I admire that you did what was best for you, and gave yourself time to process it. Glad you were able to remain friends + can't wait for the juicy Q+A!
This was not the break up video I was expecting, but I am pleasantly surprised this is how you're sharing it with us. Honestly, this was refreshing - you can really see your personal growth recently and you look so genuinely happy and positive. Break ups SUCK but they really do teach you so much about yourself and life in general.
I think you made a great decision to process the breakup before telling us about it. It shows a lot of maturity about the situation and awareness of Miles also. Glad you two are still great friends!!
You’re not the break up video girl you’re a normal girl in her 20’s who lives and learns. Everything happens for a reason. Always. Always. Always. You don’t owe anyone anything ever. Remember that. Love you forever ❤️
She's almost 30, stop making excuses for her. She could have been dating a guy that had a good job and a career, but she chose him instead. She needs to date better guys.
i highly love the fact that you waited to tell everyone like yeah it was obvious that y’all broke up but the way you waited to tell everyone because you didn’t want the attention makes you such a real and genuine person. i love you nikki ❤️
watching this breakup video vs the christian breakup video (what? like 2 years ago?) just shows how insanely mature and how much you've grown since then GO U NIKKI
dont ever fee bad or like you owe anyone anything. You're allowed to have a private life and take time for yourself. As long as you're happy, that's what matters!!!!
Gurl you didn't even owe us a breakup video (although I'm sure you felt that way with all of our questions). But what a lovely and respectable way to handle this. I'm glad you have each other as friends. ❤️
I do feel like most long term relationships kind of start feeling like how you guys started to feel. I’ve been married since I was 19 and I’m 26 now and if I said there weren’t times we just felt like friends or roommates I’d be lying. I think that’s kind of how it gets when you’re with someone for a while and always around them. My husband gets on my nerves like crazy sometimes. I think it’s easy for people to end relationships because the honey moon phase is over. (I’m not saying this regarding you and Miles because clearly we don’t know the ins and outs of your relationship) but sometimes when you start feeling that way about someone, maybe being bored or whatever, that’s when you gotta spice it up. This video just made me think of that because I’ve gone through it numerous times with my hubby. It’s different also because I’ve committed to him as in marrying him. Just saying relationships are hard and I get where you’re coming from. Thanks for being honest with us, we love you ❤️
SarahAnn I agree! I’ve been with my guy for 8 years. Sometimes you have to stop and remember to appreciate the one your with. Finding someone you can live with their “flaws” is important for a lifelong relationship!
Yes! You have to CHOOSE to love each other every day. And some days it takes a lot more convincing than others ahah. But that’s a long term relationship for ya
Marina M for sure. And you’re SUPPOSED to be with your best friend! Thats the goal in my opinion. When you’re young is when you choose who you grow old with. Who you can tolerate for years to come 😂
Even though it was obvious, you owe no one an explanation. You have the right to a private life and to do what's best for you. Keep being you, you are great Nikki!! Much love!!
I went back and re-watched your break up video like 3 times this past spring and it helped me soooo much with my break up. Thank you so much for always being real and honest with us
Girl, I have a ton of respect for you for keeping the breakup private for as long as you did. It speaks so much on your character, especially since most people give away every personal life detail on social media. I'm happy to hear that you're both doing well as individuals and that life is good. Sending nothing but love your way!
Loved you guys together...the chemistry, the wit, the aesthetic, etc. But alas, it was only a bird's eye view. You never know what the future holds. Wishing you both the best individually. ❤
Never feel like you owe anyone an explanation for what you do in your life, especially those who have no part of it (as much as us fans are a part of it in a way). Total respect to you both for keeping amicable, there's no better feeling than that and being able to keep your best friend! Keep being you! 😍🤩
I broke up with my bf when Nikki broke up with C, now she broke up the same month I broke up with my other bf too. Nikki, contact me to organize our next brake up, pls.
During your very public break up I was going through a divorce. I appreciate that you basically helped me through that. You’re not obligated to tell us anything...unless you and Bradley Cooper finally realize you’re meant to be lol. Love from Texas 🙌🏽✨❤️
Sooo much respect for you girl. I won't lie, I was so curious, but I think it's so admirable of you to wait and allow yourself and the other person to process things before sharing it with the world. And that's amazing that you guys figured out how to maximize your friendship by taking away the relationship aspect. So happy for you!
I've always believed that before any other type of relationship, the most valuable one is the friendship one. When all else fails, a friend is the last thing we should lose. That's how we all start with at some point, all added intimacy beyond that is a bonus, but friendship is the root of all relationships. 🙏
Yup my sister has had the same experience in a way. My sister and this guy tried dating several times and it never worked, and finally they ended it and lived separately for a bit. But they realized they work together AMAZINGLY as best friends, and are even back to living together (although that's more to do with my sister's current finacial situation, but then I guess that's even more proof of their friendship). So yea! Sometimes you think you're really into a guy, and maybe you are attracted to them and such, but then you slowly realize that the expectations of a romantic relationship are way heavier than that of best friends, and at the end of the day you really just jive with their personality, but aren't really compatible romantically.
Girl !! We kind of got the clues but I feel like you did an amazing job explaining you don’t owe us anymore you don’t have to either way because we’ve been there as in we go threw a break up and we keep it to ourselves and it’s so okay !! May you guys be the way that you are now and don’t let anything or anyone tell you differently we love you & were here to LISTEN & not question you 🥰😘
To be honest your breakup video was the first video I watched from you but I just related to it a lot at the time and all it lead me to do was go and watch all your other videos!
You are not the breakup video girl...we all go through breakups etc. Thank you for being yourself, for always being genuine and just know that love will come at its time. Enjoy life and focus on you! ❤
I definitely don’t think you’re the break up girl. We all are going through relationships and breakups. We just aren’t all having to deal with it as a big CZcamsr. You’re allowed to go through this stuff, and if anyone tells you any different, they can kick rocks.
Low key wish Miles would be more into social media or start his own CZcams. I really enjoy his personality. Glad you guys are still friends and wish you both all the happiness 💕
You don’t owe any one the details, an explanation or anything. It’s your life. Share what you want. Don’t share what you don’t want to. You don’t owe your subscribers anything. Personal stuff sucks and sometimes you need to go through it yourself offline.
But all CZcamsrs think they have to share the break of the marriage all that stuff I look at it as this way if they broke up that's their business their need to talk about it. It's like when you go to work and you break up with somebody you're not telling your whole company. I broke up with my wife or broke up with my boyfriend you don't say that. The whole time I've been on CZcams never once told people I broke up with somebody the most of time I don't put them in the videos
you seem so much stronger and yourself now! I respect how well you have approached the whole situation. Watching your other break up video I literally cried with you because i could feel how sad you were. I am so happy for you and all the progress you've made :)
First off, you don’t owe an explanation to anyone just know that. Relationships are hard for sure and even harder when everyone wants to know what’s going on. I think your video did so good because we look for someone to relate to, and it’s amazing when it’s someone we look up to. I don’t comment on your videos too often, but I wanted to let you know that watching your last breakup honestly helped me with a breakup that I went through. We all go through breakups. You’re not the breakup girl. I’m sure it’s not easy having this in the public eye, but just know that this video will probably help someone out there, like your last one helped me❤️ Thank you Nikki❤️
I'm glad you took time for yourself and please dont ever feel that you owe anyone an explanation, the most important thing is that you are doing good 💓You are Awesome 🍍🍍
Ily, I’ve literally been dwelling this weekend on my break up that ended a month ago. This video and your positivity gives me so much comfort and support. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but I’m so glad y’all are good. Being friends with an ex can be a really great thing.
Sometimes a person is right for right now- and they are the person you need for now, but that time eventually passes. Both of you guys will go on and find your special somones for life, and the past relationships helps you be the person you needed to be.
Nikki you are utterly amazing♡ I love watching your growth and how your personality just shines through! You're going to find your person but theres never any rush! You know you have a whole network of support backing you up!! Love you Nikki and always wishing great things for you♡♡
I found your channel from your infamous break up video and it helped me through my first big break up. I recently went through another break up this year in July and I referenced back to your video again. Needless to say I’m glad that first video exists and I enjoy the raw talking videos like the ones you’ve been doing lately.
So proud of you - woman to woman ❤😊 you dealt with it so wisely and maturely, and it's important to gracefully let go of things that aren't meant for us - expectations can be so tricky, have you ever read "The 5 Love Languages"? It's incredibly insightful - for example, my husband is a Pisces and his love language is "acts of service" so since I know that about him, I have to take his acts of service towards me as demonstrations of his love...whereas I might miss those demonstrations if I only consider what he does in *my* love language to be showing his love toward me. And mine are "quality time" and "words of affirmation" - mine are more focused on verbal communication, whereas his are more focused on non-verbal. So he puts a little extra effort in showing me love in my language, and I give a little extra effort in showing him love in his, and we're both considerate of the other's "native" language, so to speak, so we aren't missing those demonstrations of love either 😊 Sorry for the long comment LOL that book has just been integral in my understanding regarding relationships and communication, and it's a short easy read so that's awesome too LOL
I think this is really important for couples to understand, may help couples avoid mitigate a lot of heartache and confusion. I also think learning to acceot people for who they are is integral to having a successful relationship. I know that it took me years to fully accept somethings about my boyfriend, but out relationshio is better for it, and I am so much happier.
Omg, thank you so much girlfriend for sharing this. I’m just reading through comments ( liking the ones I agree with since I have nothing better to do lol) and your explanation of love language was extremely insightful. Your example of your relationship reminded me of my mine. The meaning of love is different in my ex’s perspective and mine. I thought it meant we’d never mix well, but if you can have a healthy relationship than maybe he an I can too. He’s still patiently waiting for me... Im going to check out that book you recommended. Hopefully learn a bit more about myself... I figured I caused us issues or we just didn’t mix but this definitely making sense now. Sorry for the long rant haha. Just wanted to say thank you.
@@TravelsWithLari You're most welcome beautiful! You are absolutely right, even when people have completely different love languages, it doesn't mean the relationship won't work. It may take more work to communicate and figure each other out, yes, but a lot of times complete opposites match better than those who are more similar, it just totally depends on the people involved! Best wishes in your relationship, love, and I hope you find the book as insightful and priceless as I have! 😊❤
This is very cool Nikki, I akways saw true love between the two of you but love isn't only romantic. This is awesome that you still good friends... We love Miles too. Cheers to you handling this like a pro and putting yourself first. 😉😜😘💕
Welp we already knew that. We just wanted to hear you say it 😂😂 but I hope you’re relived to have addressed the elephant! 🐘 Makeup or not you are beautiful!
MacyKitty2 I was wondering if maybe he had to be off her social media due to some music thing he has in the works or something. I’m glad she finally gave some clarification!
I think it’s great that you let things sit for a while and let yourself process it all. Relationships are such a strange things, everyone gets so caught up with projections of what they think the other person should be. People need to remember to allow space for each other as individuals within those relationships. There’s no magical way to make relationships work, it’s a choice to do it because it’s what you want. Sometimes things don’t work out. Sometimes there’s situations where two people just grow apart. It’s so stigmatized when people break up like somebody did something horrible to cause it. They need to know why it happened and that answer has to be wrought with tension when it often times is just that two people don’t mesh. You’ve just got to focus on the ideas of who you are and your core values through it all to get that little nugget of knowledge from it. Relationships teach us so much about ourselves!
Nikki you will find your significant other. He wasn't for you. But I'm confident that you find that person and be happy for eternity. You are a person with a beautiful heart. Inside and out. I hope you have a nice day.
What to Expect When You Fall for the Girl Who's Used to Never Needing Anyone i.e. the strong independent type like Nikki. There is alot to know about this type of woman and it's often the reason why men struggle in believing they can have and keep a woman. Many men find it too challenging. It's the most attractive type of girl in my opinion. This is what to expect when you fall for the girl who is used to NEVER needing anyone: She comes across as a paradoxical mix of outgoing but introverted, very social but seldom out. When you’re so used to not needing anyone, you know exactly who you are, and she’ll never fake anything because of it. This makes maintaining relationships a constant struggle for her. She’ll connect with many, and they’ll quickly feel comfortable with her, but it takes her a while to feel fully comfortable, so she can only take being around others incrementally. This might frustrate you. There seem to be so many walls to break down. Just when you start to feel like you’re figuring her out - you find another piece to the puzzle that throws everything off. Be patient. She’s this tough because she had to be. Something happened that taught her to never need anyone. Someone she needed left before she was done needing them. But none of this will spill out easily. She’s extremely uncomfortable with other people seeing her vulnerable or in pain. Her emotions and pain are hers, and this is what she’s used to. She’ll tell herself she doesn’t need you. She’ll make situations worse by trying to suppress her feelings about them. When you fall for the girl who’s used to not needing anyone, believe that she has more feelings and layers than she knows what to do with. Her instinct will be to try to compose herself. When she does open up to you, it’s everything. Being emotionally naked with someone is how she expresses her love. She’ll know exactly who she is and what she wants. When you’re used to not needing anyone, you do what you want, when you want, and without asking permission or informing anyone. She loves this part of her identity, but she secretly wants you to confront her. She’s hoping that sometimes, you’ll put your foot down, and challenge her stubborn ways. She’s strong, maybe even too strong for you at first. Don’t let this fool you. This is her outer shell. Her armor. She is so used to taking care of herself that it's going to be hard for her to let someone else in. It took a lot of work to get to where she is: Independent, taking no shit and being happy on her own. She's afraid to let you in because she's afraid of what will happen if you might leave. I can promise you it won’t be easy, she’ll hang on to her walls for as long as she can. She will be enigmatic. She will always want things her way, and she’ll fight you when she doesn’t get it. She’ll even try to push you away. This is how she protects herself. But when you really get to know her, she’ll be the girl who will change your life. Don’t always give in to her, but be patient with her. She’s strong, but she’s also scared - scared of love, scared of needing someone, and definitely scared of you. Because even if she says she doesn’t need you, at her core she is just a girl who has more love than she knows what to do with.
I totally respect you not jumping to tell someone you broke up! My very first boyfriend we were on and off for months after driving everyone crazy with the will they won’t they! Like you said, you still were processing, still trying to figure out what you guys were going to do
Happy that everything’s good between you two, shown that you’ve grown as a person for not jumping on here and talking about it when it happened, so proud ❤️
Much respect for you. I think it's a good idea to process your breakups minus people's opinions. And I can totally see you guys being friends. BTW you are slaying vlogmas.
Hello Nikki, as a guy somehow I really enjoy your videos. I became aware of you from way back when in cringemans videos, I’ve been “following” you ever since (& not him anymore) & admire & appreciate your success & I also think you thoroughly deserve it all x So I have a genuine & serious question for you!?! (And it’s this).............. do you think that your social media status is somehow contributing to your relationship issues? I mean you could absolutely bag any guy you wish for many many reasons & as a guy I guess that could be a little intimidating! Anyway you are beautiful & Myles is cool AF so I wish you both the best in whatever & wherever go,...........Merry Christmas x
My significant other and I also broke up in June. We are just now beginning to tell family and friends. You are right ! It is important to allow yourself time to process emotions. Through keeping our business private in the beginning, it’s allowed us to stay best friends.
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The amount of respect you show towards yourself and to those around you is extremely refreshing. I really admire how maturely you handle things and how honest and genuine you are.
My husband & I dated for 2 years then we were absolute best friends for a couple years + now we’ve been married 7 years! Sometimes you just need time apart to grow as a person + figure out what you want/need to make yourself happy first. So much respect for not using your relationships for views & stuff like a lot of creators do. It’s refreshing to see someone who is so raw + real like you are. 💓✨
Kyle if you don’t mind me asking. How did you manage that? I feel like I’m going through something similar but it’s weird because how do you remain best friends with someone you are in love with? Like what if they find someone else later but you still love them... it’s almost like a double heart break.
Tre Bell honestly at first it was tough, we even both dated different people during that time. But we realized that through every change in our life we always called on one another + we’re there for each other no matter what. We didn’t talk a lot about our relationships we were in at the time, but still had respect for the others relationship. We’ve always been really close & we knew at the time we wanted different things in life. We matured a lot over those 2 years we weren’t together, but we also knew if we were meant to be together then it would happen. Anytime something major happened in our life during those times we realized that we would always rely on each other & no matter what we didn’t want to lose the connection we’ve always had so we broke off our relationships bc it wasn’t fair to our SOs & gave ourselves about 4-5 months to be single & find out what we truly wanted & eventually it led us to being together & we haven’t left each other since. Within a year of being back together we had two amazing little boys & got married. It was like at the point we ended up back together it’s like it’s what was meant to happen. Everything fell into place perfectly + our relationship was so different than it was before, but so much better. We had both grew up & matured so we knew how to love each other fully + not let anything else come in the way.
I was actually hoping that this was the situation, and the reason why you have been silent. I'm so glad that you have stayed friends! You look so happy about it! probably this is the best possible ending for you. Sending you all the hugs Nikki, love you !!!
You handled it exactly how you needed to. Outside perspective on it- you handed the entire situation great and you have shown people a good example on how to handle a breakup like an adult. You didn't owe the entire internet anything in regards to an explanation on your private life. Aside from that, I look at relationships/friendships this way - they come in to our lives to teach us something or help us grow in some way, or sometimes we teach them something or help them grow. Sounds like some growing happened from that relationship and that is always a good thing. Evolve on a daily basis!
Honestly I thought it was obvious that you and Miles broke up, and I always had a feeling that you two were still friends. Anyways I'm glad you're both doing well 😁
I just assumed you guys weren’t together cause he disappeared off the vlogs. I am happy that you guys are still friends though, not every relationship is meant to be forever and embrace what you had and what you still have. Lots of love, loving your vlogmas!!
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable about your relationships. ❤️ your videos... It's awesome that yall can be adult enough to still be friends and not have the drama but still support each other!
Good for you! What a well-spoken video! You owe the internet nothing and it is completely okay to have a private life. Great job! I remember your video 2 years ago and I was also experiencing the exact same thing at the time making it very relatable. Love watching your videos!
For the q&a: do you guys still have the “benefits” part of the relationship 🥰😛... or just totally friends. Have you guys talked about if one of you starts dating etc if you’ll still be friends?
I hate that youtubers feel obligated to tell us their personal business. I mean, yeah we'd all be confused if you never said anything, and then we just randomly stopped seeing him around, after your vlogs looked like everything was perfectly fine. But it's your personal business after all. I do appreciate you letting us know the deets, but never feel like you have to. Break ups are hard to talk about. It's like reliving the day it happend. My ex and I broke up 10 months ago. It took me 7 months to completely get over it, and I had everyone constantly asking about him after I changed my relationship status on fb, but didn't post about more deets after that, because it was a difficult break up. There was a lot of isolation. I didn't even tell my closest friends about it for a long time. Love you, Nikki. I am glad you two are still friends. He seemed like a really nice, supportive person in your life. ❤
Coming from a bad relationship in the past and seeing such a great caring way to break up with your ex and a beyond mature one is honestly very pleasant. It makes my heart feel full and happy for you Nikki that I feel like you are at a very healthy and stable part of your life! I hope you continue to grow and into an even more beautiful person!
wow i honestly love you so much😭i love that you two are still friends, honestly i feel like that’s so rare nowadays which sucks cause this is obviously a more mature way of handling things. Thanks for being so real i look up to u a lot bb 😤💘
Do not ever let it get you down!!🍍🍍🍍 Nikki B..it does not matter...if someone walks from you,they're not your destiny.. God knows your heart like no one else.( Even better than you do). God has someone for you, perfect for you! You're a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart and you just focus on yourself and Max. We all love you and none of this matters..what matters is that you're happy with someone that deserves you.. it will happen at the right time
Almost two weeks late but I'm so happy you two are friends and most importantly, that you're happy. My boyfriend and I broke up in October, and we've been able to remain friends and talk almost every day still!
Just started THIS video, but your first breakup video did help me SOOO much!! I was going through the heartbreak of the century when you posted it, and it helped me so much. Love you so much Nikki!!!
I admire that you did what was best for you, and gave yourself time to process it. Glad you were able to remain friends + can't wait for the juicy Q+A!
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This was not the break up video I was expecting, but I am pleasantly surprised this is how you're sharing it with us. Honestly, this was refreshing - you can really see your personal growth recently and you look so genuinely happy and positive. Break ups SUCK but they really do teach you so much about yourself and life in general.
Agreed!
I think you made a great decision to process the breakup before telling us about it. It shows a lot of maturity about the situation and awareness of Miles also. Glad you two are still great friends!!
Yes! I totally agree!
The reason it gets the most views is:
For the ladies: It’s something real & raw they can relate to.
For the gents: There’s hope.
epicbehavior AND because the followers from the guys side watches too to get a full perspective!
kelly0395 yep
So basically she’s saying there’s still a chance
Gross
Hope for what?
You’re not the break up video girl you’re a normal girl in her 20’s who lives and learns. Everything happens for a reason. Always. Always. Always. You don’t owe anyone anything ever. Remember that. Love you forever ❤️
She's almost 30, stop making excuses for her. She could have been dating a guy that had a good job and a career, but she chose him instead. She needs to date better guys.
Yes ♥️
Omg Chuck shut up
i highly love the fact that you waited to tell everyone like yeah it was obvious that y’all broke up but the way you waited to tell everyone because you didn’t want the attention makes you such a real and genuine person. i love you nikki ❤️
watching this breakup video vs the christian breakup video (what? like 2 years ago?) just shows how insanely mature and how much you've grown since then GO U NIKKI
dont ever fee bad or like you owe anyone anything. You're allowed to have a private life and take time for yourself. As long as you're happy, that's what matters!!!!
Jen!!! Love you!!!! Random but my two favorite ladies. Yessss!
Girl, I thought the same thing! You never need to explain something this personal to anyone. We love you no matter what!
1:14 girl you will never be known or remembered for just that “break up video” love the FUDGE out of you ❤️
Shoutout to the fans that respect your privacy and don’t constantly ask where man is even though it’s obvious he’s not around anymore ☺️🤗
Gurl you didn't even owe us a breakup video (although I'm sure you felt that way with all of our questions). But what a lovely and respectable way to handle this. I'm glad you have each other as friends. ❤️
I do feel like most long term relationships kind of start feeling like how you guys started to feel. I’ve been married since I was 19 and I’m 26 now and if I said there weren’t times we just felt like friends or roommates I’d be lying. I think that’s kind of how it gets when you’re with someone for a while and always around them. My husband gets on my nerves like crazy sometimes. I think it’s easy for people to end relationships because the honey moon phase is over. (I’m not saying this regarding you and Miles because clearly we don’t know the ins and outs of your relationship) but sometimes when you start feeling that way about someone, maybe being bored or whatever, that’s when you gotta spice it up. This video just made me think of that because I’ve gone through it numerous times with my hubby. It’s different also because I’ve committed to him as in marrying him. Just saying relationships are hard and I get where you’re coming from. Thanks for being honest with us, we love you ❤️
SarahAnn I agree! I’ve been with my guy for 8 years. Sometimes you have to stop and remember to appreciate the one your with. Finding someone you can live with their “flaws” is important for a lifelong relationship!
Ashlynn Eckert absolutely! I agree!
Yes! You have to CHOOSE to love each other every day. And some days it takes a lot more convincing than others ahah. But that’s a long term relationship for ya
Marina M for sure. And you’re SUPPOSED to be with your best friend! Thats the goal in my opinion. When you’re young is when you choose who you grow old with. Who you can tolerate for years to come 😂
Yes. Agreed!
I think friendship is a beautiful relationship.
You are definitely not “the breakup video girl”
I think you keep things real and are incredibly genuine. 🤗
Glad y’all remained friends and that you’re happy❤️
Even though it was obvious, you owe no one an explanation. You have the right to a private life and to do what's best for you. Keep being you, you are great Nikki!! Much love!!
I went back and re-watched your break up video like 3 times this past spring and it helped me soooo much with my break up. Thank you so much for always being real and honest with us
I admire your vulnerability. ♥️ thanks for staying strong
Girl, I have a ton of respect for you for keeping the breakup private for as long as you did. It speaks so much on your character, especially since most people give away every personal life detail on social media. I'm happy to hear that you're both doing well as individuals and that life is good. Sending nothing but love your way!
A CZcamsr with no clickbait ❤️
thank the gods!! 😍
A rare gem!
Loved you guys together...the chemistry, the wit, the aesthetic, etc. But alas, it was only a bird's eye view. You never know what the future holds. Wishing you both the best individually. ❤
Brandy very well said! Agreed hope Nikki is happy 😊
Never feel like you owe anyone an explanation for what you do in your life, especially those who have no part of it (as much as us fans are a part of it in a way). Total respect to you both for keeping amicable, there's no better feeling than that and being able to keep your best friend!
Keep being you! 😍🤩
I broke up with my bf when Nikki broke up with C, now she broke up the same month I broke up with my other bf too. Nikki, contact me to organize our next brake up, pls.
Melissa Galván being desperate enough to date you must be suicidal
I thrive to have this maturity in all of my relationships. Loved this 💛
During your very public break up I was going through a divorce. I appreciate that you basically helped me through that. You’re not obligated to tell us anything...unless you and Bradley Cooper finally realize you’re meant to be lol. Love from Texas 🙌🏽✨❤️
Whoops I meant Bradley Martyn! Anyway, happy holidays girl ☺️✨
Would you and Miles be willing to do a light hearted couples-Q&A-style “Exes Q&A”? Now THAT would be some damn content
lol, yea I'm sure he'd be down to do stuff like that actually 😂
Hell yes lmao looking forward to it😂
Yes!!!!! 😍
Sooo much respect for you girl. I won't lie, I was so curious, but I think it's so admirable of you to wait and allow yourself and the other person to process things before sharing it with the world. And that's amazing that you guys figured out how to maximize your friendship by taking away the relationship aspect. So happy for you!
Good for you guys very adult break up. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. Nbd
I've always believed that before any other type of relationship, the most valuable one is the friendship one. When all else fails, a friend is the last thing we should lose. That's how we all start with at some point, all added intimacy beyond that is a bonus, but friendship is the root of all relationships. 🙏
Don’t ever break up with us Nikki!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Sami’s TattooRemovalChannel *screaming*
@CHB2 all straight dudes want a date with Texas beauty Nikki Blackketter. And the gay ones want her for a bff(or so I'm told).
@@rubyred93chevI love Nikki 💓🤩😍
Yup my sister has had the same experience in a way. My sister and this guy tried dating several times and it never worked, and finally they ended it and lived separately for a bit. But they realized they work together AMAZINGLY as best friends, and are even back to living together (although that's more to do with my sister's current finacial situation, but then I guess that's even more proof of their friendship). So yea! Sometimes you think you're really into a guy, and maybe you are attracted to them and such, but then you slowly realize that the expectations of a romantic relationship are way heavier than that of best friends, and at the end of the day you really just jive with their personality, but aren't really compatible romantically.
Girl !! We kind of got the clues but I feel like you did an amazing job explaining you don’t owe us anymore you don’t have to either way because we’ve been there as in we go threw a break up and we keep it to ourselves and it’s so okay !! May you guys be the way that you are now and don’t let anything or anyone tell you differently we love you & were here to LISTEN & not question you 🥰😘
Do a video on your creepy DM's 🤣
That would be very entertaining to watch!
Jessica Fougere dear lord PLEASE
Please do it would be so funny!!
I wanna see that lol
I’m glad you took your time and kept your relationship not as public as before. Here for you always! 💜
To be honest your breakup video was the first video I watched from you but I just related to it a lot at the time and all it lead me to do was go and watch all your other videos!
omg, same here. after watching her break up video I gained so much respect for her and starting following her
Lol when anyone starts with “what had happened was... “
Peace and Love
You are not the breakup video girl...we all go through breakups etc. Thank you for being yourself, for always being genuine and just know that love will come at its time. Enjoy life and focus on you! ❤
I came here so fast I almost broke my back!
MeeMee Love 🤣
MeeMee Love 🤣🤣
MeeMee Love your comment truly made me laugh. 🤣
I definitely don’t think you’re the break up girl. We all are going through relationships and breakups. We just aren’t all having to deal with it as a big CZcamsr. You’re allowed to go through this stuff, and if anyone tells you any different, they can kick rocks.
She keeps dating the wrong guys, she's almost 30.
Low key wish Miles would be more into social media or start his own CZcams. I really enjoy his personality. Glad you guys are still friends and wish you both all the happiness 💕
I'm so glad this breakup went the way it did. Cudos to both of you for being mature about it. Glad you two are still friends. ❤
You don’t owe any one the details, an explanation or anything. It’s your life. Share what you want. Don’t share what you don’t want to. You don’t owe your subscribers anything. Personal stuff sucks and sometimes you need to go through it yourself offline.
But all CZcamsrs think they have to share the break of the marriage all that stuff I look at it as this way if they broke up that's their business their need to talk about it. It's like when you go to work and you break up with somebody you're not telling your whole company. I broke up with my wife or broke up with my boyfriend you don't say that. The whole time I've been on CZcams never once told people I broke up with somebody the most of time I don't put them in the videos
Navkiran T agreed!!
you seem so much stronger and yourself now! I respect how well you have approached the whole situation. Watching your other break up video I literally cried with you because i could feel how sad you were. I am so happy for you and all the progress you've made :)
First off, you don’t owe an explanation to anyone just know that. Relationships are hard for sure and even harder when everyone wants to know what’s going on. I think your video did so good because we look for someone to relate to, and it’s amazing when it’s someone we look up to. I don’t comment on your videos too often, but I wanted to let you know that watching your last breakup honestly helped me with a breakup that I went through. We all go through breakups. You’re not the breakup girl. I’m sure it’s not easy having this in the public eye, but just know that this video will probably help someone out there, like your last one helped me❤️ Thank you Nikki❤️
I'm glad you took time for yourself and please dont ever feel that you owe anyone an explanation, the most important thing is that you are doing good 💓You are Awesome 🍍🍍
Ily, I’ve literally been dwelling this weekend on my break up that ended a month ago. This video and your positivity gives me so much comfort and support. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but I’m so glad y’all are good. Being friends with an ex can be a really great thing.
Sometimes a person is right for right now- and they are the person you need for now, but that time eventually passes. Both of you guys will go on and find your special somones for life, and the past relationships helps you be the person you needed to be.
Nikki you are utterly amazing♡ I love watching your growth and how your personality just shines through! You're going to find your person but theres never any rush! You know you have a whole network of support backing you up!! Love you Nikki and always wishing great things for you♡♡
I would have been fine without an explanation given the past but I’m glad to see how you’ve grown from it
omg this was the craziest notification I ever got I almost stopped breathing
I found your channel from your infamous break up video and it helped me through my first big break up. I recently went through another break up this year in July and I referenced back to your video again. Needless to say I’m glad that first video exists and I enjoy the raw talking videos like the ones you’ve been doing lately.
Loved my man Miles, but I fully respect your decision
Marcos Sabino oh thank fucking god you respect her decision, that probably meant so much to her
Never clicked so fast in my life
Jackelyn l me too
Jackelyn l sammmeees
Lmao, we all knew it. We just wanted to know WHY it happened.
Same hah
Haha same here
I'm a loser. I havent clicked on anything so fast. I love miles and I love how you've remained friends! ♡♡
Chelsea Greene same lol
yes you are
Haha same here
Having an amicable break up somehow brings healing from previous break up's that ended badly
I actually don't mind that you didn't broadcast and that you waited. I just respected you wanted to just move on and be happy! :)
So proud of you - woman to woman ❤😊 you dealt with it so wisely and maturely, and it's important to gracefully let go of things that aren't meant for us - expectations can be so tricky, have you ever read "The 5 Love Languages"?
It's incredibly insightful - for example, my husband is a Pisces and his love language is "acts of service" so since I know that about him, I have to take his acts of service towards me as demonstrations of his love...whereas I might miss those demonstrations if I only consider what he does in *my* love language to be showing his love toward me. And mine are "quality time" and "words of affirmation" - mine are more focused on verbal communication, whereas his are more focused on non-verbal.
So he puts a little extra effort in showing me love in my language, and I give a little extra effort in showing him love in his, and we're both considerate of the other's "native" language, so to speak, so we aren't missing those demonstrations of love either 😊
Sorry for the long comment LOL that book has just been integral in my understanding regarding relationships and communication, and it's a short easy read so that's awesome too LOL
I think this is really important for couples to understand, may help couples avoid mitigate a lot of heartache and confusion. I also think learning to acceot people for who they are is integral to having a successful relationship. I know that it took me years to fully accept somethings about my boyfriend, but out relationshio is better for it, and I am so much happier.
Omg, thank you so much girlfriend for sharing this. I’m just reading through comments ( liking the ones I agree with since I have nothing better to do lol) and your explanation of love language was extremely insightful. Your example of your relationship reminded me of my mine. The meaning of love is different in my ex’s perspective and mine. I thought it meant we’d never mix well, but if you can have a healthy relationship than maybe he an I can too. He’s still patiently waiting for me...
Im going to check out that book you recommended. Hopefully learn a bit more about myself... I figured I caused us issues or we just didn’t mix but this definitely making sense now. Sorry for the long rant haha. Just wanted to say thank you.
@@TravelsWithLari You're most welcome beautiful! You are absolutely right, even when people have completely different love languages, it doesn't mean the relationship won't work. It may take more work to communicate and figure each other out, yes, but a lot of times complete opposites match better than those who are more similar, it just totally depends on the people involved! Best wishes in your relationship, love, and I hope you find the book as insightful and priceless as I have! 😊❤
You’re super self aware Nikki. I also love how you don’t peg your identity on a relationship.
I think it was & is very mature how you handled everything All valid reasons not that you need validation. Love you Nikki!! 💕
Spoken like a classy, mature, respectful lady!
This is very cool Nikki, I akways saw true love between the two of you but love isn't only romantic. This is awesome that you still good friends... We love Miles too. Cheers to you handling this like a pro and putting yourself first. 😉😜😘💕
Welp we already knew that. We just wanted to hear you say it 😂😂 but I hope you’re relived to have addressed the elephant! 🐘 Makeup or not you are beautiful!
MacyKitty2 I was wondering if maybe he had to be off her social media due to some music thing he has in the works or something. I’m glad she finally gave some clarification!
I think it’s great that you let things sit for a while and let yourself process it all. Relationships are such a strange things, everyone gets so caught up with projections of what they think the other person should be. People need to remember to allow space for each other as individuals within those relationships.
There’s no magical way to make relationships work, it’s a choice to do it because it’s what you want.
Sometimes things don’t work out. Sometimes there’s situations where two people just grow apart. It’s so stigmatized when people break up like somebody did something horrible to cause it. They need to know why it happened and that answer has to be wrought with tension when it often times is just that two people don’t mesh. You’ve just got to focus on the ideas of who you are and your core values through it all to get that little nugget of knowledge from it. Relationships teach us so much about ourselves!
6 months seems to be the good processing zone, like for Liza and David.
Nikki you will find your significant other. He wasn't for you. But I'm confident that you find that person and be happy for eternity. You are a person with a beautiful heart. Inside and out. I hope you have a nice day.
Who else likes the video 15s in after Nikki turns on the cam with no makeup? #rawfootage
What to Expect When You Fall for the Girl Who's Used to Never Needing Anyone i.e. the strong independent type like Nikki. There is alot to know about this type of woman and it's often the reason why men struggle in believing they can have and keep a woman. Many men find it too challenging. It's the most attractive type of girl in my opinion.
This is what to expect when you fall for the girl who is used to NEVER needing anyone:
She comes across as a paradoxical mix of outgoing but introverted, very social but seldom out. When you’re so used to not needing anyone, you know exactly who you are, and she’ll never fake anything because of it. This makes maintaining relationships a constant struggle for her. She’ll connect with many, and they’ll quickly feel comfortable with her, but it takes her a while to feel fully comfortable, so she can only take being around others incrementally.
This might frustrate you. There seem to be so many walls to break down. Just when you start to feel like you’re figuring her out - you find another piece to the puzzle that throws everything off. Be patient. She’s this tough because she had to be. Something happened that taught her to never need anyone. Someone she needed left before she was done needing them. But none of this will spill out easily. She’s extremely uncomfortable with other people seeing her vulnerable or in pain. Her emotions and pain are hers, and this is what she’s used to.
She’ll tell herself she doesn’t need you. She’ll make situations worse by trying to suppress her feelings about them. When you fall for the girl who’s used to not needing anyone, believe that she has more feelings and layers than she knows what to do with. Her instinct will be to try to compose herself. When she does open up to you, it’s everything. Being emotionally naked with someone is how she expresses her love.
She’ll know exactly who she is and what she wants. When you’re used to not needing anyone, you do what you want, when you want, and without asking permission or informing anyone. She loves this part of her identity, but she secretly wants you to confront her. She’s hoping that sometimes, you’ll put your foot down, and challenge her stubborn ways.
She’s strong, maybe even too strong for you at first. Don’t let this fool you. This is her outer shell. Her armor. She is so used to taking care of herself that it's going to be hard for her to let someone else in. It took a lot of work to get to where she is: Independent, taking no shit and being happy on her own. She's afraid to let you in because she's afraid of what will happen if you might leave.
I can promise you it won’t be easy, she’ll hang on to her walls for as long as she can. She will be enigmatic. She will always want things her way, and she’ll fight you when she doesn’t get it.
She’ll even try to push you away. This is how she protects herself.
But when you really get to know her, she’ll be the girl who will change your life. Don’t always give in to her, but be patient with her. She’s strong, but she’s also scared - scared of love, scared of needing someone, and definitely scared of you.
Because even if she says she doesn’t need you, at her core she is just a girl who has more love than she knows what to do with.
Bird Plan Wow. I think you need to write a book.
Please turn this into a poem/book. I would definitely buy it
spittin straight knowledge up in here, game recognize game
or could it be just a matter of trust?... some folk just cant be trusted you know.# monogamy
Thank you for this. So detailed, very relatable. 🖤
I totally respect you not jumping to tell someone you broke up! My very first boyfriend we were on and off for months after driving everyone crazy with the will they won’t they! Like you said, you still were processing, still trying to figure out what you guys were going to do
Happy that everything’s good between you two, shown that you’ve grown as a person for not jumping on here and talking about it when it happened, so proud ❤️
Much respect for you. I think it's a good idea to process your breakups minus people's opinions. And I can totally see you guys being friends.
BTW you are slaying vlogmas.
Hello Nikki, as a guy somehow I really enjoy your videos. I became aware of you from way back when in cringemans videos, I’ve been “following” you ever since (& not him anymore) & admire & appreciate your success & I also think you thoroughly deserve it all x
So I have a genuine & serious question for you!?! (And it’s this).............. do you think that your social media status is somehow contributing to your relationship issues? I mean you could absolutely bag any guy you wish for many many reasons & as a guy I guess that could be a little intimidating!
Anyway you are beautiful & Myles is cool AF so I wish you both the best in whatever & wherever go,...........Merry Christmas x
My significant other and I also broke up in June. We are just now beginning to tell family and friends. You are right ! It is important to allow yourself time to process emotions. Through keeping our business private in the beginning, it’s allowed us to stay best friends.
love you Nikki! Sending you all the hugs 💜
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My heart stopped when I saw my notification.
The amount of respect you show towards yourself and to those around you is extremely refreshing. I really admire how maturely you handle things and how honest and genuine you are.
Totally makes sense girl. Glad you did things right by you and him. As long as you're happy that's what matters! 😊
My husband & I dated for 2 years then we were absolute best friends for a couple years + now we’ve been married 7 years! Sometimes you just need time apart to grow as a person + figure out what you want/need to make yourself happy first. So much respect for not using your relationships for views & stuff like a lot of creators do. It’s refreshing to see someone who is so raw + real like you are. 💓✨
Kyle if you don’t mind me asking. How did you manage that? I feel like I’m going through something similar but it’s weird because how do you remain best friends with someone you are in love with? Like what if they find someone else later but you still love them... it’s almost like a double heart break.
Tre Bell honestly at first it was tough, we even both dated different people during that time. But we realized that through every change in our life we always called on one another + we’re there for each other no matter what. We didn’t talk a lot about our relationships we were in at the time, but still had respect for the others relationship. We’ve always been really close & we knew at the time we wanted different things in life. We matured a lot over those 2 years we weren’t together, but we also knew if we were meant to be together then it would happen. Anytime something major happened in our life during those times we realized that we would always rely on each other & no matter what we didn’t want to lose the connection we’ve always had so we broke off our relationships bc it wasn’t fair to our SOs & gave ourselves about 4-5 months to be single & find out what we truly wanted & eventually it led us to being together & we haven’t left each other since. Within a year of being back together we had two amazing little boys & got married. It was like at the point we ended up back together it’s like it’s what was meant to happen. Everything fell into place perfectly + our relationship was so different than it was before, but so much better. We had both grew up & matured so we knew how to love each other fully + not let anything else come in the way.
I was actually hoping that this was the situation, and the reason why you have been silent. I'm so glad that you have stayed friends! You look so happy about it! probably this is the best possible ending for you. Sending you all the hugs Nikki, love you !!!
Who knows what the future holds life is surprising ...
Wow shows volumes your growth. Happy that you guys are still friends and mature about it. You're a beautiful person inside out❤
I just don’t understand how none of these relationships work for you your f’n awesome
Listen to me friend, you are NOT the breakup girl! We love you no matter what! BIG HUGS!!!
You handled it exactly how you needed to. Outside perspective on it- you handed the entire situation great and you have shown people a good example on how to handle a breakup like an adult. You didn't owe the entire internet anything in regards to an explanation on your private life. Aside from that, I look at relationships/friendships this way - they come in to our lives to teach us something or help us grow in some way, or sometimes we teach them something or help them grow. Sounds like some growing happened from that relationship and that is always a good thing. Evolve on a daily basis!
I’m glad you are happy! You are so beautiful inside and out, you deserve to smile 😊💕
Honestly I thought it was obvious that you and Miles broke up, and I always had a feeling that you two were still friends. Anyways I'm glad you're both doing well 😁
Never clicked on a video so fast in my life!!
My favorite thing about you is how genuine you are. Thank you for making such honest content💕
I just assumed you guys weren’t together cause he disappeared off the vlogs. I am happy that you guys are still friends though, not every relationship is meant to be forever and embrace what you had and what you still have. Lots of love, loving your vlogmas!!
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable about your relationships. ❤️ your videos... It's awesome that yall can be adult enough to still be friends and not have the drama but still support each other!
wait you're NOT wearing make up?. damn you're beautifull
Best breakup video ever- case closed. Glad you guys are still friends ❤️
Good for you! What a well-spoken video! You owe the internet nothing and it is completely okay to have a private life. Great job! I remember your video 2 years ago and I was also experiencing the exact same thing at the time making it very relatable. Love watching your videos!
For the q&a: do you guys still have the “benefits” part of the relationship 🥰😛... or just totally friends. Have you guys talked about if one of you starts dating etc if you’ll still be friends?
I hate that youtubers feel obligated to tell us their personal business. I mean, yeah we'd all be confused if you never said anything, and then we just randomly stopped seeing him around, after your vlogs looked like everything was perfectly fine. But it's your personal business after all. I do appreciate you letting us know the deets, but never feel like you have to. Break ups are hard to talk about. It's like reliving the day it happend. My ex and I broke up 10 months ago. It took me 7 months to completely get over it, and I had everyone constantly asking about him after I changed my relationship status on fb, but didn't post about more deets after that, because it was a difficult break up. There was a lot of isolation. I didn't even tell my closest friends about it for a long time. Love you, Nikki. I am glad you two are still friends. He seemed like a really nice, supportive person in your life. ❤
Coming from a bad relationship in the past and seeing such a great caring way to break up with your ex and a beyond mature one is honestly very pleasant. It makes my heart feel full and happy for you Nikki that I feel like you are at a very healthy and stable part of your life! I hope you continue to grow and into an even more beautiful person!
wow i honestly love you so much😭i love that you two are still friends, honestly i feel like that’s so rare nowadays which sucks cause this is obviously a more mature way of handling things. Thanks for being so real i look up to u a lot bb 😤💘
Love that you all are still friends. Some great things definitely came out of your relationship!!💕💖💞
Do not ever let it get you down!!🍍🍍🍍 Nikki B..it does not matter...if someone walks from you,they're not your destiny..
God knows your heart like no one else.( Even better than you do). God has someone for you, perfect for you! You're a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart and you just focus on yourself and Max. We all love you and none of this matters..what matters is that you're happy with someone that deserves you.. it will happen at the right time
Almost two weeks late but I'm so happy you two are friends and most importantly, that you're happy. My boyfriend and I broke up in October, and we've been able to remain friends and talk almost every day still!
Just started THIS video, but your first breakup video did help me SOOO much!! I was going through the heartbreak of the century when you posted it, and it helped me so much. Love you so much Nikki!!!