Defusion: How to Detangle from Thoughts & Feelings

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  • čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
  • Read the full story about cognitive defusion here: thepsychologygroup.com/defusion/
    Defusion Definition: 1:15
    Hands as Thoughts Metaphor to better explain Defusion: 4:20
    Defusion Techniques: 6:40
    Do you ever feel as if your thoughts dictate how your day goes?
    Or how you interact with others?
    Does it sometimes feel exhausting trying to shut off your thoughts?
    Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), poses an interesting idea for thoughts; instead of trying to change, fight, or repress our inner experiences, we can focus on changing how we relate to them.
    Our minds tell us different stories because that’s what minds do. Using an ACT framework, the content of the thought is not problematic, it’s how we relate to it that can create a problem.
    For example, if a person has the thought “I’m useless,” and is completely fused with it (i.e., giving it their full attention, believing it, getting caught up in it), then they might feel sad or bad about themselves and avoid doing things that are important and/or meaningful to them.
    When we are fused with our thoughts/emotions, we have difficulty separating them from reality and our direct experience; which leads to labeling, evaluating, categorizing, judging, comparing, etc. On the contrary, viewing thoughts for what they are (i.e., passing words, pictures, sensations), facilitates letting them go and being able to be present and focus on your broader experience. This is what the skill of defusion is essentially about.
    What is cognitive defusion?
    Defusion is a skill or technique that is primarily used to detach, separate, or get some distance from our thoughts and emotions. Please note that when we use the word ‘thought’ it also encompasses other internal experiences such as beliefs, attitudes, assumptions, memories, etc.
    The aim of defusion is to:
    Decrease our attachment to our inner experiences.
    Reduce the believability of thoughts.
    Decrease the influence of thoughts on our behaviors and experiences.
    Increase our ability to be present and take effective action.
    Facilitate psychological flexibility.
    With defusion techniques you do not battle difficult thoughts, instead, you choose how much attention you pay to them.
    It also helps to ask yourself:
    Is holding on to this thought/belief helpful?
    Is doing so causing me suffering or keeping me from being effective?
    Am I being pushed around by my thoughts?
    These questions aid in better understanding the workability concept. This is assessing if what we are doing is working to live a meaningful life, and it’s also choosing to take action based on what works instead of what is true.
    Here is an experiential example to better understand the concepts of fusion and defusion.
    Put your hands together, palms facing upwards, as if they were pages on an open book. Imagine that your hands are your thoughts. Now, slowly raise your hands up toward your face until you are covering your eyes and can only see through the gaps of your fingers.
    Take a look around and notice how this impacts your view and connection with your environment.
    Notice it is difficult to see much other than your hands (thoughts), so what would it be like to go through your day this way? Would you be limited or miss out on things? Would it be challenging to respond to others or the world around you?
    This is a good representation of fusion. We become so entangled with our thoughts that we get disconnected from our environment and the present (here and now) experience. Similarly, our thoughts also have a big impact on our behavior and capacity to be effective.
    Now, slowly begin lowering your hands and see the difference. Notice as the distance from your hands (thoughts) and your eyes increase, you are able to take in more information and it is easier to connect with others or your environment.
    This is a good representation of defusion. Your hands (thoughts) are still there, and you can look at them without becoming entangled with them. If the thoughts are useful/workable you may use them; if they are not, you notice them and let them sit there.
    Defusion Techniques
    Just Noticing
    Saying to yourself “I notice I’m having a thought of…”
    Thanking the Mind
    Telling your mind “Thanks for the feedback,” or “Thank you for this interesting thought” when having difficult thoughts. It aids if you do it in a somewhat sarcastic manner so that you don’t take your thoughts too seriously.
    Mindful Watching
    Looking at your thoughts with curiosity and openness, just noticing how they come and go (flow), without attempting to control or change them.
    Repeating the Thought
    Use a silly voice when repeating the thoughts out loud (e.g., using Bugs Bunny’s voice), sing your thoughts, or repeat the thoughts out loud and over and over until only sound remains.
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Komentáře • 40

  • @AegerSmoothie
    @AegerSmoothie Před 10 měsíci +5

    In the second reprint of Happiness Trap Harris writes that it is important not to allow the slightest hint of sarcasm or aggression when thanking your mind, because it can easily involve-
    in conflict with own thoughts

  • @JDpowerpower
    @JDpowerpower Před rokem +17

    I'm a therapist that practices ACT. Look forward to sending my patients the link to this video to support the work we do. Very good, on point.

  • @ed6837
    @ed6837 Před 9 měsíci +2

    I have watched explanations on cognitive diffusion before and never really understood. Now I think I do. Excellent video!! Thank you.

  • @sm0g-810
    @sm0g-810 Před 2 lety +7

    I was worried I wasn't doing it right for a few days. I only read a short summary of ACT therapy and started by sitting for a while each day and allowing my thoughts to come and feel them without trying to examine them or ruminate on whether they are true and then I redirect my attention to values and what matters to me afterward. I was having a particularly bad few days and went looking for more info on act. I read about cognitive defusion and I thought I didn't know about this. "Oh no I've been doing it all wrong, now I will never get better" I also have OCD and I practice ERP for that. I realise that some of this stuff I've been doing actually is actually cognitive diffusion, I just didnt know it. I'm almost certain that it's my OCD telling me I was doing it wrong now.

  • @kanghadi397
    @kanghadi397 Před 6 měsíci

    It's looks like Prosoché on Stoic way to overcome random thoughts, thanks for explaining all the knowledge

  • @jockie8584
    @jockie8584 Před 3 měsíci

    I wish she was my therapist too! Mine, an overpaid clinical psychologist here in Zeist, really sucks and has done more damage than good. Unfortunately, we are rounding off in 3 weeks, so it's too late to switch.

  • @swiftswamps0821
    @swiftswamps0821 Před rokem +6

    This is really helpful, 5 techniques in one videos? Thanks 🙏

  • @susiedalon8263
    @susiedalon8263 Před rokem +1

    Thank you, l so needed this today. Subscribed ❤

  • @mvg2x34
    @mvg2x34 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you. I find the idea of defusion very powerful in dealing with bad thoughts.

  • @JoyceNoll
    @JoyceNoll Před 2 lety +4

    Very clear and helpful. Thank you, Dr. Rodríguez. This is helping me a lot.

  • @ozztenn
    @ozztenn Před rokem

    Great Work! Thanks.

  • @DF-jm6dq
    @DF-jm6dq Před 9 měsíci

    thank you, clear and compact information

  • @honeyspycecb
    @honeyspycecb Před 2 lety +1

    I see, it’s about perspective. This is great!

  • @oldetobie2568
    @oldetobie2568 Před rokem

    This is a great overview of defusion thanks for sharing!

  • @michaelbarnette
    @michaelbarnette Před rokem

    You’re amazing!!

  • @letsgofishingene
    @letsgofishingene Před rokem

    Thank you

  • @MrBkkrishna
    @MrBkkrishna Před 2 lety +1

    very good nice to hear lot of NLPS

  • @honeyspycecb
    @honeyspycecb Před 2 lety

    Nice perspective.

  • @AlexMurdoch7856
    @AlexMurdoch7856 Před 2 lety +4

    Great video - so clear. I think you should keep your hands over your face when you're doing the exercise - that would be even more powerful. Keep up the good work!

  • @user-rf7ec7zx3j
    @user-rf7ec7zx3j Před 6 měsíci

    Thanks doctor. Now your in my thoughts.😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @b0b0pizza
    @b0b0pizza Před 2 lety

    Grazie mille

  • @khempokhrel3071
    @khempokhrel3071 Před 2 lety

    Nice video 👍

  • @sadia2395
    @sadia2395 Před 22 dny

    What if I choose to suffer? I have problem eating or having a good time or enjoying since I lost my father 2 months back.I feel am being selfish and forgetting him

  • @user-zq2qv4vo4e
    @user-zq2qv4vo4e Před 2 měsíci

    Last one was most funny

  • @sm0g-810
    @sm0g-810 Před rokem +2

    I'm getting very confused about the mindfulness exercises I see. This video says I allow my thoughts and feelings to come and go without changing them or controlling them, but all these mindful exercises say if I get too hooked up in my thoughts return my attention to the stream or other object. Surely that's trying to change your thoughts!?

    • @puppipsicologia
      @puppipsicologia Před rokem +4

      There is a subtle difference between changing toughts and turn your attention to another stimuli with conscience. When you try to directly modify a difficult tought, you get trapped in a dialog or in a stream of toughts fighting against each other for the stronger reason. "Don't think in a pink elephant" is an example of this paradox: you have to always be aware of the tought of the elephant in order to supress it, so there is no resolution this way. On the other hand, if you are mindful about the tought (a requisite) and just let it be there, turning you attention to whetever is better at your disposal, you may experience less internal events evoked by that tought and may acquire a bit more control on what matters for you at the present moment, in the real world. Without forcing to change the toughts or sticking to them, they eventually cause less harm or even go away.

  • @skyblaizepleiadianhighcoun9993

    What if when they are turned up so much by some outside reason and every thought every time any ideas for my friend here

  • @davidlopezmeseguer4343

    Is it efective for self steem

  • @user-ck5gb3ek1n
    @user-ck5gb3ek1n Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you ❤

  • @gpx922
    @gpx922 Před 10 měsíci

    ❤❤

  • @Stepdadson
    @Stepdadson Před rokem +30

    I wish she was my therapist. Or my girlfriend. Not sure

  • @tadeomanzo3696
    @tadeomanzo3696 Před 8 měsíci +3

    such a cutie

  • @xaxaxa12
    @xaxaxa12 Před 4 měsíci

    you are beautiful

  • @beehomellc
    @beehomellc Před rokem

    Speaking your name so quickly sounds like gobble-d-goop

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    @user-co8kw5kh7q Před 2 měsíci

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