people hate people like us , we are what they want to be , but they think you get there by destroying 'it' in other people . I listen very carefully to conversations now and if someone . including family, constantly disagrees and puts me down i expunge them from my life.
The older I get the more I openly display myself and I'm becoming frighteningly unapologetic about the person I am. Im so intrinsically me I simply cannot deny it any longer. The more it happens and the more I open up the happier I become. Kindred spirit
Yay for you Daniel!! You are so brave for putting your life out there and you’ve helped so many people in the process (myself included) to understand and embrace deeper parts of themselves by relating to your experiences
I suspect, even hope, that some number of "them" that you knew as a child, also took the road less traveled, also opened up to their truths. The absence of them on the web is the absence of information. So instead of assuming that they ALL fell in line or drank the KoolAid, let's imagine some of them doing what the angels of their better nature inspired them to do...
For a long time, my nParents made me feel like I wasn’t successful enough for love and respect... then I finally realized I was mistaken, they didn’t want me to succeed in the first place ... it made them jealous and insecure
@@enjoy.your.socks_AF yes, I eventually had to cut the dead weight after years of toxicity and back stabs. We are worth it and life is too short trying to carry people who don’t want to improve and just want to hold us down
@@enjoy.your.socks_AF Thank you my friend!… and I’m so proud of you as well for doing what had to be done! It could of easily been some of the hardest things we’ve had to do … but only the strong survive and thrive
@@enjoy.your.socks_AF yes and it even goes beyond sloth to coveting thy neighbors and jealousy .. they constantly compare themselves to others and if they feel outdone in any area they’ll try to sabotage and backstab in an attempt to pull that person down to their level.. just like crabs in a bucket
Certainly many of your childhood peers admire your courage for speaking out. Many of them suffered emotional abuse that has harmed them to this day. But they have not been public about it.
You have spoken into so many lives and given us permission (through your own sharing) to see things truthfully. You were the very first person I came across, who opened my eyes to there being possibility. Never underestimate how many people's lifes your message has positively impacted. Thank you for being courageous and for not settling for the blindness in which most people live.
Occasionally I run into old class-mates from primary school as well and I can definitely relate to finding myself having unexpected reactions when that happens. In my case I actually flinched at an old bully and I would virtually never flinch at somebody trying to intimidate me nowadays under normal circumstances. At any rate you should certainly be proud of your work, and you are right - it helps others.
I appreciate your voice. The capacity to be closer to feeling and spirit is important now and forever. It is the "soul" of living that sustains us and allows us to play and create with others.
I have a couple reactions to this... First is that I relate to feeling embarrassed by judgy voices in my head from childhood. It's almost like a time warp--you feel like you are back there again, and thinking "Oh my God, what are people saying about my CZcams channel?" And it's true that shame and emotional repression perpetuate themselves, so sharing your emotions is kind of an antidote, an alternative, and this kind of honesty is one of the best uses of CZcams. At the same time, I wonder if you are doing a little bit of judging yourself. As you've said, this kind of healing journey is really, really hard. There are so many paths that people are trying in pursuit of happiness. Some of the people that you grew up with may share the same thought that you had, that there must be more to life--but they can't find the way out. That said, I can also relate to the strong feeling of sticking out and feeling different--and in that circumstance, daring to say "I don't want to live your life! I have to be myself so deal with it!" is very brave. You decided to look out for your own happiness, and that made all the difference.
to be different is to be brave, and you are that Daniel. thank you for speaking truth into a world that does not want to listen. its a big thing you are doing - immensely happy and grateful that you are doing it
You are a sweet being. Sincerely. What a nice human you are. I think you live almost entirely in the heart realm. Many don't. It was always a matter of you finding your proper peer group. I love you.
You have every right to be proud! I’m proud of you for being conscious and for all of your efforts. I do not however believe that you have everything all figured out from anyone else’s perspective. To only have one ☝️ singular human experience (as is typical right), to call your classmates failures?.. I’m not proud for that part. I can say that EVERYONE gets outside views confused. Even with internet and ALL the info that we can gather from, in our singular human point of view, we cannot possibly figure it all out, (not even with the internet). That’s not our job anyway. Figuring out Our Own place in the world and doing the best we can there.. that’s our job. You’re placing yourself pretty high above others here it seems like and that’s sort of a not so kind nor appropriate thing to be doing. This isn’t a competition. I gather from your own teachings on CZcams that that’s not what you truly hold as a genuine true helpful life experience. :/ You do have every right to be proud. Don’t lose faith in yourself now. Don’t feel judged. The only comparison that matters is the one that’s YoU yourself are doing, and comparison is a little piece of the root of evil that steals one’s joy right?! Stop that. And keep pressing on trying to change the world one ☝️ starfish at a time! Amen 🙏
Oh that spark! the spark society / family.. almost succeeds in putting out, i know so well. I've a feeling it may end up getting even worse before it gets better and folks heal and stop the generational traumas.
I am grateful sir that you are posting this kind of videos. Thank you so much for validating that it's okay to be different. I am trying to reparent myself and loving myself. My parents are labelling me hurtful words and continue to put me down that's why I am totally disconnecting them in my life.
Their lives are already lived. Its the same thing a thousand times with just slight iterations in preference and outcome. People like you truly live life, you are a true original existence, and I am proud to say I am very much like you daniel. You dont get to have what we have unless you have the courage to take a big gulp from the cup of life or bite off more than you can chew sometimes. Many people dont have the courage, the desire, or what i think is worst of all, the curiosity and wonder that comes from seeing the beauty in life to live the way you do. They will be happy with their existence, but only because they weren't called to what we were. For people like us who were called, to live like that would be a death sentence and would feel far worse than any shame you might incur along the way of living a truly authentic full and meaningful life. Keep being you daniel I relate. I enjoy your videos keep up the good work
Being authentic doesn't mean one should share such private information with the world. People usually protect their privacy against misuse, being spied upon, being bullied and other potential harmful actions by others. Maybe this is something to consider. P.S. In 95% of the cases I agree with your videos :-) Grz from The Netherlands
actually I think hes played a really important role, because not enough people talk about some of the issues he has discussed, so many men will be thinking they are alone or not knowing what is ''wrong'' with them, in sharing his personal account it gives a better understanding of the issue and many will be able to relate to it and then hopefully now be able to do something about it. I had suspiscions of a friend doing this to her teen son but had never heard of what the issue was before, Daniels videos really explained it. He is very brave and wise and we wouldn't know this without him having shared all the things he has shared.
Daniel you being different is an encouragement for us to be ourselfs too! your passion and light of counsciousness is a gift. You have sooo much courage to be so vulnerable with us. If no one from your old life is proud of you they are blind. You are so so valid to be proud of who you have become and you are a role model for me! You help me realize how important grieving is. I shared your videos in FB groups were people are trauma sensitive and search for healing. They love your content. You, Jeff Brown and Teal Swan are my favorite cause you look at the trauma
I understand what it's like to have a father that hated you. I'm so sorry you went through that. My parents were extremely abusive and I'm trying to finish a book about it and how it affected my life. I want to become a CZcamsr like you and try to help people. It's very scary and I want you to know just how Brave you are in my eyes. I'm scared to death to speak my truth. Scared because it was so painful and hideous I'm scared to death of being humiliated all over again. But I have a book I'm about to finish explaining it all and I want to become a CZcamsr to try to help people too, just like you. Please understand you're doing more than you think in trying to help people. Just being vulnerable and honest helps. You're inspiring me to finish my book and get out there and help people because I feel I have a lot to give. We're not mentally ill, at least most people in my opinion, we're traumatized. This world is traumatizing and we don't do anything practical about it. A broken mental health system, and a traumatizing political system, causes mental illness and no one sees it. At least no one I talked to in the profession of Mental Health. Keep up the good work.
Always good to be in touch with yourself and not be defined by who you think others are or what they may think. Self acceptance. Maybe some have gone through a self awakening process as well. Btw - this is debra lynn. Saw this title on a letter and thought it was funny. Yes, I do watch all your videos. Thank you.
Thank you for this, Daniel. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. It reminds me of that Jim Morrison quote: “The most loving parents and relatives commit murder with smiles on their faces. They force us to destroy the person we really are: a subtle kind of murder.” Consciously, I don’t want to be like everyone else but sometimes I do find myself feeling the same embarrassment and wishing I could just “fit in”. It just gets tired and old constantly being the outcast, being teased and being left out. During some phases of my life I did try to at least appear somewhat normal- but it never worked and it always crushed my spirit. The loneliness of being different is the worst thing about it for me, if I had a tribe of people who were similar and we could go through the experiences together then it wouldn’t be so bad. It just gets traumatising constantly going through it alone. The values and ideals of this society aren’t mine, and I remind myself of that everyday. If that means I have to be a lonely outcast on the fringes of society then so be it... at least my soul will be intact, and at least I will have lived an honest life.
Honestly would love to have a friend like you, I relate to a lot of how you think and feel and it makes me feel more sane watching your videos… it makes me feel less alone
Daniel you are a gem. I will keep coming back to your videos like this one and all others. Like the butterfly one. All of them. Years ago I saw your channel videos but I wasn't ready. I'm 38 now. And now I'm ready for this. I wasn't then. And I love how you articulate emotions so well. Thank you so much for dedicating your life to this. You have so much knowledge and wisdom. But in a way, you make me see the good qualities of myself and the ugly qualities of our screwed up world and I had such an unhealthy mind. I needed your channel so much at this point in my life to fully appreciate what you're saying.
Thank you for being you! Your story really impacts and inspires me and many others- don't stop. You're a breath of fresh air. There needs to be more good like you in the world. You inspire me to become a counselling psychologist in the future :)
My family,ex and the mental healthcare providers they knew who didn't inform me of the conflict of interest tried to hurt me by weaponising what I had confided in them..They're still harassing me online and IRL. My family and ex couldn't handle seeing me trying to be a better person
Omg Daniel, we have so many similar thoughts and ways of thinking! You are so inspiring with your way of living and being your authentic self in the world!
It’s applicable to other people indeed! I came from a dysfunctional family and I can feel your pain because I can see my pain through your experiences. We have value! and every bit of this pain will be used for the healing of others! Keep doing your good work!
Another great post that I can relate to it! Yes, I have those moments of insecurities too, and then I remember that everyone is obsessed with themselves, and I am not that important
Like you said, if they avoided you back then, it probably would still be so. Being open with the world on this subject has meant so much to many listeners like myself. And how could you get your message out if you're not supposed to post it here? It would be like being a musician, and not being allowed to ever get onto a stage. It just doesn't work that way.
I think this is worse if one is an only child. Siblings help a lot with this kind of thing. In earlier times the family was larger, there were also cousins close by. People were just in general better supported if for nothing else by the fact that you were related to more people and it is the lack of that support which has created both tormenters and victims.
I was bullied a bit in childhood, probably for being "different." And I did some bullying of kids who were "different," as well. I regret the bullying that I enacted onto others, but I don't really lament the bullying that was done to me (much). There were times when I felt alienated or rejected during childhood, and while some of those times were not warranted, I think a number of them were probably at least partially deserved on my part. Kids can be cruel, but cruelty isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes the cruel act is the merciful act which causes the least suffering in the long term. I was a weird kid because I had problems in my life which got in the way of my social development. In a way I think I needed some of the cruel social corrections which my peers provided me. I needed to be in peril of ostracism to recognize the consequences of being socially inept. As an emotionally mature adult decades later I feel like I can appreciate the give and take, the oft unrecognized blessings which came along with childhood tribulations. And I also think that some of my bullies, many of whom ended up being my friends eventually, recognized that I could weather the storm of boyish ritualized social abuse without flipping my lid, and liked me better for it. Again, it sounds cruel, but I had the same experience with some of the kids whom I had treated badly at times as well. It's a complicated dynamic but I do think that kids gain something from "emotional horseplay" and trespassing (within limits) on each others emotional boundaries.
I used to make little videos about my life, about what I thought about things, and some response to others' videos, then . . . the oppression of big brother started to silence me. Oh, I thought, there's something like a trap going on here, and that froze me. I've taken a long look, a series of long looks, at the internet since then. I love it but this could be the end of humanity as we know it, I don't know yet and probably never will, "for sure." Has life always been this way, so unknown, what we are doing? Probably it has, so I've got to let go and make some helpful contributions. I can't be like Daniel, who is doing good in the wide world, but I can be good to those around me. To make more CZcams videos is not a plan of mine, as they would be banned, I suppose. I'm too anti-authoritarian when it comes to mandatory medicine, for example.
I could write a book about being different, I’m betting; first off, my surrogate name is Brynn Stoll. I’m the girl named Bryan, but it’s pronounced Brin. And in the First Grade, Mrs. Brown assigned that we write 144 words about the meaning of our name and then stand in front of the class, to present it. So, I remember I stood in front of the class with my sheet of paper **literally** covering my face 📄 completely. And I think the first thing I said was that I hate that my name is weird and I wish it was something normal, like Sarah or Michelle; although, the meaning of my name is pretty bad-ass (Brynn is the name of the hill that the Gaelic and Scots **fought** **a** **war** on) but, I couldn’t appreciate it then, because I wanted to be a graceful, ballerina. And I’d been bullied for being fat since Kindergarten so I actually, decided to join the Drama course and start acting to rid myself of the shyness 🙈 and it worked because I’d taught myself to distance myself from everyone **and** **say** **my** **lines**; don’t focus on “them” focusing on me, just spit out your lines. Just. Focus 🧘♀️ edit: or just play pretend, is probably more accurate, wording 🧚🏻♀️ And the name I chose is inspired by the human rights activist, Sojourner Truth was born a slave in New York, and named Isabella Baumfree. She’s most famous for her speech in Ohio, 1851, Ain’t I a Woman: czcams.com/video/Ry_i8w2rdQY/video.html But my favorite aspect of her life, was how she escaped her Master after he’d failed to honor the promise to free her and uphold the New York anti-slavery Law of 1827. And she retorted to her, former, Master, “I did not run away. I walked away, by broad daylight.” Her life reminds me of the quote: Master the rules, so you can break them like an Artist.
Mr. Mackler, I was wondering if you could help me understand my situation. I am a young, large man. My friends tend to think of me as a gentle giant. I never yell and rarely get angry. I have an analytical mind and usually reason through my problems to find solutions instead of getting angry. But a couple days ago I was assaulted by a man roughly 1/3 of my size through the open window of my car while I was parked in a shady spot in front of his neighbors house while waiting to pick up my wife in a few minutes who was babysitting for her brother. It was the first time I had met the assailant. I had been parking there consistently for several months when picking up my wife. He punched my glasses off of my face, hit me idk how many times in the face and arm as I tried to block and reason with him. When I realized he wasn't going to calm down I tried to roll up my window and drive away. he punched through my window, giving me multiple lacerations on my arm. After I got away I called the cops and he was arrested for breaking his parole and charged with assault and vandalism. Idk yet how long he'll be locked up. I'm recovering well and fixing my window was not a big deal. What I don't understand is what is going on inside my mind. Most of my life I have been a pacifist. But this assault I did not see coming, and he was so unreasonable. I have been having so many horrible thoughts the past few days. I know that if I were to fight him back he would have been dead or hospitalized. Despite his best efforts he failed to break my nose or even bruise my face or arm. The only thing that hurt me was the broken window and my glasses. I have had thoughts and dreams about hurting him and his family in so many ways from arson, to tools and weapons, to even strangling the life out of him with my own bare hands. Is this normal? And how do I get past this without hurting anyone?
You can't let the mind give af about 'keeping up with the Joneses'; my favorite quote from Can't Hurt Me, by David Goggins is,"Fuck people." 👌 David Goggins was and is still dealing with his life with, unnecessary, responses; unnecessarily, dissociative, yet impressive still. But he also claims in his book that everyone has their own "mathematical formula" so, finishing a marathon on a broken shin 🏃♂️ isn't for everybody, but fuck people. #canthurtme
Sounds like you have some grieving to do about the fact that you even knew these people. If it wasn't for the fact that we as kids are forced into these state schools, we would have never met some of these people. That's the way it was with the bullies I knew. Come to think of it all of the worst people I've ever met who were the cruelest to me aside from my parents were from public school. In a just world, I would have never even knew they existed.
Wow this is so true. There’s a guy called Peter Gray who does research into the trauma of going to school, it’s so interesting. I was home educated but I did go to school for about 3 months and got ptsd from it due to a very traumatic incident. Horrible places
Juggalo for Life, Bitch| It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia czcams.com/video/rJV6PwOQD74/video.html Charlie’s character reminded me of your natural instinct to mitigate conflicts. 🎉💝🙌 Furthermore, if it were legal for children to get tattoos, I would of had to cover up some Juggalo tattoo, I got in Grade 5 👀 🤡🙅♀️
They "the older generation" will disappear... They were always followers...(Never thinkers) Except the internet is where old ideas come to die... That's why some of them do not wish to be on the internet... It is a lot harder to hide your ignorance... They long for simpler times. People having powerful smartphones... must scare them... It's no longer the dial up generation.
Also, I’ve read a couple critiques of your work, and they would make jeers at your ethnicity, claiming (for us “uninformed” or non ignorant readers) that it was the Jew Problem?? That immediately ignites the cruelty in me, towards the antisemitic, author, I mean… I remember one video of you, explaining that you weren’t raised to be religious, but in sort of an, insecure, way; I thought it was strange that you’d be so, reserved, about it while I’m almost, proud about not having shame, enforced into my developing brain; but, now I understand why you wouldn’t be proud and tbh it pisses me off; fuck people, vehemently.
Oh, and about your regress into your Grade School mindset, and back up through your decades of maturity; regardless, of how prim and fucking proper that your peers may have cunningly ‘peacocked’ themselves to be, you were sincerely yourself; and one Cynical quote that has always resonated as Truth, is “Be yourself, because people won’t like you, **no** **matter** **who** you pretend to be, anyway.” You used to be who you used to be **but** **you** **grew** In all seriousness, I thought I may have scared you, a little, by letting you see my neuroticism; anxiety with **hostile** anger lol 😡 I think I can explain, why girls are raised in an environment where boys are bigger and stronger, so we got to get creative, in being aggressive and **usually** women are aggressive through ruining a grudges reputation (through gossiping lies and/or part-way truths); but there’s no access to protect mens rights, as there ought to be, because some (remorseful) woman will lie about being raped; or some similar defamation of character. But, you know, Attorneys are all just dog turds, packed **tightly** with bullshit 💩 The only way to be a good lawyer, is to make **more** money 💰 not be an honorable, human being.
Your channel is like finding a friend who shares generously and makes you feel safe enough to do the same with yourself.
yes!
too bad it's not a real relationship!
You've probably had more of a direct impact on people than any of your classmates. Thank you for your videos!
Can relate to being embarassed and humiliated in school. And yes, be proud of what you did and still do. Keep up!
people hate people like us , we are what they want to be , but they think you get there by destroying 'it' in other people . I listen very carefully to conversations now and if someone . including family, constantly disagrees and puts me down i expunge them from my life.
I hate the screwed up societal norms as much as you. Keep doing what you’re doing!
The norm is control through the threat of humiliation. A blanket of fear chokes humanity.
Right? Haha
What you tell here is so human I find so many of my answers in these videos. So rare these matters are revealed in such sincerity..
The older I get the more I openly display myself and I'm becoming frighteningly unapologetic about the person I am. Im so intrinsically me I simply cannot deny it any longer. The more it happens and the more I open up the happier I become. Kindred spirit
3:27 that was hilarious, never change Daniel.
(As in "stay Daniel", people on this channel probably know growth would be change as well)
keep on keeping on ;)
Yay for you Daniel!! You are so brave for putting your life out there and you’ve helped so many people in the process (myself included) to understand and embrace deeper parts of themselves by relating to your experiences
I suspect, even hope, that some number of "them" that you knew as a child, also took the road less traveled, also opened up to their truths. The absence of them on the web is the absence of information. So instead of assuming that they ALL fell in line or drank the KoolAid, let's imagine some of them doing what the angels of their better nature inspired them to do...
For a long time, my nParents made me feel like I wasn’t successful enough for love and respect... then I finally realized I was mistaken, they didn’t want me to succeed in the first place ... it made them jealous and insecure
@@enjoy.your.socks_AF yes, I eventually had to cut the dead weight after years of toxicity and back stabs. We are worth it and life is too short trying to carry people who don’t want to improve and just want to hold us down
@@enjoy.your.socks_AF Thank you my friend!… and I’m so proud of you as well for doing what had to be done! It could of easily been some of the hardest things we’ve had to do … but only the strong survive and thrive
@@enjoy.your.socks_AF yes and it even goes beyond sloth to coveting thy neighbors and jealousy .. they constantly compare themselves to others and if they feel outdone in any area they’ll try to sabotage and backstab in an attempt to pull that person down to their level.. just like crabs in a bucket
Certainly many of your childhood peers admire your courage for speaking out. Many of them suffered emotional abuse that has harmed them to this day. But they have not been public about it.
You have spoken into so many lives and given us permission (through your own sharing) to see things truthfully. You were the very first person I came across, who opened my eyes to there being possibility. Never underestimate how many people's lifes your message has positively impacted. Thank you for being courageous and for not settling for the blindness in which most people live.
Holy sh*t Daniel you made it out of the crabs in a bucket. Dam that feels good
Big time congratulations and it’s it helps me keep pushing forward in my own journey.
It’s very useful and helpful as a 27 year old man
Occasionally I run into old class-mates from primary school as well and I can definitely relate to finding myself having unexpected reactions when that happens. In my case I actually flinched at an old bully and I would virtually never flinch at somebody trying to intimidate me nowadays under normal circumstances.
At any rate you should certainly be proud of your work, and you are right - it helps others.
That bully pretended to attack you again?
I appreciate your voice. The capacity to be closer to feeling and spirit is important now and forever. It is the "soul" of living that sustains us and allows us to play and create with others.
So, so true my friend. Thanks for sharing.
I have a couple reactions to this...
First is that I relate to feeling embarrassed by judgy voices in my head from childhood. It's almost like a time warp--you feel like you are back there again, and thinking "Oh my God, what are people saying about my CZcams channel?"
And it's true that shame and emotional repression perpetuate themselves, so sharing your emotions is kind of an antidote, an alternative, and this kind of honesty is one of the best uses of CZcams.
At the same time, I wonder if you are doing a little bit of judging yourself. As you've said, this kind of healing journey is really, really hard. There are so many paths that people are trying in pursuit of happiness. Some of the people that you grew up with may share the same thought that you had, that there must be more to life--but they can't find the way out.
That said, I can also relate to the strong feeling of sticking out and feeling different--and in that circumstance, daring to say "I don't want to live your life! I have to be myself so deal with it!" is very brave. You decided to look out for your own happiness, and that made all the difference.
to be different is to be brave, and you are that Daniel. thank you for speaking truth into a world that does not want to listen. its a big thing you are doing - immensely happy and grateful that you are doing it
They didn't kill you
They didn't kill me
They didn't kill any one of us.
We won.
You are a sweet being. Sincerely. What a nice human you are.
I think you live almost entirely in the heart realm. Many don't. It was always a matter of you finding your proper peer group.
I love you.
You're adding so much value to the world, being vulnerable, sharing your stories and insights
You have every right to be proud! I’m proud of you for being conscious and for all of your efforts. I do not however believe that you have everything all figured out from anyone else’s perspective. To only have one ☝️ singular human experience (as is typical right), to call your classmates failures?.. I’m not proud for that part. I can say that EVERYONE gets outside views confused. Even with internet and ALL the info that we can gather from, in our singular human point of view, we cannot possibly figure it all out, (not even with the internet). That’s not our job anyway. Figuring out Our Own place in the world and doing the best we can there.. that’s our job. You’re placing yourself pretty high above others here it seems like and that’s sort of a not so kind nor appropriate thing to be doing. This isn’t a competition. I gather from your own teachings on CZcams that that’s not what you truly hold as a genuine true helpful life experience. :/
You do have every right to be proud. Don’t lose faith in yourself now. Don’t feel judged. The only comparison that matters is the one that’s YoU yourself are doing, and comparison is a little piece of the root of evil that steals one’s joy right?! Stop that. And keep pressing on trying to change the world one ☝️ starfish at a time! Amen 🙏
You should feel proud! You worked so hard for what you’ve made for yourself and helped so many along the way. It’s inspiring
Oh that spark! the spark society / family.. almost succeeds in putting out, i know so well.
I've a feeling it may end up getting even worse before it gets better and folks heal and stop the generational traumas.
I am grateful sir that you are posting this kind of videos. Thank you so much for validating that it's okay to be different. I am trying to reparent myself and loving myself. My parents are labelling me hurtful words and continue to put me down that's why I am totally disconnecting them in my life.
Thank you Daniel ✨🕊
It's ok. We accept you.
Their lives are already lived. Its the same thing a thousand times with just slight iterations in preference and outcome. People like you truly live life, you are a true original existence, and I am proud to say I am very much like you daniel. You dont get to have what we have unless you have the courage to take a big gulp from the cup of life or bite off more than you can chew sometimes. Many people dont have the courage, the desire, or what i think is worst of all, the curiosity and wonder that comes from seeing the beauty in life to live the way you do. They will be happy with their existence, but only because they weren't called to what we were. For people like us who were called, to live like that would be a death sentence and would feel far worse than any shame you might incur along the way of living a truly authentic full and meaningful life. Keep being you daniel I relate. I enjoy your videos keep up the good work
Inspiring.
Massive respect.
6:23. So true. Misery, that's what their way of life is for me.
You should be proud. You are one of the most influential people in my life
Aww thanks!
Being authentic doesn't mean one should share such private information with the world. People usually protect their privacy against misuse, being spied upon, being bullied and other potential harmful actions by others. Maybe this is something to consider. P.S. In 95% of the cases I agree with your videos :-) Grz from The Netherlands
actually I think hes played a really important role, because not enough people talk about some of the issues he has discussed, so many men will be thinking they are alone or not knowing what is ''wrong'' with them, in sharing his personal account it gives a better understanding of the issue and many will be able to relate to it and then hopefully now be able to do something about it. I had suspiscions of a friend doing this to her teen son but had never heard of what the issue was before, Daniels videos really explained it. He is very brave and wise and we wouldn't know this without him having shared all the things he has shared.
@@ratsrule6110 I also find Daniel's content very valuable. But I also wish him a safe private life and a healthy income level.
Daniel you being different is an encouragement for us to be ourselfs too! your passion and light of counsciousness is a gift. You have sooo much courage to be so vulnerable with us. If no one from your old life is proud of you they are blind.
You are so so valid to be proud of who you have become and you are a role model for me!
You help me realize how important grieving is. I shared your videos in FB groups were people are trauma sensitive and search for healing. They love your content.
You, Jeff Brown and Teal Swan are my favorite cause you look at the trauma
I understand what it's like to have a father that hated you. I'm so sorry you went through that. My parents were extremely abusive and I'm trying to finish a book about it and how it affected my life. I want to become a CZcamsr like you and try to help people. It's very scary and I want you to know just how Brave you are in my eyes. I'm scared to death to speak my truth. Scared because it was so painful and hideous I'm scared to death of being humiliated all over again. But I have a book I'm about to finish explaining it all and I want to become a CZcamsr to try to help people too, just like you. Please understand you're doing more than you think in trying to help people. Just being vulnerable and honest helps. You're inspiring me to finish my book and get out there and help people because I feel I have a lot to give. We're not mentally ill, at least most people in my opinion, we're traumatized. This world is traumatizing and we don't do anything practical about it. A broken mental health system, and a traumatizing political system, causes mental illness and no one sees it. At least no one I talked to in the profession of Mental Health. Keep up the good work.
Always good to be in touch with yourself and not be defined by who you think others are or what they may think. Self acceptance. Maybe some have gone through a self awakening process as well.
Btw - this is debra lynn. Saw this title on a letter and thought it was funny. Yes, I do watch all your videos. Thank you.
I needed this now!
Thank you for this, Daniel. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. It reminds me of that Jim Morrison quote: “The most loving parents and relatives commit murder with smiles on their faces. They force us to destroy the person we really are: a subtle kind of murder.”
Consciously, I don’t want to be like everyone else but sometimes I do find myself feeling the same embarrassment and wishing I could just “fit in”. It just gets tired and old constantly being the outcast, being teased and being left out. During some phases of my life I did try to at least appear somewhat normal- but it never worked and it always crushed my spirit.
The loneliness of being different is the worst thing about it for me, if I had a tribe of people who were similar and we could go through the experiences together then it wouldn’t be so bad. It just gets traumatising constantly going through it alone.
The values and ideals of this society aren’t mine, and I remind myself of that everyday. If that means I have to be a lonely outcast on the fringes of society then so be it... at least my soul will be intact, and at least I will have lived an honest life.
So good! Thank you!🦋🕊
Thank you so much Daniel, the timing of the video was so helpful. Really appreciate your videos
Honestly would love to have a friend like you, I relate to a lot of how you think and feel and it makes me feel more sane watching your videos… it makes me feel less alone
Daniel you are a gem. I will keep coming back to your videos like this one and all others. Like the butterfly one. All of them. Years ago I saw your channel videos but I wasn't ready. I'm 38 now. And now I'm ready for this. I wasn't then. And I love how you articulate emotions so well. Thank you so much for dedicating your life to this. You have so much knowledge and wisdom. But in a way, you make me see the good qualities of myself and the ugly qualities of our screwed up world and I had such an unhealthy mind. I needed your channel so much at this point in my life to fully appreciate what you're saying.
Yes Daniel, you've helped me so much. Pls keep raising your voice♥️
Thank you for being you! Your story really impacts and inspires me and many others- don't stop. You're a breath of fresh air. There needs to be more good like you in the world. You inspire me to become a counselling psychologist in the future :)
Yes! Keep making videos please 8) love your wisdom
I see you, I hear you, I relate to everything you’ve said here. Most useful, thank you 😊🙏♥️
Daniel could you give advice on how to make platonic friends as an adult? Thanks
My family,ex and the mental healthcare providers they knew who didn't inform me of the conflict of interest tried to hurt me by weaponising what I had confided in them..They're still harassing me online and IRL.
My family and ex couldn't handle seeing me trying to be a better person
Omg Daniel, we have so many similar thoughts and ways of thinking! You are so inspiring with your way of living and being your authentic self in the world!
Thank you Daniel in continuing to plant the seed in others concious
It’s applicable to other people indeed! I came from a dysfunctional family and I can feel your pain because I can see my pain through your experiences.
We have value! and every bit of this pain will be used for the healing of others! Keep doing your good work!
Another great post that I can relate to it! Yes, I have those moments of insecurities too, and then I remember that everyone is obsessed with themselves, and I am not that important
Thanks Ola.
3:31 best part😁
You're an angel
So much healing from you
Daniel, youre a true individual and we are all the better for it.
you are amazing.
I'm going through the same thing. You help me so much
You understand me
I/ we love you!
Like you said, if they avoided you back then, it probably would still be so. Being open with the world on this subject has meant so much to many listeners like myself. And how could you get your message out if you're not supposed to post it here? It would be like being a musician, and not being allowed to ever get onto a stage. It just doesn't work that way.
I love how you honestly say "they tried to kill me"
I think this is worse if one is an only child. Siblings help a lot with this kind of thing. In earlier times the family was larger, there were also cousins close by. People were just in general better supported if for nothing else by the fact that you were related to more people and it is the lack of that support which has created both tormenters and victims.
I was bullied a bit in childhood, probably for being "different." And I did some bullying of kids who were "different," as well. I regret the bullying that I enacted onto others, but I don't really lament the bullying that was done to me (much). There were times when I felt alienated or rejected during childhood, and while some of those times were not warranted, I think a number of them were probably at least partially deserved on my part. Kids can be cruel, but cruelty isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes the cruel act is the merciful act which causes the least suffering in the long term. I was a weird kid because I had problems in my life which got in the way of my social development. In a way I think I needed some of the cruel social corrections which my peers provided me. I needed to be in peril of ostracism to recognize the consequences of being socially inept. As an emotionally mature adult decades later I feel like I can appreciate the give and take, the oft unrecognized blessings which came along with childhood tribulations. And I also think that some of my bullies, many of whom ended up being my friends eventually, recognized that I could weather the storm of boyish ritualized social abuse without flipping my lid, and liked me better for it. Again, it sounds cruel, but I had the same experience with some of the kids whom I had treated badly at times as well. It's a complicated dynamic but I do think that kids gain something from "emotional horseplay" and trespassing (within limits) on each others emotional boundaries.
Very true. Well said.
I used to make little videos about my life, about what I thought about things, and some response to others' videos, then . . . the oppression of big brother started to silence me. Oh, I thought, there's something like a trap going on here, and that froze me. I've taken a long look, a series of long looks, at the internet since then. I love it but this could be the end of humanity as we know it, I don't know yet and probably never will, "for sure." Has life always been this way, so unknown, what we are doing? Probably it has, so I've got to let go and make some helpful contributions. I can't be like Daniel, who is doing good in the wide world, but I can be good to those around me. To make more CZcams videos is not a plan of mine, as they would be banned, I suppose. I'm too anti-authoritarian when it comes to mandatory medicine, for example.
I could write a book about being different, I’m betting; first off, my surrogate name is Brynn Stoll. I’m the girl named Bryan, but it’s pronounced Brin.
And in the First Grade, Mrs. Brown assigned that we write 144 words about the meaning of our name and then stand in front of the class, to present it.
So, I remember I stood in front of the class with my sheet of paper **literally** covering my face 📄 completely.
And I think the first thing I said was that I hate that my name is weird and I wish it was something normal, like Sarah or Michelle; although, the meaning of my name is pretty bad-ass (Brynn is the name of the hill that the Gaelic and Scots **fought** **a** **war** on) but, I couldn’t appreciate it then, because I wanted to be a graceful, ballerina.
And I’d been bullied for being fat since Kindergarten so I actually, decided to join the Drama course and start acting to rid myself of the shyness 🙈 and it worked because I’d taught myself to distance myself from everyone **and** **say** **my** **lines**; don’t focus on “them” focusing on me, just spit out your lines. Just. Focus 🧘♀️ edit: or just play pretend, is probably more accurate, wording 🧚🏻♀️
And the name I chose is inspired by the human rights activist, Sojourner Truth was born a slave in New York, and named Isabella Baumfree.
She’s most famous for her speech in Ohio, 1851, Ain’t I a Woman: czcams.com/video/Ry_i8w2rdQY/video.html
But my favorite aspect of her life, was how she escaped her Master after he’d failed to honor the promise to free her and uphold the New York anti-slavery Law of 1827. And she retorted to her, former, Master, “I did not run away. I walked away, by broad daylight.”
Her life reminds me of the quote: Master the rules, so you can break them like an Artist.
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3:30 was funny lol
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At 3:30, omg
Mr. Mackler, I was wondering if you could help me understand my situation. I am a young, large man. My friends tend to think of me as a gentle giant. I never yell and rarely get angry. I have an analytical mind and usually reason through my problems to find solutions instead of getting angry. But a couple days ago I was assaulted by a man roughly 1/3 of my size through the open window of my car while I was parked in a shady spot in front of his neighbors house while waiting to pick up my wife in a few minutes who was babysitting for her brother. It was the first time I had met the assailant. I had been parking there consistently for several months when picking up my wife. He punched my glasses off of my face, hit me idk how many times in the face and arm as I tried to block and reason with him. When I realized he wasn't going to calm down I tried to roll up my window and drive away. he punched through my window, giving me multiple lacerations on my arm. After I got away I called the cops and he was arrested for breaking his parole and charged with assault and vandalism. Idk yet how long he'll be locked up. I'm recovering well and fixing my window was not a big deal. What I don't understand is what is going on inside my mind.
Most of my life I have been a pacifist. But this assault I did not see coming, and he was so unreasonable. I have been having so many horrible thoughts the past few days. I know that if I were to fight him back he would have been dead or hospitalized. Despite his best efforts he failed to break my nose or even bruise my face or arm. The only thing that hurt me was the broken window and my glasses. I have had thoughts and dreams about hurting him and his family in so many ways from arson, to tools and weapons, to even strangling the life out of him with my own bare hands. Is this normal? And how do I get past this without hurting anyone?
You can't let the mind give af about 'keeping up with the Joneses'; my favorite quote from Can't Hurt Me, by David Goggins is,"Fuck people." 👌 David Goggins was and is still dealing with his life with, unnecessary, responses; unnecessarily, dissociative, yet impressive still. But he also claims in his book that everyone has their own "mathematical formula" so, finishing a marathon on a broken shin 🏃♂️ isn't for everybody, but fuck people. #canthurtme
Sounds like you have some grieving to do about the fact that you even knew these people. If it wasn't for the fact that we as kids are forced into these state schools, we would have never met some of these people. That's the way it was with the bullies I knew. Come to think of it all of the worst people I've ever met who were the cruelest to me aside from my parents were from public school. In a just world, I would have never even knew they existed.
Wow this is so true. There’s a guy called Peter Gray who does research into the trauma of going to school, it’s so interesting. I was home educated but I did go to school for about 3 months and got ptsd from it due to a very traumatic incident. Horrible places
fuck em
Juggalo for Life, Bitch| It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia
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Charlie’s character reminded me of your natural instinct to mitigate conflicts.
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Furthermore, if it were legal for children to get tattoos, I would of had to cover up some Juggalo tattoo, I got in Grade 5
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Maybe you remind your former classmates of who they really are. You never know!
They "the older generation" will disappear...
They were always followers...(Never thinkers)
Except the internet is where old ideas come to die...
That's why some of them do not wish to be on the internet...
It is a lot harder to hide your ignorance...
They long for simpler times.
People having powerful smartphones... must scare them...
It's no longer the dial up generation.
Also, I’ve read a couple critiques of your work, and they would make jeers at your ethnicity, claiming (for us “uninformed” or non ignorant readers) that it was the Jew Problem?? That immediately ignites the cruelty in me, towards the antisemitic, author, I mean… I remember one video of you, explaining that you weren’t raised to be religious, but in sort of an, insecure, way; I thought it was strange that you’d be so, reserved, about it while I’m almost, proud about not having shame, enforced into my developing brain; but, now I understand why you wouldn’t be proud and tbh it pisses me off; fuck people, vehemently.
Oh, and about your regress into your Grade School mindset, and back up through your decades of maturity; regardless, of how prim and fucking proper that your peers may have cunningly ‘peacocked’ themselves to be, you were sincerely yourself; and one Cynical quote that has always resonated as Truth, is “Be yourself, because people won’t like you, **no** **matter** **who** you pretend to be, anyway.” You used to be who you used to be **but** **you** **grew**
In all seriousness, I thought I may have scared you, a little, by letting you see my neuroticism; anxiety with **hostile** anger lol 😡 I think I can explain, why girls are raised in an environment where boys are bigger and stronger, so we got to get creative, in being aggressive and **usually** women are aggressive through ruining a grudges reputation (through gossiping lies and/or part-way truths); but there’s no access to protect mens rights, as there ought to be, because some (remorseful) woman will lie about being raped; or some similar defamation of character. But, you know, Attorneys are all just dog turds, packed **tightly** with bullshit 💩 The only way to be a good lawyer, is to make **more** money 💰 not be an honorable, human being.
u are straight white man
So?