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I’m in a relationship with someone with BPD... she is amazing... I have to be patient and love her unconditionally... she finds it hard to open up but I know she loves me. I always stay positive and keep ensuring her that I’m here to stay and I’m going no where.... one thing I noticed that helps is letting her know the potential of our future together and see things grow... I know everyday isn’t going to be easy... but if you truly love them you will be patient and show them. Not everyone loves the way we are expected to. She is kind and sweet even though she sometimes puts up a hard exterior but I can see through that because I take the time to understand her condition and how to read her moods. So thank you For making these videos... it really helps both those who suffer from BPD and those who love someone who suffers from it.
she's very very lucky
My BPD ex was like that too. Sweet, kind., Looking after people. She voved she loved me. Dude, it is a facade! Maybe she truly feels that way now but it can all change over a month. You are lovebombed but will end up sad and wondering what the hell happened. Do yourself a favor and get out. Save your precious love to someone who is going to support you and stay by you
@@missd3605 Actually he is very unlucky. All the crap about "I-can-see-her-sweet-core-through-her-hard-exterior" he tries to swallow now won't do him any good when she makes him vomit all of it...
MysticalGypsyDruid dead man walking maybe you are yet crying
I have BPD I don't know why... And this video did help...I don't think anybody will reply or see but can I just say. Having it is not easy. So many people have it (including me)
dude get a degree, you deserve it. Nobody else I've seen so far has so effectively communicated this info. thank you
Funny story: I got a degree in aerospace engineering (aka rocket science) because I thought it would make me feel amazing and proud of myself, and I thought I would finally accept myself. Well I found out afterwards that none of those things happened. I still felt shit about myself, I felt worthless, and I still didn't accept myself. And no one else around me really cared that I got an amazing degree either. Also I have BPD. My advice for others, if you think a degree or any other external accomplishment is gonna make you feel better. Think twice. True self worth, self love, and self acceptance can only come from within, so do seek it from within yourself. Stay strong.
My girlfriend for 3 years broke up with me a few months back, and it definitely is the hardest thing Ive ever gone through. I've since realised that i cannot rely on one person for my happiness or plan my entire life and all my dreams around someone besides myself, because once she dumped me then my entire life plan was shattered. And that was scary as shit. But definitely don't smother someone in a relationship, I definitely broke her down mentally over time to the point where all she could think about was my well-being. Which destroyed her, really. And then i ended up losing the person who meant the most to me. I dunno if anyone read this whole thing, but if you are someone going through difficulties with relationships then I for sure recommend that you are able to take care of yourself and your own happiness and that you learn to not depend on others to that degree. I wish I knew that a year ago.
how do you feel now, I know my girlfriend doesn't love me the way she did a few years ago, and I fear her leaving me because we have been together for 5 years, since I was 15 and all ive known is us.. we keep like going throw rocking patchs, and when we break up I can only think of death..
My ex has bipolar and BPD, I got dumped a month ago after amazing 9 month together. She doesn’t want me back in her life as a bf but she’s terrified loosing me completely , I’m stuck in a limbo of being pulled back each time i walk away , I am sticking around but at the same time living my life. If I fall in love with someone else then this is my faith
@@stefanbelan5209 in 2017 I've a 8 month relationship with BPD-bipolar. First love bombing, then push pull and silent treatment, at the end the waste. At the time I didn't know what the BPD was, so I was very confused, disappointed and has a lot of pain. Then I started thinking about every single thing that happened and studying so I understood that my ex gf had the BPD. At that moment everyting started to be clear and I realize that those people are not able to love. Two months ago she came back saying she wants lo live happily with me. Resisting was very difficult but now I know her too well and I couldn't trust her anymore. A BPD woman can really ruin a man's life. No contact is the only solution: leave your ex gf to her destiny. These people can not be helped. You must think about your life and save yourself. I know it's hard.
I was dumped by my BPD girlfriend for the last time in November. She played in all on me because of my problems and because I didn't want to have kids with her and because I was "too organized ". She even blamed me for drowning her in love and tenderness as if I had somehow manipulated her into the relationship. She said I was a such a good man and deserved better and that she could NOT feel anything and could not be in a relationship as she must treat herself in therapy. One week later she met some guy and started dating again. She told me this and how this guy was so much more suitable for her. She said she only loved me as a resource for safety and support. I feel like I am nothing. Hell ..I divorced 3.5yrs ago and that was devastating to my world view. Now it is not as bad but it is not much less worse. Luckily I have a son and a career and we are going to have an awesome life and no crazy bitch will ever come between us.
@@stefanbelan5209 bro if you are still hanging in there get out now and get a rebound GF. That same thing happened to me and it Will only make things worse
Nicely said ....I'm 44 always had toxic relationships .I've been in a 6 yr relationship ,broke up a million times but he stuck with me .I think he knows now what pushes my buttons ....it's important for family members and loved ones to understand bpd ....thank you for your videos .
How's your relationship now?
Holy crap I’m so stuck on the “broken beyond repair” thought because that’s probably the biggest problem my BPD causes for me.
Blackbird Scraps the problem is that were not but that thought could eat us alive until we could be
Thank you for this video. My fiancé was recently diagnosed with BPD and this video was very helpful. I have taken it upon myself to learn everything I can about BPD so that I can be a better partner for her (as I take down notes). Thank you for sharing your experience.
The BPD I had treated me like shit and probably cheated, then disgarded me, after I treated like a queen.
"for those who understand, no explanation is needed. For for who want to understand, there is no explanation"
Much love to all! 🤗
Blue haired and beautiful as always, loving it. 👍
The way u explain BPD is like u are saying what I've tried to explain but never could. I've never come across anyone else that talks about it so well. Keep up the fight, Anthony Nemo's FB group admins all say hello. xx
Jodie Klein i would love to be a part of the group!! thank you so very much it really means the world 💙
I will talk to Anthony and get you in the group. x
would u prefer to be added in with ur blog FB account or personal account?
Jodie Klein is it possible to get an add too to Anthony's fb page by any chance im in the UK too x
Recovery mum is also someone I watch ....the more help the better she is amazing
i am currently in a relationship and I've been researching BPD and although I am not diagnosed, and I know researching it is the worst thing, I do feel like there is something going on with myself that is destroying my relationship. My personality is too intense for the person I am with and I am scared that he is eventually going to break up with me. I'm pushing him to his limit. I am always so angry with him. Every single day. I know deep down that it's not normal but in the moment it feels so justified. And once I am angry at him, I will stay angry for an hour over whatever small thing it is. The truth is, he doesn't do anything wrong. I just see so many things that I feel are wrong. It's very confusing and frustrating. He always tells me there's something mentally wrong with me. I really don't want him to leave me as much as I feel like I hate him sometimes.
Wow, you spoke for me. I feel smothered by his love and affection. I analyze his affection as immature or adolescent even as fake. Like if I can't feel that much love towards someone, how can they. I love him but don't feel the need to express it as much as him so it must be fake or forced by him. He's a caring person and a caring husband and very mooshy. His constant need for my attention is annoying to me. I feel bad so often. I'm always trying to change him to be less affectionate. I hate myself so often for the way I judge him. I hate that I push his affection away so much. I know when it's gone, I will miss it. He doesn't try to work with me like other people have mentioned in the comments. He will do the same things over and over again that annoy the crap out of me then tell me I should like it there fore there is something mentally wrong with me. I try to explain and I take blame but it just doesn't register with him so he will continue to force me to put up with some of his adolescent behavior or constant need of affection. I meet him half way because I have to make changes too to accept him for his ways but he won't do the same for me. In turn this problem has me constantly feeling like a horrible person.
You are an amazing person to talk about BPD so plainly and breaking it down into different ways to explain it. Thank you! You are spot on. Love your video’s!
Thank YOU, Michi! I have been watching your videos continuously since I came across you. You help me in so many ways. Knowing I’m not alone in all of this. So, thank you. Thank you, Michi, for being beautiful YOU! I’m grateful for all your videos, regardless of lighting. I hope your day is great. Sending you LOTS of love in the biggest of hugs. 🤗
Michi your videos are saving my life the last few days. Thank you so much for being so open about BPD.
Congrats on the 4k! 🍻🎉🏆
Relationships are by far one of the biggest hurdles for bpd people. Sometimes I find it easier just to be alone and stay that way.....10 mins later..... I would give my left arm for a hug from anyone! We are all strong, it will get better. 😀
Shaun S hey shaun!!!! just wanted to say thank you very much for your always kind comments they make me smile im so glad i could be of some help :D hope you're well!!!
Yes l love the idea of you doing a documentary and letting everyone from all over add their feelings and thoughts and experiences, especially because seeing everyone is their own individual person, that means their traits of BPD can be different than what others experience so it really helps others with BPD and non BPD spouses,friends,family members etc. to hear and be able to take good and helpful information and be more understanding and helpful.
God everything you say is so true.. it’s crazy how aware you are of bpd and how articulate you are and I thank you for helping yourself because you’re helping everyone too
Thank you so much for this video! I struggle with being afraid my boyfriend is going to leave me, too. Mainly because when I get down on myself I just don't get how he could love me or want to stay with me. IT's hard though because when I get thoughts like he may be cheating on me, I truly believe it. And where I'm highly intuitive sometimes it gets really hard to specify truth from lies. In all actuality, I know that he loves me and that he would never cheat on me or leave me. So why do I keep fighting this same battle? The thing for me right now is we are going to be working complete opposite shifts & we're not going to see eachother as much. That scares me so much. But I know that it's best for me to stay at the job I'm at and him with his. We are working together towards future goals. Things really are good. I just wish I didn't stress over irrelevant shit all the time.
Elisha Renee:
I'm the same way with those thoughts and being highly intuitive makes me feel crazy when I have those thoughts at times.
What helps you get over those intense thoughts and not getting wrapped up in them? Because when I get wrapped up in them I treat my s/o like shit and I get super down on myself.
I feel exactly the same way as you, thank you
This is exactly how I feel and what I’m going through with my boyfriend right now. I currently keep thinking that he must be cheating on me. But I know that he wouldn’t deep down. Especially because he’s been cheated on in the past by ex’s and it really hurt him. I just don’t know how to make the thoughts go away.
well, it's probably just time to change partners
The reason why u have 4000 followers is because u talk from personal experience and not give text book bs. I'm grateful to have found your channel because u talk the truth and not everyday bs like those who don't know our struggle. Thank you for all your videos. Keep them coming. Ur awsome.
Alex Blair thank you sooooo much this was lovely!!! 😊
Hearing you speak is like listening to a really honest version of myself.. thanks!
Hey Michi, keep up the content i have just been diagnosed with BPD and your videos are helping me through it, with understanding but also knowing that it will be ok =) so thank you. Anyone who comments about how people with BPD or other mental illnesses should think in a negative manner doesn't help at all no need to do it guys, keep the love flowing.
thanks so much for spreading the positivity instead of perpetuating negativity really appreciated :)
He didn't tell me about BPD. My fiance with BPD broke it off 2 wks ago. He brought up the smallest issues and devaluated me for a long time. Then told me he had life calling him in other ways.
That must have been awful. Im sorry to hear that.
I'm so sorry. Sounds like my ex and recent break up. It went from you improve my life, to you are a horrible person and ruin everything type of talk. It's so painful!
You're ex is a cowardly weak dog
Be glad You got rid of him.
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I'm lost for words regarding You WOW
Wow! When you made this video, I hadn't yet been diagnosed with BPD yet but was curious about the possibility. I wish I had known and could offer to contribute to your documentary then. Ever since my diagnosis I've found your videos so helpful and relatable and like I'm understood!
Thank you for your videos. Thank you so much!
I think this woman should be very proud of herself for making this video. Self awareness if almost impossible for any person at any age, let alone a young person dealing with BPD. Welcome to the human race, glad to have ya!
Absolutely great video! Thank you. I kept coming back to your videos because you're able to capture bpd and living with it very concisely and in a different way, I feel. So now you have a new subscriber :)
Claire Chouette hey Claire thank you so much that means so much!!!! very much appreciated :)
I have BPD. And I got my first real boyfriend in September. But I’m so scared and anxious all the time. I constantly feel like I’m doing or saying the wrong thing and I’m gonna push him away and make him leave me. I need so much attention. And when I don’t get it, I feel very angry and betrayed and hurt. I don’t know what to do. It’s so hard for me to tell if my concerns are legitimate or if they’re BPD thoughts. My boyfriend is a great person, but I just feel like no one will ever be able to make me happy.
I feel the same way. I feel like no one loves me the proper way I feel I should be loved. But the way I want to be loved really isn’t healthy. I want someone to be obsessed w/ me and want me around all the time and constantly validates me and doesn’t want to even talk to anyone else but me. I want them to basically feel how I feel about them... but they never do
No one can make another person happy! You have to first find happiness within yourself. You can be happy with another person and they with you but they can’t make you happy and you can’t make another person happy! x
@@thesupreme950 before I knew she needed it I actually gave my BPD lover the love she wants but then once I did that she said I was obsessed and pushed me away... Now that I know her condition I actually love her unconditionally but I don't know if she's coming back. So it kind of makes you wonder. It's like if somebody has BPD you can't love them enough but if you love them the way that they've always wanted then they get afraid that they're going to lose you and abandon you before you can abandon them. But I think with therapy and mindfulness people with bpd can improve and have great relationships!
I think what you are saying totally falls into line with this video. The feeling of being unworthy and the fear of abandonment or rejection is very strong. But working on loving yourself and combatting your self loathing by being more self aware and applying self care will help. Sometimes this is a minute by minute battle that you can win.
Ashleysart Attack i feel exactly the same way...i broke up with my boyfriend because the bpd thoughts stressed me out so much. i feel like i'll never be able to love and trust someone
So accurate Michi, thank you
Wow another fantastic video darling michi. You are so eloquent and once again make it so simple for all of us to understand what we experience whilst in relationships. Thank u from the bottom of my heart xxxxx
karmaquest thank you very much Emma for your kind words always and support xozo
Let the haters, hate i secretly think BPD stands for best personalty disorder lol! Thanks for the help i strugle with BPD myself and i totaly agree with not having toxic people in your life. Stay positive and congrats on your channel progress 😁
this is really helpful as an explanation. thank you for sharing. the balance between perception and reality is unfairly difficult to navigate.
i love how your hair colours constantly change ! i want to do the same thing but i'm scared of damage . looks awesome !
I wonder if changing your hair color and hair style like 100 times during adulthood is a bpd thing. I'm almost 30 now and I've had blonde hair, black hair, brown hair, red hair, purple hair.. I've had long hair, short hair, shaved head.. plus I used to have multiple piercings but now I don't want any. It's like I can't figure out what my style is. I used to wear nothing but black clothes but now I wear whatever feels comfortable and looks "ok". In my early 20s I couldn't leave the house without make up but now I don't wanna wear ANY make up whatsoever. Who the hell am I.
Looolll i think the hair thing is definitely a bpd thing cuz ive seen so many women do that including my own gf, maybe it has something to do with the fact that people with bpd sometimes dont have a clear identity of who they are.
You were open and honest and deserve it kiddo!
My ex with BPD broke up with me on Valentine's Day, I literally loved her and reassured her, I was there for her through her episodes. I gave her all my energy and effort just for her to trauma dump me and leave me for some new guy she just met.
This helps me understand a lot. My friend has bpd and I'm trying to educate myself in understanding what she is going through.
Just found you today proud of you.
I've been running from this not wanting to admit just trying to fix ... Ugh the cycle keeps going.
All that mess and I'm a mom of five. Tired of being the unliveable puppy I know my kids love me for real but most times keep convince myself that. Can't keep this other me up happy smiling when I feel like ish and don't know why...
I'm just really proud of you.
Trying to work through and change how I am cuz everyone says how horrible I people with bpd are as mom I don't want them to leave me when they're grown, no I don't mean physical but no communication. So I don't leach on to them for love unhealthy I got cats lol. Sorry rambling I can't talk to anyone and I'm just so proud of you being out there. I hope young ones get help early from u and other like you instead of like me screwed up five innocent lives
Wow. You’re a blessing for my soul. You’re speaking words that I’ve been searching for so long to explain what was going on in my fucked up brain. Ilysfm. Your idea is amazing. I will never get tired of your videos jeez those are the reason I’m breathing. Thanks for existing Michi, idk what I would do without you ❤️
HEY JEN!!! THANK YOU ALWAYS id love for you to be in the documentary send me a video plz if you can since you already have your youtube too i know youre comfortable in front of the camera LOL plus I love your accent plzzzz!!!!!!! thank u so much i love your comments always 💙💙💙
Michi Mavros Oh I will! And my accent is awful hahahhahaha 💙
We need to talk for how long? I talk a lot hahahhaha
just one or two mins!!! but I can take it and cut certain parts etc :)
Be careful.. unconditional can get you into a world of hurt. You need boundaries. My ex committed work comp fraud, drive without insurance, wanted me to drop my health insurance.. and told me my love was conditional for disagreeing with her decisions.. and more, that was just the beginning. Her son is now in prison with a $60,000 cash bail. They will convince you to love them unconditionally… and drag you i to their bad decisions. While leaving you feeling guilty because you think you need to love them unconditionally. It’s truly mind bending.
So spot on. Relationships are often so hard for us.
Good job on the video and good luck with your goals!💖🍀
Are You Irish 🍀 ❓
I really want to contribute. Hopefully I can get my thoughts together enough to script and film. It's hard because my antidepressants make my brain really foggy and I have problems remembering things.
I've just learned to accept a life where it's just gonna be me lol. The heartache I've experienced was so rough, I'm scared shitless to go through it again.
Really insightful and interesting - Thank you! I look forward to watching more of your videos
Another great video michi, also a great idea with the compilation i may send you a vid keep it up chick love from the UK also congrats on 4k well deserved
Ian Roberts UK here as well ..
We love Michi over here don't we
Got to show love to people who deserve it bud
yesss Ian please do id love to have you a part of it I think its very important that men also have a voice when it comes to BPD and you've always been so supportive so let me know thank you so much again :)
Thank you michi
I don't trust anyone enough to actually get into a relationship, though I want nothing more than to have a relationship again. Does this seem to be part of bpd or something else? Not trashing anyone because I haven't been a fan of safe sex when I was with someone. Also I'm a quiet bpd, so maybe that is part of just being quiet? Also great video, thank you.
Yeah, same here. It's a very painful paradox.
NECRONYX Thank you, it is a nice to hear someone else respond to having similar feelings. Sorry that we share the same pain but at least there is comfort in numbers. 😀
That could be Avoidant Personality Disorder.
; I may well be incorrect, so it's better for you to be seen by a professional :)
Hope you are well, dear!
Hashem no worries, I've been told a bunch of different things. It took almost 18yrs to get this diagnosis.
Dude are you me? I have this exact train of thought 😬
I was diagnosed with minor AvPD but I want to work through it
Why are people with BPD such awesome people?! And then they question themselves and don't love themselves. it's such a paradox!
It's literally their condition, not having a sense of selfworth.
Both myself and my fiancee have traits of this condition and have been together 20 years now. When I try to relate with people who don't have depression or BPD or some other condition, though, I feel a total emotional disconnect from them. I can't relate with people who don't feel the intense pain or anger I sometimes feel -- or who don't go into those powerful moments of feeling anxiety and doom. I don't know their world and they don't know mine -- I can see by their faces during the rare times I refer to it that they don't 'get it'.
i don’t know if you’ve done this yet, but, i would love to help you with this. i was diagnosed at the beginning of the year and i want to spread awareness ❤️ let me know if you need anything still
It feels great to find out am not alone in this....love you all BPD people!
Love you too x
I have bpd and can honestly say I have attracted guys who use me, and since borderlines always feel not good enough, it’s easy to be lead in and think we’re loved just so we can be used. It’s hard to find someone who loves you for who you are and not what they can just use.. but I feel more vulnerable to “users” because I’m scared theyll leave and I need someone and it’s all just very very toxic and messy and I wish I didn’t need anyone
Ur advice is fantastic as my partner has bpd as well
Im 52 and actually never heard of BPD until about 5 yrs ago a doctor explained it to me. Finally a correct diagnosis ! I have done time in prison, im extremely violent and crazy. Funny thing is people love me. Girls have always been interested so I have had like 22 girlfriends in all my years. Never married and no kids. I pick girls that are as crazy as me and we have passionate short relationships until one of us almost kills each other. I wouldn't wish this kind of life on anybody. This BPD goes back to about time I turned 15. I was horrible. Its a bad life. Just beware !
exactly one year you posted that video..idk why this thought got me so hard...
saddly i can relate to so much stuff that you said...idk even know why I'm leaving this here when i don't even have words for anything but thanks for yours
please do the video with your s/o! that would be really helpful honestly :) keep being brave !!
Courteney Morris thanks you too!! I will definitely do that soon:)
I can see underneath the surface. Last night at the bar, I counted 3 monsters in human costumes, but I was the scariest and still human
Lol
Hey Michi 👋🏽 I’d love some more information on the documentary that you plan to do. I’d like to add my bit if possible 💕xx
absolutely send me an email at michimavros@gmail.com
I love each and every one of your videos. 💜
The documentary is a wonderful idea! I feel like there aren't many out there so, the more exposure - the better! I'd love to see the video of you and your partner. It would be helpful for my husband to see as sometimes I am not sure if he understands the complexity. He also has mental illness. Thanks for all you do!!!! Hugs from Denver, Colorado!
I will do that video of me and my partner!! thank you :) im glad your husband is so supportive of you, you deserve it :) much love
Michi Mavros thank you :)
I’m in a real with someone who has BPD and I’ve noticed that since I moved in with her, she’s gotten closer to one of her friends (platonically) and she has been more of treating me like I don’t exist. I’m not sure if this is something that I’m just supposed to let run its course or talk to her. I’ve tried telling her, and she basically told me that she wants me around but she copes by getting lost in someone else’s life because she can stand her own. (She has BPD, depression, anxiety, onset agoraphobia, suicidal tendencies, etc... also she sees and psychiatrist and therapist.)
I just don’t know how to handle these areas while allowing her to feel like she’s in a safe place for me to talk to her.
Are you happy with this type of relationship? I wasn't so I left. Hope by now you have too
YAY I REQUESTED THIS VIDEO 😍
elicia345 THANKS ELICIA!!:) it was a great idea
How can you tell the difference between self sabotaging a relationship bc of ur bpd and a bad relationship that ur actually not being treated properly in?
You're awesome! Thanks for this!
you are so welcome!!!😁
Think you could try to make a video on bpd and jobs? fear, moodswings, "mind-swings" and stuff like that? That'd be a HUUUUGE help to hear from you, i feel. You got a loyal sub in me ^_^
i needed this
Yeah you! Almost 8,000 subscribers now!
Question as im in the black with my bpd wife and there's no love towards me and everything i say im a lair do I walk away or do I keep trying it's been 8 months
I just found out I have BPD and coping is scary bc I feel nothing is secure. my boyfriend left I'm in pieces . thank you for your stories I can send you my episodes I been recording
hi, i have a question.. my ex boyfriend has bpd and he recently just broke up with me because he said he didn’t want to put so much on my shoulders with his mood swings and everything but he still loves me but just can’t do it because it’s too much pressure for him
because he’s graduating this summer but really i never said anything against it because i love him and i want to be there for him and he told me to not texting him or anything cause i’d just make it worse but i reallyyy miss him and i want to spend my life with him, i’ve known him for almot 7 years and we’ve been in a relationship for 3 years always had our ups and downs but i never stopped caring for him or loving him and now that we broke up it’s been 2 weeks he’s following so many other girls and is texting them all the time (one of them told me) and i don’t know what to do cause i really want him back. any advice?
How did you go, its been two years :)?
can two people with bpd have a good relationship
Hi Michi :) How long do we have to send you a video? I've been watching for a while and your videos have given me so much insight and information on BPD, and I want to share my story too.
Abigail May hey thank you so much for your interest send anytime the window is more open now :)
Thanks! I did send mine to you :)
Exactly!!! I feel like my husband wants to leave me anyway so I’m soooo nasty to him, don’t sleep with him. And I feel horrible about it. We had sex last weekend but before that was in December. I don’t know what it is. I’m sweet to him in text and phone unless he sets me off, then when he gets home im okay until he touches me. And i love him! It’s like a constant war I. My head and actions.
I have so many stories of how bpd has impacted my life, i feel like i struggle daily. my possitive thought is it can get better. i wouldnt mind being in a documentry, maybe we can help each other. :)
Chrissy Ward that would be awesome, thank you!!
Your a wonderful advocate for this nightmare of a disorder. Hugs
I'm borderline as well and my boyfriend is a medical student aka he has pretty much no time for me.. we see each other once or twice a week and it's driving me crazy i'm constantly crying and thinking he's slowly forgetting about me or he'll fall in love with someone else and i know it's stupid and i'm being selfish as fuck but i just can't help it.. he told me he won't be able to see me this week and i'm already contemplating hurting myself and i can't control myself i already pretty much lashed out on him and ugh i hate this
Nicole Stamenova Try to put away your phone and go for a walk and breathe.
Is it easier relationship if a bpd goes with another bpd?
Although I have BPD, I have been marri d for more than 25 years. I can see where the BPD has made life not as good as it could have or should have been. My wife deserves a medal and a free pass into Heaven for being married to a BPD man. I have never cheated nor would I ever. My issue is not so much abandonment as at tim s imparting motives that aren't even there. Like a typical BPD, I find trust very difficult at times even with a women who has never ever done anything wrong. Working on it. Not easy. I had a BPD mother who was prone to insane rage and sadistic abuse for no reason. Doing my best not to be that person.
5:47 you’re so right. That’s how I feel too.
I absolutely adore you, thank you so much for letting me know I'm not alone in this shit show of a disorder.
Vera Natcheva you are so welcome!! thank YOU for the positivity and lovely comment :)
Michi Mavros thank you so much for the insight, I found your videos to be helpful. 💜💜
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Hi how are You Lady
I really believe my wife has this. I’ve been searching about it for 6 months and I’m exhausted
I love love love you and your channel I relate to it so much! Do you have an instagram I could follow you on?
I have CPTSD but I still think I have bpd because a lot of similarities interlink with CPTSD, this is very relatable to me.
永，我不在意你有什么样的障碍，我的心里只有你是最棒的！很多人没有什么障碍，却有着太多太多的心机城府，精于算计挖坑虚伪无底线，缺乏同情心和爱，势利自私……所以与很多没有＂障碍＂的人相比，你的人格魅力高出太多太多！所以永远不要轻视自己，委屈自己，你是一道美丽动人的风景线，一道温暖的阳光☀️！这明媚的阳光不单是照着别人，也要照耀自己的生命，自己的心！我爱你！永。
Yes but i have learnt all of this after a break up 😢 she thought i was a narcissist but we were both borderline she was worst than me cause she had more trauma when she was young
can someone please comment if you have fears of going out with your girlfriend to clubs...
could u also tell my why if so.
Michi, please make a video on bpd and heartbreaks
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Yes!
I need help I love my boyfriend so much and he has bpd and I am trying to support him but he always picks fights with me sometimes I am to blame but it's small thigs and it's just I want to help and support him and I don't know what to do anymore pleaee help me I live him so much don't want to lose him.
Beware they cheat.pay atention when they push you away he is probably hard flirter or in a dating site already.
I hate this feeling because of my thoughts. I just feel imposter syndrome that is slowing because discovered as a fraud. Also worried that I’m no longer the shiny new toy. I’m high maintenance, seeking new hobbies to be half good at, and constantly seeking information to build an intricate conversation and still feel like I’m lacking.
bpd and social anxiety,best combination ever👌Had my first kiss some weeks ago (I'm 17)and I can't even believe he likes me...And yess that he don't want me bc of my negativity,but he has also mentally problems.I'm just confused.I don't even know who I am and how should other people understand me than?I want to help him but can't even help my akward self and isolate now and it makes everything even more akward,bc what we experienced and than don't even interacte that much in school.
maaaaaaaaan , damn you are spot on.
...i honestly been holding back from this video...gonna watch it what they hey
I wonder if I have BPD. I have the feelings to describe... but it suppose this doesn't mean I have this. I'm not sure. I was diagnosed with anxiety, depression and PTSD.... so I'm a bit lost. I don't obsess with having sex, or spending a lot... so idk...
The general consensus about being in a relationship is that they are monsters. I pray that isn't the case cuz im in a long distance relationship with someone who has bpd and i really hope we can make things work when we meet in real life.
are you still with her?
@@voydkid no
Have BPD and every day Is a challenge! Iv been dating my girlfriend for a over a year and I dont know what Id because she has so much patience with me I have pushed way to many buttons with and I need to learn that i dont need to push button and realize that she loves me and is not going to leave me!! I really wish I had some one with BPD that I could talk to because i know that person would understand!
You need to understand what you are doing to the other person, that is the key to understanding and changing your BPD traits to a lesser version of themselves. People who dont have BPD often understand completely what is going on. Dialectical Behaviour Therapy is the key to modifying BPD, as well as methylation protocols
Regarding documentary on BPD and the collective experience...I hope there is an appraise place in the video that will tell how much some really, really, really love the person that is experiencing the BPD. Not the negative side so much, cause of course that’s there...but mAybe a place where ones that have been “split”into the black category, but would like to express how much the person they lost meant to them. I don’t know maybe it’s not appropriate at all.
the story of my life!
Thank you so much. xxxxxxxxxxxxx
My bf says he loves me but lately I've been feeling like he's cheating on me or is going to cheat on me or leave me. And I want to tell him that I have bpd but I don't know how to and I'm afraid that if I do I'll only push him away and my worst fear will come true. Or I'm afraid he'll think something like "oh boy I sure found me a winner here" with sarcasm and will hate me like I hate me.
I'm probably way too late, but I wanna try anyway. If you still haven't told him, please do as fast as you can. Not knowing what is happening is the worst. It won't be easy to work through all the things that are attached to this, but you can only stop the worst from happening by doing something. The longer you wait, the more, from what I read and heard, you will push him away anyway. So having a real conversation about it and opening up about what you're going through, will most likely help him understand. Even if he'll have a sarcastic remark his love for you won't just do a 180° just because he knows. You'll have to trust him enough that he can handle the truth.
Are you still accepting bpd videos?
Hi my name is sheila i am ave really bad borderline personality disorder I can't seem to keep boyfriends and Friends it seems like they don't understand me I feel abandoned and I with everybody I love my friends and my family I'm really depressed all the time ask him not to get out of it if you can't seem to help me have a great
Wow I would love to participate in your documentary & I love your videos!!!
Ashia Jaynell thank you so much i hope to see a video from you!! michimavros@gmail.com :)
Michi Mavros ofcourse!!! i will send something along soon !
BPD partners bring up everything where I have work to do. So they are just fine.
Thank you thank you