Divorce Recovery: From Emotional Pain To Gratitude | Myesha Chaney

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  • Join me as I share my personal story of going through a divorce. Feel the emotions, the tough times, and the moments of hope. This isn't just about an ending, but also a new beginning. If you or someone you know is facing a similar journey, this video offers a light in the dark. Together, we find strength and look forward to better days.
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    02:30 - Personal experience of realizing the end of marriage.
    05:00 - The importance of talking about the pain and seeking support.
    08:00 - Overcoming shame and embracing gratitude.
    11:00 - Challenging societal narratives about divorce.
    14:00 - Reconnecting with God during and after divorce.
    17:00 - The power of dreaming and envisioning a brighter future.
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Komentáře • 325

  • @MyeshaChaney
    @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci +11

    What’s still holding you back in your healing journey? Let’s talk about it👇

    • @Ellie2.90
      @Ellie2.90 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Oh my! It’s like This is my life right in front of me.. Thank you for helping me see through your eyes...

    • @nontobekomhlongo9778
      @nontobekomhlongo9778 Před 10 měsíci

      By

    • @kgaogelomarakalala-jz6vh
      @kgaogelomarakalala-jz6vh Před 2 měsíci

      How do we download this video, Am going through the same, Senior Pastor divorcing me as his wife, everyone at church against me...but it is well.

    • @daphneeb.897
      @daphneeb.897 Před 21 hodinou

      Guilt

  • @cemplygloria6261
    @cemplygloria6261 Před 10 měsíci +38

    I felt shame when I find out my now ex-husband had an affair that produced a child. That was a feeling like no other. But I was happy when I finally got divorced because the pressure, shame, guilt I carried as if I had done something wrong was too much. I did nothing to deserve it and I am glad the Lord held my hand as I navigated what being single would look like. It's been 8 yrs divorced, 10 yrs single but dating. I met a wonderful man and my life is wonderful. Glory to GOD!

    • @stefibank5597
      @stefibank5597 Před 10 měsíci +2

      So happy for you. You deserve the happiness after what you’ve been through 🙏🏾

    • @zeldaslaton-edwards5429
      @zeldaslaton-edwards5429 Před 10 měsíci +3

      It feels good to know that I'm not alone,I'm not the only one going through divorce. Thank you.

  • @Li-Anderson
    @Li-Anderson Před 10 měsíci +18

    I am so proud of you!🥰As crazy as it may sound, but, I am divorcing "MYSELF",no not my husband,🤦but, myself!!😂
    I have been married for 30yrs years, and I have decided I needed to renew my vows to myself!🥴I have given my entire life as a mother, wife, sister, and friend. Now it's my time, my season!🤨 My ship docked, years ago and I kept missing it.😊 I have now packed my mental luggage and I am on my own personal vacation in life! 🤸 Pray for me because I am scared, but God! Myesha, you are right where you need to be in this season, It is necessary for us all.
    God, is so Amazing!💫
    Thank you, for picking up the assignment and running with it! Again, I am so proud of you, sis.🥹❤️

  • @BibleStoriesWitLD
    @BibleStoriesWitLD Před 10 měsíci +8

    God told me to divorce my husband. He was with me. Divorce was allocated by God for mankind because we are stiffnecked. God was with me and He is with you. Speaking as a woman in ministry, a pastors daughter, a seminarian with two masters degrees. He is with you my darling. Blessings.

  • @lakeshiarainey2289
    @lakeshiarainey2289 Před 10 měsíci +21

    I’m recently divorced and I truly appreciate your transparency. I often feel alone and misunderstood because none of my close friends have gone through a divorce. I look forward to growing in this part of my journey with the wisdom and experience you share. Thank you for sharing your story! ❤

    • @jesusisthelordofall4715
      @jesusisthelordofall4715 Před 10 měsíci +2

      You’re not alone❤ I pray you experience peace and strength along this journey. Jesus is with you sis!

    • @lakeshiarainey2289
      @lakeshiarainey2289 Před 10 měsíci

      @@jesusisthelordofall4715 Thank you! ❤️

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you

    • @Nursegurl82
      @Nursegurl82 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Sis, you are most definitely not alone. I feel like an outcast as well.

    • @lakeshiarainey2289
      @lakeshiarainey2289 Před 8 měsíci

      @@Nursegurl82 I’m praying it gets better for you! 🙏🏾❤️

  • @stephanieb7490
    @stephanieb7490 Před 10 měsíci +25

    Do you think that divorce is being glamorized? No one should be shamed or judged for divorce but I think the message we need to send to the youth is that leaving a relationship is totally fine but realization ALL relationships are going to take work so really sticking it out (with the exception of abuse and infidelity) is probably something they should consider. They can hop right to the next person but the challenge of being married will return. It takes inner change. Again freedom of speech and commenting aside I have no judgement for anyone. My message is relationships are hard and the next one will be hard too. So children and young women take notice marriage will be a challenge no matter how many times you do it. Work on yourselves and be prepared for that. DO NOT feel shame if you do get divorced. Do not be ashamed of anything. Shame is not healthy but do be realistic do be honest and do understand relationships are challenging.

    • @RemIsNice
      @RemIsNice Před 10 měsíci +2

      Yes, I think divorce is starting to be glamorized. IMO, social media is really bringing out our selfish side in so many aspects (that's another discussion).
      There's a reason why 2nd and 3rd marriages fail at an even higher rate than first marriages. These people can claim they are healed, but IMO being "healed" doesn't equate to being a better partner. Knowing yourself doesn't equate to being a better partner.
      It's very likely that unless your old partner was down right abusive, that your new partner will not be any better. Your knowledge, wisdom, ability to accept them for who they will be the ultimate decider in the "success" of your new marriage/ relationship.

    • @bflut
      @bflut Před 10 měsíci +7

      If one is in a marriage that is mental, emotional, physical abusive or an affair, the Heavenly Father allows us to break free. I am grateful that she is able to tell her story because there are millions of women who are going through and feel they are alone and no one is listening. She is voicing her testimony. True healing is not worrying about others opinions, but developing a loving relationship with the Heavenly Father and oneself. Unless others are in that house and sees all that is going on, you will never know. Praise the Heavenly Father for her healing journey.

    • @artistryarticle6859
      @artistryarticle6859 Před 10 měsíci

      There's nothing wrong with your comment. Just know that no one is intentionally glamorizing divorce. People are just trying to be okay without hiding out the way women have been taught to. Think about it: Men are glamorized for being single and much more (there's no competition; just laying a foundation). People are accustomed to women being ashy after divorce and ducking their heads. If it has to happen, people have to be okay an process it. Some are being mentally abused and so much more. The Father knows ❤❤❤❤❤❤. You left a good comment. I hope you understand my reply ❤

  • @missymisiuk4942
    @missymisiuk4942 Před 10 měsíci +12

    I stayed 26 years in a verbally abusive marriage. Unfortunately instead of turning to God I turned to alcohol. I believed it was a sin to leave your marriage but at the same time I couldn't stay anymore I was just so worn down. After six long years of alcoholism and separation from my God He in all His Perfect Grace healed me. Took all desire to drink away. I fell to my knees and praised Him and repented and claimed this healing. Just like you I know Christ in a new way. I am in Awe of what He has done for me. It's been 19 years and my divorce still hurts deeply because I truly wanted "till death do us part". Wanted to grow old together.. On my hard days I am so thankful for the power of the Holy Spirit to free my mind and His faithfulness to me.

    • @trulysensitive5620
      @trulysensitive5620 Před 10 měsíci

      I am divorced emotionally.

    • @cynthiay.turner203
      @cynthiay.turner203 Před 2 měsíci

      That's how that book(the bible) makes folks feel guilty. Live your life according to how YOU want to live it. Not how some book tells you to

  • @lavonbarton1992
    @lavonbarton1992 Před 10 měsíci +19

    I am going through this right now, my husband is throwing in my face that God is not pleased with me, and Divorce is a sin, that I'm not a Good woman, im not a woman of God and im childish, I need to forgive and come back, but physical and mental abuse is not what i see in my future, I want peace and happiness and all our suppose friend have not ideal what I was going through. I am scared and pray everyday that God give me strength courage to continue my journey to happiness, I want to thank you for you encouraging word cause really felt alone through all of this😢😢😢😢😢

    • @livinglife3149
      @livinglife3149 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Don’t look back. This seems like a narcissistic person. I was married to that. Abuse is never ok.

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 Před 10 měsíci

      Some men actually like this about women, that women are afraid of divorce and they will try to work on it.

    • @lavonbarton1992
      @lavonbarton1992 Před 10 měsíci

      Wow thank you.

    • @artistryarticle6859
      @artistryarticle6859 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Wow. This man is really trying to taunt and abuse you into coming back to be abused some more. I have no words

    • @artistryarticle6859
      @artistryarticle6859 Před 10 měsíci

      ​@@lavonbarton1992Choose life. ❤❤❤❤

  • @user-hq7du6ok4q
    @user-hq7du6ok4q Před 10 měsíci +27

    Oh my goodness YOU GET IT! You get it

    • @lonnetasmith
      @lonnetasmith Před 10 měsíci

      I’m

    • @Truthshallsetu3
      @Truthshallsetu3 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Get what??? Leaving her husband for an unlawful reason????

    • @user-hq7du6ok4q
      @user-hq7du6ok4q Před 10 měsíci +2

      @@Truthshallsetu3 girl, bye

    • @Truthshallsetu3
      @Truthshallsetu3 Před 10 měsíci +3

      @@user-hq7du6ok4q That’s the only independent female response to taking accountability. The Christian church is a disaster. 🤯

  • @afropuffauntee
    @afropuffauntee Před 16 dny +1

    I struggled too. I sought for approval from my mom and grandmother. I knew the Lord did not want me to live in that state of misery. I don't regret leaving.
    Blessings. Your message is appreciated.

  • @kevinmiddleton4704
    @kevinmiddleton4704 Před 3 měsíci +2

    As a man, I just want to say "thank you" for your courage and your healing. It's encouraging me and healing me. Thank you.

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 2 měsíci

      Thank you for sharing. Thank you for healing.

  • @lindag3979
    @lindag3979 Před 10 měsíci +11

    Thank you for sharing,
    so many takeaways and things that resonate. 1.move towards what you are afraid of. 2. Elevate gratitude 3. Walk past the shame 4. Divorce is part of the human experience 5. God was with me in divorce…my experience 6. Accepting the end of a relationship is just part of my story.

  • @naomikennedy6472
    @naomikennedy6472 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Thank you Mama. U have said it just right no one enters a marriage n wish to get divorced but life happens. I appreciate this so much

  • @jesusisthelordofall4715
    @jesusisthelordofall4715 Před 10 měsíci +8

    Going through divorce now and feeling shame and guilt feeling less then. I love Jesus and have a relationship with him! This was very detailed and a blessed word. Thank you for sharing ❤God is with you.

    • @artistryarticle6859
      @artistryarticle6859 Před 10 měsíci

      Love you and please know that there's no shame to bear. Any thoughts of others' thoughts who may not love you are a lie. No shame and no guilt. Love you .

  • @shalondariddle2639
    @shalondariddle2639 Před 10 dny

    Amen! He wanted you to be still and not speak at all until you were ready.

  • @daphneeb.897
    @daphneeb.897 Před 2 dny

    Recently divorced after 7years. I am 34 with 2 children, finally going to school to ge my bachelor degree, and i feel for the 1st time stepping to my highest self for the Glory of God. Only God could help me get through, i hate being a single mom but God said " i know the plans i have for you, plan to prosper etc " so i trust him

  • @kimberleyhorton2891
    @kimberleyhorton2891 Před 3 měsíci +1

    This is a powerful and anointed message to all of us going through this is experience! God bless you Myeasha!

  • @mariaprice8306
    @mariaprice8306 Před 29 dny

    I like this truth because we are enough in who we are for Christ even while going through divorce; so happy you discovered that my sister

  • @julenelee-lyttle4993
    @julenelee-lyttle4993 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Thank you for these words of encouragement because I am right there with you. I was saying to myself the other day that this was not how I planned my life. I did not see a divorce in it, but as the bible said, all things work together for good to them that love God. Keep up the good work. God got you.

  • @chavillamartin
    @chavillamartin Před 10 měsíci +7

    Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability and your willingness to help others learn how to deal with feelings of abandonment, shame, and guilt because of divorce. You are helping tons of people to walk in the freedom that Christ has paid for through His blood. I'm rooting for you Sis. your message speaks even to those that are widowed such as myself. I believe that God is using this to save many people alive. God bless you sis!!!

    • @gigiarchie3208
      @gigiarchie3208 Před 10 měsíci

      Widowed = a special circumstance. Only God can bring a soul unto Himself.
      “Marry [again?] -Only IN the Lord” #YourChoice

    • @gigiarchie3208
      @gigiarchie3208 Před 10 měsíci

      @Myesha -I LOVE your content topics 🎉 Go young Sister!

  • @celiacoronado9389
    @celiacoronado9389 Před 10 měsíci +8

    💯🙌🙌🙌Wow Wow Wow!!! Thank you so much for your heartfelt and encouraging words. I am walking away with being Grateful, Dream, self-compassion, and doing the work I know to do for my well being and goals. I noticed this keeps my hope alive and well 💖💖💖 sending love and hugs from afar to Myesha and anyone else in the journey of their next chapter 💖💖💖

    • @celiacoronado9389
      @celiacoronado9389 Před 10 měsíci

      😩I’ve never married btw (not yet), but I relate because of relationships in general. I relate to experiencing that moment when that realization is loud and clear to shift in a relationship for one’s wellbeing/self-care including mental health.😌🙏💖

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci

      You are so welcome

  • @sharonumukoro9489
    @sharonumukoro9489 Před měsícem

    Thank you. ❤❤❤ God has just used you to save someone highly suicidal today. Your story is helping to dteam again thank you .

  • @mariaprice8306
    @mariaprice8306 Před 29 dny

    Many are afraid when in the public eyes to divorce not just shame but fear of being alone

  • @V2Assist08
    @V2Assist08 Před 10 měsíci +2

    At my lowest moments during my divorce was when I relied on those who were connected to God to hold my hand. It was too painful for me to even cry out, I was too broken and exhausted.
    Thank God I had you Lady My to help me to hold on and stay connected.
    I LOVE and SEE You!! 💞

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci

      So very happy to read this. Very grateful.

  • @ginadews4068
    @ginadews4068 Před 10 měsíci +6

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey as painful as it is or may have been. I am recently divorced and these talks have been such a help and a blessing to me. It speaks to places that I buried so deep as I felt so alone during my process accepting that no one understood what I was going through. They assumed that because I decided to divorce I wanted it and was just fine. As you stated, that is the FARTHEST thing from the truth. Thank you for digging up and speaking to those places that were forgotten and that I have allowed to lie dormant during the vicious war against my heart, my peace and my emotions, and reminding me that it was just God breaking new ground in me to produce the me that He called and created me to be. I am so grateful! #mynewbestfriend

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 7 měsíci

      Yassss! I love to hear this. You got this.

  • @nonhlakaniphombuku647
    @nonhlakaniphombuku647 Před 10 měsíci +8

    Wow Myesha, you helping me heal. Thank you💐

  • @pgpheimsta
    @pgpheimsta Před 10 měsíci +12

    Thank you so much Pastor! A failed relationship doesn’t make me a failure. I have the courage to walk with God and to dream again! 😭❤️‍🩹

  • @lavonaturner7691
    @lavonaturner7691 Před 10 měsíci +4

    WOW, God gave you GRACE to help us that are and have gone through divorce. Bless you ❤️

  • @msbrowneye00
    @msbrowneye00 Před 10 měsíci +2

    I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU AND THE SHARING OF YOUR DIVORCE WILL HELP SOOOO MANY WOMEN WHO ARE STRUGGLING WITH THE DECISION OF DIVORCE. IVE ALWAYS LOVED YOUR ENERGY AND YOU WOULD HOST THE GOSPEL FEST DOWNTOWN LONG BEACH. I PRAY GOD GRANTS YOU THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART.

  • @CharlesettaAde
    @CharlesettaAde Před 10 měsíci +1

    God is always with us… we might think we sit him “ by the side of the road” but the truth is that God is bigger than any of our works or communities. He is the ever present God ❤

  • @janellef4336
    @janellef4336 Před 10 měsíci +3

    I struggle to imagine my future due to being caught up in the past, constantly replaying "what if" scenarios. Your approach offering prompts to help me visualize my future resonates with me. It's like having a manual on how to direct my thoughts towards what lies ahead. I thank you for your vulnerability, and using your experience to help others like myself.

  • @kimberlyj98
    @kimberlyj98 Před 10 měsíci +8

    Thank you so much for doing this. You are helping so many. Many blessings to you beautiful!

  • @HumbleBeauty679
    @HumbleBeauty679 Před 10 měsíci +2

    I do feel like a failure. I tried to do everything I could to prevent this separation/divorce. I didn't want to give up on my marriage, but my back was against the wall. I couldn't stop what was happening. I know one person can't fix it, I tried my best

  • @ariseshine08
    @ariseshine08 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Such a beautiful testimony!! Take all the glory God , You are a good father !!!

  • @sandraflowe218
    @sandraflowe218 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Thank you for sharing your story, Myesha. There was so much of my divorce journey that I have not been able to heal from and receive support because of the shame and guilt associated with it. Just listening to your video felt like a balm being applied in my heart. ❤

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Yes, I am grateful. You got this! Keep going. You are loved.

    • @sandraflowe218
      @sandraflowe218 Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you! @@MyeshaChaney

  • @lynn52710
    @lynn52710 Před 2 měsíci

    Myesha this is such a powerful inspiring and motivational video!! God truly led me to this!! I’m going through a tough healing process after my divorce however I will keep moving forward! I will definitely DREAM more of how I want my future to look like!! (& stop wasting time looking back) Awesome advice! God has great plans for my future and I will speak these words continuously over myself! May God continue to bless your awesome ministry!!🙏🏾 🙌🏾

  • @verarobinson1176
    @verarobinson1176 Před 10 měsíci +3

    I needed to hear this! Thank you so much for sharing! This is just confirmation for me!❤

  • @taskaquaye8202
    @taskaquaye8202 Před měsícem

    My God!!! You're speaking Myesha🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. God bless you! SUPER DEEP! Thank you❤

  • @DawnieM
    @DawnieM Před 10 měsíci +1

    Thank you for articulating so well the many emotions that one feels when going through divorce as a Christian.
    The scenario that you mentioned which alluded to unfaithfulness being abuse, is so true. Let’s stop telling people to stay with their unfaithful spouses especially when it is a repeated behaviour. This is mental and emotional abuse.

  • @adreannetherealtor
    @adreannetherealtor Před 7 měsíci +1

    Recently divorced ✋🏽 so eloquently explained. Thanks for sharing.

  • @leonardlyles7505
    @leonardlyles7505 Před 10 měsíci +2

    My Sweet Dear Sista Myesha you are helping & serving other women that needs to hear your Genuine Honest story about your
    experience & journey during the time of your previous Marriage & going through & being Divorce. So many ppl can start the Healing process, as you offering ppl HOPE, by you telling your story with the Confidence you have.
    So many of our Indigenous women have been Hurt Harm & Damage by their Spouse.
    As Beautiful as you are Myesha, the Light of your Countenance is always Shining.
    God Bless you my sweet sista Myesha.

  • @ms.ppettigrew3167
    @ms.ppettigrew3167 Před 3 měsíci

    My goodness Lady Myesha. I am so sorry that you had to experience what you have gone through. To hear you tell your story is so relative to what I had gone through in 2011. My situation was so overwhelming that I felt like I had been abandoned. I now look at some so called church people differently and I pray that when they go through something that they will remember how they treated us indifferently . Wishing you many, many blessings.

  • @seivewright
    @seivewright Před měsícem

    Baby !!!!!!!!!!! Can I hug you virtually ??? I needed to hear this

  • @brandyohara4210
    @brandyohara4210 Před 10 měsíci +3

    You're the epitome of strength. This video blessed me beyond measure. I absolutely love how poised you are. 💓

  • @npblevins
    @npblevins Před 10 měsíci +1

    The moment you thank God for allowing you to me in the marriage, to love, and be loved stood out to me! I am that person who believes God can restore all marriages, however I’m now separated and headed toward divorce. I am the custodial parent and my spouse goes on trips and has moved on and it’s hard for me to not feel guilty about the failure and then try to do everything on my own without asking for help.

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Bless you for sharing. You didn’t fail.

  • @lornagarrick779
    @lornagarrick779 Před měsícem

    I am so happy I found your channel. Your encouragement is helping me to overcome the hurt, and shame.

  • @recipebandit3563
    @recipebandit3563 Před 10 měsíci +2

    👏. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Thank you for words of wisdom. Blessings

  • @rachrich796
    @rachrich796 Před 10 měsíci

    This is so powerful!

  • @loisivory614
    @loisivory614 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I went through all of this. Then I was married to a narcissistic person who betrayed me when I had his back in everything and he was a preacher but not true to himself or me. I felt so ashamed because I had been married a few times and I just felt like a failure like I don't deserve. Now I'm healing and starting to feel better about myself and learning this thing call loving myself

  • @livinglifeonpurpose1
    @livinglifeonpurpose1 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Awesome word and great inspiration Myesha. Keep inspiring, Keep smiling, and keep trusting God. He is with you as He has been with me through my divorce over twenty years ago.❤

  • @rana.reflect.coaching
    @rana.reflect.coaching Před 10 měsíci

    Wow! Loving your journey and your transparency ❤️.

  • @rut8851
    @rut8851 Před 10 měsíci +2

    It’s so good to listen to someone that says everything you felt or am feeling after divorce…… EVERYTHING! I’ve commented in your last video about my situation but I specifically wanted to address about the Bible verse that says only under adultery do you divorce. You weren’t saying that was the reason but you acknowledged a woman’s intuition about it. We KNOW when something is not right. The spirit does not lie. Then you mentioned mental abuse, again not to say that was the reason. I’d also add as far as mental abuse, there are more ways to mentally abuse someone than just physically. And the sad part is the person that’s doing the abuse doesn’t realize or acknowledge they are contributing to your mental instability or abuse. I’m in what is called the gray divorce….. women over 50. Not only did I come to the realization that I wasn’t a traditional woman that accepted certain behaviors that are not right, the Holy Spirit quicken me to the point where death was upon me if I did not act quickly. Thank you again for saying all that you did. To anyone else that’s going through this, what also helped me was a ministry called divorce care where you meet weekly for about 8 weeks. Some are now in person. Everything she said will be addressed. May God forever keep you. He’s still with you, regardless of what others will tell you!!!!

  • @yesiniia7119
    @yesiniia7119 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Your Video came across my screen so Thankful you did. Ive been married for 39 years presently, I so needed to hear this. I Love your strength, you sharing is so needed for ppl like me who have fear. God Love You and Bless you, YOU got this ❤

  • @theresabeard-bruce9879
    @theresabeard-bruce9879 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Wow! You are going to bless tons of people with your message. How you climbed out of the valley is so important.

  • @tiaporter-scott1860
    @tiaporter-scott1860 Před 2 měsíci

    LOVED in failure!💯
    Powerful statement!👏🏾👍🏾🙋🏾‍♀️

  • @denabrown3457
    @denabrown3457 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Thank you for sharing. I completely connect and share many experiences with you as I’ve walked through divorce after a 25 year marriage. The abandonment from the faith community when both you and your partner served in ministry together is heartbreaking! It’s been almost 2yrs and I’m healing whole more and more each day; drawing closer to God in a more authentic way!Your testimony gave my journey a voice! ❤

  • @belovedbrownsugar
    @belovedbrownsugar Před 10 měsíci +1

    Whew chile say IT!!! What a powerful video!!! You captured all the right steps to take Myesha through that particular journey.

  • @thetmtalk698
    @thetmtalk698 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing Myesha, I was encouraged! Blessings to you ❤

  • @BA-di1sp
    @BA-di1sp Před 8 měsíci

    Wow!!! This blessed me to the core. I feel like this video was made for me. I burst out into tears just watching this, as I can relate to every single thing. Thank you so much Myesha! Keep speaking.

  • @1akadiva086
    @1akadiva086 Před 3 měsíci +1

    This video had me in tears ! So thankful for your transparency in helping myself & others navigate through this chapter. Thank you so much & may God continue to bless you and your ministry 🩷🙏🏽

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 2 měsíci

      I am so grateful! Thank you for sharing this!

  • @ivychilomba4734
    @ivychilomba4734 Před 10 měsíci +1

    You are such a strong woman, and you are so beautiful. May the good Lord continue giving you strength all the way. Hugs!

  • @sefanitfresenbet725
    @sefanitfresenbet725 Před měsícem

    Thank you so much!! Huge relief listening to you.

  • @sytriceoldham1356
    @sytriceoldham1356 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Wow… Currently going through a divorce and you have described everything that I am feeling. I left and I didn’t look back but those thoughts creep and I’m like did I fail God is he disappointed with me. I failed him maybe I just need to go back a try harder. When you said it’s a reason why I’m in this place and feeling like this. It has almost been a year for me and it’s still hard adjusting not just for me but for my children. I did put God on the back burner because I felt like he didn’t love me anymore. I was also married to a preacher and it changed my perspective on how I looked at preachers in the pulpit. I wondered if they were treating their wives the same way. I am in the space where I want to really find myself and what I really want. I just want to thank you for your transparency and to let you know that you are helping so many people in this process or just in general. I just want to say thank you.❤

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci +1

      Thank you for sharing. You are a champion!

    • @Tdivaisdat1
      @Tdivaisdat1 Před 16 dny

      This is so my story. Thank you for sharing.

  • @chantabowens3436
    @chantabowens3436 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing and encouraging during this season

  • @deborahclark9481
    @deborahclark9481 Před 10 měsíci +2

    You are an answer to my prayer
    I sent this to my daughter 🙌🏽

  • @janicetribueburnette5893
    @janicetribueburnette5893 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing your story and experience with us. Oh, how I wish I had had this opportunity years ago. Your sharing will help so many people who don't have someone in their lives to guide them through it.

  • @barbaracottom8570
    @barbaracottom8570 Před 9 měsíci

    God Bless You Myesha! Thank you for sharing.

  • @cianikaingram8919
    @cianikaingram8919 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you. I needed to hear this

  • @rubyred9958
    @rubyred9958 Před 9 měsíci

    You Are A God Sent! I needed to hear this on the beginning of my journey for divorce from a marriage of 14 years from mentally, emotionally, and financially abuse and all other things in between. I have to GET to the other side because I've always stayed in patience, in hope, in long suffering, in God hates divorce. I GOTTA follow through and move forward for a different and new feeling of happiness, peace, and unconditional love starting with myself

  • @tjoybell8448
    @tjoybell8448 Před 10 měsíci

    It is wonderful that you are helping others.

  • @jkadembo
    @jkadembo Před 10 měsíci

    I find you relatable. Thanks for sharing Myesha x

  • @tanyas9097
    @tanyas9097 Před 10 měsíci

    All of this!! I have a similar journey. I felt the abandonment as well as a church leader. I’m also enjoying God in a new way. Thanks for sharing.

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci

      Yes! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  • @alexiskennedy8931
    @alexiskennedy8931 Před 10 měsíci

    I needed all of this!!

  • @ninasimone36
    @ninasimone36 Před 10 měsíci

    I felt everything you spoke about from the beginning of this video to the end. The hardest part for me is to dream again about who I want to be. To envision myself new. I loved how you wrote your obituary, and went forward from there. I'm going to try to do that. It completely terrifies me to do that. Thank you for this❤

  • @lynn1908
    @lynn1908 Před 10 měsíci +2

    You are helping a lot of people

  • @Bernadean12
    @Bernadean12 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Im recently divorced after 30 years. Your videos are SO helpful!
    Thank you!!

  • @msdee2905
    @msdee2905 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Yes I had a similar experience my husband was a respected Elder in the church.

  • @msdee2905
    @msdee2905 Před 10 měsíci

    I’ve been there. Keep praying you will be ok. Weeping may endure for a night but joy will return in the morning. Keep your head up. God is the lifter of your head. God loves you and is faithful. God will never leave you or forsake you. God will be there for you. ❤😊

  • @candicenorford3857
    @candicenorford3857 Před 10 měsíci

    Thank you so much for finding those words to share. It was just the right words that I needed to hear. I'm separated, and about to start the divorce process, but I feel so much guilt. I keep playing what will people, his family, think about me. I'm slowly starting to not care as much, but God keeps giving me the strength to keep going. So thank you ❤

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci +1

      I’m glad we are connected. I’m rooting for you.

  • @ypayne9871
    @ypayne9871 Před 10 měsíci

    Amen.... I am in it right now!!!

  • @user-hq2tk5fy4n
    @user-hq2tk5fy4n Před 6 měsíci

    I know you I've been in service with you. I've heard you Sing like you've lost your mind bless you. My friend

  • @Tdivaisdat1
    @Tdivaisdat1 Před 16 dny

    Im recently divorced. What yoou said resonates with me. Thank you.

  • @GirlGoOutside
    @GirlGoOutside Před 5 měsíci

    😢❤thank you for sharing this. It was really God wanting me to know that couldn’t fix my life without him. I felt like marriage would fix me being 16 & pregnant. So at 25 I met a man that was different from guys I had known. I met him at church, he said he used to minister the word of God. He was also a musician. All in all I felt like I got with a good one. I dare not paint the picture of him being a villain and I’m a saint. It’s just I put in effort to making things work & all he did was provide(God I thank you). I was always alone. I share 2 children with this man and I felt like it was salvageable, but he opted out of fighting for it with me. He would still want sex but not committed to the marriage. It was heartbreaking and after 12 years I did get tired of singing the same song. I got tired of the same argument about things just not working. Even when you’re the initiator of divorce… it still hurts because you don’t want to really do it. You just have to even though you don’t want to. It’s difficult and it’s hard … but the Father wants me to himself and I have gratitude in being freshly divorced. He trusts me with this assignment. ❤ I love your spirit !!!

  • @crystagaymorgan
    @crystagaymorgan Před 10 měsíci

    Wow, I can relate to feeling rejected and what mostly church folks will say; being a child of God being a divorcee. But God is so faithful, surely took me through a process and show me his love.

  • @mrsbeautiful81
    @mrsbeautiful81 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I'm currently going through a divorce and I can't lie it feels like death , the hardest part is not having a support system . I lost my mom a year and a half ago so I just keep everything bottled up inside the weight is beginning to wear me down and I'm tired I can't wait to get to a place where I'm okay with the reality of it all .

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci

      Keep waking up. It gets better with time. Grieve now. Do the work. Find a good therapist to support you.

  • @janetyakubu648
    @janetyakubu648 Před 10 měsíci +1

    You just look beautiful! You need to talk about elegance too, you are amazingly elegant 💐

  • @donnagardner9059
    @donnagardner9059 Před 9 měsíci

    You have been absolutely the first refreshing for me after nearly 30 years of marriage as a pastor's wife, and hubby left in March 2023 to do some soul searching and to take some space to an undisclosed location, where I experience truth from just the way God made you and the way you share, that is making many of us free to finally exhale, free of Guilt and shame and writing ✍️ my obituary ❤❤❤❤❤absolutely love this utbe sharing, one of the best ever!!!Keep Doong what you are doing sis ❤️
    Thank you for life ❤️ Sincerely Donna Gardner ❤️

  • @richardkennerly7801
    @richardkennerly7801 Před 8 měsíci

    I been through it too I can relate your going to help a lot of people. It's crazy you said strangers helped you, it was the same for me

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 7 měsíci

      Right! Thank God for the good samaritans

  • @loisivory614
    @loisivory614 Před 10 měsíci

    Wow you really blessed me. You gave me so much pointers and inspiration

  • @lauramdunge5362
    @lauramdunge5362 Před 10 měsíci

    Love this episode.

  • @kamesiajackson9163
    @kamesiajackson9163 Před měsícem

    This was so helpful I'm just now seeing your story but it helped me I feel God led me to this I got a divorce was in a relationship 26 years married 2 and got divorced July 31 2023 he's already bounced back I'm still single hoping for restoration I want to be married again I fell lonely sometimes forgotten but I know that's not true imsaved been saved5 years now I'm waiting for God to show up for me

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před měsícem

      He is already here babe. It’s time for you to show up for you.

  • @christie7613
    @christie7613 Před 8 měsíci

    Your story resonated with me ❤️

  • @cheryldian
    @cheryldian Před 10 měsíci +1

    God bless you, thank you for your transparency❤❤

  • @relaxandrenewtv4916
    @relaxandrenewtv4916 Před 2 měsíci

    Such good advice!

  • @angelamalcolm3330
    @angelamalcolm3330 Před 10 měsíci +2

    You are blessing hundreds of women and wives by sharing in this sincere way. I pray your strength in the name of Jesus as you continue this service of love. Shalom beautiful young sister. 🙏🏾💕

  • @lauren87walker
    @lauren87walker Před 10 měsíci

    Right!! That part!!🎉🎉 you are speaking ma’am!!

  • @user-gx4wr9ck2e
    @user-gx4wr9ck2e Před 10 měsíci +1

    I love you. It’s exciting to see you, hear from you, in the continuance of your story. ❤

  • @janicerichards8959
    @janicerichards8959 Před 10 měsíci +2

    The best book to read when you are going through a divorce is Growing Through Divorce by Jim Smoke. Worked for me. An amazing book the Author is a Christian. I have even given it to divorcee ❤❤❤❤

  • @kennyskhronicles4880
    @kennyskhronicles4880 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Strength strength and strength

  • @barbaragay2199
    @barbaragay2199 Před 10 měsíci

    Hi Myesha my daughter shared your video with me Thank you so much! I'm planning writing a book...I was 28 years to Pastor appreciate tremendously!!

    • @MyeshaChaney
      @MyeshaChaney  Před 10 měsíci

      Thanks for sharing!! Congratulations on the book!