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I wonder if Kati has a different perspective about attachment to a therapist after 3 years and also using IFS? I don’t think of my therapist as my parent that didn’t give me emotional support, but when I need to think of someone who is safe to help me keep calm, I do think of my T soothing or holding my inner child.

Love you kitty, whenever I see your name, kati, it recalls me a kitten 😸. I call you kitty. 😅

It was a man who grabbed Terry Crews...fyi

I really love the metaphors you use. It makes it so much easier to understand. I'm talking about that "dance" you mentioned, stuff like that

40 years and still nothing works

When you mentioned feeling "numb", is that the same as disassociated?

I don’t remember most of my childhood either but I don’t think anything happened I just think it’s because I have aphantasia. I have PTSD from a much more recent event and I rarely get emotional telling the story because I’m not remembering the incident I’m remembering the story I told the first time and retelling the story. In my head there’s a big difference, if I’m at home and I’m actually thinking or remembering the incident I will get instantly upset but I can dissect the story in my head. Problem is I think for treatment to work I need to put them together not keep them seperate.

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To me this is being in a freeze state. Feels depression and adhd ish. I stopped working bc of anxiety i know i do nothing. Maybe i brush my teeth.

Can you feel really uncomfortable around someone if they have abused you physically mentally and emotionally but not sexually? So you have the same feelings around them cos of this abuse

I do so I don't know anything about you so please don't ask me any questions bye

One of my cousins is named Pablo Escobar. He is NOTHING like that drug king prick.

Sean, you don't have drop foot do you? I was diagnosed with this because I kept falling. A neurologist watched me walk and diagnosed me with it. I have it because of diabetic neuropathy but it can be arthritis-related too. My right leg was fitted for a custom in-shoe orthotic and that mostly fixed my drop foot. The orthotic lifts my toes when I take a step. Wow! A world of difference.

I worked as a box office cashier at an "arty" movie theater and we were showing some fairly explicit Gay drama/romance films...as a lesbian I'm not trying to throw my Gay male brothers under the party bus, but... seriously...the seats were verry wet and there was a lot of...uhhh..."fluids" everywhere. Dudes, really?! Although, to be fair, some straight men did things in the theaters too. Blecccch!

I'm with Kati on this A.I. crap. Too much 666 for my liking.

I thought I was depressed; but I have no idea if I was supposed to feel sad. It’s complex, a lot more frustration and blank outs for me than just feeling sad. I felt loss and hope to get some directions. Recently things spiraled for the worse I guess. I used to pack quite a lot and now I just sat and didn’t do anything useful, it could be like this for a whole day.

13:45 groomed as a young teen by a much older married man… did you miss that Kati? Wouldn’t that be what really messed this woman u;, what are the impacts and implications as to what she describes?

I've been thinking the inability to start might be depressxion, in myself. Because I always have ADHD, but I don't always have depression.

#5 I had the same with a friend of my dad when i was younger, my dad is a covert narcissist and the friend was the therapist. That made me afraid to open-up fully because of that, it was too close and the therapy did not go well either and pointing out i was unwilling to accept help. I was afraid it got misused against me (cause i was secretly knowing that something was wrong with my dad and his behaviour) - it only made my feelings about the situation worse, like my freeze response.

I could have easily written the first question here, and your initial answer is not hooking me, but I'm going to keep listening and see if it comes together. I have had severe depression before, and now my problem with starting things seems directly tied to anxiety about getting them correct, not about my depression anymore. I'll keep listening and see if things start to make sense.

My honest answer is going to be "I don't know." I've given some testimony talking about "intimations". I see a lot of intimations. If I chased after intimation I saw they would have to lock me in a cage.

how do you send in questions?

Waaay too long of a lead..almost turned thisxoff.

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You are great Love from Denmark❤

THANK YOU so much for this episode! Ive been really struggling with body memories. I didnt figure out that i had PTSD until i was 41 and i noticed that as i began to work on all the traumas that im aware of that my leg and my shoulder began to hurt with no injury. I also had tactile impressions, one on my arm that, and its so weird, but id touch my arm in that spot and I'd get goosebumps ONLY in that spot. Additionally, if I touch my lower left side of my abdomen it causes goosebumps on my left leg that experiences the pain. The fascinating thing is that I've recognized the beliefs associated with the pains, but i have no episodic/narrative memories to account for those beliefs. Its so difficult to work through because its like my mind shuts down when i try to access anything. Like, i get dizzy, i begin to have a fear response (cold hands, profuse stinky sweating, numb/tingly hands and feet, etc), my mind wanders or i fall asleep... its SO frustrating. But yeah, the body memories that I've experienced have either been the sensation of physical touch, or pain that kinda feels like my body froze in a position and the muscle won't un-flex. Its kinda the worst.

I learn so much here

I’m a clinical psychologist, and I’ve enjoyed listening to your podcasts. I’m always so curious to hear other mental health professionals share their perspectives. I have to say I appreciate your response to the person recording sessions. I agree it is importantly to let the therapist know, and I think in most cases it’s something that could be worked through. However, I would feel pretty violated if a client told me they had been recording our therapy sessions without my knowledge. It happened to one of my colleagues-a client was recording their sessions-and she felt extremely uncomfortable when she found out. Yes confidentiality belongs to the client but we’re human beings too, and we deserve the chance to consent or not to situations like being recorded. I also wouldn’t necessarily agree to the client recording sessions going forward. It would depend on my relationship with them and the purpose I felt recording sessions would serve for them.

I’m just an old man who is nothing but a burden to everyone.

I'm a pretty intelligent person, I can read people pretty well and some have said I'm a Empathic. Yay! the dude with an IQ of 140 up can feel everyone's else's shit, he can tell when the power is going to go out... but he thinks he is a shitbag of a person. He drinks his ass off and does self harm so he doesn't process what's in this, what I would call a long time ago a beautiful mind. Now I'm living day by day, not been able to complete most tasks without crying, everything is piling up on me. I feel like a complete loser and I get comments "stop drinking" and it does my head in as I know I need to reduce or stop it but that's not the issue. No one ever say's to me "why do you drink?". Sorry to vent, just needed to say something.

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As someone with BPD i ask mysellf this alot

😂 well I may have not mastered a new skill but I made 2 humans 😂

Today is my birthday I'm 55 in my family still don't believe me I am a crackhead I'm done with people in life

I haven't heard the podcast I am learning so much I need help

Im doing macro social work, but in all my classes, much of how you approach things is what I've learned. It is very refreshing to see a mental health professional, not make negative comments, or try to make folks feel as if it can all be solved with diet and exercise. Thank you, and thank you for exhibiting that "helper" perspective ❤

No. Therapists get annoyed when we ask them questions THEY can’t answer.

Kati, I just love your honesty and directness. You are so real, down to earth, and such a comfort. You have helped me discover my own flaws, and I appreciate that so much. I can’t tell you how important you have been in my life. You’ve helped me so much more than my actual therapist (I know that means it’s time to find a new therapist.) I am indebted to you for my happy new life and for being with me through my trauma recovery and the loss of my mom. You are amazing! Blessings to you and Sean!!

What’s the opposite of people pleasing? What’s hurting the people that don’t deserve it, and people you can’t help but don’t think you deserve?

Is possible ask to your therapist to talk at the same time that you are doing other thing? Such a handcraft? For being able to talk more fluent

I did not realize how rare crying was for therapist, my social worker when I was a kid started crying and left the room. I kinda freaked out and wanted to calm her down, I thought I hurt her.

My mind always tells me i was sexually assaulted by my grandad and i dont remember it, specially because i dont remember most of my childhood. I do believe i wasnt though, i think it is just me being paranoid, i guess i will never know

I was 31 when i remembered.

People usually forget things that didn't happen its normal

is this channel geared towards children and young kids with eating disorder?

My psychology is trying to make me belive that my father abused me sexualy but i know he didn't. She insists that my brain is still on surviving mode and therfore i can't admit to it. it feels like she could soon convince me to believe it.

Can high functions cptsd 73 yo female benefit more from TALK therapy AND EMDR … my new therapist doesn’t feel all events needed to know to start EMDR ? Thoughts please Thank you Karen in WPB FL

Why are you advising survivors to manage intimacy when the body says No! Why would your partner coach, coerce, pressure or need sexual intimacy when the survivor is still hurting? Please advise your listeners that sexual abuse trauma can't be healed by 'more' sexual intimacy! Survivors need ALOT of spac and time to heal without the selfish demands of a partner 😢

Where I can find intro song?