â@@Limette454I remember always helping my classmates with math. I was always really good in school, but math was the one subject that was challenging for me. But once I understood a concept, I was really good at explaining it and helping my classmates understand it. Because how the teacher explained it rarely made sense to me đ So once I figured it out on my own, I could then explain it to the kids better than the teacher did lol.
My mom is INFP and there are a couple of things you nailed, but some of this stuff was off - namely the parts about being inattentive. She wanted to nail being a mother, so she read lots of parenting theory. Very agreeable mother, but also very attentive to her duties. I'd say that her desire to not let anybody down inspired her to work very hard. Her food is amazing, and she'd make you pretty much whatever you asked her to. She doesn't like doing chores, but what she dislikes even more than doing chores is leaving it to one of her kids. One part that's very true though is that she really did not want to punish us and seeing us in any pain very clearly disturbed her greatly. She's only ever capable of using love to try and steer us onto the right path.
As an INFP mom, I loved this reply! Normally these videos are spot on, but I want kids over to our house, disheveled as it is, because childhood is magical and the foundation of life. I am extraordinarily close to my kid, and never shouted or punished her, because I could see her point of view. Weird things? I grappled with everything - screentime, Disney, FOOD, exercise, sleep. Everything had a MEANING. I have since loosened up.
Thank you for saying this. As an INFP mum I resonate with how you describe your mom. I just want to be the best mum I can be, despite being easily distracted and emotional! Also, I'm not a fan of insults, they hurt my heart too much! Although if it is creative and avoids swearing then I'm more likely to allow it. đ
I think this guyâs portrayal is more INFP-A and what youâre describing is more INFP-T. This is an accurate part of INFP-T, but also the behaviours you said too.
As an INFP aunt, I laughed so hard when Frank got to the language portion. Iâve been trying to teach some of my nephews and nieces to be more creative with their insults. I am so entertained every time they surprise me. No more a**h*le or the like. Call someone an Oedipus or tell them youâd rather travel to the furthest corner of the world to buy a toothpick than look at their face for a second longer. Entertain me and Iâll let you get away with insulting anyone you wish. :D
Ohh, you gotta try the Shakespearean-level insults then. My language arts teacher once gave me a printout of "Shakespearean insults." There are three columns, each with very fancy sounding words. One column is for adjectives, one for verbs and the last one is for nouns. The fun part is *not* reading every line directly all the way across, but picking words randomly from different parts of each column. Oh, man that sheet was fun! đ I'm sure you could find something similar online these days.
My favorite one of mine is 'I'd rather drink bleach than continue this conversation with you, because your voice is the equivalent to not being able to get an eyelash out of your eye, and then scratching your eyeball.' And "your face looks worse than my dad's, and he has been in a grave 6 feet under, decaying for the last 5 years, try a face mask or some shit for once you slob." and yes, these are oddly specific, but I have used them multiple times, and the first time, they were both made up on the spot and I have *MANY* more insults, if you wanna hear more, say so. đ
The "normal family member vs introvert family member" videos have all been hilarious lately lol Also shameless plug, I'm hoping some of you might like the music I make :)
I'm an ISTP and I have an INFP mom. She is usually laid-back and a bit dreamy, her jokes make me laugh my ass off (bad at housekeeping though). She doesn't understand how I can live without any strong passions and feelings. Even though she is mostly chill, she can always think herself a reason to cry. Her bursts of Te are the scariest thing ever. She can start yelling at me for how unproductive and lazy I am and then 5 mins later be completely calm and I am dead for the rest of the day
I'm an INFP as is my mum and she was pretty laid back, quirky in her quiet yet gentle way, but I've gotta be honest she was also consistent and did all of the things expected of a parent without that much distraction. Now that jm older her quirkiness is unrestrained!
I think us INFPs actually are capable of doing things when they know they have to be done. We just need that extra push but if we have responsibilities we are conscientious of it and do what we need to do.
Love seeing us INFP's portrayed this way. We arent just super emotional snowflakes (ok, maybe sometimes but I digress), we also just wing things and often don't sweat the small stuff, plus tend to see the humor in most situations.
@@melissam.a.906 Oh 2:04 my God! Isnât that the truth! Used to have a lot of friends in my young adult life but now Iâm lucky if I have two, and I keep âem at a distance. Very few friends and I donât have energy to have them either. My husband and twin boys are absolutely enough.
â@@thecinnamonman2003 yay! Another infp twin mom! Mine are girls though. It can be exhausting but so fun! Catching some time for yourself can be a real challenge sometimes. It sounds counterintuitive but keeping your friends after having children can be very helpful, a social safety net can save your life. Mine are all weird though, we'll go months without talking but we'd do anything for each other. At the very least having close family you can depend on when you're pulling your hair out from putting up with all the people in your house.
Yep! Which is why I wouldn't homeschool my kids, that and I have no desire or gift of teaching. Funny though cause I love when they are home from school and we have family time on the weekends. Monday morning though I'm not sad to have the house to myself. đ
Iâm an INTJ and my mom is an INFP and this is EXACTLY like her. She would âground meâ until she saw I was sad and immediately let me do whatever I wanted. She wasnât strict growing up at all and was more of a friend then anything else. I love her with all my heart but I do think I try to create structure in my everyday life because she was so care free. I still wouldnât have it any other way. Your videos are great â„ïž
@@Gay-Iconthis is why Iâm never going to be a parent. Ever. Although this commenter is super adorable in that they appreciate their mother â€â€â€â€
Iâm an INFP and I scold my mom all the time for not being more laid back and I vouched Iâd be like the video shows when Iâm a mom xD⊠though a lot of these wouldnât even take me any effort, Iâm already like this without children and living alone most of the time with my INFJ brother so yeah⊠accurate af (even though Iâm not a mom yet)
As an INFP I would normally try anything after itâs expiration date after a day or 2 but I would never let a future kid of mine try it. Everything else is spot on. đ€Ł
Lmao I had that exact scenario happen not even a month ago and my better sense told me "don't you dare feed that expired jam to your kid." and I didn't, but I definitely did eat some of it myself later (it was fine) As an INFP mom, you do end up doing better for your loved ones, as for ourselves, we're mostly ready to take the gamble
An INFP mum is my normal mum lol. She always crafted with us, and showed us a lot of nature, saved a lot of otherwise doomed bugs. Especially bees. The amount of times we stopped to save a stranded bee surrounded by ants đ I still do if I can, I can't help it now lol. Bless her heart. đ
I think if the child is showing some problematic behavior, an INFP mom (when they have the energy) will sit down with their child and talk to them about it, giving it their full attention. They would try to explore the feelings and thoughts that their child is going through during the situation, and be understanding and supportive throughout the whole process. They would help their child resolve certain emotions, and slowly, that would lead to a better outcome. INFPs are incredibly good at understanding people that are close to them, when healthy.
Hmm my daughter refuses to talk aboit problems when she has strong emotions running. I usually make her a hot chocolate to make her feel calm and happy a bit faster. She sometimes comes later to talk. And sometimes not. But chocolate is always welcome. (She's ENTJ and I think she likes me respecting her very very strong and sharp boundaries and a need for being free.)
As an INFP mom, get a crockpot. If you get distracted by something it is ok because it is slow cooking so it won't burn like it will on the stovetop. I always have to triple check if I turned off the stove.
As an INFP mom, I think I definitely parent in between the two extremes! Of course, I also have nearly a decade of teaching experience, so that changes how I interact with kids. Show them respect and youâll often get respect in return. When they donât show respect, stop and take a moment to communicate and figure out whatâs wrong. Typing this out, Iâm realizing that my INFPness is pretty blatantly obvious! đ
no i'd say you are a wise person? can't see the telltale of INFPnessness, is it cuz you talk to your children? I do wonder though, how do you handle cleaning, please any tips could save lives here! xD
First thing I tell myself is they dont do it to hurt me, they do it because they challenge your boundaries. Why? Cause thats in their nature. I dont have kids but i do teach older kids and when they dont behave, I tell and show them that if they want trust and respect, they cant continue doing that. They get it đ.
After my kids grew up I told a friend âI think theyâve forgotten about me nowâ and he said, âRight. Theyâre all âWasnât there some lady who used to be around a lotâŠ?â đđ
I felt the expired food scene, my mum has done that! One time I found some food in the cabinet that expired so long ago the supermarket it came from no longer exists đ
INFJ mom here, on the way home from the hospital with my first born I sat in the back seat crying looking at him. My husband asked what was wrong and I literally said EVERYTHING you did in the INFP goodnight scene. He replied, "You get 18 years with him, and that's a long time. By then, you will probably be ready for him to go." My husband's ISTP đ
I also think that the last scene of the video was more of an infj and enfj thing đ when they think about future and worry they wont be needed by someone.. like Ni and Fe c: although sometimes similar thoughts can visit me, i can give an advice to that - even tho its unavoidable u still have the present, so enjoy the present instead.. as about the kid - u still will be helping and meeting them even when they grow up c: - infp
Don't worry, sometimes we never move đ My sister and I are respectively 29 and 31 and life repeatedly trying to eff us and our mom over, we've decided to just stay and live all together. đ
@@Capyrate same here, my parents had me and my brother in their 40s so I decided to stay with them until the end to help them as they grow old, to give back everything they gave me growing up
Yeah I like hearing my teenage daughter giggling with her friends. I know that one day she'll no longer live at home and I won't get to hear it as often. I'm happy to let them have the living room whilst I chill in my room with music to escape the mayhem. đ
Can't you just go to Timmy's house đđđđđI felt that. My son is 6 months old, but I've been preparing excuses since before birthđ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
Ooooh other Coldplay loving INFPs! Hello! đ I was afraid we'd be an endangered species, seeing how it seems to be the thing to hate on the band. đ But I'm glad I found other people who like them too! đ
I'm an INFP and my husband is an INTP, we don't have any children yet but already I can see the "your dad will be home any minute" scene playing in my head
I'm an INFP, but I get the feeling that as a parent, I may not be as laid back. I was raised by an INTJ mom who was pretty rigid, and it's rubbed off on me lol. Also, pffft, my kids are not waiting until dad gets home to get math help. THAT'S GONNA BE MY JOB! lol. My husband will be the one saying wait for mom to get home cuz she is the math genius đ That's legit my job right now is tutoring math. And I tutor even the higher math (Calc, linear algebra, etc)
INFP Sunday school teacher here! Once in class a kindergarten aged girl called me a b-. I gently explained how that word is used to make girls feel bad about themselves and God wants us to make girls feel good about themselves, etc. As soon as the class was over I went outside and laughed so hard I ruined my makeup. It was SO FUNNY and she used it PERFECTLY đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
@@Midnitethorn oh yes same, same!!! đ I love/need quiet, peace and low stress, and children canât provide that đ€Ł Love my fur baby đâš and future Borzoi and Poodle babies soon to be adopted đ„°đ„°đ„°
As an INFP mom....this is so accurate I can't even believe it. The lack of laundry, needing the dad for math (and I homeschool so yikes)...saying goodnight is so sad, I'm always telling my kids "when you're grown up please live close and make sure I get to see my grandbabies...cause I might die otherwise." So...too accurate.
I avoid putting that pressure on them, I always tell them when theyâre adults they can do whatever and live wherever they want and Iâll be there to support them if need be
Iâll also add as an INFP mom of 4: people are asking about cleaning and functioning. While I relate to the video, I simply canât function that laid back all the time. The negatives would outweigh the positives. So for cleaning, you need to tap into the idealistic artsy type you are and find that inner motivation to spruce up so it looks like a beautiful place. Or you need to tap into your philosophical personality and read about the deep meaning of home making, and you will find yourself suddenly inspired. Ha! Also, get kids to see it as teamwork (and tap into your strong moral convictions to give a nice lecture on responsibility and explain that if they canât take care of their stuff, they own too much stuff, and start planning out all your donations and idealistic minimalist lifestyle). But seriously, our home is pretty ordered most of the time. Because I like to be peaceful and chaos isnât peaceful đ
Hmm, these are good suggestions! Iâm also an INFP mom of four, and I really struggle to keep the house clean or even to stay on top of my kids to do their âchores.â I just feel like there are a million and one more important things in life than cleaning, like going on a walk, reading a book, writing, snuggling with the kids, daydreamingâŠbasically, just about anything! Life is entirely too short to spend most of my free time in a fruitless battle to keep the house spotless when 6 people are running around making a mess faster than I could ever clean it up. But at the same time, youâre so right that living in a messy house is not conducive to peace, and Iâm all about peace! So I need to find a way to motivate myself by tapping into my values like you suggested. Thanks!
@@elizabethwall8063 I relate sooooo much to the idea that there are so many more important things in life -like those walks, snuggles, and story times. My goal is to get the chores done fast to get them out of the way! With little ones, I also donât mind that lived in look (especially if books are stacked everywhere. Books are pretty, right? Books are peaceful, right? Ha!). Itâs always a balancing ace for me⊠so neat to meet another INFP with four kids!
â@@elizabethwall8063 Not a mom -- my inner kid is enough of a challenge for me. đ I would much rather paint, work with the Tarot and oracle cards I have, plus a gazillion other things...but...the two things that keep me trying to keep the clutter under control are: 1) the Sword of Damocles-level threat of a lease violation which can add up to eviction. I have worked too hard to get a place of my own. 2) What if people I love want to visit me? One such person -- my boss, who is a dad figure -- is very tidy himself, and while he has yet to do so, he might eventually want to hang out with me outside of work. If he does, I want him to be comfortable and cozy. Hell, **I** want to be comfortable and cozy in general. So reining in the clutter to a degree where I feel like both I and anyone else would feel comfortable and cozy -- that's the goal. Pleasing the building admins and city inspector would simply be a bonus. đ
INFP mom of 4 as well. We all live in a small.3bdrm apartment right now. The 3 boys share a room and 2 of them are slobs. It's incredibly hard...nah screw that...IMPOSSIBLE to keep clean. It drives me insane. I have developed blinders that I wear when trekking thru their room to the pantry closet. Even when I step on trash and toys and crusty socks, I keep those blinders on. Best to only look when you have the energy and time to clean it cause YOU KNOW YOU WILL once you look. Lol one day we will own our own home and everyone will have their own space and it will be perfect. Haha
My mom is an infp but she's not so laid -back when I was young she always tried to get me dress better and make me behave nicer with people. She really put so much effort raising us such a wonderful woman
INFP here. A big reason I plan to homeschool if I ever have kids is because the idea of having to be there by a certain time every day is so incredibly stressful to me. I hate deadlines. With homeschool, you set your own schedule! If you start school an hour late it literally doesn't matter.
OMG as a fellow INFP I relate to this! I would have loved to be homeschooled as a kid. Unfortunately I went through regular schooling and HATED it đ
@@candylin7964 Same! My husband was homeschooled, and I am sooo jealous! School took 3-4 hours a day max (9-1 with recess and a lunch break), they had much longer Christmas breaks/summers, and he had so much more time to just relax and be a kid. None of that pressure and stress that was put on us in public school. Learning was fun! It wasn't grades focused. His mom just wanted her kids to learn the material. If he did bad on an assignment, they would go back over the information and he would just do it again. I just remember going through school with almost constant anxiety-related stomach aches because I wanted to please everyone and do well and not get in trouble for anything.
@@candylin7964 I'm an INTP but I relate to this very well, too, ESPECIALLY during my grade school to middle school years. I remember being grouchy 24/7 as a kid and getting the third degree by the adults for being "lazy" because I had trouble keeping up, despite hard effort (I'm enneagram 6, so there's more sense of structure than usual), but still, I burn out very easily if I don't get enough (and longer) breaks in between, which in turn gradually makes me get sloppy (one thing I really HATE about being a Perceiver is that lack of in-born self-discipline), plus all of the distractions/lack of focus (high Ne). So, yeah, I definitely wasn't "teacher's pet," that's for sure. I like structure enough to keep everything in place and reduce the number of surprises/chaos because I can't focus otherwise, but TOO much structure, like in regular school, drives me insane; planners are my natural enemy. I would strategize around trying to be on time, etc., only to end up late, anyway. (Also, I'm a natural night owl; going to bed early to wake up for the 6 AM consisted of hours just trying to force myself to sleep. If you want to get the absolute worst of me, a 6 AM - 2 or 3 PM would do, but too bad mornings are just when the world operates). When I was 12, I begged my parents to let me be homeschooled because, the constant bullying aside, I couldn't take the deadlines and competition anymore, only to get a tirade about "laziness" and such, and got yelled at some more when I protested about having my days scheduled, but then, my mother's an ESTJ (and an early-bird) and definitely can't relate with this or see things from another perspective, using herself as an example (so I supposedly just "hate to work"!), also compared me to my sister (INFJ) as an example of my "lack of responsibility," since my sister was always a model student (only because dominant Ni gave her razor-sharp focus, not from hard work, since she spent her time goofing off but somehow still manages to get straight-A's and hand all of her assignments in on time. But then, Judgers tend to work better in structured environments than we do, so my sister had no issues with our mother managing our day planners (with those PLUS school planners, it was a double-whammy for me)). As for my dad (ISTP 9w1), he said "no" to homeschooling only because he thought he would be required to teach us himself, and there was no way he was going to do that.
"I found this piece of art you made when you were 4 months old and I've been staring at it for the past hour" so true, I always get distracted by the things I find when tidying and before I know it, I've spent an hour just looking at, thinking back to the time when I first got it or imagining what I could do with it. I love this new series so far, Frank 𧥠please keep making more of these.
Same. My mother's ESTJ 8w7. This is why my sister and I aren't exactly "grounded" in reality. (Speaking of groundINGS, though, would've been nice to just get the grounding, moreover without the adult tantrums. đ )
I, INFP mom, just found a tzatziki I made months ago in the fridge before watching this...the mold was all over it and me and my ENFP daughter thought the white and light green formations were so interesting... She took a picture, of course
As an INFP single mom of three, my oldest being 24, I can concur with these examples. However, I have also always maintained open honest communication with my kids, nurturing their positive qualities and helping guide them to deal with things I felt would hurt them in the long run, helping them develop into the wonderful humans they are. Lol.
I agree! My kids are actually great, well behaved and know they can come to me for anything. Even if I do lose it and yell at times, I always go back and apologize and try to talk it out with them.
Goodness! Itâs creepy reading words that echo my very thoughts and philosophy⊠being such a staunch introvert I always thought I was just a weird parent, even though it felt right to me⊠itâs good to know there are others out there.
I'm an INFP dad, my wife does the working and math. Eating past due food is like a core value though...even if it is approaching the due date it has to go....especially milk, when we used to drink milk. My children are very independent...at a very young age. Love your videos!
@@dichenbordoloi7389 I think infps can be very good math tutors because they tell the material very "lively". As an infp who was good at math and physics, I liked "translating" for classmates or familymembers who were afraid of the topic.
@@dichenbordoloi7389 My ENFJ wife is a super comp sci math nerd and I went the artsy route. I was good at math but yeah...not as thrilling as imagining DnD adventures.
Iâm not even a mom but this is probably exactly how I would act. Watch me stumble upon this video ten years in the future and be like Yup thatâs me đ
Literally just me in adulthood lmao đ€Ł I loved this one so much, great job Frank! From creatively using swearwords to contemplating the future before saying goodnight, you really nailed this one! - INFP
I gotta say, as an INFP man who naturally never has and never will be in this role, I could all the same see myself in very much of it. Some of the behaviors have come through in my teaching style, especially the inability to be a disciplinarian.
I also need help as an INFP Mum. My daughter's almost 17 but I often wonder how I've managed to get her to this point, doing well, when I'm such an unorganized mess. đ€Ł
@@TheLadyDelirium SAME. My husband reassures me that our kid is fine but I always feel like Iâm slacking off all the time. My mother in law thinks itâs horrible that I donât care if he matches his socks lmao. Etc
Haha, as an INFP mom of four, I can confirm this is pretty accurate! My house is always a mess and Iâm often distracted and overly sentimental, but I like to think Iâm generally calm and my kids are happy!
Very accurate except for the homework. I'm currently learning a lot about modern Greek history through my older daughter. Love it! Sometimes she has to remind me I'm supposed to check if she remembers what's written in the book, because I get lost reading...but generally they prefer me over their father, because he's worse than me đ Burnt the garlic today and the food got bitter, the house is a mess, the kids in the past had complaints about never being punished by us, they regularly have to search for their clean clothes in a pile of clothes on the sofa I haven't managed yet to iron or put away. What calms me down is that whenever I show up at their schools teachers praise their good behaviour and their intellectual abilities and that at a certain point they just start doing the things that need to be done without me pushing, nagging, threatening,... It seems like there's a natural maturation that leads to them growing into lovely, disciplined, autonomous, caring people just by nature.
Thank youuuu â€â€â€ i am just like this, and my toddler is 1 year old - this gives me hope. Thanks a lot. Seriously. I was afraid I was going to mess things up just by being me (and with my husband being as my husband!!), bc many ânormalâ people had kind of threatened us - not creative, not sensitive people has threatened us that we should be more tidy or have more disciplined rules because if not, our child blablablabla -, and this small story of yours really actually helps to see reality. Thaaanks .
@@laimaravillon895 I've come to understand what's most important is to be a good example for your child. If you punish them for not telling the truth but you yourself use white lies, you just teach them to become very good at lying without being caught. If you wash yourself regularly and point out to them that as they don't want to sit next to a smelly kid, the others won't want to sit next to them if they smell, they'll come to decide they better wash. I explain things to them, I want them to be able to take decisions and to be informed. Of course as toddlers they had to brush their teeth and change diapers, there are things that just have to be done. But I would let them choose if they wanted to do xy before or after that e.g. Edit: my older daughter is super tidy and a perfectionist, even though she grew up in a messy household. She just comes after her grandfather. When they are so little as your child is, in my opinion getting through the day without having a mental breakdown, without burning down the place and without having to rush your kid to the hospital, you're doing a good job đ
100 đŻ accurate. OMG. I stop and stare at my little guyâs handmade art projects from a decade ago and get derailed from whatever I was doing for half an hourâŠ.đ â€
A whole video dedicated to each type as a parent really helps me understand the types better. I don't know why but a whole video of real life scenarios and examples helps - and a video focused on just one type at a time.
Ok, I loved this as an INFP. That said, I have 4 kids and the one thing you left out was the crazy overstimulated mom making her kids sit and read literature or nature journaling to get some relief (or just locking herself in her bedroom đ).
I used to argue with my mom to get her to give me chores because I felt spoiled and dumb that I didnât know how to do anything. She just wanted to do everything for me so that Iâd be happy. Hahaha
Hah! I completely related to this, especially the parts about the cleaning. Although I do clean, and i start with the best of intentions, it's so easy to become distracted with something I found. Sometimes, I get up and start wandering around the house, and see other things that "have to be done," and I end up with half-finished projects all over the place. The part about the language got to me. Yes, I tell them not to say "that word," but I always laugh. Sometimes, I tell them the meaning and entomology of the word. Also, the part about the food in the fridge! lol. Oh! And the cooking. I've gotten a lot better about it now, but only because I got tired of the fire department coming over when the fire alarms went off and I couldn't remember the pass code. Good times. Good times.
As an INFP I feel you on the running around the house cleaning a little bit everywhere, but then nothing gets done. I now force myself to focus on one room at a time. If there are things that belong in another room I either put them in a laundry basket or will take them to the other room and set them in there and I don't allow myself to start cleaning that room. This has made a huge difference, and my house looks so much better. It takes effort and I have to be strict with myself, but it's worth it.
Try to make videos showing how each personality type argues with someone with the same type. (INFJ arguing with an INFJ, INFP arguing with an INFP, etc.)
I love this series, I think I had typical parents: ISTJ father and ESFJ mother. Unfortunately for them, they got 2 weird and rare species INTP and INTJ. đ€Ł
Ooh I don't normally relate very much to your INFP content (I'm pretty optimistic and it leans depressed), but this video...that is probably exactly how I'll be when I have kids. Except I'm good at math đ
I agree about being an optimistic INFP, and I'm not a mother, but I didn't relate to this one. I felt like some of this just came off as a negligent mother. The maths and music as punishment and the ending were pretty much the only bits I related to. I feel like people always think INFPs aren't in control of themselves and their own lives, let alone someone else's, and that's just not me at all. I make my wild dreams come true!
@@Lizzo13 yeah, honestly I think it was relatable to me not as an INFP but as someone with probable ADHD. Serving the kids expired jam was not a thing I would ever do, but finding three month expired jam...happened a couple days ago. And time blindness is a real struggle so being an hour late is not unheard of.
I relate to what you all said about being an optimist INFP. The last scene was very true but then the INFP will also dwell on like 3 different alternate futures where they can see their kids living with them forever (and the INFP loving it probably unless they imagine the kid being a âparasiteâ). I think thereâs a reason INFPs are often labeled the anti-Nihilist and I find that to be mostly true. Itâs like we have to be optimistic and idealistic about people because otherwise, all the negative things and failure of humans that we see and internalize very deeply will just make us too depressed to live, so our Ne âparentsâ us by providing us the ability to see why people act the way they do and how they can turn it around one day.
Watch "Normal Mom vs INTJ Mom" next đ czcams.com/video/b0ZnBbVoT2E/video.html
I will :)
On it :)
It may not be as funny but could you do an Extroverted type please? You could do one of the funny ones
Normal friend vs INTx friend?
Just in time before I become Mom! Thank yaaaaa!!!! â€
As an INFP mom with an INFP husband & an INFP daughter, I can confirm that this is VERY accurate.
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What a dream family for me đ
its literally impossible đđ
I can see this definitely see this how my gf's and I married life would end up being because we're both INFP too lol
how do you even function and by that I mean cleaning and cooking?? Please share your secrets, god knows I need emđ
INTJ mother = relying on the father for emotional support
INFP mother = relying on the father for math homework support
EXACTLY
đ ok, show of hands, how many of you fellow infps like teaching math?? Cause I for my part really like it.đ
â@@Limette454I remember always helping my classmates with math. I was always really good in school, but math was the one subject that was challenging for me.
But once I understood a concept, I was really good at explaining it and helping my classmates understand it. Because how the teacher explained it rarely made sense to me đ So once I figured it out on my own, I could then explain it to the kids better than the teacher did lol.
@@Limette454 i do, i even briefly got paid to tutor a classmate
@@bunny_0288 Exactly!! đ
My mom is INFP and there are a couple of things you nailed, but some of this stuff was off - namely the parts about being inattentive. She wanted to nail being a mother, so she read lots of parenting theory. Very agreeable mother, but also very attentive to her duties. I'd say that her desire to not let anybody down inspired her to work very hard. Her food is amazing, and she'd make you pretty much whatever you asked her to. She doesn't like doing chores, but what she dislikes even more than doing chores is leaving it to one of her kids.
One part that's very true though is that she really did not want to punish us and seeing us in any pain very clearly disturbed her greatly. She's only ever capable of using love to try and steer us onto the right path.
As an INFP mom, I loved this reply! Normally these videos are spot on, but I want kids over to our house, disheveled as it is, because childhood is magical and the foundation of life. I am extraordinarily close to my kid, and never shouted or punished her, because I could see her point of view. Weird things? I grappled with everything - screentime, Disney, FOOD, exercise, sleep. Everything had a MEANING. I have since loosened up.
Thank you for saying this. As an INFP mum I resonate with how you describe your mom. I just want to be the best mum I can be, despite being easily distracted and emotional! Also, I'm not a fan of insults, they hurt my heart too much! Although if it is creative and avoids swearing then I'm more likely to allow it. đ
I completely agree.
I think this guyâs portrayal is more INFP-A and what youâre describing is more INFP-T. This is an accurate part of INFP-T, but also the behaviours you said too.
i love this, what a touching thing to say about your mom! I hope my kids see me in a similar way!
As an INFP aunt, I laughed so hard when Frank got to the language portion. Iâve been trying to teach some of my nephews and nieces to be more creative with their insults. I am so entertained every time they surprise me. No more a**h*le or the like. Call someone an Oedipus or tell them youâd rather travel to the furthest corner of the world to buy a toothpick than look at their face for a second longer. Entertain me and Iâll let you get away with insulting anyone you wish. :D
Ohh, you gotta try the Shakespearean-level insults then. My language arts teacher once gave me a printout of "Shakespearean insults." There are three columns, each with very fancy sounding words. One column is for adjectives, one for verbs and the last one is for nouns. The fun part is *not* reading every line directly all the way across, but picking words randomly from different parts of each column. Oh, man that sheet was fun! đ I'm sure you could find something similar online these days.
Oh, that's a good one.
Hahaha đ
â@@a.katherinesuetterlin3028oh please, give us a few examples!
My favorite one of mine is 'I'd rather drink bleach than continue this conversation with you, because your voice is the equivalent to not being able to get an eyelash out of your eye, and then scratching your eyeball.' And "your face looks worse than my dad's, and he has been in a grave 6 feet under, decaying for the last 5 years, try a face mask or some shit for once you slob." and yes, these are oddly specific, but I have used them multiple times, and the first time, they were both made up on the spot and I have *MANY* more insults, if you wanna hear more, say so. đ
"I might actually punish you at some point, even though it will destroy me to see you sad and know that I was the cause of your pain." đ đŻ
That one was so true. I'm awful at doling out punishments. The guilt eats me up. đ
I 100% felt that way my 2 daughtersâ entire childhoods!!!
â@@TheLadyDelirium I always apologize right afterwards đ my mom is ESTJ so she pretty much never apologized untill she got older
This goes beyond children so much, it's not funny đ
The moment I knew there was a 0% chance my mom was an INFP đ©Žđ„
I love how each time the normal mom stops talking she keeps staring intensely at her child, while the INFP mom is just so casual and laid-back
The "normal family member vs introvert family member" videos have all been hilarious lately lol
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I think Frank was talking to too many npcs in Skyrim lol.
INFPs are so laid back bcoz they're afraid of outcomes. Their emotions generally gets affected more by other's words & behaviours.
I guess it might look laid back, but it doesn't feel like it.
â@@janetbeatrice9505 Yeah. I'm always told I'm super laid-back. But I feel like I'm one step away from a nervous breakdown.
I'm an ISTP and I have an INFP mom. She is usually laid-back and a bit dreamy, her jokes make me laugh my ass off (bad at housekeeping though). She doesn't understand how I can live without any strong passions and feelings. Even though she is mostly chill, she can always think herself a reason to cry. Her bursts of Te are the scariest thing ever. She can start yelling at me for how unproductive and lazy I am and then 5 mins later be completely calm and I am dead for the rest of the day
đđđđ I do that with my younger brother.... yelled at him for not studying much...and then I cried because I yelled at him .
I hope yall get along because not everything last forever đ€
I'm an INFP as is my mum and she was pretty laid back, quirky in her quiet yet gentle way, but I've gotta be honest she was also consistent and did all of the things expected of a parent without that much distraction. Now that jm older her quirkiness is unrestrained!
Thatâs a lovely way of putting it
Quirky in what way?
I think us INFPs actually are capable of doing things when they know they have to be done. We just need that extra push but if we have responsibilities we are conscientious of it and do what we need to do.
Love seeing us INFP's portrayed this way. We arent just super emotional snowflakes (ok, maybe sometimes but I digress), we also just wing things and often don't sweat the small stuff, plus tend to see the humor in most situations.
YES!
u have a great day.... - INFP batman
Yes, exactly
so true!!đ we're pretty cool.
I love this description of INFPs! Very accurateđ
Oh man this is so true. The hardest thing about being an INFP parent is that we need at LEAST 3 hours of alone time per day. At least lol
Bare minimum...and after I became a mom I have no energy for friendship, my kids deplete my reservoir.
@@melissam.a.906 Oh 2:04 my God! Isnât that the truth! Used to have a lot of friends in my young adult life but now Iâm lucky if I have two, and I keep âem at a distance. Very few friends and I donât have energy to have them either. My husband and twin boys are absolutely enough.
@@thecinnamonman2003 Right? We just can't...
â@@thecinnamonman2003 yay! Another infp twin mom! Mine are girls though. It can be exhausting but so fun! Catching some time for yourself can be a real challenge sometimes. It sounds counterintuitive but keeping your friends after having children can be very helpful, a social safety net can save your life. Mine are all weird though, we'll go months without talking but we'd do anything for each other. At the very least having close family you can depend on when you're pulling your hair out from putting up with all the people in your house.
Yep! Which is why I wouldn't homeschool my kids, that and I have no desire or gift of teaching. Funny though cause I love when they are home from school and we have family time on the weekends. Monday morning though I'm not sad to have the house to myself. đ
Iâm an INTJ and my mom is an INFP and this is EXACTLY like her. She would âground meâ until she saw I was sad and immediately let me do whatever I wanted. She wasnât strict growing up at all and was more of a friend then anything else. I love her with all my heart but I do think I try to create structure in my everyday life because she was so care free. I still wouldnât have it any other way. Your videos are great â„ïž
Oh gosh, parents can never win. If they're strict it's bad and if they're not it's still bad. I don't get why people do it.
@@Gay-Iconthis is why Iâm never going to be a parent. Ever. Although this commenter is super adorable in that they appreciate their mother â€â€â€â€
I can relate haha.
â@@Gay-IconThey can and have. You just have to find the right balance for you and your child.
@@cbcimutebi5564 Yes. Finding that balance is the hard part, though.
2:18 the most accurate one that happens almost daily. But I would never say it out loud. I just say, "sorry Hun, I was just thinking. Good night."
Seriously. It was the most relatable one to me.
Well shit. I feel called out and I'm not even a mom. đđđ
Same here đ
Same, girl, same.
I go so far as thinking, probably a good thing I didn't have kids. Poor little guys! Sigh.
â@@morebirdsandrosesYeah, me not having kids is definitely for the best. đ
Same here ^^â
My sister is an INFP and she would have responded exactly the way you demonstrated! So cool and creepy at the same time!
How's it creepy?
@@andromeda45188 ...like Frank was following her around and taking notes ..
Iâm an INFP and I scold my mom all the time for not being more laid back and I vouched Iâd be like the video shows when Iâm a mom xD⊠though a lot of these wouldnât even take me any effort, Iâm already like this without children and living alone most of the time with my INFJ brother so yeah⊠accurate af (even though Iâm not a mom yet)
Well said! đ
As an INFP I would normally try anything after itâs expiration date after a day or 2 but I would never let a future kid of mine try it. Everything else is spot on. đ€Ł
Lmao I had that exact scenario happen not even a month ago and my better sense told me "don't you dare feed that expired jam to your kid." and I didn't, but I definitely did eat some of it myself later (it was fine) As an INFP mom, you do end up doing better for your loved ones, as for ourselves, we're mostly ready to take the gamble
An INFP mum is my normal mum lol. She always crafted with us, and showed us a lot of nature, saved a lot of otherwise doomed bugs. Especially bees. The amount of times we stopped to save a stranded bee surrounded by ants đ
I still do if I can, I can't help it now lol. Bless her heart. đ
I think if the child is showing some problematic behavior, an INFP mom (when they have the energy) will sit down with their child and talk to them about it, giving it their full attention.
They would try to explore the feelings and thoughts that their child is going through during the situation, and be understanding and supportive throughout the whole process.
They would help their child resolve certain emotions, and slowly, that would lead to a better outcome. INFPs are incredibly good at understanding people that are close to them, when healthy.
Haha I'm a INFP mom and I talk with my oldest about things just to make sure when something is up he will come to me when it is needed.
Hmm my daughter refuses to talk aboit problems when she has strong emotions running. I usually make her a hot chocolate to make her feel calm and happy a bit faster. She sometimes comes later to talk. And sometimes not. But chocolate is always welcome. (She's ENTJ and I think she likes me respecting her very very strong and sharp boundaries and a need for being free.)
Heh too bad my parents are too emotionally repressed to have a healthy emotional talk like that as an INFP đą
As an INFP mom, get a crockpot. If you get distracted by something it is ok because it is slow cooking so it won't burn like it will on the stovetop. I always have to triple check if I turned off the stove.
As an INFP mom, I think I definitely parent in between the two extremes! Of course, I also have nearly a decade of teaching experience, so that changes how I interact with kids. Show them respect and youâll often get respect in return. When they donât show respect, stop and take a moment to communicate and figure out whatâs wrong. Typing this out, Iâm realizing that my INFPness is pretty blatantly obvious! đ
no i'd say you are a wise person? can't see the telltale of INFPnessness, is it cuz you talk to your children?
I do wonder though, how do you handle cleaning, please any tips could save lives here! xD
@@orihime2u913 Dude, I STILL havenât figured out the cleaning part! đ
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First thing I tell myself is they dont do it to hurt me, they do it because they challenge your boundaries. Why? Cause thats in their nature. I dont have kids but i do teach older kids and when they dont behave, I tell and show them that if they want trust and respect, they cant continue doing that. They get it đ.
Infpenis, hehđ
After my kids grew up I told a friend âI think theyâve forgotten about me nowâ and he said, âRight. Theyâre all âWasnât there some lady who used to be around a lotâŠ?â đđ
âA Coldplay album⊠and not one of their better ones!â Bringing out the big guns I see đ
here comes the INFP's
HERE WE ARE
YES IM HERE
Hello there.
Infp mom here đ„°
INFP checking in
I felt the expired food scene, my mum has done that! One time I found some food in the cabinet that expired so long ago the supermarket it came from no longer exists đ
As INFJ I find Infp kindest and sweetest person to be with.
INFJ mom here, on the way home from the hospital with my first born I sat in the back seat crying looking at him. My husband asked what was wrong and I literally said EVERYTHING you did in the INFP goodnight scene. He replied, "You get 18 years with him, and that's a long time. By then, you will probably be ready for him to go." My husband's ISTP đ
I also think that the last scene of the video was more of an infj and enfj thing đ when they think about future and worry they wont be needed by someone.. like Ni and Fe c: although sometimes similar thoughts can visit me, i can give an advice to that - even tho its unavoidable u still have the present, so enjoy the present instead.. as about the kid - u still will be helping and meeting them even when they grow up c:
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Don't worry, sometimes we never move đ My sister and I are respectively 29 and 31 and life repeatedly trying to eff us and our mom over, we've decided to just stay and live all together. đ
@@Capyrate same here, my parents had me and my brother in their 40s so I decided to stay with them until the end to help them as they grow old, to give back everything they gave me growing up
I'm an INFP mom to an 18yo... It doesn't go away.
As a mom of three, this is so accurate!! Except I love when they have friends over, I just hide out in my room with headphones in. đ
Yeah I like hearing my teenage daughter giggling with her friends. I know that one day she'll no longer live at home and I won't get to hear it as often. I'm happy to let them have the living room whilst I chill in my room with music to escape the mayhem. đ
@@TheLadyDelirium EXACTLY!! â„ïž
Thatâs the way to do it lol.
Minha tia Ă© INFP e Ă© extremamente tĂmida. Ela nĂŁo gosta de receber visitas e se esconde no quarto ou no banheiro...đ
I am not alone!! That made me smile!
Can't you just go to Timmy's house đđđđđI felt that. My son is 6 months old, but I've been preparing excuses since before birthđ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
The "It's probably still good" WAS SO ON POINT!
The INFP threat while driving with misbehaving kids...so nailed it!
it's always either nickelback or coldplay
He's watching me...I was just talking about how much I love coldplay
Ohhh nooo me tooo! Coldplay is my life haha! Not one of their better albums.. ohhh what a threat đ but they are all good? Hmmmm
Let's place bets on which album exactly that INFP mom meantđ
Ooooh other Coldplay loving INFPs! Hello! đ I was afraid we'd be an endangered species, seeing how it seems to be the thing to hate on the band. đ
But I'm glad I found other people who like them too! đ
As an INFP who has an INFP Mom... yes, I can relate to this đ
same here đ
Same!!
I'm an INFP and my husband is an INTP, we don't have any children yet but already I can see the "your dad will be home any minute" scene playing in my head
I'm an INTP and always imagined that my ideal partner would be an INFP, and definitely see something like this happening. đ
I'm an INFP, but I get the feeling that as a parent, I may not be as laid back. I was raised by an INTJ mom who was pretty rigid, and it's rubbed off on me lol.
Also, pffft, my kids are not waiting until dad gets home to get math help. THAT'S GONNA BE MY JOB! lol. My husband will be the one saying wait for mom to get home cuz she is the math genius đ That's legit my job right now is tutoring math. And I tutor even the higher math (Calc, linear algebra, etc)
Yeah, I got it...by "Normal mom" you mean an ESTJ mom
INTP here - the most normal person Iâve ever met is an ESTJ woman.
Whenever I doubt Iâm INFP I just watch a Frank James videođ
Yep, still the extroverted intuitive introverted feeler
INFP Sunday school teacher here! Once in class a kindergarten aged girl called me a b-. I gently explained how that word is used to make girls feel bad about themselves and God wants us to make girls feel good about themselves, etc. As soon as the class was over I went outside and laughed so hard I ruined my makeup. It was SO FUNNY and she used it PERFECTLY đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
Every time I see his INFP videos, I'm reminded of the laundry and messy house that I'll probably clean up in my mind. đ
As the son of an INFP mother, this is hilarious
INFP might make better pet parents đđ Trust me, Iâm INFP. Love my fur child â€đ
INFP fur mamma of six đ I cant help it, I just find them so much more endearing than humans
@@Midnitethorn oh yes same, same!!! đ I love/need quiet, peace and low stress, and children canât provide that đ€Ł Love my fur baby đâš and future Borzoi and Poodle babies soon to be adopted đ„°đ„°đ„°
@@Midnitethorn youâre very lucky to have six!!!! đđâšđâš
I'm both I have 4 cats and two children soon, I love children and animals. No one is louder than my ENTP husband aniway đ
I think so too. I don't have a fur baby of my own but I regularly take care of two dogs of friends.
As an INFP mom....this is so accurate I can't even believe it. The lack of laundry, needing the dad for math (and I homeschool so yikes)...saying goodnight is so sad, I'm always telling my kids "when you're grown up please live close and make sure I get to see my grandbabies...cause I might die otherwise." So...too accurate.
INFP here who homeschools!! I did teach my kids to do their own laundry, cause it there was no other possible way it was getting done đ
Is it an INFP mom thing to homeschool? Iâm one too. đ
I avoid putting that pressure on them, I always tell them when theyâre adults they can do whatever and live wherever they want and Iâll be there to support them if need be
Good lord, don't guilt trip your children like that. Your job is to help them become independent sp they can live their own lives.
Please, don't tell them that... My mom used to, and now I'm feeling guilty just at the thought of living my own life
Iâll also add as an INFP mom of 4: people are asking about cleaning and functioning. While I relate to the video, I simply canât function that laid back all the time. The negatives would outweigh the positives. So for cleaning, you need to tap into the idealistic artsy type you are and find that inner motivation to spruce up so it looks like a beautiful place. Or you need to tap into your philosophical personality and read about the deep meaning of home making, and you will find yourself suddenly inspired. Ha! Also, get kids to see it as teamwork (and tap into your strong moral convictions to give a nice lecture on responsibility and explain that if they canât take care of their stuff, they own too much stuff, and start planning out all your donations and idealistic minimalist lifestyle). But seriously, our home is pretty ordered most of the time. Because I like to be peaceful and chaos isnât peaceful đ
Hmm, these are good suggestions! Iâm also an INFP mom of four, and I really struggle to keep the house clean or even to stay on top of my kids to do their âchores.â I just feel like there are a million and one more important things in life than cleaning, like going on a walk, reading a book, writing, snuggling with the kids, daydreamingâŠbasically, just about anything! Life is entirely too short to spend most of my free time in a fruitless battle to keep the house spotless when 6 people are running around making a mess faster than I could ever clean it up. But at the same time, youâre so right that living in a messy house is not conducive to peace, and Iâm all about peace! So I need to find a way to motivate myself by tapping into my values like you suggested. Thanks!
@@elizabethwall8063 I relate sooooo much to the idea that there are so many more important things in life -like those walks, snuggles, and story times. My goal is to get the chores done fast to get them out of the way! With little ones, I also donât mind that lived in look (especially if books are stacked everywhere. Books are pretty, right? Books are peaceful, right? Ha!). Itâs always a balancing ace for me⊠so neat to meet another INFP with four kids!
â@@elizabethwall8063 Not a mom -- my inner kid is enough of a challenge for me. đ I would much rather paint, work with the Tarot and oracle cards I have, plus a gazillion other things...but...the two things that keep me trying to keep the clutter under control are:
1) the Sword of Damocles-level threat of a lease violation which can add up to eviction. I have worked too hard to get a place of my own.
2) What if people I love want to visit me? One such person -- my boss, who is a dad figure -- is very tidy himself, and while he has yet to do so, he might eventually want to hang out with me outside of work. If he does, I want him to be comfortable and cozy. Hell, **I** want to be comfortable and cozy in general.
So reining in the clutter to a degree where I feel like both I and anyone else would feel comfortable and cozy -- that's the goal. Pleasing the building admins and city inspector would simply be a bonus. đ
INFP mom of 4 as well. We all live in a small.3bdrm apartment right now. The 3 boys share a room and 2 of them are slobs. It's incredibly hard...nah screw that...IMPOSSIBLE to keep clean. It drives me insane. I have developed blinders that I wear when trekking thru their room to the pantry closet. Even when I step on trash and toys and crusty socks, I keep those blinders on. Best to only look when you have the energy and time to clean it cause YOU KNOW YOU WILL once you look. Lol one day we will own our own home and everyone will have their own space and it will be perfect. Haha
My mom is an infp but she's not so laid -back when I was young she always tried to get me dress better and make me behave nicer with people. She really put so much effort raising us such a wonderful woman
INFP here. A big reason I plan to homeschool if I ever have kids is because the idea of having to be there by a certain time every day is so incredibly stressful to me. I hate deadlines. With homeschool, you set your own schedule! If you start school an hour late it literally doesn't matter.
OMG as a fellow INFP I relate to this! I would have loved to be homeschooled as a kid. Unfortunately I went through regular schooling and HATED it đ
@@candylin7964 Same! My husband was homeschooled, and I am sooo jealous! School took 3-4 hours a day max (9-1 with recess and a lunch break), they had much longer Christmas breaks/summers, and he had so much more time to just relax and be a kid. None of that pressure and stress that was put on us in public school. Learning was fun! It wasn't grades focused. His mom just wanted her kids to learn the material. If he did bad on an assignment, they would go back over the information and he would just do it again.
I just remember going through school with almost constant anxiety-related stomach aches because I wanted to please everyone and do well and not get in trouble for anything.
I'm an INFP and I homeschool my three kids. My only complaint is not having enough alone time!
@@candylin7964 I'm an INTP but I relate to this very well, too, ESPECIALLY during my grade school to middle school years. I remember being grouchy 24/7 as a kid and getting the third degree by the adults for being "lazy" because I had trouble keeping up, despite hard effort (I'm enneagram 6, so there's more sense of structure than usual), but still, I burn out very easily if I don't get enough (and longer) breaks in between, which in turn gradually makes me get sloppy (one thing I really HATE about being a Perceiver is that lack of in-born self-discipline), plus all of the distractions/lack of focus (high Ne). So, yeah, I definitely wasn't "teacher's pet," that's for sure.
I like structure enough to keep everything in place and reduce the number of surprises/chaos because I can't focus otherwise, but TOO much structure, like in regular school, drives me insane; planners are my natural enemy. I would strategize around trying to be on time, etc., only to end up late, anyway. (Also, I'm a natural night owl; going to bed early to wake up for the 6 AM consisted of hours just trying to force myself to sleep. If you want to get the absolute worst of me, a 6 AM - 2 or 3 PM would do, but too bad mornings are just when the world operates).
When I was 12, I begged my parents to let me be homeschooled because, the constant bullying aside, I couldn't take the deadlines and competition anymore, only to get a tirade about "laziness" and such, and got yelled at some more when I protested about having my days scheduled, but then, my mother's an ESTJ (and an early-bird) and definitely can't relate with this or see things from another perspective, using herself as an example (so I supposedly just "hate to work"!), also compared me to my sister (INFJ) as an example of my "lack of responsibility," since my sister was always a model student (only because dominant Ni gave her razor-sharp focus, not from hard work, since she spent her time goofing off but somehow still manages to get straight-A's and hand all of her assignments in on time. But then, Judgers tend to work better in structured environments than we do, so my sister had no issues with our mother managing our day planners (with those PLUS school planners, it was a double-whammy for me)).
As for my dad (ISTP 9w1), he said "no" to homeschooling only because he thought he would be required to teach us himself, and there was no way he was going to do that.
@@phatcat3705 I'm glad that you can relate đ
1:25 That's the exact face my mom does and it frustrates me
(I mean the normal mom)
"I found this piece of art you made when you were 4 months old and I've been staring at it for the past hour" so true, I always get distracted by the things I find when tidying and before I know it, I've spent an hour just looking at, thinking back to the time when I first got it or imagining what I could do with it. I love this new series so far, Frank 𧥠please keep making more of these.
I do that too! 20 mins cleaning can easily become more than 3 hours. I love to reminisce!
That's likely caused by tertiary Si (Cognitive functions)
me too, 100% đ. also do you have a frank james emoji ? đź where can i find it?
@@mihaelahuban5287 you have to join as a channel member đ
@@hollyvincentart thank you đ
I wish I had a mum like this!! So honestly brutal and so unmoved. Imagine the emotional maturity of her kids and grounding they have.
Same. My mother's ESTJ 8w7. This is why my sister and I aren't exactly "grounded" in reality. (Speaking of groundINGS, though, would've been nice to just get the grounding, moreover without the adult tantrums. đ )
I, INFP mom, just found a tzatziki I made months ago in the fridge before watching this...the mold was all over it and me and my ENFP daughter thought the white and light green formations were so interesting... She took a picture, of course
If I become a mother one day this will probably be exactly how I act. I already do some of this to my younger siblings, so yeah, pretty accurate
The cleaning-up and finding old sentimental items and getting distracted for 4 hours >_
Omg đIâm an INFJ and my brother is an INFP. This is pretty accurate for him as a cat and dog dad! And the animals all gravitate towards him. Even the ones who wonât listen to his fiancĂ©e at all.
As an INFP single mom of three, my oldest being 24, I can concur with these examples. However, I have also always maintained open honest communication with my kids, nurturing their positive qualities and helping guide them to deal with things I felt would hurt them in the long run, helping them develop into the wonderful humans they are. Lol.
That sounds wonderful. Well done!
I agree! My kids are actually great, well behaved and know they can come to me for anything. Even if I do lose it and yell at times, I always go back and apologize and try to talk it out with them.
Aw that genuinely sounds so wonderful and sweet, need more like you
Something about the 'lol' makes me doubt you, whahahaha đ
Goodness! Itâs creepy reading words that echo my very thoughts and philosophy⊠being such a staunch introvert I always thought I was just a weird parent, even though it felt right to me⊠itâs good to know there are others out there.
I always regret the plans I made when I was in a 5 minute extroverted mood...
"You shouldn't say that word, but you used it so creatively!"
Hell YES! Being supportive is a way of life
As an INFP, I can confirm that hearing fourth-graders insult their teachers is very funny. Mainly cause I did that myself đđ
I'm an INFP dad, my wife does the working and math. Eating past due food is like a core value though...even if it is approaching the due date it has to go....especially milk, when we used to drink milk. My children are very independent...at a very young age. Love your videos!
To me it's like......your nose knows. If it smells bad, it's bad! If it smells fine even though its 3 months out of date....it's fine!
@@kittehtoes that's my mum right there lmao
I am an Infp but I mostly do my sister's maths guiding..it is not that Infp can't do math but some are not interested
@@dichenbordoloi7389 I think infps can be very good math tutors because they tell the material very "lively".
As an infp who was good at math and physics, I liked "translating" for classmates or familymembers who were afraid of the topic.
@@dichenbordoloi7389 My ENFJ wife is a super comp sci math nerd and I went the artsy route. I was good at math but yeah...not as thrilling as imagining DnD adventures.
Iâm not even a mom but this is probably exactly how I would act. Watch me stumble upon this video ten years in the future and be like
Yup thatâs me đ
As an INFP man with no children, I totally relate to thisđŻ
That's like my INFP dad ! Imagine being an ENTJ and having an ENFP mom an an INFP dad đ
Woo! INFP Gang! Seriously, cleaning takes forever because I'm always playing with the cool stuff I uncovered
Yes so many distractions lol
That is 85% of my cleaning time spent playing and remembering things and wanting to keep everything I find.
Literally just me in adulthood lmao đ€Ł
I loved this one so much, great job Frank! From creatively using swearwords to contemplating the future before saying goodnight, you really nailed this one!
- INFP
That cleaning bit is sooo true!!! xD Nostalgia hits hard when you have work to do...
I don't know how accurate the others are but the cleaning one and the good night one was pretty accurate actually on point
I saw this notification and literally jumped out of my seat
Aww, the ending đȘThe jar with the 2017 expiration dateđ and what a kid! Did an art project at 4 months! INFP moms need a hug. đ
The jar was extremely accurate. đ
Haha, as an INFP I always see that line 'It's probably still good.' and use food and medicine well after the expiration date.. ;-)
As a 25yo INFJ I can proudly say that INFP parenting was the best for međ€ I talk to my INFP mom almost every day
I gotta say, as an INFP man who naturally never has and never will be in this role, I could all the same see myself in very much of it. Some of the behaviors have come through in my teaching style, especially the inability to be a disciplinarian.
đ ENFP mom here who can relate!
Exactly! Hahaha, very relatable #swimtrunks #aregular
Omg the punishment bit hit way too hard đ guilty as charged
I now think me (INFP) and my INTJ partner would be a real interesting parenting combo... but we're both TOO BUSY STARING INTO SPACE.
YES YES YES! You really did another! And this time, an INFP! I'm an INFP myself! Could relate to this so much! Post more! Love â€
As an infp momâŠ.ummm đ . I need help lol. Itâs too relatable. Also normal mom is scary.
I also need help as an INFP Mum. My daughter's almost 17 but I often wonder how I've managed to get her to this point, doing well, when I'm such an unorganized mess. đ€Ł
@@TheLadyDelirium SAME. My husband reassures me that our kid is fine but I always feel like Iâm slacking off all the time. My mother in law thinks itâs horrible that I donât care if he matches his socks lmao. Etc
Haha, as an INFP mom of four, I can confirm this is pretty accurate! My house is always a mess and Iâm often distracted and overly sentimental, but I like to think Iâm generally calm and my kids are happy!
As an INFP (even though, I'm not a mom yet), this is so damn accurate to how I would be ahahah even just as an adult, this is accurate đ€Ł
"Can't you go to Timmy's house instead" YES LET'S KICK EVERYONE OUT
Very accurate except for the homework. I'm currently learning a lot about modern Greek history through my older daughter. Love it! Sometimes she has to remind me I'm supposed to check if she remembers what's written in the book, because I get lost reading...but generally they prefer me over their father, because he's worse than me đ
Burnt the garlic today and the food got bitter, the house is a mess, the kids in the past had complaints about never being punished by us, they regularly have to search for their clean clothes in a pile of clothes on the sofa I haven't managed yet to iron or put away.
What calms me down is that whenever I show up at their schools teachers praise their good behaviour and their intellectual abilities and that at a certain point they just start doing the things that need to be done without me pushing, nagging, threatening,... It seems like there's a natural maturation that leads to them growing into lovely, disciplined, autonomous, caring people just by nature.
Thank youuuu â€â€â€ i am just like this, and my toddler is 1 year old - this gives me hope. Thanks a lot. Seriously. I was afraid I was going to mess things up just by being me (and with my husband being as my husband!!), bc many ânormalâ people had kind of threatened us - not creative, not sensitive people has threatened us that we should be more tidy or have more disciplined rules because if not, our child blablablabla -, and this small story of yours really actually helps to see reality. Thaaanks .
@@laimaravillon895 I've come to understand what's most important is to be a good example for your child. If you punish them for not telling the truth but you yourself use white lies, you just teach them to become very good at lying without being caught. If you wash yourself regularly and point out to them that as they don't want to sit next to a smelly kid, the others won't want to sit next to them if they smell, they'll come to decide they better wash.
I explain things to them, I want them to be able to take decisions and to be informed. Of course as toddlers they had to brush their teeth and change diapers, there are things that just have to be done. But I would let them choose if they wanted to do xy before or after that e.g.
Edit: my older daughter is super tidy and a perfectionist, even though she grew up in a messy household. She just comes after her grandfather.
When they are so little as your child is, in my opinion getting through the day without having a mental breakdown, without burning down the place and without having to rush your kid to the hospital, you're doing a good job đ
I can imagine myself being a mom like that
100 đŻ accurate. OMG. I stop and stare at my little guyâs handmade art projects from a decade ago and get derailed from whatever I was doing for half an hourâŠ.đ â€
A whole video dedicated to each type as a parent really helps me understand the types better. I don't know why but a whole video of real life scenarios and examples helps - and a video focused on just one type at a time.
Really love these new seriesâ€ïžâđ„â€ïžâđ„â€ïžâđ„
P.S as an INFP, thatâd be totally me when Iâd be a momđđđ
Ok, I loved this as an INFP. That said, I have 4 kids and the one thing you left out was the crazy overstimulated mom making her kids sit and read literature or nature journaling to get some relief (or just locking herself in her bedroom đ).
i'm not a mom or even married, but the math homework part will def be me! đ€Łđ€Ł i burst out laughing
yep INFP mom, thats me and yes they have all grown up, do think about me sometimes though :)
My cousin's INFP mom just let their kids play in their room with their own gaming setups and be introverts. I'd say she's amazing
HAHAHAHAHA "Not the Coldplay album, mom, please, nooooo"
0:40 literally SO ACCURATE đ I said "Oh you gonna have to ask your dad."
INFPs are truly something special
Iâm an infj mom, but I vibe with the infp mom really well.
Considerando que a maioria dos INFJs e INFPs sĂŁo do eneatipo 4, vocĂȘs partilham bastante coisa em comum.
Sou INFJ tambĂ©m, mas sou do eneatipo 1, entĂŁo sĂł consegui me relacionar com a Ășltima parte desse vĂdeo. Acho que serei mais parecida como uma mĂŁe normal no restante do vĂdeo.
I feel like the "Normal" mom is worse to be honest. She feels like one of those moms that don't want to acknowledge that spanking is abuse.
I used to argue with my mom to get her to give me chores because I felt spoiled and dumb that I didnât know how to do anything. She just wanted to do everything for me so that Iâd be happy. Hahaha
Hah! I completely related to this, especially the parts about the cleaning. Although I do clean, and i start with the best of intentions, it's so easy to become distracted with something I found. Sometimes, I get up and start wandering around the house, and see other things that "have to be done," and I end up with half-finished projects all over the place. The part about the language got to me. Yes, I tell them not to say "that word," but I always laugh. Sometimes, I tell them the meaning and entomology of the word. Also, the part about the food in the fridge! lol.
Oh! And the cooking. I've gotten a lot better about it now, but only because I got tired of the fire department coming over when the fire alarms went off and I couldn't remember the pass code. Good times. Good times.
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As an INFP I feel you on the running around the house cleaning a little bit everywhere, but then nothing gets done.
I now force myself to focus on one room at a time. If there are things that belong in another room I either put them in a laundry basket or will take them to the other room and set them in there and I don't allow myself to start cleaning that room.
This has made a huge difference, and my house looks so much better. It takes effort and I have to be strict with myself, but it's worth it.
@@bunny_0288 Thanks for the idea! That sounds great.
Haha as an INFP mom I confirm all of this
Well done. You captured so much, so very well. However, this INFP mum did study maths at Uni.... Probably not the norm though.
Nuh I studied maths too đ€Ł I reckon a good amount of infps are good at math
Try to make videos showing how each personality type argues with someone with the same type. (INFJ arguing with an INFJ, INFP arguing with an INFP, etc.)
I love this series, I think I had typical parents: ISTJ father and ESFJ mother. Unfortunately for them, they got 2 weird and rare species INTP and INTJ. đ€Ł
Ooh I don't normally relate very much to your INFP content (I'm pretty optimistic and it leans depressed), but this video...that is probably exactly how I'll be when I have kids. Except I'm good at math đ
I often don't relate to the INFPs in these videos either but this one was great!
I agree about being an optimistic INFP, and I'm not a mother, but I didn't relate to this one. I felt like some of this just came off as a negligent mother. The maths and music as punishment and the ending were pretty much the only bits I related to. I feel like people always think INFPs aren't in control of themselves and their own lives, let alone someone else's, and that's just not me at all. I make my wild dreams come true!
@@Lizzo13 yeah, honestly I think it was relatable to me not as an INFP but as someone with probable ADHD. Serving the kids expired jam was not a thing I would ever do, but finding three month expired jam...happened a couple days ago. And time blindness is a real struggle so being an hour late is not unheard of.
I relate to what you all said about being an optimist INFP. The last scene was very true but then the INFP will also dwell on like 3 different alternate futures where they can see their kids living with them forever (and the INFP loving it probably unless they imagine the kid being a âparasiteâ). I think thereâs a reason INFPs are often labeled the anti-Nihilist and I find that to be mostly true. Itâs like we have to be optimistic and idealistic about people because otherwise, all the negative things and failure of humans that we see and internalize very deeply will just make us too depressed to live, so our Ne âparentsâ us by providing us the ability to see why people act the way they do and how they can turn it around one day.
Frank James, get out of my head, it's getting really crowded in there.đđ
That INFP mom is really chill and sometimes overthinking lol
I am an INFP mom...NAILED IT đ€Łđđ
I'm an ENFP with a INFP mom and the whole video is so real and relatable đâ€
I'm an INFP mom with an ENFP kid, and I love my teenage offspring so much! I imagine your mum loves you just as much!
lol I donât have kids yet, but I definitely have considered punishing them by playing music they donât want to hear đ