"Losing weight is self-hate!" | Fat acceptance Tik Tok cringe
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They always say that their movement is meant to be inclusive of disabled people too, but then they go ahead and treat us like trash the second it's convenient for them. I've lost friends when they accused me of "stealing fat resources" by wearing baggy clothing or using mobility carts in the grocery store, even knowing it was because of my disability.
and they mock people with eating disorders when (a) eating disorders are literal mental illnesses and (b) autistic people are largely represented among those with eating disorders.
That's no friend, a friend wouldn't do that. You're better off without them.
You need some new friends. Nobody should be discriminated against and this is coming from someone who has a deformity.
Plus using the word "stealing" seems like a missed opportunity for those wokesters to use the word "appropriate" cuz we all know how they like to talk about "appropriation"
Honestly their opinion is just gross
Love how she says "thin people can recover from trauma and move on". That's funny. You should tell that to my severely anorexic sister.
Oh wait, you can't.
Because she's dead.
I'm so sorry.
@@AnnieHarrison25 Thank you
I'm so sorry about your sister. EDs are horrible and some people don't have a clue how dangerous they can be.
F@ck that privileged bish.
Yeah these assholes have so much time to turn their life around but people with real problems barely have any time at all. Sorry about your sister
Oh my god 💔 I'm so so sorry for your loss 💔
Being fat IS a choice being disabled ISNT
it makes me so angry, my son has autism and he doesn’t get a choice in the matter. It’s not the same thing
Yeah, their efforts to attach their own problems to people who, through no fault of their own, suffer disabilities is just a weird sleight of hand. Their movement is incapable of standing on its own, so they try to attach it to the struggles of the disabled and systemically marginalized groups.
Another thing that fat activists have said that is related is when they call any effort to reduce obesity "eugenics". Being autistic too, it makes me so angry that they equate any effort to improve the health of people to the movement which wishes to eliminate autistic people from society. Hans Asperger actually sent many autistic children he worked with to the death by cooperating with the eugenicist Nazi regime. I have been able to lose weight, but I can't lose my autism.
you mean didn't appreciate the woman who spent her entire rant doing makeup while complaining about the "trauma" she experienced during a day in which she went out to eat with her boyfriend and shopped for clothes? She's clearly Oppressed!!!
I agree! Well said
Exactly. My cousin has Cerebral Palsy, but, per these people, she isn't the right kind of disabled because she isn't overweight/obese.
Is she SERIOUSLY describing dining out and shopping as oppression??
Yup
She wants to be a victim so bad for attention and sympathy
Eating out and shopping I call that fun I like eating out and going shopping
if shopping is so triggering then why does she go shopping? I hate picking clothes too so I order stuff online twice a year and that's it
@@amiapsychopat some of us like to get out it's discouraging not finding something in a store but there's always different stores
I swear some people want to be oppressed so badly. If a fat person loses weight, they are no longer considered fat. A POC will always be a POC. Our journeys are not the same.
Not true, a poc can go places where they are the majority/ oppressors ie blacks in South Africa,, Cambodian and Chinese in there respective countries, Arabic in Iran etc . A fat person wherever they go are still imprisoned in their bodies
@@mrsweetpotato4354this is such a dumb response. A POC will always suffer bigotry. How many fat people do you see being killed at the streets just by being fat? How many fat people do you see being followed by securities in a supermarket to just to make sure they won't steal anything?
@@mrsweetpotato4354oh no who’s gonna tell them about apartheid
@@mrsweetpotato4354a fat person can also lose weight
POC has zero meaning. non white people? you honestly thnink that's a group? It's extremely racist. Start being a man and stop using made up terms for a group that never existed.
"civil rights" movement for poc, queer people, disabled people.... and fat people???????? it is so clear she has no idea what civil rights are its truly infuriating
I remember when they finally passed a bill in 1976 allowing fat people to get married ✊🏽😔
I’m sure this woman would tell Dr. kimberle Crenshaw, a black woman who pretty much coined intersectionality as these FAs that she’s just some skinny b*** and her experiences don’t matter as much and she needs to be a better ally to marginalized bodies. Which means her middle-class white woman self.
@@srslee5966 LMAO 😂
Bruh- and a lot of fat people are racist and homophobic… (like Missouri people) 🙄
@@srslee5966 🌯🥗🍕🍟👰🏻♀️🤵🏻♂️
Anorexia nervosa has the highest rate of mortality of any psychiatric disorder. How freaking DARE anyone say that "thin people" can just easily recover completely for an eating disorder. The absolute disregard for others and total ignorance of reality in that statement is disgusting.
People can literally starve themselves to the point where their body rejects solid food, and said food could put the body through shock and kill them.
It's not easy to recover from being anorexic, Bulimic, etc.
Just like how it's not easy to lose weight, it's hard changing something that is ingrained into your lifestyle. There's gonna be sacrifice, there's gonna be pain, it's just that a lot of people don't want to put the effort in, and want to resign themselves to the path they already started down on.
@@citizenvulpes4562you’re so right. I’ve been on and off with relapse in my ED, and at my worst, (I won’t share too many details bc they could be triggering) I remember not eating for so long that I was terrified to finally put food in my body. I woke up feeling so sick I threw up before I could even eat something. I was terrified that I had seriously harmed myself and I ate breakfast so, so slowly.
But like you know, that’s totally rational and mentally sound behavior and I should be able to just snap out of it and get over it! Because being skinny makes my so easy and I should just look at myself objectively and ignore body dysmorphia… lol
I have been dealing with an eating disorder for 8 years now and it will forever stay with me. I am 21 now and Even days where I feel like I’m doing better I feel sick and cry looking at food. I hate what I see in the mirror and even the taste of food makes me ill It is not “easy” or “privilege” it is fucking hell.
For someone to sit there doing their fucking makeup and putting others down is so fucking annoying.
@@citizenvulpes4562it’s easy to lose weight once you commit to it. It’s a mentality thing
The whole point is to literally be the "biggest" victim.
Imagine having the kind of privilege that allows you to complain about your experience eating out at a restaurant and then clothes shopping 😂🙄
I went to her TikTok and saw countless comments about how she has no clothes because she doesn't like going to stores and everytime she orders them online, they never fit. So she had no choice but to go to Target because she was tired of having to wash the clothes she did have. 🤦🏽♂️
@@DavidKen878 That's a facepalm moment indeed.
The best time to wear a striped sweaterrrr is all the tiiiiime
These people make me sick. They don't take care of their bodies, then they whine that the world doesn't bow down to them and the consequences of their actions.
Anyone remember the good old days when the body positivity movement Was about loving yourself even if you have acne, body hair, Cellulite, Scars, etc ?
I remember, wish we could turn back time
to me it is still that, people these days are intolerable and entitled
i genuinely hope enough people can get together, and flood body positivity hashtags with these types of images again, and drown out all of the FA activists who robbed it
Yup. The plot got so fucking lost
Pepperidge Farm remembers 😢
Omg, you do NOT need trauma to have an eating disorder! You can develop an eating disorder for nearly any reason. It's not PTSD, trauma is not required!
yes! also they seem to think eating disorders, particularly restrictive EDs, solely exist because of wanting to be thin when the reality is that more often than not it's a need for control
Yeah seriously. Is it commonly caused by trauma? Yes. Is that the only way you can develop an Ed ? No . Do Ed’s have to be centered around being thin? Also no.
These people drive me crazy
You can even develop a restrictive ED because of stress 🤣🤣🤣 literally ALL reasons are valid. Some people develop it because they want to look child like. Because children get love. It's so much fucking deeper than "you want to be thin". As someone who fought Ana so fucking hard for so fucking long and is proud to be in recovery no matter how hard it is she makes me fucking sick.
@@rumyanaromelova643 i didn't know i was ana when it started because food was used as punishment my whole life to the point that i threw up literally everything i ate, even water, so i stopped eating to prevent all that. Then it got worse
Keep in mind, she counts looking at calories on a menu at a restaurant as trauma lol
"I have actual trauma. I have nightmares from fatphobia."
Tell me you live a privileged life without telling me you life a privileged life.
You would think with all this trauma and nightmares she would of lost the weight but no lol
@@Knockouts_Republikshe's not scared enough to lose weight, just enough to complain on tik tok 💀
@@Knockouts_Republik Exactly! But of course she didn't, because her "trauma" is as real as "fatphobia". Hell, even the spellchecker doesn't recognise the term! LoLL
The word 'trauma' oh and 'toxic' desperately need to be reexamined.
This is neither traumatic nor toxic. I'm speechless at the absolute privileged , complete lack of self awareness and nauseatingly self-centered actions shown here :(
Her trauma comes from fatphobic chairs. She’s pathetic and fragile, it’s honestly embarrassing.
18:30 "Thin people can heal and recover from trauma. You can move on." And you can lose weight. Y'know, since it's so easy and simple right?
As someone who had to get treated at a mental health facility for an ed and needed to follow that up with a consistent diet routine afterwards, this makes me so angry!!! My ed didn’t disappear the moment I went home from the clinic. It took a YEAR of work to get back to a 110 pounds (50kgs) and return to healthy eating habits. The mental and physical consequences still linger on but my fear of being that miserable ever again in my life is bigger. You can heal and recover, but it’s a tough fight. People can lose YEARS of their life to eds. I spent two years collapsing everywhere, throwing up randomly, forcing myself to eat, losing hair, freezing even in warmer temperatures, growing lanugo and absolutely hating my own reflection. Not to mention the months where I had to drink these special shakes so my body could execute basic functions. This is extremely ignorant. I couldn’t go anywhere sometimes, because I could literally not even get up!! So many times I had to lay down somewhere to rest because my body couldn’t handle even a 4 minute walk.
"Having enough food to BECOME fat is a privilege." Thank you!!!! This person is insane. How can someone be so delusional?
No, being able to lose weight and paying less for seats and treated mostly better by people of smaller size and boasting how pretty u are on social media is privilege
@@fatacceptancepride I am a Type 1 Diabetic and feel like my relationship and "privilege" when it comes to eating, food, carbohydrates, etc. is very apt as it pertains to this conversation. I have to calculate the carbohydrates of everything I eat, plus calculate the speed at which they will process, minus the grams of fiber - to calculate how many units of insulin I need to inject to stay alive every day. I either have a glucose monitor - a technological device glued onto my body with a canula (small tube inserted into my body with a significant, painful, obtrusive, obvious, and awkward) attached to me that I need to insert/replace every 10 days. Or, I need to prick myself 7-10 times a day to check my blood sugar. Either way, I give myself 7-10 injections a day to keep myself alive. If I miscalculate those carbohydrates, or due to stress, sickness, hormones, or infection, it ends up one of two ways:
1) Low blood sugar causes me to profusely shake, sweat, and feel drunk (without the fun), become cognitively impaired, lay on the ground and unintentionally take off my shirt. This can happen at T-JMaxx, at my kid’s extracurricular, right before a meeting I need to present, or while driving. The last one is particularly dangerous, as it is not uncommon for Type 1’s to be assummed a DUI, arrested, taken to jail, and to die or experience severe brain damage before the authorities recognize it is a medical emergency as opposed to a “delinquent” under the influence of drugs or alcohol. This often happens in the middle of the night, so I just LOVE waking up in this state, frantic in the middle of the night, adrenalin coursing, then attempting to get up in the morning the next day for kids and work. Oh, and this can happen multiple times a night. I’ve sat on my kitchen floor and eaten more than a cup of raw sugar within 15 minutes to keep from passing out or needing to call an ambulance. I’m already in so much medical debt just to keep up with my supplies, and I even have good insurance according to US standards!
2) High blood sugar. I am groggy, thick, thirsty, I pee often, I sleep poorly, my hands feel like they are hot and stuffed with cotton balls (don’t ask me, that’s the best description I can give). When this happens it is hard to focus, I get a headache, I just keep falling asleep. Definitely not as acute as the low blood sugars, but much more damaging long-term.
So, it’s pretty normal for me to have to eat sugar, at any time of the night or day, even if I am stuffed full. Or, I am forced to abstain from a gorgeous, thoughtful meal because my blood sugar is too high to eat. Even If I'm the one who prepared the meal. I have to wait for hours, awkwardly declining food and explaining my medical condition to strangers. I loath the thanksgivings where I was so excited to eat, and had to watch, with my stomach growling. I absolutely CAN NOT eat fast food often. It is a luxury, once every couple of weeks maybe? Because it throws blood sugars completely out of whack. Trust me!
I am conventionally skinny, but I am statistically likely to die before most everyone on this page. I have neuropathy in my eyes, my feet, and my hands. My feet burn like fire sometimes when I sleep, it keeps me awake, just another thing.
When I have an insulin pump (which looks like a pager but is connected to my body with a long tube) I have to figure out how to manage it with my clothes. How do I attach it when I am wearing a dress? I bought an expensive garter-type thing to hold it. Gotta reach under it regularly in front of co-workers to check my numbers. Pants? Must have pockets. Don’t? I dunno? Just carry around a pager attached to your tummy with a tube all day? Every time you’re intimate? Gotta disconnect the devices, and ignore the constant beeps because you’re disconnected from the device? Yeah. Men just love the FUN of dating me!
I have to present an informal biology lecture before I ever date or become intimate with anyone. I need fast carbohydrates that someone can feed me at any moment - yes, at ANY moment.
I think of myself when I think of body positivity - devices, tubes attached to my body, scars from years of injections. I cannot leave any of this at the grandparents for a date night. I cannot change my diet or activity level to fix this. I know it is not rational, but sometimes I envy Type 2 Diabetics. It is extraordinarily complex, and it is exhausting to educate people constantly. Honestly, none of what I mentioned is the hard part. The most difficult is dealing with multiple, VERY expensive devices and prescriptions, the logistics of getting those delivered at the only pharmacies they will approve, in enough time to cover your needs, and fighting with or paying for the costs of insulins, test strips, infusion sets, glucose monitors, lancets, 2 different kinds of insulins, etc. It is a mind-*uck on an epic, never-ending scale.
So no, I’m sorry. Your inability to find cute clothing and your emotional distress, because all public places don’t cater to every imaginable body size, is not a relatable or unenviable life experience to me. Body-positivity was created for ALL people with a different body or challenging experiences as it relates to their body, not just the “Fat Acceptance Crowd” and I am very hesitant to say, but sometimes I feel like FA has co-opted a well-meaning movement. God, I'm gonna get torn apart for this, eh?
@@fatacceptancepridetaking a walk is free
@@fatacceptanceprideanyone can lose weight. You literally just need to eat less and do more.
There are tons of very valid and insidious reasons we become fat here in the West and the US in particular - we are surrounded by the most addictive food that has ever existed in human history and the constant grinding stress of the modern world makes that shit even more tempting, but if you know this shit, you can start to develop the coping skills you need to navigate them without falling victim to them as much.
Learn to take power in actually exerting agency, resist meaningfully. Your body size probably isn't 100% your fault, but it is 100% your responsibility.
@@fatacceptanceprideif you just loose you'll get privilege?? It's in your control , but society isn't, you can't change people's perspective just because you demand it. I have severe pcos and struggle to loose or maintain my weight. If I don't I will DEFINITELY HAVE HEALTH ISSUES, I had them too. But you know what I chose to act on it not whine about someone else's prettiness on social media. I'm still unattractive but at least I don't lose all my hair and have arrhythmia Hun. Which is better whining and expecting society to see you as victim or ADAPTING and changing yourself. Can't believe you people playing victims. Seriously a first world problem. 😢
Diet culture is a multi billion dollar industry - who’s gonna tell her about the fast food industry? ☠️
Weird.... buying less cookies chips and soda is not encouraging any industry...
I also love how they constantly say “I’ve recovered from my eating disorder.” Like you still have an ED girl.
Yea! Like you just swapped your previous ed with another one
Right they just think disordered eating is eating little to no food. Like no , ED’S also is including BED/overeating especially large amounts of food to the point you’re 300 pounds like it’s ridiculous
"thin people can get over their trauma" I am thin and I am still trying to work through childhood trauma and working through a serious phobia. Dealing with trauma has nothing to do with body size
I LOVE when they always talk about the multimillion dollar diet culture but always fail to bring up the fast food industry that’s also profiting off them 🙄
Fr good point
Bingo
The narcissism and self centeredness of this movement really runs counter to its claims of social justice, equity, and progress
I swear there has to be something there between narcissism and these folks. Studies need to be done.
Narcissistic Delusion?
It’s the only thing that runs in that community
It's narcissism to believe you're in a position to "educate", someone as such an idea assumes that there is no possible chance of the other party being correct. She's out of her fucking mind.
@@datchickwiththeface2523 I love vague user names like yours, I mean look at my own lol. That aside however, your joke was next level lol
My oldest daughter was 100 pounds overweight and decided that she wasn't going to jeopardize her HEALTH for the rest of her life.
She lost every ounce of that extra 100 pounds carefully, slowly, and correctly over a period of 3 years by completely changing the way she lived her life, not just what she ate.
I'm 100% proud of her...and I've never seen her HEALTHIER, more beautiful, and with greater self esteem and confidence.
That’s fantastic
Wow
Finding everything to be offended about must be so exhausting for her 😮💨
"Thin people love to project their insecurities onto us"
WOW that is a severe case of "the pot calling the kettle black" situation lol
They're doomed to be stuck in their fat Matrix.
Projection. Projection. Projection. Projection 😂
The irony.
Not only is it ironic for her to even say that but its also very hypocritical too!
It's like how narcissists are often the first people to call someone who criticises them, a narcissist. (So many fat activists are raging narcissists).
This entire movement is so disrespectful to actual minorities who face genuine oppression 💀
Exactly and I challenge them to travel to a country that oppresses their own people daily.
They even have terms like "internalized fatphobia" like internalized homophobia, mindblowing.
There's no oppression in the US, you work hard you can be what you want
@@AspireGMD bloody fucking hell 💀
@@debbieschjoth7405 insane thing to say
I get so angry when they use disabled people in their arguments. And the part where the girl complained how hard it is to go shopping… I mean… Try living ONE day in a wheelchair. But I still do not see myself as a victim when society doesn’t do everything for me. I am thankful for living in a country where I get to live, get health care, state funded taxi rides,and SO much more. Being bitter and angry at the world does not improve my life or my health. There are so many nice people out there, ready and willing to help those in need.
Also. I did not choose to be in a wheelchair. I did not choose this life. She choose her body size. Gaaahhh
Thank you for your intelligent content ❤
“You have to open to criticism from fat people”
But the moment we criticise her, comments are turned off or she can’t take it.
Exactly. Her and the toxic body positivity movement are hypocritical.
You know what makes me go absolutely batshit? THEIR privilege. I live in an undeveloped country and having a car, having the money to fill up your tank, eating out and buying clothes is so, so hard. You have to work a full month just to survive, let alone have these PRIVILEGES.
So you live in Florida?
I'm joking. But seriously, I'm guessing you live somewhere like Belize?
I just moved from a developing country to America for better opportunities and I'm literally starving to death becuz I barely have enough money to eat, most of the money I have goes to rent. Finding a job is difficult becuz of the economy but ofc she's more oppressed than me becuz she's fat and I'm not 😶I wish I had the money to go to target, buy clothes and eat out 😒
@@annas3076 oh dear, I'm sorry to hear that... If it helps, I'd recommend finding a Brazilian community around you, I'm sure they will help if you ask, we are very welcoming people. I wish you all the luck in the world, just keep living a day after another and eventually things will get better, I promise.
@@sunilsameer1080 Florida? NEVER. Too many crocs and alligators, I'm scared to death of those. I live in Brazil, which, of course, isn't the worst country in the world, but damn God, is it hard to survive here... Everything costs a fortune and you can barely eat rice, beans and eggs everyday with a minimum wage. If you pay rent, forget about ANYTHING, you will have to live to have a roof over your head. But still, I'm grateful for what I have and I'm working on building more, I will get there.
@@gamayundoom omg thank you so much 😭😭😭your comment brought tears to my eyes. My mental health has been horrible as well and I miss my home and my community. Thank you so much for being kind 💕 💗
If a genie showed up and said she could magically be and maintain a BMI of 19 with a snap of their fingers, I have 0 doubt she would. She reeks of jealousy and tearing people down who can do what she can't. What a poisonous coping mechanism.
Most people who act like her are insecure. I've dealt with people like her in real life and they're insufferable.
And then she would make a tiktok titled " why I did it.(it's not what you think)" and then say " I did it because I'm tired of all the oppression I was facing and it's NOT because I wanted to stop being fat. I'm NOT FATPHOBIC.". abd then some other fat activist would call her FATPHOBIC and disgusting. And that she should shut up now that she is not fat anymore. I can imagine it all it's hilarious 😂😂
Nah, she’d just make everyone else fatter instead. She’s trying to change everyone else instead of herself.
@@WaitingxInxSilence this x100. This breed of fat acceptance ideology is based entirely off of crying about everyone else not wanting to coddle your insecurities and validate your total lack of personal accountability.
That's actually true for the 100% of this group!!! There is not even one single soul on this fat-acceptance paranoia that wouldn't want to become magically thin! Just pure meaness and envy! It's actually pathetic watching them lying to themselves to the extent of paranoia!
Damn, with the amount of energy she expends saying "fatphobic" every 2 seconds, she should be at her ideal weight by now.
As a wls patient, I shared my journey openly on my blog, IG and even CZcams. My IG community was HARSH. Fatphobia is real, but a lot of the things they claim as Fatphobia are not. My weight loss triggered many people, they're not ready for honest conversation though. I still lived in a 500 lb body... that experience doesn't go away after weight loss. Smh it's insane
I am so proud of you ❤️💙❤️💙❤️😘
Dieting leads to heart disease??
Imagine doing your makeup in front of an expensive camera in your warm home listing all the ways you were mildly inconvenienced that day with no limitations of free speech or access to the internet placed on you, claiming you have a lack of privilege and you’re entitled to the undying, unconditional emotional support of complete (potentially less well off) strangers.
This is well said and I wish she could see this comment.
THIS. THIS IS THE ONE.
And she has BF too! I have no fucking idea what is wrong with her life. She has everything yet she creates these issues to whine about. Like.. wtf gurl?
@@MagMaybe because she's a white girl in a straight relationship, of course she had to find something to make her ''oppressed''
Totally, but you forgot the part where she tells everyone to shape their lives around her so she feels comfy and not tRiGgErEd lolol
The pure audacity to start a video with “thin people take a look at my day and think about how privileged YOUR life is compared to mine” and to begin the story with “well we started our day with Red Robin and target.” I’m honestly flabbergasted lmao. Thin my whole life, and there have been points where a $3 order of cheese sticks felt like the splurge of a lifetime. Target was out of the question; that was upper class Walmart and I plainly didn’t have that kind of money. Dollar general was more my speed. Growing up we often needed assistance from the food bank. Perpetual victim hood is its own specific brand of mental illness and delusion that is absolutely infuriating to me.
THIS! I’ve gone a day or two in the past with no food because I couldn’t afford anything! And I’m more privileged because I am poor and thin? While you spend your days eating to YOUR hearts content? I genuinely dont understand what is happening to our world anymore it’s all a sick joke.
Yea but did you know there are calories on menus. What could possibly be more traumatic than that?
This is insane to me. To call my struggle a privelege is beyond infuriating. There are times when we didn't have dinner because my salary didn't came on time, we have to stretch our groceries, I always worry if me and my family will have food to eat the next day, I have lost my social life because I can never go out whenever my friends want to because I simply can't afford it, I'd be lucky if I can even afford fast food once a week, I still wear my winter clothes cause I can't afford to get new ones for summer... its insane.
Perpetual victim hood is absolutely a mental illness. You can't have a useful conversation or do anything to save yourself from yourself when you're hyper focused on placing the blame anywhere external. You just end up fooling yourself into redesigning the world in your mind to be something that personally hates you.
These comments kind of kill me because I am overweight with a food addiction and I am fighting to eat healthy and work out every day. And hearing how people are struggling to buy food and pay rent at the same time just makes it clear how fcked it is to say someone who has access to excess calories is in a worse state than someone who is fighting to get enough 😢 like it’s horrible!! It’s so disturbing and messed up to say that to people who are struggling just because you think they look better than you!!
As a disabled person, I wish my biggest struggle in life was a “lack of access to clothing” LMAO
She’s fat (something she *can* change about herself) and cries about not being able to find clothes. I’m short (something I *can’t* change about myself) and I can rarely find pants that fit me. Should I start crying online and complaining about target discriminating against short people?
LOL this shit is ridiculous.
They make petite sizes but they only come in like xl and under and they make plus sizes that's what section I buy stuff in plus size
Omg this girl is so ridiculous she's just dead set on being an oppressed victim!
That’s the name of the game today. Who can cry how they are the biggest “oppressed victim” because blah blah blah!!!!
@@ninairish763 America, also known as the Victim Olympics.
@@AspireGMD ha!!!! So true!!! It’s all about who can win the gold medal for the biggest “victim” or most “oppressed” today!
Bro I agree with the guy who lost weight. It’s ridiculous that these people try to take down people who lost weight. These people at this point these people should just have a neon sign above themselves saying, “I’m jealous of thinner women because I feel like they get more things because they are thinner, so therefore I want to bring them all down a peg just to make me feel better about being jealous”
Fr they claim to be all about self love and positivity and then they get mad when someone is happy with themself, its so ridiculous
I lost a lot of weight from a digestive issue and I'm jealous of the people that did it properly too, haha. Look how healthy and happy they are and my noodle arms over here can barely show them some fingerguns of appreciation lmao. These seething activist tiktokers are so off putting... All the effort they could be bettering themselves with...so much wasted time.
Or worse, lost weight and got in shape. I've gone from 215 to 157 and gained a nice set of arms and pecs (I'm male). Even a few of my larger male acquaintances (not friends) have made some extremely inappropriate comments that are clearly motivated by jealousy.
Ppl need to be not so sensitive.
They are totally "Crabs in a barrel"
I am a 14 year old girl, I was 170 pounds. Now I am 158 pounds. I am so proud of myself. I never lost this much weight before. I wanna lose more. I remember looking at the mirror and seeing my stomach smaller. Not a big change but it looked smaller.
Forthe fat people saying I am fat phobic. I am gonna get my dog and run up the mile hill because I at least can run a mile with my German shepherd because what they gonna do huh? Chase after me or something?
Good job kiddo ignore them bully's there just jelly
You tell them girl!
Atta girl! That’s the spirit!
It's amazing you're working off that weight young! 20s, 30s, and 40s you will be more than thankful. Take it from a 22 year old just getting into the 150's range
You are strong, and you are beautiful! I'm proud of you! Also LOL on the last sentence 😂
they want to be oppressed so bad 💀
Losing weight isn’t self hate, it’s quite the opposite, it’s self love
her "day in the life of a fat person with an eating disorder" was just so overblown and woe is me in tone that i honestly found it comical. every minor inconvenience is a sign that the entire world hates me! my skin is paper and my bones are glass!
Very ableist to leave out falling asleep to her own heart attacks every night.
It’s honestly impressive how she could victimize herself with every action she did within that day.
I think if people are so sensitive that everything triggers them they ought to stay inside.
I dated a girl that was thin but had this kind of victim mentality. It’s making me feel like this attitude generally is common with narcissists
this is common with restrictive eds. we tend to see every minor thing as a sign that we should starve. but she doesn't seem to realise that it's the eating disorder talking and instead thinks that the world is against her
The fat acceptance movement is, according to the BITE model, defined as a cult. Take that how you will. 🤷🏻♀️
Why is it a cult? Just because they block out all counter information and encourage others to do so? Is it because they denounce anyone who loses weight? Is it because they invent their own language and demand that others adopt it? Is it all of the above? Yes. It's a cult.
Omg I've been wanting to check it against the BITE model and haven't gotten around to it, it certainly makes sense, especially with the vitriol against "former fata" aka ex-members
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Before this video, I would’ve thought that this movement hits all points on the model, excluding behavioral control, but the woman who spoke around the 16 minute mark made it very apparent that they act in that category too.
It definitely sounds like "they're drinking the Kool Aid".
Part of both body positivity and body neutrality is accepting that nothing anyone does with their body is any of your business. People can lose or gain weight, adorn their body with art, seek gender affirming body changes, seek out body modification, for any reason or no reason whatsoever because you do not owe your body to society
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Marvin (the boyfriend) looks like he's never won an argument against her, even if he was right. She sounds like a nightmare.
The way she's implying in the beginning that she is more marginalized than Mark (the content creator in the beginning of the video who was proud of his weight loss), who is openly gay is laughable. Basically saying "you're not oppressed enough to feel positive about your body, unlike me." She is utterly tone deaf and her victim complex has made her completely delusional and self-centered.
I’m so glad someone said this, I couldn’t believe the audacity 😭
THIS lmfao I’ve also noticed it’s only fat white women that say the movement is FOR poc/woc…..hmmmm wonder why💀 it couldn’t be that they’re just using real oppressed individuals to fuel their validation…nahhh couldn’t be that….
Bopo is not for marginalized anybody. Its for fat white women to demand attention and validation that they don't otherwise get. The bitterness about her ex FWB is pretty apparent.
You might be gay but I'm fat 🙄🙄
Never mind the gay people who have actually been tortured or killed for their sexuality
That self-victimization monologue was terrifying. She literally described having what would have easily been a lovely day out with her boyfriend had she decided to stop hyper-focusing on her insecurities and projecting every intrusive thought onto her surroundings as if every time she feels triggered it is some slight against her. She needs to take all that energy she's putting towards being angry at literally nobody and go to therapy.
I find it cringy on how people talk to the internet while they’re with their families/partners/friends/etc.😭Idk just something about it.
@@LLCoolJ_25 me too especially when they are made to greet the camera on cue 🫣
I'm sure I could argue that what I see out on a date with my boyfriend is, in some way, a slight against me. However, I really just enjoy when we can go out together. Even if it's not to Target and just the grocery store, we always seem to find a way to just appreciate the little things. It's really sad to be in a state where you seemingly prevent yourself from enjoying the good things because you've become obsessive with the potential bad.
I just watched this out of curiosity and and I'm stunned and offended by her thinking. This girl knows nothing about oppression and trauma. Who is this nutcase? She talks a lot but makes absolutely no sense. If she was really honest with herself she'd find out how miserable, unhappy and stupid she really is. I'm out. She's ridiculous and a very sad girl. She vomits jealousy.
i love the amount of mcr hereee
I’m not exactly thin but watching her infuriated me. You’re SO ON POINT by saying how privileged she is to be able to afford to be fat!!! It’s true! People have no money for food, people with kids even struggling to feed them or find homes. Especially actually marginalized black communities that are discriminated against when it comes to housing, assistance with food, things they need to live and they’re out here bitching about this trivial shit! It’s gross!!
I hate how they include this with racism! It’s not the fucking same!!!!
She said thin people love projecting their insecurities on to fat people while literally projecting her insecurities! Then she went on to say the world is built and catered to thin people's insecurities but it's just more projection cus that's exactly what she wants for herself. These rants and this anger all just lead back to their jealousy. It's pathetic how deep they are in their willful delusions.
"You can't talk to or about us because you aren't fat anymore." but "Being fat is a traumatic experience that will never leave me." augh ! what ?? girl ?????
They always forget to tell us why we should give a damn.
Haha from someone that was 230lbs and is now 112lbs people absolutely say this to me. It baffles me every time.
“You can’t speak on fat issues. You’re skinny.”
“Well I was fat, my whole life actually.”
“Well you’re skinny NOW.”
“So me being skinny for 5 years takes away the fact I was fat for 20?”
“WELL YOURE FATPHOBIC FOR LOOSING WEIGHT DO YOU REALLY THINK FAT PEOPLE ARE SO DISGUSTING YOU HATE LOOKING LIKE US?”
“Well…yeah lol. That’s why I lost weight to look better and feel better.”
“WOOWWWWWWWWWWW”
Ooooh, this is true. When I lost 70 pounds, someone referred to me as “skinny” and I balked. Whether I lose a bunch of weight or balloon up, I will always be fat. Growing up, you experience so many formative times, and I have been fat for every single one of them, so yeah. That’ll never leave me. I can speak on it.
They want any excuse to act like Lane Bryant-Sized Regina George from mean girls.
And I'd say that the formerly fat have the most authentic voices to criticize the Fat Acceptance movement, which is why people like this go to any length to silence and invalidate them.
@@deborahl3083 experiences never leave, unless you’re thin of course :)))
I have trauma and I used to act like a douchebag because of it. Here’s a hard lesson everyone needs to learn:
YOUR TRAUMA DOES NOT GIVE YOU A FREE PASS TO HURT OR HARASS PEOPLE WHO DIDN’T HURT YOU
It’s your trauma, they’re your issues, and you have no right to inflict that pain on other people. Get therapy.
Thank you!!
say it louder for the people in the back!!
exactly!! trauma may explain actions, but never excuse them.
True, and also can we stop labeling every single negative life experience as trauma?
This girls problems wouldn’t go away, no matter her body type.
She is marginalized because she wants to. Nothing we can do 🤷🏻♀️
Their thought process is extremely toxic. I literally laughed out loud when she said thin people project their issues on fat people.
Congratulations on your loss!
@@JayMich29 huh
The audacity of her to say that "Thin people project their issues on fat people". It's like are you kidding me? You are the ones who demonize people who loose weight and think you have the authority to tell them they can't talk about it online essentially because you are too lazy, jealous, insecure and unmotivated to change.
it would be funny if it wasn't kinda pathetic
Unattractive, unhealthy people will always have an excuse to feel slighted by fate. The world is unfair, and life can be harsh. How one handles the shorter end of the stick is a test of character. The entire "My obesity is your burden" idea is nothing but attempted escape from responsibility. No one is obligated to be attracted to you no matter what you look like.
"Thin people can -eat more- heal and recover from their eating disorder, but I can't -eat less- heal and recover from mine" - That lady.
18:50
This limp biscuit just said with HER ENTIRE CHEST "Anorexia isn't the most deadly mental illness"
I know I'm late to the game but this got me extra spicy kinds of heated.
Even if it wasn't, she has absolutely no room to talk.
What a sad, toxic little soul. Full of rage directed at anyone except herself (except maybe in a few honest moments). The aggression, foul language and fake-friendliness fail to cover up the darkness inside. I would suggest therapy but I worry about the therapist!
Especially a thin therapist
I tried debating with her a few months ago in her comments. I made sure to be polite and simply explain why I don't believe she is right. She ended up stopping replying and blocking my mutuals who weren't even involved in the discussion.
I do mention that I'm a queer disabled woc who struggled with both ends of eds for 7 years now.
It's "listen to marginalized bodies" until we don't agree with their narrative.
Hey, sorry but what does woc stand for? I've never seen it before (genuine questio)
@@Glitchibo Ahhh thank you!
man you’re so unlucky
she also says skinny people can support fat peoples voices, but the moment I say I support you (or anyone who doesnt agree with her) I no longer have a place in the conversation.
An ‘intersectional’ movement until those intersections disagree. Don’t worry, we all know that these idiots don’t speak for anyone other than themselves. Take it easy.
I tapped out after the "exist in marginalized bodies" honey, fix your mess then move along. Despicable.
I immediately dismiss anyone who refers to themselves as "living in bodies." It's just really stupid language designed to distance themselves from responsibility for their own health and appearance.
Nowadays everybody needs a movement, irony being that fat acceptance doesnt move
It sounds like some people don't wanna take accountability for their behavior and blame everyone else.
Amen!! Well said.
Also fat people are the ones who stole the movement
The people that talk about being oppressed have no idea what oppression is .
I hate when they say that fat people are the minority when in my country (England) 63% of adults are classed as overweight/obese. That doesn't sound like a minority group to me.
"These clothes are ugly"
Not every outfit will be appealing to anyone
And as if they're entitled to clothes they think are fashionable lmao they will literally look for shit to complain about, then when people finally cave and give them what they want, they go and find something else to complain about
@@moonlit-river yup! It's goal posts moving. Also we don't make the clothes ugly on purpose. Theres a bunch of things that just are a nature of the beast thing
@@moonlit-river there’s just so many ways for a really fat body to distribute fat. You could have an hour glass figure, pear shaped figure, apple, etc. there’s just no way to make something that’s a size 22 and up flattering to everyone. They should just get shit tailored to them like the rest of people with odd body proportions, or suck it up and just lose weight
This whole "movement" - just 3 words:
Misery loves company
They're jealous and miserable of their own lives, so they take their own insecurities out on others.
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Not even halfway in and I've increased my goal weight from 160 to 135. Going to love the idea of being -100lbs! 3 months to go! Videos like this are fuel 🔥 thanks
it's honestly terrifying how delusional these people are.
they need therapy asap. being triggered by shop arrangements and shapewear existing? thinking that everyone owes them their support or otherwise they're "fatphobic" ? it's crazy
I swear, every one of these videos where they openly claim that body POSITIVITY was never about self-love deserve to be tagged with "Whoa there, buddy, you're reaching so hard that your fellow Fat Activists might think you're exercising!"
Ahem. "Joyful movement"
Goddamnit, I'm literally laughing out loud on the bus! 😆 These people stare at me enough, already, and now look what you made me do!
"you're reaching so hard that your fellow fat activists might think you're exercising"!! 🤣🤣
LOL.🤣🤣.. I still do not understand why self-love is so bad? And the FA group actually hijacked the Body Positivity movement which was meant for people that are missing limbs etc.
@@sabrinafavoriti4163 the Body Positivity movement can trace that term back to the non-profit org, The Body Positive, which was founded in 1996 by two affluent slender white women: Connie Sobszak, a retired fashion model and recovered anorectic, and Elizabeth Scott, a clinical psychologist. It was founded, in part, to honor Ms Sobszak's late sister, another fashion model, who died from complications with her own AnaNerv.
The goal of The Body Positive is to create a healthy body image, in conjunction with a healthy relationship with food and exercise, and stress whole body health, both mental and physical, over appearances. Yes, this was to naturally include those with physical disabilities and impairments, as well as scars, and so on, because the idea of what a "perfect body" is, is ultimately subjective, and that any _healthy_ body can be "perfect" for the person who lives in it.
I swear, the FA/HAES propagandists really do appropriate and distort anything they can.
@ ah got it, that makes sense. Thank you
This woman has an insane vendetta against Target. I work at a Target store that has a huge plus size section. She is tripping. The only one oppressing her is herself. What a bully. Sad.
(Edit: she also acts like the plus section is destroyed bc they hate fat people. No girl, that's how retail is lmao. Someone could have just cleaned that up, then a customer made a mess. It's not THAT deep 🤣)
Lol a Fat costumer made that mess. So sis needs to lecture them not us lol
I was thinking the same thing. Almost every store I've been to the plus size section is the same size as any other clothing section.
I guess one could also gather that in this instance the people shopping in the plus size section just so happened to be lazy and disrespectful enough to just throw things around.
@@KraziCutierin yeah bc they’re lazy 💀
Also “omfg the shapewear is near the plus sized underwear!” I’ve seen shapewear next to the standard sizes too🧍♂️in target and other stores. Also plus sized clothes truly don’t sell as quickly. My nearest target is often out of all the mediums and larges, I ended buying an XL sanrio shirt😭but the plus size section is still HUGE there. But a lot of it goes on clearance. Cuz. Again. It often doesn’t sell as much. Like that’s just…How It Be.
'Thin Privilege is Thinphobic'🤣 Officially the best thing I've heard all day
holy CRAP I had to pause after the "acknowledge your thin privelege and see how your day is different from mine" part and then proceeded to talk about her day going shopping at Target in a car and eating out. Its really insane how you far these people can victimize themselves. I'm lucky if I am able to afford shopping or eating out ONCE a month because I'm the eldest daughter of a family of 5 and I have to support them all and we barely make it every month. We were born in an underprivileged country and we don't have the same resources these people do and we've been trying to leave for years.. I feel horrible about not being able to treat my little brothers out to eat or buy them what they want, we sometimes had to skip dinner if my salary was even a DAY late..I take things off my grocery cart and would borderline have a pamic attack in the store, scared that my budget wouldn't be enough. I have to walk miles to the market or stores if I need something because we don't have a car. If someone were to tell me about how priveledged I am because I'm thin I would absolutely lose my goddamn mind.
Absolutely appalled by the erasure of disabled and other groups simply because they're ''not fat''. I'm autistic, I'm also normal weight. I've openly had people tell me to my face they'd never date an autistic person. That's fine. I get it, not everyone is compatible and everyone has preferences and lifestyle needs. I would be totally incompatible with someone who loved spontaneity for example. *Don't let anyone tell you, ever, that you are wrong for having preferences and you should just learn to get over them.* That reeks of inceldom and r*pe culture, period.
Well said! ❤
They sit and tell thin/nonfat people that they aren't allowed to be in the body positivity movement, while conveniently ignoring the amount of people who are in marginalized groups....AND thin. And then they turn around and try to legitimize their shitty movement by saying it's for "people in marginalized bodies".
It's not for "marginalized bodies", they have made that VERY clear. They may as well just admit that they only give a shit about fat people at this point. It's not like they're fooling anyone but themselves when they say it's for "all marginalized bodies"
I wouldn't date an autistic person either
That part 👏🏾
Well said. You only need one partner, I have ADHD, a lot of people couldn't put up with my chatty, moody, bonkers personality,. My boyfriend likes that and he is the only one who has to like it.
Why can’t they Leave my community & the lgbqt community alone😭 I can’t believe she said Fat acceptance is a civil rights movement. That’s an insult to actual civil rights movements.
Preach
#LGBT
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Precisely! Now if only we could blast the message into their skulls in a way they would actually internalize it
The Entitlement is Insane..She Doesn't want to better herself, She wants the World to bend and Accommodate her..
Hi there. Fat person here, just popping in to say let go of that Twinkie and support local business by buying a subscription to your local gym. Thank you. Have a great day.
my partner literally had to leave an ED support group because 99% of it was ppl complaining about how EDs are violent fatphobic issues and the only way to recover is to let urself get fat and not care. not joking. he got literally shat on in the ED group for discussing wanting to be a healthy weight because he is prone to binging and restricting. these safe spaces for fat pppl with EDs have become awful places for any person wanting to recover who isnt wanting to get fat or stay fat.
Is it just me or does it seem like this is what ED "support" groups have become now??? Like, in general. It seems like all of the ED recovery content I come across lately is exactly what you described.
@@cortneyphillips1792 oh 100%. when doing research to help my partner recover, all the info was about 100% indulgence and strict ban on any activity that could be classified as working out. its pretty bananas. he has had a hard time finding a community that is based in recovery and not just indulging on binges.
@@cowboyconvos it's horrible because that isn't helpful at all. There is a healthy balance between both extremes. Best of luck to your partner!!
I have an ED and am a part of the community. It really makes recovery scarier to me tbh. I already have a voice telling me recovery means I'll lack control and, for lack of a better term, be fat. So to join a support group wanting to recover and be told to just get fat as a form of recovery is terrifying.
@@mikaylagill3388 recovery is possible and important ❤️ def try out recovery groups before writing them all off. not all of them are going to be bad. my bf is recovering without attending a group and it's hard but possible. recovery does not mean losing control, imo, it's a form of gaining control over an ED.
It isn't up to others to protect your feelings. If you're emotional and easily "triggered", YOU need to work on yourself. Period.
As the great Katt Williams once said..."How did I fuq up how you feel about you?" It's self esteem that's the esteem of your motherf'ing self "🤣🤷♀️
Exactly!!! I sometimes get triggered by sirens because it reminds me of a bad accident I was in. Doesn't mean I should demand all emergency vehicles get rid of their sirens.
@@kristien2010 Yes!! And I'm sorry for your past trauma. I'm glad you're alive, we need more self-aware people like you
@@absolutelyridiculous6743 I appreciate the concern. I was lucky enough to walk away with just an airbag burn on my arm but that's because the car had a boat load of safety features.
I may not have a firm idea of all of my triggers, but I know I am correct in that I am responsible for how I react to them. Thankfully life kinda taught me that because I get so sick of seeing others expecting the world to bend to them specifically when it's literally impossible to please everyone.
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Love when these people have the audacity to say they’re educating you, she’s full of herself
18:40 REALLY pissed me off. im struggling to recover from my CSA trauma because i live with my abuser and due to finances and not feeling safe to expose my trauma i cant change this. this is one of the biggest roots of my ED since my abuse stunted my intellectual development and caused a lot of my self image issues especially regarding my age and not wanting to grow up. how am *I* privileged enough to move on from this trauma just because im skinny, but fat people as a whole dont have the privilege to recover from the trauma of being fatshamed?? did they watch this video back before posting and think this point makes any sense in the real world???
Body positivity is MORE for disabilities and scars/burns, etc. then for overweight people.
The victimhood that she has is HUUUUGE. I just absolutely can not. She acts like people who are fat are the MOST oppressed and marginalized out of EVERYONE. I just.... UGH!!!!
she’s too in her own world to realize that you can always lose weight, but you can never change your race or disability. it is so sad how this girl is seriously convinced she is right
i have scars, and a physical disability (if asthma counts). I miss when body positivity was to help people love themselves and not to say “if you don’t date me you’re a fatphobe!”
I am a fat woman who has and has had plenty of thin friends and I’ve never had a problem with them expressing insecurities about their bodies, because why the heck would I? Their feelings about their own bodies have literally nothing to do with me and my body. Like I truly don’t understand.
You're an actual mentally healthy person who does not project insecurities to other people. Please keep it up! You're amazing
@@rurisuoh7919 Indeed! I second that!
Same, but these people are so up there own butts that everything has to revolve around them and there victim complex
You hit the nail on the head at the beginning of the video; these FA activists come across as nothing but jealous.
The gate keeping is absolutely mind bending. So many contraventions, I cannot keep up...
I guess we’re just throwing around the words trauma, harmful, oppression, marginalized, and bigotry like they mean absolutely nothing anymore.
Some people just enjoy being the oppressed victim because it somehow makes them feel more important.
I think the number one reason they enjoy it is because it comes with a sense of entitlement that they can act however they want and abuse whoever they want because “now they’ll know how it feels”
And gives them the attention they crave.
It's narcissism.
Fat-based movements are a corruption of actual, legitimate social justice movements. You have so much more patience for their content than I do, and I genuinely appreciate that you parse things out in as tolerable a way as possible.
@@Mandy-he8zg We should just take the FA's and the Incels (i mean they're basically different sides of the same coin) and tell them to date each other.
I had an eating disorder that was largely created by people around me who were larger than I was (albeit not what I would call unhealthily so), constantly telling me, "Oh you're so lucky you're skinny, I wish I could be like that." I'd never really thought about my size before, but people bringing it up all the time made me hyper-conscious about it. I was a healthy weight, the low end of the scale, but still healthy, and I ended up losing 6kg (13 pounds) that I could not afford to lose. This was because people were always commenting on what I was eating. If I went to McDonald's it would be "Oh, you're so lucky you can eat that burger and stay thin." Or, if I had a chocolate bar, "I have no idea how you can eat that and stay so thin."
I grew so insecure about what I was eating, as I got so used to people commenting on my food whenever I ate around them, that I started punishing myself for it. If I had a chocolate bar then I'd punish myself by not eating for a day, if thought I'd eaten too much for breakfast, then I wouldn't eat lunch or dinner.
I went from being a person who never had any sort of issue to someone who still has major insecurities about their body. With help, I managed to get back to a healthy weight before it became a serious medical issue, but I still have lapses even today and am often tempted to punish myself with starvation when I think I've eaten too much. It's a struggle that I'm realising I will probably have to deal with and manage for the rest of my life.
Also, I have to add this. Comparing this to a civil rights movement is ridiculous. People who are queer, disabled, POC, etc. Are born into groups that suffer exclusion and historic and present-day oppression for things that they just happen to be. A POC cannot change their skin colour, nor should they be made to feel that they should want that, and the same is true for the other groups. A person who is overweight was not born overweight, they may have issues they are struggling with that form hurdles to weight loss for them, but with help, they can reach those goals. An overweight person is not trapped, and if they aren't happy with their health or appearance then they can change it either independently or with support.
I grew up with that too. So many comments on my body and weight and eating that it f****ed me up. I never enjoy food and eating and I will probably never eat in front of people again. My starvation started out of simply just not eat during daytime when I was around people and that slippery slope came like a water bill.
Suffering from an eating disorder and having to actually go to a mental health facility to get treated, made me realize just how miserable you can become. I looked terrible and felt terrible. My body eventually rejected food and i relied on special drinks to get my daily calory intake. I was constantly freezing, collapsing and laguno started growing on my body. I couldn’t look at myself in mirrors or photos. It was a physical and mental battle that took months of treatment and consistent attention afterwards. Once you’re in it, you can’t just get out of it. Your body gets used to ‘not eating’. You have to train it again and stick to a consistent diet plan to go back to normal habits and a healthy weight. Just like you would if you were trying to lose weight. So her completely disregarding us feels so disrespectful.
I love the first response, she doesn't know how the person identifies, but still tells them they are not in a "marginalised body".
When you overuse terms like “eating disorders” and “fatphobic” you actually make those terms lose meaning. Calling everything fatphobic causes it to mean nothing, essentially. So when you call out actual fatphobia it’ll change nothing because the term means nothing. This is arguably worse in the case of eating disorders because people who actually need help won’t be taken seriously so people won’t take the proper precautions to help people with EDs.
How 'fatphobic' of you.... I can't... I just can't.
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@@MeanBadger89 pffft 🤣
Fatphobia is not real. Sorry not sorry.
if “fatphobia” was actually real i would be a proud fatphobe😂
Yes, that's fatphobically fatphobic of you and your fatphobic text here fatphobically proves fatphobically that your fatphobia is probably incurable. Fatphobic Brownie.
This is why if fatphobia existed, I'd be fatphobic.
This woman's victim complex is the most insane thing I have ever witnessed on the internet. I have trauma from being sexual abused by my older brother, was bullied in school and had struggled with a learning disability all my life and yet this woman being called fat is considered trauma to her? Lady, grow a spine
...and maybe get a gym membership.
I was sexually abused by my older brother also, and by an older guy friend of ours. I was also bullied by other kids that I hung out with too. And she dares to say that a weight that she can completely be in control over is worse!? She is she entitled and actually privileged, and blinded by her own ego and victim mentality
@@simonjoy2991 Indeed, and I am sorry you went through that.
@@paarthurnax8519 I'm sorry you went through that also. Life really can suck
I'm so sorry to both of you ik sorry doesn't help or mean much but I am y'all are both storing amazing people those POS will get what's comeing never forget how strong and amazing y'all are
That's because one of their cult's leaders who's name is Sonalee (who is a sex therapist) told them that putting a child on a diet is equal to sexually abusing that child. So now, in their sick minds, they believe that being fat-shamed as children is comparable to them being sexually abused and thus traumatised. I wish I was making that shit up!
Btw, I personally was bullied throughout my childhood and teenage years by family members and classmates for being overweight. I cannot dare to claim that what I experienced was trauma. Yes it was bad, yes it still haunts me sometimes as an adult, but it's not an actual trauma!
poor girl, I am insecure myself (being thin) but her level of insecurity is just bursting into space.
I love how the term "body positivity" insinuates accepting your body at any size and ability, but that apparently does not apply unless you're obese...? Non sensical lol
I used to be addicted to drugs for a lot of years. Then I worked really hard to get clean. Does that mean now all of those years and experiences being an addict are irrelevant and I can’t use them to help or encourage current addicts that change is possible? I feel like it’s literally the opposite. Someone who has experienced both has a wider scope of the issue and can provide valuable insight. You don’t say “ex drug addicts are the WORST because they’re no longer addicted so they just HATE people who are still happy with their drug infused lifestyle!” That sounds insane!
Its awesome that you got clean!
Congratulations, @jaime Ericksberg !
Congratulations on getting clean and staying clean while helping others! You should be so extremely proud of yourself!
Congratulations!! I overcame a drug addicitoon also. After ALOT of hars work. Your experiences are very valuable and very REAL!$
Glad you got clean 😌
I just can't imagine going through life living like this lmao
Such a waste of energy
I really can’t 😂😂
All she has to do is stop looking at things on internet that triggers her... oh wait.. everything triggers her...
She’s a inspiration. She inspired me to never get fat ever 🥰
*"I'm not happy so I definitely won't support your happiness or any attempt at it."* My interpretation...🤔
She has zero idea what marginalisation is.
This movement is now toxic and detracts from people who encounter actual marginalisation.
i used to weigh over 600 lbs, and lost weight cause it was hard to move or do even normal things. i was not, and am not fatphobic. i was super unhealthy, and headed quickly to an early death. this girl is delusional, like fr lol
congrats to you on your weight loss!!!! 🍾🍾🍾
Holy shit. I’m glad you were able to lose weight, you were in a life or death situation!
you should be so proud of yourself. it takes alot of strength to grab a hold of your life and force yourself to improve.
Proud of you!!!
Thats amazing
if you stayed in a "toxic" (whatever that means to you) relationship because you feared being unlovable, then that is nobody´s responsibility but your own. There is a saying in German "wer auf Freiheit verzichtet, um geliebt zu werden, hat beides nicht verdient" - meaning "if you relinquish freedom in order to be loved, you deserve neither." or to put it more simply: you have nobody to blame but yourself for rather staying with someone who makes you incredibly unhappy instead of being a responsible adult and breaking up.
and also it can happen to anyone. the woman who made the tiktok said it was because she was fat, but the exact same thing happened to me even though I was very thin because I had terrible self-esteem issues and deemed myself ugly. I was a teenager and had been taken advantage of by a much older man, but the premise is the same: I believed I was unlovable and he was the only person who would ever accept or love me. So I believed I _owed_ him, which is what he made be believe and what I believed myself, even though he was very cruel to me. The woman in the tiktok made it seem like that's something only fat people experience, but it's literally a self-esteem issue totally independent of weight. There are fat people in very healthy relationships! and thin people in terrible relationships. Because it's about your internal self-worth and not your weight.
That's one of the things that annoys me about these fat-activists. They act like they're special in a way because ''this oppression could only ever happen to them'' when actually it's 1) not oppression and 2) something that anyone could experience. But they're so sheltered (and privelaged) that they can't see outside of their own bubble!
I'd be fine with creating a totally different word or hashtag or whatever to support literal "body positivity" videos like weight loss progress, power reps, skin flap acceptance, or stretch mark acceptance. They can have body positivity, and we can make up our own term. Maybe like "body empowerment" or "health positivity" or something like that.
Health positivity sounds good. I actually agree with a few things she says about the fat-phobia of society. It used to be much worse. (I remember being astonished that Roseanne Arnold/Barr had a hit TV show, because at the time, it was as if fat people weren't allowed to exist.) But I find her denial of the health risks of obesity incredibly dangerous, and her dismissal of all the issues of people other than fat people narcissistic and abusive.
I don't know if "health positivity" would work, because people disagree so strongly about what diets are healthy, but it seems it might stake out some safe ground for people genuinely trying to improve their health, including healthful weight loss when needed and healthful weight gain when needed. (There are a lot of unhealthy ways to lose weight -- cocaine, cigarettes, crash diets, etc., too.)
this "body positivity movement" has everything except positivity, also gaddayum the venomous vibe from that girl is off charts
It doesn’t seem to have any movement either. Just bodies
*OBESE* Positivity is a cancer on society.
@@CYBER_N0T no no, "people in bodies" 🤣
@@fluffydogchannel My bad. Wouldn’t want to be fatphobic or anything lmao
@@fluffydogchannel 💀lol
As a former "small fat", the fat experience wasn't about emotions or mental illness but it wasn't about opression and happiness. It just sucked. And not because of other people, but because of how it felt to exist. It was as if I had a parasite weighing me down. And just 25-ish pounds down was enough for me to not feel like a slug
Congrats on feeling better!
Rock on!!
Weird how these people say “the body positivity movement is for marginalized bodies” and then proceed to body shame. People like her have harassed and body shamed disabled skinny people, black skinny people, formerly fat people, smaller fat people, etc. I even saw a post of a woman who had cancer and lost all her hair and a significant amount of weight during her long treatment. She was saying she is learning to love herself with or without hair and feeling more comfortable going out without a wig and mentioned the weight loss as a passive comment on side effects of her treatments. People seriously harassed her about even daring to mention weight loss, even as a side effect of having fucking cancer! Like, wtf!? This woman is actually horribly sick and has much more important things to worry about than your own insecurities about your body.
I am a fat person, but I never wanna be part of this movement
they're just so toxic and nothing about it is positive...
7:50 So happy that this woman will gladly date short men, fat men, bald men, socially awkward men, and low-income men. She's so open minded and tolerant! 😊
I literally cannot…what a sad existence to be so openly entitled to claim oppression whilst sitting in a car, shopping at target and applying what looks like expensive makeup.
It didn't work.
@@voluntaryismistheanswershe should eat the makeup. Her inside needs it way more than her outside. She think people dont like her because shes fat. Nope. People dont like her because her personality is atrocious. Imagine trying to talk about anything around her or living in the same house as her omfg no thank you. Shes like the word police.
"Thin privalege is a thinphobic term" i smilled so much. That what Classynothappyfatcow gets.
Girlfriend obviously never worked in retail; it takes customers 5 minutes to make a mess that will take sales associates 30 minutes to straighten up.
Also all the Targets in my area display the plus-sized bathing suits in the same area as the normal sized swimsuits .