Stalkers, what they want and making them stop
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Been stalked for years now. Tried all kinds of things and so many kept telling me to ignore it and it would stop- wrong. Little did they know I ignored him for months and nothing changed.
You are so right- really really wish I saw this over two years ago
I have over 2yrs of threats and harassment documented and he is trying to mess with my paypal now knowing I am homeless. The lies and manipulation, dislike bombing, fake accounts, all made creating not much fun anymore. He will go away for a while then come back. Same pattern for years now.
He has made accounts I knew were him, he denies it and would try to make me appear delusional and paranoid when I knew I was correct and found out to be later on.
Have witnesses as well
To add, was/am in a toxic relationship and had a major death all at the same time. To not lose my mind.....how
Hey ghost gun your not alone sir, a bunch fo shadows have been doing it to mefor over 6 years that can remeber and recollect, I get to have planes fly around my house atnight circling military planes fly over the roof shake the house private planes andchopper and lack hoppers flyby often and they mess with my accounts and phone too.dont give up the fightfor peace and freedom and maybe let's try to figure out a way to turn it back at them BTW I live in themiddle of nowhere and have myowns cows in my backyard andammentwlly disabledsoim just crazy audits not real sorry for wasting your time mr ghost gun ^ I also get tobevis8tedby many drones atany given time aswell and do notice the weirdos in public pretending to becivilians obviously the department of justice doesn't care about justice, another person wrote something about Mr snowden it was rite.
What do these deranged weirdos want from us?? And why did they decide to fixate on us when we don't even give them what they want?
There need to be better laws in place to protect victims of stalking.
It's an easy avenue for cowards.
@@immadeusrex6113 you mean psychopaths?
I agree. The aggressor is more protected than the victim! I couldnât get anything done through police with a text that said: Iâve been thinking about your ashes. The police said: he has to explicitly say: Iâm going to kill you. I moved states to escape him
thankyou its a night mirrior and the police and states do nothing and they tell us to just think good thoughts lol a joke
Especially, if the stalker is an authorized person of a government facility. These psychopaths have too much authority, access, and disregard to a persons life. A mandatory monthly drug test and counsel session for those who misuse systems for their personal fetishes.
What makes a stalker stop?....a 9mm.....
@@AAyres-ie8sf hi I apologize it took me a minute to respond to question. I understand this is probably making your family upset, creeped out, if not feeling on edge and sick to your stomach. Stalkers have to be taken seriously, and I completely get what your going through. So my first bit of advice is to document everything, create a documentation log. every time he cyber stalks or uses google phone to create a fake account, or any of the fake accounts the stalker creates not only take screenshots of everything, but keep multiple anti-stalking logs of every interaction, hand written and typed out. Create as much evidence as u can. This will be used for if u have to call the police, again for the billionth time. I understand his family and extended family are in law enforcement, but creating overwhelming evidence can really really help make u and your daughter feel more safe. every time he contacts her, write down the number that called, record the conversation using the screen recorder, and if u can use multiple recording devices. If u can have her record it on her phone, as soon as stalker calls or a number u or she doesn't know, either don't answer it, or open up the screen recorder and it records audio. If your right there, open up the video recorder on your phone, and record her being harassed and stalked. I would completely either get off Snapchat chat. tic-toc videos can be uploaded using CZcams. I understand your daughter wants to have fun and be free and so do u, but it's not your fault this is happening, and it most certainly isn't your daughters. Obviously your searched the crap out of the internet for answers, and this Video has some great answer, but not much in the way of what's happening to u. So remember the stalker your dealing with is most certainly a narcissist. So remember don't give him ANY attention. This is happening to your family. Your daughter, didn't ask for this but it is happening. So now you guys have to be a team. Don't ever argue about the situation. Keep each other in the loop, and have each other's backs. A strong foundation of love and understanding will help keep her safe. Things will escalate with a stalker, so because this is happening don't let her go out alone. If u choose to buy het a firearm, make sure she knows how to use it. I would absolutely get her pepper spray, and also with that practice using it. That way when a situation does arise, she's not panicked. I would also recommend a self defense classes for the both of u. U will bond, and also if the situation arises to defend herself or yourself, u will know what to do. Take every threat seriously, don't panic. Every fake account that the stalker creates, keep track of it I would recommend to having your daughter block her phone number even if she calls a friend. Just to be safe, create a bubble of safety, because the stalker wants to create a bubble of fear. So because this is happening u guys have to come up with real solutions not just hope it goes away. Because kids talk and narcassit stalkers will use what's called flying monkeys, it can be people that don't even know it, and he may get contact information third person, so u and your daughter and her boyfriend may need to keep all your cellphone number private. Now that the boyfriend of your daughter is being harassed I would suggest he do the same, and create a documentation log, because evidence, and multiple witnesses will go a long way. I so understand this is not only gross and frustrating, and law enforcement suck without a ton of evidence. Especially if the stalker has law enforcement in his family. So if all of u are creating this bubble of safety, documenting and creating evidence that creates a strong foundation it things escalate to a court room. If there are any emails from the stalker, look for the IP address, on the email. You can go to Google and search that IP address and see the whereabouts of the stalkers location. Keep logs of this, and keep carbon copies as well as back ups on your phones, laptops computer any place u can keep multiple copies of evidence. Look up your states ( of countries) penal code on stalking and harassment. Stalking is a course of conduct meaning a patternof conduct composed of 2 or more separate non continuous acts, evidencing a continuity of purpose. And while documenting your evidence make sure that the evidence shows that your daughter, u, your family, and her boyfriend are caused emotional distress by the stalking, cyber stalking and harassment. Your daughter may have to pick the safest social media accounts, and don't accept any friend request from someone she doesn't know. Call your phone company and either change her cell phone number, or have it blocked. Remember if your using a social media service, google it and see how it operates, how safe is it for my family, does this social media accounts let stalkers track me. Don't throw ANY evidence away. None. Keep it all. Don't believe any nonsense, trust facts, and your best judgement. Use your gut. Your gut is usually right. Please stay safe, I know it's not possible to do everything right, and people want to be trusting, but now that this is happening to your family, create a safe bubble, stay honest with each other, stalkers want to break the bonds between people, they are narcassit and want to hurt people for attention. So if u and she, and the boyfriend constantly remember not to answer any phone numbers u guys don't know. If u do decide, follow my advice, everytime. U can't be lazy about it because that will allow evidence to slip through. Tell all friends and family that u really trust, this is happening. Don't Rage post about the situation, especially if the stalker isn't completely revealed. I also had a stalker that did impressions so I'm glad u said that, I know it feels sureal but narcassits will do most any disgusting degrading thing for attention. Rember zero contact, and ignore them the best u can. Don't live in fear. Live in facts. Keep logs the more evidence the better, don't accept any friend request, if it's not some one u know, don't accept and if u do be ready to record your evidence. Also your daughter may want to use her own fake accout. Because this is happening, and I understand it does really suck, but she may need to be really inconspicuous online not using a real name and create a nickname or even a fake name all of u including the boyfriend can do this if u choose to. I hope the issue stops, and I'm sorry for your family this is happening. If there's something I didn't get to , or if u have any questions, msg me back , if we need to I can provide u with an email account. Also if u feel that her or u want to talk to a counselor about the stress of this situation, it does help. That's what I do. Just to vent. Because it is stressful. I wish I could do I much more, if anything I'm always here to talk, keep your heads up, stay safe, I hope some of my advice helps, if u haven't tried it all already. I always have moređ€ , so like I said feel free to message me. Have each other's backs!!! It sounds like u all are a great team!!! As always
Love and peaceâ€ïž
Agree!! đŻ
Itâs the simple things in life
Yes
I can honestly back this up. My cousin from Canada went to California. Her future husband was being gang stalked until he pulled out his gun, on his own property. It then stopped completely.
The pressure to be a perfectly unreactive victim in the eyes of these systems that are supposed to help when you are going through the most disturbing shit ever is just the ultimate nightmare
As long as they're in grasp reach they will try to stop you from detaching by always being a constant presence and being disconcerting so you can't think clearly about the situation, you have to prevent them from being a constant presence if not zero contact if possible.
Never make the mistake of interacting with them even once and if you do because you met them through friends, work, or somewhere else then the second you see they're weird just go dead. It's got to be a protocol you have with yourself for these situations and make no exceptions because the second you do they view it as a vulnerability.
going through court system now.... yeah. its horrifying
Omg a million times this
They even influence other people against me. Real painful.
I hate stalkers man. It ruining my mental health.
Same here at least I remember the real name, getting stalked is so nerve-racking
Stalking itâs nothing more than controlling!
This is reminding me of how Robert Pattinson went on a date with one of his stalkers and basically was talking nonstop about how miserable his life was the whole time and she apparently never came back after that.
They never stop, they have an obsession that escalates overtime. And yes, they know what they are doing is wrong which is why they do it covertly and lie when caught and are manipulative.
I am being stalked by my own cousin, which has been going on for over 12 years. Those who suffer from severe psychosis like my cousin, they will never let go of their obsession cause they live in another reality. They won't break out of it until they are arrested for their crime.
Iâve had ten years of keeping quiet. Stalkers do not stop.
Most of the time it works with people but sometimes no it doesn't when they're too messed up, that is when you have no choice but to take action and all you can do is start recording everything all his interactions and messages and record videos of them every time they show up then store it all somewhere safe.
Keep doing this for the next year and then press charges, chances of them being able to come back will be harder because then they've got a record therefore less employable and won't have so much money anymore to keep going in and ordering, and if he does do the same thing again because he only makes it worse for himself.
You don't want to have to do that to someone because it's hard enough in our world needing to work to survive but sometimes people just give you no choice, i used to make up excuses for people but too many people have done too many bad things to me and continued abusive behavior i didn't ever deserve.
You eventually get to a point you no longer regret taking them down in such a way if you have to. They have no mercy or remorse for what they do to us, so why should we towards them? when there's no doubt they know exactly consciously what they're doing?. Do what you have to do when you need to because sometimes we just have to.
â@@FlyingMonkies325what do you mean how do you get them back how do you play the game
@HoldupIGotSomethingToSay There is no game, don't focus on getting your own back, just record everything they're doing until you have enough evidence and then proceed to press charges.
Be thougrough about it because you have to be your own detective it's the sad truth. The worst stalkers create a game out of it but never play along because they're also pulling you into messed up, crazy competitive situations you don't want to be in nor gave permission to be in. Just focus on doing what you gotta do for your own safety.
A lot of women on social media will refer to a stalker as "my stalker" which worries me. This gives the stalker a relationship with the person. MY stalker means they're being acknowledged. I wish people would say "the person stalking me" instead because it does not validate the relationship.
Like, when Tana Mongeau would be like "MY STALKER is SO SMART he avoids being caught" and stuff like that.... That's really fueling it. You're owning him, you're complimenting him, and it's encouraging him. Keep all of this language in your private conversations. Never let the stalker see or hear it.
A lot of them like getting the attention from having a "stalker," whether it is accurate or not. Some, not all, enjoy the attention. It earns them social capital with human and online friends.
@@sfs1167 donât said that. No one enjoys any stalker itâs a nightmare.
You can get attention other ways like changing your hair to red.
I usually refer to him as "the man/ex bf who's stalking me"
My neighbor wont leave me alone ; I just want to be left alone đ«
Same here! Smh
Call the police every time you notice him around your property. Tell them you feel unsafe
same, I've called the police x3 they say that because he is my neighbour they cant do anything and I've just to get on with it, they made me feel like some sort of neurotic paranoid woman, i have hundreds of hours of footage of his behaviour but the police said because he has'nt approached me and said anything to my face or physically harmed me he can do what he likes, because he's my neighbour he can explain all his behaviour away as normal behaviour, i am tired of being followed around my own house, being watched, waited on, verbally abused daily as he passes my door whispering under his breath, he has told crazy lies so that neighbours are involved now who he has egged on into bullying my disabled partner making his life more difficult, whilst he stands back and watches what he's created, then at night he carries out his intimidation and stalking when no one can see, I'm tired i just want to be left alone, i am a prisoner in my own home and dreading the summer because i know he will be back to waiting for me on the doorstep for me to return home from work, last year i stayed in work until it was dark to avoid him, i just want my life back
Iâm going through this currently, donât leave out cyber stalking because itâs more prevalent then people realize.
Same i cant get away from this psycho and i need help
I have had a stalker for nearly 10 years the person has done everything to get my attention even spread lies about me to anyone who will listen even contacted my friend on Facebook to get to me. I am not on social media I am glad i have a friend who has stuck by me as she knows what this person is like police are useless I have To be attacked before they will do anything they said. To everyone who is going through this keep your head held high you are stronger than you know realise this is not your fault and be proud of who you are and how well you are coping.
I completely understand your situation. Iâve had photos, videos, and witness statements about the stalking occurrences. My phone, school and employment has had electronic harassment / hacking. Trespassing and property damage - Videos, links, and this has been happening since 2018. Showed police officers, employer, family members, friends - yet nothing has been resolved. Seems like they are really mentally ill - severe obsession!
Ive had multiple stalkers who never attacked me, which made it nearly impossible to get help (you seem crazy and insane for assuming) a lot of stalkers prefer attacking you in other ways too. Like talking about you to people you know, harassing you and watching you via social media (do you ever feel like youre being watched? And nobody is physically watching you? Its probably because you can feel someone watching you via socials), trying to befriend you and gain your trust and coming to your house. Paying people to steal from your house/trash up your house. Spreading lies (gas lighting people you know to make you out to be insane, isolation) people with personality disorders are prime for stalking behavior, there's no reason for it besides obsession and Boredome. (And attention)
Its probably the wrong channel for me to say this next bit, but Ive found that when youre constantly thinking about someone, that person is thinking about you too.......if youre feeling hypervigilent , its not a "coincidence" if any weird stuff keeps happening you've most likely got a stalker. I'm posting from personal experiences BTW. I'm not a professional but I've had one too many stalkers
@@badbeachindustry1615 Iâm so sorry youâre going through the horrible lifestyle made possible from your stalkers. Thereâs not ever a moment to get them to stop. Theyâre truly insane and ego driven psychopaths. Yet, somehow and someway, theyâre around other people who believe this stalker of yours is a saint. Itâs really up to those âwell mindedâ people who know your stalker to just simply tell them to stop. True influential empowerment comes from those who can distinguish right from wrong, and harmful / disturbances from careful / consideration. Know your worth and become mindful; only they are sick in the head for doing those things.
@@jortsChannel Funny, started 2018 for me aswell and Ive left the evidence too, doesnt matter, the police doesnt care.
@@Vixinaful well the police were called on my issue; sadly there was no moral obligation to help, just another day and another odd moment of trauma.
Sadly my stalker is watching this too...
I tried to appease my stalking neighbours. Tried to be pleasant? I hoped they would realise l am an ok person,....then loose interest.
No!!! They became total nightmares. Knocking on my door 4? Times a day. Asking for things they could do themselves.
I had no choice but to completely withdraw all communiication.
Now we are back to covert harassment. He sings loundly 2 am , the walls are thin. I go out to my car ....he is out. I go in my garden ....he is out. I make a phone call .....everything falls silent so l am heard. They swear, shout dilerberatley if l am outside. They ask the other neighbour about me as l talk to her.
I am watched and followed . They are retired and obsessed with me.
I pray l can move soon.
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Stalking makes people uncomfortable
A cop gave me the best advice. That was too call the cops every single time you get contacted and that a restraining order is just a piece of paper and will not make it stop. And thatâs exactly what I did.
Copâs donât give a shit even if you call them 10.000
Beautiful analysis, it is almost as if an alter ego or an alternative version of you has been created in their imagination and they are forcing you to align with the "you" of their imagination.
The scary thing is ultimately they convince themselves of the authenticity of their version. They hijack the real you and replace you with the version they have created of you.
I guess in that way, they can justify or rationalize their victimization of you. They are always ahead of you, presenting the version of you they have created, even before you get the chance to present yourself as yourself to the people you encounter.
I have been stalked/group stalked for 8 years and counting, at this point I can probably write a book. Sad thing is it takes away your ability to build meaningful or new relationships. Terrible predicament.
These stalkers are insane sadists.
And they don't live in Reality
They want to escape their realities. He said it perfectly when he mentioned they have their own version of you in their head. These people are extremely insecure and self-loathing. Dysfunction, escapism, dramas, and ignorance is their kryptonite.
Well said. Everything is only fuel. If only there was a kryptonite...
100% agree ignore them they hate it they want you to notice them.
I stalked my stalker and he stop.
Yeah. That will work for you probably. Mirror their a$$đ
@@dannacollins2520I did and all their issues. They just got addicted and sad, totally dependent and controlling. I was their drug. Now I just isolate myself to people in person. And they were total victimhood to their own actions and had the biggest fits for years at me, eachother, and other people. Itâs all insecurity. The online âspiritualâ community is in hell. Lol
Really wow? How'd you do thatđ
â@@dannacollins2520how
Bro thatâs so smart but I donât wanna waste my time lmao
Iâm happy to report that my stalker just stopped out of the blue. No kidding.
As a therapist I saw this guy twice and sent him a bill, he got mad because he lost his job. He took all his hate on me. He reported me to the feds, lies. He cyberbullied me for months, stalked me through court, we had to spend a lot of money tire him out in the legal system. I didnât back down with him. Heâd send letters to our home. We out manipulated him and burnt him out, he disappeared. We couldnât ignore the stalker because of our business.
Thatâs not an stalker but an unhappy customer. Stalkers donât leave. Maybe itâs a good time to change profession.
I have an upstairs neighbor that follows me by tracking my phone via cellular/Bluetooth. I have to turn my phone to airplane mode. She follows me around my apartment and throws things down or stomps to let me know sheâs in the same room. I donât know why sheâs doing this because I donât know her. The only time I have made contact with her is when asking her to keep down the noise.I canât wait until my lease is up so that I can move far far away
I'm so glad I'm not the only one experiencing this. Why can't they just go read a book. đđđđ I can't stand uneducated people
My neighbor stalked me until i made her think i was crazy
LMAO
Hahah maybe I should try this! đđ
@@MaggieMm10 it was fun. .. i few howls and snarls in backyard and u will be good
Pray against the demonic spirit Leviathan....that's the spirit that causes that behavior
The "histrionic public displays" the victim takes part in is called a reaction. They are driven to the point of panic. At that point it's not a choice
I survived a criminal stalker with priors. I locked him up twice. Cops were corrupt and one was a pervert. Horrifying 2 years echo some 27 years later. My heart goes out to anyone going through it. Reach out if you need help or some advice from my own experience.
Good for you, no one should have to deal with being harassed by some sicko wanting to come around. I am currently dealing with a sick man coming into my space at random intervals. The police won't do anything until He does something. Not right at all
this video really helped because iâve been so tired of people telling me that âignoring will make it go awayâ everytime i tell them thereâs nothing i can actually do for her to stop cuz sheâs clinically obsessed with me , so while it did relived the part of me that wanted to be understood, it made me cry and hurt me just about as much as it gave me peace. Iâm tired of not being able to enjoy life because of my stalker . Iâve had a troubled childhood and my teenager years were no sea of roses but i always had me. I always had my identity and my history and who i was and wanted to be present and since i had no friends or family that i could count on at the time , this was and is my rock. But surely peace never really lasts and this weird obsessive girl started to trying to be me 5 years ago and has not stopped since. I wish i had seen your video sooner but the. again, at the beginning i didnât realize she was actually mentally deranged. Iâm used to people copying things i do and i never took it seriously, i would just block the person and soon enough they would eventually stop, so when this girl started doing the same, i took the same approach. A lot of things started happening ( my boyfriends would get calls saying i was cheating, the police will get calls saying i was a terrorist , accounts with my face were made , some actually impersonating me and having ârelationshipsâ with followers , others just blatantly making fun of my body and face. I never would have guessed it if not for a ex friend of mine that called me and said that he would have to stop being friends because this girl (my stalker with whom he now dated ) didnât want to. I said okay and i ignored it , but being a human i got curious and i searched for her (because he did say she had 3 fake accounts following me so i could not post anything about it cuz she would be mad , and i was furious with the audacity she had to do all that and still demand to have control over my life) I found out when i search for her, that for the past (at the time) 1/2 year she had done about everything to become me . She painted her hair and straitened it, she followed my friends, she claimed everything i did she did to, she purchased the same clothes i did, would post the same things and so on. This is when ur video would have come in handy because blind by rage i soon exposed her and went to the police (which was no help because my country has no laws for that :) ) itâs been 5 years. Iâve completely disappeared from social media, but she never stopped or stops. She found out my past , the horrible things that happened to me and spread them in the internet saying i was a liar. She also claims to be the victim (and even tho anyone that processes eyes can figure it to be the other way around, some donât actually know me so they help her spreading those rumors with my name on that have made my life a living hell. Her mom is in on it too for she has called me multiple times to say that i need to just accept and be proud that her daughter admires me so much, while she keeps on giving her money to copy everything i do. My current boyfriend keeps getting calls, his exes get approached by her and jealous girls are the meanest. My mental health is progressively getting worse given that i am also getting physics sick from nerves and depression. I really donât know what to do because iâve been quiet for a year and a half now and she only gets worse and she finds ways to make me hurt and to get to me (example she made another psycho pretend to be my friend in real life to tell her my secrets, expose them with her twisted lies and then screwing me) i canât really trust no one and i changed who i was so many times , so i would not be the same as her that i lost myself , and it was no good either cuz she just copied everything again. itâs a cycle that i canât get out of . I really feel like perfect blue describes my life perfectly because i have thought in desperate moments that maybe iâm imagining it ? maybe iâm the sick one that thinks iâm her , the the large amount of proof i have says otherwise. Iâm really lost now and i donât know what to do , and itâs sad cuz she wonât stop but i donât know if i can take it anymore . Either way, probably no one will read this given itâs extensive content and also my possible many orthography mistakes haha i just need to vent . Iâm still grateful i stumble through ur video and grateful people like you exist , make me feel less lonely
she also makes multiple fake accounts to insult her in her social media that she claims are me (but i found out were hers because i have an hacker fried that discovers her ip and the ip in those fake accounts is the same that the 90+ fake accounts she made over the years to stalk me thatâs i had found. thatâs how mentally insane. To make fake accounts to insult urself and claim to be another person and also some to compliment yourself as well cuz she has no friends. itâs sad and very scary actually
This most bizzare đ thing I ever saw soory for your bad times hopefully you will rise again I also found out this recently my good friend i thought started doing this and saying he knows all by himself but it was me who introduced him to a lot of things I don't get mad i just Stop talking him about my plans and i will disappear
hey, how are you doing? i think the best thing to do is not hide and also not to care what people say about you. eventually the real truth is going to come out. stalking is never a good look.
I understand completely I go through this. Going on six years now but with his electronic harrassment I'm going blind and deaf with the sonic sounds I hear that no one else can....the tourcher I feel the police will not do a thing he uses drones and spy cams.... so you look after your self myself death awaits me but I still stand and fight
I'm so sorry this is one of the worst cases i've read, how are things going?. You need to stand up for yourself and keep documenting literally everything and then report it. She's doing it because you aren't really doing anything and sometimes people will take it this far because they aren't right in their mind at all, they just take it as being allowed to push the boundaries more and more when there's nothing standing in their way it's like a dare.
For now don't interact them in any way, change your number too and then get a google number that you can use to mask your real number and change it whenever you need to. Keep doing it because these people don't have huge determination and persistence and are usually jealous of people who do, so they'll give up so much faster don't make it easy for her. It's what i've been doing in an online game i have made it as hard as i possibly can for them, and kept to my promise i'm not interacting with anyone outside of the mini games and i have now disabled all player names so i can't see them and use the game interfaces to cover the screen when i'm at main locations.
Who gave her your number? i think you need to tell everyone to stop talking to you about her and that you don't want to know because of how much trouble she's caused and they all know you aren't doing anything you just want her to disappear, because as long as she can keep getting everyone you know roped in it's another thing that's just encouraging her big time.
If they don't stop then they're probs helping her or just not listening which real friends wouldn't do, so i think you may need to come to the decision of letting your friends go and starting new if they don't respect what you ask. Any new friends be straight with them right from the off what might happen and show them some of the things she's posted, and ask them to ignore her and her mother if they try to talk to them because for a start they keep getting your number and that's weird.
Keep level headed about it, you know you aren't doing anything so maintain that and tune out of any technology when she tries something else and enjoy the rest of your day, even turn your phone off if you aren't waiting for anyone to call and use block mode on your phone if it has one so only those in your phone book can call you. They don't want you thinking clearly about any of this so take the time to gain perspective and bring down your nervous system.
I'm a 230 pound 6 foot male with 600 hours of bag work at a boxing gym. I got a right hook that can make a heavy bag bleed. I also have a stalker. The police have informed I'm not allowed to hit him because he could press charges against me. Unfortunately the police don't have his name and haven't questioned his motive. But I have filed multiple reports and I've been psychoanalyzed as a non violent person. I just want to live a normal life.
Freeze their name in Jesus name . Your stalker is gay
@@Beautiful28172 update. He was my ex coworker. I'm in the process of pressing charges. Lucky him not face tanking these ultra heavyweight guns of mine đȘ đ đ„.
They are usually mental disturbed and cant understand how to regulate their emotions and desires and not good at processing information. With all that you have going on he is not scared and itâs an insane recipe. If they stalk you it could be ongoing for years bc they are just that sick. Walking robots. No sense of reality. If I catch my stalker who cares about jail lol
@Ibex Souther it's hard to get a stalker to stop. Slot of times it's something u do. Might be that your really funny and entertaining, or that the stalker knows u are a great boxer and they are jealous, and know you will hit them if they attack u, and they can be verbally aggressive with u and u can't do anything. Sounds like u know who it is, do u know the person name? Because it sounds like a reaction stalker, which is they can do all these little things, and use who ever u are and just the little things u do to harass u and u can't physically do anything about u. So i would recommend using the sweet science in your mind. Your best hook is going to be "nothing" don't react or care. So what u can't hit em. Teach yourself to not want to. That takes away their power. U can do this. Continue to go to the gym. Boxing is one of the best things in the world, so I understand where your coming from. But this is a metal thing. If u can train to become a great boxer, u can train yourself to be mentally tough. If u don't have a therapist I would recommend getting one. Because it can make u crazy and cause alot of mental damage. If u become this person that doesn't react and figure out, when did all this start. What was I doing that made myself so interesting to this person??? And it may suck to do... But u may have to change some of the things u do. Like I had to learn zero reaction is the best reaction. And not to talk to myself. My stalkers are so obsessed, that ant reaction or answer fr me to their non step repative statements, they think they are in a relationship with me. It's disgusting and it violates who u are. But it takes time to master and don't forget to just live your life. And if they think smiling and any reaction is to them, then smile on the inside. Never give them what they want. Because if fuels their beliefs that u are in a relationship. I can go on and on. Sorry if this doesn't help much, but no one should go through this alone, I hope I helped and just reaching out letting u ur not alone. I was stalked for 4 years, and it made me boring and lame. I can't even play my guitar because my stalker believes it's to her. It's a really messed up deal. If u are still looking for answers I would look up 17 reasons a narcissist gang stalks me, or narcassits stalking. Because its narcissist doing this shirt. And it helps just to know your not crazy. And u can survive this. I hope I helped brother Peace and love
Psychological warfare can be more painful than physical. And as the police have informed you, it can't be fought off physically. Not every conflict can be solved with a punch.
Edit: Also beware of hitting them first. Some will try to goad you into hitting them because they want you to get into legal trouble.
My stalker had influence and was next level manipulative, besides for knowing where I lived, so I couldn't rely on authorities. The torture kept going no matter what I did until I deleted social media, moved to another country and used a VPN for the rest of my time.
So, basically, they develop an obsession where they believe they are being a parent to their victim??
Did I hear that correctly?
No they don't view themselves as the parent at all they want to trauma bond with you and control you. If they can bring you down to being as messed up as they are then you can also help them do it to other people, and they'll be doing the same thing to multiple people at once.
Lots of good info here, cant seem to "shake" my stranger stalker, its been oct/2020. Yeah ppl tell me to tell him to f.o., or call the cops, one person even said to pay him off, MANY said i was imagining it, exaggerating it, miss interpreting his romantic gestures, of course some think "there is more to this then you are letting on" you MUST have done SOMETHING to encourage him.
At first ppl may care when you tell them whats going on but quickly they get tired of it. I lost friends over it for sure. This guy is amazingly clever, im certain he has done this before, as he knows what he is doing. He often positions himself to make it look like im stalking him (walks ahead of me while recording me over his shoulder on his phone, so he would just say She's following ME!!
Very clever mental case! Any ways you have no reason to believe me, but then i have no reason to lie, Thank You SO Much, great advice, i will continue to ignore/but discretely let others know what is going on with this sick individual.
Enter stage left - Gaslighting, narcissism. Nice people to avoid :) There is no 'wining' with this character type, they are in for the long game. As you say, no contact, let them move on.
Avoiding them and being mindful of our reaction - some people just add more damage than help if you tell them about a stalker, at least in my circumstances.
Just been through neighbour gangstalking myself. Definitely narcissism involved. Never want to have that experience again. Everything you have said is on the money.
@A T I've been a victim of gang stalking by my neighbors as well. It's a weird and horrible experience. They try to get u I believe all this sci-fi bullshit. Like microwaves are being thoughts into your head and satalites are being microwaves in you head using microwave hearing, it's all bullshit. It seems like they all use the same tricks to harass people. But once u rely on facts, don't believe in conspiracy shit they try to impress on u. Don't feed into it. Just zero response and be as fun as a grey rock. It's a shitty experience that's for sure. I'm interested in your experience and did just move away from said apartments or did u have to take em to court first get a protection order? At first my stalkers were trying to remain anonymous, the weird part was I didn't even know these ppl, they just began harassing me, I had to keep my son in another state just to keep him safe. I hope your doing well. And I'm glad u survived and made it out of their bullshit. Proud of man!!!
Peace and loveâ€
I have been stalked by my next door neighbor for six and a half years. I wish I had watched this video before I moved into my condo. I spent the first year and four months asking him to leave me alone in a respectful and kind way. That tactic made everything worse, but telling him forcefully to get away from me has also escalated activity. The five times I have asked the police for help have done nothing to stop him even when the police speak to him. I wish so much I had seen this before. I am so glad I finally found this video because it comforts me that all of these âmagicâ solutions arenât going to work either because friends and loved ones sometimes suggest their magic solutions with the added assertion of âthis would never happen to meâ because they think they could handle the stalker better than I do and shut him down. Now, I can let go of the self blame those well meant assertions cause.
I think my pain amused my ex narc. It was so easy for him to create obstacles in my everyday life even from a distance by using my peers, family and coworker along with social media to slander me without consequences.
I have a stalker and manipulator in my building and he connected to my workplace and a harassment formed a gang along with flying monkey's and another master manipulator.
My neighbor comes out everytime i come outside. And ring my doorbell at 11pm etc. Give them nothing back
often...
VERY often,
i think/feel/know he is NOT going to change EVER.
its ME who has to find a way to live with it, no one will help, no one CAN help, i AM his toy, i can NOT make him stop....i just have to except it.
Thanks
*i cried when a store clerk asked me, "did you see that creepy dude staring at you?"
i was like: YOU SEE HIM TOO???
for real these individuals know exactly what they are doing & how to do it.
They know what theyre doing. And they know if they never attack you physically they won't get into trouble. Thats why stalkers are problematic. Nobody wants to acknowledge the paranoia and hypervigilence, the mental terrorism that takes place when youre being stalked.
Thankfully all of my stalkers got bored with me. If they don't get bored with you, you should probably move away and protect yourself as much as you can.
I was stalked for 3.5 years. I eventually grey rocked for about 4 months. When I went back online, he was over me.
That's because you were willing to see that social media sites aren't important enough to obsessively keep going online you were willing to let them go and stay logged off if you had to lol, he didn't like that he couldn't hold your social media accounts against you.
Thank you for this video dear. I've been a victim of stalking for the past five weeks. He's a coworker and he won't stop calling each time using different numbers. It's very draining . I'll follow your advice though. Thank you ever so much. â€
Sadists never want the stalking to stop.
Tougher laws and a swift justice system.
Itâs incredible how much this matches up to what Iâve been going through. This video has really helped me understand the situation. Itâs been years and he still continues harassing me. Had no idea how life changing it is to be harassed until going through it myself.
Donât listen when people said move on. Continue with your life but be aware all the time. Best thing no contact. Always think in your security and safety. Never fall for the last meeting.
I am going myself to the same, 14 years after divorce I just saw him today driving two streets from my house and he lives 500 miles away. I stopped contact in 2008 and continue stalking me. Be safe and good luck
Iâve had this happened to me numerous times.
1. When I was working out at the park a guy would watch me pass by his street. He could see me but I couldnât see him. I changed my schedule but no matter the hour heâd see me and follow me into the park. I walked down a different street he couldnât follow me anymore. Problem solved.
2. A female coworker was obsessed with me and would stare and follow me around. She was upset I rejected her friendship. I reported her to School Police Department and continued to ignore her. I also told the office gossiper about it (every workplace has one, use them to your advantage). She stopped following me around and trying to be near me but never stopped staring. I left (not bc of her) but sheâs still there and now people know her as a stalker.
3. Iâve had ex-boyfriend social media stalk me for 20 years. Heâs married. If his profile ever pops up immediate block.
With all of these people, what works is what Andrew is saying, never, ever engage with them. They need access, proximity, validation, donât give it to them.
Many of them are sadists or do it for thrills/a power kick. They're lacking internally.
Yep. Sick people.
and is that a problem. It's better for us, then to just wallow in despair and eventually kill ourselfs.
so useful but I'm on my second stalker - the first was 20yrs ago and this one the last year - the first I gave up and moved at great expense and resentment. Today I don't have the energy - they are the most malicious and self-centred individuals around. I blame mothers for over indulging boys and thinking they are always right and everything is about them as this plague has definitely got worse in the last 10-15yrs. Kids should be told no and made to think about their consequences on others and parents who don't do this are failing society.
Not only boys, women too, I have horror stories
My own cousin; which alone is sickening to prcoess, has been stalking me online, for years... One thing I've learned from my expeience, my cousin's mind is so conditioned to a delusional mindset that they can't disengage from that delusion. So therefore, as why i have been constantly stalked, because even though you tell them to leave you alone, they won't. These creatures are pathetic asf! But you have to get the law involved and detatch your emotions from people like that, in order to pursue a criminal case. Otherwise, the stalking and harassment will carry on cause they want to keep that "fear" over you. Again, very pathetic.
Iâm going through this and have been for the past 4 years. Nothing has gotten this woman to stop.
I was being stalked itâs a vindictive evil demon. Fast and pray đđŸ seek the face of God
Welcome to the club I wish the cops actually do something but my weirdos are getting away with their weirdo ways for over 5 years. City I live i bet the cops waiting for me to just say fuk it and raise hell. But then I'm wrong and I'ma go to prison
The bizarre thing was he blamed me for being evil and was glad to be free from such an evil person like me.
Still going through a situation where my neighbours won't leave me alone, 3 years of contast verbal abuse and being followed every where i go. Spoke up continously but let down everytime
I had the same situation with neighbors stalking me and one lady in particular who lived directly across the street from me was following me and constantly coming outside every time I came out of my house. It was so horrible because she was constantly threatening to call the cops on me and my husband. She actually would time me when I dropped of my child to school and made sure she was walking in the street so I would see her. Eventually we sold our house and moved.
@@th546Get cameras, iâm going through something similar by a woman also, never met her in my life, donât even know her, met her once, sheâs a crazy lady, but she climed into our porch at night and tried to get in, why i do not know. But i know who it is now, any suggestions?
I have watched this like 10x. It's so informative. My stalker is a 50 year old woman with mental issues. She first stalked me online especially with fake accounts......now after a year she now goes to my church. And there were times she tried to talk to me but I just ignore her and keep walking. The worst part my family and her family are on her side and I have all the screenshots since she started. She even admits it's her in one of them. Now she keeps trying different tactics to be near me and I can't do anything about it, no one will help especially my parents who are the Pastors lol. This sucks
My step daughter thru me into this. Its been 3 yrs now. Following me everywhere. Stores. Friends houses, doc appointments, etc. Will it go away...they should be tired.
@@Isaiah-up4mt just record everything, document everything and screenshot all contact through text, social media etc. And I know it's hard but like the video says. IGNORE THEM. Will they go away no, but your silence and no attention hurts them more than words.
@@samuelrivera7762 Thank you so very much. God Bless You đ
@@Isaiah-up4mt like he says record and document everything. And use all that evidence to go to the court house and get a ppo. If they challenge the ppo then it will go before a judge. The person stalking me is so crazy she has sat in her apartment for 14 days and hasn't eaten because I haven't left to eat. I'm disabled physically. But she's a huge lady, and since people found out what shes doing to me, they will no longer support her, and bring her McDonald's. đ€ź. That's all this psycho eats... if I get in the shower she trys to scream louder just so I can hear her. I can't it's just loud yelling... She talks through the floors day and night to the point her family and the neighbors are all getting on her to leave me alone. So now she's starving herself and no matter what is said she doesn't understand normal conversation... They never do. It's always mimicing things. Like voices and she constantly does baby talk even though she's 45 years old. The judge ordered the stalker to move, and I just recently let the landlord know that the stalker lied he can even contact the court house the judge ordered her to move and the stalker lied in court. So when this resurfaces and it will, she will not only be charged with five years of felony stalking, she will be in trouble for lying under oath, and for not following the judges orderer and not moving. I've been told by my caseworkers to seek help from the woman's resource center because they will help u fund a case and work better with the police. They also help men as well. My advice is if this is still happening to u, please get in touch with the women's resource center. Don't delete any evidence. Don't ever listen to anything the stalkers say. It's all lies from a disgusting person who talks like a baby and is addicted to McDonald's. They are the ones that barged into our lives. So we have the right to take our lives back. Stay strong if u ever need to msg me about this or anything, I will gladly help answer any questions and give support. I am sorry this is happening to u. It's not anyone's fault but the stalkers. They are not funny, or your friend. They are horrible people that are mentally sick and need help. If they refuse that help then it's prison for them. Or this stalker that happens to be my neighbor will starve herself just from not getting McDonald's. No one is going to support that kind of horrid behavior. Tell everyone u trust, people will support u. This woman is so sick she will sit under me when I'm going to the bathroom and ask me what it smells like. How messed up is that? These people put on acts and pretend they don't understand boundaries but they just want to be rude. And talk like babies. It makes me wonder "why waste your life being an idiot"? All they get to do is be bored following me around. I don't eat out, I don't hang out. I hate McDonald's. I hate dumb people. So right there I'm supprised that the stalker thinks "I'll just yell at him through the wall" that's attractive. And talk like a 45 year old fat baby, and misuse the English language, and misuse sayings terribly, and claim that she does it on purpose. No, they are just dumb drop outs. I can go on, but I'm sure u feel the same. Lol đ I hope this helped. Stay strong. Good bless have a great day! Don't give up! U deserve to be free and happy. No one deserves this. đ Please feel free to msg me anytime with any questions or if you've got great evidence or if your feeling down. I will always do my best to answer. And help. Peace and loveâ€ïž
Hell no! Tell everyone that you are being stalked. Call the police. My stalker is watching me type this. He is a physics professor at the University of Alabama at Birmingham. This message is all over the University & everyone reads it calling me a bitch. Little do they know he is setting them up. The best way to know what the truth is ask the people who has been burned by him. There is a lot of fellow victims.
Organised stalking is quite often organised by the neighbourhood watch and police...work that one out.
And funded. Believe they are getting paid.
That book is AMAZING. It should be in every school and taught as curriculum. I read it when Oprah promoted it years ago. I recommend it to everyone.
You didn't mention stalker's escalating behaviour when you ignore them. Sadly that is something I was faced with.
That's true. My neighbour amps it up when I avoid her. She doesn't have a life. Sad sack Anna.
My privacy has been compromised for 9 years using technology and devices. Since I have no way to prove it, the bastards continue to do so with impunity.
Reinstall your PC, spyware cant be detected with regular scanning programs, you have to reinstall everything.
Wipe and reinstall literally everything just do it, don't back anything up and just clean it all which mean you'll just have to reinstall your computers too. When you're repeatedly being hacked you know there's something on one of your devices to cause this it's the only explanation, don't let ego get in the way and just do what you have to do. They will forever hold it over you if you don't, the smallest thing they will always do this to hold over you and keep controlling you even things that don't really matter all that much and try to make you fear losing anything and everything.
Then use microsoft outlook to create some alias emails and only use those never your real email. Finally change the passwords on all important accounts every 2 or 3 months, you can't leave it because of the amount of data breaches that happen with hackers too. Make sure to turn off the autoplay feature on your computer too because this is insecure and allows viruses to spread back and forth from device to computer, i don't know why they still keep this feature.
Keep yourself 100% secure and if you use social media sites get yourself off them too otherwise they'll keep tormenting you on them, you don't need them to have a fulfilling life and there's always just texting and phone calls to text work, friends, and family and that's the only people you need to be communicating with.
My Ex-husband is sickly obsessed with me and hacks my devices then commits crimes in my account. He is a child perpetrator/rapist. Raped a 4 year until she was a teenager (my daughter) she deals with problems from this past. He needs to go away from me but will not! I divorced him but he is still doing the same hacking all the time. He is very sick! When will he understand he committed the crime and should still be behind bars IMHO. He most definitely has SERIAL traits.
Omg psycho đź
I'm so sorry. Keep your peace wicked people can only act wicked, it has nothing to do with us
Yeah, but WHY Though. Was there a reason why he wants to rape young people? What started that?
You need to wipe every device in the house because if he still keeps getting into all your accounts then he's infected one of your devices there's no other way he could have. Change your passwords once a month too if you can and make them 13 characters long at least because they can't be figured out unless some site has their data stolen, enver make them smaller than that.
Although right now i wouldn't on google because they're currently doing some stuff and cleaning up old accounts so give it another month or so until you change it for that, i think just clean up whatever devices you can for now. Then make sure the autoplay feature is turned off in windows on your computer, because that has a vulnerability that allows any readable devices with any sort of transferable storage to be infected both ways from your computer or from the device to your computer it's not safe.
Then dc the internet before you plug in any devices because a hacker requires an internet connection to be able to connect to your computer and devices, to be able to connect from their computer to your devices. I would honestly refrain from transferring any files to and from your devices for now until you clear things up, you will probably have to reinstall your computers too because it's the only way to wipe them completely, reset your other devices to default to clean them.
I came looking for help and got an absolute bucketful of reassurance here. My daughter has somehow picked up a nasty one, an ex-boyfriends new gf (with whom he cheated on my daughter). She has sat outside our house, photographed and uploaded it on her 'socials', she barrages my daughter with hate filled bile followed by feigned sympathy and posts encouraging people to follow my daughter out of sympathy etc etc. It's been around a year of harassment now and she's been blocked on numerous accounts. My daughter has a reasonably large following 1M+ and has developed a decent income via fashion and make-up. There's hundred's of examples from this individual, she even claims to 'have a case' against my daughter..for what I have no idea!
Am I correct in thinking this stalker has a jealousy issue despite the fact my daughter has looooooong since moved on from this cheating pos ex bf?
All people who bully, harass, and stalk all have some kind of jealousy issue because they're comparing you to them and their lives even when other people are all dealing with the same issues on a daily basis. They don't think for one second that maybe what they're doing is just adding more suffering because they think everything must be so perfect for someone because it's been so hard for them, and they're deeply insecure and threatened by you.
Too many people with personality disorders these days to count you can't go anywhere these days without somebody like this i've had my fill with it all because they ruin everywhere and put a downer on everything and are confused as to why you're so messed up over it because somehow "if you're that great you should be able to persevere out of this" they hold you on such a high pedestal, but if you manage to actually get rid of them they're then pissed.
I get why they're so messed up we're neglected generations i know full well what it's like, but i've had all of this crazy behavior against me since day one that i know it's unacceptable. Even the one time my mum tried to use a play area when i was 4 years old, and out of nowhere there's a little girl that gets dropped off and suddenly she's snatching every single toy off me telling me i can't have it. Gets worse as you get older not better, so all you can do is draw as little attention to yourself as possible.
Psychosis, usually.
I actually threatened my stalker by getting a lawyer and then she blocked me. lol đ she hasnât been stalking me since and itâs been a couple of years.
You just put a boundary and they hate that. But donât trust him and look for your security and safety. No contact
What happens if the stalker lives right down the street. One day I waved to a guy thinking nothing of it and he's been trying to get my attention ever since.
I take my kids to the bus stop. The first time I wasn't thinking nothing of it. Yet I started to feel uncomfortable so instead of going at 6:50am I went at 7am. Which worked for two days. Then he changed his time at 7am and drove past my house. So then I went out at 6:50 again and this time my kids and I are in the car waiting for the bus. So then he got frustrated. Now he's waiting for the bus to get there so he can pull and drive past. The bus drive knew something was up because he kind went in front of bus trying to get my attention and then swerved to the side of the bus and that'd when the bus moved forward and waited until I went inside my house.
When he drives past my house he rolls down his window stares at me without blinking and waves to me really slowly while giving me a hard stare. Like he's not smiling at all. Idk I just want him to stop. I keep changing times and he's changing times to when he goes out.
Make a police report of EVERYTHING he does, always be aware of your surroundings but donât ever acknowledge him again!
If you donât already, buy something that will protect you and your children!!
Make sure you always update someone that you trust on the weird things that starts happening, and that he does
If you canât move,Security cameras,Everywhere!! Put stick on windows to lock them more securely!
To take an extra precaution, have your vehicle checked for trackers!
Please be safe!!
Manipulation other person in their imagination.
They have relationship with that person in their imaginary world.
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Oh *thank you thank you thank you* for not saying "Do this and they'll be gone!" Its so frustrating when people think its easy to rid them, it doesnt matter what you do, they wont stop! I too, looked for the magic words, I expressed them just as you say to my psychologist "Are there any three magic words to unlock this?" And no. No...
About what they want I have a group of them since 2 years back, everyone told me to get off the app we were on (they stalked me all over the internet on ALL platforms and we met on an app) but my intuition screamed "Find out whats wrong!" So I searched through the history of the chat in all places I could and found that their goal was to get me to committ suicide by hanging and when they had succeded, it would prove what master manipulators they were. So I called (this was a group of young persons on around 25-30) the leaders parents, I reported him to the police and I spread what they did on the app with print screens.
..Unfortunally it didnt stop them. And being off the app Ive tried before, didnt work either so the only way I see is making myself as invisible as possible by closing my accounts and as the years pass by maybe one day they'll tire..MAYBE. The sad part is theyre not only doing this to me but to others aswell, one of them a young guy who tried to commit suicide bc of it. Theyre demonically evil, these monsters. Theres NO mercy in them.
If its a "love" stalking situation then they actually think that they are the victim. The best thing is to just ignore them. Yeah telling them on social media in my profile wall to stop didnt work. They crave the drama and others can judge us for being brave by verbally assertive in a negative way back. Yep we have to be "the perfect victim" in a court room. But for most of us that's hard because we don't want to be victims. We just want to be left alone and stand up for ourselves so we are not considered weak.
Yes hear
This shit really scares me wtf
This whole time i was trying to make sense why I am cyber stalked in a discrete way and provoking me through their social media by subtle reference to my private online activities.. I was so wrong. There is no reason to make sense out of this nonsense. I kept on thinking what the hell they want from me by them collectively harassing me by having control on what I do online privately like online messages and laughing about my life w their friends on social media.. The true reason is that they have a sick mind.. Disgusting sick mind.
Iâve been stalked in this same manner for over 5.5 years. They messaged people on my socials to get them to screenshot anything not Public too, they send me messages to get my attention and react to anything public to get me to look at the hate their desperation. Theyâve stalked my partner and my family and done it to them too, to get me to look at them. Best thing ever was tossing social media and letting them deal with themselves. They get none of my energy or attention. I was insanely bored with their antics and they were doing nothing more than wasting my life.
I had to get the police involved they are stealing my identity to get me to react!!! Be careful stay on prayer đđđ
I put my ego aside and have been laying low until I move, I've been wondering if that's too far but you explained why it's really the only option for me right now. It's not bad i am privileged enough to be able to do this. Thanks for the info man it means a lot my life feels upside down but I have hope.
Do it if you feel well but donât let the guard down. They tend to follow you. I moved to Europe and he send a drone to my house to spy on me. Be cautious and aware of your surroundings besides enjoying your life.
It's all you can do is just lay low and prevent them gaining access to you as much as possible, it's hard because you shouldn't have to do this Why are other people somehow so entitled to live their lives freely but not someone else? you are too, but we humans are also so out of sight out of mind and get too used to things because of how things effect us and how it's directly involved in what we get used to and in the habit of doing. Even food that's not good for us if it's always there we're going to keep reaching for it until we completely remove it and get used to living without it, no matter how it tries to grab your attention again it's not going to because it's no longer there, it's been removed.
So starting to keep away from them as much as possible and making it as difficult as possible for them to get anywhere near you or so much as get in contact with you and draw your attention in will make them get used to not seeing or in their mind interacting with you. It's one mighty fixation they have like food, and as long as they feel they can keep grabbing a hold of you in some tiny way they'll keep going.
Remove yourself from all social media sites too and stay off them because if it's not this stalker there's far too many others on them too, and use different usernames on all the sites you use none of them with your name, date of birth, or any personal info in them. Don't put any info on any of the sites either just leave it completely blank and change the passwords on all the important sites at least once every 2 months. Text and call communication is adequate enough.
I feel like I've made all these mistakes. I've been stalked for 10+ years and I just don't know what to do. Even with my silence he just doesn't stop.
We are exactly in the same situation!! I've also been stalked by a delusional sick minded married male insect with two offsprings that got soooooooooooooo obsessed with me for a decade already and still doesnt want to stop!!! He stalked my computer, my conversation, my privacy, EVERYTHING to steal my unpublished ideas for its d*mn books and courses, copying what i like and do, and even makes its offsprings like the same thing as i like!!! A narcicist, a theft and a dangerous criminal, it keeps posting everything it does, its daily activity, its intimacy with its female insect, and also its "happy time" with its offsprings watching horror movies on its instagram, because it wants to match up with my liking to horror games!!!! So so so soooooo sick and disguting AF!!!!!! I can't tell you how utterly disgusted i am by its lowly behavior!!!! Hope it rots in hell soon and forever!!!!!
đąsame here..đą
Same here too. He has lots of money. I donât.
I am NOT going to do something bad and end up in jail, my ex is not worth it. That's what he tries to make me do by provoking me for decades. He and his followers!
He would love to see me get crazy and then he could call the police to collect me. No way!!! He is so pathetic psycho!! Stalking me with others for 30 years!!! He is seriously sick!!!!
You have to tell people to protect yourself just donât use their name on social media
I been stalked for four months. But since he is using context to do his "thing", its hard to expose him. He has waited for me in his car, and follow me to my car. Now at the gym, when ever he arrives I leave and the staff will call me when the "creep" leaves, and I'll go back to workout. I get the impression that these creeps want their victims to see them.
Definitely, it's all about the craving for attention.
I had a guy do that to me at the gym, pre pandemic. So, I carried a box cutter in my sports bra while I was working out. Then I went to the locker room to change from my tights to my wranglers. He was parked next to me and was watching me as he followed me out of the gym as I got into my vehicle, he saw me discreetly take the box cutter out of my sports bra and put it in the front pocket of my jeans. His eye got wide and I never saw him there after that. I have never told anyone this (not even my husband) let alone post it on U tube.
@@mtnwalkingdogwoman then you didn't get the attention of a stalker. Stalkers don't care about threats; because, most of them know the law. They know their limits. Just like they understand parking right next to you is not a crime, in the same manner they know steping out of the gym at your same hours doesn't mean he is violating any law; but you threating him, that...Mrs tough: is a crime.
@@michaeloswal9847 OK
@@michaeloswal9847 Yes you are right, they understand the law! Thank you for the information .
Body camera to stop Group Stalking.
Thereâs this one guy who comes into the cafe I work nearly 90% of my shift and comes in like 2-3 times during it and just always looks at me working. He never says anything but always smiles and orders and nearly every time he comes once my shift is done I see him standing around my bus stop and I go check what time the bus is coming at he always asks me âare you going home ?â EVERY SIBGLE TIMES Iâve had so many encounters like this and many every weirder where he followed me when I went to get ice cream. I never take this bus anymore I always walk cause heâs just there asking where Iâm going
I figured he was just a rlly weird guy in approaching women but then I was talking to my friends and they told me that itâs more concerning I donât know what to do
carefull.. those ones wqatch you go home and know where you live.. let ppl nkow this is going on. and neightbours!! im seriosu too many ppl take this not serious enough. get a pic of the person smehow also. just dont ever answer ur door at night. always keep vclose weaponn. and get camera for outside. wishing you protection
Thank you. Iâm 22, dealing with a 50+ year old man stalking me for a year now. My entire life has gone downhill since, canât even hold a job anymore Iâm so fearful and react aggressively easily. This person uses random accounts new numbers and calls weekly. Luckily no threats, but they are calculating and understands what he is doing it wrong. I feel scared for my safety, my nightmares have been horrible since he started stalking me.
People who stalk will try to get you to fixate on the smallest thing that you could potentially lose even virtually that you're in the habit of using or used to doing, they will make you panic and fear losing it in order to keep your attention on them and that they have so much effect on you. So you need to really sit down and breath and really get straight what you should realistically take seriously, what needs to actually be taken more seriously and what doesn't and for a start the internet doesn't warrant any kind of super serious reaction it's just not that serious lol.
Getting rid of your social media you wouldn't lose anything getting rid of those because we all know they aren't safe for anyone really and everything we say on it they sell it that's how these sites stay in business, i have none now except here on ytube and it doesn't effect my life in any way if not makes it better because anyone i don't want knowing doesn't know who i am, what i'm doing, or where i'm going and it's nice to be able to regain that again.
It's hard in the moment because they are seriously freaky making you feel so much anxiety and really violated, but you have to ground yourself only in the things that should really matter and that you should actually take more seriously because without it then every person is gonna be able to make you fixate on the smallest thing and make you fear losing it. You will lose nothing if it doesn't mean that much to lose.
I was stalk by strange women after I reported crime from another perpetrator and my story come out in the media.
I was stalk for 7 years and I have many stalkers. I reported it to the police many times.
But the authorities did nothing. Stalking was stopped when I fell ill with PTSD. The stalkers run away scare because they know they was the perpetrator!
Thank you for this video! I have been looking for answers of way for many years. Your video was the first who explain stalker in the same way I experience it. Your video was spot on!
I was stalked in my mid 20's. I moved to another area to get away from the idiot that was stalking me. I've never understood why he chose me because I wasn't the most attractive person around.
Put boundaries . No contact but know your surroundings. Donât trust just be safe. Usually they like empathetic people that seems very friendly and have not boundaries. They are cowards.
@@mariapilarme I have always struggled with asserting myself and setting boundaries.
You were the perfect person for that person. Take that as the only positive from this. Well. And that you took steps to keep yourself safe.
@@redelfshotthefood8213 My stalker was short, bald, wore dentures and was 30 years older than me. I doubt that I was the perfect person for him.
I always think that too "why me?" but really what they're zeroing in on is some kind vulnerability or naivety and lack of experience in these situations knowing you won't know what to do and how to react, even more sick when the vulnerability is anxiety and depression you can't just "fix" it will always be there with you and their behavior only worsens it and make you run for the hills, and they love that they're able to so easily unravel you in any way. It's sad but it's something it's a reaction because they never got any attention they needed from their parents and other family but it's never the right way to gain someone's attention.
Now with social media it's made people far worse with far more mentally ill people and completely insane encouraging stalking behaviors and making them view the internet as real life, and they react like if they don't see you post it online then it mustn't be true and even use the very fact you don't have any social medias like you're a bad person and completely psycho. It's why they will also stalk you places to find out what you're doing and where you're going because they can't see it online. People now freak out over the fact they can't see what other people are doing 24/7, god forbid when they do it's evidence of their mental health issues when they're unravelled over something so trivial and non of their business because they have so little control over their own lives, when they could always choose to leave the circumstances they're in if they wanted to.
Stalkers who start from your workplace or another location in real life it's a similar thing their lives feel so broken that they feel pulling you down to their level just to gain the slightest attention is right and because they think that's the right way to get what they want from people because most people these days have to raise themselves and learn what is right or wrong by themselves. Most parents don't care about what they go through or what they put them through in a system that's already unsafe and constantly in an unstable state messing with people's lives, so they're completely unsupported most of us get how that is these days but you don't see most of us behaving this way because we don't want to hurt other people.
They have to know it's not right but they're too stuck in bad patterns to currently see it and need help with their mental health issues, the main culprit of any mental health issues is anxiety problems so they need to address that otherwise... they should probs stay away from other people because they're just being a danger to everyone even if they don't see it as wrong.
My stalker has been stalking me for 4 years now, I donât know what to do anymore. Itâs like he is getting in a dangerous point now, threats are getting bigger
If u live in a gun country train your self and carry or learn some self defence techniques and carry a small knife turn the tables even bear spray or CS gas spray one has too have some kind off upper hand in these situations God bless
Hope you're okay. 4 years is just wild
I just found your channel tonight after looking for how to deal with a stalker, the 3 videos of yours I have watched about this has been SPOT ON, I was sitting with my mouth hanging open at how accurate you were with everything you said about the behaviour, build up, gang building, manipulation and lie spreading...please do some other videos on the subject....how do you deal with this when it's your neighbour!!!??..
I'd love to tell you a bit more and provide you with my experience and how I've dealt with it thus far, but after what youve said on your videos it has opened my eyes to the possibility of it being discovered, giving it attention to fuel the fire and used as an excuse to further escalate and cause me even more fear and distress....if that's even possible at this stage! I would like some more answers and advice though, legal route has been utterly useless and made me feel like a paranoid, delusional, crazy female...like you said all the small things look like nothing but put together it's utterly horrendous behaviour...I have hundreds of hours of video footage it's still not good enough !! Help
You are describing abuse ;being abused by someone . why is it almost impossible to get law enforcement to assist instead of ignore when a victim says they're being abused by a predator?
Exactly.All of us survivors need to rally and demand more action from police and politicians. Don't be silent! Be LOUD . Squeaky wheel gets the grease. I've decided to make this my life's purpose. Make it yours as well.Good luck and stay safer.
It threatens me to get attention and slander and confabulates. I cant tell what lies (mere fantasy) it believes, and what of the lies it understand is lies. It accuses me of being a narcissist.
It would have been nice if you addressed how stalking victims should proceed if police are being useless as per usual (in stalking cases). It's all good saying don't speak out in order to have the law look favourably upon you, but what if the Law ignores you? Do you stay silent and wait to become a statistic? Or do you speak out publicly naming and shaming the stalker and the department that let you down? I'd love to know your take on this. Love from: a stalking victim of 6 years, abandoned by the law and on the receiving end of threats of sexual violence and "grave danger". Thanks
Oh shit I am so sorry you have to deal with that, I hope the situation is any better?
I hope your doing ok now, or doing better. I know it's literally exhausting, and it changes your life. And not for the better, but that doesn't mean that u can't survive it. I had to change a ton about myself that was all good. But I will not stop helping people and better myself. I just have to live like a boring old man. But that's the best method. I can barely play my guitar because the stalkers think I'm playing to them. Its absolutely disgusting. I was a Victim of gang stalking for 4 years and its made to wear u down, they try to pump all this garbage in your head so u look crazy. But ur not, your just exhausted. So don't believe anything they try to get u to believe, because it's just a narcissist or group of narcassits I my case abusing me for enjoyment. I stopped being that person and became just an existence. Thats all that's left. I'll never be that same person again and I was doing was helping people. So I will continue to do that, because it's the right thing to do and my stalkes don't want the word to get out on the tools they employ, the things they try and get u to believe so even u report it u look crazy. Your not crazy, u can survive this. I know it's changed who u are and the threat is real, make sure u don't use ur name on social media to protect yourself from your stalker, make sure if u can take self defense class, and Cary pepper spray and a gun, or knife, any thing to defend yourself. Make sure u surround yourst with victims advocates, and get a therapist, because it helps to have someone to talk to. Because it's mentally exhausting dealing with a narcissist. They are dumb, u educated, and vile. They try to use the good u project in your world against u and become obsessed. I hope you are doing ok, and that your not alone. If u have talked to a victims advocate I would see if u can do so. I'm sure I'm got telling u anything new, but if u need anyone to talk to that's been through it, I will gladly help in anyway I can. Msg me if u need someone to talk to. Remember your not alone, and this isn't your fault. Peace and loveâ€
What if they just keep watching u,but dont commicate with technology?its so creepy đ„ș
It is a terrifzing way to live!
Thank you for this. "My" stalker does not understand that it is stalking. My stalker believes that I deserve to be stalked. Since my stalker has hacked my computer I can show it this video. It is impossible with the zero response rule for me, as anything I do can be interpreted as a response to the form of harassment, and I struggle ALOT with the zero response rule. The stalker pose a threat to basic human rights, and has issues with common sense ethics, aswell as is socially incompetent. Then it cant seem to separate what is prejudice and what is factuals. It does not understand what is knowledge and what is not knowledge. I fear rationally for breaching of other human rights, than "only" disrespecting sociality. The police is/will not help me out though. Very good video, very spot on!
@sam wyn I also had alor of trouble with the zero response. I had to change all this stuff in my life. And it wasn't bad or hurting anyone. I just had to find another method of being who I am and being happy. I work on it every day. And try my best to help anyone else going through this. I even had to learn not to talk to myself. I mean how weird is that? But it's one of the ways they would harass me. It's like he says they twist every thing you've ever done against u. And I. Proud of my life would change a thing because I wouldn't be here helping u right now. Of course I wish the stalkers would of never destroyed my life. But I can't change what they do I can only change my response. And I will continue to be happy and be myself. My stalkes want me to be happy in an enterating way but that's not how I am going to be happy. I am just going to exist. whatever it takes to help other people get through this, and whatever it takes to survive. If that means I'm the most boring man on the planet, I the Galaxy, then so be it. I'm just a breathing bag of bones then. If it keeps my son safe if it keeps me safe. Just remember to do the right thing. U can do this your not alone. I hope life is going better for u and you have found any kind of peace. I was hang stalked for almost 4 years if u need any one to talk to or if you need any advice please msg me. Peace and loveâ€
My ex has stalked and harassed me for 7 years. He has one end point, he wants me back. He will never stop. I block him and he just calls the police and they call me, or he will harass my landlord to the point where I am in danger of getting kicked out. We have two kids together so I have to talk to him, and he uses them to keep engaging with me and controlling me. I know one way to stop him, but I don't want to go to jail ( and believe me, that's the ONLY thing stopping me). I am fine ignoring him and even talking to the police, but it's the harassment to my landlord that I can't stand b
SO trrue, everything youve said! Ive been dealing with an extremely clever stalker ex husband, for literally 12yrs and hes only become more clever/insane over the years. Will not & can not simply leave me, my family & my life, alone! He lives, eats, breaths to stalk, manipulate, create scenerios, enlist others, because he feels & has said, ive ruined his entire life by meeting me & that im his enemy that doesnt 'deserve' any type of happy life due to my divorcing him. When these mentally unstable people say these things, they truly mean it, nothing & no one will or can stop them from stalking a victim, they are dangerous, monsters & a persons terrible luck of the draw should they accidentally become their target out of the thousands of other people the victim has came in contact with in their lives! They are exactly like serial killers!!
Sorry, they just wicked fullstop. And not very educated I'm sure. Such an unproductive use of time
I'm been stalked by my neighbours... N everything he's mentioning is so true.
Thank you sir. I live in Chicago IL
I have a stalker on my job he digitally stalks, physically stalks, and psychologically stalks. I have reported him but he will not stop. I think he is obsessed with me and I try to have as less contact with him as possible. I have done all I can to resolve the situation. In his sick mind he wants power and control. I think he is also jealous and intimidated.
We are the same!!! The lowlife male insect that's been stalking me for more than a decade knows every detail about my life and my privacy, do you have idea how they stalk us in all aspects of our lives??????
So true stalker don't think that thy r stalker,in their head I deserve their punishment by spying and stalking me everyday,day&night so horrible I didn't experience the day,thyr not around me
What kind of head this ppl r thinking if I analys their motive of stalkng it's so crazy, narcissistic psychopath
Imagine tht this miserable ppl want to control or manipulate others..while thy themselves cannot arrange themselves
the other issue is depending where you are from cops don't care like with my problem been going on for over 5 years and cops don't care when I call it's a waste
Damn it... This sucks. This "stalker" person will keep the strings in his/her hand until he/she dies then.
Yup. My ' mother' stalked me until she died. Now my other parent is doing it. They insisted they Love me. That's obsession, NOT love!!!! Police are my neighbors. It helps.
@@dafni10565 Sorry to hear that. Kinda into a bit similar family situation, so can feel ya. Really sorry for the things you lived and endured.
R they freemasons ?
How do you sop a cyber stalker,iPhone computer and WiFi plus land line?
I'm currently being stalked going on three years....no contact . . Neighbor ...the police said untill she really hurts me keep documenting. Believe she poisoned our dog a few months ago....very difficult situation. She does everything to try and engage me
No response or energy towards those people that's great advice the police do nothing. Yeah there going be around for awhile
Enjoying the drama hmm very interesting yeah I like this guy.
Alright zero response
Everyone joining in for the fun
My stalker is 23 and I'm 19, She has been stalking me since i was 8 years old. She was a neighbour and i met her and her sister on the street with other kids. We became friends and would often hangout, you know, kid stuff. When my mom decided they weren't good examples and said i couldn't hangout with my stalker and her sister, it became an online issue. To this day, she will make hundreds of fake accounts, follow my friends or even people i know and spread lies about me. She also steals my photos or photos of me and posts them. I'm losing hope. She will often stop for a period of time because I just in this past year learnt that responding to her will only fuel her. Although, it has slowed down, i know it will never stop. Is there any other advice for my particular situation?
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Just remember that you're not the only person they're doing it to no matter how much they try to make you feel like they only person in the world they're stalking, they do it to as many people as they possibly have time for. Honestly get rid of your social medias you don't need them to function in life you've got what's app, texting, phone calls, and email we don't need any more than that.
You're trying to gain approval from people too much still when you're posting what happens in your life online, you don't need to do this to yourself and instead you can just text or email the photos to people instead. Social media is the number 1 culprit these days for encouraging stalking and they even hold against your accounts online just to keep any amount of control over you and how you feel. People now fear the very notion that if they don't see you saying something on social media then they don't know what you're doing and so you must be lying or have some agenda for not having any sms it's crazy what it's doing to people.
I've grew out of all social media sites heck i would even leave ytube if it really came to that i don't care anymore, my freedom and the ability to be able to be myself and live life how i want to is far more important and when you're stalked and harassed to high heavens online and go through over highly oppressive and abusive behaviors you understand why your freedom is important.
OMG thank you so much for this Andrew, this is so so helpful to me. Police were as useful as chocolate fireguards, however, they have agreed if she continues and 'seeks me out' then the police will ... wait for it, caution her. My head is down and I intend to focus on me and my stuff. thanks
It's a sloooow process. First a police visit...then a caution...then a few more visits...then eventually referral to magistrates court for, after endless delays, absolutely nothing, then another mastrates visit and possibly a stern word....and on and on. Slowly escalating until eventually there is actually a crown court appearance.
Hang in there, it does get better eventually, I wish you all the best with this.