I felt the same. But when I realised that they are narcissists, I was played, fake feeling., lies, stabbing at the back...So I let them go without second thought. Be strong, focus on self love and believe in yourself ❤
Quite an ingenious trick they use. Using your own emotions against you. It's hard to let them go cuz they have imprinted themselves onto you, in some unfair, sneaky, sleezy way. I was left confused as well when she dumped me. Hot one minute. Then she ditched me for sum Chad. I'm no longer confused. I'm no longer influenced by her in any way. Only good vibes moving on to bigger better things... The confusion sux. But it's meant to make you think. Why did this happen. Then You'll dig deeper and discover your own worth. How weak and manipulative they were to you. Helps you learn how not to let it happen ever again. I was pretty aware of the love bombing and sexual needs she was after from the beginning. She never got her hooks In deep enuf to hook me. But she did try triangulating 15 friggin yrs later😂😂😂😂
This is so damn true... I always felt like I was being moulded into someone that I naturally wasn't...had to conform to what she thought was apropriate behaviour or responses which felt completely alien to who I am naturally...just so I could appease her and make her comfortable, now I know it was just her way of having that extra level of control... I feel sorry for them... but not for too long :)
They are a true demonic Force, I will never be the same person again, but I will be better, they say all's fair in Love and war, getting your heart broken it's one thing, capturing your soul is another, they want your mind, because they own nothing of the aforementioned, thank you young lady for putting all this out there 💐🤠
Yes .. definitely!! Oh, and even in work. They keep you busy on other things. And if we're doing something that doesn't benefit them, they belittle it in all sorts of ways. Its soooo repulsive and sick .. for them to keep you down is a terrible thing. You learn to keep things quiet .. you mustn't tell them your interests or what you're working on. Just do it, trust yourself, fight off that natural feeling of wanting to share this with them, keep your progress quiet until you need to share it, if at all.
Efforts by me to make her happy included lowering my standards, and doing things I didn't want to do. Wondering when it would be enough to make her happy. When I figured out that nothing would EVER be enough, I was discarded. Which didn't surprise me because I knew that push back was not tolerated.
God I lowered my standards too. Second hand clothes, market shopping. Tent holidays, loving in poverty, not spending any money. Alice I've never lead not that I ever loved a high life but I never loved like a pauper like he did and like he expected me to. He djdnt want to celebra his birthday so therefore I should t want to celebrate mine.
Same here. I started questioning and challenging him and we all know how that goes. I knew that when he was ice ice cold to me he was hot with someone else. Good riddens to bad rubbish!!
In the process of healing and breaking that bond, significant insights reveal the past weird behaviors, e.g., he felt embarrassed in a restaurant because I was in such a great mindset that I was having a wonderful time with someone I loved in a great dining experience. He manipulated me to think my enjoyment of the situation was the cause of his embarrassment, when it was actually his own insecurities that were responsible for his discomfort, and he was jealous that he was unable to match my enthusiasm for carefree delight! He simply was unable to laugh, only smiling while consumed with envy of my self confidence. So many revelations!
I was married for 24 years to a narcissist. We got divorced about four and a half years ago, and of the many odd things she said on her way out, like, "You're a 9, I love you, I don't want anyone else to have you, I hope you financially struggle", but this, "You turned me into your mother", I could take that literally or figuratively. If I take it literally, I beg to differ, I definitely wouldn't turn her into my mother, I think it's more accurate to think she turned into her own mother, and it's reflective of her childhood.
Anoushka, thank you, during the beginning of this video, I recognised my Mom. My ex Husband was, I believe, highly narcissistic too. Recognising the signs, behaviours etc. is painful, that's the beginning of a worthwhile journey. You've helped me so much ♥️
This message is underrated I found it’s like trying to get it through a brick wall only now after several months is it sinking in to my brain. They tried to take everything we have for themselves
Great video! I’m sorry for what ever you’ve gone through, and am equally GRATEFUL for your sharing and advice. Your helping many people and I’m one of them. Please keep these coming.❤️
Anoshka listening to this is making me cry because the narcissist is doing this to me he blocked me for no reason I didnt do anything but now because he lives next door and we share the same garden and path he sits outside with woman drinking laughing letting her stay overnight it hurts and I'm in a dark place atm what dovi do I've blocked him but cant get away from this situation 😢😢😢😢🙁🙁😥🙄🙄 thank you sooo much you are absolutely AMAZING 👍👍👍👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🥰🥰🥰💜❤💜❤💜❤💐💐💐
So true Anoushka. Almost a year since she left me. Still hard but understand what your saying. Certainly true with what happened to me. I was very exhausted by the time she left.😢😢
They exhaust you mentally until you act out. I went through this. I was sad everytime I told her it's over. But everytime I changed my mind, it got worse. It was great like a week or two, but then right back to insanity. It was literally a rollercoaster of mental gymnastics. After awhile it literally felt like a weight was picked off my chest. These people are mentally unstable.
I always felt something was not quite right but I tried to make it work but I didn't give everything so I just watched and they got worse finally I had enough then he discarde me I was upset realize it was a blessing ~ it was a short relationship but it when so fast ~ it could have been worse
Thank you, I’ve watched many vids and I’m finding that yours are helping me in my journey along my path in this extremely weird and wacky world of narcissism. I’m extremely grateful to have found your videos, they are different to what I have watched so far and you are helping me to pull myself out of victim mentality. I don’t like what has happened to me, I realize that only I can pull myself out of this. Thanks
Narçs operate in the gap between your intentionality and your doubt. When you act with absolute certainty and clarity of purpose & without hesitation the narcissist is powerless to act against you.
I understand your message, but it’s not that. It’s more the disbelief and regret that we were fooled/waisted time and energy all these years literally for a person of total NOTHINGNESS
Hello you there Dion Tillman here hey what about you, how are you,,are you lonely, are you ok,maybe I can help you with something I love how you nailed them to the wall❤❤
There was a scene in Vampire Diaries where Stefan said “she is not capable of love” about Cathrine. For some reason that scene stuck in my head, maybe because I didn’t really understand it as a teenager at the time. So sad that all these years later, I now know exactly what he meant
Hi anoushka, it's been a about a year since I've watched one of your videos. I just wanted to say, you're looking so healthy and lovely it's like you're aging in reverse❤️ blessings to you
Very good co ach🥰🙏This is good , exactly how it is we give them power, It doesn’t matter what the narc did💔🥵🙏😭I would tell him I am a hundred times better then him😂nothing he says would convince me I am not who he says I am.
Anoushka, I’m really wondering if we were a victim of the same asshole… of his previous supply, he said she called him a puppet master and she changed careers to be a psychologist. He is British, but lives in France!
❤❤❤ Please get an MRI to check for Brain Tumors! I had a large one that caused a Seizure to happen. 2 Brain sergeries 😭😭😭 Large Tumor!!😢😢😢 Please🙏❤️🤗 Gaslighter by Dixie Chicks -
Problem is how to get out of a long relation with children I know it is draining my energy my emotions my finances .it is not that easy unless narac discards you
If it’s safe to do so, yes you should expose the narcissist for who they really are…..it’s the least you could do to stand up for yourself and for all those years of cheating, manipulating, bullying and lying they gave you……if you’re on the no contact phase plan an exit strategy, get your finances in order, do not show the narcissist any fear, document/record everything (in case you end up in court), let your close family know exactly what’s going on, watch your back at all times and leave them as soon as your able to.…..just make sure you don’t have any sympathy or mercy on the narcissist at any time……after all, you are just standing up for yourself and you will be giving the narcissist a taste of their own medicine for all those years of hell they gave you…..Good luck!!!!! ✊🙏
Just build enough evidence against them and threaten them or ask why you should not expose them... They will be jittery at your feet... They will do anything you say because they are fearful If you expose them, that is even better.. They lose their high ground and cannot smear you. Just expose and get rid of them, don't let them into your life even if they apologize
Am not sure if he is a narcissist, am not even in a relationship with that guy, it has affected me deeply ! We do talk since December last year. I just can't seem to let it go. A part of me need to figure out if he really is a narc or not, and another part of me wants to manipulate him back.
Anoushka, this was a terrific video! It served to remind me to love myself and stay strong. The Hoovers are less and less triggering as I recognize they're coming from an empty-shelled, cruel narc who is weak and insecure. 🤍✨️✨️✨️
My ex narc was the most incredible thing that happened for me!!! I found myself, everything changed and life is fantastic💚
No one will define my worth because they are not qualified or credible to do that!
Words of wisdom!
It's hard to let go of your feelings for them once they've drawn U in
I felt the same. But when I realised that they are narcissists, I was played, fake feeling., lies, stabbing at the back...So I let them go without second thought. Be strong, focus on self love and believe in yourself ❤
Quite an ingenious trick they use. Using your own emotions against you. It's hard to let them go cuz they have imprinted themselves onto you, in some unfair, sneaky, sleezy way. I was left confused as well when she dumped me. Hot one minute. Then she ditched me for sum Chad.
I'm no longer confused. I'm no longer influenced by her in any way. Only good vibes moving on to bigger better things...
The confusion sux. But it's meant to make you think. Why did this happen. Then You'll dig deeper and discover your own worth. How weak and manipulative they were to you. Helps you learn how not to let it happen ever again.
I was pretty aware of the love bombing and sexual needs she was after from the beginning. She never got her hooks In deep enuf to hook me. But she did try triangulating 15 friggin yrs later😂😂😂😂
The truth hurts but it also sets you FREE if you let it, many many thanks❤
This is so damn true... I always felt like I was being moulded into someone that I naturally wasn't...had to conform to what she thought was apropriate behaviour or responses which felt completely alien to who I am naturally...just so I could appease her and make her comfortable, now I know it was just her way of having that extra level of control... I feel sorry for them... but not for too long :)
They are a true demonic Force, I will never be the same person again, but I will be better, they say all's fair in Love and war, getting your heart broken it's one thing, capturing your soul is another, they want your mind, because they own nothing of the aforementioned, thank you young lady for putting all this out there 💐🤠
Well said. ❤
Raise the bar on your value xx
Yes .. definitely!! Oh, and even in work. They keep you busy on other things. And if we're doing something that doesn't benefit them, they belittle it in all sorts of ways. Its soooo repulsive and sick .. for them to keep you down is a terrible thing. You learn to keep things quiet .. you mustn't tell them your interests or what you're working on. Just do it, trust yourself, fight off that natural feeling of wanting to share this with them, keep your progress quiet until you need to share it, if at all.
Efforts by me to make her happy included lowering my standards, and doing things I didn't want to do. Wondering when it would be enough to make her happy. When I figured out that nothing would EVER be enough, I was discarded. Which didn't surprise me because I knew that push back was not tolerated.
Same here. But it only lasts 4 months
God I lowered my standards too. Second hand clothes, market shopping. Tent holidays, loving in poverty, not spending any money. Alice I've never lead not that I ever loved a high life but I never loved like a pauper like he did and like he expected me to. He djdnt want to celebra his birthday so therefore I should t want to celebrate mine.
Same here. I started questioning and challenging him and we all know how that goes. I knew that when he was ice ice cold to me he was hot with someone else. Good riddens to bad rubbish!!
The leash around your neck is a great metaphor.
In the process of healing and breaking that bond, significant insights reveal the past weird behaviors, e.g., he felt embarrassed in a restaurant because I was in such a great mindset that I was having a wonderful time with someone I loved in a great dining experience. He manipulated me to think my enjoyment of the situation was the cause of his embarrassment, when it was actually his own insecurities that were responsible for his discomfort, and he was jealous that he was unable to match my enthusiasm for carefree delight! He simply was unable to laugh, only smiling while consumed with envy of my self confidence. So many revelations!
i noticed the HEAT increased when i start looking into what the problem was. i knew there was something but i struggled to figure it out.
Thank you for explaining the relationship, that's exactly how it is for me 😢
I was married for 24 years to a narcissist. We got divorced about four and a half years ago, and of the many odd things she said on her way out, like, "You're a 9, I love you, I don't want anyone else to have you, I hope you financially struggle", but this, "You turned me into your mother", I could take that literally or figuratively. If I take it literally, I beg to differ, I definitely wouldn't turn her into my mother, I think it's more accurate to think she turned into her own mother, and it's reflective of her childhood.
I am saving this one. I need to hear this every day. Ty ❤
I am as well.
I was like Donna beginning first two months, destroying self, sabotage the relationship
Anoushka, thank you, during the beginning of this video, I recognised my Mom. My ex Husband was, I believe, highly narcissistic too. Recognising the signs, behaviours etc. is painful, that's the beginning of a worthwhile journey. You've helped me so much ♥️
This message is underrated I found it’s like trying to get it through a brick wall only now after several months is it sinking in to my brain. They tried to take everything we have for themselves
Nobody hates a narcissist more than a narcissist hates themselves.
Great video! I’m sorry for what ever you’ve gone through, and am equally GRATEFUL for your sharing and advice. Your helping many people and I’m one of them. Please keep these coming.❤️
Thank you so much Anoushka❤it is so important to distinguish between what people say that they are, and who they really are in action🙌
Your program enlighten me and it educate me about this person .
You know my question is….do these people read the rules of npd and decide , this is my handbook?
I’ve seen comments where people are wanting to use npd tactics so sad
You’d think so. I read the comments on these videos and think, “did we know the same person?“
It is subconscious
Anoshka listening to this is making me cry because the narcissist is doing this to me he blocked me for no reason I didnt do anything but now because he lives next door and we share the same garden and path he sits outside with woman drinking laughing letting her stay overnight it hurts and I'm in a dark place atm what dovi do I've blocked him but cant get away from this situation 😢😢😢😢🙁🙁😥🙄🙄 thank you sooo much you are absolutely AMAZING 👍👍👍👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🥰🥰🥰💜❤💜❤💜❤💐💐💐
Video saved; this is one of the best videos ever! I love your character and demeanor! Keep bringing the truth, mind prison doors are opening! ❤🎉
So true Anoushka. Almost a year since she left me. Still hard but understand what your saying. Certainly true with what happened to me. I was very exhausted by the time she left.😢😢
They exhaust you mentally until you act out. I went through this. I was sad everytime I told her it's over. But everytime I changed my mind, it got worse. It was great like a week or two, but then right back to insanity. It was literally a rollercoaster of mental gymnastics. After awhile it literally felt like a weight was picked off my chest.
These people are mentally unstable.
Trust me everything you’re saying is true. It’s a roller coaster of emotions and manipulation 😮💨
I always felt something was not quite right but I tried to make it work but I didn't give everything so I just watched and they got worse finally I had enough then he discarde me I was upset realize it was a blessing ~ it was a short relationship but it when so fast ~ it could have been worse
Thank you for this Truth ❤
Love this video. Thank you so much
Thank you, I’ve watched many vids and I’m finding that yours are helping me in my journey along my path in this extremely weird and wacky world of narcissism. I’m extremely grateful to have found your videos, they are different to what I have watched so far and you are helping me to pull myself out of victim mentality. I don’t like what has happened to me, I realize that only I can pull myself out of this. Thanks
True Colors - Cyndi Lauper...
Narçs operate in the gap between your intentionality and your doubt. When you act with absolute certainty and clarity of purpose & without hesitation the narcissist is powerless to act against you.
Good video. Thank you SO much
I love your videos, they're so helpful
Thank you so much for saying exactly how it is...
Thank you❤❤❤❤
I need to hear this today…
Keep up the good work !
Thank you…
I understand your message, but it’s not that. It’s more the disbelief and regret that we were fooled/waisted time and energy all these years literally for a person of total NOTHINGNESS
Thank you..
Hello you there Dion Tillman here hey what about you, how are you,,are you lonely, are you ok,maybe I can help you with something I love how you nailed them to the wall❤❤
You are amazing,such good videos
I want this new always
I love him so much! I'm so f****
Yes totally true we are nothing we just an option we mean nothing they play with you like a yo-yo til we have enough.
There was a scene in Vampire Diaries where Stefan said “she is not capable of love” about Cathrine. For some reason that scene stuck in my head, maybe because I didn’t really understand it as a teenager at the time. So sad that all these years later, I now know exactly what he meant
thanks for share with us
Wow this video touches my essence. Thank you Ash Bless You.
Wow! Wonderful, informative message. So timely for me. Thank you!
Hi anoushka, it's been a about a year since I've watched one of your videos. I just wanted to say, you're looking so healthy and lovely it's like you're aging in reverse❤️ blessings to you
Very good co ach🥰🙏This is good , exactly how it is we give them power, It doesn’t matter what the narc did💔🥵🙏😭I would tell him I am a hundred times better then him😂nothing he says would convince me I am not who he says I am.
Anoushka, I’m really wondering if we were a victim of the same asshole… of his previous supply, he said she called him a puppet master and she changed careers to be a psychologist. He is British, but lives in France!
The narcissist makes you selfishly selfless..
So accurate
❤❤❤ Please get an MRI to check for Brain Tumors! I had a large one that caused a Seizure to happen.
2 Brain sergeries 😭😭😭
Large Tumor!!😢😢😢
Please🙏❤️🤗 Gaslighter by Dixie Chicks -
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Problem is how to get out of a long relation with children
I know it is draining my energy my emotions my finances .it is not that easy unless narac discards you
Should you threaten a narc with exposure if they wont leave you alone?
If it’s safe to do so, yes you should expose the narcissist for who they really are…..it’s the least you could do to stand up for yourself and for all those years of cheating, manipulating, bullying and lying they gave you……if you’re on the no contact phase plan an exit strategy, get your finances in order, do not show the narcissist any fear, document/record everything (in case you end up in court), let your close family know exactly what’s going on, watch your back at all times and leave them as soon as your able to.…..just make sure you don’t have any sympathy or mercy on the narcissist at any time……after all, you are just standing up for yourself and you will be giving the narcissist a taste of their own medicine for all those years of hell they gave you…..Good luck!!!!! ✊🙏
Just build enough evidence against them and threaten them or ask why you should not expose them... They will be jittery at your feet... They will do anything you say because they are fearful
If you expose them, that is even better.. They lose their high ground and cannot smear you. Just expose and get rid of them, don't let them into your life even if they apologize
Jealousy?
Am not sure if he is a narcissist, am not even in a relationship with that guy, it has affected me deeply ! We do talk since December last year.
I just can't seem to let it go. A part of me need to figure out if he really is a narc or not, and another part of me wants to manipulate him back.
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Be themselves not I they evil I'm not that di difference exorcism asap 🤬🤯👻
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Anoushka, this was a terrific video! It served to remind me to love myself and stay strong. The Hoovers are less and less triggering as I recognize they're coming from an empty-shelled, cruel narc who is weak and insecure.
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Find out the truth elsewhere 🥸😎
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We need to stay out of the drama triangle.
Thank you