BPD FACTS AND CHARACTERISTCS (that you may not have heard!)
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The rage/severe nervousness sometimes goes on for hours without a reason!
i am the same way, rage and anxiety can go on for hours and be triggered by a hair pin. it's very frustrating at times.
I will stay locked in my home a lot and not go near any pple .sometimes being around pple is unbearable .
I'm the same way
I have BPD too
My experience is;
I hold onto promises like my life depends on it, if those promises - no matter how small- aren't met, I rage
Ex: I'll be home in 10 min, takes 30 min and I'm upset.
Ex: I'll call you after work- doesn't call. I rage
I feel anxious and upset when my partner is out with his friends and doesn't text me back or is gone too long.
I get upset at last minute plans or If someone drops by unannounced
I have trouble remembering things, I'm bad with directions even if I've been there a million times,
I can't make good eye contact
I have no boundaries with my bosses, teachers, etc. I will say exactly how I feel
I don't care about work or school when I get in my funks. I'll call in and say I'm not coming, if they want to fire me I don't care.
I am very suspicious over dumb things like chapstick- if my partner is wearing chapstick I'm wondering if he's cheating
There's others but I'm struggling to see what else
Positives --- I'm constantly attracting people, very bubbly, very vivacious, high sexual energy,
4lex 4lex Bitch
Matthew Westbury you're very uneducated
BPD is also known as emotionally unstable personality disorder, impulsive personality disorder, emotional dysregulation personality disorder
Shut the fuck up and sit down if you are uneducated on the matter
Matthew Westbury She's admitting her disorder and IT'S painful to do. so sit down and go have your mommy issue elsewhere! Disrespectful!
EvaEva NTIH thank you
yep. That is me too.
substance abuse is self medication. It's so prevalent in BPD (imho) because sadly, people with BPD ae often treated like evil, manipulative drama queens even by mental health professionals. A lot of shrinks refuse to treat BPDs (It's sad AF) Borderline brains literally don't process impulse control. Which is where a lot of the risky behaviour comes in..There's a significant similarity between hyper-sensitive people and Borderlines because like HSP, BPDs have a stunted emotional maturity probably due to the past trauma situation. I think of it as if we just never learned coping skills. A lot of the fluid identity situation is a symptom of the fear of abandonment because we try to mold ourselves into the perceived ideals of others...BPDs and HSPs tend to be some of the most empathetic, creative and raw people. That part is pretty darn cool.
I don't want to sound like a basic white girl, and I realize this is old as fuck, but PREACCHHHH
Thank you for this. Its clear just by the comments on this video that there is no shortage of ignorance and discrimination towards people with BPD. I wish people would stop demonizing it and take the time to do some research.
Nailed it. I feel like everyone's mind is a Rembrandt and ours is like a Jackson Pollock.
I just stay away from most people.
Mark Hayden SAME
Me too. I do it so I can never be abandoned again.
Yep, the few who make the cut are trusted.
jeommy kin: i would abandon her. BPD's are evil. i've done it. best move of my life. it was an enlightening experience tho. it obliterated my naive perception of innocence. you'll see.
Gert Schlap me too.
I was raised by a BPD parent who still refuses to admit that anything is wrong with them and is very abusive, and because of them I am also suffering with mental illness myself now. but I want to commend you and all others who have watched this video and are trying to get better because you recognize the issues and even though it's extremely hard you are trying each and every day to make yourselves and your lives better! you may not understand it all and you may feel hopeless some days, but the fact that you acknowledge that something is wrong and that you want to improve is a HUUUUGE step! I wish my parent would at least admit that things aren't normal, but they refuse. So good job to all of you, much respect being sent your way!
thank you that was so sweet, im sorry your parents aren't able to accept that they are not perfect and work to seek treatment, my parents are the same way and it's unfortunate but as long as we focus on ourselves and improve the quality of our own lives maybe others will be inspired amd eventually follow suit. you're so right about taking the first step and how important it is!! hope you're doing well
cubanita365 I'm a BPD MOM, I'm trying and re training my mind but admitting everything and asking my children to for me bc I didn't see in fact I thought I was so much better and I saw myself for reals and wanted to die and my husband learned his disorders recently and were watching videos working at this and want help . We've made it 27 fucken yrs fuck that asshole up there . I love Jesus and I forgive that later though I'm still really upset at your comment it's cruel we have children and grandchildren we love and want to break this . We've been crying a lot but we're finally happy 😊.. happy and working on this constantly it's bonding us which is a miracle. But I wanted to really kill my self at first bc people want us dead or saying we're demons.. my god I love people why would you say that ..
Michi Mavros they say I'm ok but I know the truth
I always cried for them to stay home when I was sick .. I didn't realize how horrible that actually was .. they were in high school. 👀we we're all happy and laughing before I was sick . My kids never thought anything. Me neither 🤢they think I'm fun 🤢it wasn't it did hurt them
I see their hearts now and I gotta do different .. but they need to learn Bpd to protect their hearts and watch themselves as well so we're talking a lot lately.. I'm so upset that man or people talking don't really see that a whole damaged family is NOW WANTING HEALING FROM BPD AND WAIT NPD 😲no demons .😱👀👻😼👎bullishit calling bs humans have FREEWILL AND CHOICES.. amen and goodnight 🌙
I love this comment so much. I also have a parent who is in the same position and I as well and this really spoke to me, I know how freaking hard and heart breaking it can be and I hope it gets better for you and your loved one soon!!❤️
Having just been diagnosed, this helped me a lot.
I'm glad to hear that! Hope you're well xo
I can relate to this too! It's been about a year since I have been actively battling my mental illness head on. It's hard. All I want to do is escape and run away from the constant up and down. Finally people who I can relate to.
+michi i suspect my girlfriend has bpd but she only had consensual sex with 1 guy which is me. she got raped by 2 other guys.. its like she didnt want to have sex with them but they forced her and then at the same time she didnt want to lose them as a friend.. so she went along with it.. just like a rape survivor without bpd who puts herself in situations to be raped again, she went back to meet them despite getting raped and where it happened again for 1 of the guys. does this sound like BPD to you?
Ruby Violet a couple of years ago I had a therapist and I say what that's relevant in a minute but quite a lot of the time the staff at the place I'm living are telling me that my behaviours are normal and my thoughts are irrational so I thought I would start looking to see what could be wrong I did go to a bipolar disorder symptoms page but I didn't fit the criteria for that especially with the idea of the Manic highs for months and depressed and feeling Low 4 months but it was mood swings that very so I asked my therapist and this is what he sent me he's one of those intellect sounding ones if that makes sense which is why it's going to sound the way it does this is from a copy and paste
(I gather from your query that someone has raised the idea of borderline personality disorder,hence your question. To be balanced, I did see behaviours which would allow such an hypothesis (such as lack of empathy,self centredness, lurid fantasies and so on) I do not believe that this is conclusive, given the history of your childhood. I reckon you are still struggling with this.) End of copy and paste. this response is kind of confusing and now I can't forget about it
i go between anorexia and binge eating all the time. I didnt know that the eating disorders could be part of it all.
The rage part is so relatable. even when something has happened forever ago I will think about it and done on it forever. I can get really angry and upset from super small things. I'm also trying to be a little bit optimistic. I'm trying to get myself better because I didnt realize I was hurting my friends. I was manipulative to them without knowing it (before I was diegnosed) and I was so scared that they would stop wanting to be my friends that it was exauhsting for all of us. they were worried all the time because I would talk to them a lot about wanting to kill myself. they get mad at me when I hurt myself, and I can understand that. but at the same time, I'm upset they don't take the time to realize why I am how I am and just exactly what I'm going through. it makes me pretty mad tbh. but they just can't grasp what I'm going through because they don't have BPD so I've decided to get myself therapy for it. its scary but fingers crossed that it works. hope you guys are doing good. we are not terrible people. we are stronger than we think.
I didn't even know it was an eating disorder I thought I was just not taking care of myself or trying hard enough. I knew something was missing and something wasn't right because I just couldn't force myself to eat. I've never brought it up to my psychiatrist neither.
My psychiatrist recently suggested I might have BPD and at first I thought it was completely wrong but learning more about it I think that's what I definitely have. When I was 15 I would get super angry super quickly but as I've got older that's been replaced with anxiety. I had a massive panic attack because I left my shampoo at a friend's house. Listening to you talk has really resonated with me so thank you for your content and positivity.
What really clicked was when you said you dwell on things for ages. I recently apologised to a friend for something I'd said 4 months ago. He'd completely forgotten all about it but to me it was a cardinal sin.
Oh my god I always have that feeling about not being able to find myself or recognise who I am as a person. My career is always changing my hobbies and fashion choices are ever changing and I find it really difficult to understand who I am as a person. I'm so glad someone else has said this because it's so hard for me to describe to someone this exact feeling!
Also I'm such a negative nancy and it's so hard to get out of a rut sometimes! I know it will take me a while to get used to seeing the brighter side of life!
Great vid xx
bpd took over my life. it is horrible
Adriana Meerten I get it. I have no life because of it 😔
So what are you doing about it? Because I will say until you have received successful treatment please stay single and for heaven's sake don't have a child/ren.
L.O.L..And another Borderline tries the typical and per the norm, the Borderline deflection and shaming tactics ....As for been so-called nice to a Borderline that is like saying let's be nice to a Nazi...Wrong! Borderlines deserve no compassion and no empathy what's so ever....End of story.
John the despicable dutchman you've found your way and crawled your toxic self into this video too? People John is one of many BPD haters who probably has it himself and is just reflecting it on us. Get help John.
You're okay...keep moving forward. Everyday is a clean slate.
I just want to say, "Thank you!" Seeing you gives me a lot of hope for my daughter who is still a young teen, but currently experiences practically every symptom on the list. She was medically diagnosed with "BPD "traits""after a very long and tumultuous couple years of inpatient and outpatient treatment. She also has several other problems, but you make this seem like this is something she can definitely learn to handle over time.
why would you play music in the background?! It's so distracting.
Josh Levan its making me crazy
I'm at 2:51 and can't watch anymore. It's impossible for me to follow what she's saying :(
I lost interest in minutes and still trying hard to watch ughh not her fault she might thought would make us feel good
I've seen a therapist since I was a small child, for years they they gave me diagnosis upon diagnosis & loaded me up with one medication to another. Officially I've been diagnosed with bpd, ptsd, bipolar disorder I, anxiety, & depression. Living with that surrounded by people who don't understand what it's like living with mental health disorders & the affect it has on even your everyday life can be challenging. Finding a medical answer even more so, most gave me negative symptoms that lead to bullying & more isolation influencing me negatively & pulling me away from my peers. I've gone from one relationship to another either meshing my disorders with theirs to create emotional chaos or driving them away because of a lack of understanding in what I'm experiencing or proper support. The ''c" word "crazy" still remains a constant trigger to me, no one wants to be reminded of the outcast they are or perceive themselves to be. My antisocial behavior but constant need for attention is conflicting to say the least, for someone so terrified of being alone. It's part of the reason I learned to do hair & makeup despite not being all together that feminine. I thought that if I looked approachable than I wouldn't have to seek out companionship it would come to me. Of course that adolescent theory was never well thought out. It drew in a less desirable flock of men I respectively call my ex's who came to me based souly on my appearance & abandoned me once the luster wore off or they discovered that the relationship wouldn't culminate in what they desired. So throughout my teens what began as a mood disorder nearly culminated in a more permanent stay at the hospitals I often frequented in those years as I was considered a danger to myself & others. Positively I've gained an understanding of mental health disorders that I plan to use in my career in the respective field of psychology, when someone speaks on the trials they endure with this disorder I feel & empathize with them on a level someone who hasn't lived their whole lives with it could never reach. I never resorted to substance abuse to cope with my problems, I contribute most of that to my mom & the choices she made & examples she set, without her I don't think I would be here today.Over ten years ago she decided to stop drinking & has been sober ever since. I know that someday between I & my husbands hereditary conditions it's very likely our future children will suffer from similar cases & having the insight I do I can only hope we can make a difference for them & teach them proper ways to cope with whatever they may be experiencing.
Kat Strong I just want to say I read all of this and relate so much. It’s definitely so freaking hard when no one understands, thank you so much for this comment it made me feel so much less alone through this.
I wonder if BPD's are drawn to The 1975. I love them and also have BPD. lol
Ted Lange I can't stand them and have bpd 😂
I personally hated the music in the background and found it distracting and upsetting in a sensory way. It made it hard for me to be able to concentrate on what she was saying, and feel calm.
I love making people happy but no one no one makes an effort to make me happy ..I don’t know what to do anymore
Hi Michi.
I really enjoyed your video, it's very relevant in my life.
I was diagnosed with BPD in 2009 and have been on medication and therapy ever since, but I don't always feel like I make much progress. I have problems maintaining a stable job, and my romantic relationships are a mess. I attract narcissistics and the relationships are tumultuous involving lying, cheating, and underlying rage.
I'm a very outgoing person and love being around lots of friends, I don't like being alone unless I'm feeling depressed after a breakup or low on energy.
I have impulsivity in the areas of overspending, food (binge eating), and sex.
I'm also a social chameleon but spending time alone doing self reflection helps me understand my true self better. I am grateful for my support system of family and friends, although they don't completely understand what I go through, but I know that I am loved and cared for. I'm generally an optimist, but when I have my crazy depressing splitting days, I just want to stay in bed and sleep, so that I can forget my pain and emptiness. I live one day at a time, and it helps having other people who have BPD's support and understanding. God bless, you're beautiful xxx
hi heather, thank you for sharing part of your story with me. i understand completely everything you said, it gets so hard just to keep yourself from exploding on a day to day basis. it's so nice knowing that there are other people that share your pain and frustrations, so thank you so much for this comment, take care and stay strong xoxo :)
You're welcome Michi. I'm about to watch the rest of your videos now, starting with your BPD story. I've subscribed to your channel as well. All you say really resonates with me and I love listening to you 🤗
Your videos are really great, i watched the one about your story and how you describe your experience with BPD it really resonated with me, and that scared me so much that when i wrote a comment thanking you on that video i took it down. Im not sure if i have BPD or whatever but the fact still stands some of the things you discuss here seem to be similar to what i experience, it could be a multitude of things.. but the point is you standing up and talking about this is very brave and i really respect what you are doing i think its probably helped a lot of people along side my self. Stay well. -George
thank you for this video, the last part about focusing on the negativity that happened long ago like it just happened really resonated with me. its nice to know im not alone
Thank you for sharing the stigma is still so prevalent. I've just lost my marriage 18yrs. This was comforting, I know I'm now bad nor a monster. It is encouraging listening to you, we do get better and we can live an amazing life.
When you became self-aware of your BPD and what it makes you do did you have any kind of existential crisis/ breakdown?
OMG I LOVE The 1975! favorite songs are chocolate, UGH!, and The Sound. You missy have great taste :)
helloo, i’m super glad I stumbled across your channel!! it’s cool being able to listen to someone talk about things otherwise not often talked about for fear of the stigma. v relatable, informative, and personable!! also, you’re hella stunning and have a really neat energy to your speaking. 🖤
Have you ever had anxiety so bad due to your BPD, that words came out so jumbled although your brain is thinking them clearly??? It's as if my mouth cannot keep up with the racing thought and only parts of each word is said. It's happened on many occasions. I'm just wondering if anyone else with BPD has experienced this type of manifestation from anxiety .
Your better than any psychologist or psychiatrist I have ever seen. Thank you, from my heart. These videos are priceless to me.
Wow. Thanks so much for this video. It helped me so much. I finally understand bpd. I haven't understood it in years. YOu are such a blessing to me. Karen xx
Hi, I was recently diagnosed with BPD and this really helped me a lot. Thank you so much for making this video.
I identify with many aspects of bpd, but I haven't been diagnosed. I hope you continue to manage well. You rock!
Michi, love your channel
. Thank you for your compassionate and educational insights. God bless you. Many thanks.
Educational
thank you for sharing. my husband was diagnosed with this and i came looking for some information on it and came across your channel. alot of what you say he experences. thank you for sharing your story and helping others.
everything you've said applies to me and i haven't been diagnosed with BPD. Im not trying to say what u said was a lie bc i actually wanted to watch this to see if this is me bc i had read about this on google and some of that kinda applied to me but i never really talk about whats wrong in therapy and i dont talk to my doctor who can actually diagnose me with it about how i am. im just glad now i know that this is probably something i should do more research on and talk to my doctor about. i now have lots of respect for u bc u made this video
I have so many clear signs of "quiet" BPD but I've isolated myself for so long I don't know where to begin in seeking a diagnoses or treatment.
You are wonderful...love your honesty,very brave And you are gorgeous..thank you for spending time to help others 😘 xx
Thanks for sharing Hun....I suffer from BPD as well. It's been a long hard road. But, I know with the right help..and there is help out there.
omg i love you girl!!! your presentation is awesome, ty for this im new to bpd
aww thanks hehe I'm coming out with more soon been taking a break but I'll have more up in a few days!! take care
I'm certain my ex has BPD. She had substance abuse problems. She self harmed. She engaged in dangerous behaviours and relationships. In fact, I have concrete examples of her displaying 9 out of the 9 symptoms of BPD. When we got together, I was the greatest person on Earth. And, a few months down the track, she went from adoring me to not even wanting to be in the same room as me. That change took place in the space of 24 hours, and it wasn't caused by anything I did (other than being loving and supportive, which I think she couldn't handle).
After a few weeks of treating me awfully or outright ignoring me, she walked out on me and went back to her abusive, drug addict, violent criminal ex boyfriend.
After trying and failing to convince her her behaviour was dangerous to herself and emotionally abusive toward me, I eventually contacted her family and told them what was going on. She hasn't spoken to me since.
She's convinced I'm the bad guy, when all I did was love her and not want to see her get hurt or hurt herself.
I've made peace with the fact that she'll never speak to me again, and I've recognised that it's a good thing. She would have destroyed my life.
Nonetheless, I find myself see-sawing between feeling sympathy for her, and outright detesting her for how she treated me.
After all, BPD or not, she's not a stupid girl. She knew what she was doing. And she knew how much her actions would hurt me. She even admitted as much to me.
threewiseman1 I was on the same boat as u . She almost broke up my heart in many pieces . She walked out on me and went right back to her drug dealer abusive ex boyfriend. I’ve moved on and I made peace with myself . I gave her the world and yet she fucked it up . Keep ur head up and I hope u feel much better now .
Sorry for hearing* but giod part you not suffering from her no more.
I feel like im multiple different people. A confident man, a wise housewife,an anxious little girl, a playful teen boy and a blank skate (me when none of these roles are prominent). I have been diagnosed BPD and I wonder if others cycle through different "characters" on a daily basis. Rarely can I force these parts of me out. They come out as naturally as breathing. I feel like I have DID but without the amnesia
When I was in therapy, I brought up BPD to my therapist and told her that I thought I fit several of the symptoms in the DSM. I have a psych degree and I know a little bit about the different personality disorders and things. She said she wouldn't diagnose me, though, because I wasn't the "stereotypical" case.
Dani Lepley Get another therapist.
Dani Lepley no. she shouldn't just switch from therapist to therapist until she gets the diagnosis that she wants lmfao
Yes, someone more qualified needs to be found to help. A doctor who dismisses a patients concern isn't a good Dr. You know you best!
Most mainstream Dr. and therapist are not going to be qualified enough to help. This isn't a topic covered in the education they received. Question their ability to help you. Find the right person. Phycologist who is trained. There are some who even help via phone and CZcams videos, books. Recovery is very possible and there are even therapies that are working quickly. Dramatic changes in weeks. Don't give up!
do therapists even diagnose? shouldn't psychiatrists do that?
ummm yes... they do. they just don't prescribe medications.
the videos are so helpful to understand,even at some points I think ,I have that personality disorder too,thanks for bringing awareness.
i like your videos! They make me feel good and hopeful! Thank you for sharing.💗👍
just been officially diagnosed with bpd. been in treatment for anorexia and GAD for the past 7 years. thank you for this video.
Am I watching a video of myself?! Thanks for sharing your story. We aren't alone
As far as I know there’s no medication that really works for BPD since it is rooted in personality (ie. it’s not a chemical imbalance). But does anyone take anything that helps them?
Thank you for this video, i’ve been recently diagnosed and this explained a lot, also the 1975 is my favorite band!!!!
This condition sucks. 😭 Thanks for all your videos. I just want to be cured and have a fixed identity. Bless you Michi🙏🧡
I also have bpd! And it is very hard day to day. This video is amazing!
I absolutely LOVE your videos. I’m just like yep yep that’s me omg I do that etc (diagnosed BPD)
My dx is BPD and I believe it’s the “umbrella” that causes depression, anxiety, addiction, all that. I’m blessed to be in a very good DBT group weekly and a 1:1 therapist 2x a month through my county health program. It’s so true about treating Eating Disorders (I suffer from that too, and was also dx’d with BPD at a ED treatment center) and addiction without treating the BPD. I too feel I’m “not a person” but I describe myself as “broken” and unfixable. I will add I’m 39 and the BPD has gotten more manageable as I’ve aged, I think partly due to good treatment but also just more life experiences and maturity that come with age. If you can’t find a DBT group search amazon for workbooks about it I’ve found them very helpful.
I love how you're always changing your hair colour,it's very BPD of you 😁
I'm glad you addressed the impulsiveness and that it's not just being overly sexual. I am the exact opposite of that. I don't like sex. Like, at all. My impulses have to do with money. I blow through my paychecks the day I get them. Starting my next check my mother is taking over my finances because of it. It's pretty bad. 800 gone in less than a day.
Thanks. Just been diagnosed. This video helps a lot. Because i dont really know much about Borderline.
I have comorbidity with BPD, people still think I’m a danger when I’m not.
I have BPD and I'm really struggling with filling and taking my medication... I'm still struggling accepting my diagnosis 🙄
Sometimes I think I have BPD but my psychiatrist doesn't want to put another label on me.
Your smile is beautiful as well as your eyes :)
I couldn't really concentrate on the video. Background music too loud
thank you for exposing the truth about addiction borderline and what happends. i have had i turbulent life and got borderline also and others of mental things..( disprders) and i have quoted smoking and taking drugs afyer 6 years of use. and now lost no firends want to be healthy trying to be brave to et the strenght to move and hope to do t
im honestly so worried to go to therapy now cause this is literally me everything ive read on BPD and makes me worry that i might be diagnosed with it and my family will think im some kind of psychopath
I was officially diagnosed at 19.. Im 23 now. And as you know.. Its a constant freaking battle everyday.. From family, work, friend ships, dating the shabang...
Phew, I dated a girl with BPD and I just had to see another person display the symptoms to make sure I wasnt as crazy as she tried to make me feel. Good luck to you all, the smartest woman I have ever met had BPD, she found a lot of control over her BPD with CBT. What may take a normal person 5 minutes to calm down from, may take you an hour, but it is possible.
Can you do a video on the "soft" BPD. Can I think that's what I got but I'm unsure.
I've been diagnosed when i lived with my dad, now that i live with my mom im scared to tell people and anyone at school that i have it cause im scared my mom will be mad and say its not true and say that me and my dad are liars 😑
I dated a guy for 2 months and things just ended. I obsess over it constantly. It doesn’t help that he was a narcissist. I know he was toxic for me, but I still obsess over our memories and what went wrong. I get so angry and anxious.
A couple of weeks ago I was called shitty by a friend for something very minor I did. It caused me to completely spiral into a deep, angry depression. I’m still in that funk. I try my best to be an amazing friend, so being called shitty completely destroyed me.
Hello, I have a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder since April last year, and these videos tells me I'm not only one, my family don't know about my diagnosis and only close friends know which they don't understand it! I live in the UK and our mental health services is in crisis so I've waited nearly a year for therapy. I feel like have no one to talk to. I am under community mental health team and did have a care coordinator but went off sick in September and I never got a replacement. I just feel like it is too hard to get better and I feel like a burden to everyone and when I try to get help when feeling sucidal I get nothing! And at one time told by a CPN I was selfish and costing the NHS too much money! And now I don't want to try and get help.
I know what I like to do so I usually list those off...but is that enough to say I know who I am? I relate to your experience so much it makes me wonder if everyone doesn't live this way and is just better at hiding it?? Or are they lying to themselves? I feel like this is so normal for me I wonder what recovery from this would feel like.
Damn im bipolar and have a ton of mania , ill have manic episodes for up too 2 weeks .. feeling amazing blah blh blah , go thru thru mania or depression thru cycles throughout the day ! But i have been on meds for a long time and shit isnt working anymore but also not making my mania to where is once was filled with delusions and doing crazy ass shit thinking my creativity can change the world but then scrap the idea or what it is a week later? Hey can we talk
Why i can't get DBT counselling if i use drugs? Like i don't choose to use them its the illness!!!! Anyone having same problem?
:'( I was just told today that I may have BPD. I am waiting till next week to have my first appointment with my therapist and do all the testing etc but it all fits me to a T. It freaks me out because I started counseling because I broke up with my boyfriend and then freaked out about what I had done but he'd had enough and wouldn't take me back. We've been fighting for months. I would just have such a hard time letting go of stupid stuff. I would be upset for days sometimes. I was just always so scared that he was going to leave me. He's the love of my life. He says in 6 months we can go on a date and see how things go. We both need a break and time to reset and heal but I have this terrible sinking feeling that especially if I have BPD, he's not going to want to take me back. Like I'm going to be to much of a hot mess for him to handle. And that is so heart breaking to me. How do you all handle life?? I don't even know what to do.
freshly diagnosed. thanks for this, I related a lot. x
30 hours in to figuring out that i have classic BPD like 7 out of 9 its so enlightening and real right now....:(
Never heard of BPD until today. I know I have it and at least 6 of the characters. Now to begin the trip.
Oh man I remember ages ago I started the Prince's Trust course I wernt on the course for long but when they asked me to describe myself that was extremely difficult and I just kept sort of thinking and stalling and everyone was looking at me and it was really I guess stressful and what doesn't help as well is I feel I should suppress my happy feelings for the most part. because they're weak in my opinion and I hate them and they just leave the vulnerability but then there are certain situations where I find myself being unable to suppress them and then I can be happy to an excessive degree and I'll be energetic and able to run 4 miles until I come to the disappointing conclusion that I can't when I get out of breath from moving around too much
i was wondering if you've had any experience with like an FP (favorite person) losing interest you, and basically leaving you. i legit have no idea what to do because she kind of refuses to talk to me about it
I usually have an FP, when I'm in a relationship I don't usually include my romantic relationships the same as friendships so my FP is usually a girl (bf still comes first but in a different sense) and I usually switch between FPs when something has happened, once cut off it takes a while to regain their trust but it is possible to continue on the friendship as if it never ended (not saying that the other person in the relationship is wrong and the one with BPD is right, but sometimes we can manifest our feelings of abandonment into hatred if we feel as if they are going to leave first. but I've gone through periods of being best friends with someone, then hating them, to becoming best friends again. it all depends on the foundation that the friendship was built on though.)
Thank you very uplifting. X
your you tube shows so helpful and you should be proud what you doing!!! Not many people who have BPD want help. I'm trying to write a documentary on awareness bpd. As I ve been diagnoised in Dec 2016. So hard to except and control. but you inspired me that there is hope and I will get there. I'm in that beginning not knowing....self harming and sucidial thoughts are so upsetting but it happens and we cant control. cant wait for my dbt to start. Thanks Michi!! have you got facebook page you should that too!!!
maria pizzo thank you so much
Thanks!!! Its so helpful!
Oh my goodness you have one sultry voice! I love it!
I just wonder if a person with borderline can have a normal life? I mean, the mood swings, anger, empty feeling etc. How can you get over it? And how do you deal with stress? And is there going to be a person that loves you enough to stay, because it is going to take a while before we maybe can deal with all those things right? I just want to live a normal life. Without stressing to much, because some things are not working out.
Jay many probably would but that doesn't mean the borderline is going to not get bored and leave. Borderlines always dump their lovers.
I have alot of anxiety social isolation & negative thoughts about myself... its super hard, i feel so lost
I feel that i dont understand it but i understand it at the same time.. Like i feel well this is my bpd.. Then im like i need to get over myself. I feel the biggest part i struggle with is dealing with my bpd at work.. And i dont feel like any of my friends family coworks understand nor will understand. I fell How do you explain something to someone when you dont fully understand yourself... I always get asked why im so cheerful abd happy all the time... Though i present that way Thats not how i feel inside
such a great video!!! thank u!
aww no problem!! thanks for your feedback :) take care
Your hair is actually amazing
thank you!!! hope youre doing well
wish I could find some positive thought's like you but I have lived with bpd so long (since before it was called bpd) (I am old enough to be your grandfather) thanks for the video
I seem more positive on these videos than I really am, I try to appear very optimistic because it helps others and there's no sense spreading the negative parts of my mind but I understand that sometimes others' positivity hinders our progress, almost as if it is thrown in our face that we can't muster up the same positivity. I know what you're going through though and I'm very glad to hear from you. Stay strong
Some say i have bpd. Im always alone. Feel empty and bored all the time . But i dont see bpd as a illness but as a blessing. Because i feel like it makes you stand out from the mainstream general society standards. but yea . I like your videos. I agree with most. Except the illness part i see it differently
now does every bdp have some kind of addiction or self harm because I don't have addiction I won't get that way when I do drink I get that way but I use to self-harm but not anymore I never cut myself just scratch so I'm confused I know everyone is different but I'm trying to figure what is going on with me just curious
Donna Eastman I don't cut anyone either, I just scratch. So you're not the only one. And substance isn't a must.
May I ask how old you are now and how long you've been in therapy? Are you seeing a private therapist? And if yes, what form of therapy is he/she using? Thank you so much
I was diagnosed bpd. I believe l have cptsd, not bpd. 100% work on the broken parts ie, the inner wounds and it can be cured . I wish you well . How old are you by the way?
Heyy I'm on your level I have bad and a number of other stupid disorders but it still doesn't change the fact that you are a perfect 10 ! Keep going gorgeous xx
Marc Kincaid thank you :D@
So inspirational!
Very informative thank you!👍👍
Thank you I don't feel as lonely anymore
I guess I'm not a real man. I put up with one of these people, for 3 years, and the verbal and physical beatings I went through made me give up hope on your kind, and I avoid you people, but I do hope you get the help needed before you create more victims!
My borderline doesn't usually act up untill Im in relationship - with friends (as few as I have) it's fine, I have everything under controll. Im so scared of relationships because of this....
Maraden this is why you don't date women with Borderline personality disorder. my first girlfriend had borderline personality disorder. this was my impression of the relationship in a nut shell "da fuck????????????" the whole time I dating her before she ended up cheating on me.
I also have some agarophobia? Can that be a symptom?
I feel like she treats BPD like a horoscope
yes yes yes...i feel like this! omg...
The sulci in our brains do not work. Or something like that. Our emotions dont get shut down and dispersed. We feel them full force for as long as it takes for the chemicals to naturally subside to normal levels. It's not just someone being selfish. And if you're upset by their actions....well the disorder most of the time stems from abuse. People who have been abused most often have poor life skills. Be patient. Be loving and Be kind.
My ex has BPD,she is amazing and I will always love her.
One day she told me she loves me the next day she dumped me. She is still my friend though.
I'm not diagnosed but I definitely think I am cause I have literally all these symptoms
Being positive and carefree on the other hand is not a solution either. It's not constructive to scapegoat others for your actions or just let bygones be bygones, this doesnt help you become a better version of yourself. I honestly think that feeling remorse can be productive. That "its not my fault, its the illness' fault" mentality can perpetuate a sick situation. Accepting that you abuse others or harm others and yourself as well as having some sleepless nights on top of that can sometimes lead to light. Ive long been diagnosed with BPD by the way.
Kate Pdm thanks for your advice I agree and am working to improve it everyday, of course not being able to accept faults is also a BPD quality but I understand that acceptance of one's own faults is the only way we can really move to grow and be a better person.
Kate Pdm thanks for your advice I agree and am working to improve it everyday, of course not being able to accept faults is also a BPD quality but I understand that acceptance of one's own faults is the only way we can really move to grow and be a better person.