"Can you be DEPRESSED and NOT REALIZE IT?"
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- čas přidán 29. 07. 2024
- This week licensed therapist Kati Morton explains what body memories are, if pain can be related to trauma, and what the difference is between a flashback and an intrusive thought. She also explains why we may need to stay on medication for a long period of time, and why we may not notice when we are depressed. She also talks about what we can do if we are struggling to stay present in therapy and talk about the hard stuff, and what we can do to heal from codependency. This and so much more in this week’s episode.
Ask Kati Anything ep. 178 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT
Audience questions:
1. How do I know if a certain pain is related to trauma? Could pain be a body memory? What exactly is a body memory and can it also exist when you don't have other memories? I am also wondering about the difference between a flashback and an intrusive thought 0:17
2. I've heard people say that someone can be unhappy or depressed without realizing it and I've seen it happen. I was wondering if that could happen in the reverse? 6:20
3. In one of your videos you mentioned that medication should not be needed forever. How do I know it’s time for me to get off my meds? 13:53
4. I’m currently in therapy to process trauma with my ex. My ex was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive, the latter of which has been even more difficult to grapple with due to my faith and perspective on sex... 19:05
5. I wondered what your thoughts were on gut feelings about people? I usually get a gut feeling about someone pretty much instantly on meeting them whether they are inherently “good or bad” 28:19
6. How do you heal from codependency? 33:22
7. I recently started seeing a therapist and I'm starting to develop a crush on him. Is this normal? Should I say something about it? 38:51
8. Hi kati, I was just wondering if it's possible to have ptsd from a home invasion/ break in? I talk with my therapist about this but she never says you can have ptsd from it, but when I told her that anytime I hear things that sound like they did that morning it freaks me out and makes me feel like it’s happening again she tells me I’m having a flashback. 47:57
Timestamps provided by @Lemonady Thank you! :)
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Thank you so much for answering my question! Its the one about being depressed or happy without realising it. Having a baseline and poor recall for 5 years or so makes sense to me. I have trouble remembering things so I really don't remember much from my childhood. The journal topic seems like a challenge to me but I will try it out. ♥️
I have a journal I think from Walmart called “story of my life” and it’s really helped me with childhood memories I thought I didn’t have anymore ❤
@@emileehoerl98 yes, I have that too!
Old journals are amazing! Same with current..
I was sick for two years once. I was mentally blocking the noticeable symptoms because I was in college and I didn’t have time to even think about taking care of my wellbeing. Everything manifested physically, which is why I thought I was sick, I would be out of breath doing simple tasks, I had extreme heat intolerance and I developed insomnia, sleep apnea and I physically looked pale and ill all the time it ended up almost disabling me. It wasn’t until covid that everything started to get better. The entire world shutting down gave me the time to care for myself guilt free. now with help from my therapist I’m realizing that that was depression and I was in so much denial that I didn’t even realize it.
Hope everyone is doing well today! :)
Hi Kati hope you are well. Just to let you know your timestamps are out of sync with the questions 😊
Timestamps!
Q1 - 0:17
Q2 - 6:20
Q3 - 13:53
Q4 - 19:05
Q5 - 28:19
Q6 - 33:21
Q7 - 38:51
Q8 - 47:54
Thank you for the time stamps
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Q1 0:17
Q2 6:22
Q3 13:54
Q4 19:06
Q5 28:20
Q6 33:21
Q7 38:52
Q8 47:55
I almost always never realise it until it gets really bad! I realise retrospectively it when I get better how badly I was doing.
I was depressed for many years without realizing it.
English is not my first language, but I feel like those questions are often written in a rather refined and polite way. At least compared to what one usually reads in comment sections.
fun fact. When i went through some trauma and i was very hypervigilant about everyone around me, i discovered things about people that i never noticed before. Sure the hypervigilance made me react wierd and excessively, but also gave me extra glasses to see people through. I stopped overreacting when i embraced my new xray vision. Now i see things and i smile. I know what to do with the new info!
your oidcast is amazing and the way you talk about things its really kinda and sweet.
thank you for your work.
I am currently in IOP, and I'm a working adult. FMLA is a godsend. I just tell my work when I need to go, and I go. I had the ability to use short term disability for 65% of my pay, but I use PTO so I get paid my full amount. For the mom who is thinking of doing IOP, girl I HIGHLY RECOMMEND it! It's changed my life. I have a hard time sharing, but just being there and listening has been huge and I've only had 5 sessions so far.
It's so worth the time put in. ❤
My previous therapist always said gut feelings or sensing things being an HSP were always wrong. I always disagreed, then I tried to prove it by telling her what I had sensed from her. She accused me of getting that information unethically and breaking boundaries. I never do that, I have a very high respect for other peoples privacy, not to mention I didn't want to know the things I sensed from her.
huh thats a weird therapist
@@a.s.6556 And just a very close minded (I.e. "bad" one.)
@@helenaquin1797 the weird thing is she is a respected and experienced trauma specialist and psychologist.
This is for everyone who needs this right now. 🙏
The first prayer is for God to grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference, living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; taking this world as it is and not as I would have it; trusting that you will make all things right if I surrender to your will; so that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with you forever in the next. Amen. ❤️
The second prayer is O God and heavenly father, grant to us the serenity of mind to accept that which cannot be changed; courage to change that which can be changed, and wisdom to know the one from the other, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. ❤️
I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU! MAY, GOD BLESS YOU, ALWAYS! ❤
Tina Turner before her death had a lot to say and one of the last things was about health. She wanted to make others aware the fact, ''kidneys fail without pain.'' - I took it way off the focus of my kidneys because mental heath and our brains are the same." Can you be depressed and not realize it? We might be failing and not even know it. We must take care of ourselves because everyone else is busy doing the same thing for themselves and what they're doing could be to help you in the future but you have to keep moving and let the future happen. PS that breathing thing which happens to me naturally or instinctually when I cry - totally interesting!
Hi Kati, what are the signs that your therapist is good and also that you are in a productuve therapeutic relationship with him/her?
Follow-up to question 1: Can't trauma cause chronic pain though, not just specific stimuli in the day? My headache medicine specialist (which is a hyperspecialized subspecialty of neurology) says migraine disease can become more chronic because of trauma and improves with trauma recovery (even though migraine isn't caused by trauma--genetics cause it, it can become more chronic or intense or the person's migraine genes can switch on because of trauma).
You’re the best-we are feeling!
Hi Katie I have a lot of things going on in my life and I feel like I’m so overwhelmed and I always put other people and things for others before me and I never get what I need done and now it’s becoming to much for me to accomplish and I feel too overwhelmed to even start
I am not sure what happened but question number 7 was not the beginning of my question. No judgement but it wasn’t supposed to begin with having a crush…I don’t have a crush on my therapist. Seems like 2 questions were mixed together
In my experience, IOP is only 3-4 hours a day. PHP is a full day. I guess it depends where you are.
Family Medical Leave Act is paid in California?! FMLA is ~420 hours/ year, so it's useful for full days off as well, but for me it's without pay. 46:14
When I was a kid my mother would always tell me that I will never do this ( successful) or that , or she would say you will never succeed.
I feel
There actually are pills that can help with the physiological symptoms of anxiety around talking about things. Beta blockers can be super helpful. Maybe talk to your doctor about that as an option for when you are feeling really dysregulated?
Hello… I recently have tried to adjust to a new ant-depressant. I always research the long term effects from whichever one I’m on. I went down that rabbit hole and found they change that part of your brain to make it effective. So your brain making these changes takes awhile and makes you sick among other things. Then when you go off that part of your brain has to change itself back. Ugh..
Question: Hey Katie, hope you're doing well , I enjoy your podcast very much :) I have a question. I seem to have a fear of blushing, and because of that it happens all the time. I have it since high school and I notice it happens only with men, not with women. It's like my mind just randomly picks a person and then I panick a bit whenever this person walks by or we have eye contact. The person in question isn't doing anything wrong or inappropriate. I feel like I am the inappropriate one because my blushing is making them uncomfortable. I don't know what to do about it, and I'm too embarresed to talk about it. Maybe others can relate?
OMG I feel that same way ❤✌️🍀
I am one who rides at a 4 to 5 so much that its probably actually a 6. I know what happiness is and I get depressed that I dont have more of it in my life.
Is there an audio version of this you tube video?
😢I know this is older but I need help and Idk but here. I hear a loud boom when I wake up. I don"t know what to do?
Is it still considered a flash back if I don't visualise it but feel sensations instead but the memory keeps popping up in my mind I was assaulted a few years back and I don't see it but I can't stop thinking about it like a story being told over n over in my head and sometimes when that happens the parts of my body that get hurt feel warm what is this and how can I make it go away
I WOULD BE like floating on a cloud!
I didnt think I was depressed, and I was cutting myself. Fully functional, and definitely not depressed.
I definitely struggle to notice Im depressed when im still functional in terms of like day to day tasks Then i go to the dr or therapist and theyre like "how have you been eating/sleeping etc? And about thought patterns and im like 😮.
You feel exactly how I feel about the whole situation right now. Need help, but how to do this 33:41
Where did you get that shirt from? :D
I love that shirt too! Lol.
l*thium made me more irritated 😩
Would that medication work for potential PMDD?
Is this live chat 😢
Soo one of the Q is “I’ve heard ppl say you can be unhappy or depressed without realising it. Can this happen in the reverse?” What do they mean by “can this happen in the reverse” that’s the bit that’s confused me
Hello, I am the person who asked the question. I meant that if you can be depressed without realising it can you also be happy without realising it.
I get ALOT of intrusive thoughts
intrusive thoughts are violent in nature and sexual because its the voice of the id dur