How stop feeling guilty when you have a narcissistic mother
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- Do you feel guilty for advocating for yourself when it comes to your narcissistic mother?
Here's what you can do.
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I felt like a BURDEN entire life . Their needs always come first always
My mom is facing a lot of difficult life changes, and she was in tears today. I felt compelled to hold her, soothe and comfort her. I didn’t want to leave, but had to go deal with my own problems. She’s seen me in that kind of pain, and completely ignored me. It’s a messed up dynamic.
Shows how much love you have in you
This happened to me. She invalidated my feelings whenever I tried to express myself to her. Now she wants empathy for her issues. I’m currently in therapy for all the FOG she has put myself through
My mothers the only person on the planet I feel nothing for when she’s crying or upset
My mother is narcissist and sometimes its hell for me to be around her.
I am in the same boat, so totally get it
I am the same my narcissist mother is very selfish cruel and vindictive to heal you need to speak your truth that’s only when you heal seeing the truth of her behaviour instead of denying the truth as I have done all my life. Unearned guilt. Learn to really love yourself as your mother never ever will .
Thank you for this video. My mother was very "sacrificial" and would "help out" anytime. Meanwhile, she STILL has an excel spreadsheet that dates when she helped me, and how much I owe her. Then when my dad helps out, expecting nothing back, it's a competition to her and he is "trying to be the better parent". They're divorced since I was young thankfully.
Wow! So she was conditional. So sorry you’ve gone through that.
Omg…my mom, too. I have many spreadsheets of hers with the name she keeps calling me(that I don’t like)on them. It hurts so much.
Amen!
I have the same thing with my mom. She would come up with spreadsheets dates and we would get an argument and I would always prove that she was wrong. I actually was working for her for a while so it even got more complicated. Until I found the man of my dreams and he saved me From my horrible mother
@@bcbro142I have the same story …😕I feel so scared of even the nice guy whose proposed to me
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Thank you for sharing this. I used to be so confused about why I felt guilty for 25 years… I only realized my mother is a narcissist after I went to therapy because I was so full of self doubt. She’s covert so it was so hard to figure it out. I always knew something was off, but I was gaslighted my whole life by both of my parents so believing in myself enough to trust me again has been the most transformative life lesson.
Yesss, the guilt is all consuming, glad your eyes have been opened.
Yes, me too. I felt guilty for moving far away and hardly ever visiting. Just the idea of seeing her, literally made me shake and gave me nightmares. I went to therapy and there found out about narcissism and it took me a long time to even admit that I had been abused my whole life. When my dad passed, the guilt for having cut him off too since they were a package and not divorced, was overwhelming. It took my grown up children to repeat to me: mom, he was an adult and responsible for his own choices, including for enabling her and gaslighting you. She’s still alive and I thank God I got away. That was triggered when she directed her viciousness towards my children who were ver young. I thought: oh hell no. No way. She’s not going to mess them up. I already lived 1200 km away but she visited for weeks on end and called every single day. I literally kicked them out of my house and changed phone numbers. I’m so glad I did now, every time I look at my heathy, happy adult children. But it was hard.
My mother tortured me the whole life......put her golden child....my younger sister above all....expected me to worship her and my sister....now tries to constantly guilt trap me...taunt me....for not paying for my sister's stuffs.... basically she expects me to completely neglect myself...while treating me like shit....even when I am sick....and work hard to earn money and take care of them.
What are you doing to
Focus on yourself and heal?
Practically self love, self affirmations, focusing on mindfulness, reading books, eating healthy, workouts, trying to stop feeling guilty for things I shouldn't, assuring myself I am not worth the bare minimum, I deserve the best, basically I am trying to care for myself the most because I know nobody else is going to do that for me.
Going through this now as my Mom is in hospice. Prayer helps, distancing myself, and healthy eating plus exercise...plus take deep breaths and talking to my other sister and close friends/support.
The minute I grew up and started having my own mind I was suddenly the "bad one". Got kicked off the pedestal. A small price to pay for your authentic identity
Facts!
I am slowly crawling out of the hell of persistent toxic guilt. I used to blame myself for issues with my mother now i blame her. I'm so tired of dealing with her toxicity.
Yup my mother is a narcissist and I believe I have borderline personality disorder:( it sucks so bad
Guilt, anger and feeling defeated and trapped is how I feel most of the time. I am her caregiver (24/7). Trying hard to cope with my narc mom but prayer, and your videos and others like Dr Ramani are absolutely helping me. I also have a support crew who I love so much. Thanks for empowering me.
I felt like I was reading my own words. I feel this way whenever I'm around my mom. She's trying to force me to be her constant caregiver even though she's healthy! She fakes illnesses and lies to get my attention. I'm so tired of her rages and emotional immaturity. Only therapy and prayer has helped but I still have days of feeling so defeated and exhausted.
Its funny i absolutely dont feel responsible for people except for my mother, until now. I sent her a text this morning acknowledging that i will not tolerate her telling me to shut up ever again. In short i know this is my last message to her. I dont need to add more.i free myself. I feel guilty that it took me so long to realize she manipulated me emotionally by making me fear shed die. Now i stood up courageously for myself and it feels peaceful. Im a quiet person with a clear mind when nobody hijacks it with negative thoughts ❤
The work you are doing means so much to me! You are an inspiration. Thank you for teaching me the importance of grieving my fantasy mother. It is rough work, it’s incredibly painful but it’s worth it.
It’s hard work but definitely worth it ❤
I’m 17, I have no close friends or family my always ask me why I’m so quiet and don’t speak up to people but she’s ruined my self confidence. I’m so tired of arguing w her over the tiniest things just because it’s not done her way. I try not fight back and just let her complain by herself but it’s really hard. I feel so sad all the time and have no one to talk to since I’m also an only child. She gets angry really quick and sometimes violent but after a day she forgets and we go back to normal like nothing happens. I don’t really know what to do. Someone please help
I left home at 16 best thing I ever did - hard of course but having my own independence and space away from her really helped me to become my own person ❤ If I had stayed i genuinely think I would be mentally ill ... environment is so important ... im 34 now she is even worse ! it doesnt get better ... work on getting your independence 🙏🏼
@@sandiealdridge4765 thank you so much
These are tactics to control you and keep you shackled to her, to meet only her needs. A loving mother would encourage confidence, independence, build you up, cheer you when you’re down, rejoice with you when you’re happy. Not everyone knows how to love but that does not mean you have to live without it. Listen to what Ruth is saying, listen to all her advice videos, again and again until your brain is re-wired and no longer conditioned to your mothers lack of care giving. It is what it is, not your fault, get some independence, recognise yourself as a separate identity, be your own perfect mother ❤❤ Good luck.
@@carolmatthews1073 thank you so much.
Look forward and look beyond her
You are more than what You think You are
My adoptive mom never cared what I wanted. She never let me make decisions for myself. My dad didn’t care to ever take my side. I finally broke free from them yesterday. I still go back and forth between grief, happiness and anger but it already feels like relief ❤
Thank you for explaining so precisely what a relationship with a narc mom looks like !!
My parents, but specially my mother was always making me feel guilty for the simplest things, even asking for more food when u're hungry, she almost never showed appreciation when i do something good, always criticize the bad and when i grew up and started talking back, since we're a religious family, she started bringing god and how im sinful and ungrateful and start to list everything wrong with me and my character ext.. And now i grew up to have anxiety disorder and trauma and when i most needed their care and support, they're still toxic.. I feel like i hate them and mad at thel but i feel guilty and wrong about feeling like that...
Honestly homelessness feels better then living with a narcissist mother they aren’t any help anyways smh . Like it’s so sad and then trying to understand them is impossible! Like smh 🤦🏽♀️
I ran away from home at 12 was living on the streets sleeping in parking garages and nasty drug houses rather than be in her house and she has made this event seem like she was being a great mom for letting me go. 😂 They are AMAZING.
Holy crap.
You described my mother and my relationship to her to the point!
I was actually questioning myself if my mother was really narcissistic even though I just ended a 5 1/2 year relationship with a narcissist who treated me just like her.
All the guild and shame I felt for my entire life finally started to fall off of me.
I ended my relationship with her about 2 weeks ago, but your video just gives me assurance that I am allowed to believe in what I suspected and that I don't have to second guess myself.
She's a narcissist.
Thank you!
This was the most relevant video ever! Thank you!! You really put into words what i’m dealing with at this moment… i’m 61 years old and my mother is still demanding an apology because i voiced to her how she made me feel! Of course she told me that i’m always playing the victim but the contrary is true! Demanding i call her to apologize!! I’ve only texted her this past month had to go NC for months for my own sanity … here she is jumping right back to the same BS!!! Thank you!!! I’m going to set a boundary TODAY ! Here comes a storm!!! lol Thank you🙏
Good for you! Set that boundary!
Tell her if you like playing the victim is because she taught you how to do so
My aging mother is horrible with her guilting
My mother is a pitty party person. All she thinks about is herself, the world or people in her life from her eyes and how it effects her. She never thinks about things from other people's point of view. She lives in her own head and takes medication that doesn't help. My brother who is an adult and has traveled before, has traveled again and she messages me every day that she hasn't heard from him enough (mi Mi Mi) and I finally told her to talk to her therapist about it, not me. I used to feel guilty growing up with her disguised selfishness. She acts like some whiny good mother victim, helpless. She is toxic. And it effects me greatly. I try to ignore her. A lot of the time her response is always "okay." Or "whatever. Bye." Stupid things like that. I shouldn't have to reassure her every day. I'm not a freaking therapist!
You're wisdom is so empowering. Thank you for sharing! Tired of living my life trying to please my parents, even as a middle aged adult!! Working up my backbone muscles 💪
You just told my life story! Wow! Thank you for doing this great healing video! God Bless!😊
Thank you. I never knew some of these skills to not carry all this anger, resentment , guilt, low self esteem. I am her only daughter so my mom really contolled how to react to her needs. I am so glad I found these videos to help me .
You got this!
Because of people who post stuff like this is the only reason why I finally don't feel crazy.
I thought I was the problem and couldn't do anything right in my life
Yes children are quite empathetic, especially when it comes to thier parents, or blame themselves for things like divorces or if i was good she/he wouldn't be the way they are , or if say a mother is sick , a child gets very upset or nervous. And will carry the weight of the world on thier shoulders. And over a long period it has a massive effect. Until you become your own person. And establish boundaries, and a support system is key .
They really are! My daughter is so tuned in and she’s only 2. Parents have such great power when they are at their most vulnerable 😢
@@thehealingdaughter yes , and something in your video, about feeling you owe your parents, i agree you don't, you own your children, to equal or better your parents, any debt is paid that way. A normal obligation exists, in a normal healthy relationship, ( like when they are elderly or sick ) but the debt is always to the next generation. .
@@shanenolan8252 yesss!!
💯 yep you described my childhood, I cut contact 5yrs ago and healing, life is much more peaceful and no more guilt. Therapy helps.
Thank you so much for this video. All of what you said rings true to being a daughter of a narcissistic mother. It is toxic guilt. I’m establishing a healthy boundaries from her (not answering her calls when I’m not ready) but I do feel some guilt. I pray for her and that’s all I can do. As a Christian, it’s tough too but God knows my heart. God does not like abuse. It feels so isolating at times coz other people don’t understand and can’t see what we know and experience
God knows your heart and Jesus set limits all the time. It’s okay to set limits.
I have done a lot of work in the area of toxic guilt and shame, but sometimes her comments still hurt. It's been so hard for me to stand back and set boundaries the best I can and not react to her nonsense, but I'm getting better at it all the time. I just don't know how much longer I want to deal with it. I'm just thankful that following a planned visit today, she will be out of state for a few months during the holidays. Visits are really something to endure and I wish it wasn't that way, but it is. I have very limited contact and there's no way to explain this to her.
I’m 40 years old woman and live with my violent narcissistic mother whom I support because she herself has low self esteem and can’t get and keep a job ! She still to this day tells me she wishes I was never born whenever we argue because she can’t hear the truth of herself or if she don’t get her way! I do advocate for myself and I still feel quilty and low! I don’t think she knows she is a narcissist because her parents are narcissistic as well ! I don’t know what to do because she has no where to go. No one in my family will take her off my hands and I can’t have her on the streets. I won’t be ok knowing she has nowhere to sleep at night ! But I also can’t keep letting her make me feel like a loser!
I feel you. You are worthy. ❤
They pretend to be helpless to keep us under their control.
I parented my mother all my life, she kept saying "she couldn't cope without me"
She lives in a council house, has a pension.
I have struggled, supported her, but ones health can't tolerate her crap.
So I went full no contact several weeks ago.
I bumped into people who know her, said she is in mighty form, full of joys of life!
She's not even mentioned me, like I don't exist.
Amazing how she all of a sudden can manage her life!!!!!!
I previously did put home help in place.
They have no real true empathy for others.
I had to go no contact with my brother, who I miss, but she has him under her spell.
I do feel better in myself not being around her, it's toxic and false, no real connection, all a sick game.
Much love and strength 💪 ❤ to you
Wow,she is right about the feeling of survival.
Wow! I needed to hear this. I set boundaries, it’s been one year now still refuses to speak to me. Has my siblings against me too. She suffered a brain aneurysm they blame me for it. Yet we haven’t spoken. This all makes sense she is a narcissistic mother thanks
Thank you! You are validating all my suspicions about why I’ve always felt the way I’ve felt.
I want to cut my mother out of my life. I say it all the time. Especially when we get into arguments because I just can’t take her anymore. We haven’t spoken in two weeks and I’m seeing her tomorrow at a friends 50th birthday party. Last time we spoke I was asking her why she was making a decision that I thought was silly and it didn’t make sense to me why she was doing it. She yelled at me and said To mind my business. I said ok and I said goodbye and hung up the phone. She then texted me in capital letters to remember who I’m speaking too and that I needed to calm down. That text just really triggered me because she’s always reminding me of who she is and at 41 years old she still treats me like I’m a child. All I was doing was asking her why she made the decision she made, come to find out she told everybody else why she did. But she couldn’t tell me because it’s fun for her to keep secrets from me. She does it all the time. She acts like she works for the CIA. And after that phone call and text i asked myself why do I care so much?? Why do I care about the decisions she makes when it doesn’t effect my life?
You have a very deep understanding from the inside. And you are also highly articulate.
I just realized that I was married to a narcissist and that my mom is a narcissist at the same time. After 34 years of abuse from my husband I managed to get out and now she thinks that I need a new puppet master. She doesn't realized that I know what she is now. I am so glad I found this video on toxic guilt. I have been plagued with it my entire life.
How are you managing?
@@thehealingdaughter Deep dive into learning about the disorder. Great therapist. Letting myself feel and process my emotions. Lots of self compassion. Some days are better than others. I feel like I have been reborn. I am finding myself.
@@RosaCamacho70 That's such good stuff! Compassion helps the journey so much. And yes, understanding the dynamic and how it's affected you helps you untangle the mess. Happy for you.
I just want to say Thank you! for the video and for replying and asking questions. ❤❤❤
Since I remember my self, my mother told all the time that I was born and ruined her life. She hated me and still hates me.
I’m sorry. How are you focusing on you?
@@thehealingdaughter Now I am 45 years old. I understood around my 30s that what she said was insane. I did not understand that alone, that was impossible for me. I opened my heart to friends and they made me understand(with difficulty and gradually), that that was insane. Until then I had to pay-and nothing was enough. I gradually, slowly learnt that I worth something and that I owe myself and not her. Of cource I still have problems with my self esteem, but I am much much better.
The last 3 years I live alone without my mother. I go and see her once a moth, only for 5-10 minutes and I go.
Thank you for your reviews it helps me alot. My mom is narcissistic but also has lymes disease and is very ill. But also mentally abused me and my siblings all of our lives. As an adult i finally realized it wasnt right and went no contact. And now my siblings dislike me as well for doing this. When I had to cut her off I felt TREMENDOUS guilt. I worry about her to this day. I really hope she is OK. And she is taken care of.
How are you managing the guilt you feel?
@@thehealingdaughter I kinda just try and talk myself out of the feeling. And keep it in mind that my brother is probably taking care of her. I just pray for her and continue with my day you know? Nothing else I can do.
I’m so glad to have watched your video. It really gave me insight on what I should do. Going no contact with my mom is so hard. I feel that guilt every time. And according to my mom, all my achievements are basically bc she was the one who pushed me and gave me all the tools. I’m starting med school soon and she still says that if it wasn’t for her I’d be nothing.
Ruth❤ you are an angel. First of all. I was having an episode: pain, guilt, self-pity, hopelessness' but the moment I started listening to your voice ( your beautiful calming, soothing voice.) I calmed down emidiatly, I be dumbed a little bit of my story on the comments. Perhaps it's wrong to do so, but that helped me , and felt lighter ( emergency relief.)
Second you're reasoning is sound and feels legit. You convinced me. Thank beautiful Ruth, may you be blessed 🙏😊❤
You got this!
Thanks for this video. It made me realise that she is the problem and not me. I'm about to confront her about about her giving her new partner my car to use while it as uninsured for 2 months without my permission whilst I was overseas and I already know what the outcome will be. We hadn't spoken for 20 years but 5 years ago, I made contact with her and she didn't seem interested until other family members encouraged her. Unfortunately that will be the last we speak in person. Sorry about the rant. Your video really helped me today!
Thank you ❤ Yes I've been there my whole life. Now I got no contact. Thats for me absolut nessecery 😢
Hitting it out of the park right in the beginning
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Your video helps, thank you for the tips. It's helpful to know that what you are not alone with what you are going through. I did so much work on myself regarding my relationship with my narcissistic mother, but since I need her because she takes care of my son when I'm at work, she thinks she's entitled to raise my son the way she sees fit, and to access control over my motherhood and guilt trip me if I didn't raise my kid the way she sees fit. I guess I will be set free when I completely don't need her anymore and my son is older.
This made sooo much sense.
I’m glad it helped. ❤️
This video is one of the most important videos I have ever watched. Thank you for making this video.
Aww I’m so glad it helped
I only started to live once my mother died. Bit too late really. I'm now 60
Thanks for the Help. A real eye opener. It's good to realize that I'm not the only person that has to deal with this. Thanks again
Glad to help
Thank you for this. I am struggling right now.
It’s not guilt, it’s shame. Guilt is a very healthy emotion. It creates feelings of empathy and understanding of THE BEHAVIOR you did that was wrong and hopefully you’ll change that behavior for the good. What you’re referring to as “toxic guilt” is shame. Shame is when you instead of hating the behavior you hate yourself. You hate who you are. I had a mother that instilled this in me and all her children, and then gas-lit us for it. But the feeling is intense shame. No child should ever feel this way, especially because of poor parenting.
It’s both.
You've got more heart and soul than most
This video really helped me out, I've been so confused lately but this gave me a clearer picture. My mom guilt trips me and it's hard to not believe her and give in.
Where it _always_ concerns me Ruth, is upon moving out and independence when facing life generally. She's played 'Captain Save-the-day' for _so_ many years of my life, until I have adopted a sense of envy towards how she's able to handle quite a few situations--aside from how rude she can be. Where I am mentally, however, can I not help but have this thought of thin ice with nearly everything; examples being car issues, business involving insurance, nearly everything that makes that person an adult. Having to come to her about damn near everything has definitely become a mental chore, especially since recently finding out that she suffers from NPD. I guess my uncertainties on leaving serves as such a heavy stress as well. An awesome video might I add. ❤
My mom response is always I’m your mother look how you talk to me like girl shut up 🙄 look how she treat me.
My mom was the same way I couldn't even voice my opinion:( may we recover from the abuse
Wow you tell it like it is!!!love that. So much truth❤
This was so spot on 👏🏻 I need a series on this
I'm the son of 1. And this is definitely easier said than done.
This was precisely what I was looking for! Thank you sooo much
I have all signs
This video was sooooo good!
❤❤❤ thank you for sharing!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Thank you for these videos! They are so important and relevant for me
I’m so glad!
Oh the guilt is a big one. Finally got over it.
Thank you for this truth love ❤❤
Thank you!
Your videos are the best I've found. You have an amazing approach to this topic. Thank you.
Wow, thank you!
This does help, thank you
Beautiful
Wow ruth thank you so much!!! Please keep this content coming! Already subscribed to you🙌🏼✨🙏🏼
Thank you! Will do!
What an eye opener. Spy on
Thank You, Ruth!
You’re welcome!
OMG..I feel the same exact way.
I needed this so much, thankyou
You’re welcome ☺️
Thank you so much for sharing!
Thanks for watching!
Fantastic video .spot on! ❤
Thank you for this. I have found it very helpful. It has really opened my eyes to my own situation. Bless you .
Thank you!
❤️ thank you 🙏
You are so welcome
You are genius 👏 thank you
Thank you 🙏! I am sorry for you pain in life! 😢❤🙏😘🌻❤️
Oh boy😅Thanks.
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This is very helpful thanks so much
Glad it was helpful!
Well said. Thank you
Thanks for watching!
thanks for the video.
You're welcome
Thank you so much :)
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊
Amazing video, thanks for sharing!
Thanks for watching!
Thank you so much.....
You are so welcome!
Amazingly helpful
Glad it helped
Dear mam,
I don't know whether my mom is narcissistic or mentally ill but she's very harsh on me I'm 7 months pregnant but she keeps on fighting and cursing me even to the extent she's telling me that she'll not look after the yet to be born baby in it's initial stages. Kindly gimme some solution
This saved me from losing it thank you so so so much
Glad it helped!
Thank you so much!!
Glad it helped!
So true. Infinite loop. Have distracted self whole life for various reasons. Persists after mothers death?🥴. Did write down when young and need to revisit. How to address when they’re gone? Do have nervous system regulation tools but guess need to advocate in wider world. Shamefully 🤣🤣still persists 🤣. Helpful. Thanks❤️
Thanks ruth
😁
Perfect video
Glad you think so!
Taking a week for me to relax + work+ prepare something important like an exam or a thesis, or just to breath, outside home. She doesn't accept that, and she cals me to guilt trip me. ''I was a little harsh with you the other day, all mothers do! " Why are you angry? You must not be angry, its impolite to be angry at me for shouting and insulting you for the 2500 0000 time in your life just yesterday. And you have abandoned me, what will I do when I will become a poor old Lady?. I know what to expect now! I have a daughter who is totally unreliable. I am not going to your viva, if you don't do what I say. Do it alone, as you left me alone. And don't comeback. Live alone of you want. Just don't ever call me. Oh oh What? Why are you trying to explain ''your shamefully behaviour '' You're talking back to your mother, you have no manner........." Said the very sacrificial, very loving and very angry Martyr Mother.
And it goes on and on. And I am not even talking about the NARCISSISTIC RAGE of loud stormy insults, that goes on for hours even at night, prohibiting sleep for a little girl from her childhood up to her teen years and even in her adulthood.
I have physical and mental health issues, and I am having such a difficult time tolerating criticism and usual stranger's mean words. But mostly is being Very difficult to tolerate her this rage , this manipulation, this never ending battle for authenticity. She hates my hairw my eyes, my clothes w my words my cooking, she f.. hates everything about me. Except whe I achieve something w then, I am her ' creation '' but my short comings are fatal crimes in her eyes!'' I am so tired that I am doing poorly in my job my studies my personal goals. I am struggling and there is not a sliver of hope. The worse thing is that I am codependent and I love her still, I am always scared for her and of her. It's nightmare. I manage to forget sometimes when I indulge in '' coping mechanisms and comfort zone behaviours.'' but this is harming my personal development! I feel like shit all the time and I have periods of depression. I am all alone and I isolate myself. Too ashamed to tell anyone. All I want to do is sleep and cry and binge watching shows about love and family. I feel miserable most of the time and it have to hide it from everyone. Huuuuh it's just so tiring..( and I always fall back in her trap. The moment she shows me a little bit of love, it means the world to me.) Even though, it gives her power over me. I feel pain for her sad life she had, I even feel my deceased dad's miserable life with her!! Huh! Just too MUCH. I am even scared to share this with an anonymous account online lol pathetic!!;
I would love to feel completely justified in never seeing or talking to my mother again, but my situation is muddled. My mother was a good enough mother for most of my life, 11 years ago she became an enraged narcissist and has made my life torture. I am currently having a mini nervous breakdown and am not having anything to do with her for now. But I am tormented by guilt and imagining the rage she will inflict on me in the future. I am determined though, the next time she becomes enraged at me I will cut her off. Because she is killing me. I have a chronic illness that renders my adrenal glands unable to cope with stress and I’m getting sicker and sicker because of her.
That happened to me what should i do
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Could you make more videos covering culture and religion narcissim ? I know growing up my family was and still is catholic and ha e reverted to conservative catholicism which supresss women ALOT. Im hispanic so along also came old school methods of dicipline and ways if being such as how you stated youre mother is to not be disrespected. She gets no bounderies and youre a child and always will be the child
Question: what can one do when the covert narcissistic mother is dying of cirrhosis of the liver and needs you to take to doctors/hospitals for treatments on a regular basis, and one is an only child?
Got any support? Resources you could look around for?
I have no idea how to create a support crew tbh.