son a great life! Thank you for this video again because I’ve been looking for inspiration from someone who had a short lived marriage during covid. I’m still and will be going through the emotional rollercoaster but videos like this inspire me to keep going. “I lost nothing”
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for sharing your testimony. You probably freed someone with this comment. It’s a process and you are doing what’s best for you and your son! God will honor that!! I’m so grateful you have peace 💗
Thank you so much! I needed to hear this! I’m in the process of a divorce and it is so hard. Even that this is my second divorce. I know the Lord is with me all the way and every day ❤❤❤❤ God bless you
I love your lip colours! So gorgeous. Now - let me tune into the vid 😂
Girl this is deep and I listened to the entire video. This is literally where I am right now. Trying to address the trauma in my life that bought me to this marriage that showed up in this marriage. 🙏🏾
I am 12 mins in and baby you speaking my story.. Recently separated 30 days today and I am so raw and emotional
Whew! Been there and truly am thinking of you. Whatever it is that YOU need make sure you have it. Nobody can walk this but you. You deserve to be handled with care💜
Lovely hair❤
This CZcams video has really opened my eyes and helped me. I am going through My divorce currently. This video brought me into tears of grief, but I have hope that God is with me and I have faith that he will see me through. Thank you for sharing.
This is an anointed word! It felt like I was listening to a Pastor preach a powerful sermon! Whew!! 🙌🏽 Continue to let God use you sis!!
Thank you so much 💜
😢😢 i can’t anymore!
Thank you for sharing your journey! I'm happy to say that I'm finally at the acceptance stage. 😊
It took me a long time to stop being mad (at myself). There's definitely no way to skip or rush the process. The blessing is that God is always present through the process. ❤ New sub
A Word! Thank you for sharing. I needed this.
Thank you for sharing this. I needed this. God bless you. ❤❤
You are a Blessing 🙌🏽 🙏🏽
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽yessss 🥺😩😫 yes sis thanks for sharing 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Whew Chile! This is goooood! Healing is more important than answers! That will preach🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you so much for watching and when I said that choice changed the game…👏🏾🙌🏾
Oh!! I looked at the 2nd video first 😊 I’ll be looking at these today!!
My divorce finalized January. I was in an emotional loss abusive relationship. My parents were abusive. Old friends released. I have a 21 year old whom I love deeply. Taking my time: THIS life is my cross to bear with assistance from Jesus 😂
The amount of power and fortitude you have to move through all of this is awe-inspiring. How you set these boundaries and standards to release people who don’t deserve will impact more people than you know. Praying the very best for you, you deserve it 💜
Thanks for sharing your a beam of light ❤️
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this!
Thank you for this video. Everything you’ve talked about struggling with, even people who are supposed to support you, didn’t. And the lies that keep coming back through your mind. Finally, you’re someone who I can relate with, with similar views. Your story is so inspirational to me as I’m currently going through these emotions on the path to divorce. Thank you
Thank you for this message. It helped me so much. ❤
Thank you so much for this video!! 😭😭🙌🏾
Excellent video. Your truth gave me chills. ❤
Thank you so much for doing this series. I truly need to hear this information.
Thank you so much for watching, it’s hard place but I’m so grateful to know that the end was also the beginning!!
Girrrl this is soooo good! A whole word. Thankful that we have a God of reconciliation and restoration yessss! Continue to let your light shine sis 💗
Thank you so much sis!!!
I feel you ❤
Thank you, thank you, thank you!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾😭😭 It’s been so hard trying to make sense of it all, my friends and family can’t relate; they haven’t been through it. But i could literally relate to each of the points you made!!I’m not alone, i’m not crazy, what i’ve been experiencing is normal. This was so good to my soul!!! Please keep sharing your journey, there’s so many like myself that need to hear your testimony!!!❤💪🏽
Yes!!! I'm one of them that needed to hear this!!
So very powerful and right on time..I received every word..Thank you❤
Praise God, I’m so glad you enjoyed it and thank you so much for watching!
This word blessed my entire life!! Thank you sis!! What a word.....
You are so welcome 🙏🏾 🤗
God is working through you in these videos. Thank you for your courage in being open about your experiences and some wisdom that you have gained from working through your hardship. I pray that God blesses you with much joy, happiness and peace.
Thank you so so much! For watching and supporting 💗
Hallelujah! Girl you preached, you PREACHED. Thank you for sharing your testimony. People are being set free through you. Keep going. I so related to the depression. Love you.
💜💜💜💜💜 I am so glad you watched and enjoyed it! All God and I’m so grateful!
Thank you for sharing this 🙏 ❤️
Preach preacher!!!
“Run towards the roar”
“Your only payment is trust”
Sheesh!!!
Thank you for always watching AND always supporting 😘
Thank you for sharing, very helpful and reliable
We split up after 20 years and 24 years for my husband with his ex. It’s been a healing journey for us both. One that we are still learning and growing in.
Thank you for sharing your story! 💕
Thank you so much for listening 💜
This touched me! Thank you!
I’m so glad 💕 Thank you so much for watching!
So much wisdom here! Please write a book
You. Are. Wonderful. Thank you!
Yes!!! God restores!! Just trust!! The smile will return. The love will come in overflow!!! I have lost nothing!!! Nothing is missing 🙌🏾
Amen amen amen!!! Thank you Jesus 💜💜
I needed these words of encouragement as my divorce is close to being finalized- sharing your story gives me hope that I can get through this
Wow…my God. This spoke to me, thank you.
Thank you Jesus! 💜
Thank you for this video ❤
Such a beautiful video, thank you so much for doing it.
Thank so so much for watching it!
This is soooooooooooooo good! I am in the middle of this very thing with two small children. Thank you for this great content!!
You are so welcome & thank you so much for watching. Praying the very best for you & your family!
Yes it makes sense!
See you get it lol!
Thank you
Very relatable. Thank you
Glad it found you 💜
Thanks for this video. New to this process 😢💔
You got this! It’s a wild ride but we are worth the effort! 💜
God bless you❤
God bless you 💜💜
Thank you.
You're very welcome 🌹
I’m going to hell sinds my break-up with the father of the kids we had a lot of problem that we could fix but instead i found out that he was cheating and now he is leaving with that woman and I have to co partner with hem and her is killing me inside. I am trying to lean on god but i don’t feel it yet. Depression is so real i am at that stage a lot negatieve in my head
Sincerely sorry that you are going through that, but chin up , accept the situation as it is and raise your head up bodly when you have to meet them, it's okay to take your time
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How long has if taken u to grow your page?
Thanks for being real 😓😓😓😓i am back by my home with nothing to .But God
It can be such a rough road but I’m praying peace meets you every step of the way💜
Say What?
Speak Louder, Please!
Thank you 🙏🥹 I needed this
Thank you