I wish you happiness. You are a survivor. I have a very, very different story. Neglect. I'm fairly sure my parents didn't love me. My mom was stunned when I went no contact. I guess she didn't see it coming. She was old, too. She expected from me what I didn't get from her. She was in therapy her entire life, psychotropic Rx her entire life & hospitalized once for a mental breakdown. Some will criticize me for my actions. She was a school teacher who nurtured & supported her students - even buying them clothes & food. When I asked her why she never supported me, nurtured me, complimented me, guided me, she said she didn't do those things because she didn't want me to get a big head. So for years I was an insufferable person to be around because I didn't like myself. My dad? He was in the room but not present. A brilliant scientist who never attached to me. When my parents divorced, he had nothing more to do with me. When he remarried, he invited my brother to his wedding but not me. I didn't even know he was getting married. And yes, he knew how to get in touch with me.
My dad was extremely absent as well. Never showed up to anything. Many years I was convinced if I didn’t call or text him I’d probably never hear from him. Tried it once and we didn’t speak for many years, so I was proven right. Like…why do people have kids if they aren’t interested in even knowing them, let alone showing them love? I’ll never understand it.
I wish you happiness. You are a survivor.
I have a very, very different story. Neglect. I'm fairly sure my parents didn't love me. My mom was stunned when I went no contact. I guess she didn't see it coming. She was old, too. She expected from me what I didn't get from her.
She was in therapy her entire life, psychotropic Rx her entire life & hospitalized once for a mental breakdown.
Some will criticize me for my actions.
She was a school teacher who nurtured & supported her students - even buying them clothes & food.
When I asked her why she never supported me, nurtured me, complimented me, guided me, she said she didn't do those things because she didn't want me to get a big head.
So for years I was an insufferable person to be around because I didn't like myself.
My dad? He was in the room but not present. A brilliant scientist who never attached to me. When my parents divorced, he had nothing more to do with me. When he remarried, he invited my brother to his wedding but not me. I didn't even know he was getting married.
And yes, he knew how to get in touch with me.
My dad was extremely absent as well. Never showed up to anything. Many years I was convinced if I didn’t call or text him I’d probably never hear from him. Tried it once and we didn’t speak for many years, so I was proven right. Like…why do people have kids if they aren’t interested in even knowing them, let alone showing them love? I’ll never understand it.
@@Lily_37178 Thank you, Lily. You're helping me a lot. Love & tight cyber hugs. 🙌❤️🦋🦾
I hope everything works out okay for you. If i ever meet someone like your family members i would avoid them at all costs.