Some chase the feeling from the one they love though. The one who says they love them. We just need to feel secure in that love as it is the human condition💞🙌🏾💯
I have had the same thought. Sounds childish, unmature and narcissistic. Better being alone than sharing own life with such a woman. Sadia Khan evokes several red flags inside me. She can speak quite objectively about female deficit in social skills, because she is a quite unemotional woman and therefore she isn't even solidary with other women. She received her bachelor in psychology for cheap at a Pakistani university.... If a duck don't look like a duck, if a duck don't quacks like a duck, perhaps she isn't a psychologist at all....
Bs. You can give them all the attention in the world and they will flip and bail. Women are told they should flake at any given moment and that theybare accountable for nothing.
@@RizzspectMynaME Not really. We all know now that Jada and Will union is also kind of a deal to hide will gay side and strange behaviours. Then that for sure explain why Jada never really respect him. (That doesn't say that she's not the narssistic type) Then don't take Jada for an example for all others women, (unless if you are attracted to Jada's type of women ?).
@@MsDulcinee it's always a "not really" guy like u. Focus on the trivialities uses to make a point , as opposed to the point itself. Move around w3irdough
If your woman needs constant validation, she’s probably not secure in her self and broken through some form of trauma. No amount of external validation gonna fix that. She’ll most likely end up cheating on you.
Problem is woman are like children wanting constant validation from everyone not just their man. Since high school they are on social media getting validated that they become narcissistic. Men give woman attention, but woman can't just flip a switch off like that so they come into the relationship as liabilities.
women need the most validation. especially the society we live in. it doesn't hurt to tell your wife she's beautiful after you give her a kiss. everyday. it ain't hard guys.
When you turned 18, you became responsible for your own behavior. So whatever extenuating circumstances there may be, you’re the one that pulls the trigger. I grew up in a different generation.
No, if a man is pouring validation into a cup on a daily basis she eventually gets bored and it means nothing to her. She goes looking for validation elsewhere and considers the guy lame and not a challenge. Even chicks will admit this.
@@inserter400 I have three brothers and they all went through the same thing that you went through. My oldest brother was married for over 20 years and gave his wife everything, provided, protected, put himself last every time, and gave her everything she ever asked for. She left him for a guy who wasn't even a better guy than my brother. She literally traded him for somebody of far lesser value. These chicks rarely trade up. They will leave a good man for nobody.
There is always a way out for the person, looking for a way out. Responsibility means you fucking talk about it like a grown up, like put on your big girl pants and be a fucking adult.
She is articulating how a man should always be attentive to the woman's feelings. How about saying that the woman should preserve her feelings for her man and exercise self control, which is a virtue.
No he's right because she's basically defending men who cheat because their wife doesn't give them attention either! Stop this crap making excuses for women and when the flip scripts nobody thinks the same way. Stop treating women like spoiled children@@Masanumi
That's what you call not taking accountability, excuses again for women cheating, blame the man again,and this woman gives advice on relationships, even this woman is getting her excuses in before she cheats,no accountability for cheating
Bro men blame women all the time aswell. We dont like your body, your old, your are old ball and chain, you annoying, you dont cook and clean! Men usually cheat before discussing problems and the entire marriage is just the wife taking all the mental emotional and physical duties. Men run around looking for other women! Take accountability for that and just a ife is a hired job! Its a two way street. And she didnt say anything wrong. She said a women need her OWN mans validation, reassurance and security! That means of you cant provide that you have emotionally left her! You dont love/care for her! In her eyes! So she will eventually start questioning! Then obviously she will leave entirely
@@Suisuizi1 mate they've turned your head and getting you to stick up for their poor behaviors, women manipulate cheat don't take any accountability for what they do,then blame the man,yes some men do the same but on a whole 95percent of women nowadays have secret sex friends can't take their eyes of their phones looking for any type of attention they can get,and that's married women aswel the amount of married women that have came onto me just to get a reaction from their husbands is frightening, that's playing games using me and using their husbands,no accountability it's the husbands fault again for their poor narcissistc behaviors
Yeah always expect a woman to mess up something great in their life then blame somebody else other than themselves. Most women are narcissists and it’s not even funny how much time and effort you waste on a modern woman. Stay single fellas!
@@jonasschultze4560nah man this isn't the same, they sit on their phones sending their partners in GCs, talk about them with their friends in negative ways, try to baby trap, and have 0 morals.
No excuses here. She just telling you she need her man to validate her, reassure her. Because if you dont, she usually believes you dont love her any more. And usually men give attention to outside women more like on pron or OF!
@@meritosagie4394 of course I’m wrong. I’m being sarcastic based on the original comment. But I guess like you commented, she’s loyal to her feelings men are only loyal to their desires
No, don’t watch this videos they are overwhelming go live your best life and love without expecting anything back just love because you have enough to give ❤
Hum ... Yes you are guilty of ignoring you girl and don't feed your relation with attention and kindness. It's not interesting to stay with a man like that. Nobody likes to feel like a ghost in a relation. Unseen and unheard. (You would like that girl stay with you Nevertheless ?) However it's her responsability and her choice if she is looking for another man who give her attention and leave you. That's that. 🤷🏽♀️ Because if one of the main men's need in a relation is respect, one of the women's main need in a relation is attention, feeling seen and heard. If a woman begin to disrespect you in a relation, you wouldn't aknowledge that, would you ? No. Then it's the same thing with attention, love and feeling seen for a woman.
Dear men and women, remember this, people can be assholes irrespective of gender, religion, nationality etc. They'll always find excuses. Just don't associate with such people, and don't hurt the good ones by thinking and treating they're the same too. Do not generalize. Hope everyone gets who they deserve! 💜💖
An empowered, independent woman with great self esteem will not go out looking for validation from any man or woman. She'll know what she's worth, and call out her man or try to understand her man's love language to recognize acts of affection. Love should not be about the other person loving you the way you want to be loved (that's fake and every once in a while is healthy because it shows they understand your language, but not all the time), you should be seeking to get love that is authentic to them (before anyone miss reads this: manipulation, narcissism, violent behavior, etc are not anyone's love language).
All she's telling us is that to be with most women feels like a full time job. Crazy. I already have a great job sorry. After learning about women, I realized that relationships are not meant to last forever. If she becomes attracted to another man, let her go.
@@evidencegrande7097 not all women, there are good women out there that also work on themselves and want to build a family. You just have to focus on yourself and do trial and error until you're able to recognize which ones are worth the effort. Then you give in 1000% and hold that woman as a part of yourself. The bible tells us to go out there and look for a wife, not a girlfriend.
@@EdBoca Well said, EdBoca! There are many good women out there, but we don't appreciate them, because they are humble in appearance or a little bit chubby. First of all: know thyself. And then you gonna recognise the person who fits in your matrix of feelings and behaviours.
She is not wrong. I coach women who were/are the best of women. After years or decades of neglect, abondonment, emotional, financial, physical, verbal abuse. Beling left to feel like a roommate as he satisfied himself with porn and demoralizing her self esteem and value continuously, some of them did end up cheating. Thinking they could not divorce because of religious reasons. Not making excuses for them, but trauma shrinks the brain, causes brain fog and their moral compass is broken. I am talking very good woman failed morally and it shocked themselves and others. So maybe there are many good loving attentive men in this chat. But with porn as an epidemic of 70% men viewing regularly, it is destroying marriages and women. There's more to peoples back stories than most will realize. Being she was a counselor she heard many of them.
I was unhappily married 2 decades! I never turned to another man. This is a cop out. Lol eventually I left him. Still, I knew I would be playing myself stepping out, regardless of how "starved" I was
Than you need be matured and sensible about how much and what to give. Its like eating eating, you eat too much and grow over weight, you eat too less and you starve. If you give everything you are bound to be taken for granted, if you dont give the rightful share of validation and assurance, it's bound to hamper the quality of the relationship. It's basic common sense. This is applicable to both genders.
Not only women have such feelings,even the guys do .. if the girl doesn't show attention/becoming more attractive. He will get attracted to other girls 😀
But it’s exactly this type of girl who does NOT deserve a valuable man’s attention. She can feel free to chase whatever feelings whoever offers her as a trade and best wishes of good luck to her.
“If you pour water in her cup” every day as she says SHE WILL leave you. Don’t listen to her. learn about what your girl likes and stick with it. do what works.
Unfortunately we see now days many platforms that provide that exact validation,even if a man validated his girl its still not guaranteed that she wouldn’t seek it els where
Must be hard to be with a woman then. (I am a woman). But this sounds awfully stressful to me. I mean, everyone needs some validation and to feel respected. But because I am a woman, I know that there are many opportunities. With makes it cheap. Why be with someone if you aren't convinced it's the best person to be with? What does it tell you about yourself? Also, there are other options. Job, hobbies, pets, do something good for society, which can make you feel good about yourself. It doesn't have to be male attention. Being ignored is really mean and hurtful, though. So, this is a fictional scenario, but there must be something wrong within the relationship beforehand, and obviously bad communication.
@@GoldenDragonfly1agree with you. Most of the time we try our best but we dont get the drink of water for example. A couple Is not a One way side, both Need to work on. Both can get a compliment, or to hear something nice. But most of the time its not
Listen woman , if your man is busy , its his attention and care for you and kids . He's busy , He's paying attention to life he wanna provide to you. This is kinda attention you need . Not only physical or emotional . Look at your man and see through him , what He's doing for the family . Not what he shows
So what you're saying is, it's always the men who are at fault. So that conversation goes like this. Her: Do you work tomorrow Him: Yes, I do Her: You work too much Him: I have to be able to provide for the family. Her: It's your fault I cheated. You always work. If you could make this make sense ot would be appreciated.
Nope, disagree with this one. It it mainly depends on the type of woman. If she is getting it on the daily basis, no. If he is balancing it properly then more of a chance she won’t cheat. The reason a woman doesn’t cheat is bc she is “in love” . When a woman is in this state, the infatuation/ in love, not caring or love a man, but in love with him, she doesn’t see any other man.
I 100 did this once I found out my wife cheated. Then it only pushed her away more and she left me for another man. I should have left when I found out the first time.
Women go with how they feel in that moment. It doesn't matter if you've been together 20 years, your history together doesn't matter to them. They go on emotions, not logic or Reason. And of course it will all be your fault. Accountability Zero. Single Life Happy Life🎯
Also too much validation can be a bad thing, they will get used to it and expect it, just make sure you give them a compliment when they make an effort; and they will associate making an effort with validation
Good girls don’t turn bad, bad girls sometimes behave for a while until they aren’t getting what they want. Then they go back. A decent woman communicates her needs instead of letting her guy walk the plank without realizing it.
If she is a pig she will be a pig.. go take care of your mum and dad better for you and them.. your mum she never ask you for anything and she still loves you ❤❤❤❤❤
most of the time the woman will be bored by all that attention and she will be looking for a relationship that has more risk and challenges in it both kind of woman are exist. but the unfortunate part is you dont know what to do , pour down attention or not be nice or not , give her all your time or not, forgive her all the time or not , but i think it all comes down to down to the (MORAL) that she has, a woman couldn't cheat just because her longing for attention from a new guy
There is no excuse for cheating. None. The person was bad from the beginning if they gave into the temptation of others. If you're not happy, leave. Too simple. Don't get married until you know you're with the person you know you can be ieth for ever. Don't get married after a year of dating. Date for a year, move in together, live together for 5 years THEN get married. That's NOT enough thought. You also HAVE to communicate your feelings, hints won't cut it. It's so simple, there is no excuse for cheating. Again, no excuse for cheating. Do I need to say it again?
Just imagine if every man has a house, and every woman is homeless. They know that no matter who they are, how they look, or how they act, they know that they can go and knock on any door, and any man will accept them as they are. But they also know too, that if they get bored of that man or his ways, they can automatically go to another house and won't be bored and homeless for too long. Now if the tables were turned, we men wouldn't be able to just go from house to house because we wouldn't be accepted most places we went. But when u have choices and many options, they don't have to worry about being homeless for too long ,.
SOOOOO, my takeaway is... Her commitment is to her feelings. Which can come and go.. Not to her relationship Nor to her word. Bottom line Feelings count Oral, & Written contracts (marriage certificate) Don't... Men, we ALL heard it... Now BELIEVE and Act Accordingly
Guys. Generally, what women these days say and do are opposite. Do not concentrate on what they say. Look at their actions. From my experience just be you. Don't go for the hottest women. If you are truly finding true love then go for an average looking woman. They are the real ones. Then have a deep convo 1 day. If she has it back, she's yours, if not, don't waste time, move on. There are good people out there, just hard to find nowadays. Be strong. Keep trying. You will find yours. Be the good you were meant to be. Don't change for the worse for another person or even because of them. You got this g. Peace and Love ❤
My wife is leaving me for a guy she met in TikTok afterr 16 years together i messed it up but i hope she gets what she wants and i hope never comes back
It's crazy to say that if she's starved of VALIDATION she will focus on the attention another man will give. Let her go... she was a child not a woman. Your VALIDATION should come from self or from the community for which you have worked diligently for to recieve the accolades. It's dangerous to hang you VALIDATION on the whims of another. I understand being in a relationship and wanting their attention but giving attention when its wanted is a job. Think about that and then flip it. The quick answer... Any form of VALIDATION comes from work put in. You want his attention pay attention to what he doesn't ask for. We will not ask because no one gives us what we want. Our wants are always ours to obtain so we seek VALIDATION through our struggle. A good man turns bad when this happens...
Thats why i go for girls who play team sports they dont need constant validation, they understand teamwork. And what do you call 2 people striving for the same goal . Teamwork. Living life together for yourself and family
Sounds like addiction for endless supply. And if its true then its sad to know she needs attention, and that can change her behaviour, hence personality.
ok if she is deprived of validation by her man why she chooses to cheat why not go for divorce and divorce must be last option before that she can demand attention and quality time and if things doesnt work out she can consult a relationship therapist.
True i went through this with my ex after 9 years but you get less attention when you stop being pleasent to be around, when you stop having sex, when you constantly show disrespect. It goes both ways man i can only pour so much water into your cup without getting any back before i run out of water for you. Once you leave your man for another one dont think youll be able to just come back like nothing happened cuz hell either turn you away or do the same thing you just did to him.
It's a feeling she's chasing not a person.... Is dangerous.
Crazy work , gang. 💯
Some chase the feeling from the one they love though. The one who says they love them. We just need to feel secure in that love as it is the human condition💞🙌🏾💯
Don't play that game. You will get rekt.
I have had the same thought.
Sounds childish, unmature and narcissistic.
Better being alone than sharing own life with such a woman.
Sadia Khan evokes several red flags inside me. She can speak quite objectively about female deficit in social skills, because she is a quite unemotional woman and therefore she isn't even solidary with other women.
She received her bachelor in psychology for cheap at a Pakistani university....
If a duck don't look like a duck, if a duck don't quacks like a duck, perhaps she isn't a psychologist at all....
Ofc I’m chasing a feeling from my man, it’s not dangerous it’s normal. My man should give me that feeling, it’s the most basic thing he can do for me.
If you pay attention on her, she leaves and if you don't, she leaves too.
Validation and attention are diff
That is called a win win if she leaves.
That's how the game is designed. Play it to the extent you can but don't expect any results.
A woman cannot be satisfied!!
@@ryanbain618 💯
Told my son yesterday that "all women want is attention. They will go to extremes to get it, and it's why ignoring them pisses them off so much."
A great father 😊
Wow
Very true! Every woman needs undivided attention every now and then. If you give attention they will crave and desire you even more. ❤
Bs. You can give them all the attention in the world and they will flip and bail. Women are told they should flake at any given moment and that theybare accountable for nothing.
STAY SINGLE MEN
Always...
These times, it's BEST.
Good luck, you're all so weak
they dont want us anyway lmao
Y’all don’t want family’s?
So basically we’re playing a losing game 😂
Basically u keep them as ride or dies. Because they are perfect for that, but in a marital sense it leads to how Jada Smith is .
@@RizzspectMynaME
Not really. We all know now that Jada and Will union is also kind of a deal to hide will gay side and strange behaviours.
Then that for sure explain why Jada never really respect him. (That doesn't say that she's not the narssistic type)
Then don't take Jada for an example for all others women, (unless if you are attracted to Jada's type of women ?).
@@MsDulcinee it's always a "not really" guy like u. Focus on the trivialities uses to make a point , as opposed to the point itself. Move around w3irdough
Free speech. Sorry.
Have a great day !
Thats what it seems like, my dude.
Yep, chasing "feelings" not reality
If your woman needs constant validation, she’s probably not secure in her self and broken through some form of trauma. No amount of external validation gonna fix that. She’ll most likely end up cheating on you.
Everyone needs validation from those we love from time to time.
Problem is woman are like children wanting constant validation from everyone not just their man. Since high school they are on social media getting validated that they become narcissistic. Men give woman attention, but woman can't just flip a switch off like that so they come into the relationship as liabilities.
Plz .
women need the most validation. especially the society we live in. it doesn't hurt to tell your wife she's beautiful after you give her a kiss. everyday. it ain't hard guys.
@@basilhenry-eyo6522No men don't.
These women are a life saver. Never , and I mean never, put a ring on it.
That's right they chase feelings. Men doesn't matter to those utterly selfish creatures.
When you turned 18, you became responsible for your own behavior. So whatever extenuating circumstances there may be, you’re the one that pulls the trigger. I grew up in a different generation.
She had me till "It's the feeling she's chasing, not a person." I'm out.
It’s me, your wife, commenting on your account. That “feeling” she’s chasing was put there by God. Don’t be so quick to run away ;)
That's why muslims pray on a scheduled manner
@@TheGeeps god's are not real....
No, if a man is pouring validation into a cup on a daily basis she eventually gets bored and it means nothing to her. She goes looking for validation elsewhere and considers the guy lame and not a challenge. Even chicks will admit this.
❤
All women are not same
They want anything or everything only from that special person
You are correct, I gave my ex wife plenty of genuine attention, she still left me and took the lot !
We were together for 23 years.
@@inserter400 I have three brothers and they all went through the same thing that you went through. My oldest brother was married for over 20 years and gave his wife everything, provided, protected, put himself last every time, and gave her everything she ever asked for. She left him for a guy who wasn't even a better guy than my brother. She literally traded him for somebody of far lesser value. These chicks rarely trade up. They will leave a good man for nobody.
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Note entirely true
There is always a way out for the person, looking for a way out. Responsibility means you fucking talk about it like a grown up, like put on your big girl pants and be a fucking adult.
😂 hhahaha what women talk to men and most of the time husband say wife is annoying me and they go out to sleep, travel, have fun with side chicks!!
@@Suisuizi1 talk is cheap, put on your adult pants.
@@kaanozk hahahha then dont lead! Say your are fine being an equal😂
@@Suisuizi1 I don't lead you, you have to put on the big girl panties yourself
@@Suisuizi1yes we are fine being equal
She is articulating how a man should always be attentive to the woman's feelings. How about saying that the woman should preserve her feelings for her man and exercise self control, which is a virtue.
So surpressing emotions? Worst advice ever. Develop some empathy.
No he's right because she's basically defending men who cheat because their wife doesn't give them attention either! Stop this crap making excuses for women and when the flip scripts nobody thinks the same way. Stop treating women like spoiled children@@Masanumi
@@Masanumi just the ones involving behaviours that are bordering on cheating!
That's what you call not taking accountability, excuses again for women cheating, blame the man again,and this woman gives advice on relationships, even this woman is getting her excuses in before she cheats,no accountability for cheating
Bro men blame women all the time aswell. We dont like your body, your old, your are old ball and chain, you annoying, you dont cook and clean!
Men usually cheat before discussing problems and the entire marriage is just the wife taking all the mental emotional and physical duties. Men run around looking for other women! Take accountability for that and just a ife is a hired job!
Its a two way street.
And she didnt say anything wrong. She said a women need her OWN mans validation, reassurance and security!
That means of you cant provide that you have emotionally left her! You dont love/care for her! In her eyes! So she will eventually start questioning!
Then obviously she will leave entirely
@@Suisuizi1 mate they've turned your head and getting you to stick up for their poor behaviors, women manipulate cheat don't take any accountability for what they do,then blame the man,yes some men do the same but on a whole 95percent of women nowadays have secret sex friends can't take their eyes of their phones looking for any type of attention they can get,and that's married women aswel the amount of married women that have came onto me just to get a reaction from their husbands is frightening, that's playing games using me and using their husbands,no accountability it's the husbands fault again for their poor narcissistc behaviors
@@Suisuizi1
One don't need to study psychology for that insight.
Find the right person to be together.
There are four billion women out there.
Yeah always expect a woman to mess up something great in their life then blame somebody else other than themselves. Most women are narcissists and it’s not even funny how much time and effort you waste on a modern woman. Stay single fellas!
It is not an excuse, but an explanation! Stop being subjective and start using logical reasoning objectivelly.
No excuses woman in this day are cringey
Crazy psychopaths... Charlie in 2 and a half man had it all right
Same Nonsense as saying "all men are pigs"
Arent u able to make a Difference between human beings?
@@jonasschultze4560nah man this isn't the same, they sit on their phones sending their partners in GCs, talk about them with their friends in negative ways, try to baby trap, and have 0 morals.
No excuses here. She just telling you she need her man to validate her, reassure her. Because if you dont, she usually believes you dont love her any more. And usually men give attention to outside women more like on pron or OF!
@@MohamedElouarda-qk6ws bruh. Hope ur Not married
A real woman doesn't chase feelings she stays loyal ☺️
To her feelings
A real man does not chase sexual satisfaction he stays loyal, even if you don’t give it to him for years.
@@Lesah_ wrong
@@meritosagie4394 of course I’m wrong. I’m being sarcastic based on the original comment.
But I guess like you commented, she’s loyal to her feelings men are only loyal to their desires
well said bro.
So... the men are always guilty
No, don’t watch this videos they are overwhelming go live your best life and love without expecting anything back just love because you have enough to give ❤
@@NicoleGalindoMenciajajaja
Grim Hustle.
@@ninopavkovic9382 i dont understand my english is not the best :)
Hum ... Yes you are guilty of ignoring you girl and don't feed your relation with attention and kindness. It's not interesting to stay with a man like that. Nobody likes to feel like a ghost in a relation. Unseen and unheard. (You would like that girl stay with you Nevertheless ?)
However it's her responsability
and her choice if she is looking for another man who give her attention and leave you.
That's that. 🤷🏽♀️
Because if one of the main men's need in a relation is respect, one of the women's main need in a relation is attention, feeling seen and heard.
If a woman begin to disrespect you in a relation, you wouldn't aknowledge that, would you ? No.
Then it's the same thing with attention, love and feeling seen for a woman.
As always from a woman.
It's never the woman's fault.
Seems to be a million reason why she will cheat and not one that will keep her faithful. They are flawed.
Dear men and women, remember this, people can be assholes irrespective of gender, religion, nationality etc. They'll always find excuses. Just don't associate with such people, and don't hurt the good ones by thinking and treating they're the same too. Do not generalize. Hope everyone gets who they deserve! 💜💖
Absolutely
The desire to be seen, heard and understood is neither feminine or masculine. It's human. 🤷♀️
An empowered, independent woman with great self esteem will not go out looking for validation from any man or woman. She'll know what she's worth, and call out her man or try to understand her man's love language to recognize acts of affection. Love should not be about the other person loving you the way you want to be loved (that's fake and every once in a while is healthy because it shows they understand your language, but not all the time), you should be seeking to get love that is authentic to them (before anyone miss reads this: manipulation, narcissism, violent behavior, etc are not anyone's love language).
All she's telling us is that to be with most women feels like a full time job. Crazy. I already have a great job sorry. After learning about women, I realized that relationships are not meant to last forever. If she becomes attracted to another man, let her go.
@@evidencegrande7097 not all women, there are good women out there that also work on themselves and want to build a family. You just have to focus on yourself and do trial and error until you're able to recognize which ones are worth the effort. Then you give in 1000% and hold that woman as a part of yourself. The bible tells us to go out there and look for a wife, not a girlfriend.
@@EdBoca
Well said, EdBoca!
There are many good women out there, but we don't appreciate them, because they are humble in appearance or a little bit chubby.
First of all: know thyself.
And then you gonna recognise the person who fits in your matrix of feelings and behaviours.
@@ninopavkovic9382 appearance has nothing to do with it. To me it's about confidence, empathy, and how they handle responsibilities.
@@EdBoca
A nice camel costs more than an ugly one.
This woman is completely wrong. Remove her
You are completely wrong remove yourself
@@Bobbatea-75She want all in One way. Couple work in both ways, not Just One way. She wants the water, we the water too. So yeah, She Is wrong.
She is not wrong. I coach women who were/are the best of women. After years or decades of neglect, abondonment, emotional, financial, physical, verbal abuse. Beling left to feel like a roommate as he satisfied himself with porn and demoralizing her self esteem and value continuously, some of them did end up cheating. Thinking they could not divorce because of religious reasons. Not making excuses for them, but trauma shrinks the brain, causes brain fog and their moral compass is broken. I am talking very good woman failed morally and it shocked themselves and others. So maybe there are many good loving attentive men in this chat. But with porn as an epidemic of 70% men viewing regularly, it is destroying marriages and women. There's more to peoples back stories than most will realize. Being she was a counselor she heard many of them.
fellas, just screw - no strings attached. that way she can never cheat on you or require all of this work. jeez.
100 percent correct
Goes both ways! Stay strong Kings! Most women cheat .
most but not all; agreed
Yup...ending up trying to get validation from another and always up regretting it.😂
I was unhappily married 2 decades! I never turned to another man. This is a cop out. Lol eventually I left him. Still, I knew I would be playing myself stepping out, regardless of how "starved" I was
...said a bad girl who thought she was good but then proved herself actually bad after all
Wrong.....
If you give them everything they want the they get bored and move on to the knew man...
Don't be a lap dog..
Than you need be matured and sensible about how much and what to give. Its like eating eating, you eat too much and grow over weight, you eat too less and you starve. If you give everything you are bound to be taken for granted, if you dont give the rightful share of validation and assurance, it's bound to hamper the quality of the relationship. It's basic common sense. This is applicable to both genders.
You right my wife end up saying im a wimp soft and weak after i gave her everything for 16 years im so angry she was ungrateful anyway
This is a dangerous message.
Basically, constant babysitting is required. Waste of time and energy.
Not only women have such feelings,even the guys do .. if the girl doesn't show attention/becoming more attractive. He will get attracted to other girls 😀
😂
They don't talk about what the girl should do, they only blame guys
And thats what make US single 😂 cause we are tired to play games and get treated like we are "attention giver with legs and Money". Its sad.
But it’s exactly this type of girl who does NOT deserve a valuable man’s attention. She can feel free to chase whatever feelings whoever offers her as a trade and best wishes of good luck to her.
“If you pour water in her cup” every day as she says SHE WILL leave you. Don’t listen to her. learn about what your girl likes and stick with it. do what works.
what is..."You're girl"....? most men are single....
Her mistake is chasing a feeling
She takes it for granted if he does this.
Needing validation is one of the many traits of a narcissist
Unfortunately we see now days many platforms that provide that exact validation,even if a man validated his girl its still not guaranteed that she wouldn’t seek it els where
Must be hard to be with a woman then. (I am a woman). But this sounds awfully stressful to me. I mean, everyone needs some validation and to feel respected. But because I am a woman, I know that there are many opportunities. With makes it cheap. Why be with someone if you aren't convinced it's the best person to be with? What does it tell you about yourself? Also, there are other options. Job, hobbies, pets, do something good for society, which can make you feel good about yourself. It doesn't have to be male attention. Being ignored is really mean and hurtful, though. So, this is a fictional scenario, but there must be something wrong within the relationship beforehand, and obviously bad communication.
@@GoldenDragonfly1agree with you. Most of the time we try our best but we dont get the drink of water for example. A couple Is not a One way side, both Need to work on. Both can get a compliment, or to hear something nice. But most of the time its not
Listen woman , if your man is busy , its his attention and care for you and kids .
He's busy , He's paying attention to life he wanna provide to you. This is kinda attention you need . Not only physical or emotional . Look at your man and see through him , what He's doing for the family . Not what he shows
That's a problem she doesn't care about you, she only cares how she feels, and she doesn't care who to get it from
Sadly it's only about money throw money they will be ok it's ok regardless very few exceptions but most is cash sadly
Disgusting. Blaming the victim. Women have to be accountable for their lack of integrity.
So what you're saying is, it's always the men who are at fault. So that conversation goes like this.
Her: Do you work tomorrow
Him: Yes, I do
Her: You work too much
Him: I have to be able to provide for the family.
Her: It's your fault I cheated. You always work. If you could make this make sense ot would be appreciated.
That's why a woman who constantly needs attention is a red flag 🚩
Good will always be good in any situation don’t look for excuses to justify evil.
Nope, disagree with this one. It it mainly depends on the type of woman.
If she is getting it on the daily basis, no. If he is balancing it properly then more of a chance she won’t cheat.
The reason a woman doesn’t cheat is bc she is “in love” .
When a woman is in this state, the infatuation/ in love, not caring or love a man, but in love with him, she doesn’t see any other man.
That’s bullshit. If you spoile them they will take you for granted
I 100 did this once I found out my wife cheated. Then it only pushed her away more and she left me for another man. I should have left when I found out the first time.
Women go with how they feel in that moment. It doesn't matter if you've been together 20 years, your history together doesn't matter to them. They go on emotions, not logic or Reason. And of course it will all be your fault. Accountability Zero. Single Life Happy Life🎯
Also too much validation can be a bad thing, they will get used to it and expect it, just make sure you give them a compliment when they make an effort; and they will associate making an effort with validation
This happened yesterday
Bravo!
Wise words sir!
Women are not pets for you to train.
@@dwd080376 .... agree, however, some of them act like children, so they need to be guided!
@@dwd080376nothing he said indicated treating women as pets.
If she is a 304....she is a 304!!
Why doesnt her own man give her validation/ reassurance?
Except when you do and then they say you’re smothering them or they miss the chase or whatever else it is..
Good girls don’t turn bad, bad girls sometimes behave for a while until they aren’t getting what they want. Then they go back. A decent woman communicates her needs instead of letting her guy walk the plank without realizing it.
It's funny how this is validating cheating in a way... What about the guys working 14 hours a day to keep her fed and shid... What about them
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If she is a pig she will be a pig.. go take care of your mum and dad better for you and them.. your mum she never ask you for anything and she still loves you ❤❤❤❤❤
This woman gets so tiring. She just gives seemingly endless excuses for women's bad behavior.
most of the time the woman will be bored by all that attention
and she will be looking for a relationship that has more risk and challenges in it
both kind of woman are exist.
but the unfortunate part is you dont know what to do , pour down attention or not
be nice or not , give her all your time or not,
forgive her all the time or not ,
but i think it all comes down to down to the (MORAL) that she has,
a woman couldn't cheat just because her longing for attention from a new guy
Attention and validation are different
@@Suisuizi1 i know, i edited it
even if your treat her as a Queen,you give everything she wants,worship her.She still leaves you...
There is no excuse for cheating. None. The person was bad from the beginning if they gave into the temptation of others. If you're not happy, leave. Too simple. Don't get married until you know you're with the person you know you can be ieth for ever. Don't get married after a year of dating. Date for a year, move in together, live together for 5 years THEN get married. That's NOT enough thought. You also HAVE to communicate your feelings, hints won't cut it. It's so simple, there is no excuse for cheating. Again, no excuse for cheating. Do I need to say it again?
Thats pathetic
Taking notes...here😂😂😂😂NO!!! Cheating is Never GOOD!!! No Excuses!!! Relationship not working-taking a break😂😂😂Yeah ok-next thing you know-Maury😂😂😂
What's true in this conversation: .....'because it's a feeling she's chasing, not a person.....'
And not recognizing the part there is no going back after going bad
Attention or not, she will still cheat on you if she wants to.Nothing can stop her
Women validating excuses for women chasing feelings not reality.
This woman seems to only describe damaged women.
What if you keep pouring water into a cup but no water is going into your cup? Eventually, you have no more water to pour. Reciprocation is crucial.
if she is craving attentio, leave her. it is the most compassionate thing you can do
If it's not working and you've exhausted all options to work through it, leave...cheating is weak and pathetic.
Just imagine if every man has a house, and every woman is homeless. They know that no matter who they are, how they look, or how they act, they know that they can go and knock on any door, and any man will accept them as they are. But they also know too, that if they get bored of that man or his ways, they can automatically go to another house and won't be bored and homeless for too long. Now if the tables were turned, we men wouldn't be able to just go from house to house because we wouldn't be accepted most places we went. But when u have choices and many options, they don't have to worry about being homeless for too long ,.
Basically they will remain kids for ever...
Once a bad gal always a bad gal🥴🤡. If she's good, she's good 🤷🏾♂️
Kind sick of this online gurus
And THAT is the problem with relationships today. Stay single fellas.
SOOOOO, my takeaway is...
Her commitment is to her feelings.
Which can come and go..
Not to her relationship
Nor to her word.
Bottom line
Feelings count
Oral, & Written contracts (marriage certificate)
Don't...
Men, we ALL heard it...
Now BELIEVE and Act Accordingly
Guys. Generally, what women these days say and do are opposite. Do not concentrate on what they say. Look at their actions. From my experience just be you. Don't go for the hottest women. If you are truly finding true love then go for an average looking woman. They are the real ones. Then have a deep convo 1 day. If she has it back, she's yours, if not, don't waste time, move on. There are good people out there, just hard to find nowadays. Be strong. Keep trying. You will find yours. Be the good you were meant to be. Don't change for the worse for another person or even because of them. You got this g. Peace and Love ❤
Womansplaining - if she cheats on you, its your fault. Dont simp boys.
Disgusting, I hope everyone can be loyal 😢
Lame excuses for cheating. Women need to be better
Then she’s not worth it. If she wants a feeling and not the person
It sounds like she's saying they're for the streets... attention is the new currency
My wife is leaving me for a guy she met in TikTok afterr 16 years together i messed it up but i hope she gets what she wants and i hope never comes back
Not only validation
It’s all about basic respect and gratitude
& men chase one person for life that's called loyalty!
It's crazy to say that if she's starved of VALIDATION she will focus on the attention another man will give. Let her go... she was a child not a woman. Your VALIDATION should come from self or from the community for which you have worked diligently for to recieve the accolades. It's dangerous to hang you VALIDATION on the whims of another. I understand being in a relationship and wanting their attention but giving attention when its wanted is a job. Think about that and then flip it.
The quick answer...
Any form of VALIDATION comes from work put in.
You want his attention pay attention to what he doesn't ask for. We will not ask because no one gives us what we want. Our wants are always ours to obtain so we seek VALIDATION through our struggle. A good man turns bad when this happens...
this is narcissism is a nutshell LOL
These are excuses for cheating. Some women have child like attention needs, needing praised and mental health checks.
Thats why i go for girls who play team sports they dont need constant validation, they understand teamwork. And what do you call 2 people striving for the same goal . Teamwork. Living life together for yourself and family
Have to love the hoops women will jump through to blame the man for HER Cheating...
A bad girl can change and become good if they really want to truly Change
Sounds like addiction for endless supply. And if its true then its sad to know she needs attention, and that can change her behaviour, hence personality.
ok if she is deprived of validation by her man why she chooses to cheat why not go for divorce and divorce must be last option before that she can demand attention and quality time and if things doesnt work out she can consult a relationship therapist.
Works the same both ways
She was never good in this case
True i went through this with my ex after 9 years but you get less attention when you stop being pleasent to be around, when you stop having sex, when you constantly show disrespect. It goes both ways man i can only pour so much water into your cup without getting any back before i run out of water for you. Once you leave your man for another one dont think youll be able to just come back like nothing happened cuz hell either turn you away or do the same thing you just did to him.
Too much attention, she gets tired of you. Not enough attention, she seeks it elsewhere. Lose lose situation
À net improvement on your past readings - you demonstrate kindness + compassion. Thank you so much .
Trust me there a good women out there who do not need this to be loyal. Just fear God
If she's starving of validation... She'll never get full of attention. Not worth it