BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER EXPLAINED IN UNDER FIVE MINUTES!
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I just want to thank you for making this video, not only does it help me understand my own disorder, but it helps my friends and family, thank you
damn, you're beautiful, intelligent & very down to earth. i also suffer from bpd and you replied to my comment to check you out & im glad i did!! 😘
awww thanks you're quite beautiful yourself :) glad you like my videos can't wait for you to see my new ones coming out!! thank you for your kind words
want the new ones what the new 1ns hello, weeeeeee x
+Michi Mavros (shakenspeare) I've watched two of your videos lying in bed at ungodly hours lol. keep them coming. you're good. just a thought: I think you should study psychology. become a therapist or something. you're good at it and I can tell you're really immersed in it.
Michi Mavros no problem! I think it's great that you're passing on knowledge and positive feedback it makes me feel like im better in control of my outbursts and not so much like a freak.
It makes me really happy to see a channel dedicated to openly discussing our illness. I’ve felt pretty down lately because I recently had an event on a wonderful day where I ran into someone I know I have wrongfully associated bad feelings with and it took the whole day south. I sometimes forget that I have the illness because it is never talked about. So thank you for this and your other videos. Just found you, so I’ve a lot of content to watch lol.
Every time I watch this video a tear or two comes to me. So glad to have you as part of the FB support group. Thank you, it's so great to have your videos to help awareness and those of us that are sufferers
Tony Burnett thank you so much im very glad to be a part of it 💙
I was diagnosed with BPD recently and watching this just puts me in tears. Everything you said hit home, so very hard and I wish I had known and/or understood earlier in life what was wrong with me this entire time. I know this is to be expected, but I wish there was a cure. I just want to be normal because I fight BPD every damn day and I'm just tired. Thank you Michi, thank you so much for sharing this because I feel a little more hopeful.
Thanks, now I FINALLY understand what Borderline actually is, good job!
Thanks a lot for this. I've been trying to understand BPD in vain.You're so clever and outspoken, amazing work at simplifying this complex disorder. Take care, xxx
Psilocybin changed me.
I am no longer in hate with myself.
Yeah but realistically it’s illegal.. taking the drug route may have helped you but for some of us with BPD it can put you down a very rocky path fulled with addiction.
@@Isa-cr7fd Psilocybin ain't addictive but definitely a heavy experience to handle. It helped me too.
I hate dissociation during your videos lol. I keep spacing out but I want to keep listening. You keep bringing up good points that lead my mind astray. I love your videos. Please don’t ever stop ❤️😊🧚🏼♀️
It's the opposite of abandonment anxiety, narcissists dumped their garbage onto you they are the stalkers who stole your identity. Getting away from them will solve complex PTSD, they will trap & destroy you otherwise
Wow, thank you for so concisely explaining BPD. This is a very challenging disorder. I feel deeply for those suffering.
Hi Michi! So glad I stumbled across you! My daughter is struggling so much right now w/BPD. Trying to find a Dr to help her. I'll send her this video. It will be comforting to know she's not the only one out there!
Thank you for making this video. You did a beautiful job explaining what BPD is.
Thank you for making these videos they make me feel less alone.
OH AND YOUR BROWN EYES ARE GORGEOUS 💖
When I watch your videos I laugh because everything your saying is exactly the way i feel and its so true x
i just recently found out I have BPD and this...was beautiful.
It's been said that a strong man (or woman) knows their weaknesses..............You're very wise for someone so young! T.Y. for being so honest about the condition. :)
Took the words right out my mouth ❤️
I’m just being diagnosed now, thank you for help understanding this isn’t really my fault. Like I really can’t just stop it or let it go. I need to get more education on the subject but thank you!
Very well explained thank you so much!!
❤️💕 I have bpd as well and this video was great thank you
well, well well well.
that must be the best explained ever. fantastic. i used to be a u.k. adviser on b.p.d. from the early 90's and really could of used this video. even today it is so far out there. i am gonna use this in my country to explain a few things ( hope you don't mind ?)
i am also borderline and like where you are in the world, we have next to no funding for the size of the problem, how many are affected and more so, how many are die from borderline related traits.
i have just started to get back into research and development of b.p.d. here and with a few friends i worked with back in the day and a few friends from around the world.
you have a great insight to who you are and that is so refreshing to hear. even though the illness was not really recognized in the u.k. till the mid to late 2000's, i had my views and opinions back from 94.
in 96 i made a few songs about me and borderline support or lack of it as it was then and still is today 20 years on. 5 weeks ago i found them on a tape in a box wile moving house. for reasons unknown i put 4 of them on you tube with lyrics videos. i really would value your views or opinion on them if you would. even though i made them to create awareness i only ever let a few hear them. can't read music, play any instrument but some how made these with a borrowed key board and a £9.99 samples disc.
it's cool if you don't but either way, you'r amazing from one to another and i know, not all that glitters is gold. thank's for reading this Anthony nemo ( that's what my songs are under)
oOH and can you please tell me... " why you got yer lights on in the middle of the day", lol i know that ain't a b.p.d. thing. tc A
thank you so much for your kind words, i will definitely check out your songs and have a listen. take care!!
thank's, plz let me know what u think
+Anthony Nemo I absolutely love the song on your profile which is assume is your personal art. so beautiful and such a good representation of the suffering and pain felt because of BPD. youve got some serious talent!!!
hi Michi thank's hun'.
yeh my art also. glad you liked the song, there are 3 more so far, they are a bit more borderline feelings and lack of services relating to everything we have to put up with and letting people know they are not alone . hope you can check em out when u get the time and drop a comment.
as u know from the 1st one u saw they were 1996', i just started on the music for a 20 yrs updates. was thinking about the lyrics and can't get away from the feeling that nothing has really changed from my Borderline facts video. think i'm gonna have to be more direct towards the people at the top who are cutting services and allowing the death rate to climb and the top doctors and shrinks who just take a massive pay packet and say nothing and so on.
naming and shaming seems to be the only thing these people understand, so be it. onc'e again thank you. need to promote the 4 i have so any help u can offer would be much appreciated,
Best wishes to you and your's
Anthony
I'm gonna direct my subscribers to your songs on my next video, which I'm thinking should be about the stigma and awful opinions we hear daily because we are open with our illness and I think your songs add a creative aspect to what we are trying to get across :) I am currently visiting family but I will drop some comments soon!
Great job summarizing something that is difficult for people to understand. I exhibited a lot of these characteristics, starting in adolescence and continuing into my late 20's. I have never been diagnosed with anything more than depression and anxiety, but had a heap of symptoms of both BPD and OCD for over 10 years. All of the therapy I've done has been within social work oriented modalities, rather than psychiatry/psychology - so diagnoses were never discussed. I certainly don't think you can just 'outgrow' these things, though, and am certain that the 10+ years I've been in talk therapy have greatly increased my ability to be in healthy relationships and to not be at the mercy of my emotions as much. Medication also helps!
Hey, love your videos. Could you please do a video on your therapy/DBT experience? I would love to hear your experience/thoughts about therapy/DBT. Have you done both group and individual? Thanks. Stay Confident.
Thanks for sharing your Expedia 🌺🦋
hey Michi, can you talk about Quiet Borderlines?
Keyshla Hernandez Agosto umm what's that
You beautiful angel, that is a very exact description. My take on the sex drive is something to deal with safety but my PTSD and Borderline stem from watching my dad hurt my mom and I couldn't protect her so I find i feel the safest and strongest in contact with women, and males in general agitate me in a very short time, its hell on jobs. I hate the self hatred. its soul crushing. The concept of the all consuming aspect is soooooooooooooo true. A friend just introduced me to Marina and the Diamonds and ive had the raging euphoria about Marina, total infatuation and idealization, but I take the ride because these stints are so drug like they keep the self hatred and the negativity at bay and I can function very happy with some female im feeling so much emotion over and her new album has some seriously emotionally charged music. On the flip side, when im in such an emotional state, a rogue thought about some fool who wronged me ten years ago that caused me severe ruminations for days and major rage and stress, can swing me to an actual physical rage beginning to happen, Ive become good at using logic to beat this because its so preposterous to be mad at someone from years ago that it helps to ground the emotional swing and I can let the euphoria ride continue. Lastly, I too struggle with the self dislike so much that I neglect myself and martyr myself to most things in a vain attempt to find some relief through giving everything to others, instead I just feel empty.
first of all thank you :) and im so sorry to hear about your family life growing up, mental illness usually stems from a young child being exposed to violence or neglect at a young age and it manifests itself into something awful and uncontrollable, but it's not our faults. i can understand why you would not be comfortable around men, I am the same way a little bit as I don't like men that are older than me, an authority figure, taller or too muscley because i get very uncomfortable. I too find release in listening to emotionally charged music, emo music was the only thing that kept me going in high school, twenty one pilots is currently my go-to but I have never listened to marina and the diamonds ill need to check her out. it's so hard not to dwell on the past, I can literally make my blood boil thinking about a certain person or high school, stress and rage accompany that and it is so hard to return to my emotional baseline once it is brought up (sometimes I bring it up myself without meaning to) and im glad you use logic to help, I'm not a very logical person as of right now but I am working on improving everyday. as for waking up in the morning with purpose or excitement, it is something I struggle with and find a lack of purpose but I'm hoping that by trying to find healthy hobbies and interests I will slowly move away from the self-dislike that clouds our views and make it unable to function :( stay strong, you will get better and you do deserve all of the happiness that comes your way, despite what your brain is telling you. stay strong.
It is a damn slow journey is the number 1 thing im learning from diagnosis to now, just last year. Ive started to define the struggle as a mood swing that simply keeps swinging so it peaks higher. Like instead of anger you might achieve rage, sadness can go to devastation, happiness can become euphoria. Its such a broad swing and trying to stop it, especially when it is severe is impossible so I see it as surfing the wave, controlling my ride rather than attempting to stop the wave. So far limited success Im glad you are open and honest, I find like Borderline Life as well, lying is simply not possible because it costs too much emotional resources where honesty takes a lot of the ugly and deception away and leaves a cleaner run to finding peace and understanding
Try Marinas song- Im A Ruin
i never got my self checked but damn. the self harm, the suicidal tendencies, the bad relationships. all too real.
even the mood changes. i usually end up feeling shitty because my mom is the receiving end of my worse moods. from being happy in a snap i just wanna break something,or punch a wall.
I'm almost sure I have BPD, should I get diagnosed? I'm a bit scared to tell my parents bc they don't like "how everyone is getting diagnosed these days". Also they don't know I cut myself and they don't know that I drink and smoke weed, I don't wanna tell them... ( sorry my english is pretty bad )
Anne van den Berg It may not be best to talk with your parents. As you know they may not be able to reply to you in the healthy manner you deserve. I'm sorry your in the situation you are in but you can get help on your own through the internet without them knowing. but becareful to find the right person (s), places to learn and grow from. Find healthy people modeling healthy behavior. I promise you there is a way out of this mess. Try to keep in mind the situation your in is not your fault. There is nothing wrong with you. You need love and support (mostly from you to you). Be kind to yourself till you find hope.
XOXOXO
Kristy Timothy oh sorry I missed your comment. Thank you! 💕
Anne van den Berg Your welcome! I have lots of great playlist you might find helpful.
Much love
I disagree. Tell them. What you are experiencing is a very heavy load for a young person to go through alone. If your parents are regular, normal parents (not abusive) they will want to know what is going on with you. No doubt they love you very much and would want to help and support you. Sure they might be shocked at first but then they could get you the help you need.
Struggling bad with strong anxiety today especially , think it may be my meds or the bday of my friends sucidie this week , but typically having a beer to calm my self ain't worked yet ,, but seen some good story's lately I can relate to , keep educating your doing a great job
im sorry to hear that :( dealing with a death is awful no matter how you look at it especially if the person took their own life. keep doing things to better yourself, its great hearing from you, sending positive thoughts your way :)
+Michi Mavros (shakenspeare) yes very true lost a lot of friends and family probably the main reasons of my diagnosis and substance abuse is also true , not so bad as I hold a job down fine ....just an emotional wreck at times ... But I also find I think a lot that there are people far worse off than myself that's when I beat myself up ...is very hard to explain you do it very well
+snakey4313 AHHH what you explained makes so much sense!! feeling worthless, realizing other people have it worse, feel more worthless etc. awful cycle. maybe that should be my next video
+Michi Mavros (shakenspeare) how many different docs therapist I have had to explain to now since I was young finally gave into meds Coz I was getting so irratible in my job and I can't lose it lol ...but yer everyone pretty much knows in my job because i openly talk about it weather that's good or bad , I found in the past bottling it all up makes you worse ..and family there another issue , five older sisters telling me this that and the other confusing 😂 but thank you and hope your well positive vibes back to you
Thanks MM
I really like your vids by the way
thank you so much!
I have this. It's nice to relate to a girl who's cute that has this and likes Nirvana.
Omg that's so IT!
Thankyou for your video
no problem!! stay strong
Love your top!!! Love Kurt
gemma williams thank you!!! me too 💞
I messaged you on fb 😘
keep going good vid :)
Can you have BPD without splitting? I have all the other symptoms you described in your video, but I don't really have a problem with splitting, that I'm aware of anyway.
Yes. You only need five out of the nine criteria.
Sorry but...What's your hair dye? It's lovely haha
Indigo
I had a psychologist who told my husband that I had BPD and that psychologists and psychiatrists are " afraid" to tell BPD people like me that they have the symptoms because they are afraid for their lives... and so the psychologist saw me for about 18 months and not once told me what he thought i had.
Thank you but that was a long time ago and actually I am just fine and that psychologist passed away and I cant say I was upset when I heard he had died.
so true,regarding black and white thing and no grey thinking in-between ...its either all down hill or its all going good...
External Forces?
We create a story in our heads about a situation and act on it regardless of any foundation of truth. A healthy person communicates effectively about their concern or doesn't even see it as a concern.
It's not external or the other person one chooses to devalue. It's you, your brain, YOU.
You control everything in your life. Percieving otherwise is your BPD or lack of self talking.
I suffered being BPD.I don't completely agree to you.I am a guy who doesn't carry even minimum harshness. But I suffered simply due to continuous & senseless abuse & ignorance of Narcissist & Sociopaths that made me lose my mind & my track .I still believe BPD people are better than other personality disorders..empathy & trust are much needed attribute in a human..which is missing with other personalities...so there is no need for BPDs to be ashamed of whatever they did.
Nice try freak
missing u hunny, where the hell r ya. u so know we r here for u no matter how u r
awww thanks Anthony!!! can't decide what to talk about I was busy this month but tomorrow I will DEFINITELY sit down and record one because i miss you guys toooo
hi michi, read the message you sent me when u went away a few weeks ago, the 1 where u said u knew what to do for the next video. oh how we forget, lol. smiles at ya, laterz matey
Thx i have bpd
I'm very bpd but I don't like therapy probably
There are two set of people in this world Good & Bad.
Good people suffer due to bad people.
Bad people gain due to good people. That's it.
You're a pretty woman.. it's like all the woman tho too I see bpd heavy or thin very beautiful. I'm pretty 😆😆pretty conceited or pretending. Idk I take pics all damn day then I wanna barf 🤢 I'm tired of my face after awhile 😆.. totally being vulnerable here 👀😳
Your remind me of modern cosmic, you guys sound similar
Don't you find it utterly depressing that the problem, unsurprisingly, is neurological? I mean, you must have read about brain scans of BPD people, how they reveal an overactive amygdala, underactive pre-frontal cortex, etc. If the problem is that the brain simply is not functioning correctly, what can you realistically do about it? I'm not aware of any major advances in technology or neurosurgery that can repair a brain that is fundamentally defective in multiple areas. No wonder so many people with BPD end up topping themselves - nothing ahead of them until the day they die but the same shit that's been ruining their life up till now.
Michi Mavros Oh, dear. Having a borderline moment? Couldn't answer me though.
:-)
+Polki Sa Zawsze Kieszonkowsze you didmt say anything other than useless incorrect bullshit people like you is why i make these videos! so we are not subjected to your idiotic way of thinking. get the fuck off my page byeeee
Michi Mavros I referred to empirical evidence. Do you deny that brain scans of BPD sufferers have been performed, or deny that they show what I said they do? The prognosis for BPD can only be poor. About all you can hope to do is ameliorate the symptoms with drugs, and improve one's self-awareness to better one's self-control. Anything else is a mirage - unless you are aware of brain scans that refute what I am saying. I'm all ears.
+Polki Sa Zawsze Kieszonkowsze never said there was misinformation in regards to that. yes, that portion of what you said is facts and true facts at that, what I find utterly disgusting is how you act is if you know what every single person with BPDs life will end up, and how you understand why were suicidal? you know nothing about living with a mental illness or if you do, you have absolutely no empathy. you dont go around saying that shit on a BPD SUPPORT channel
Michi Mavros Friend, I must insist there is no lack of empathy, and that you are putting words in my mouth: I never claimed to know how the life of every person with a PD turns out. Some seem, somehow (gawd knows how), to live full, reasonably happy lives; others, as you know, endure years of isolation and suffering, and cut their own lives short when, for example, it becomes too much and there seems no hope of positive change.
Though I did not make this at all clear, I am addressing you as a fellow BPD sufferer. Lack of clarity aside, you yourself say that this is a BPD support channel; it would not, I believe, be an entirely unreasonable assumption that I have some kind of problem in this area myself, or know someone who does.
And my question was perfectly, empathetically serious, not intended to mock or cause distress: don't you find it depressing that the neurological basis of the problem means mitigation and coping are all that can seemingly be hoped for? I could turn the situation around now and accusing you of a failure to see things from *my* more despairing point of view. Anyway, it really was just a yes-or-no question, though it would have been, and still would be, interesting to see an answer to it with an explanation.
Good lord, turn down the hotness! will you?
it s just exaggeration of the normal !!!!! therapy motivated by MONEY !!!!!
Anita Wise no...there’s a chemical imbalance...
There are two set of people in this world Good & Bad.
Good people suffer due to bad people.
Bad people gain due to good people. That's it.