A Fearlessly Vulnerable Voice Stands Up to Rape: Sara Elise
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- čas přidán 26. 04. 2015
- “For so long, I’ve been told to shut up about my weaknesses and insecurities,” says Sara Elise. But in our new What’s Underneath episode, the soft-spoken personal chef steps out of her amazing drawstring drop-crotch trousers and unveils her strength by opening up about her struggles with her multiracial identity, an abusive boyfriend, and being raped by someone she knew.
To see all of Sara’s fearless vulnerability, watch her What’s Underneath episode then share her journey with your friends and loved ones!
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rape really is a crime on a different emotional level. she could easily talk about physical abuse and emotional abuse, but the thought of rape made her break down. it really... it really puts it into perspective.
she's strong and wise and beautiful.
I'm finding myself observing how each person places their clothing. Some is carefully arranged, some is all in one pile, some is just everywhere.
same!
+itchykami me2
her rings.. i get it.
me too
she's truly one of the most beautiful girls ive ever seen with such a beautiful heart
"it's like adding salt to dishes that you bake that are sweet. the salt actually makes everything else sweeter."
I wanted to hug her so bad when she teared up...but she was fine, she's so strong and soft at the same time. Lovely, lovely woman.
+Lulah Wilde thsts exactly what i thought
People fail to realise that yes shes beautiful, physically, but there is so much more of her beauty that shines through, that isn't physical, this has been my favourite video so far, really has taught me i can achieve anything that i want , even with the similar situations that sara has experienced, i can overcome my struggles, thank you xx
Yes.
+Delilah Di I could not agree with you more! And indeed you can, your struggles are a reflection of your strength.
Redundancy shines through...
I love how brave her voice sounds. And she's so gorgeous.
she looks so young for her age like when she said "when I was in my early twenties" I was like whaaaaaat
She looks like a black Selena Gomez. Georgous and Powerful
She does actually!
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Ma Vi Why ?
Right!!
When she started talking about flash backs effecting current relationships I just broke and started crying. It's nice to know I'm not alone, but I hate that anybody ever has to go though that continuous pain.
She is EXTREMELY self aware and UNBELIEVABLY brave. If someone tries to control you to that extent, physically and sexually assaults you and then convinces you that you're the problem it justvsolidifies the fear that truly paralyzes that person. He wants you to remain as paralyzed as he is. He wants to keep you stagnant.
Dddd
Honestly if I saw her walking down the street my immediate assumption would be that she has the perfect life cause she's so pretty and stylish but this just goes to show never assume you know a person's story on looks.
+AliEsteem Agreed...
yea :-D
preach
"And in relationships, she'd always found it easier to collapse into the man's headspace than to ask him to expand into hers"
Sylvia, 'Waiting in Vain' by Colin Channer
Wow, I am just blown away by her story. We all have our own demons and you can never tell what someone has went through just by looking at them. Beautiful girl and story
Omg these videos taught me so much . For sure much more than school :D
+veronika tothova Then improve in school.
I love people sharing thwir experiences. It makes me feel integrated and that having problems and struggles is so human. :)
This is beautiful. I would look at her walking down the street and assume she would have the perfect life. she's beautiful what issues would she have about insecurities and self worthlessness? How could she understand the common defeat black girls would have about beauty? Instead I saw this woman in her rawness and felt empathy and compassion for her story and respect for her telling it!
Kristian Jackson It's this rawness that we only feel comfortable sharing when it's not direct. She's speaking to us through a video. She's strong, but none us would share this much casually drinking a coffee or eating pie. Acknowledging this, considering (SONDER) is what we all need to survive. There are so many elements that make this hard, but if just realize the person next to us is not a toy. If we take the time to consider, this pain stops. One person at a time, then five, and then ten, and then someone who matters to us all. Touch the heart of a public figure and the flame becomes untameable.
Sonder
n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own-populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness-an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
but your light skin, you still get elevated like biracials
She is so incredibly gorgeous and brave.
I don't think I know of a more beautiful person than she is. Speaking about her inner beauty. She is magically stunning, but even her soul is. She is so passionate and she has gone through so much, yet she still remained strong and is spreading the word, helping others, being positive. She has so much to teach everyone. Well, I know she taught me, only with this 10 minute long video, she taught me a lot. I feel like she would be the an amazing person to have long conversations with.
Thank you StileLikeU for bringing us raw interviews with people who are not afraid to express themselves. It is truly inspiring. This girl won me over not only with her lovely looks, but her kind and wise spirit. Her words at the end about the diversity of things coexisting in reality was especially interesting.
it’s not often you see someone as beautiful on the inside as the outside, and vice versa. when i heard her voice in the beginning, without seeing her, i got an overwhelming feeling of beautiful, resilient strength and wisdom. then i saw her and something clicked. she was as beautiful as her aura and her soul. she’s so strong, and i hope she knows that.
She is genuinely the most beautiful woman I have ever seen.
"The salt makes everything else sweeter"
I absolutely love that
yeahhh, I got goosebumps when she said that.
Wow! I do not comment often on videos but I felt compelled to comment on this one because I relate to this young woman on so many different levels. I myself have gone through a similar path in life and it is so touching to know you are not alone. Thank you so much for these videos!
Sara Elise you're so beautiful. I don't even know if this word can describe you best because there's something so precious about you. Your story resonates so much... somehow you helped another human being. Blessings, peace & love to you. Hugs ♡
Woah.
Love her.
Everything she said.
And the way she explained why her body is a good place to be…
So beautiful.
The sound of her laugh is such a beautiful thing, it fills my heart with warm feelings.
if this isn't me to a T... Good Lord, thank you for this. So thankful she shared her story.
First of all, this was beautiful. Second of all, her and Selena Gomez look so much alike. They have the exact same face structure and similar facial features. Haha I know that's not relevant but I needed to share.
You are beautiful Sara. The way you see people and life comes from a beautiful place in your heart. Your strength, transparency, unassuming boldness to share your story and speak truth really moves me. Your ability to talk about what you've been through is powerful. Thank you for making me feel less alone.
this interview touched me like no other it's therapeutic to have some vocalize experiences similar to mine she's so inspiring to me I'm trying to restrain my tears but it's like tears if relief like I feel more courageous watching her express herself and I can't wait for the day when I gain the comfort and strength to share myself
wow she is truly beautiful.. Thank you Sarah for sharing with us. I totally resonated with this
Such a strong, beautiful soul. I feel less alone knowing that someone has been through the same thing. She's such an inspiration
Wow so admiring her strength.
I'm a heterosexual white girl and I connected with this. This woman is strong and powerful and I respect her so much. Good on her for sharing and being able to deal with something so concerning!
The soul knows no labels
her soul radiates to her exterior. she is so beautiful. glowing
This is a massive inspiration for me, having suffered through a strikingly similar relationship, and how she doesn't let that define her. Especially what she says at the end about letting her emotions pass through.
wow! these little shorts are so powerful and so raw and real. thank you so much for creating these! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Every story just tuches me so much!, so glad I discover this chanel, thank you
What an incredible woman.
I cried. No. I shed tears for and with this woman. May there be peace in her soul and may she continue to prosper! Very inspiring and relatable. Sending lots of Light & love to her on her amazing journey.Xo
What a soul + story. It takes an incredibly resilient and self-understanding person to be able to stand as tall as Sara does. Thank you for sharing this, and thank you Sara for your heart + beauty.
What an incredibly powerful, moving and inspiring journey from someone with a beautiful heart. There are indeed blessings in pain. We just sometimes need the strength to open unlocked doors, seek what it is and move on.
Wow!! You are amazing!! Using your story and sharing with others. Thx
Love watching these videos they are so real and honest and puts everything in perspective that everyone goes through things
I love you channel. It's a bit like group therapy for me. Listening to all these wonderful and strong human beings is very touching and empowering for me.
I appreciate these videos so so much, especially this one. She is so resilient and brave in the way she views herself and the world, it's beautiful
I love these videos, they both encourage me, but they also teach me how to speak up. it teaches me about the world and how to stand up for it. thank you for making these videos
This was amazing. I was completely tuned in the entire time. This for me was one of the most vulnerable and raw interviews I've seen so far. She seems strong but also soft.. I'm not sure how to explain it but yeah..
I can not tell you how much this moved me. You have connected to many people with your insight and clarity...as Adichie says, there is danger in a single story but in this case, I had heard no common story for mixed-race women before you told it. Thanks for opening that door a bit more for us.
Such a beautiful interview
What an amazing person - she is truly incredible. I am so grateful to have found your channel and to be able to get a glimpse of these strong, beautiful women you feature. Thank you so much.
Wow.
What a beautiful woman.
Outside, inside...just wow.
This was incredibly powerful. You guys, along with the people who chose to participate in your videos, weave such intricate stories and tell and present them in a way that captivates.
i cried when she talked about how rape affects you afterwards, how you get flashbacks during sex even when you love them. it stays with you. this was really incredible.
***** that isn't how these work and obviously these aren't for you. and you'd probably still talk shit on her anyways. get. fucked.
***** it's not degradation, it's a statement that female bodies aren't for scumbags like yourself to sexualize and lust after. they are OUR bodies, and OUR experiences. if you won't show this woman proper respect than i have no further business talking to you.
CarEnthusiast = Crunchy. Or, whatever name they go by these days. Her willingness to disrove does not equate to degradation, nor does it negate her being raped. There is nothing shameful about an unclothed human body.
This was so powerful for me. Our stories are so similar and in my life right now, I'm experiencing what she talked about. The flashbacks, the fear...all of it. Seeing her be completely open and honest about her experiences has given me some hope and courage that I can overcome all my past abuse. That in these hurts and failures I can learn to function again, find what success means to me, and then become it. I don't know how and I don't know when, but I'm trying. I'm trying so damn hard. I'm adding salt to the sweet.
Hearing her story really blew me away. She is strong and this is powerful to watch. Wow
She looks like Selena Gomez
+Im Just Me I think she looks like sara elise hardman :)
Gabi Dickson lol
I also thought she look like her too
i was going to say that.
YESSS
these videos are legitimately changing my life
First of all, this is an incredible piece of art. I refer to the project. It is wonderful to hear from the largest non-minority group on the planet. I say non-minority because women are often treated as a minority group when they are the majority on the planet. This woman is stunningly beautiful visually and as she allows us into her life it is clear that, through adversity, she is internally beautiful, intellectually stimulating and truly a giving lovely person. Thank you for sharing.
She has such a beautiful voice and the way she allows herself to be vulnerable is really wonderful.
"i feel raw but good." that about sums it up for this series. recounting traumas out loud is no doubt painful yet with this platform i get a sense of freedom, to speak about something to an audience not of one but many. for her to articulate a time in her life where she was most vulnerable - damn. props to you.
This is so raw and thought provoking. This is art.
The video I never knew I needed. Thank you.🖤
Its so crazy that when we look at people we see one thing but its so much different than what it is. I have experience a lot of what she has went through and no one would ever know or look at me and know I'm truly unhappy I want to be at a place where I accept my hurt and move on. This inspiration it can happen
Her story is relatable to me, and the way she views life is inspiring to me. I'm starting to view things the way she has learned to see them. And her salt metaphor has just helped my outlook open up and blossom even more.
This is intensely beautiful & inspiring in so may ways.
Thank u
I love the way she expresses herself. Her explanations really resonate with me.
this was awesome and spoke to me on so many levels thank you for sharing Sara!
..that was incredible, difficult to watch, very moving and raw.
Wishing I had her body ! but she seems so genuine, brave and kind!
Amazing amazing woman, forget the beauty. Wish i knew her.
Thank you for sharing! It was touching for me and my gf.. I hope you find your place! You are not alone 😊
definitely my favorite video from the whole series
I love the way she describes herself and her life! I wish her nothing but the best in the future!
This is why I hate us humans. People just go around breaking other people's spirits and souls. Life is just ridiculously damaging for all but moreso for some.
This videos have opened my mind and have help me to be okay with my smistakes in life, to not being embarressed of who i am, physically and mentally...
I'm so sorry that person did that to you. It felt wrong seeing her body after that.
Lord Lew why?
Cousin. I hear you. Keep speaking your truth. You have always and will always be amazing.
Her voice is so beautiful... It's sweet, soft and mellifluous. She's such a good person and so sweet.
Wow, this is amazing, thank you.
your videos are the best therapy
this woman is so beautiful, not only with the way she looks, but i absolutely love the way she talked... i loved how she put everything out there
This is great! Love this one
So relatable & truthful 💜
Beautiful inside and out. Very inspiring and touching to listen to. ❤️
she is amazing in so many ways,the ways I inspire to be beautiful.physically,emotionally, mentally
this video really really spoke to me. she's so beautiful and strong. thank you
These videos are so uplifting
I just want to hug her she is such a strong person omg
She's so beautiful! Such a strong soul within a petite body, amazing! Really inspiring woman
Wow this is just beautiful !
What a beautiful person. Love her strength.
Life is too short to waste time matching socks! :D LOVED HER!
She has such a gentle soul.
Relatable truth. Bless her for sharing.
She is so beautiful and unapologetically honest.
the thing about being owned by her boyfriend and how she was comfortable with it because of her parents... is seriously exactly how i was... i didnt realize till just now that is probably why i stayed in my abusive relationship. i had such strict parents that basically completely ruled over everything so having a guy make rules for me in our relationship and controlling everything i did, felt very normal to me
i love her so much. she's such a beautiful person, inside & out!
A beautifully well spoken story and woman. She is amazing.
she seems like such a srong, beautiful soul!! and her voice is so pretty and soothing!