I always find myself trying to validate or at times use my disorder as an excuse. But I think maybe I want understanding and sometimes accommodations - especially for my OCD.
I want to thank you Kati, 11 days short of my 70th birthday I am back mentally to where I was at the age of 32. You most definitely played a part in my recovery, and from my perspective you need to hear of great outcomes that are the result of your valiant efforts on behalf of so many. Take Care Kati.
For the night shift person who feels like they are missing out, something that might help is joining an online community, such as a virtual coworking group that allows you to make international friends who might be up to video chat with over your night on Zoom or Discord.
Thank you so much for your response about sleep! One unique point was about melatonin...I take 2-3 mgs a night alongside ambien....maybe that is something I should stop doing and find a replacement, as that is food for thought! Great advice on sleep hygeine...will take that into account! Thanks for all you do.
Some people use their ED as a sort of passive suicide. I was obsessed with having a lethal BMI. I’m glad I stopped looking at that content. The sickness was clinging on hard. I wanted to have one foot in, one foot out so I could have the option to disappear with little effort. I hope anyone out there who experiences anything like this, will find help. Check your local resources and try try try so hard, you deserve to have a life. Please give yourself a chance. You’re not alone.
Sleep is so important. We have this idea that we can go without sleep, but that taxes the body and mind eventually. So important to get good rest. Before bed I try to journal and reading books like 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels or the Tao Te Ching, just to get my mind still.
Wow the first bit, thank you i needed to hear this! I am going for a diagnosis for adhd this month and I have been feeling like i am making it all up, that i am not sick enough, that how can i not have realised something was wrong before.
I think the body work is more the "embodiment work". My therapist explained to me that somatic therapy is talking about your topics/trauma and we can talk about how it feels in your body. When I explained my understanding to bring attention to feeling what is happening in the body and moving through the experience, I thought that was more embodiment work. My therapist wasn't aware of this work. I think together we could do the 2 things.
I am constantly doing research on and questioning all of my diagnoses. I always wonder what is wrong with me and feel that I am to.messed up for others, so I push people away. I want to let people in and think I would like to find a partner...but I feel like I am constantly In a freeze state, and feel like I am immovable.
What should we do if we're obsessing over a self-diagnosis and brought it up to a psychiatrist who was dismissive. That pretty much sums up what I went through but I will explain a little bit further. I didn't feel like me my psychiatrists were connecting but I was trying to give it a fair shot. We end up having the same conversation for 7 months in a row and on the 8th month I finally got up enough courage to discuss possibly in a diagnosis outside of anxiety and depression. I know I have a lot more symptoms and they are pretty severe I also don't really talk about with either psychiatrist or psychologist about my past even though I'm pretty open about it. I'm the type of person that needs to get a feel for people and prefers to be asked questions rather than devouge information. The reason for me asking is I started symptom checking since I wasn't feeling like I was having the right conversations and then know what terminology to ask him about. I didn't fully understand what BPD was when I did bring it up but I did keep coming back to it in my research. When she dismissed me and didn't really explain what BPD was or have an actual conversation about my concerns I ended up stop seeing this psychiatrist. After a few months of research I have a better understanding and I made a list of the criteria with an honest reflection of how each one applies to me through various experiences. I have an upcoming intake with a psychiatrist and I'm not sure how to approach them about this topic without feeling dismissed again. I understand it the best I can but not with the level of education they have. I fear being dismissed again or treated like I don't know what I'm talking about or because it's technically a self-diagnosis being told that they're not going to give it to me at all. I've had five psychologists in the last 4 years and I don't feel like any of them really took the time to get to know me like you talking about one of your earlier videos about the certain questions that you asked to get to know people in the first couple appointments. Not only do I feel like this never happened I feel like we had the same conversations repeatedly month after month and I just don't know how to advocate for myself or feel heard.
Thanks for your work! I also do a lot of research concerning my SPD, because I try to understand it and where it comes from. And maybe the research can improve my situation a little bit...
Why you obsess over your diagnosis? Because you choose to make it your whole identity, instead of just letting it explain some of your personal traits. You aren’t ADHD, you HAVE it.
Having memory issues and it’s weird because even writing things on the calendar my brain still does it own thing. I can remember a stranger’s mom’s name from a week ago, but I’ve screwed up two therapy appointments and got confused about the time and missed them. It wasn’t intentional I was excited to go and wanting actually needing it. My brain sucks. Why can’t I remember my appointments and not things that aren’t relevant to my own life? I don’t get it. It probably makes me seem like some kind of fraud at times. Like I’m f*cking trying so hard and doing my best and it looks like I’m full of shit. I hope my partner leaves me. I’m not worthy of him or anything or anyone.
I'm being so called out in the bed part, I scroll through my phone while I pet my cat. Working on changing the first one, but let's see how long does it take me to make the latter happen 😅
I Am 14 Years Old Boy And I Have ODD, ASD, ADHD, SAD, OCD, Conduct Disorder, And I Have 0 Friends And I Am Depressed And I Am A Perfectionist Please Help.
What happens if taking melatonin is needed or prescribed to help someone sleep??? I have to take it because otherwise, I won't sleep or I will only at 10 minutes of sleep.
Having another person in bed is worse than having a cat curled up sleeping next to me. Also I don't get why sex is "allowed" when no other activities are.
S.O.S I went to first therapy session and it seemed like a great dude and all except I felt like a therapist seeing a client during the last hour of a 45-minute turned 2-hour session. I know that sounds like a jerk thing to say but I don't mean it in a malicious way. I enjoyed the conversation and maybe helped the dude. But wtf do I do with this?
@chrisslate1506 - It sounds to me, like you're saying that you experienced a _'role-reversal'_ - It could be, just as you perceived it, or he was letting you lead, to more accurately, understand you, let you steer, your process, style, etc... That it went 1-hour, 15-minutes over the allotted time... Something worthwhile, and nothing further scheduled, may be why that time was allowed... It's not necessarily a _'narcissistic' "jerk",_ to feel like you were the _'alpha',_ or leading that session, particularly if, you didn't have the expectation, or belief, that you _'should'_ be running that session; and being the first session, perhaps he was letting you, interview him, to see if you, and he, were compatible, for the future goals, of helping you... maybe, a little bit of all those things... They, are _'people' (humans), too_ - Most often, the biggest issues, that I would hear about client, therapist relations, gone wrong, was the rigid authoritarian positions of those therapists, not relating, or being relatable... Give it another session, or few - bring it up with him, if it hasn't changed (and, he's not charging you more than the scheduled 45-minutes, if not otherwise prearranged). I think, you're good for now! Cheers-
@@markaoslo5653 When it comes to this counselor I don't believe the gut was bright enough to use those type of tactics. I can't speak for all but why would we narcissists need to run some sort of therapy session? We keep our egos scratched by controlling everything else ;-) On the contrary, I enjoyed conversation with him and he seemed like a good guy. I have also heard nothing but positive experiences from clients who have/are receiving his services. So he obviously knows his craft. There are many layers to it. But ultimately I had zero vibes that I could ever see myself talking to this dude about some of the things I need/want to talk about. Things like extreme maladaptive daydreaming, porn addiction, masturbation addiction, and bi-curious acts, some things from childhood (which I have never talked about) that m🎉ay relate to things.😢
I always find myself trying to validate or at times use my disorder as an excuse. But I think maybe I want understanding and sometimes accommodations - especially for my OCD.
I want to thank you Kati, 11 days short of my 70th birthday I am back mentally to where I was at the age of 32. You most definitely played a part in my recovery, and from my perspective you need to hear of great outcomes that are the result of your valiant efforts on behalf of so many. Take Care Kati.
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You're the best! Thank you for always helping :)
@@Katimorton Thank you, Kati🤗
Much thanks ❤
For the night shift person who feels like they are missing out, something that might help is joining an online community, such as a virtual coworking group that allows you to make international friends who might be up to video chat with over your night on Zoom or Discord.
Thank you so much for your response about sleep! One unique point was about melatonin...I take 2-3 mgs a night alongside ambien....maybe that is something I should stop doing and find a replacement, as that is food for thought! Great advice on sleep hygeine...will take that into account! Thanks for all you do.
Some people use their ED as a sort of passive suicide. I was obsessed with having a lethal BMI. I’m glad I stopped looking at that content. The sickness was clinging on hard. I wanted to have one foot in, one foot out so I could have the option to disappear with little effort. I hope anyone out there who experiences anything like this, will find help. Check your local resources and try try try so hard, you deserve to have a life. Please give yourself a chance. You’re not alone.
Sleep is so important. We have this idea that we can go without sleep, but that taxes the body and mind eventually. So important to get good rest. Before bed I try to journal and reading books like 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels or the Tao Te Ching, just to get my mind still.
Wow the first bit, thank you i needed to hear this! I am going for a diagnosis for adhd this month and I have been feeling like i am making it all up, that i am not sick enough, that how can i not have realised something was wrong before.
I think the body work is more the "embodiment work".
My therapist explained to me that somatic therapy is talking about your topics/trauma and we can talk about how it feels in your body.
When I explained my understanding to bring attention to feeling what is happening in the body and moving through the experience, I thought that was more embodiment work. My therapist wasn't aware of this work.
I think together we could do the 2 things.
I am constantly doing research on and questioning all of my diagnoses. I always wonder what is wrong with me and feel that I am to.messed up for others, so I push people away. I want to let people in and think I would like to find a partner...but I feel like I am constantly In a freeze state, and feel like I am immovable.
16:05 "People do shit in bed." HAHAHA! I died laughing because that came with an interesting visual.
It is Dr. Matthew Walker, "Why we sleep" Neuropsychology 😁😁😁
Re: question 5 - Chi gong is also helpful to move energy and unblock meridians. ❤
Also Embodiment Unlimited are great for somatic work
What should we do if we're obsessing over a self-diagnosis and brought it up to a psychiatrist who was dismissive.
That pretty much sums up what I went through but I will explain a little bit further. I didn't feel like me my psychiatrists were connecting but I was trying to give it a fair shot. We end up having the same conversation for 7 months in a row and on the 8th month I finally got up enough courage to discuss possibly in a diagnosis outside of anxiety and depression. I know I have a lot more symptoms and they are pretty severe I also don't really talk about with either psychiatrist or psychologist about my past even though I'm pretty open about it. I'm the type of person that needs to get a feel for people and prefers to be asked questions rather than devouge information.
The reason for me asking is I started symptom checking since I wasn't feeling like I was having the right conversations and then know what terminology to ask him about. I didn't fully understand what BPD was when I did bring it up but I did keep coming back to it in my research.
When she dismissed me and didn't really explain what BPD was or have an actual conversation about my concerns I ended up stop seeing this psychiatrist. After a few months of research I have a better understanding and I made a list of the criteria with an honest reflection of how each one applies to me through various experiences. I have an upcoming intake with a psychiatrist and I'm not sure how to approach them about this topic without feeling dismissed again. I understand it the best I can but not with the level of education they have. I fear being dismissed again or treated like I don't know what I'm talking about or because it's technically a self-diagnosis being told that they're not going to give it to me at all. I've had five psychologists in the last 4 years and I don't feel like any of them really took the time to get to know me like you talking about one of your earlier videos about the certain questions that you asked to get to know people in the first couple appointments. Not only do I feel like this never happened I feel like we had the same conversations repeatedly month after month and I just don't know how to advocate for myself or feel heard.
Thank you, Kati! You explain everything so well and this was really helpful. Much love ❤❤
Thank you so much for making these helpful videos Kati ❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for your work!
I also do a lot of research concerning my SPD, because I try to understand it and where it comes from. And maybe the research can improve my situation a little bit...
Why you obsess over your diagnosis? Because you choose to make it your whole identity, instead of just letting it explain some of your personal traits. You aren’t ADHD, you HAVE it.
Having memory issues and it’s weird because even writing things on the calendar my brain still does it own thing. I can remember a stranger’s mom’s name from a week ago, but I’ve screwed up two therapy appointments and got confused about the time and missed them. It wasn’t intentional I was excited to go and wanting actually needing it. My brain sucks. Why can’t I remember my appointments and not things that aren’t relevant to my own life? I don’t get it. It probably makes me seem like some kind of fraud at times. Like I’m f*cking trying so hard and doing my best and it looks like I’m full of shit. I hope my partner leaves me. I’m not worthy of him or anything or anyone.
I'm being so called out in the bed part, I scroll through my phone while I pet my cat. Working on changing the first one, but let's see how long does it take me to make the latter happen 😅
Can u plz talk about body language in therapy
there's research that says have a pet in bed helps people sleep by coregulating with them to sleep.
oooh perfect timing, Been on a google spree lately. Whats my problem! I need the answers!
I Am 14 Years Old Boy And I Have ODD, ASD, ADHD, SAD, OCD, Conduct Disorder, And I Have 0 Friends And I Am Depressed And I Am A Perfectionist Please Help.
Do you get professional help?
Where is the opening song? Where is OTDM?
What happens if taking melatonin is needed or prescribed to help someone sleep??? I have to take it because otherwise, I won't sleep or I will only at 10 minutes of sleep.
Try Valerian Root instead. Taking Melatonin can negatively impact your female reproductive hormones and can later on impact fertility.
God bless you
Looking for time stamps
Having another person in bed is worse than having a cat curled up sleeping next to me. Also I don't get why sex is "allowed" when no other activities are.
S.O.S
I went to first therapy session and it seemed like a great dude and all except I felt like a therapist seeing a client during the last hour of a 45-minute turned 2-hour session. I know that sounds like a jerk thing to say but I don't mean it in a malicious way. I enjoyed the conversation and maybe helped the dude. But wtf do I do with this?
Doesn't sound like a jerk thing to say to me. You deserve to have a space just for your concerns and problems.
@chrisslate1506 - It sounds to me, like you're saying that you experienced a _'role-reversal'_ - It could be, just as you perceived it, or he was letting you lead, to more accurately, understand you, let you steer, your process, style, etc... That it went 1-hour, 15-minutes over the allotted time... Something worthwhile, and nothing further scheduled, may be why that time was allowed... It's not necessarily a _'narcissistic' "jerk",_ to feel like you were the _'alpha',_ or leading that session, particularly if, you didn't have the expectation, or belief, that you _'should'_ be running that session; and being the first session, perhaps he was letting you, interview him, to see if you, and he, were compatible, for the future goals, of helping you... maybe, a little bit of all those things... They, are _'people' (humans), too_ - Most often, the biggest issues, that I would hear about client, therapist relations, gone wrong, was the rigid authoritarian positions of those therapists, not relating, or being relatable... Give it another session, or few - bring it up with him, if it hasn't changed (and, he's not charging you more than the scheduled 45-minutes, if not otherwise prearranged). I think, you're good for now! Cheers-
@@markaoslo5653 When it comes to this counselor I don't believe the gut was bright enough to use those type of tactics. I can't speak for all but why would we narcissists need to run some sort of therapy session? We keep our egos scratched by controlling everything else ;-) On the contrary, I enjoyed conversation with him and he seemed like a good guy. I have also heard nothing but positive experiences from clients who have/are receiving his services. So he obviously knows his craft.
There are many layers to it. But ultimately I had zero vibes that I could ever see myself talking to this dude about some of the things I need/want to talk about. Things like extreme maladaptive daydreaming, porn addiction, masturbation addiction, and bi-curious acts, some things from childhood (which I have never talked about) that m🎉ay relate to things.😢
I had autism
its ok to accept that your a trauma victim but do something about it - do something to make yourself feel better tomorrow - not just for a moment.
Little sad that episodes arw getting gshorter. I guess begfers can't be choosers. Getting free advice yay.
KATI I WISH YOU WERE MY THERAPIST.
Stop thinking the same thought over an over thats harmful. *STOP IT*
Listen to the notes in music you like.
yea but when I am done with the music notes, I just go back to the "comforting" negative thoughts/beliefs