r/Relationships My Husband is Stalking Our Boss's Daughter
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- čas přidán 24. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:11 Obsession
14:35 Divorce
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
The first story had an update: OP told the boss’s daughter and is filing for divorce, the husband and friends have been fired and are having charges brought up about it. Ironically, when OP told her parents, they said they are on the husband’s side and it’s “not worth ruining the marriage over”. However, the husband’s parents are firmly on OP’s side.
Perhaps OP and her ex should trade parents if her in-laws are siding with her but her own family isn't. Chances are they're just as disgusting as he is. They already are for supporting him but it might actually be worse than that.
We know that
I think OP and the Ex husband should swap families for that, because wtf. How is the EX HUSBAND'S FAMILY on OP's side, but HER OWN FAMILY ISN'T?????
Regarding OP's parents: That's the problem with the "keeping the peace" mentality.
At least she has a family on her side
So there was another update about ten days ago going over what else happened after she told her boss' daughter and left and this is just the TL;DR. To start, OP went through everything with the boss' daughter and made a very detailed HR report about everything. They know not much will come from it but they do plan on going to the police anyway, that she'll take with her father on OP's behalf, and that everyone else involved will be held on until everything makes its way to the top then fire them on the spot with no reference or experience certificate. OP then went to a lawyer about divorce and was told that it would be an easy case since nothing is joint.
As for the STB ex, he was blocked by OP but he went around lying to everyone including OP's family to get them on his side. Unfortunately, even though she told them the truth, just about everyone minus her MIL and FIL were on his side and gaslighting and shaming her to not leave him. They all think that *planning* *to* *assault* *someone* is not enough grounds to end a relationship.
Lastly, the day before the update, the boss' daughter called in everyone with some police and fired them as she had mentioned. I think she had the police there for intimidation and for the police to have their faces so everyone should be safe. OP is now staying with a friend, she's looking for a new apartment, and the STB ex might have to move in with his parents who are currently angry at him so she's surviving.
It's a shame that OP has so many toxic people in her life, but she's got good friends and the fact that her ex parent-in-laws have her back while her own parents don't speaks volumes. Thanks for the update!
@@BiancaWeatherlight The absolute garbage part was that OP mentioned an aunt was cheated on and the take was 'forgive and forget'. That how the family looks is more important
@@Sanodi21 That's horrible. If my family told me to stay with a cheater I'd air all their dirty laundry to friends, extended family, coworkers, literally ruin their lives as much as humanly possible. And then I'd still divorce the asshole.
As soon as OOP said her husband thinks the boss's daughter is "So young yet so mature" the metaphorical red flag indicator in my head exploded. I knew from there i was in for a wild ride.
Same. And then the comment about him looking for reasons to work late added all the red flashing lights!
I mean, I think everyone can have such a moment when they think/say that, but bringing it up again and again and again? thats what makes it creepy
There’s an update on story 1. OP told the daughter, who went to the police. She’s also divorcing her husband. All the guys involved were fired and OPs husband is moving back in with his parents, who are disgusted by him.
On the downside, OPs family is not taking her side - they, especially her mom, are angry with her for being a divorcee and embarrassing the family instead of sweeping it under the rug.
Oh my.. that's absolutely horrifying.. I feel so bad for op, but I'm so happy that she told the daughter..she deserved to know.. and op's family can go f themselves.. If they think she should forgive him, for this vile behavior, they are what's wrong with this world also . op's husband is absolutely disgusting...
Why? Are are people willing to throw the victim under the bus instead of the creep?
This makes me think there's likely a lot that OP has gone through that she thought was "normal"... That wasn't really normal... "embarrassing the family"? Instead of, oh idk, sitting and suffering a horrible sexist husband, who is a potential R-word-ist? Who is palling with other people of that nature? Who has set intricate "revenge" fantasies that are of that nature?
Something tells me that' a narcissistic family dynamic she grew up in. And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
Her family prefers that she stay with a creep, groos🤮
Ummm... excuse me?! Why are OP's family angry at HER when the ex-husband is hitting on underage girl? Glad the ex's parents are far more disgusted by their son's behavior, and on OP's side.
Story 1: No, this is NOT 'him trying to release the desire', this was him actively feeding a mania about this girl causing him to fall much deeper down the rabbit hole. The correct sort of thing would be to pull away from the 'temptation', by not interacting with the girl in anything but a professional sense, and even then keep contact to a minimum. Whether he would actually do these things or not, he was NOT trying to fix this situation.
For real.. I've had fantasies of someone, but never ever wrote or edited pics,or took pics of them in secret, and tell to anyone how I would r word them.. That's so next level sick.. I'm happy that op got away from this situation.. if this ex, is hanging around with those type of men, that do bs like that, it makes even worse.. they crossed the line between fantasy and what they would do in actuality..
Not excusing him, as his brain is twisted. But I wonder if more traditional cultures, breed perversion because there aren't outlets to catch it when it is small? They are Bangladeshi and divorce is very frowned upon, and in OP's updates, her parents wanted her to sweep this under the rug.
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
This was my thought as well. Paraphrased: "Any man who CONTINUES [emphasis mine] to stare after a woman so as to develop a desire for her has already committed adultery with her." Or, in this case, the R word.
I disagree. In so far as even reducing contact to a professional level wouldn't help. It is like letting a bottle of booze or a baggy full of heroin sitting in front of an addict. In substance abuse alone the smell or sight of the addictive substance can lead to relapse. Same goes for obsessive behaviour over people. Especially if you have no support network involved in the recovery process to fall back on. The right move if possible would be to seek psychiatric help and looking for a new job.
In the mid 00's my boss's daughter took an unhealthy obsession with ME. She was 14 at the time, and I was 25, so even if she weren't the boss's kid that would've just been a terrible idea. Daddy issues, a princess complex, and had entirely too many wardrobe malfunctions when I was around. (Stupid ones too. "Oops, my entire bra somehow fell out of my shirt as I was walking past." I guess was supposed be a version of the "dropped handkerchief" thing, but really it made me think of that scene in Zoolander where Ben Stiller gave himself an atomic wedgie trying to remove his underwear without removing his pants.) Fortunately enough of the guys knew about her and her strange obsession with me and were very careful to always have my back any time she tried stuff like leaving a flavored condom in my bag, but ultimately the threat of having some teenager ruin my life through some allegation was too much and I ended up quitting.
Damn Man, that's Scary AF! I'm sorry that happened to You. That's why I've always told my Son to becarful about the situations he might catch himself in. You just Never Know! Not All women/girls are bad and not All men/boys are bad. But there are some Genuinely Messed Up People out there Both on the Female and Male side! It's Not the Gender of a person that Decides This, it's the Character of That Person that Does! Women can become Obsessed with Other Women and Men can Become Obsessed with Other Men just the Same as Becoming Obsessed with Their Opposite Gender. It's a Scary World Out There For Sure! Everyone Should Always be on the Lookout for this type of Behavior! Sometimes there are just People out there that will have the Worst of Intentions towards You for Whatever Reason so do Your Best to Protect Yourself!
I dated a dude just like story 1, long long ago. It isn't just talk. He wasn't just trying to safely express his emotions. These behaviors escalate, and he was already putting himself in a position to do so. That is a dangerous man.
Wrong. You dont know him so stop trying to make it sound like he's a monster. The only thing him and his friends did that was over the top, was the creepy pictures they secretly snapped of her from far away
@harouttorkomian5897 Okay rapist apologist, lmfao. Yeah, the little girl that's barely legal that him and his buddies were talking about raping isn't in ANY danger. I hope women stay away from you, freak.
@harouttorkomian5897, your reply and mentality are disgusting
I dated a guy like that too, a good while ago.
You're correct - it isn't just talk, and he will almost certainly escalate.
It is a shame there are so many incels and enablers, and incel-enablers who will try to gaslight people like us, and people like OP and the daughter-boss about it - apparently, according to some who have posted updates in this comment feed, OP's family is gaslighting her as mine did me, and as some in this comment section apparently wish to do. Fortunately, there is a growing voice of sanity and decency that is pushing back against it.
Unfortunately, fantasizing and building up the scenarios like that, may well have escalated to the point that fantasy isn't enough anymore and something terrible happens. From the updates, I'm glad OP told the daughter and I hope she's safe from those vile dangerous creeps
It's not "harmless fantasizing" if the details are written out: that's a premeditated plan.
harmless fantasizing stays in your head.
There's so much "Nope" in that post more than words dictionary.
Story 1: this is a group of grown men talking about how they want to sexually assault a girl they knew since she was 15. That they are taking secret pictures of during work, you also know that your husband has been working late meaning he's been alone with her in the office. You would be a terrible person not to say something. Let the person along with all the other woman you saw on his laptop decide if it's not as bad as you think.
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
Not me yelling at the screen "Tell the daughter, tell the daughter, TELL THE DAUGHTER!!!" Throughout the first story. She was in active danger throughout this entire thing and everybody who got mad at OP for telling, is directly saying they're fine with putting another woman in danger. This was so fucked up and I'm so glad OP told her and they are filing charges
Second story: Your husband is a groomer, get out asap and maybe have a talk with other young family members about whether or not he may have been cashing in such favors for them too
Story 1 it always start with with calling young girls/woman mature for there age and it always ends up like creeps like OP's husband
Or any victim of grooming in general
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
@@Diamondr11Blue Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
Story one is terrifying, that level of obsession is a slippery slope into escalation. The boss’ daughter is in active danger from not just the husband, but also the other scumbags in that chat. I hope they were able to warn her and take legal action to protect her.
Story 2: So he COERCED op’s niece, which essentially makes that his niece too, into se*ual situations. The guy definitely knew what he was doing. If he knew her since she was 15, it’s likely there was grooming/manipulation involved. I hope OP is able to find a place and rebuild her life, hopefully she has a good support system that can help her.
The first story is creepy as hell. I'm glad she convinced him to open the Whatsapp because if not, she wouldn't realize that it was a coordinated effort orchestrated by multiple parties. Yeah, she's in danger and these creeps need to be exposed. I really hope she gets the boss & police involved.
My god that poor girl. I feel devastated for the OP of course, but that girl, who it sounds like was doing an incredible job and really proving herself to be an asset to the company, man I can't even imagine. All the men just see her as piece of meat, its disgusting. I really hope the police do something about those vile men. Animals.
Story 1: Divorce this guy now. What he is doing isn't harmless fantasizing, he and his friends literally wrote out what they are going to do to her. Who knows? Things might escalate to him actually doing something to her. Inform the Boss's daughter right away, so she can deal with the situation and take precautions if necessary.
OP has to ask herself just how long he’s going to stick to writing? Soon, he’ll grow bored and impatient. He’s going to want the real thing
Agree, it could get bad for the woman if it progresses.
There’s an update. She is moving forward with divorce, though her family, mom in particular, are not happy about it and want her to sweep it under the rug. Husbands parents are on OPs side though.
She also told the daughter, who went to the police. All the guys involved were also fired.
The guy in the second story didn't cheat, he groomed and abused a minor. Big difference.
ah, no, he did cheat. he just did so while grooming and abusing a minor. both statements can be true simultaneously.
Uuummmmm. "A young adult at the time, almost 22." Which part of that quote says 'minor' to you dingbats?
Last I checked, 21, 22 years old is a full on adult, in every country and municipality on earth.
right? which honestly makes me look at the wife sideways for saying that she might find it in herself to forgive him if he didn't do that to her niece. Like girl.......your husband groomed and then coerced a young woman into giving him sex. How can you find it in yourself to forgive him? I understand she's in an extremely difficult situation (NEVER be financially dependant on a partner I cannot stress this enough) but like.....damn
@@memecollector1437 wrong. No "grooming", no coercion. She was grown, and not forced to do anything.
You women today, so "stunning and brave" and make your own money and don't need nobody for nothing, until you do some dumb shit, that's when you suddenly need a man to blame for your stupidity. Not only typical, but simple.
She was 22, which is definitely not a minor, but still vulnerable and still fucked up. Source: Used to be 22 a short time ago. Was not an adult. Am not an adult.
I've read this story before. What OP's husband and fellow colleagues did was disgusting, and I hope they get their karma. It's sad that OP's boss is used to that behavior.
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
Story 1: The sheer obsession is insane, and it's not even just him. OP made the right choice.
And then came the update mentioned by comments of this video. OP did follow through with talking to the daughter, and the dudes were fired and OP divorced. Honestly, I hope the daughter stays as far away from those guys as possible
Not being a creepy predator is a lot harder for some people than I realized
The last story is why men like op’s husband want wives who choose to sah.
When the crap hits the fan those women generally have no place to go, so if they find out that their husband is a monster those wives have to decide between what’s best for herself as well because whatever affects him also affects her.
Especially when she even admits that had the victim not been related to her she would just find a way to forgive him.
She was already trying to blame his weed habit as an excuse to explain why her husband molested her own niece.
Obsession story: Dude needs therapy, not a spank folder. And here I thought the story from yesterdays video was bad.
I listened to this on the podcast last night and had one main thought about the boss’s daughter. OP’s husband and coworkers are all going on about how it’s “a bit of fun” and “not hurting anybody”… what about the daughter when she finds out?
My brother used to have a friend group who would constantly make sexual remarks as “jokes” about me in their group chat. It made him really uncomfortable but they made him feel ridiculous for calling it out. They even added me to the group chat a few times “for a laugh”, but it made me feel really unsafe.
The story reminded me of my experience and how uncomfortable it was, but I didn’t have to work with any of those freaks. I’m glad to read the update form the comments, they deserve everything they get
It's not harmless fantasizing when you write out in detail what you would do to her
It's still a bit unhealthy cause ideas can become reality, especially if those ideas get worse and they can't control it
Tell that to anyone who ever wrote a story. Doesn't make it not disgusting and disturbing, but still harmless.
Yeah, that's premeditation.
I think I see a self report in the replies lol
@@jsum33Tell that to anyone who's had one of those stories written about them. Tell that to people. Who've had photos edited to make it look like they're doing inappropriate things and have had their lives destroyed because of it. It's not harmless. It's not a fantasy.
Story 2: Yeah, if he hid the fact that he made advances on OP's niece, what else is he hiding. Could he have done it with others?
It stops becoming a mere fantasy when you start actually doing creepy shiz irl
(Story 1) Ops husband has no idea what is happening with those photos that his coworkers have. It is entirely possible the boss’s picture are out there on the internet somewhere spreading like wildfire. Also he was clearly growing quite obsessive changing his work schedule and all.
So sad OP in the first story is getting backlash from her family now for getting a divorce… sometimes real family are the people we choose, not the people we’re born to. Sounds like OP has good friends, thankfully.
You need to leave him and don't look back.. never allow someone to tell you they don't want you more than two times.. he showed you he didn't want you.. which means it's time for you to leave.. he is a predator and that is not OK. Divorce him
If you mean the first story, Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
Some study asked young men if they could get away with it would they r-word someone. Over 1/3 admitted they would. I’m sure another large percent just didn’t want to admit it, like the ones who already have r-worded someone. Screen your partners HARD before marriage & never ever rush into any legal agreements with a romantic partner.
I find those statistics to be rather questionable
Do you happen to have a source for this study?
@@dragonriderabens9761 wel to be fair rape in general is realy hard to proof however false accusations are just as hard to proof as well and just an accusation can ruin someones life because even if yur shown innocent that stigma will never leave and will be part for the rest of your life.
its an terribly sad thing though both ways
@@wowgek7I do agree that it is sad
But only one side really gets any attention or any attempts to improve it
That’s part of why I find these statistics questionable
@@dragonriderabens9761 i agree with that however I can believe the stats are real I just dont trust it without proof considering how hard it is to proof
@@wowgek7I think you might have misread the original post ^^;
But personally, I don’t believe the stats without seeing the study for myself
It’s also possible the study was real, but flawed in some way, like the people interviewed were either all in prison or something, and that would skew the results to a point of invalidating the study
IDK, I gave an extreme example, but I want to see and verify it for myself before I believe it
That poor girl in the first one, had no idea the amount of danger she was in
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
The fact that the dude claimed he can't control himself without being a creep is sad. In my 32 years of life and my experience of manhood, I have never felt that out of control even with alcohol involved, very sad indeed.
Story #1, get the police involved. This is very serious stuff.
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
I hope OP shows everything to the boss, the boss's daughter, and THE POLICE!!!
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
The worst part about Story 1 is that he could have been doing this stuff since he met the girl, AKA when she was literally 15 years old
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
@@TheMadagascarqueen that’s good I would never stay with a man like that, good thing OP is getting out of there
Story 1: I don't know why but in my mind, when OP told him to "sit down", I heard it in Chris Hansen's voice ☠️
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
The fact that he would allow himself to develop sexual attraction to someone who was only a child up until recently is disgusting
That’s moot. We all were a child a some point. So using your own logic, it’s basically disgusting to feel attracted by anybody !. Beside, he’s not attracted by the child she was, but by the woman she is. She’s no kid, she’s 20. At least, the office creeps, didn’t do those disgusting things when she was 15. It’s a cold comfort.
@@MordorProject 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚨🚔
@@MordorProject someone call the police
@@ashleysalomon4349.🙄🙄🙄🙄
@@MordorProject
1) Considering he’s consistently bringing up her age isn’t a moot point.
2) Most adults don’t feel sexual attraction to people in high school
3) Maybe he was waiting for her to get older so it wouldn’t technically be considered pedophilia in the eyes of the law
4) Writing out very explicit scenarios to rape a girl who’s college age isn’t attraction, it’s obsession
5) I doubt you just develop love and affection for someone only when they hit the age of consent
6) You’re a bigger red flag than a confederacy parade
The point it went too far in story one is when pictures and edits got involved. The fantasizing is creepy but it isnt inherently harmful. However, once you are using their likeness to make porn without their knowledge or consent is when it becomes inexcusable.
Thinking, ok, writing it down, I would say is where it started...the photos just made that worse. I do agree however that attraction you don't choose isn't bad....acting on it, by writing, editing or.....never ok....is when it gets bad.
“Harmless” he says even though he’s violated privacy many _many_ times over.
That word doesn’t mean what he thinks it means.
Violated privacy in what way? There is no reasonable expectation of privacy in the work place. Not even close. Cameras are EVERYWHERE. Her social media was public. What privacy?
6:00 emotional cheating is still a form of cheating. If there's an understanding of boundaries that usually is just being monogamous with some relationships were they're comfortable complimenting looks of another but this level is far from that.
How is this "emotional cheating" if the girl, not only doesn't reciprocate, by doesn't even know it's going on.
@@heinzkitzvelvet you're looking at the wrong person and that would explain the confusion
@@buddyburrows hogwash!
I like that line from the first story about how it's not OP's place to forgive. I always say that with these sorts of crimes, the victim(s) should take priority over everything. Apparently OP already did what I think she should do and handed everything over to the boss. Also, the husband is a fucking idiot for telegraphing his obsession.
They were messing around about doing things to the daughter and sounds like some horrible thing as well… that’s not harmless at all, she’s literally in danger… OP save her ass.
Yeah the first story, the husband commited a crime. Creating fake porn of someone is considered revenge porn, the creepshots and upskirts are sexual harrasment and can land you on the sex offender registry.
Creating fake porn of someone is NOT considered revenge porn unless it's "posted online without that person's consent especially as a form of revenge or harassment". That's just a ridiculous argument to make.
That second story, that ain't "cheating". That's just straight up coercion. Yeesh.
Coercion? Nothing in the story even suggested it was forced. She did it because she wanted to. She was an adult, perfectly capable of making her own decisions.
First story: divorce and make a police report, he’s becoming a preditor
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
That's so often the case, guy acts modern but then you get this crap, not only does he have no urge to control his urges, he shares them with the other guys in the office. Which is exactly what those cultures have issues with. Group rapes, killing women, blaming the woman for their thoughts, parents saying you can't divorce over that. All rooted in seeing women as sex objects and not equals and never being told to control their desires.
"We both just cried, for different reasons i presume."
Yeah, definitely. Your crying cause that's a fucked up situation, and because your whole future is in turmoil now. He's crying cause he got caught.
Whenever a creep says it's "not as bad as it looks/sounds", it's that bad or worse.
The definition of "Boys .... group chat got leaked"
Story : This story is flipping scary man.. The husband is a flipping psycho..what kind of " grown man" stalks a 20 year old kid.... dude is a freaking creep glad op told the kid the truth..
Update: 🤮🤮🤮🤮 this story is so messed up..
Story 2 : what the fly mother duckers is going on with some people?? Leave op ..do exactly what rslash said plan your exit before you go..
What story did you hear? Bosses daughter was 20 in story 1.
Well no, because she’s 20, she first met them when she was 15
@@in4theride75ok fine 20.. still the stalking is messed up.. dude is still a frucking psycho ....
@@Clownbunnycosplaywho's to tell that he didn't start stalking her at 15....
God I hope she's safe. I wouldn't put it past the husband to stalk her home
Yeah, be sus when anyone starts repeatedly driving home a younger persons maturity for their age. It's one of the early signs of things that take a left turn to cringe town.
There is no workplace that I’m familiar with that it’s legal to take pictures of coworkers without consent.
First story - what OP’s husband did was even worse.
OP, I wish you luck…. Cause holy crap, what a dumpster fire !
Generally speaking, it's perfectly legal to take pics without consent when in public or on private property you own. There are some exceptions for cases like this. And of course this probably wasn't public land but a private office building or something not owned by any of the guys involved. My point is you could take all the pics you wanted of all your coworkers as long as you did it in public.
What OP’s husband did was sexual harassment, they took up skirt pics and cleavage shots…..
What they said online might be covered under freedom of speech, but their behavior is going to look really bad for the jury.
Whether you are allowed to take regular pics of your coworkers varies from workplace to workplace, most places will have you sign contracts, so you might want to read what you signed.
@@susansusan6612 I'm not sure free speech covers this. It might but while you may not be able to get SA to stick in court, because there were three or more people involved, it's possible you might be able to get a conspiracy charge. Of course with such a tenuous case, the DA would probably offer a plea deal down to some minor misdemeanor charge and the guys might not even have to serve any time.
@@susansusan6612 she absolutely was NOT harassed. She knew nothing about it. When someone is being harassed, they KNOW they are being harassed. That is the very nature of harassing. They have to feel like they are being harassed, and REPORT they are being harassed. She didn't. She was not harassed.
@@heinzkitzvelvet keep telling yourself that, maybe it will come true.
after hearing the first story I feel like the only thing that's gonna make me forget it is a bottle of wine
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
What was going on in the first story was beyond creepy, it's criminal behavior.
What crime did he commit?
if you mean the first story, Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
@@TheMadagascarqueen What charges?
@@heinzkitzvelvet didn't say. I just mentioned what others in the comments are saying. The main point is the predators got canned.
@@heinzkitzvelvet he had thoughts (THOSE thoughts) about the boss' daughter whom they've known since she was 15. Taking inappropriate pics of her (creep shots. you can guess where) he and his colleagues talking about having fantasies of forcing himself on her. He's a pedo in the making
Even if the husband in the first story didn't plan on or want to hurt the daughter, there were other guys involved and what if one or more of THEM decided to hurt her? And the only thing that stood in their way and prevented them from acting was that OP exposed them and her husband. OP saved that poor girl from a potentially dangerous and horrifying situation. I really hope that she and the boss's daughter are safe and doing ok and that those guys get put away (or at the very least, be put on a list or something. What they did can't go unpunished).
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
Harmless fantasies ALWAYS become a reality when the right moment opens the opportunity.
Tell yourself it’s harmless because it’s your kink. But the moment you are placed in the situation to take advantage. Most people falter.
Example: “My friends wife is hot.” Eventually turns into “Is she actually flirting with me?” Into “Hey we are alone this weekend…”
Don’t fuckin try it man.
Are you comparing cheaters to rape fantasies? That's a bit of an escalation there.
He's a freaking criminal! Hidden cameras aren't harmless having messages about how you would R a woman isn't harmless!
on story 1, it DOES NOT predate the husband, whatsapp doesnt show you messages from before you join a group, so its worse
Story 1 I heard this one. Glad op told her everything.
Reads title...
Yeah she better divorce and report him
An update from OP says she told the boss's daughter and filed for divorce. Bizarrely, the parents in laws are on her side but OP's own family is against her for filing a divorce.
It's like the cheaters have a handbook to read from.
"I'm soooo sorry"
"This didn't mean anything"
"It was just a mistake"
Genuinely shocked nobody told her to go to the cops in story 1. This is a crime. Flat out. Not reporting it to the cops is morally wrong, if not outright abetting. All of those men need to be on a list.
They did go to the police, but the police in Bangladesh don't take these kinds of things that seriously. Police were there when they got fired, though. OP doesn't update beyond that.
@@dudeorduuude5211 I didn't see that update. That sucks, but most laws regarding stalking and women's safety usually do.
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
s1: holy freaking crap. this is multiple perpetrator stalking and is a crime. holy crap. i know OP is divorcing, thank god. i hope boss's daughter can get the prosecutor to press charges on all the men.
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
I heard the first story, and the updates that come with it.
Yes it was talk. Yes nothing happened. But that doesn't mean that there wouldn't be any sort of action in the future.
I would rather act, get my ducks in a row, and be safe rather than dismiss it as harmless 'guy talk' and be sorry later.
Maybe not from the husband but from the other men in that group chat. Regardless, you can't guarantee such things after spouting what you spout! Now at least there will be a record of what these men did/say. So if and when they do act, this could be used as evidence.
It’s crazy to think what would’ve happened if Op hadn’t stumbled across those files. He and the others were already sharing faked nudes (which has to be illegal and somewhere along the lines of Revenge Porn), trying to sneak up-the-skirt-shots, and describing, in great detail, how they would r*pe her given the opportunity. This is all while Op’s husband was taking overtime and trying to spend as much time in the office as possible.
With the amount of times he tried to say he never hurt anyone, it makes me think he and/or one of the others might’ve been planning to do _something_ sooner or later. I get the sense that either him and/or his buddies were taking that overtime because they were either planning to act or, for lack of better words, working up the ‘courage’ to do it.
It’s gross to think that they would’ve eventually escalated to r*ping her if OP’s laptop never broke.
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
The first story was fine up to the point when he said he did it to stop himself from hurting someone. Fantasies, no matter how bad you think they are, or how uncomfortable they make you, are just fantasies. Urges to go act it out, that's one step too far
I would agree, but the creepshots and edited pics kinda take it for me. I've dealt with some of that stuff, and it's not a feeling I'd like others to experience.
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
@@AfreenSabah Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
funny how ops husband seemed to think op was upset about him wanting to cheat. not, you know, the fact that he's into a woman he knew since she was a child, and him openly sharing and reveling in rape fantasies.
Women have r*pe fantasies all the time. But men can't?
Also, what difference does it make when you meet someone? She's now of legal age. I have no right to be interested in her because I met when she wasn't? Where do you people come up with this ridiculous shit?
Omg they had a group chat about this girl!!!!! NOPE NOPE
It's not harmless. That's called premeditated and you can get 5-10 for it.
Ha, in Bangladesh? I highly doubt it.
@@dudeorduuude5211 Fun Fact: Bangladesh passed anti stalking laws. Intentional insult with intent to provoke breach of the peace has up to 2 years, prejudicial acts by words is up to 7 years, and something called Word, gesture or act intended to insult the modesty of a woman is up to a year. So I said 5-10.
premeditated what? You can't be charged with a premeditated crime until the crime is committed. The word you are looking for is conspiracy
Premeditated what? Also, "stalking" Is defined as;
"the act or crime of willfully and repeatedly following or harassing another person in circumstances that would cause a reasonable person to fear injury or death especially because of express or implied threats."
Now, this girl had no clue these guys were even looking at her.
She did NOT fear injury.
She did NOT fear death.
There were NO express or implied threats.
You can't just throw words like "premeditated" & "stalker" around without know what the hell you're talking about. It was harmless fun guys have.
Small update for the 2nd story just based on OP's responses: she's setting up a consultation with a lawyer and in the meantime is trying to act normal though she is thoroughly disgusted every time her husband touches her. OP's niece says the oral only happened once and another time he put his hands down her pants and tried to have sex with her but she told him she was on her period. Niece's husband thought she was having an affair with OP's husband and flipped out on OP b/c he thought OP was okay with it so niece is going to take a polygraph to prove she is not lying. OP believes her though. She also emphasizes the niece was not a minor when this happened
With story 2 you always need to be sceptical of all clames like that without evidence. If there is no evidence confront the husband in a place that can be recorded. Make sure there is no possible motive to lie.
Unfortunately there are scum that lie about this so you need to treat the claims with care and kindness but reasonable scepticism
Story 1: police girl, police! Boss daughter needs a restraining order
Thankfully there was an update. Op warned the boss's daughter and Op is divorcing her. Charges are pressed against the husband and his friends. When OP told her parents, they were against the divorce. "It's not worth getting a divorce over😒." Thankfully, the (soon ex) husband's parents are on OP side
Story 1: honestly the husband and Ops family (in the update they mentioned) are really toxic.
There's an update to that story. And it seems OP was right. Her family took the route of " it's not worth ruining a marriage over" and "think how it'd ruin the family's reputation".
One good thing tho, it seems the husband's parents are atleast taking OPs side.
Story 1 actually reminds me of this joke in the musical of Beetlejuice when a business partner of Charles sees Lydia for the first time and she's all smiley in this yellow dress to pretend she's not made a plan with the ghosts to ruin the dinner party. Anyway, Maxie turns to her dad and asks why he's been hiding his daughter - is he worried Maxie will marry her? Out of context, it's just a throwaway line, but it's actually foreshadowing for the second act where she is almost forced to get married (keep in mind she's no older than fifteen).
Guy needs to be thrown in prison ASAP
For breaking what law?
@@heinzkitzvelvetbruh u definitely fantasise about r wording your co workers you sicko
I need the update on the first story. Keep tabs on her account r/slash.
There already an update - she told the daughter, who went to the police. All the guys were fired. OP is divorcing her husband and his parents are on her side. Sadly though, her parents are mad at her for getting a divorce and ‘embarrassing the family’. All in all it’s exactly the conclusion you’d want.
The first story is just crazy!! I'm so glad that OP went through with it and told the bosses daughter!! What OP's Ex did HAS to be illeagel! It's disgusting, for sure!! I would not hesitate ONE second if I saw sth like that on my partners device!! I mean, don't get me wrong, someone can have "naughty pictures" on their device! But only if the person who is IN the pictures knows about that and gave consent!! Talking in a group Chat about r*ping phantasies is just.. Wrong!! That could go sideways really fast! Poor girl! Imagine she worked with OP's Ex ALONE in the office because they both worked overtime! He could have "lost" his "control"! I'm feeling sick just fearing that! OP did just the right thing by revealing it.. It's just SICK! and I hope these guys get a criminal record for that or sth!
Idk just the fact that he even has the fantasies in the first place is incredibly alarming, wether he actually assaulted someone or not. Obviously that would be worse, but yanno.
Story 1 has an update on bestofredditupdates by a different user
What was the update?
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None of this screams that the dude isn’t “tech savvy”
Story 1: This story is the reason that I do not take my opinion of a man into account when talking about them doing inappropriate things. Men can be very charming etc, it doesnt mean they are above being creeps/predators. Smh. U wouldnt believe the deep dark things some men think about.
Day 127 (Week 18 Day 4) of asking rslash to do some feel-good content because he deserves it
why is it that pervers always have like thousands of pictures?
I love lots of things.
Tanks, beer, boobs, cats, landscape shots, etc.
I have no folders with thousands of images of any of these.
But you always hear stories that when pervs get caught with stuff like CP, it's literal terabytes of images. Like the 5492th wasn't enough. Had to get one more.
That would be 5492nd. Not 5492th.🙄🙄🙄
More "Tales from Tech Support"! More "Tree Law!"
Hearing the first story made me feel like I was going to throw up. I can't imagine how OP felt. Poor woman, I'm glad she divorced him and the girl pressed charges
A very important paragraph thst he left out, and that is written before the sentence starting with "When we were leaving." Here is the skipped paragraph that I believe is important:
13:50
The thing is, since nothing physical happened, I know the police won't take it seriously 90% of the times, with the only possible time they might take it seriously is if the girl herself took action, so I intend to give her all of what I have, and let her proceed with whatever actions she chooses to take there. I do wish I had waited to talk to lawyers before taking things this far, but the fear and emotions had me wrapped up and I just ended up taking action. It seems to have worked out, but I don't know. Husband seemed pretty defeated today. But considering how little it feels like I know him, I honestly can't tell with him anymore. I will see how things play out, and maybe do one final update. But from my understanding, things will probably just end with a divorce and him getting fired. Still, thank you all for the help, even just snapping me into action.
I can't even find a relationship but people are still stupid enough to ruin them with weird stuff :P
I was patiently waiting for rslash to do my dishes loll
Why would he do your dishes?
@@mh11213context clues. They listen to Rslash while doing chores.
As of today I have listened to all of the r/slash episodes on apple podcasts I have no unplayed episodes
I genuenly do not understand how guys think speaking like in the first story is ok "keep themselves in control" its vile.
Last story. It’s not just the husbands fault. She was an adult and knew what she was doing. She’s a homewreaker.
I asked if he thought she was prettier than me, and I expected a female answer, but instead got a male answer, and it made me so unhappy.
You're what's wrong with the world
Both stories are extremely messed up, but I can’t believe the OP’s soon to be ex in the second story assaulted a family member. That’s so messed up.
"assaulted"? What assault?
Coming from someone with dark fantasies, this guy in story 1's outlet is definitely NOT harmless. That chat room is outright stalking this girl & being very obsessive about it. From the way they are talking & escalating, they will eventually end up actually doing something to that girl, they are constantly feeding their fantasies to a dangerous degree & tentatively starting to float plots. That, & the fact they have been taking photos of her without her consent is a massive red flag.
Yeahhh today’s episode has made me lose faith in relationships. I think I’m going to stay single forever
I wouldn't stop at showing the boss. I would go to the police if I was OP.
Story 1 absolutely disgusting op put him in jail so the prisoners take care of him
Op needs to leave her husband. That’s his niece too even if by marriage; who’s to say he hasn’t done worse to other female family members?
"nonono babe, you see... I did that because then I wouldn't have to r-word her." WHAT THE ACTUAL FU
How do people genuinely think that is a normal, sane thing to say to another person?! Jesuchristo..
Keep liking these videos folks!
Story 1 is incredibly dangerous. Cause if people are desperate, they'd just murder them. They're headed to prison anyway.
Headed to prison for what? Photoshop? Talking to each other? Gtfoh