Why You Never Hear From The Narcissist Again
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Not hearing from a narcissistic person again is a blessing so do not dwell but heal then be free
Intellectually we all know that. Convincing our subconscious, and our emotional selves, is a little bit more difficult. Especially when you've invested so much of everything in this person, and they suddenly go cold on you, and it's almost like you don't exist to them. If you get stabbed by someone, of course it's a blessing that you never see that person again, but you're still left with a gaping wound that takes ages to heal.
@tjf4375 I have no wounds to heal just focusing on moving forward
It's inexplicable it's a really perverse curiosity but deep down you know whatever the outcome it will probably piss you off so you don't really want it but they would have made themselves the biggest thing in your life which is why our subconscious remembers them for longer than we permit it to
@stevereid4092 I do not remember anything about the narcissistic individuals have wiped all memories destroyed photos.
Only that thirty three years of time was spend that I will not get back but moving forward is a liberating feeling.
100%
I also have a theory as to why you don’t hear from them again is that they have a fear of rejection, which is a huge narcissistic injury for them.
Excellent Point and SO very true!!!
I agree. I am of the same opinion as it is the main reason
Right on point!
Indeed it is! I went no contact 5 weeks ago and now I'm no longer in their contacts. I got discarded! Woop woop!
Its a blessing.
You are right. They feel shame and guilt due to their actions but cannot accept responsibility for those actions so they basically go into hiding and move on to the next person. What happens though is they stalk and keep feelers out there on you to see if you have healed and have forgotten what they did to you. It’s like waiting for an argument to blow over, then they may come back and test the water
If the narcissist never contacts you again , congrats. You really stood your ground , and put them in their place.
Yay me 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Narcissists have transactions, not relationships!
That explains so much.
Yes, my spreadsheet relationship. Never again.
I’m glad my narcissistic ex hasn’t been in contact. He nearly destroyed me
Same. 12 years married and he up and left. Radio Silence
My ex has gone silent too now thankfully but not after hovering 17 times before 🤦🏼♀️
You're blessed. This demon tried, but failed. At that point there are no more options for Satan. The last desperate weapon was sending the filthy narc. My personal destroyer from the fiery lakes of hell was more successful. She made sure there wouldn't be anything left of me and no chance whatsoever of recovery in this lifetime.
It's good to know you made it. Really good. You're alive and the narc wasn't able to get you. The sad part is they'll prey on someone else.
Same here Lisa. She had me so close to going under. But 6months free and iam seeing the light at the end of the tunnel🙃❤️
I'll never hear from my narcissist because she knows I figured her out. I'll never give her supply again unless she admits to being a narcissist. She'll never do that.
She'll accuse you of being the narcassist ,mine did,
I sometimes wish for the hoover, just to validate she was a 100% narcassist, so you get full closure, but I nw you have to make your own
@@kirkhogan2688 I totally understand. Part of me wishes my ex narc would hoover me too so I could once again remind her she is a narcissist.
I told mine I knew what she was and not to contact me ever again, once the next relationship fails,
She even asked me what type she was....
She'll never contact either of us mate ,they would rather get new meat,
I'd rather see pics of her with new supply and nasty messages to me,it makes it easier.
She was a narcassist, that's why they stay away, as they will never admit it,her daughters are the same...
Could be worse you could be with her🤣
@@kirkhogan2688 Thank god we can watch from afar. 💪
Straight FACTS 🎯…
I CELEBRATE every day that goes by if I don’t hear from any narcissists.
Buy some narcissist repellant.
A narcissist attaches themselves to you figuring that you will never find out their game. When you do figure it out and call them on it, everything turns to hate.
That's true. When I discovered all the lies of my wife during our 10-year marriage and I accused her of deceiving me so much, she just discarded me and started to hate me.
My wife did the same thing, but it only took me two years to question it. I dealt with it for a year before she filed a bullshit pfa against me because she didn't want to discuss the issues and it was the easiest way to get rid of me.
The bottom line is that you'll never get love from these people. They don't have the emotional, psychological, social, or spiritual maturity for love. They're stunted toddlers in these ways and you cannot fix them.
They can never do enough work on themselves. They want a YES/doormat, needy person. When we realize who they are and their behaviors, when they do see us and we ignore them, they will know we're DONE with them and there is no coming back.
This^^^
They are so brutal and malicious. I was fooled and manipulated way too long. At the discard he flat out told me "he faked loving me" the entire 12 years
Don’t worry, female, narcissist are just as bad. The last words I heard after eight years in a relationship with her was “ I don’t love you I don’t even like you”. I’m not really worried she’s just a callous person. I’ve spent 23 years in the ER saving peoples lives. What has she done for others. Nothing!!!
How miserable are you to where you spend 8 years not loving/liking your partner….
These people need their own island.
@tcbroussard9562 I agree, they are evil doers
@hawk4879 ugh! So brutal and they are fake. Too bad I didn't realize sooner that my husband was just playing a character
Mine’s 12 years as well, he told me, we didn’t have deep foundation which basically his love is superficial. Let’s be glad they’re out of our life. 💪🏼
The narcissistic relationship, was never going to last...from the get go! 😮
Yep it was never gonna take off like that it was doomed from the start!
Once I moved out and blocked her, it took a while to start recovering, but my life has been a rocketship of succes ever since, and I have never heard from her again. I win.
My narcissistic ex-wife had a profound impact on my life, leading me to believe she was the love of my life for several years. The aftermath of our tumultuous divorce left our entire family shattered, causing me to struggle for years with emotional distress, depression, and financial difficulties. Despite the challenges, I finally managed to break free from the emotional hold she had on me.
Now, four years after the divorce, I have taken full custody of our teenage twin girls to protect them from their emotionally abusive mother. One of my daughters has completely cut ties with her mother, but the other remains emotionally connected to her, just as I once was. It's heartbreaking to see her fall for her mother's false promises of love and witness her getting hurt repeatedly.
My ex-wife has completely cut off all contact and communication with me. She shows no interest in receiving updates on her own daughters' emotional well-being or their growth as they come of age. This situation has left me feeling distant and disconnected, and I can strongly relate to the sentiments expressed in the video.
Despite my efforts to maintain a connection between my daughters and their mother, she remains disengaged, which adds to the emotional burden for all of us. It's disheartening to witness her lack of involvement in their lives, especially considering the impact her absence has on our daughters' emotional development.
As a father, I will continue to do my best to provide a nurturing and supportive environment for my girls, even in the absence of their mother's active presence. I understand the importance of being there for them and helping them navigate through life's challenges with love and care.
Though it's challenging to see my daughters experience disappointment due to their mother's disinterest, I will remain steadfast in supporting them and being their pillar of strength. My priority is to foster their emotional well-being and ensure they know they are loved and valued, regardless of their mother's choices.
In the end, I hope my love and commitment will help my daughters grow into resilient individuals who can handle life's adversities with grace and confidence.
My ex has memory holed our 16yo son and 9yo daughter, he walks the other way if he sees us around town and told his friends and family I won't let him see the kids. I tried to keep in contact with him and gave up after he stood them up. It's my fault he doesn't see them at Christmas/birthdays because I don't invite him around. He won't do anything himself to maintain the relationships etc. And he's let himself go from any responsibility saying I'm hard work and start fights because I dared to ask why he didn't turn up when he was supposed to.
The very same story here. Only that it is the mother behaving like that...I often wonder why narcissists all seem to exhibit the same patterns of behavior. We are tearing ourselves apart, striving to provide our kids with the very basic sense of having TWO parents in the already difficult and painful situation of a broken family. Meanwhile, the other parent is living the time of their life, which leaves us feeling utterly helpless as we witness our kids suffering, with seemingly no room for reason. @@TheSparkySpitz
With a father like you they will be alright bro just keep doing what ya doing n best of luck to ya
Thank you!@@steelesharpensteele6252
Such joy to be free from being in prison.. a delight not to hear from the narcissist ever again 💕
The biggest and best thing that they could ever give you is a discard no contact and no hoover! Time to live your best life! Heal and be happy!
They don't want you to see them struggle or even with their new downgrade partner.
😂😂😂😂 so true. I’m a model so they’re Always really beat or homely-looking. Well hey she’ll learn and maybe change her style when she re discovers herself through the abuse 😂
We have to learn to value ourselves-not rely on others
He secretly thinks I gave him the biggest narcissistic injury of all time when in reality he did it to himself.👈🏻 I HAVE ZERO DESIRE TO hear from him ever again. He caused me so much trouble I wouldn’t even blink or care if he was hit by a bus tomorrow.
We don’t hear from our mother after 12 years no contact because we have it all figured out now and she knows that. If you have it figured out they basically give up.
I'm glad I'm not hearing from the ex narc...no more begging...no more drama...no more issues...and etc.
Very well explained.
Stay strong and block the narcissist.
knowing this, i wont, im gonna play more with them..
They will Hoover...the first Hoover attempt is a test of your insecurity level. It’s ladened with admissions of bad behaviors without apologizing, future faking and false promises of change. If your response is no response they’ll test again and again. But If they are confronted to their face (must be done in person) and you injure their ego, it’s Game over! The look on their face after calling them out will show you they hate you for doing the opposite of what they want. They are immature fearful creatures, treat them accordingly
I know I haven’t heard from the narcissist bc I hold them accountable for their behaviors & that causes them shame which is a huge problem.
Great video. One of the most important things a narcissist will teach you is that you do not need their closure. You don't need closure at all. All you need to know is that they were not good for you and you are better off without them. That is all.
I absolutely don't need anything from them. They don't have anything you need trust that.
Because there is nothing left for them to take/use/exploit! Best trick to get rid of one... Pretend you are borke and broken... - works everytime!
I truly believe this…I mean what I say and say what I mean, don’t try me…when I say I’m exhausted I mean it. I’m done.
My narcissist showed up while I was trying to talk my son out of suicide. He wanted a quickie so I could get back to my son as soon as possible. I opened my door....told him it wasn't a good time...and slammed the door in his face. I haven't heard from him since. That told me every last thing I needed to know about him.
You couldn't make this up, I truly believe they are evil and selfish. I'm sorry for your pain and mental suffering
it was all about power they took what they could get and went on to leech someone else.
Broke up with my narcissistic ex in Dec 2019. So glad he’s stayed gone. 6 years of pure hell.
Suddenly they do ....when they want something or someone hasnt come along to replace u
I literally didn't want to lose the person. But they blocked and smeared me a little after I figured them out. All the lies and coverups. The double personality. I had to play dumb to keep the friendship. But they are just pure evil and it's a shame. I just can't imagine them being like that in their 30s and 40s.
I knew in my gut that he wasn’t going to come back. I went to no contact two months ago and he knows that I know he is a covert narcissist. Good luck out there buddy…. While watching all of these different videos and people saying they’re going to Hoover and come back for some strange reason I knew that wasn’t going to be my case. I guess I am way too strong for him to get any more supply from me…
Same here 😂
Once a narc is identified they are better gone for ever regardless of who closed the door.
If you hear from them it’s because they want a free ride again.
Exactly. Our mother still sends my sister and I a couple of emails every year, but it’s something totally random and stupid, like a funny blurb about Bob Ross the painter (because I liked him when I was THIRTEEN years old.). But as for anything genuine? Forget it.
She’s done the same thing for over 12 years since we went no contact with her!!
I feel like the effort she’s putting forth is an insult. Like “well, it’s not worth it for me to put any effort or demonstrate any real concern or change, so I’ll just send this stupid email. If it works it works, if not then, meh, who gives a crap”.
She just doesn’t really give a crap. She tells all her flying monkey friends she does, but she doesn’t.
A long time ago my sister asked me to pick her up at 4:30 am. She came to my house for a short visit than asked for a ride over to my other sisters house where she stayed for eight days. Never was invited to spend time with them. A few days into her trip she asked me to transport her back to the airport at 3am. All five sisters and one brother are in my MO contact list for years now. I have never felt so much peace
My sister is allll about what I can do for her too. After 2-1/2 years of no contact she texts to ask “ when do I get my sister back” LOL
These people are demonic be thankful they do not contact you I understand it's very painful pick yourself up dust yourself off and keep climbing that mountain 💪
This is we’re I am now .
However I still look over my shoulder .
It's been a year now since went no contact, my brain feels so much better and doing well
Great job, explaining g this!!! It is a huge blessing!!! 29 months post narc, no contact.
My sister and I stopped talking to our mother 12 years ago. From day 1 she didn’t try. She knows she’s figured out so she doesn’t bother.
They want you to look for an explanation folks its part of the head game .do the inner work spiritually, physically, and watch some videos on how to emotionally detach
That, and a narcissistic injury, a severe narcissistic injury.
You will not see, or hear from the Narcissist again
Thank you $14,000 later and I said NO he BLOCKED you solved my problem thank you Diva. Love that block just saved me thousands.
I recall a then-girlfriend who told me that she had spoken with her first boyfriend through text. That is, someone whom she dated more than ten years earlier. I asked whether that was common and if she had other exes in her contact list. She did. I knew at that point that I was simply a future ex-boyfriend.
Most people rarely been with one person. Why not just know the person before you date them. That's why most ppl have dating issues because they date someone too soon
@@Melbester9 I have no trouble with someone having exes. What is unhealthy is keeping a pool of exes to chat.
@@licmir3663it's what they do... They have some kind of access to their past supply.
Im not hearing anything either. I think God removed him, and i know thats a good thing
It is wonderful and peaceful not hearing from narcissistic people that I unfortunately used to know!
Congratulations on your silver button
These narcissism videos are helping massively get over my ex. It's showing so many cracks in her I may have missed , ontop of the obvious unbelievable behavior. Good riddance. She'll never admit it as she's never been sorry for anything she has said or done. Narcissists need deporting on their own island!
This is what I’m dealing with right now , and it’s horrible
It's not sad it's glory it's happiness you win they loose you got your life live it
I love this! Never really understood why he didn’t come back, now I know. I told him we would never be friends and I stood by that. He sent me a package in the mail and I never thanked him. This makes me feels strong, thanks.
I’m with you on this one. Pleased finding this out helped you too ☺️✨✨
You told him you'd never be friends again and he steered clear. Leave it at that
o my lorddddddddddddd, someone does the same thing to me, but i thanked him like normal human being, and i wish him well on his life
Mortification is the end game if you beat them to the punch, now many people will say don't stoop to their level but if you feel you need to make them feel pain then by all means
She knows that I know who and what she is!
"Princeless" Diana!
Her last words to me; "I never want you to see my face again"
Perfect! Finally we agree on something.
Divorce is final, life is flowing again! Haven't heard a word for 3 months
Thank you for reminding me in a moment of weakness!
Back in the day, when i made everything super easy, and i occasionally gave him $, he did always come back. When i started saying "noooo" and i removed the money and s$% he left and has not returned. So, i know youre right. TY for this important video❤
Do not ever give a guy money. A real man would never take money from a woman.
I was able to expose my soon to be ex wife after 18 years. We have a 7 year daughter together that I want in my life. Saying that, I’m concerned my ex will disappear or make it extremely difficult for visitation with my daughter. So to play this safe, I’ve been able to educate myself and understand what NOT to do to keep her from moving far away. So far I’ve managed to keep my daughter close to see her and it’s a win win for both myself and the narcissist.
Because they create trouble cost you, they are cowards, they know you figured them out, scared running for you to pick up the pieces, when you stand up to them cold, call them out, they say can you be more caring? They finally heard you
If you want the 11 minute explanation, then watch this video (it is very thorough).
If you want the quick explanation then here it is: A narcissist stops contacting you when they realize that they can no longer play you.
This is the first time in 6 yrs she didn’t contact me 9 months straight and I NEVERED felt stronger I started working out 5 miles a day 1000 rep circuit I’m extremely blessed before I was so confused and exhausted
Two years later…..two years……they do……I never believed it. He waited 2 years to think I’d forget or his shame fizzled out…..I have our child that he has never met
He’s soooo looking for supply
He sooo thinks 2 years might give me time to forget paaaaaa
It’s so funny when you have the knowledge
They need to be wiped out
They are wreckless
Bless me and my baby
Pray we stay strong 💪
I think it's because we will not put up with their crap!
Consider yourself blessed 🎉
Death is only the truly freedom
When they know you can see behind their toxicity they will remain gone. Consider it a blessing!
Well said as usual.
12.5 years ago, i told him i was on to him, and i left. That was the END...👍
A big blessing 🙌
I broke up with my Covert Narcissistic girlfriend 3 months ago.
I was told she was grumpy all the time and moody so I reached out to see if she was ok. At this time I wasn't aware that Covert Narcissism was even a condition.
Well I got idealised ,devalued and discarded within the space of an 1 hour consisting of a phone call then a message.
Haha lesson learned.
Ghosted permanently for the last 7 months. Is for the best I know. Reached out Twice in the last 6 months to check on the ray of sunshine..she is unwell...narcissism is just the cherry on the sundae..if you know what I mean...and got hung up on, twice. I have to laugh at the situation. Expected it. Feel dumb to care and to reach out. Was hoping I could rise above hurt feelings knowing it's always a risk. It's on me. So hard to be cut off. Even if its saving my life. Rejection is rough, especially from a narc!!! For my own self respect I will not reach out again. I can't Love to all and thanks Anoushka.
No contact is the only way out. Imagine if you had children with her?
We have to return to the things we like doing. We simply must. All the best.
She doesnt give a damn about you and never will. Stop feeding her.
i was ghosted too, and a month later, something came in in the mail
@@cowboynohorse that would be hell. Good point
The first time I dumped my ex narc was the last time. I told him when I was breaking up that he would never see me again. I have stood by my word and soon after the breakup I went no contact that’s never been broken. He has hovered me for 14 years now and I’ve never reciprocated as I got closure and need nothing from him. Total pest!
Thank you for doing this video 🙏🏽
Thank you and great for all of us that finally woke up and realized all their fakeness!!!!!
It’s really difficult to accept that as an answer, especially if you are going through a separation divorce or break up that they refused to have any communication with their “partner”
I hear you.
Narcissists don’t have “partners”
TY for this today, dearest❤
Thank you for this videos ❤
You're 💯% correct. You got to be very mentally strong dealing with one, for It's always something With a narcissistic person, and they love to push buttons😂. I had enough got rid of mine. For I can do a whole lot better than that crap. New supply enjoy👍😂.
Thank you so very much ❤❤❤
Thank you, I needed to hear this today!
Thank you so very much for addressing this.
I'm so glad I haven't heard from him in 8 months. Thank God.
It was an eye opening video on this topic Anoushka… Now that I am so much free, I wanna do whatever i wanted to do without giving a damn single thought about the Narc.
Thank you so much for pointing this out,I new this is what I'm going through right now
Hi Anoushka Thank you so much you are helping me through this. I appreciate you, thank you thank you thank you.
Thank you for your videos, they helped me a lot on a healing path. Now watching you makes me smile whenever you mention something that used to hurt before. I think I had the last hover with a birthday message from a narc which I simply ignored. Keep up doing the good work!
I didn't used to be transactional in my thinking with other people...but I have found over time that I will be used, not might but will and tossed away if I don't at least make some thought to what the other person can do for me.
I hate the world I live in and what it's done to me.
Thank you for explaining this. It makes sense. Better to move on.
brilliant observation
Thank you🤗🤗
thanks Anoushka!
Anushka..Hi..
Yes you have their playbook, very well done.
You went into hermit and healed..respect.
And now you are educating the masses..kind ❤️ heart.
It's not an easy journey with these people, and the thing is they are master manipulators and bye the time you ( if ever)..understand what they have done to you..there's plenty of damage 💔 😢 to repair..before you can come back.
Thank you for putting this platform out their warrior woman.
You are a credit 👏 to this world and the universe.
Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
P.S..Sorry for spelling your name wrong.
Well I think why they don't return< and thank god, is that you've seen thru them
I don't care any longer either!
Thank you anoshka for everything you do for me and everyone else absolutely AMAZING cannot thank you enough for what you do for me and everyone else sending you love and light and many blessings stay safe and well asking 🥰🥰💜💜💜👍👍👏👏👏💐💐💐💐
Thank you ❤
Two years no contact and it is now almost incomprehensible to me they would try ! I have come such a long way on my healing journey , and finally have my OWN sense of reality and truth ! I am sure it must have been a HUGE ego blow to them , especially I was probably the best audience they ever had ! If they did contact me now I think I would just stay calm and if they questioned why I walked I would make out it was my own situation and that I am in MUCH better place now ! What I would really love to do is tell them the truth , but I know that ANY kind of energy signals to them that I am still possible supply . Instead you have shut the door slowly whilst nodding and smiling , as you might do with a REALLY ANNOYING cold caller at you doorstep ! The only power they ever had was the power you gave them ! ❤️💪🙏
Thank you so much for this video. It’s cleared up the one thing that has been bothering me. Now it makes sense to me. Can’t thank you enough ☺️
Thank you SO much for this video! I love the way you explain things. It all makes sense now! Hurts to know I have wasted so much of my life on this person when I should have seen all the signs along the way. Couple weeks into NO contact. She has tried to msg a few times but I'm holding strong and not giving in! After the 3rd msg with NO response, I'm pretty sure she knows I have figured her out. Now I know why I'll never hear from her again. Thank you Anoushka!!!
Who wants to hear from these devils it's a blessing hopefully they don't come back and hoover to make sure you don't get up, or try to sabotage and secretly make you look bad. They have no value
wow , you describe exactly exactly about The Narcissist, ur not missing anythinggggggggggggggggggg