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  • @ods1ODS
    @ods1ODS Před 8 lety +989

    Piece of advice that I picked up on my way to my 30's: Get to a point where you are happy on your own to such a degree that you only see a boyfriend or girlfriend as a bonus. The icing on the cake. This way, next time someone comes into your life you wont be compelled to be totally devoted to putting them first and you wont completely put yourself on the backburner. Bottom line.....a significant other cannot make you happy. They can only make you happier.

    • @mikediz5900
      @mikediz5900 Před 8 lety +25

      Truth

    • @trinitygodsaint
      @trinitygodsaint Před 8 lety +4

      +DSdouble Unfortunately most people in life need a significant other to live a complete life...We are social creatures, and its only natural to put something or someone you want first. The problem is not being selfish or putting yourself first its giving yourself completely to someone you are dating/courting. Dating is a temporary arrangement until a mutual desire to live a permanent life together can be realized.

    • @ods1ODS
      @ods1ODS Před 8 lety +14

      trinitygodsaint I hear ya. And I'm not saying we should be alone or that Id want to be alone. I just think regardless of the commonly held opinions on love and relationships its important not to forget about yourself and that your priority should always be ensuring that YOU are happy. Not to say you should forget about making your partner happy, but when you are truly happy within you can be a much better, much more loving, much more effective partner. I know it might sound selfish but I really believe it.

    • @trinitygodsaint
      @trinitygodsaint Před 8 lety +4

      DSdouble Very Well said. Your elucidation swayed me to your view, I have to say I agree 100%

    • @jay.thevar.fitness8958
      @jay.thevar.fitness8958 Před 8 lety +10

      That is seriously one of the best advices given so far!

  • @crazysolo95
    @crazysolo95 Před 8 lety +701

    date vince g. you'll get a lifetime supply of shaker bottles

  • @valeriacarter5547
    @valeriacarter5547 Před 7 měsíci +10

    Rewatching this after 7 years still love you Niki

  • @maggie0105
    @maggie0105 Před 8 lety +261

    I think this is the worst type of break up, having someone not feel the same way they used to is a pain in the gut because there is nothing you can do, no matter how much the other one loves them.

    • @ccoooocc9714
      @ccoooocc9714 Před 8 lety +5

      you knwo what's funny, is that I think nikki didn't really like him at the beginning and now the tables have turned, but that's just my opinion, because once I was so in love with a girl and at first she was like not really paying attention to me or didn't care if we didn't talk that much, but after some time the tables have turned.

    • @cbcheerleader101
      @cbcheerleader101 Před 4 lety

      Maggie010 I whole heartedly agree. Going thru it right now

  • @dustinbrehm2310
    @dustinbrehm2310 Před 8 lety +917

    Date Jason Genova, he´s a humble human bean

  • @prakie1
    @prakie1 Před 8 lety +232

    You stood by him every step of the way and you are now ready to build your own empire. 💜

    • @tellmesomthin12
      @tellmesomthin12 Před 8 lety +5

      +Luther Fairley lmao ma nigga Luther!!

    • @sean-nw5uy
      @sean-nw5uy Před 8 lety +6

      she will build shit

    • @mohmih18
      @mohmih18 Před 8 lety

      +Mankash911 ur epic bro lollllz

    • @Jabbaz03
      @Jabbaz03 Před 8 lety

      +Joyce Jane BUYING YOUR FIRST HOUSE! GOD DAMMIT!

    • @YoungMailly
      @YoungMailly Před 8 lety

      +Luther Fairley LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL SAVAGERY

  • @Gt3ricky
    @Gt3ricky Před 8 lety +372

    Don't make someone your everything, because when they leave.. You're left with nothing.

    • @thatawesomekidd
      @thatawesomekidd Před 8 lety

      IF they leave

    • @hannataiv2494
      @hannataiv2494 Před 8 lety +24

      But if you don't put your everything into it, then you are not worth it. You should always put your all into it, because if you don't you didn't really even try.

    • @shemini850
      @shemini850 Před 8 lety +3

      That was deep.

    • @shukyarije9337
      @shukyarije9337 Před 6 lety +6

      This is a good statement, you should give a lot of effort but at the same time be somewhat independent and never lose who you are as a person.

  • @14TEEKEY
    @14TEEKEY Před 8 lety +1639

    I guess you didn't fit his macros 😢

  • @TheRealZewkz
    @TheRealZewkz Před 8 lety +456

    CG's next video title is Ganna be "coming out of the closet". Only explanation for it.

  • @rawdcvify
    @rawdcvify Před 8 lety +209

    Love is a choice after the in love feeling goes away. You are right Nikki. You will find someone that will choose to love you for the rest of your life! Sending prayers.

    • @solsticequeen
      @solsticequeen Před 8 lety +1

      Yes!

    • @SugarRayValentine
      @SugarRayValentine Před 8 lety

      +Rachel W depends really cause you never stop loving your mother, if she loves you of course

    • @MrRossT1
      @MrRossT1 Před 8 lety

      +Rachel W You folks act like you only love ONE person for the rest of your life! :P

    • @rawdcvify
      @rawdcvify Před 8 lety

      +SugarRayValentine a mother/child relationship is totally different than choosing a partner. (in my opinion)

    • @rawdcvify
      @rawdcvify Před 8 lety +3

      +MrRossT1 I hope to love one person for the rest of my life like my grandmother did. normally do love a few between finding the final lol. err body is different 😉

  • @ItsJTurner
    @ItsJTurner Před 8 lety +119

    Basically CG is a materialistic dude. sad...

  • @SuperBizalz
    @SuperBizalz Před 8 lety +1286

    Yeah, the timing was fucked up.
    Christian is young and he is probably feeling like the grass is greener, but I have a strong feeling he's going to think back one day, and realize that it's not easy to find a girl who's truly down for you, and it's going to hit him that he was already standing on the greenest side.

    • @carlosvazquez7435
      @carlosvazquez7435 Před 8 lety +6

      Agree

    • @Metabolic_Star_Atlas
      @Metabolic_Star_Atlas Před 8 lety +2

      +SuperBizalz exactly my thought!

    • @Quickscopesproz
      @Quickscopesproz Před 8 lety +2

      stop fucking commenting nobody cares anymore

    • @Grubgangcreations
      @Grubgangcreations Před 8 lety +12

      Doesn't everyone😞, girl or guy.. When
      you're young you like to push the limits and see what's next, what more can I get? Only to look back and realize you had it all 😥

    • @Grubgangcreations
      @Grubgangcreations Před 8 lety +1

      +Marie-Christine Lachance You obviously misinterpreted what I was trying to say.

  • @evakatherinefitness4250
    @evakatherinefitness4250 Před 8 lety +581

    I've watched this at least 5 times because I can't believe it's real

    • @travisisswole353
      @travisisswole353 Před 8 lety +1

      Rt

    • @trumpnotedcruz5554
      @trumpnotedcruz5554 Před 8 lety

      +Eva Katherine Fitness its not go to her Twitter

    • @MrWalkwaySc2
      @MrWalkwaySc2 Před 8 lety +6

      +Eva Katherine Fitness I wasn't sure if it was because most youtubers just use catchy titles.

    • @maryjoturgeon3345
      @maryjoturgeon3345 Před 8 lety

      +TRUMP NO ted cruz I trying to read her twitter and couldn't find anything about the house on her twitter... what did it say??

    • @MrWalkwaySc2
      @MrWalkwaySc2 Před 8 lety

      I don't use twitter, but I found nothing either.

  • @pac329
    @pac329 Před 8 lety +465

    You should date steve Cook instead

  • @shadowLauraw
    @shadowLauraw Před 8 lety +67

    This video helped me so much. My boyfriend dumped me today suddenly, and I was madly in love with him. I thought he was my future. But the part where you said "he didn't value me anymore, so I lost the value of myself" hit me so hard, because that's exactly what happened to me too. I believe that life is going to be better for everyone who gets their heart broken. There's something so much better waiting for us, something we deserve.

    • @eleanorbeirne4737
      @eleanorbeirne4737 Před 8 lety +1

      Everything happens for a reason - the world has better plans for you even if you do not understand them now, someday you will x

    • @shadowLauraw
      @shadowLauraw Před 8 lety

      thank you, I believe in that too xx

    • @shadowLauraw
      @shadowLauraw Před 7 lety +3

      Hey, and i'm so sorry to hear that! But well for me the most important thing to start of with, was that I was no longer going to let that affect on my future life. The pain is so okay to get out of your system first, through crying etc. it really helps. But here's the tip; FOCUSE ON YOURSELF. The morning after this person had left me, I went straight to the gym, and let all my anger and feelings out, by working out :D I can honestly say it really helped. To focuse on your well being is so important, you can't just stay in your couch and eat your feelings, that could get out of hand very easily.
      Just remember that even though this person left your life, doesn't mean you have to forget your life too. You're important and something better is coming if you continue to choose to be happy xx

  • @GlassGalaxy
    @GlassGalaxy Před 5 lety +14

    Thank you Nikki for keeping this up. I watched this when you first uploaded it, and I honestly cried for you then. Now, you’re telling me everything I needed to hear as I cry. I feel as if you told me everything I needed to hear. So proud of how far you have come!

  • @johnmcclintock2092
    @johnmcclintock2092 Před 8 lety +352

    Social media broke you guys up! Straight up! You guys need to go back and work things out. The little 15 min fame got to him

    • @dawidlewicki9898
      @dawidlewicki9898 Před 8 lety +4

      Agreed:/

    • @PatrickBenoit10
      @PatrickBenoit10 Před 8 lety +13

      you dont know for a fact bruhhhhh

    • @pablobarragan6637
      @pablobarragan6637 Před 8 lety +2

      +Cyber there is no need to insult her, even if you are right you should be respectful.

    • @Axxalol
      @Axxalol Před 8 lety

      +Diego Ariza u know nothing..

    • @christina7215
      @christina7215 Před 8 lety +68

      Lmaooo I hope they don't get back together because Christian is boring af and nikki can do better than him! She's so amazing he should be grateful she gave him a chance or even looked in his direction. Haha if he wants her back I hope she says fuck off and gets with a guy who loves her more than himself!

  • @Lyndsey76
    @Lyndsey76 Před 8 lety +192

    Keep your head up, Nikki! This is a blessing in disguise and you will see that down the road! You are a strong person now, and you are on your way to being the best version of you that you can be! Love you!

  • @aubreyvb1561
    @aubreyvb1561 Před 3 lety +12

    Just want to thank you for posting this, even though this is years ago, it’s helping me through my current broken engagement and heartbreak from my 4+ year relationship with someone I loved so deeply and devoted everything to. Your honesty and positivity in this helps me try to look positively in finding myself again and see it as a new chapter of newfound freedom rather than everything falling apart around me. Thank you for putting yourself out there and always brightening my feed every time you post. ❤️

  • @Taysboss
    @Taysboss Před 4 lety +6

    It's been almost 4 years since I watched this the first time and now I'm going through a very similar breakup. My friend reminded me of this video again. Thank you for showing me that moving on isn't impossible.

  • @JordanCT
    @JordanCT Před 8 lety +852

    so he bought a house with her and then broke up with her on her birthday?

    • @MsWatermelooon
      @MsWatermelooon Před 8 lety +89

      no words...

    • @corey_drums
      @corey_drums Před 8 lety +97

      It pissening

    • @Sumoboi1
      @Sumoboi1 Před 8 lety +1

      +graffitiking1166 LOL

    • @Sumoboi1
      @Sumoboi1 Před 8 lety +4

      +Ryan Suhm Sorry I laughed. I can tell Nikki is really upset by this. damn

    • @trumpnotedcruz5554
      @trumpnotedcruz5554 Před 8 lety +94

      +graffitiking1166 lol he is cold as fuck. true alpha

  • @GF94AL
    @GF94AL Před 8 lety +445

    Almost 1 million views...you should break up more!

  • @alli3534
    @alli3534 Před 6 lety +3

    I went through a really bad break up last year and I watched these videos while I was going through it and they really really helped me over come a lot. Thank you for always being so real! Love you

  • @sarahpengs
    @sarahpengs Před 8 lety +34

    Rewatched this video today, after my boyfriend & I broke up, thanks for putting it in words, I think I had a similar experience but this video is helping me

  • @RHSTRENGTH
    @RHSTRENGTH Před 8 lety +364

    Never saw this coming ..... I'm sad

    • @ebrhballers
      @ebrhballers Před 8 lety +7

      Same.

    • @missivvy2312
      @missivvy2312 Před 8 lety +4

      Same here 😭! I didn't even suspect it at all. #teamnikkiB #alltheway

    • @josearmando726
      @josearmando726 Před 8 lety

      +Bruno Jones What would you do if Chris breaks up with Denise?

    • @JMRWIGGLES
      @JMRWIGGLES Před 8 lety

      abdub7 yap sometime back...check his vids i think it was like months or a year back

    • @JMRWIGGLES
      @JMRWIGGLES Před 8 lety

      abdub7 damn..i didnt know he had a new one.. yea i was talkin about the old one. and that time is when i called this break up.. smh... i acutally thought nikki would clip him. but he actually gave her her walking papers...

  • @adrianflo6481
    @adrianflo6481 Před 8 lety +191

    She wont be single for long though.

    • @babgyirlm7611
      @babgyirlm7611 Před 8 lety +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @jay.thevar.fitness8958
      @jay.thevar.fitness8958 Před 8 lety +1

      lol...lets see!

    • @adrianflo6481
      @adrianflo6481 Před 8 lety +1

      Jay Eki Dog? i think she is pretty damn beautiful and she seam to not be just superficial. But hey different strokes for different folks.

    • @adrianflo6481
      @adrianflo6481 Před 8 lety

      Jay Eki if you say so hunni, if you say so.

    • @alexbrynna
      @alexbrynna Před 4 měsíci +1

      Single

  • @Gube2000
    @Gube2000 Před 6 lety +12

    I watch this after each breakup. Its healing up me. It’s real and inspiring.

  • @chiuchiutrain
    @chiuchiutrain Před 4 lety +51

    Here after her video with a new boyfriend because look how far you’ve come!!🥰

  • @Decisionz11
    @Decisionz11 Před 8 lety +365

    damn, she actually really loves him so much... I wish i can get loved like that x(

  • @danieljensen2387
    @danieljensen2387 Před 8 lety +273

    So the fame got to him?

  • @kelseykirchoff123456
    @kelseykirchoff123456 Před 6 lety +37

    Watching in 2018 - and this is so helpful to me in my situation. Thanks Nikki. 💞

  • @carolyngeneva3913
    @carolyngeneva3913 Před 6 lety +3

    how amazing is it to look back and see how far you've come. this popped up on my feed and I remember watching this and 100% feeling for you and understanding this feeling... almost 2 years later and your killin it. so cool :)

  • @ARCMusic
    @ARCMusic Před 8 lety +372

    Nikki and Steve Cook?

    • @tdub3366
      @tdub3366 Před 8 lety +59

      Nah he's smashing Courtney King 😎

    • @yu-chiehlin1996
      @yu-chiehlin1996 Před 8 lety

      Lol

    • @WesT10109
      @WesT10109 Před 8 lety +2

      +tdub3366 who, by the way is on another level compared to Nikki

    • @ARCMusic
      @ARCMusic Před 8 lety +73

      +Wes T94 nah Nikki is a nice women, I think Steve Cook would appreciate her. I'm a big fan of CG but I think he will regret letting her go in time.......

    • @LeeMurrayKing
      @LeeMurrayKing Před 8 lety

      +Jakob Anja You know Steve Cook is already with someone.

  • @Jordan-ug7yk
    @Jordan-ug7yk Před 8 lety +244

    Who gets possession of Javon?

  • @Ari-zo7ve
    @Ari-zo7ve Před 8 lety +12

    Holy crap.... This video fits my almost exact situation. Thank you. I needed it.

  • @carlaadams9538
    @carlaadams9538 Před 8 lety +5

    You are an absolute doll and inspiration. Thanks for being real.

  • @tifffxo4586
    @tifffxo4586 Před 8 lety +77

    😔💔 you're strong, beautiful and kind... there are better days ahead. sending positive vibes and kisses to your through the wind xo

    • @tifffxo4586
      @tifffxo4586 Před 8 lety

      you*

    • @Mr9727
      @Mr9727 Před 8 lety

      +Tiff Fxo you're*

    • @tifffxo4586
      @tifffxo4586 Před 8 lety

      +BIGJAAII it was meant to be a correction to my last your* it was a typo that meant to say you* ... thanks for being so observant.

  • @hannamullinsxo
    @hannamullinsxo Před 8 lety +329

    I actually coulda cried watching this

  • @koolklub
    @koolklub Před 6 lety +119

    Her thumbnail says “you broke my heart but I still got a booty, I’ll be fine”

  • @koco23
    @koco23 Před 5 lety +5

    You literally don’t know what this video means to me. I relate to it on a level that is devastating, & I can’t imagine how hard it must have been for you to talk about it, film it and post it for the world to see. I cannot thank you enough, because I’ve come back to this video time and time again when I needed the reminder and the motivation and it never fails to help me see the light, just like you said. Nikki, THANK YOU SO MUCH. I love you so so much!! 💙

  • @AmandaBuccifit
    @AmandaBuccifit Před 8 lety +40

    You're freakin awesome for doing this. The pressure that came upon you guys through social media was very real, and it's definitely not fair that one of the biggest things that came about a break up had to be explaining it to the public. The way you went about this video was really amazing. Your mind is in the right place, and I'm excited for you to be your own person from here on out. The sadness will fade and the happiness come from realizing your value again is. Sending love your way.

  • @carlosmedina112
    @carlosmedina112 Před 8 lety +26

    frank the trainer bout to be that rebound

  • @breanag118
    @breanag118 Před 6 lety +2

    I am currently seeking so much refuge in this series and I am so beyond thankful that you shared this. My boyfriend of 3 years just broke up with me out of no where and I'm currently trying to find a new place to live. It's so hard to just accept that it's actually over. But I know if you can make it and a year later you are doing so wonderful, then I can make it too and one day look back on this time that I'm feeling lost and empty and be thankful things ended. I love you Nikki ❤️

  • @marissarendon2092
    @marissarendon2092 Před 3 lety +4

    I remember watching this video years ago, I felt your pain. I’m glad you keep rising like a star ⭐️ life happens...

  • @AssasinZ1Productionz
    @AssasinZ1Productionz Před 8 lety +136

    @ChristianGuzman LOL DUMPS GF BUYS LAMBO!!

    • @TEXY0
      @TEXY0 Před 8 lety +29

      +AssasinZ1Productionz buys lambo dumps gf actually

    • @AssasinZ1Productionz
      @AssasinZ1Productionz Před 8 lety

      lmao

    • @leylaflower1135
      @leylaflower1135 Před 8 lety +3

      +AssasinZ1Productionz That's exactly what happened and then near her B day :( Coward

    • @destroystreets1023
      @destroystreets1023 Před 8 lety +6

      +AssasinZ1Productionz she didn't get an expensive b day present. thats why she mad.

    • @PolakaFlaka
      @PolakaFlaka Před 8 lety +2

      +Delila flower the feminists are crazy these days lol

  • @frankmai1824
    @frankmai1824 Před 8 lety +178

    As Lord Keith and Kevin say "Time heals all wounds." Can I get an Amen??
    Ps: this comment is meant to be supportive in a funny way, please don't come in and say other Hodgetwins quote like "Creampie" and shits like that

  • @chrisgill8023
    @chrisgill8023 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Can’t believe I’ve come back to this video after all these years. Guess you 2 was a part of my life even tho I don’t know you haha

  • @commandconquerfitness1506

    I gained a lot of respect for you while watching this video. You are a quality person; even though life feels like hell right now, someone else is going to be really lucky to be with you in the (near) future.

  • @houstonscott191
    @houstonscott191 Před 8 lety +276

    his arms were so small anyway #chickenarms you deserve bigger

  • @KaraCorey
    @KaraCorey Před 8 lety +1024

    I haven't even watched this yet but needed to say I love you, your a strong, amazing young women. Live your life for you and you will find your happiness. We all love and support you.

    • @runningrigert
      @runningrigert Před 8 lety +7

      +Kara Corey Fit Life Amen.

    • @XenaGray92
      @XenaGray92 Před 8 lety +1

      ❤❤❤

    • @bowsim
      @bowsim Před 8 lety +2

      +Kara Corey Fit Life always positive

    • @jaajayi
      @jaajayi Před 8 lety +14

      +Kara Corey Fit Life Agreed! Bigger and better things are coming for you Nikki!! Thank you for sharing this because you really didn't have to but it shows that you're genuine. You already know what you need to do and that's focus on the number person in your life - you!! ***HUGZZZ***

    • @milattosweetnezz
      @milattosweetnezz Před 8 lety +1

      loooove you kara just watched your video yesterday! lol just sayin...& agreed. they looked SO PERFECT! but it's what's beyond the "hard cover" of the book... Nikki is perf! love BOTH your channels!☺😊

  • @mindyyfreshh
    @mindyyfreshh Před 8 lety +9

    It's so fucking bizarre that I had no idea within 2 weeks after this video I'd be getting broken up with as well. Your 2 videos on getting over a breakup couldnt have had better timing because Im honestly falling apart & I want to be as positive as you Nikki

  • @hazelleyu8402
    @hazelleyu8402 Před 7 lety +4

    Watching this after my own breakup from almost 4 years of relationship, and with the same story - he doesnt have feelings towards me anymore. Watching this helps so much especially considering now CG turned out to be a complete douchbag and youre happy on your own. Thankyou for the video

  • @mightyjey4
    @mightyjey4 Před 8 lety +112

    Just give it some time... Money is the root of all evil. You will be fine Nikki!

    • @youngmeloo90
      @youngmeloo90 Před 8 lety

      g

    • @Toastandbananas130
      @Toastandbananas130 Před 8 lety +3

      True. Money changes you. It honestly shows the true you. Once you have something that can get you whatever you want, the true you comes up. He made a mistake. Nikki loved him so much. He'll run out of money and see he made a mistake.

    • @jcortizrojas
      @jcortizrojas Před 8 lety +4

      that needs a correction. it is the LOVE of money that is the root of all evil. money in itself is neutral.

    • @eturcios1984
      @eturcios1984 Před 8 lety

      +j ortiz yup. exactly the love for money. one can do good with money help those who have less etc.

    • @Coldlegend214
      @Coldlegend214 Před 8 lety +1

      +j ortiz that's true bro very well said

  • @destructor5675
    @destructor5675 Před 8 lety +584

    You should date Rich Piano because that will confuse his wife, right babe?

  • @allpower96
    @allpower96 Před 8 lety +28

    To be 100% honest...when you started crying I did too...I'm proud of CG for all he's done and accomplished...but those are materialistic things that won't last forever. Love does, and I don't wanna be disrespectful or anything but he shoulda used the 80-20 rule. 80% into what should be most important and for me that would be what matters most ex: family, friends and and if you're in a relationship then with the person you love and care for most.. Then 20% into the business etc. keep your head up Nikki. We all love you and wish you the best, I hope you find someone who is as passionate into fitness as you are and will want to experience things with you and travel together and make memories cause those last long, ppl don't.

  • @shannonrose2
    @shannonrose2 Před 6 lety +1

    I watched this when you first released it but now watching it again as I'm in the exact position and seeing where you are now gives me light and hope that things can get better for me. Thankyou Nikki

  • @narutospupil1516
    @narutospupil1516 Před 8 lety +27

    This is what happens when you eat meat - Vegan Gains

    • @CultrCnnundrm
      @CultrCnnundrm Před 8 lety +1

      +Naruto's Pupil ok... now THAT is funny... amidst this really difficult topic...

  • @Smileovertherainbow
    @Smileovertherainbow Před 8 lety +15

    THE best, and most respectful way I've EVER seen someone communicate a breakup, you are an amazing women, with an amazing character and to see how you handled this, I just can't even stress enough how worth it of praise it is.

  • @sugarxospice3375
    @sugarxospice3375 Před 6 lety +1

    Seriously love everything you said in this video you did such an amazing job reflecting on your situation. Thank you for making this & being so transparent & real about your situation. I hope you get everything you want & then some & that your experience in this relationship launches you into something bigger & better because you are deserving of everything you want!!!!

  • @justinbaman1451
    @justinbaman1451 Před 7 lety

    Nikki this video resonates with everything that I have gone through with my past breakup, with the greatest love of my life. Thank you for uploading this. From the bottom of my heart.

  • @NiteSaiya
    @NiteSaiya Před 8 lety +60

    Wrong about the feelings. Feelings pass. That's what they do. No feeling is permanent. Life would be chaos if they didn't. Basing a relationship on emotions is the same as building it on quicksand. It'd going to go under eventually, because the emotions will change eventually. A committed relationship is built on dedication and shared goals rather than feelings. You find someone that wants to be in the same place you do in 10, 20, 30 years and work with each other to get there, even when it doesn't *feel* good. Even when it's not easy. Even when it doesn't just magically happen on its own.
    Apply gym mentality here: Who sees the best results? The person that works out only when they feel the burn to hit the weights, or the person who makes themselves do their sets week in and week out no matter how much they're feeling the workout? Basing a relationship on flighty feelings is like only going to the gym when you feel like it. Basing a relationship on goals and commitment is going to the gym on schedule every week even when your energy is low and you're stressed out.
    And one last thing: No one is "made for eachother". People change to fit each other over time. If you meet someone you're close to fitting already, that's fortunate, but it's no guarantee that the two of you won't change in ways that make you less of a match over time. It requires effort to stay synced up.

    • @DrauLienz
      @DrauLienz Před 8 lety +36

      no

    • @aroosashah10
      @aroosashah10 Před 8 lety +1

      wow

    • @helenapuellae527
      @helenapuellae527 Před 8 lety +1

      +Faux Mustache exactly!

    • @tapilaha
      @tapilaha Před 8 lety +1

      true

    • @rageskillet
      @rageskillet Před 8 lety +6

      +Faux Mustache agree with this. your relationship isn't going to be in the honeymoon phase forever. you can't end it once that excitement stops. you'll be breaking up with someone every 2 years.

  • @katel88
    @katel88 Před 8 lety +15

    Ladies, this just goes to show you that no matter how hot you are, men get bored.

    • @StebanHern
      @StebanHern Před 8 lety +1

      +katel88 Don't blame the player but the game. #StayHumble

    • @chasedorworth8502
      @chasedorworth8502 Před 8 lety

      +katel88 your right, im always getting bored of girls im with, once you get bored you dump them and move on the next chick

    • @smallbunny1772
      @smallbunny1772 Před 8 lety

      just proves that the heart inside is most valuable and worth looking for

  • @marinanastepniak
    @marinanastepniak Před 7 lety +2

    This is so inspiring. Currently going through this process myself. I know this was a while ago for you, but it's good to see that you are talking positively!

  • @katecrane9771
    @katecrane9771 Před 7 lety

    Thank you for sharing. I have never related to something more and finding this was truly what my heart needed today. Thank you.

  • @Juxer_SC
    @Juxer_SC Před 8 lety +16

    What a cool girl. Somewhere down the line he'll realize he fucked up royally.

    • @MrRossT1
      @MrRossT1 Před 8 lety

      +GabezNsane Doubt it! Plenty of fish in the sea!

  • @FishyDrizzy
    @FishyDrizzy Před 8 lety +22

    CG really messed up on this one..leaving such an awesome person

  • @brittanyb8255
    @brittanyb8255 Před 8 lety

    These videos are exactly what I need right now..thank you so much for your inspiration!

  • @adrivetro3788
    @adrivetro3788 Před 5 lety +1

    Watching this in 2019 after my breakup and you helped me so much with this video. Thank you Nikki!

  • @JaretCampisi
    @JaretCampisi Před 8 lety +50

    Damn Nikki...sorry to hear that. I went through a break up with a women I dated for 17 years...and I thought there was no way I could live without her, but I did. And not only did I, I've been flourishing more than I have in my entire life. Take time to focus more on yourself and put yourself first for a while. Things will get better with time. Sending love from California.

  • @play27boy
    @play27boy Před 8 lety +28

    Wow this is crazy my be just broke up with me today! I'm so happy you posted this makes me not feel alone. Love your videos!

  • @LexaTerrestrialx
    @LexaTerrestrialx Před 7 lety +8

    this is why i don't really look for relationships anymore or put my whole heart / time into people. i like being on my own.. no one will ever leave me.
    it's nice having someone there to share it with. but i feel like everything in life is temporary.. so what comes will come.

  • @itsmymy_xo
    @itsmymy_xo Před 6 lety +2

    Nikki you don’t know how much this video is helping me through my own relationship issues right now and I want to thank you so much for sharing your story❤️

  • @boredyification
    @boredyification Před 8 lety +151

    well i did not expect this video

    • @sg3109
      @sg3109 Před 8 lety +1

      right

    • @ZachTW
      @ZachTW Před 8 lety

      +Austin Bannister me neither

  • @GRIMZY
    @GRIMZY Před 8 lety +32

    After watching this video then watching christian last video he uploaded you can tell how obsessed he is with money & materialistic things.... no amount of money or success is going to replace nikki hes made such a big mistake.

    • @Najib99
      @Najib99 Před 8 lety

      He did make a huge mistake

    • @kellyacosta6274
      @kellyacosta6274 Před 8 lety

      i agree !!

    • @1BraeMckin1
      @1BraeMckin1 Před 8 lety

      +GRIMZY after seeing that video + their snapchats. it was super obvious there was problems. that break was 100% because of the break up.

    • @danielarodriguez4524
      @danielarodriguez4524 Před 8 lety

      It's called being ambitious

  • @riosruizcecilia
    @riosruizcecilia Před 6 lety +30

    Nikky I Must say I got to this video by watching an old Christian video and honestly breaking up seems to be the best thing that ever happened to you. There is something about him that doesnt feel right and you instead look so genuine. Keep it up girl glad to see you happy again.

  • @jessf9745
    @jessf9745 Před 6 lety +1

    Nikki, I have been through 2 different breakups since you made this video and each time I have watched this video. It reminds me how my feelings are only temporary and I have so much to look forward to. thank you for sharing these moments with us

  • @ObrosFitness
    @ObrosFitness Před 8 lety +23

    The fact that Nikki is here crying in a park putting up a CZcams video about the breakup and Guzman is in Colorado with his friends snowboarding says enough already.... And this is coming from a guys perspective. Stay strong the bigger the fall the higher the bounce and just know that everyone is here supporting you. All the best.

  • @EmDunc
    @EmDunc Před 8 lety +24

    I'm so proud of you for making this. You have not only helped me personally, but I know you will help thousands of others by sharing your experiences and being vulnerable and human

  • @aj0293
    @aj0293 Před 8 lety

    Thank you for posting this video. I am also going through a breakup right now, and as much as it sucks, it's almost comforting to know that I'm not alone. That someone is going through the same thing. Stay strong. You are such a beautiful person and I know the best is yet to come for you :-)

  • @AmberBamber27
    @AmberBamber27 Před 8 lety +132

    I recently broke up with my ex, well he broke up with me. We had gotten back together after I had broken up with him initially. Lesson learned: don't ever get back together with an ex!

  • @ConnieBea
    @ConnieBea Před 8 lety +29

    Why do I physically just want to hug you and tell you to stay strong?

    • @Kat-g3d
      @Kat-g3d Před 8 lety

      Right! Totally felt that way especially when she started to tear up 😦 how she talked, it really felt like she'll be very strong. Wishing you the best Nikki!

  • @craigjw87
    @craigjw87 Před 8 lety +25

    Sorry to say but he has fallen out of love with you because he is more and more in love with himself, like the Ancient Greek story of Narcissus. All of his content is about, "Look at me, look at my car, look at my house, look at my new flashy gym"...all the product of material wealth and of which will deteriorate. Unfortunately you can't acquire love with money, perhaps he's lost his best asset of all in the process.

  • @ItsDalyLife
    @ItsDalyLife Před 8 lety +16

    So sorry Nikki. Hang in there. You are a wonderful person, you are an inspiration, and you are independent. ❤️

  • @danaclaire127
    @danaclaire127 Před 8 lety +150

    I don't think I've ever seen more honesty in a CZcams video, ever.

  • @MykayyyPete
    @MykayyyPete Před 8 lety +702

    go date maxx chewning lol

  • @BasementBrandon
    @BasementBrandon Před 8 lety +39

    Sorry to hear, didn't see this coming. As personal as this stuff is, I'm sure getting it out on camera was a good release. While the situation is not ideal, I think you'll find out you become a better person because of it.

    • @Michaelsp9
      @Michaelsp9 Před 8 lety +4

      just a mature comment from such an immature man. twas beautiful :')

  • @natalieswanson2868
    @natalieswanson2868 Před 8 lety

    Thank you for posting this! I am going through such a hard time with my heartbreak and don't have too many friends to talk about this! Wishing you all the best and i really hope you make a series about this because a lot of us are going through this and need some words of guidance!

  • @BabyluvO09
    @BabyluvO09 Před 5 lety

    Randomly came across this video. Love it! Thank you for this!

  • @KeelyBennett
    @KeelyBennett Před 8 lety +13

    I can't imagine opening up like this to hundreds of thousands of subscribers. You're brave and strong. You're a really great example

  • @havenj9145ify
    @havenj9145ify Před 8 lety +22

    His loss. Explains why he got off CZcams.

  • @southerngirl6595
    @southerngirl6595 Před 8 lety

    Every single word you said is exactly what just happened to me, and how I've felt since my last break up. It hasn't even been two months yet, but I can already see such improvement in myself and my happiness. Love you girl!! You're such an inspiration!

  • @allan2oo7
    @allan2oo7 Před 8 lety +1

    You don't know how fucking awesome is to share your feelings like that. Too many people think they're not good enough, when the other doesnt value enough. And in the early twanies you really change a lot. It's hard to be together with someone who feel the same, imagine someone who doesnt. I dont wartch a lot of videos, but THANK YOU VERY MUCH for this one.

  • @danrivers1949
    @danrivers1949 Před 8 lety +67

    People are always changing their whole life relationship are hard! Focus on yourself

  • @jaredsheldon3496
    @jaredsheldon3496 Před 8 lety +25

    Nikki if you need a shoulder to cry on or a face to sit on, i'm your guy

  • @arianna_moore
    @arianna_moore Před 6 lety +1

    Literally went through the same exact thing a year ago. So great to see you're doing SO MUCH better now! :)

  • @jenniferolafson4326
    @jenniferolafson4326 Před 6 lety +5

    Damn. This puts me in the feels. Makes me so happy seeing how far she's come since this.

  • @Davronabz
    @Davronabz Před 8 lety +209

    First LOA then POG now this.... Inb4 rich piana and Sara break up next....

    • @Jhizzy04
      @Jhizzy04 Před 8 lety +12

      God dammit

    • @monstarzkg
      @monstarzkg Před 8 lety

      LOA

    • @monstarzkg
      @monstarzkg Před 8 lety

      ???

    • @TheJLAMAR23
      @TheJLAMAR23 Před 8 lety +1

      +Kevin Garcia legends of aesthetics. It was Chris lavado and Matt ogus' thing for a while

    • @richpiranha5363
      @richpiranha5363 Před 8 lety +25

      I'm going to break up with Sara, then get back with her 5 years later, gotta confuse the marriage, keep it guessing, yep #Whateverittakesgodamnitthebestpossiblescenario.

  • @FraserMacDonald99
    @FraserMacDonald99 Před 8 lety +29

    This is the most mature and well-spoken that you've ever sounded, Nikki. Sometimes when change happens (even a painful change), it can lift a heavy weight from your shoulders and you can just be free to express yourself without pretense.

  • @BeccaAlberti
    @BeccaAlberti Před 7 lety

    The same exact thing just happened to me a month ago, thank you so much for this video, I needed it today❤️ Keep killin it with life Nikki ! so excited for your Gymshark Line to come out today in 2 hours !!! 😁 keep inspiring and doing you!

  • @Erica-yq6dk
    @Erica-yq6dk Před 5 lety +2

    Couldn’t relate more to this video and everything you were going through. I always thought it’d never happen to me but it freakin was the worst, and still is, time of my life