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  • čas přidán 28. 06. 2024
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    It's been a weird and rough few months for the world as a whole. I wanted to take some time to sit down and check in with all of you in a way I haven't before. More of a one on one, how are you kind of talk. So I decided to start a series that I am calling MatChats, where we sit down and talk about more personal things. Today, I want to talk about how we all feel a bit like we are losing control of pretty much everything.
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Komentáře • 33K

  • @noah3508
    @noah3508 Před 4 lety +7854

    MatPat: *sits on couch*
    Comment section: I'm something of a psychologist myself

  • @xpkhmc691
    @xpkhmc691 Před 4 lety +2688

    A CZcamsr that can express his feelings whenever is a good CZcamsr

  • @bahmot9501
    @bahmot9501 Před 2 lety +410

    The fact you can *actually hear his voice shake* during some of those sentences actually makes this video hit really really hard.

  • @remblq
    @remblq Před 3 lety +766

    "most effective treatment is exposure"
    people with a phobia of death: welp, guess ill die

    • @NathanKura
      @NathanKura Před 2 lety +51

      people with a phobia of having a phobia: welp guess I'll get a phobia... Wait, I already have a phobia!

    • @dyegoeduardosantossilva3659
      @dyegoeduardosantossilva3659 Před 2 lety +4

      xD

    • @Honeycomb126
      @Honeycomb126 Před rokem +4

      If you actually have that phobia, I relate with you for I've been close to death many times by second hand overdose by my drug addict parents!
      Luckly, I'm out of there now! Even if it means I had to be separated from my siblings!

    • @metroidsky
      @metroidsky Před rokem +1

      Obviously, it's subjective.

  • @TheMazinka
    @TheMazinka Před 4 lety +4602

    “I sound crazy” No, you sound like someone with a trauma and that is a horrible experience to go through.

  • @BurritoToonz
    @BurritoToonz Před 4 lety +1834

    Alternate Title:
    Overcoming Fear - Matthew Patrick - TEDTalk

    • @OrangeColt
      @OrangeColt Před 4 lety +4

      Honestly yeah

    • @lunareclipse0823
      @lunareclipse0823 Před 4 lety +31

      BurritoToonz
      Seriously, he would do great doing a TEDTalk.

    • @lightlysal
      @lightlysal Před 4 lety +10

      Yeah I wouldn't be mad even if he said the same speech

    • @raiderexisok618
      @raiderexisok618 Před 4 lety +3

      I think the current title really lets us big brains understand what he is trying to convey. Though it is really a TEDtalk

    • @bonesauce1393
      @bonesauce1393 Před 4 lety +3

      It would more likely be TEDx

  • @blackninjakr
    @blackninjakr Před 3 lety +108

    Imagine watching it when you are sitting at the airport....

  • @Althea-42
    @Althea-42 Před 3 lety +233

    As a person with OCD the number thing didn't sound crazy. That's basically my life, just specifically for plane phobia.
    You are loved and you shouldn't feel ashamed about your fears. We are all a little mad sometimes.

    • @glorious_frog4264
      @glorious_frog4264 Před 2 lety +11

      yeah that part reminded me a lot of my experiences with OCD

  • @milesgaunt6767
    @milesgaunt6767 Před 4 lety +2320

    Matpat: *Begins talking about his life*
    Wiki Editors: *Frantically begin typing*

  • @orangenal
    @orangenal Před 4 lety +1251

    "we'll get the all clear from officials... Then the people who know what they're talking about." Best line ever.

    • @rold-hx8bu
      @rold-hx8bu Před 4 lety +28

      I've seen many "people who know what they're talking about" telling us to calm down while officials keep everyone freaking out

    • @Flop_Studios
      @Flop_Studios Před 4 lety +4

      @Christopher Farley go away

    • @Crims0n9088
      @Crims0n9088 Před 4 lety +3

      The irony is that those are the exact same things

    • @ChridsBop
      @ChridsBop Před 4 lety

      Unfortunately the people who we see as those who know what they’re talking about have been wrong about absolutely everything.

    • @PrepareToDie0
      @PrepareToDie0 Před 4 lety +4

      There's a great article the BBC published where like 60% of British ppl surveyed said that even if the virus restrictions are lifted and the threat is gone, they would still be reluctant to go outside... I think that resonates quite strongly here

  • @lucastillej0
    @lucastillej0 Před 3 lety +134

    I thought this would be about the MCN’s but this makes me see how human MatPat is.

  • @belleanndm
    @belleanndm Před 3 lety +154

    me: *has a horrible, irrational phobia of dogs*
    matpat: exposure therapy works
    me: *side eyes the hypnotherapy appointments i'm hopefully starting soon* hahaha. yeah..

    • @Alpha-1_UnitCommander
      @Alpha-1_UnitCommander Před 3 lety +2

      How the heck are you afraid of dogs..?

    • @egghead4590
      @egghead4590 Před 3 lety +14

      @@Alpha-1_UnitCommander I'm afraid of dogs to, seeing a dog bark at u loudly chasing u... it's terrifying bro

    • @louisesn8319
      @louisesn8319 Před 2 lety +5

      Dogs can be quite scary. But we have to work through it😪 my boyfriend is pro ably getting a dog soon, so there is my forced exposure therapy🙂😨 and also my mum and sister want a cat and is going to get one. And I am even mora afraid of cats... but I know, exposure therapy is necessary and stuff. So guess I am gonna battle lots of anxieties soon. Wish me luck guys😅

    • @SnakelikefoxFoxlikesnake
      @SnakelikefoxFoxlikesnake Před rokem +3

      I’m afraid of dogs too, it developed when I was 6 at the park. There was this hill that I loved going down using my scooter, one day there was this lady with her dog sitting on a bench near the hill. I started down the hill and just to let you know this hill was so steep and when you went down the hill on wheels you would be going so fast, so I went down the hill feeling the same way you feel on a roller coaster but then I felt a sharp pain in my thigh and fell down off the scooter. I slowly got up and looked around and saw that the lady who was sitting on the benches dog had bit me so hard that I was bleeding rapidly, the woman started apologizing as if that would reduce the immense pain or make this any better, I slowly limped to my dad who was at the top of the hill. He RAN down the hill, struck the fear of god in that lady, snatched me and my scooter, and brought me to the hospital to get 18 stitches, I screamed the loudest when they injected the numbing juice.

  • @philspaghet
    @philspaghet Před 4 lety +1813

    Matt: "Definitely not gonna do skydiving that's just stupid no sir!"
    Stephanie: *starts searching for skydiving coupons*

    • @thorondor1593
      @thorondor1593 Před 4 lety +19

      That wouldn't be a bad therapy idea, actually

    • @fraser7211
      @fraser7211 Před 4 lety +11

      Could we get a GoPro video of that please? I'd love to see his reaction live. :D

    • @arunmadhavan4457
      @arunmadhavan4457 Před 4 lety +9

      @@fraser7211 When that gets posted, you know we're ALL gunna reference this video! xD

    • @zak9158
      @zak9158 Před 4 lety

      Haha

    • @fraser7211
      @fraser7211 Před 4 lety

      @@arunmadhavan4457 Indeed

  • @Trebinhas
    @Trebinhas Před 4 lety +877

    I love when he gives this kind of personal talks. It shows how transparent he is. Matt really is an incredible guy

    • @mentra1
      @mentra1 Před 3 lety +5

      Does it? Does it really show his business side? Does it show the edited parts where he shows a script that he’s reading from instead of “from the heart”

    • @caleb1518
      @caleb1518 Před 3 lety +5

      Get a load of this simp

    • @seanknapp1654
      @seanknapp1654 Před 3 lety +12

      @@caleb1518 get a load of this "Hate Matpat for no particular reason" bandwagoner.

    • @caleb1518
      @caleb1518 Před 3 lety +4

      Sean Knapp I really like Matpat, didn't realize his entire fan base was filled with pubescent furries until now 👍🏻

    • @Lanz_1986
      @Lanz_1986 Před 3 lety +2

      Sean Knapp it’s not for no reason. Matpat cherry-picks information, ignores the word of the devs, straight up lies...

  • @A_Real_Looser
    @A_Real_Looser Před 3 lety +62

    11:15 “I did that so I could control my grade.”
    Me “yep that’s exactly why I’m failing every subject because of that same problem

  • @Ashrustic
    @Ashrustic Před 3 lety +85

    "You'll get the all clear from the officials
    "then the all clear from the people who actully know what there talking about."
    I mean he isnt wrong.

    • @alwaysindanger2279
      @alwaysindanger2279 Před 3 lety +3

      In tests, the TSA couldn't detect 95% of the weapons that they were supposed to, so... yeah, MatPat's right when he says that

    • @Ashrustic
      @Ashrustic Před rokem

      @@alwaysindanger2279 that had to do with covid ☠

  • @mrvaughnlee474
    @mrvaughnlee474 Před 4 lety +3653

    Matpat: I'm afraid of flying.
    Scott: Write that down!!

  • @kaischreurs2488
    @kaischreurs2488 Před 4 lety +506

    life is like a card game: you can influence the odds but in the end even when playing perfectly you might lose or even when playing the worst way possible you might win.

  • @shannontb
    @shannontb Před 3 lety +860

    MatPat: to overcome phobias you need to face them
    Me with arachnophobia: oh HELL na I am NOT going near those Demons of Hell you call spiders
    God last time I looked at this it had like 18 likes

    • @its_aj251
      @its_aj251 Před 3 lety +37

      Spiders kill flies and mosquitoes. Kill the spiders that try to get close to you. But if you see one doing nothing, don't look at it.

    • @blurrysuprisedcat8334
      @blurrysuprisedcat8334 Před 3 lety +9

      Most spiders are non venomous

    • @shannontb
      @shannontb Před 3 lety +15

      @@blurrysuprisedcat8334 I know but they will still kill me

    • @Alpha-1_UnitCommander
      @Alpha-1_UnitCommander Před 3 lety +21

      @@shannontb Ironically most spiders can't harm you at all and the most the most "harmful" spiders can do is just non-fatally poison you.

    • @shannontb
      @shannontb Před 3 lety +12

      @@Alpha-1_UnitCommander I know it was just a joke but I still feel like it no matter how many times I remind myself

  • @randommchainn
    @randommchainn Před 3 lety +67

    Thanks for sharing this with us, Mat. It makes us feel included, and you're so transparent with your fans, as others have said. And I completely agree.

  • @viperx27
    @viperx27 Před 4 lety +1244

    Wasn't expecting this.
    I can't stay home, since I am labeled as "essential", I still have to go to work.

    • @penguinsrock520
      @penguinsrock520 Před 4 lety +49

      viperx27 Be safe. I hope wherever you’re working there are people that are grateful and appreciate that you and others are there able to help keep it open.

    • @hazbinpilts5574
      @hazbinpilts5574 Před 4 lety +21

      We appreciate you.

    • @linarob2558
      @linarob2558 Před 4 lety +10

      Thank u

    • @dragonicbladex7574
      @dragonicbladex7574 Před 4 lety +10

      Keep doing awesome work ^-^, we appreciate you greatly, thank you for what you're doing.

    • @thegentleman3142
      @thegentleman3142 Před 4 lety +17

      The hero among us
      Not the hero we deserve
      But the hero we need

  • @humanatee6639
    @humanatee6639 Před 4 lety +3919

    “I’m not a jake paul or anything”
    I am 100% on board with “jake paul” becoming an insult.

  • @fin.bunce22
    @fin.bunce22 Před 3 lety +82

    The mention of Tesco at 2:04 makes me, a British person, feel noticed by America. Literally went to a Tesco today.

  • @ruller8901
    @ruller8901 Před 3 lety +33

    It’s like watching a man tell a story of how he grew as a person

  • @oodlynoodly9148
    @oodlynoodly9148 Před 4 lety +955

    "100 of your closest friends" what kinda people do you think we are mat pat

  • @Good_Side
    @Good_Side Před 4 lety +1277

    Everyone: Thanks for watching
    Matpat: Thanks for listening

    • @B4llingKitten43
      @B4llingKitten43 Před 4 lety +15

      Blockbloc because we have something important to listen to

    • @jclee3479
      @jclee3479 Před 4 lety +10

      Honestly its really effective in separating it from the rest of his content and making it stick in our heads more as it sticks out

    • @chocotacobaco2499
      @chocotacobaco2499 Před 4 lety +1

      its cause of E flingmo mrkimcam

    • @iiwitherminecraft2787
      @iiwitherminecraft2787 Před 4 lety +3

      The likes are literally going up every second on this comment

  • @kjelliboy
    @kjelliboy Před 3 lety +27

    Now that I’ve watched this video, I feel very blessed that my only phobia doesn’t effect my daily life, only a few times when swimming at the beach.

  • @littleconch
    @littleconch Před 2 lety +3

    This is actually somewhat how some cases of OCD start. The crippling fear of the 0.1% chance of your fears being proven right drives you to do absolutely everything to stop the bad things you think are gonna happen from happening, no matter how absurd the actions are. And it’s common for it to manifest at around age of 18. We need more awareness of these issues because people like Matt go years suffering without being able to put a name to it and get help quicker and it’s sad :(

  • @deltawarrior2323
    @deltawarrior2323 Před 4 lety +5588

    “I’m scared of flying”
    Covid-19: *say no more fam*

    • @XxxOreololxxX
      @XxxOreololxxX Před 4 lety +43

      Instinct no fly

    • @ohrats731
      @ohrats731 Před 4 lety +53

      Deltawarrior right? Just before all this I was getting really overwhelmed at work and I was like “I really need a break or I’m going to quit... I need time alone!”
      Covid-19: *I gotchu boo*
      Me: nononono this isn’t what I meant!

    • @JackHarper69
      @JackHarper69 Před 4 lety +14

      That’s funny hahah

    • @poopsofia
      @poopsofia Před 4 lety +5

      np bud just made u hit 1k likes :))

    • @markthegoalie8573
      @markthegoalie8573 Před 4 lety +4

      Just wanted to say that the 2nd (and worse/more severe) wave of coronavirus is expected to hit in Winter 2021

  • @foxxgall
    @foxxgall Před 4 lety +982

    Matt: "Except for skydiving!"
    Me: *"Lets fix that with a controlled shock"*

    • @Leo-fr7yu
      @Leo-fr7yu Před 4 lety +6

      bruh

    • @foxxgall
      @foxxgall Před 4 lety +3

      HOLY CRAP 258 LIKES?!?!

    • @noahhales5078
      @noahhales5078 Před 4 lety +2

      Bruh

    • @jadyn8642
      @jadyn8642 Před 4 lety

      Nice

    • @Pogal
      @Pogal Před 4 lety +2

      Lol I was going to try that before all of this virus stuff happened but now I have heard matpat tell me not to I probably won't.

  • @faking9397
    @faking9397 Před 3 lety +24

    Couch: Is pulled out
    Matpat: Now this is a Avengers Level threat

  • @Stout1811
    @Stout1811 Před rokem +9

    "The key to a happy life is to accept you are never actually in control." - Simon Masrani, Jurassic World, 2015

  • @rougetoad4937
    @rougetoad4937 Před 4 lety +1237

    The title should be: “I’m taking control” because honestly, it’s more about his recovery and his learning experience rather than just how it hurt him.
    I’m glad it has a somewhat good ending and Matt, I hope you know, we all feel you bro. Everyone has their frights. Cheers 🥂

    • @emiwarble
      @emiwarble Před 4 lety +14

      I think it's "I'm losing control" because he's learning to let go of his desire to control things that are out of his hands

    • @user-rm4io2nq8l
      @user-rm4io2nq8l Před 4 lety +4

      I like the “we’re loosing control” part, even it’s not the main one. Really made me think

    • @gamestarz2001
      @gamestarz2001 Před 4 lety +2

      I think that would sound quite despotic before watching the video

    • @leftnewchannelstillkindaac4286
      @leftnewchannelstillkindaac4286 Před 4 lety

      Please don’t reach 666 likes

    • @Oggie_rumperoo
      @Oggie_rumperoo Před 4 lety

      I’m losing control

  • @Lks112201918
    @Lks112201918 Před 4 lety +1280

    Talking about airplanes;
    A youtuber called PhlyDaily who plays moslty War Thunder once told a very interesting story of how he may have prevented an airplane crash, in 2015.
    In short, he's into aircraft, and he knows that before a flight, the pilot and the ground crew do a check to see if all the plane's control surfaces are good, and from his seat he could see that even though an aileron was stuck at a downwards position, the plane was getting ready for takeoff. After several attemps he convinced the stewardess to talk to the pilot, whom came to ask him what he saw, then looked himself and went to talk to someone else. They ended up having to wait 3 hours while the plane was being repaired.
    So sometimes you do have some control
    But weirdest thing: if you go watch his video he says he was watching a youtube video when he noticed the aileron.
    From Game Theory...

    • @toxint
      @toxint Před 4 lety +49

      Full Circle I guess lmao

    • @muhammadsalam240
      @muhammadsalam240 Před 4 lety +11

      Epic

    • @hibijibeez-8318
      @hibijibeez-8318 Před 4 lety +15

      dun dun DUUUUUUUUUUN 🥁🥁🥁

    • @pedror598
      @pedror598 Před 4 lety +9

      This comment is lacking some ph's

    • @analogicaleuphimism2078
      @analogicaleuphimism2078 Před 4 lety +16

      As in...... that Game Theory video could have distracted him from seeing the Aileron essentially making Mat indirectly responsible of a plane crash?

  • @haldeman7740
    @haldeman7740 Před 2 lety +8

    I had lost so much control in my life that I had to take on so many problems that weren’t mine and it broke me. My therapist told me “care don’t carry” I need to live my life without trying to control everything

  • @conciouscleo1880
    @conciouscleo1880 Před 3 lety +14

    Dude, this video was fantastic. It was great to see you open up about this sort of thing.
    It's difficult that we can't control what happens to us in life but we sure as heck can control how we react to these things.

  • @caminates3892
    @caminates3892 Před 4 lety +1255

    The fact that he almost started crying really gets me
    Edit:you can also see the moment his eye turns red

  • @thezombiecreeper
    @thezombiecreeper Před 3 lety +2099

    This is one of the best things about Mat:
    Even at his most serious moments, he can still make us chuckle.

    • @kohakukamei621
      @kohakukamei621 Před 3 lety +6

      Ah, yes. Like in SIX

    • @lukebristow3866
      @lukebristow3866 Před 3 lety +9

      "there's only so many mushy peas a man can have in his life"
      Well there's only so much rain people can take In life. Ahh yes. Welcome to England.

    • @floraruby7949
      @floraruby7949 Před 3 lety +3

      Yeah, and maybe it's one of his way to cope with this

    • @craigandjodiehand7510
      @craigandjodiehand7510 Před 2 lety +1

      @@floraruby7949 yea its my way to cope

    • @MrQuackerIsDumb
      @MrQuackerIsDumb Před rokem

      Or cry

  • @slippingknot4047
    @slippingknot4047 Před 3 lety +9

    "We wind back to 2006"
    Me: so uh how is -1 yr old me suppose to watch this video again

  • @derpiestwolfkattheiii9789

    Anyone else watching this a year later and really needs to hear this? I'm currently so anxious to go out. I actually almost cried thinking about going out and introducing myself to my neighbors

    • @foxinabox5103
      @foxinabox5103 Před 3 lety +2

      Oh man, i can relate. Not as bad as that, but i do feel like my already bad communication skill is getting far worse rn. And im in constant fear of the future, "what if i cant communicate with people?" "If that happened, ill die alone" "if i cant communicate with people, ill never achieve success" and hearing him saying exposure therapy is the best medicine, its kind of inspiring. I might not done that, but i have to! I have to force myself to do it!

  • @cardboardbox6690
    @cardboardbox6690 Před 4 lety +1207

    Everyone: yes I agree, that is sad
    CZcams: Demonitised

    • @CathrineMacNiel
      @CathrineMacNiel Před 4 lety +7

      The forbidden Word!

    • @GPyroKing
      @GPyroKing Před 4 lety +3

      @Abdul Rahman Mohammed they dont demonitize that anymore

    • @DaemosDaen
      @DaemosDaen Před 4 lety +2

      @@GPyroKing Yes they do. Ask Gamer's Nexus.

    • @hildacollazo1926
      @hildacollazo1926 Před 4 lety +2

      @everyone here REEEEĒEEEÈÉÊEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

    • @cookiecraze1310
      @cookiecraze1310 Před 4 lety +1

      CZcams : BUT HE SAID THE CORONA WORD !

  • @rosalinawhitney7892
    @rosalinawhitney7892 Před 4 lety +637

    Since when did pat become a therapist? He's actually making some good points and I am not emotionally stable enough to handle the logic of his statements

  • @AyuKasioy_
    @AyuKasioy_ Před 2 lety +5

    I'm a victim of overthinking EVERY single thing in my life and I wish I could be more ignorant and the safety bubble was still there to blind me, but trying everything to stop thinking too much ahead or too deep into things. I feel your anxiety Mat Pat.

  • @redmetroid743
    @redmetroid743 Před 3 lety +36

    I may be extremely late but nonetheless this video came to me in a point in my life where I am letting fear control me. I mean granted I've had a couple of near death experiences (I'm 23 btw) but this showed me that I shouldn't be focused on the bad and that I should be grateful for literally every day even if it involves a shitty day at work. So for everyone who says Game theory is for kids and nothing else I say you're not open enough. These kinds of videos help all of us remember that just because you're a content creator doesn't mean you're invincible. Joycon bois for life.
    Also mattpat if you ever read this which I doubt you will considering how old this vid is I just wanna say You have made learning fun for me and that's why I've been watching you for 8 years now.

  • @raxa9208
    @raxa9208 Před 3 lety +1344

    I got in a major car crash as a passenger in november last year, since then I've always been scared of sitting in cars as a passenger, the reason i mention "passenger", is because if i am the driver, if i am in control... i don't think i would be that worried
    You're whole video literally summarises my thoughts, and also gave me motivation to get over this fear...
    Thanks man.

    • @miui_burrito9203
      @miui_burrito9203 Před 3 lety +21

      I totally understand you. I myself have many fears and anxietys and almost all of them are connect to the problem of not having control of the happening. Humans fear unexpected things that can’t be controlled. I hope you will overcome your trauma and I’m sorry that something like that happened to you...

    • @v3ntiz665
      @v3ntiz665 Před 3 lety +12

      I can totally relate. When I was about 9-10 years old (about 7 years ago ) I got into a serious car accident with my grandpa. He was the biggest role model I have ever had in my life. I honestly don’t want to get into detail but every second was absolutely terrific and terrible. It is almost scarier than a really high up roller coaster derailing. And for me we were in an old Subaru and then we crashed right into the side of a full 18 wheeler. I almost died. And I won’t ever forget that moment when my grandpa left this world and I was so scared so all I do was ask him if we were ok. That’s why I am so afraid of not getting into cars but seeing an 18 wheeler on the highway. What I’m saying is that you are not alone and that I wish I could get over my fear as easily as you did.

    • @kohakukamei621
      @kohakukamei621 Před 3 lety +9

      @@v3ntiz665 I've been in a car accident too. But not as big.
      The only thing ruined was the car.
      Sorry, you had to go through that...

    • @Defnetlynotken
      @Defnetlynotken Před 3 lety +7

      I also had been in an incident just last years 2019 when I was with my grandmother going to a plane to have a vacation with my parents then suddenly when we were just about to finish verifying our passport an earthquake just occured I hold my grandmother's hand going to the exit good thing we were very near we all got safe but then back to another flight after that day I got scared of going to a plane (i have had a total of 4 flights)my grandmother left this world after just this year

    • @louzo5175
      @louzo5175 Před 3 lety +1

      pog

  • @Tenshi_Sora
    @Tenshi_Sora Před 4 lety +461

    My favorite quote applies to this video: “Courage is not the absence of fear, courage is the presence of fear but the determination to confront it”

    • @Doodlebugthegoldenhamster
      @Doodlebugthegoldenhamster Před 4 lety +1

      @Christopher Farley It would help if you didn't say "Yeet Lmao".

    • @alyssa6918
      @alyssa6918 Před 4 lety +3

      @Christopher Farley this is a serious video talking about important things. Stop begging for subs.

    • @Cosmic_Mario_
      @Cosmic_Mario_ Před 4 lety

      Golden Hamster agreed lol

    • @pineapple7794
      @pineapple7794 Před 4 lety +1

      @Christopher Farley STOP YOUR BOTS! YOU KEEP SPAMMING THESE IN CZcams CHANNELS!

    • @femmefuntime
      @femmefuntime Před 4 lety

      Christopher Farley I need Subs too. I wanna do youtube for a career so I can actually feel fulfilled in life doing something creative and fun.

  • @sombrecasper
    @sombrecasper Před 2 lety +5

    this video almost brought me to tears man , i'm so glad you're okay

  • @thegpshowtheshow
    @thegpshowtheshow Před 3 lety +6

    As someone who has chronic anxiety and I’ve had it for as long as I could remember having matpat talk about this was really helpful for me and this helped my anxiety a lot and I’m sharing it with everyone and I watch this video every time I feel anxiety creeping up

  • @enderlemon890
    @enderlemon890 Před 4 lety +2034

    When his voice started trembling I just wanted to hug him. Im not a weirdo, but i just cant bear to see people sad...

    • @dannishirecliffe5360
      @dannishirecliffe5360 Před 4 lety +54

      One of the few videos where I've almost cried due to the raw emotional energy, even through a phone/tv screen you can empathetically feel his emotion in these kinds of videos and I just want yo give him a hug and tell him its gonna be ok, almost like a parental response.

    • @gracegold9072
      @gracegold9072 Před 4 lety +28

      Awww... you adorable hufflepuff you.

    • @SuperLuigiRylan
      @SuperLuigiRylan Před 4 lety +10

      Same

    • @garbagepilebonk
      @garbagepilebonk Před 4 lety +8

      UwU same

    • @watchablecontent9843
      @watchablecontent9843 Před 4 lety +8

      Grace Gold bit creepy but it was nice

  • @rainbowkittyrobles1919
    @rainbowkittyrobles1919 Před 4 lety +678

    He's shaking I want to give him a hug and tell him he's ok.

    • @jacklyntree7752
      @jacklyntree7752 Před 4 lety +12

      You can give him a virtual hug ❤*hugs*

    • @Prisna
      @Prisna Před 4 lety +5

      But what about covid-19

    • @shikhap6487
      @shikhap6487 Před 4 lety +13

      @@Prisna that's why it's virtual :D virtual hugs all around

    • @skippy336
      @skippy336 Před 4 lety +2

      *hugz *

    • @skippy336
      @skippy336 Před 4 lety +3

      @@Prisna aint no such thing as corona wifi-air hug

  • @diechgo363
    @diechgo363 Před 2 lety +11

    Hey Mat, thank you. You helped me getting out of bed today. I will stop trying to control everything.

  • @ariadnegmusdaedaloximo708

    16:57 MatPat is in WandaVision's Westview Hex now.

  • @potatooverlord-avacado7218
    @potatooverlord-avacado7218 Před 4 lety +13846

    When I saw the title I thought his diet coke addiction was finally taking over

    • @hopefulbongo8770
      @hopefulbongo8770 Před 4 lety +193

      BRUH

    • @RkGkStrive
      @RkGkStrive Před 4 lety +87

      🤣

    • @jac0736
      @jac0736 Před 4 lety +200

      My regular coca cola addiction started getting me. I tried to quit cold turkey and the caffeine withdrawals were so bad my girlfriend thought I was secretly addicted to actual cocaine.

    • @orionrodriguez1011
      @orionrodriguez1011 Před 4 lety +23

      LMAO

    • @ivanpelcic3967
      @ivanpelcic3967 Před 4 lety +19

      He stopped drinking it!

  • @ham4321
    @ham4321 Před 4 lety +1369

    MatPat: “Im losing control”
    Scott Cawthon: “Oh yeah it’s all coming together”

  • @destroyergirl8087
    @destroyergirl8087 Před rokem +3

    I saw another comment like this, but as somebody with OCD I really felt this. The obsessions and everything sound exactly like what I deal with. You’re not crazy, and there’s other’s out there like you. Your fear is justified, and can’t hold you back. You’re amazing Mat.

  • @The_Lego_Minecraft_Sheep

    4:33 At least your still with us Mathew.

  • @iraqman5456
    @iraqman5456 Před 4 lety +2340

    "Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to suffering."
    -Yoda

    • @lorx9425
      @lorx9425 Před 4 lety +18

      Hello there

    • @Meega776
      @Meega776 Před 4 lety +19

      @@lorx9425 General Kenobi! You are a bold one!

    • @lorx9425
      @lorx9425 Před 4 lety +6

      @@Meega776 Your move

    • @shitstain123
      @shitstain123 Před 4 lety +1

      👌nicee

    • @kai-qq1ie
      @kai-qq1ie Před 4 lety +3

      Thought you were quoting idles for a second there

  • @ratsies
    @ratsies Před 4 lety +547

    hes like almost crying telling this and i feel so bad- i would of had a panic attack if that happened

    • @sirflapfla97
      @sirflapfla97 Před 4 lety +3

      I would have a panic attack to that why you bring ur meds every where

  • @TheOpalHammer
    @TheOpalHammer Před 3 lety +3

    I have been a fan of your channel for ages, and having a familiar voice speak so sincerely is powerfull.

  • @21bucks
    @21bucks Před 3 lety +8

    Give Matt a hug, *NOW*

  • @Lastart-pg2tr
    @Lastart-pg2tr Před 4 lety +332

    I wish I could hug him ,I can’t imagine how hard it would be for him to always have to get on flights

    • @yuumirou
      @yuumirou Před 4 lety +7

      Christopher Farley shut up dude

    • @bread2948
      @bread2948 Před 4 lety +6

      Wait. Hugging him wouldn't be quarantining.

    • @zerfix4930
      @zerfix4930 Před 4 lety

      Yuumirou what’s wrong with that?

    • @same1
      @same1 Před 4 lety +1

      same

    • @bread2948
      @bread2948 Před 4 lety

      @@zerfix4930 well, hugging isn't quaranting properly lol

  • @husk160
    @husk160 Před 4 lety +398

    “Fear clears the mind, panic clouds it”
    Bruce Wayne
    Moral of the story, don’t panic

    • @ConnorLinley
      @ConnorLinley Před 4 lety +4

      That's a surprisingly helpful quote from Bruce there.

    • @cattykrazy581
      @cattykrazy581 Před 4 lety +3

      Unless you’re at the disco

    • @saldan3985
      @saldan3985 Před 4 lety +2

      Nah dude the real morale of the story is,
      Dress up in a Bat suit and jump from building to building.

    • @incognitotamizhan9679
      @incognitotamizhan9679 Před 4 lety +1

      "Stop panic"
      Wow, why didn't I think of that? I am instantly calm.

    • @Zimoria
      @Zimoria Před 4 lety +1

      "Don't panic" - Douglas Adams

  • @theweebtoblame5402
    @theweebtoblame5402 Před rokem +2

    Hansome jack's birthday, my favorite day of the year.

  • @ktsktf8888
    @ktsktf8888 Před 2 lety +4

    We need a Matt talk playlist

  • @bobsponge3462
    @bobsponge3462 Před 4 lety +360

    "That's just a chat, a matchat" I loved that, I hope he continues this series for a long time. Because it doesn't just helps mat feel relatively better but it also helps some of us to understand or try to comprehend the things that are going on.

  • @N31S0N
    @N31S0N Před 4 lety +493

    I like how matpat is confident enough to be honest and talk about his feelings to his viewers. You go!!!!

    • @ScienceMan314
      @ScienceMan314 Před 4 lety +5

      Christopher Farley
      Earn subs another way, loser.

    • @Flop_Studios
      @Flop_Studios Před 4 lety +2

      @Christopher Farley go away

    • @SkyP9812
      @SkyP9812 Před 4 lety

      Nobody should be ashamed of their phobias

    • @lanabeisal913
      @lanabeisal913 Před 4 lety

      calling somebody a loser*

    • @a4dio580
      @a4dio580 Před 4 lety +1

      he’s so brave. He’s making himself vulnerable by telling all of us (one of us could be a bomber) and they could specially plan bombings on him.

  • @permeus2nd
    @permeus2nd Před 3 lety +8

    7:35 as someone with a phobia of needles I can simplify with this a few years back I was booked to have blood tests and as I’m walking to the medical centre to get it done I actually got completely paralysed I was trying to walk but my body just wasn’t obeying my commands and just kept stopping moving, I ended up not getting the blood taken as while I was sitting in the chair sobbing the nurse tried several times to locate veins in my arm before trying for blood and she ended up telling me she wasn’t going to try as she couldn’t find a suitable vain and because of how terrified I was she didn’t feel comfortable routing around with a needle trying to find one and maybe traumatising me even more.

  • @rizkybiz2859
    @rizkybiz2859 Před rokem +4

    Wow. I just watched this, I know it's two years later, but I just want to say, even though nobody will probably ever see this, that this video helped me overcome my almost crippling self destructive fear of death, which caused me to be terrified of anything that could in almost any circumstances kill me, INCLUDING PLANES. I used to be terrified of planes because my mind is constantly thinking, "it's going to crash, and you're probably going to die." I have only been on a plane twice, when I was a child forced by my parents, across the USA and back again, but now I have the confidence to try and overcome it, all thanks to this video. Thank you, matpat.

  • @reticuluminfirma9407
    @reticuluminfirma9407 Před 4 lety +656

    Basic moral of the story: don’t count every single variable, and don’t be completely careless.

  • @RedSkyFire06
    @RedSkyFire06 Před 4 lety +2074

    This little “MatChat” thing needs to be a series. It like a Ted Talk but with Mat Pat and it’s amazing!

  • @kierst4838
    @kierst4838 Před 9 měsíci

    More MatChats!! I love these. Keeps me grounded.

  • @Janeth15
    @Janeth15 Před 3 lety +8

    Why is he so good at talking to a camera and giving advice

  • @Master_Cheeks
    @Master_Cheeks Před 4 lety +1336

    “I’m scared of flying”
    Me: thinks of final destination
    Me: I respect that

  • @CocktailsConsoles
    @CocktailsConsoles Před 4 lety +657

    This has brought up a critical point
    Steamboat travel needs to be a thing again

    • @iansmith5052
      @iansmith5052 Před 4 lety +7

      Cocktails & Consoles let’s go to point lookout

    • @tristandumas6492
      @tristandumas6492 Před 4 lety +1

      Doubter: no it do-
      Me: YES IT DOES WEAKLING!!!!!

    • @brianroden2473
      @brianroden2473 Před 4 lety +3

      How about teleporters we need to develop them faster

    • @mlg8605
      @mlg8605 Před 4 lety

      B V True.

    • @mvt3608
      @mvt3608 Před 4 lety +3

      This could just as easily happen on a steamboat if it was as popular as airplanes.

  • @kingstonidk8989
    @kingstonidk8989 Před 3 lety +2

    i just want to see more vids where Matthew is just talking to us and being transparent with us

  • @AustynL
    @AustynL Před 3 lety +8

    I'm seeing a connection between MatPat and Sultan Sketches right now.

  • @nextto1x742
    @nextto1x742 Před 4 lety +593

    "Have a safe flight.
    You can't control that, go tell the pilots that!"
    -Odd1sout
    I'm losing control
    -MatPat

    • @haitas8501
      @haitas8501 Před 4 lety +18

      No one likes people generally.
      Ah....only me?

    • @oberle_natalie
      @oberle_natalie Před 4 lety +7

      Omg yes so true lol i also love theodd1sout

    • @mushbrain4962
      @mushbrain4962 Před 4 lety +9

      MatPat and James are the same person??? Conspiracy theory time boissss

    • @haitas8501
      @haitas8501 Před 4 lety +6

      @@mushbrain4962 but that's just a theory a GAAAAME THEORY
      not really but ok

    • @Iammoist
      @Iammoist Před 4 lety

      The low key look the same dude

  • @Cake-nf1ej
    @Cake-nf1ej Před 4 lety +757

    The title is “I’m losing control” but when you watch the video it’s more like, “you never had control”

    • @durjam3734
      @durjam3734 Před 4 lety +10

      Yeah it ended up being 'I'm losing control' in a good way

    • @garfieldfan98
      @garfieldfan98 Před 4 lety +8

      @Christopher Farley no go away

    • @MrGameutopia1
      @MrGameutopia1 Před 4 lety +8

      I do agree. Let's be all honest; we may think we have control, but we really don't. However, the only thing we do have control over is the ability to control our self, and it is all determined by your own decision and inner strength.

    • @Cake-nf1ej
      @Cake-nf1ej Před 4 lety

      I’m 13 and I said it

    • @UltimateDurzan
      @UltimateDurzan Před 4 lety +2

      @@MrGameutopia1 Up to a point anyway... Your body at times can literally just nope out of a situation or nope into a status without your brain's conscious consent.

  • @projectecho5068
    @projectecho5068 Před 2 lety +2

    i enjoy when matpat chats and gets stuff of his chest, its nice to learn about stuff i never new. matpat you are in my top 5 favorite youtubers.

  • @r.e.d4063
    @r.e.d4063 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you very much. I needed to hear this to face my fear. I have a fear of failure. There are times that I need to motivate myself to go for a new opportunity and forget about my previous attempts. Now I will not allow the possibility of failure to stop me from getting the best out of the chances I get in life. Thank you MatPat! I wish you and your family a safe and successful life.

  • @redman7775
    @redman7775 Před 4 lety +1234

    Pat. Being scared is normal. Everything has fears, everyone is scared. Fear is a defence mechanism so we dont die. Its natural to be scared, especially of losing control. Dont worry, its not wrong to be scared.

    • @socksforken
      @socksforken Před 4 lety +1

      El Bonnieto
      Screw off idiot

    • @theshowoftedybears774
      @theshowoftedybears774 Před 4 lety +11

      We have to understand our differences. Good job, man!!! Hope you gat pinned!

    • @knower1514
      @knower1514 Před 4 lety +2

      El Bonnieto that trend was 7 months ago, get up with the times.
      Edit: they said ok boomer

    • @raquelmedina4627
      @raquelmedina4627 Před 4 lety +1

      Of losing the control... of da foundation?!?

    • @iam2average873
      @iam2average873 Před 4 lety +1

      Redman 777 simp

  • @tomatostyle6052
    @tomatostyle6052 Před 4 lety +1118

    MatPat: Who is drinking tang?
    Me: *stoped drinking tang mid way*

    • @Lightninja-Supertom
      @Lightninja-Supertom Před 4 lety +23

      I have horrible anxiety about tornados....so by Matt's logic I should go towards them?

    • @Mathias_D
      @Mathias_D Před 4 lety +1

      Same

    • @djvargas0064
      @djvargas0064 Před 4 lety +8

      lightninja- SuperTom looks like you’re gonna have to recreate that scene from the movie Twister when they’re strapped to a pole in the middle of nowhere dead center of a tornado. Only then will you get over your anxiety

    • @revemb4653
      @revemb4653 Před 4 lety +3

      Don’t lie about drinking tang. Nobody drinks tang

    • @revemb4653
      @revemb4653 Před 4 lety

      lightninja- SuperTom yea

  • @Kami10
    @Kami10 Před 3 lety +2

    I'm glad you got this out mat

  • @garrylarrygaming
    @garrylarrygaming Před 3 měsíci +2

    It’s so unfortunate that we’ll never get these talks with him again. We’ll miss you Mat

  • @nathanrolls4015
    @nathanrolls4015 Před 4 lety +526

    Matpat: Whos drinking tang?
    me sitting at my desk at 1am: *sips tang*

  • @equuleusp3150
    @equuleusp3150 Před 4 lety +821

    “the number one treatment for phobias is exposure”
    scared of life after death:...

    • @toxicshroom3686
      @toxicshroom3686 Před 4 lety +14

      Same

    • @DontEverKnowing
      @DontEverKnowing Před 4 lety +19

      So they show you dead people
      Easy win

    • @TriStain69
      @TriStain69 Před 4 lety +18

      (Fears everyone I love leaving me) Time to drive everyone away on purpose to get rid of my fear

    • @kdraws2463
      @kdraws2463 Před 4 lety +4

      Well its time to face that fear👻👻👻

    • @APoliticalConfusionAndMess
      @APoliticalConfusionAndMess Před 4 lety +1

      Why should you be scared of that? If it happens, it just means you get a second try and can be better at the things you feel you've failed at.

  • @thenoob91
    @thenoob91 Před rokem +3

    I love Matpat doesnt just use his channel for only theories but his life experiences

  • @anickaamaefule7615
    @anickaamaefule7615 Před 3 lety

    I'm sorry for what you had to go through and I hope that you soon don't have to worry and that you get over your fear of flying. And thank you for trying to teach us from your experience that's really nice of you and I know not everyone would do such nice things.

  • @humanhoodie3717
    @humanhoodie3717 Před 3 lety +1033

    "And this was my ted talk"
    I was waiting for that line at the end
    i t n e v e r c a m e

  • @shwoopyrrale1694
    @shwoopyrrale1694 Před 4 lety +337

    "i'm making myself sound like a crazy person,-"
    But... you're expressing how you got the phobia and your rational for it. i'm terrified of spiders, and would go to similar lengths if i had to go through a hands on arachnid convention or such. you're not crazy, just anxious. and maybe a degree of PTSD

    • @harry2l8
      @harry2l8 Před 4 lety +6

      I'm starting to notice a lot of people in the comments are terrified of spiders. I'm not but it's a nice thing to know if you're afraid of them.

    • @pichibomb475
      @pichibomb475 Před 4 lety +8

      Shwoopy Rra Le I used to have Agoraphobia. Now imagine everyone is watching you. Everyone with hands in their pockets. Everyone is possibly a shooter. Yeah Parkland made me scared. I was in 4th grade and then in 5th grade it went away. I’m 12. Idc call me a stupid kid just know they won’t hurt me.

    • @Azeriiall
      @Azeriiall Před 4 lety +3

      Shwoopy Rra Le it does sound a lot like PTSD, but I’m no psychiatrist.

    • @pichibomb475
      @pichibomb475 Před 4 lety +3

      Now I love guns, and all that stuff (not shooting people up) I want to be a Cop 👮‍♀️ I want to join the Marines. I hope that you are better. I still get flashes (remembering a phobia then getting it for 2 seconds) Which is kind of a PTSD thing. Bye

    • @Jaguarstudios8379
      @Jaguarstudios8379 Před 4 lety

      It does.

  • @nyteshade8125
    @nyteshade8125 Před rokem +8

    Mat: one of the best way to deal with fears is exposure therapy
    Me who is afraid of what the future will be when I become an adult: 👁👄👁

    • @adsantos98
      @adsantos98 Před 7 měsíci

      The irony is it'll happen no matter what, fulfilling exposure!

  • @JadeTheorist3942
    @JadeTheorist3942 Před 3 lety

    THE MATPAT CHAT I NEEDED!!! Thank You!

  • @loch1352
    @loch1352 Před 4 lety +786

    “Death doesn’t discriminate, between the sinners and the saints, and it takes and it takes and it takes” that is the saying that’s hit me the hardest ever

    • @tinyyuna2106
      @tinyyuna2106 Před 4 lety +37

      Alexander Hamilton, good taste

    • @loch1352
      @loch1352 Před 4 lety +33

      It’s kinda crazy how much of that is quotable, and we should never let MatPat forget that once a theatre kid always a theatre kid

    • @axelman0316
      @axelman0316 Před 4 lety +3

      Me it's my daddy that hit me the most

    • @loch1352
      @loch1352 Před 4 lety +1

      Yikes

    • @v1ncent_0
      @v1ncent_0 Před 4 lety +7

      "We try, and we break and we make our mistakes"

  • @littlegerm2114
    @littlegerm2114 Před 4 lety +1241

    I don't think a youtuber has ever been this relatable. I don't have fear of flying, but I do have fear. A fear of medicine. It kinda sucks cuz I have asthma and so I take a lot of medicines. I get nervous every time I take a pill or an inhaler. But in 19 days it will be 1 year since my sister's death. Death from an overdose

    • @madarasensei1587
      @madarasensei1587 Před 4 lety +77

      Jessica Barnard stay strong, your sister will sure be proud of you 🙏🏾

    • @depsterdong1775
      @depsterdong1775 Před 4 lety +34

      That must be very sad for you, cuz u had to go through that

    • @therandomblackcatnothing3388
      @therandomblackcatnothing3388 Před 4 lety +18

      Sorry

    • @jaspertheghost1192
      @jaspertheghost1192 Před 4 lety +33

      Og my gosh, I would never wish that amount of trauma in my worst enemy

    • @ianhoneycutt3858
      @ianhoneycutt3858 Před 4 lety +15

      Reminds me of juice wrld. Two great people lost to an overdose, even though juice was just being stupid, and it cost him his life.

  • @wolfattack0795
    @wolfattack0795 Před rokem +3

    😢I feel for you and I understand what you are feeling about anxiety. Hope you feel safe again MatPat😥

  • @alexcastellanosleon
    @alexcastellanosleon Před rokem +1

    I think in some level I needed to hear that, thanks

  • @Buddy_Holly
    @Buddy_Holly Před 4 lety +653

    there is so many parts in which he looks like on the verge of crying and i just cant bare to watch that :(

    • @Damnitjim7
      @Damnitjim7 Před 4 lety +16

      Starting to think i was the only one who noticed it welling up in is eyes the tension and anxiety just reliving it.

    • @chainclaw07
      @chainclaw07 Před 4 lety +9

      This is not a knock on him. But that makes him a great actor. He probably do feel that but if he wasn't able to convey it we probably wouldn't catch up on it.

    • @Bob-yb5om
      @Bob-yb5om Před 4 lety +17

      That's part of why I like the guy. He's honest when he has something hard to say and gets on with it.

    • @Llama1o7AJwolf
      @Llama1o7AJwolf Před 4 lety +1

      I felt the same

    • @late_prince8945
      @late_prince8945 Před 4 lety +1

      He has this look every time he is talking about something like that and it always breaks me

  • @geraldjacobs7824
    @geraldjacobs7824 Před 4 lety +145

    For plane anxiety, I heard a good line of advice: look at the flight attendants. If they aren't concerned, you shouldn't be concerned. Obviously, this doesn't prevent terror attacks, but it works great for like turbulence and stuff.

    • @azerohiro
      @azerohiro Před 4 lety +7

      For any anxiety, accept death as inevitable. Once you accept death, there is very little that will cause you anxiety. That's not to say to live it up like a daredevil though lmao but death is absolutely a certainty for everyone. There are an infinite different scenarios in which can cause your death. It's a wasted endeavor to stress about everything, just take care of yourself to the best of your ability and let go of the variables that are outside of your control.

    • @AltyF4lol
      @AltyF4lol Před 4 lety +1

      ᗷᗩTᗰᗩᑎ Batman

  • @eggsbenidict_
    @eggsbenidict_ Před 6 měsíci +1

    Matpat saying "Tesco" just made me wake up my entire family and fill my my entire photo gallery with screen recordings of it. Oe thing which bugs me tho is that I had the chance to perform at the Globe where the LEGENDARY Matpat once it but turned down the offer because I had a cold :/

  • @lunaticbyte6712
    @lunaticbyte6712 Před 3 lety

    Your really brave to share this with so many people