I am 26 year old, not yet married. But still I watch your each video and like it so that I can show it to my future partner and work on it. Big help Sirji.. Ye sbhi bate Krna 100% zaroori hai.. You are helping the society..
I was almost teary when u mentioned that working women are being judged everywhere and honestly, not just by others, constant self blame that am unable to raise my child properly.. at the start of video I was bit repulsive to the idea that woman like to spend on things that they can tag.. but as the video continued.. I’d say I am in agreement to a larger percentage (still not 100%).. this video gave me some insight into how some of the relationships (acquaintances) are troubled, and I immediately shared the video.. thanks for this wonderful eye opener.
Yes I completely agree with you that women are judged everywhere they go...and also they never get credit or appreciation of what they do or bring to the table...
Gold nuggets. There should be a mandatory pre - wedding course for marital counselling, behaviour, expectations, rights as well as duties which make can work as a launchpad for a successful marriage towards 99% relationships.
My case- I & my wife were both working & earn joint annual salary of more than ₹75 lacs per annum. However she doesn't want to spend anything, she wanted me to buy a new house & manage household expenses entirely without any contribution. I don't expect her to support me financially but for bigger expenses like house purchase it's expected that she supports me financially. She & her parents expect that since I am husband, it's only my responsibility to manage house while her money is only for herself. This situation surely makes me insecure specially with Indian legal system which is skewed towards females. Situation became so worse, we tried a lot to solve it but it didn't work out. Finally we have parted & moved seperate in life..
@@cauliflowerhead2735 you could have been right had you not assumed that she would be earning lesser while keeping your feminist mindset aside. Indeed you could have asked if you required clarity rather than inconveniently judging. Now that we both earn almost equally why is it wrong for her to contribute for home purchase which she & her parents were pressuring me into? Her parents visited my place before marriage and should have pointed out any concerns then rather than cribbing post marriage. They want us to move to a bigger better place without support is total hypocrisy. Plus with our great Indian legal system, i could have been doomed if I had invested alone... Indian rules unfortunately are completely one-sided which doesn't give any confidence...
I am depressed and want to quit my job because my husband spend all his money on my in laws even they earn a lot, and he expect me to save my earnings for our future and kid . He dont want to spend his money on me.
India me aise nai hota h. Agar divorce hota h to wife ko bas maintenance amount milta h na ki 50%. Isliye women jyada concerned rehti hain about money kyunki ek insecurity hoti h future ko lekar. Agar aap apne ghar ke liye time effort sab dein career ko neglect karke and ek din after divorce aap kahin ke nahi raho sab choot jaaye.
@@Raythelightlife yes he should contribute but not mandatory that it will be equally. Both should be discuss and based on their feasibility they can manage. It's marriage and relationship and not a contract. If you are having such thinking, you shouldn't marry and leave your life freely.
Good insight Sir! Kindly cover the aspect of husbands habitual of giving small and big amounts on debts to relatives without sharing with the spouse. When the greedy relatives do not return, he start squeezing house expenses somehow to manage, as pocket is one or sometimes keeps extracting from her savings too. Else stress to tolerate within family but show off outside that financial soundness.
But sir still there are few points which you need to discuss. Agar wife working hai to husband Ghar kharch bhi wife ko dena band kar dete hai kyu phele k time me aisa nhi hota tha.
Today the men calculate the entire earnings of wife and expect her to give it entirely to them for investing in accordance with their wishes (basically property under their control). They want an independent woman to become so dependent that she even buys a saree with his consent. It’s very strange and honestly dangerous.
Exactly same thing happened with me he bought a plot with my money. And had extramarital affair with maid. He beated me .got me out from the rented house. Now I am living in working women hostel . He enjoys with the maid and snatched plot also.
Very relevant , practical video....patiyoN ke dil bade hote hain....apni poori salary housewife ke hath pe rakh dete hain..,. working women Kam hi aisa kar pati hai....but what u said make a lot of sense...focus should be building up a beautiful relationship
Sir, I feel businessman misuse and does not respect salary of wife. They divert their gains again in business or spend on parents/siblings/niece/nephew to show off and enjoy credit and attention they get. The working lady runs the house, manages expenses of kids and totally at loss be it physically, mentally or financially. They also put savings of wife to recover business loss.
This can happen with men in good jobs earning high income and leading a life of glamour and glitter partying and pubbing. Possible that some women do it too.
I used to spend all my money earlier on household expenditure but after seeing your video my wife has realised her responsibility and now sharing some part of her income. Her money is her money but she should atleast tell where it is going.
As for money,Husbands should hide a portion of their incomes. As for emotions, Don't open up yourself fully. Everything starts with a GREAT PROMISE. If it's not needed, then great but if ever there comes a time when everything crumbles then that will be your insurance. Don't expect our legal system to do justice. You have to do it yourself. Countries don't fight each other everyday but that doesn't stop them from making sophisticated weapons and missiles. Just in case...
My cousin is a govt clerk and earns 30k/40k but his wife is an engineer and earns 1.2lac. but the issue is the wife has to work 24hrs - cooking and managing the household with a toddler and again has to work at office. And brother threatened his wife and kept her ATM with him and told her not to spend a single penny.
@@AnkitKumar-kk3iw people like her exist too. Bas baat ye hein ki meri bhabi is a good and sweet person or Mera Bhai kamina hein. They were in love to usne shadi karli or abhi uska ek baccha bhi hein to wo nhi choregi usko as we think. Baki bad ka nhi pata.
Guru ji... kya ker rahe ho?🙏🙏 So much gyan and clarity in a single video, that every couple should watch and make implementation in their life. It can release so much stress from your family and make you and your partner relax and more trustworthy. I have to watch it 2 or 3 times more so that I be able to grasp all points and to understand how our emotions play out here... Once again thank you for such a masterpiece 🎉🎉
Though all your videos are addictive but this is one of the best one. Spot on, to the point and reality of Indian society today. Please make more on barabar karna syndrome ek bete se nikal kar dusre ko bharna
@@geetharavi25, if parents have two or more children and one of them is doing well in life financially and other one is not so good, parents always try to balance financial disparity by giving larger part of their asset to the child who is not so well off. This causes great strain in relationship among siblings and parents. In Hindi it is called BARABAR karna
Ladkiya zyada hushiyar banne ke chakkar mein apni marriage break kar leti hn rishta pura khrab kar leta hn pyar ki jagha vyar karne lagti hn ...aur kahi bar ye sab ladki ke ghar wale sikhate hn
Hello sir, I have started watching your videos since a week or so.... and most of your videos feel like my thoughts are coming out of your mouth. I can relate to all your videos. Thank god, that finally someone (especially someone like you, who is so experienced and well read) is putting it out there cz when I said such things among my family and friends, everybody just dissed me.
Wonderful video totally bang on. I totally agree with uncle. One point you didn't cover is what to do when husband and wife work in family business and husband doesn't give neither salary nor pocket money and nor fixed monthly house expenses. All what he says is maanglo. In today's world if both are equally educated and earning in same business and if you everytime ask and not able to get basic expenses and wife is compromising in each and everything and husband spends lavishly without discussing then you feel you are in trap.
I binged watched ur videos as soon as i discovered ur channel ...u are just fabulous ...im a working woman and i admire ur delivery and communication skill with absolute wit and humour touch while delivering in depth analysis ❤
This is the first time I am hearing someone appreciating women's struggle with the menustrial cycle and harmonal changes. Thank you so much for mentioning it.
Sir or ek video bnayega please.. jisme matlab jiske Ghar me ladka na ho sirf suppose do ladki hein or dono working hein.. dono ki shadi ho gyi to bad me wo ladki apne peso se to financially apne parents ka dhyan rakh sakti hein na tab husband mana kre ya fir kalesh kare to wo to galat hein naa.. matlab jinhone Hume parhaya likhaya job karne layak bnaya ab unko zindegi me akele kese chor do..Aisa bhi nhi hein ki me har roj ake mummy k ghar rahu.. i would do the needful, my duty everything for my in laws par mere parents ko bhi to kabhi kabhi help krni hogi..
In my case its totally different. My husband wants everything to be 50-50... We share house rent and bills exact 50-50. But he is not interested to buy basic necessary foods like fish meat etc...everytime i have to push him...i buy groceries and everyday foods. So it goes on like 70-30. Here i have to pay 70. Coz he doesnt buy any regular staffs for me or for home...he never brings anythjng special for me...i do...i spend...so in a way all his money is being spent and my whole salary gets finished every month...more on he doesnt help me with house chores as well...tell me how to solve this prpblem
This the another All time Blockbuster vedio ......it should be spread like a fire in whole nation.....
I am 26 year old, not yet married. But still I watch your each video and like it so that I can show it to my future partner and work on it. Big help Sirji.. Ye sbhi bate Krna 100% zaroori hai.. You are helping the society..
i am 18 but still watching🤣🤣🤣
I am 4 still watching 😂😭
Dont get married. Thats the best thing to do..
@@bignavin10 If you listen to Sirji's videos then you know that is the worst solution🤣🤣
+1
Being judged in every relationship and at workplace…. You have touched the deepest chord……best video…. How you know the real feelings of women. Salute
I was almost teary when u mentioned that working women are being judged everywhere and honestly, not just by others, constant self blame that am unable to raise my child properly.. at the start of video I was bit repulsive to the idea that woman like to spend on things that they can tag.. but as the video continued.. I’d say I am in agreement to a larger percentage (still not 100%).. this video gave me some insight into how some of the relationships (acquaintances) are troubled, and I immediately shared the video.. thanks for this wonderful eye opener.
Yes I completely agree with you that women are judged everywhere they go...and also they never get credit or appreciation of what they do or bring to the table...
Amazing comment. Thanks for the insight
Gold nuggets. There should be a mandatory pre - wedding course for marital counselling, behaviour, expectations, rights as well as duties which make can work as a launchpad for a successful marriage towards 99% relationships.
My case-
I & my wife were both working & earn joint annual salary of more than ₹75 lacs per annum.
However she doesn't want to spend anything, she wanted me to buy a new house & manage household expenses entirely without any contribution.
I don't expect her to support me financially but for bigger expenses like house purchase it's expected that she supports me financially.
She & her parents expect that since I am husband, it's only my responsibility to manage house while her money is only for herself.
This situation surely makes me insecure specially with Indian legal system which is skewed towards females.
Situation became so worse, we tried a lot to solve it but it didn't work out. Finally we have parted & moved seperate in life..
Best thing u did
@@cauliflowerhead2735 you could have been right had you not assumed that she would be earning lesser while keeping your feminist mindset aside.
Indeed you could have asked if you required clarity rather than inconveniently judging.
Now that we both earn almost equally why is it wrong for her to contribute for home purchase which she & her parents were pressuring me into?
Her parents visited my place before marriage and should have pointed out any concerns then rather than cribbing post marriage.
They want us to move to a bigger better place without support is total hypocrisy.
Plus with our great Indian legal system, i could have been doomed if I had invested alone... Indian rules unfortunately are completely one-sided which doesn't give any confidence...
@@sandeepintown feminism is a cancer which is eating up our society
Next time just keep in mind...yes you did good thing,but i know it's not easy for you ...fact is that parents hi ghar barbad kar dete hai..
This is very sad why girls have this type of mentality
I am depressed and want to quit my job because my husband spend all his money on my in laws even they earn a lot, and he expect me to save my earnings for our future and kid . He dont want to spend his money on me.
India me aise nai hota h. Agar divorce hota h to wife ko bas maintenance amount milta h na ki 50%. Isliye women jyada concerned rehti hain about money kyunki ek insecurity hoti h future ko lekar. Agar aap apne ghar ke liye time effort sab dein career ko neglect karke and ek din after divorce aap kahin ke nahi raho sab choot jaaye.
Wife's money is her money
Husband's Money is our Money.
Because housewife is her responsibility and not husband's. To share equal money share equal house responsibility
@@Raythelightlife yes he should contribute but not mandatory that it will be equally. Both should be discuss and based on their feasibility they can manage. It's marriage and relationship and not a contract. If you are having such thinking, you shouldn't marry and leave your life freely.
True
why no equal rights for men ?
My money is my money, and your money is also my money....so true
sahi hei respect woman 4 wat c did 4 d family, I m lucky 2 hav a lovely wife
Great 👍👍💐💐
Good insight Sir! Kindly cover the aspect of husbands habitual of giving small and big amounts on debts to relatives without sharing with the spouse. When the greedy relatives do not return, he start squeezing house expenses somehow to manage, as pocket is one or sometimes keeps extracting from her savings too. Else stress to tolerate within family but show off outside that financial soundness.
Amazing clarity sir !
This is how relationships are nurtured 🙏
Very good video. You explained all points well, with the times. Thx. Children sacrificed, well said ... so they have a share too as a family.
But sir still there are few points which you need to discuss. Agar wife working hai to husband Ghar kharch bhi wife ko dena band kar dete hai kyu phele k time me aisa nhi hota tha.
Sir very informative video. You're a very well knowledgeable person. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
I am 27 and looking for the life partner, learning lot from your videos sir. 🙏🙏
Great video Sir! Thanks for sharing your insight!
Today the men calculate the entire earnings of wife and expect her to give it entirely to them for investing in accordance with their wishes (basically property under their control). They want an independent woman to become so dependent that she even buys a saree with his consent. It’s very strange and honestly dangerous.
Exactly same thing happened with me he bought a plot with my money. And had extramarital affair with maid. He beated me .got me out from the rented house. Now I am living in working women hostel . He enjoys with the maid and snatched plot also.
Very nice video sir...thanks
And apki video's bahut informative hoti h
Very relevant , practical video....patiyoN ke dil bade hote hain....apni poori salary housewife ke hath pe rakh dete hain..,. working women Kam hi aisa kar pati hai....but what u said make a lot of sense...focus should be building up a beautiful relationship
Very good advice, thank you for your service!
Sir, I feel businessman misuse and does not respect salary of wife. They divert their gains again in business or spend on parents/siblings/niece/nephew to show off and enjoy credit and attention they get. The working lady runs the house, manages expenses of kids and totally at loss be it physically, mentally or financially. They also put savings of wife to recover business loss.
This can happen with men in good jobs earning high income and leading a life of glamour and glitter partying and pubbing. Possible that some women do it too.
Very well said words sir. I am going through the same.
Excellent sir, may God every man should think like you
Sir, hats off for imbibing beautiful pearls of wisdom. I came across 1 video, was hooked and saw 15 videos back to back. Wonderful!
Superb video. Good clarifications . Helpful for me.
Exactly Sir, you touched the real problem of my married life 👍
I used to spend all my money earlier on household expenditure but after seeing your video my wife has realised her responsibility and now sharing some part of her income. Her money is her money but she should atleast tell where it is going.
Sir your all videos are great, excellent, very valuable and practical for a good life, family and society. 🙏
Bilkul sahi kaha aapane aap ki jo samajh samajhdar e Se Samjhe Aate Hain
Very good topic sir... Really searching for this kind of video
It was a wonderful video. Perfect guidance for couples .
As for money,Husbands should hide a portion of their incomes.
As for emotions, Don't open up yourself fully.
Everything starts with a GREAT PROMISE.
If it's not needed, then great but if ever there comes a time when everything crumbles then that will be your insurance. Don't expect our legal system to do justice. You have to do it yourself.
Countries don't fight each other everyday but that doesn't stop them from making sophisticated weapons and missiles. Just in case...
Women should also do the same for her future..
You are an eye opener for all of us.. true meaning of a balanced counseling sir.. god bless you
MAG sir g true knowledge given GOD bless u for bringing a small and slow but significant change in our society 🙏🏻
Dhanyawad sir ji 🙏🌸
Very well made and complete perspective video
Agree , Good Reasoning
Spot on, maza aa gaya 😊 I do almost what you told, glad to know it was the optimal way.
My cousin is a govt clerk and earns 30k/40k but his wife is an engineer and earns 1.2lac. but the issue is the wife has to work 24hrs - cooking and managing the household with a toddler and again has to work at office. And brother threatened his wife and kept her ATM with him and told her not to spend a single penny.
Aisi ladkiya kaha milti hai bhai 😂
Itna kamane wali kaise shadi kr li 30k wale se?
Forcefully reh rhe kya dono?
@@AnkitKumar-kk3iw people like her exist too. Bas baat ye hein ki meri bhabi is a good and sweet person or Mera Bhai kamina hein. They were in love to usne shadi karli or abhi uska ek baccha bhi hein to wo nhi choregi usko as we think. Baki bad ka nhi pata.
@@utopiancity8138 ohhh Love marriage ka scene hai isiliye 😅
Pr fir bhi bhai.....aisi ladkiya Diamond se km nhi ❤️
The issue is the husband is feeling insecure 😢 rather than being supportive and understanding husband.
@@icecreams214 most Men cannot handle wives superior to them.
Well said, valuable
Top class video sir... really impressed by your knowledge in every field
Guru ji... kya ker rahe ho?🙏🙏
So much gyan and clarity in a single video, that every couple should watch and make implementation in their life. It can release so much stress from your family and make you and your partner relax and more trustworthy.
I have to watch it 2 or 3 times more so that I be able to grasp all points and to understand how our emotions play out here...
Once again thank you for such a masterpiece 🎉🎉
MAG! Excellent video Sir!
Thanks a lot Guruji for bringing video on this topic, i am really very very thankful to you, this really gave clarity to me on many things
Much needed topic sir, thank u soo much🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you Very much sir for making such videos. Keep bringing more content .
Excellent! Guidance
Your videos are really very informative practical. This one is amazing. I have gone addictive of these.👍
Though all your videos are addictive but this is one of the best one. Spot on, to the point and reality of Indian society today.
Please make more on barabar karna syndrome ek bete se nikal kar dusre ko bharna
What is it sir barabar karna
@@geetharavi25, if parents have two or more children and one of them is doing well in life financially and other one is not so good, parents always try to balance financial disparity by giving larger part of their asset to the child who is not so well off. This causes great strain in relationship among siblings and parents. In Hindi it is called BARABAR karna
Your videos are so close to reality with zero sugar coating ❤ I enjoy watching it. Please continue to share these knowledge 🙏
Sir plz make a video on how to handle disagreement regarding children between husband and wife. This one was superb thanku sir .
Ladkiya zyada hushiyar banne ke chakkar mein apni marriage break kar leti hn rishta pura khrab kar leta hn pyar ki jagha vyar karne lagti hn ...aur kahi bar ye sab ladki ke ghar wale sikhate hn
Bahut acha explain krte h.. and ye real issues h young couples ke.
Superb video hai guruji ❤
Watching this after a year.. it's 2023 Diwali time again 🙏🙏
Sooo true..so apt ,,sir
Very nice video sir thank you for sharing knowledge 🥰
Your videos are amazing sir..from the time today i saw ur first video,i have been looking forward to see more..
Thank you. Learned some important points.
Soo Accurate & Matured Advices On This Topic Sir🙏🏻
U've Touched Almost Every Categories Abt Money Matters In Relationships.. 👍🏻
Nicely explained.
Awesome video sir.. I wish ye video sabhi working married couple dekhe and samjhe..
Dekhne se kutch nahi hota..moti buddhi wale nahi sunenge
Hello sir, I have started watching your videos since a week or so.... and most of your videos feel like my thoughts are coming out of your mouth. I can relate to all your videos. Thank god, that finally someone (especially someone like you, who is so experienced and well read) is putting it out there cz when I said such things among my family and friends, everybody just dissed me.
Sir I am viewing all of your videos. These are like SATSANG and teaching art of living for a successful life
Hats off to you sir for your vision
very true, maza aa gaya
Thanks for such kind of videos.
Wonderful video totally bang on. I totally agree with uncle. One point you didn't cover is what to do when husband and wife work in family business and husband doesn't give neither salary nor pocket money and nor fixed monthly house expenses. All what he says is maanglo. In today's world if both are equally educated and earning in same business and if you everytime ask and not able to get basic expenses and wife is compromising in each and everything and husband spends lavishly without discussing then you feel you are in trap.
Excellent information 👍
Very nice sir
Thanks🙏
We extremely need this video
Thank you soooo much....
Video is a good blend of tradition and modernity!
Most of women are not aware of investment tools, they are dependent on their spouse for that. Thats why insecurity prevails in their relationship
Exilent video sir very useful information
Ek no. Hai video 😍😍😍😍😍
Great video sir, thank a lot❤
I could completely relate to the women psychology you described, even I realised this while listening to this. Thank you so much Sir.
Very good topic. same situation is facing every working couple and many get divorce due to believe that they personally exploit from counter part.
Please continue on numerology videos after your 7 and 4 no.s... I'm eagerly waiting for ur numerology series sir ...please take 3 and 5 no. Now
Excellent advice
Nice video. Really liked it.
one word for this video , behtareen 🙏
Very nice informative and entertaining video 📹
बहुत बढ़िया
Well said..
Very true sir.
Thank you Sir, for sharing...nobody teaches all this in this day and age...!!!🙏
your videos are eye opening
Lovely observation
Very logical
Thank you sir
Such practical advice! Keep such videos coming. Thanks for enlightening us 🙏🏻
I binged watched ur videos as soon as i discovered ur channel
...u are just fabulous ...im a working woman and i admire ur delivery and communication skill with absolute wit and humour touch while delivering in depth analysis ❤
This is the first time I am hearing someone appreciating women's struggle with the menustrial cycle and harmonal changes. Thank you so much for mentioning it.
Very brilliant video from both the perspectives of girls and boys, I love it
excellent video sir
Sir or ek video bnayega please.. jisme matlab jiske Ghar me ladka na ho sirf suppose do ladki hein or dono working hein.. dono ki shadi ho gyi to bad me wo ladki apne peso se to financially apne parents ka dhyan rakh sakti hein na tab husband mana kre ya fir kalesh kare to wo to galat hein naa.. matlab jinhone Hume parhaya likhaya job karne layak bnaya ab unko zindegi me akele kese chor do..Aisa bhi nhi hein ki me har roj ake mummy k ghar rahu.. i would do the needful, my duty everything for my in laws par mere parents ko bhi to kabhi kabhi help krni hogi..
Very true Sir .. we as women are judged constantly .. especially working women ..
In my case its totally different. My husband wants everything to be 50-50... We share house rent and bills exact 50-50. But he is not interested to buy basic necessary foods like fish meat etc...everytime i have to push him...i buy groceries and everyday foods. So it goes on like 70-30. Here i have to pay 70. Coz he doesnt buy any regular staffs for me or for home...he never brings anythjng special for me...i do...i spend...so in a way all his money is being spent and my whole salary gets finished every month...more on he doesnt help me with house chores as well...tell me how to solve this prpblem
Bad luck that you got stuck with such a selfish person.. hope your life gets better
Since everything is 50:50, household chores should also be 50:50
Please speak to him or someone who knows your husband well... may God solve this problem of yours soon.
Divorce him as he is a coward and have no self respect.
Be strong. Never be weak emotionally.
Dont cook n wash for him. Let him cook for himself.
Actually needed this type of clarity
People feel bad to talk about it but it is bhi crucial.