A Difficult Conversation with my Son
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- čas přidán 30. 01. 2020
- I told him I was sorry for the way that I react and respond at times.
As his father, I lose my patience and cool more than I’d like to admit but I needed to get my apology off my chest and, at the same time, show him how a man works to correct his mistakes.
As difficult as they are, these powerful and much-needed conversations can serve as the catalyst for growth in our own lives and in the lives of the people we have a responsibility for.
After our conversation, he jumped out of the truck, let me on my side, gave me a huge hug, and said through tears in his eyes, “I love you, Dad.”
Frankly, I was dreading the conversation but I’m so glad I had it anyways. What a powerful moment for both of us.
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Whether you decide to join us or not, I challenge you to have a conversation this weekend that you’ve been putting off for way too long. You owe it to yourself and someone else so, make it happen.
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"IT IS ALWAYS EASIER TO BUILD STRONG CHILDREN THAN REPAIR BROKEN MEN"
Richard Wolfe ain’t that the truth dude
Deep..
truth
Finest quote from Donald Trump
@@sazcxieo ooo
It takes a Man to be able to apologize to his children, kudos to you.
Yeah, i got a boot in the ass instead.
Best fathering i could have ever got is to get smacked when i was out of line. You dont see it that way when you’re young but you will get it when your older. I thank my dad for his stern line and strong pimp hand for making me a man early. He passed away when i was 15 and i am grateful for the lessons he taught me and thankful for the way he raised me. I now have my own business and a nice home, working on the family now.
Dont be too strict, but dont let them get away with anything and your kids will turn out great people. You seem level headed and will do great by your son.
LukstrGamr Sometimes thats just the way men are. Doesnt mean he doesnt want to talk to you or doesnt love you. Life is tough on a man, working day in and day out trying to make a good life for your family. Its stressful. My dad got mad at my mom and made her cry too, but they still had a loving marriage that was over 15yrs when he died. Maybe you need to try and see things from his pov. Do something with him he likes to do be it fishing or hiking or w.e. Are you being productive, like having a job by 16 or are you like 20 and playing xbox gettin stoned on the couch all day? I cant see a guy snapping for no reason. Hopefully you can get it smoothed over.
it takes a man to change, not apologize.
@@bacon8353 Dads aren't insecure, but it's a tough balance between tough and loving at the same time, I have 4 boys, I had to be hard on them because I'm raising ALPHA MALES, but I showed them love, now that they are fathers, they understand.
You’re learning a great deal about men at an early age.. your dad’s trying to show you not to be emotional while at the same time he’s the one being emotional. It sounds like he has a drinking problem? Low self-esteem? There’s no way to solve your dad’s problems and he knows that.. what he wants to teach you is how not to be like him and how NOT to show your emotions. It’s terrible you’re having to sacrifice your good years living with a person who clearly isn’t stable. But you can be a good man and grow up to not hate your dad, the answer to avoiding being stuck in the same cycle of hate he’s in is by learning to understand everything he’s doing, the mind games, the mood swings, it’s all from something missing in his heart. Don’t let yourself grow to hate him but know what he is.
If we never apologize, our sons will never know how to forgive.
For a guy with a spongebob meme as a profile pic, that was really profound. I will try to remember it.
@@markkrousos5011 that'll make you remember more
Dimitris Pantazopoulos glorious
Can confirm. As a person that never fell short of any violence, I find it extremely hard to apologize to people without it feeling wrong to me.
@@tribson9788 yup my body physically rejects when i have to give an apology. It's the grossest feeling.
Didnt grow up with a dad.
But just maybe I can be a good one for my child.
You will
Same
Stfu
That’s what we all want, good luck in life brother!
Same lol
meanwhile my parents:
>does a mistake
>blames it on me
>I point out their mistake
>they get mad for me pointing their shit out
YOOOO THIS SHIT BLEW UP
Bruh same accept I aint got no dad
Robert Guerra felt this
It’s also really hard for somebody to be a single parent, it’s hard to be a couple and have children, my mom gives me almost everything that she has, but a lot of the time she falls short, for instance, this is small, but she hasn’t filled my gas tank up for 1 month, yes I don’t have a job but I’ve been 16 for 1 month and and out a lot to try to find jobs, my school is 25 mins away so that’s 1 tank like every 4 days, I have to ask friends for money and it’s embarrassing
@@robertguerra1831 I respect that
Optimal JZ maybe you should take public transport like I do, or get a bike, or just walk maybe. Atleast you have a car buddy be more grateful for what you have my friend.
“Son, this beard isn’t guaranteed”
Your 1,000% white tell me if I’m wrong
Homna :: And if he is?
I don’t talk to someone who’s name is Chris McDonald
Homna :: Prolly cause you’re racist 🤷🏼♂️ But you’re talking about my name? 🤣🤦🏼♂️
Chris McDonald I hope you realize I’m not being serious but I guess 💀
This randomly popped up in my recommendations and i am not disappointed
Same
Same
Same
Same
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I am 20 years old and have never heard my parents apologise a single time for anything lol
Facts
Exactly it felt good to see someone’s dad say it though 😂
Me too 😒
@@Lonelyhvnt yeah, I needed this
lol??
I thought he was gonna tell his kid he was going to shave his beard.
That should be a sacrifice high enough to make kim jong un cry
Hey sometimes when you have a great beard it really is a difficult conversation to have with anyone! No bullshit!
THATS ELIGAL
Ok it’s not that serious that’s j crazy
YOUNG TARIQ XD *illegal
if a parent can communicate with their children with that level of transparency and respect, it's a great sign that both are already on a right path. I aspire to have that relationship when I have kids
Louis Johnson true that
i wish my parents did that
if we'll even last that long
If you’re already thinking about this I’m sure you’ll be a great dad!
Louis Johnson Mutual respect
This means EVERYTHING for kids, having their parent remove that veil and be honest as a human being helps an amazing nurturing relationship
+André Schneider To this day, I can confirm the fact that this would still mean everything to me.
@Connor L apologizing when you're actually wrong is exactly what you should be doing. Kids will be more likely to listen to you when you're actually right that way. Just try not to be wrong very often lol. I see your point tho, don't be a pushover but this dad don't look like a pushover
It lets the child know that he like his own Father is a fallible human being capable of human error and that the Father has perspective and humility to recognize and consciously acknowledge a mistake and seek to make amends were possible.
This can only raise the level of respect the child has for the Parent and will only increase the likelihood that the child will listen and pay heed to such a Parent's future advice or warning.
I kept looking at his beard, what a great beard
Mad Mask-129 right like it’s such a distraction lmao
Yeah "great"
if it was grey i would think he was gonna teach me death-quan-dough
I also have a long beard but I can't handle to have a long mustache.
It’s actually intoxicating.
Lucky kid. According to my father, everything is my fault...... still to this day i cant talk to him without taking blame. Im 35, he is 74.
Lost any hope of ever sitting down and talking to him like adults.
Pure Male same here
Same as both of y'all, but I'm adopted.. some of us aren't as blessed as others and it brings nothing but joy to my heart to see a man like this.. a father like this.. I hope his son knows the blessing he's been givin 🤷🏼♂️
He probably still sees you as his little dude and wont ever see you as a man. That situation makes having a normal adult conversation difficult for tons of dads and sons. Try not to take it too hard man. I dont know either of you, hopefully shit gets better one day.
@@tyshred9251 words of wisdom
Pure Male honestly same here man
I cannot remember a single time during my entire childhood where either of my parents said the words “I’m sorry” or apologized to me. Your son should be grateful.
While I agree that this man's respectable, it's also sad to think about it that his son should be grateful at all. I mean, parents should be like this, and it's been underwhelming for most of children in the world.
@Lawful_ IMO, that's awful advice and such a negetive and pessimistic way of looking at things. Do I think clean water is a right as a human? Of course. Am I grateful that I have it? You're god damn right I am. And so should everyone else.
You don't need to lack something, to be grateful for it. And just because it's something everyone has, or should have, doesn't mean you shouldn't be grateful for it. Be grateful for every single good thing in your life. Don't tell someone they shouldn't be grateful because it should be expected. That's an awful way to go through life.
From what it sounds like his son is grateful considering he apologized too and opened up to his dad.
Lawful_ Okay so I'll go rob a bank and my parents will DEFINITELY still respect me
When he says he should be grateful he's talking about the small number of parents who actually apologize and he got one of the rare ones. You lots really don't know how to read huh?
This man deserves a reward for being such as selfless and aware father.
The reward is to have a great relationship with his son and his son understand how to be a better person.
Some part of me thinks he took the time to reenact the scene on camera and post it, for the sole purpose of hoping you and everyone else who watches this would think what you commented
Prayers for you man.
My dad always knows when he’s wrong and isn’t afraid to admit it, and I also admit to him when I’m wrong. Would never ask for another father.
:)
K
You’re lucky
My dad doesn't like to admit that he is wrong.
You’re lucky. My dad never takes responsibility for his mistakes and blames everyone else and when you point out a mistake he has made he will get really angry
my father and i never had those kind of conversations, and now we dont talk to each other anymore
Damn dude
FaceFish9 It’s never to late. I never had those conversations with my dad. He made some poor choices and left when I was 10 and I never saw him again until his funeral when I was 18. I had those talks with him through prayer and it taught me to have them with my son and who is now nine. Even if it’s just one, don’t let regret and fear become an addiction.
You have the power to change that! How valuable is it to you?
While I don’t agree with lots of what “Jesse Lee Peterson” on CZcams says (look him up), I do agree with what he says about how to move forward with your parents and find peace. It’s worth hearing what he has to say.
FaceFish9 Same man now I have three boys and suck at talking 🤦♂️
T AN No excuses, guy! Just stumble through it, and over time they’ll clearly see where their dad’s heart is.
Not sure why this was in my recommended but I’m glad it was
Was recommended for me too
Same here
Same right here, very glad
Evan Thomas me too
Welcome to the broken algorithm I was recommended as well
Dang...25years old "man" here. shit someone must be cutting onions around here 😅, I wish my dad was at least 1%of how you are. As a child I never ever heard an adult say "I am wrong/I am sorry"
Same I hate this about my father
With all of the respect and empathy I can deploy over the internet, I hereby drop my most empathetic gesture possible on the internet, :feelsbadman:
I’m pretty sure almost everyone here has never heard an apology from there parent as a child 👍
It's sad adults always think they are right..
At least you guys have a father
I'm 16. My father left before I was born out of wedlock. This is the type of man I wanna be for my children. I want to be the best dad. I want to care for my children like this man does.
I wish my parents would communicate like this, instead of yelling and telling me off. Good job.
Nah be thankful
Grow up
You still need a sense of discipline
Do ya’ll not understand that they mean when the parents are wrong? They’re not saying anything about being disciplined by being yelled at. Jesus
starlite xo you’re beyond stupid
So the other day my 5 year old little girl slammed her foot into something. And since I was home she ran in and got close to her mommy. With tears welling up. But didn’t cry. And I know it had to hurt her. I was standing there. My wife looked at me and said “she doesn’t think she can cry around you. She thinks she has to be tough” so I looked at my little girl. Sat down. Put my arm around her. Told her to look at me and told her “baby bear I love you and it’s ok to cry. You don’t have to hold it in. I don’t look at you or love you any less or different if you cry.” Kissed her and hugged her. And she ran off happy. Opened my eyes a lot.
A bit of affection and motivation goes a long way, especially for children.
ICE conner oh yeah yeah
Your Manly, to the Point that your Maliness is Scares your Child
Cry isn’t wrong, but when you start to cry you are accepting and allowing what happened take control over you. Children should learn how to be tough when necessary, as adults do, because if you say that it’s ok to cry whenever something happens that kid will become fragile, weak, as the new generation of people, depressed, anxious, and emotionally unstable.
The best way to solve these problems is to teach children how to identify and understand the reasons that are triggering these emotions. In other words, would be to teach them how to philosophy about themselves.
That’s my point of view.
So she still didn’t cry?
I had a horrible dad growing up, that’s why I’m gonna try and be a good one.
J C B thanks
Lol okay Darth Dwight, we ain't trusting your dark side ass
My dad only talks to me about my grades... And only when they are bad... I honestly feel like i'm in a house with roommates instead of parents...
Lad I’ve never felt so related to a comment and I’m lookin at all these comments of ppl havin no parents I feel bad but it doesn’t make me feel any better about my parents
Your comment makes me remember about my ex's parents. She always told me that she felt like if they were not related in any way, since there was never intimate talks and they never showed that she matters, sometimes even fighting in front of her and saying they didn't plan to have her like if she wasn't listening...I really wanted to get her out of there as soon as I could, I hope she turns up fine in the future, and so you guys that go through this. KEEP IN MIND THAT YOU CAN BUILD YOUR FAMILY THROUGH FRIENDS AND WITH PEOPLE THAT REALLY CARE ABOUT YOU!
@@LuisEPGomes i don't tell this to my friends or anyone, since it's personal, but since you are probably someone i'm never going to meet, my parents did tell me that i was a mistake, and they didn't want a second child, my mother had countless abortions, and they said i was the lucky one, since they found out about me too late... They really treated me a lot worse then my sister, but i never said a thing to them about this, they don't want to talk to me about anything, and i became numb over the years... I know that if i don't go to college i'm getting kicked out of the house as soon as i hit 18, (i'm almost 17) and i'm lucky that i had a passion in coding since i was in middle school, and i have a college that i want to go to that's close to me... But yeah, my parents are really rigid to me, to the point i am scared of them, also i got my ass beaten SO SO many times, but now they seemed to stop cus they are scared i might hit back, even tho i couldn't do that to them, they still fed me and gave me a home, i am grateful still, but my mental health is rock bottom, and my nights usually go by with me crying myself to sleep...
@@LuisEPGomes and honestly, if it weren't for my friends, that cared about me till the end, hitting me up, i'd be a lot more broken, and who knows, they were honestly the only things i was looking after when waking up, if it weren't for them i don't want to know what i would have done to myself
I've seen my dad as a roommate for years
My son is only 1 year old. My fathers was murdered in 2019. Prior to his death we never had a relationship. I hope I can be that open with my son to allow him to have a healthy relationship with me so he can love and respect my views and prospective on life. I’ll give my all to allow him that privilege of encountering a heart felt conversation with his father (ME)...that I was never allowed to with my experience growing up as a man.
Dominique Spencer I respect you
Valkyries SS No...they go for malt liquor and new ports and get arrested for child support warrants on the way back 😂😂
Gymnocalycium Saglionis It’s all good though man just be better than what you experienced! That’s what keeps me going.
Valkyries SS let me guess, you hate a black guy looks at these videos sometimes.
@Valkyries SS That was completely unnecessary. Get out of here with that.
You taught your son to trust.
A life-changer.
Takes more than one conversation to learn the concept of trust it's a good start.
When I was a kid I stole from the store and was caught! My dad came into to my room and asked my dad if I was getting spanked and grounded! My dad said no...and I asked him why. He said if I had the thought to steal, i didn't have the ability to critically think and he said that was his fault! He said the best characteristic of a man is to critically think because that ability translates to safety, success, creativity and character...a currency we do not often think about! My dad was a veteran and engineer! He was abandoned by his parents and adopted....he had to learn life the hard way and alone! He said his life changed once he learned the ability to critically think! Now I am a veteran and went to college and I am my dads age when he gave me that speech and the most valuable life lesson I have received! The ability to critically think!
God bless.
Amazing story, thanks for sharing!
Absolutely agree and the one thing my father taught me in this regard is about critcal thinking , he said and I quote
" Never believe anything you hear , only believe a quarter of what you read and only believe Half of what you see " and just for good measure Question everything ! at first I didn't understand exactly what he was getting at but I tried to apply it to my life and I have to say these days it is amazing how much that has helped me , although it has ruined me for politics and advertising etc etc because I can see right through the bullshit !
Character should be a person’s utmost priority. Just like any hobby, interest, or skill, character must be focused and worked on in order to be properly built. Introspect, recognize and work to resolve your mistakes and shortcomings, and stay humble.
You are Vince Lestrade?
Vince Lestrade papers please...
John Dillinger That’s really important. I wish my dad had been like that while I was growing up.
The Big Ticket In the flesh
my dumping grounds - I swear I was framed
I'm gonna put this in my "How to Be A Great Dad" playlist so that I'm ready for being a dad when it happens.
Tander101 looks like I will too.
Don’t procreate with a woman that has kids already. Get a prenuptial agreement. Good luck.
Me too
pls don’t grow a Gandalf beard
Link the playlist my dude
My dad always apologized when he overstepped and let his emotions get the better of him. He's one of my best friends, and will continue to be one of my best friends.
However, growing up, he was a father first, and now only in my older age are we able to be friends and treat each other as friends.
What you're doing is important work, it pays off 10 fold.
Lag is Free your lucky
Same here
I think that's a very important distinction to make as well. When you have kids, you have to be a parent FIRST, and a friend SECOND..
My dad is the opposite
Wish I could say the same
That one girl: “guys only want one thing and its disgusting”
This guy: “I just want to apologize to my son for not being the best father at times”
Which girl says that
What does this have to do with the content of this video? Literally nothing it's so irrelevant and oddly placed someone's got deep seated issues with the female gender
Risingofthephoenixx x it was a joke
BonecaChinesa don’t worry it ain’t an attack on women. it’s a meme.
Every guy can raise his son.
But it takes a man to raise a man.
My dad has never said the words “I’m sorry” and we don’t have relationship what so ever, not that we ever had a good one anyway.
yea same, my dad always thinks hes right and when hes obviously wrong he just denies it, calls me names aswell if i do something wrong, and hes never tried to have a relationship with me, hes only there on the bad things i do, never on the good things, guess we both just have to live with it
Do we all live the same life ?
Same with my stepdad
yall keep your heads up
McLisp yup
My dad gave up on me a long time ago.
Now, a man of 30, I am seriously messed up, depressed, alone, angry...
Dads out there, please listen to me!
No amount of discomfort is worth avoiding, because you will create one more of me and you don't want to do that to your sons...
Aleksandar Ivano hey man, there's always a bright side to the situations that were put in and i seriously hope you find a way to heal and improve as a man and as a human being
Aleksandar Ivano having a bad parent isn’t an excuse for you being a loser as a 30 year old adult.
People really love having excuses rather than fixing their life don’t they
@@nightlight8555 Spinning the meaning of my comment in that way and calling me names, is just useless, dishonorable and spiteful...
@@childofgaru thank you!
Aleksandar Ivano you’re a 30 year old man and can’t handle being called names or at the very least fight back (I’m not saying I’m looking for one) I just shows a complete lack of self esteem. Granted parents play a massive role in the build up of self esteem but even if they didn’t that doesn’t mean you should spend your entire adult life blaming mommy and daddy for your life. Instead of blaming your dad or getting upset with me why don’t you take some control and responsibility for your life?
In one conversation, you have taught your son:
1. How to apologize
2. How to self-reflect
3. Being humble
4. To differentiate character and behavior
5. That mistakes are ok
6. Willingness to correct yourself
As a child myself, I learned A LOT from my parents. During the 30+ years of my life, my dad often giving his awkward advices, talking to 8 years old me like an adult, teaching me how to think better for myself. There were only 2 instances where he got really mad and destroy something but still not hitting me and my siblings, and he felt guilty afterwards. Only after I went to college and have a job, that I wonder sometimes the kind of pressure that my dad had on his shoulder when he had a family with 3 children, working, saving to build a house, plus studying to advance his career.
Thank you for giving example of how to take responsibility as a father, first and foremost, in giving "education" to your son. Education starts from home. God bless you and your family.
A conversation like this would’ve saved my relationship with my dad. Haven’t seen him since I was 17. That was 4 years ago.
same
Hey man I spent probably about 5 years not talking to both my parents, i might have talked to them maybe 3 times over those 5 years to let them know im alive however nothing more. I had one thought pop into my head and that was I have alot more time left on this planet and if my parents were to pass away I dont know how I would feel however I know that it would hurt immensely. So I approached them after 5 years and told them exactly how I felt about things and if they didn't want to respect that then I would be ok with knowing that I put my best effort forward in closing the gap between us. They listened fairly well and things are still not where they could be but its been another 7 years since that 5 year mark and we love each other dearly and are willing to talk and work things out. Now I'm not saying that you have to be the big man and approach them however i think you should, however remember to let it all be with love and not hate. Dont tell them about the things they do that make you angry, tell them about your feelings and how it hurts and all you want is love and kindness. If your bring negativety into a conversation that is what your going to get out of it. Anyways good luck to you my friend and please have courage to be the bigger person.
Larry Elder has a book about this and YT vids. Maybe there's something that relates to you. Hope your situation will mend.
My dad has never said sorry for anything at all it’s my fault in his eyes
I'm in a similar boat. It's hard to deal with a parent who can't take responsibility for their actions.
Nice profile pic
Fathers don’t want to lose respect of their children by admitting their mistakes. Many immature children would take an apology as a sign that they know better than their parents, which most of the times they don’t.
Pussy
TRYSTAN no ur probably wrong. First of all this man who made this video apologized After doing the same thing that ur saying. And he only apologized recently. They parents probably dont think that way they just dont know any better
Funny that this is in my recommended right now, considering my wife is currently pregnant. Hope I can be a good father to my child.
Also, awesome beard, man.
Gz
Congratulations bro 👍👏
Infinitas hope that you have a wonderful future with your son and wife 🖤🖤🖤
Here’s wishing that you heed the advise well and do your best as a parent. Ofc, there is no one right way to do so, so always be open to change.
Still, I’m not even a parent, so I don’t know why I’m saying all this😂
Congrats. I hope you'll be an excellent father.
As a 35 year old grown ass man, I was crying. Having grown up without a father figure, having to teach myself everything about being a man, I only wish I can be the father you are. I will not have kids because I'm too scared but I will try my goddamn hardest to be a shining example as an uncle to my nephews and my niece.
Thank you for the example you set.
Greetings from the Netherlands
Don't be scared even sometimes growing up with a father isn't all that it's cracked up to be. My father was never a dad, a classic Narcissist with illusions of grander. Bounced from job to job, always with a get rich scheme. Cheated on my mom more times than he could probably count and is just generally a lousy person. Had to learn and fend for myself how to be a man and break the generational curse. That fact that you have self awareness and don't want to repeat the cycle speaks volumes. Good luck my dude.
Greetings from the States.
I am the same way my friend I also don’t want to bring a child to this current world we’re living in.. I no longer feel there’s quality of life it’s sad (my country US) where were going as a society,community,and as humanity and it’s only going to get worse…
Strong men are not men without fault. Strong men are men that do their best and when they fail they own their shortcomings, learn from their humbling experience and better themselves.
You taught your son an important lesson. Respect for you!
All the best to you!
Damn a father actually acting like a father and respectable person who can admit their own shortcomings? Thought they went extinct decades ago.
Hobostarr180 no they exist we just don’t see it behind closed doors .
Considering they thought beating up children was ok decades ago I'd say that inaccurate.
@@brycevans Not talking about getting smacked. A lot of fathers back then would fully beatdown their children. No one cared.
Aaron F that’s just nature man we’re lucky we had religion to stop us from eating murdering or abandoning our children like in nature
@@jackelliott7853 You must be full of wrong Information. Please stop talking to people.
This made me tear up man. I never had a dad growing up so I envy that bond. I’m 22 now and I’m looking forward to being the best father I can be to my kids. My dad missed out on me, I’ve become a hell of a man without him.
Ryan Johnson good work man i know i wouldn’t do it, it takes strength
Ryan Johnson my father didn’t have his father either growing up but that didn’t stop him from being the person *I respected most growing up*
CHeEEEeeeEEe its something to be proud of when you lack half of your parental figures tf
CHeEEEeeeEEe I pray you find happiness. That comment showed how bitter you really are. Of course it’s expected. But when a boy doesn’t have a man to show him how to properly act, they tend to become criminals. You and I have walked different paths, do not judge me and the road I’ve traveled.
I am a 16 year old boy. I dont know my father. Could you give me some advice for life. How did you become a man without noone teaching you how to become one?
Wish my father would have talked to me instead of at me. Our relationship could have changed.
Same
);
Did you ever try doing the other way? Its never too late
Same bro
Same bud
SALUTE to you bro! I had this same conversation with my oldest son. I had to explain to him that I won't always get it right because not only is there no manual on being a great dad, but im also doing this with no example in my life. I explain to him that I know I fuckd up a lot when I was younger not even knowing what a man was really and asked for his forgiveness. I pray that he and his younger brother receive my attempts to instill the same level of integrity in them.
“Gentleman, we’ve gotta do a better job of opening our mouths.” Simple, yet 1000% true. When I started to open up more about my feelings and owning my mistakes, I truly felt like I was finally a real man.
I’m a fifteen year old, but this video made me feel like I need to have a conversation with my son 😂
HI I JUST FIGURED OUT HOW TO EDIT THIS AND I JUST WANT TO SAY I'M **NOT A TEEN MOM!** I was saying "I'm fifteen BUT-" because I was hoping the fact that I was fifteen would have most people get the joke. the joke was "I don't have a kid, in fact I AM a kid, but this guy is so sincere and persuasive that it makes me want to have a conversation with my non-existent son." Sorry for any confusion this caused!!
You deserve a medal🏅😅
Boi
Logan Vezzetti Im 12 and i have a kid wym
Terry ツ um
Julia HOLD UP🤚
As a child psychologist, I really appreciate the message you gave to your son. You are an impressive father, sir. Well done to you.
Wow, this just made me realise that I’ve never had a serious apology from my parents, and that I’ve never expected them to do so. They’re good parents though really. I’m quite a couple of years behind having children, but I’ve always wanted to be a good father, and your story has inspired me.
*A Difficult Conversation with My Son*
Anyone else thought he was going to talk about his son coming out of the closet? 😅😅
Bro for real but like what was he talking abt I'm still watching the vid
I did too lol I thought he like walked in on his kids circle Jirk or something
Yes
insiderperson18279 HAHAHSHHS ME TOO
Yes
It takes a big man to admit you're wrong, especially to your kid. My hat's off to you, sir.
Coming from a 40 year old who can't have children. Blessed are those who have them.
@benjamin ramsey me too
mat Right1981 I don’t want to be rude or anything but why can’t you have children
@@bigsmoke8435 one of the spine surgeries I had had to go in from the front causing damage to the lines if you will
mat Right1981 yikes that sucks but thanks for sharing
@@bigsmoke8435 no problem
I thought this would be him telling his son he has cancer or something bad
"Son, Im cutting the beard"
Been avoiding this video for months for that reason. I'm glad it was another topic
My dad just passed away and this felt like a message from the grave i can't thank you enough thank you🤧🤧🤧
Prayers for you. Stay strong.
I thought his son was gonna be gay😂😂
Chronic_boxed the story was getting set up like that
My thoughts exactly lmao
Chronic_boxed Saaaaaaame I was waiting for him to say that 😂😂
Same
Mhmm me tooo haha
I have crazy respect for that. You don’t realize how many fathers never say sorry to their children. There’s a lot of pain that people cope with that could’ve been resolved with an apology and a hug.
Born 2 Win not just fathers either. I had to stop seeing my dad when I was 12, and I for example have never been sat down from my mom to hear an apology. Vulnerability is often kindness mistaken for weakness. We often forget this.
That’s me right now, still waiting for my pops to hug me and apologize
Teaching your son to be a true man, leading by example. Own your mistakes, use them as opportunities to grow. Most importantly, teaching him how to communicate. Respect.
Perfect example of being a father to a young man. You have to show them what it means to be a man (I.e. taking responsibility and owning your mistakes, more importantly fixing the mistake. Thank you sir for being a positive strong role model for your son. I have a feeling he’s gonna turn out to be a great person with your guidance
Boy if my parents had communication like this maybe theyd be more involved in my life. Im now almost 20 and they dont know anything about my life. the moment i tell them stuff they use it against me its to toxic. it makes me sad. Its so nice to see that some parents out there are gonna provide that open communication to their kids
Alisa bro same I love them but can't tell them stuff like that
The same my parents are both dead but I could never tell them anything about me they would either start to criticize me immediately or wait and use it against me in one of my lowest moments. They taught me to trust no one and that no one loves me.
Easiest way to detect a bad parent is how comfortable you innately feel about telling them anything beyond the superficial layer.
Ask for a sit down one on one and be completely transparent. Ask them why they do certain things? Did their parents raise them like that?
Alisa !!!
When I give Arthur or John a shit ton of hair tonic:
Jhett Cannon or Thomas
smax who the duck is thomas
Thomas downes?
Thicc Tony watch peaky blinders and you would kneo
Lmaooo
I have soo much respect for the dads that go the extra mile, respect to you man
Wish my dad did this. Great role model, keep it up!
Coming from a kid who’s dad passed away, you sir are more of a real man than any human could ever know
My boy is turning 3 in a few days and recently he started asking “Why?” on anything. That made me go “Here we go!”. Then I found this video, thank God.
Dont tell him the answer right away, try him to think himself, that will be great for him!
Nobu very sound. Hopefully it makes him more critical.
I asked why all the time when I was a child and still do today however much more critically thanks to the people who raised me. I was shown what things to question and how to figure things out toa degree. However I feel as though it would have been benifical if i was made to find out or at least attempt it when i asked whyto something that icould have figured out at that time.
@@chrismatorium8993 never tell some made up story about a complex problem.(just tell reality even if you know that he won't understand it.)
Because lying destroy trust Subconsciously.
@@chrismatorium8993 you should be more worried about your wife divorcing you (if you are merried) and taking your son with her!
I wished my father would have had even a sliver of this much self awareness.
Apologizing to your children is one of the strongest things you can do as a father.
Weakness is actually shown through unwillingness to admit your mistakes to them and not ask for forgiveness.
Thank you for sharing this!
I wish my Dad would speak to me. He's never done it. I've never heard him tell me that he loves me or anyone. I've told him but he just flees. It makes for a weird existence.
Good on ya.
Just keep telling him you love him. It's hard for some men to go down that path. He might feel like he doesn't deserve you're love. Everyone is different on how they communicate and express themselves. Maybe you need to have one of those conversations with your Dad. He might open up about it if he doesn't feel threatened. Make sure it is just you and him alone.
Keep your head up. People love you that you have never even met. We all have a father when we go home to heaven !! Have faith in that. God will take care of you.
My father left when I was 4. I’m 26 and still have had 0 contact with him. If yours stuck around then it probably means he loves you.
My father literally fled 😂
Keep loving him. Your Father loves you but he probably finds it hard to reveal that love to you because how he was raised by his parents. Our hearts can become hardened because his parents probably didn't show him how to love. He just doesn't know how to Express it. You show him how to love by giving him a hug and telling him you love him. See what happens.
My father never said I love you either.. but i broke him of that..
I called him for 3 months everyday and would say "hey papa, just calling to say your the strongest man in my world, I love you" waited a few seconds then hang up... one day he said "hey, I love you too, now stop calling me" and since then he hugs me and says I love you.. now my relationship with him is so strong..
I have never had deep convos with my father. Even though he has alway been around, always been supportive (mostly, I think). But I have always felt a pretty deep void between us. We don't talk that much, we don't have a deep bond in that sense.
why is this though, why can't men talk about their feelings
Arthur you’re not alone bud
same here, i only got good conversations with my mother, idk why but i never have had a connection to my dad
Talk i feel like he wants to but you should try to open up to him
Arthur same it's that tough my Dad express that a lot
My dad left when I was 6 but he did everything he could to see me and my siblings. He is the greatest man I have ever met. to this day he’s my hero
As someone from an extremely abusive home, it's really nice to know people like this are holding my parents generation afloat.
This hits hard brother. I grew up without a father. My mom left my father due to severe abuse, when I was a baby after he attempted to fatally harm me. I had no positive example of what a man should be to those around him. Through failing, learning and growth I am a proud husband to a incredible woman and the father of two beautiful kids. I do my best and when I fail I am never afraid to admit my flaws to them. We talk, learn and grow together as a family.
If you want to keep it together I suggest you don’t show your weakness to your wife. She’ll leave you quicker than you can imagine. It’s female nature and they can’t even explain it. Look into red pill/MGTOW. Good luck sir.
Check out Jesse Lee Peterson
Donald Johnson alt rightys who rant about feminists aren’t always the ones to take advice from, same type of channels who think women shouldn’t even be allowed to vote
Joey Cash what has them voting done for us?
“The ideal man carries the accidents of life with dignity and grace, making the best of circumstances” - Aristotle
It's really sad to see how many people here never experienced this kind of relationship with their parents. Something really needs to change
A conversation my father never had with me. Top parenting on your part, brother.👍
My dad has always been the “provider” parent. He has pretty much replaced the fatherly support with buying physical objects for me, to make me happy. I do not have the ability to speak with him openly about much, he is miserable because of his life choices and does not have a good life because work is his entire life. If he isn’t at work, he is at home complaining about what goes on at work, and dreading going to work again the next day. He does not have any hobbies, literally just work, eating and sleeping. Sad...
The same thing is with my dad too. Just work, no hobbies and complaining about everything. I know I will never be like him
Don't let them stay like that, i feel like you'll regret it
Same shit with my dad and he not even my biological father and I don't know my biological father.
@@kenbews458 He'll just dismiss anything I say, he doesn't want to change and doesn't see anything wrong with the way he is.
@@notoriusdrifter40 that's really too bad friend, I'm sorry for you, but I'm more sorry for him, he must be in a pit
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” - Rumi
I remind myself of this quote every time I feel the urge to change somebody else. As a result of working on improving myself, I have been able to learn to write ambient meditation music and launch my own new tube channel.
You aren't here to change the world. The world is here to change you.
@@aMazingdancer good quote
@@RobJenkinsDubTechno Read it somewhere a while ago... :)
isnt Rumi an islamic Faqīh and scholar/expert on sharia law? why would you post/promote that on youtube?
@@fixt100 Even a broken clock is right twice a day
Such a model dad. The kind of dad I hope to be someday.
Being reflective about everything is what makes an adult.
I’ve never heard my dad “sorry” and the only time he’s ever hugged or said I love you was the day I left to join the navy. I could count on one hand the number of “deep” conversations we’ve had. He’s quiet and at times reclusive but I’m as close to him as I am with anyone else on earth but I’ve never questioned if or how much he cares about me and I wouldn’t change him for anything.
Since everyone else is getting in their feelings I may as well throw my hat in the ring
Adrian Peterson same... me and my dad have only had deep conversations a handful of times but the ones we’ve had have made me see him as a better person and have showed that he really cares and tries. Even though he isn’t always the best dad, I know he tries and has always been there to provide for me and always pushed me to better myself. Mad respect for my dad
adrian peterson is a great dad!
If my father had this conversation with me a long time ago life would definitely been better at home when I was a kid so you done good.
Jeff Arp sane
This man reminds me of my own dad. When I was younger he would calmly send me to my room, I would sit on my bed and vent for a few mins to myself and then he would come in and talk with me. He would tell me what I did wrong, why it was wrong, and how to act/what to do next time. I'll never forget it.
As someone who grew up with a very emotionally distant dad, you did well. I truly didn't know dads could be caring and loving until I got into highschool. Thought every dad just cared about grades, money & work, and that dads being mad a lot was normal. This video is a prime example of good parenting.
Mature, wise, and intelligent. That’s what a man should be. I wish my father had taught me that instead of learning by trial and error. It sounds to me like you’re doing beyond great at fatherhood. Godspeed.
It’s good to have this conversation with you’re child in these times early before it’s to late. My only son took his own life May 6th 2000 he was 17. I always hate myself for not letting him know that we’re all human and we all make mistakes. I wish that I could’ve told him that everything was ok but I woke up the next day knowing that I would never see my son again.
Jeep Ford Guy sorry for your loss😢
Sorry for your loss sir. I hope you stay strong and recover. Good luck.
I'm so sorry, thank you sharing !
Geez man so sorry about that
Hope you are doing fine. Even in these though times. Very sad to hear to that
my father "apologised"for the years of abuse but he never changed
@j hahahaha abuse is so funny, laughing out LOUD
j Not exactly a lol moment
Daan C hahahaahaha
j of course child abuse is hilarious
We all wanted this talk with our dads...
Took a genuine conversation, from the heart, didn’t stretch it to 10 minutes, didnt put 400 ads on it, just wants to share a good story. A damn good conversation. This is the kind of content i like to see. Cheers 🍻
Couldn't put it any better 👆
durr durr monetization bad!!1!1!1!1!1!1!1
hello from discord Making money off vloging isn’t bad but it was clear the man had something to get off his chest and the level of honesty and integrity he displayed is very rare nowadays on CZcams. Look at all the soulless 10:12 videos with 15 ads crammed in for reference
Sarcasm?
you seem like a person who is earnestly trying their best
CZcams has one strange recommendation algorithm, to say the least
At this point I think they are just recommending gingers to me, the amount that popped up in the last 2 days is alarming
I just love that this is a big bearded strong manly man who says that you need to show your emotions to have tighter bonds
My dad used to beat my ass all the time as a kid because I was always messing around, I have super bad ADHD and used to be all over the place and it was super difficult for him to manage me and my sister at times. About 6 months ago I went down to Oregon to visit him and he actually apologized for everything he did to me as a kid and he genuinely felt bad. I hadn’t seen him in a couple years and when I went down to visit he missed me so much. I think the break of him not seeing me made him regret everything that happened when I was younger.
Dads are by no means perfect, but the best dads can admit their mistakes to their kids. It’s hard for Dads to let their kids know they messed up but at the end of the day we’ll always have love for family. Great video man!
Aisian ThreeQUISIANS Great comment. I just visited my dad after a while of not seeing him and i moving to oregon and i have adhd! haha sort of a funny coincidence. Cheers
Nice
It's really important that you respect him in this way, I think that would mean a lot to any son.
What's with the crappy communist European flag?
@@BrandonLee-zx6wu it s for inviting the sophisticated, enlightening, constructive comments
@@BrandonLee-zx6wu not a European flag but an anti European flag of a union that think they can control sovereign European countries
@@BrandonLee-zx6wu Where did that communism came from?
John Beard Communist Jews invented the EU to enslave White people in White lands. It’s true. That’s why the EU is also known as the EJew on the net.
Sometimes you can just tell someone is an honest man within the first five seconds of the video and this is one of them
Damn why didnt i get this speech growing up?
My parents has always acted like they put their whole lives on hold for me.
Meanwhile they havent done any parenting or supported me pretty much ever.
Men who can say sorry to they're kids
They are real men.
I'm happy for you that you have courage to admit your faults. It should be taught since school to every man.
...and woman
@@user-cm9ij5cz3c
Everyone
@ALL HAIL SATAN
Equally men and women
Local Fanatic there is no such thing as equality with men and women in today’s society. Feminism has dictated that there will be absolutely no tolerance for Egalitarianism in modern society. Men - especially straight white men - are the punching bag for everyone in today’s modern age. Women have been married to the government so long; have been gaslit by Marxist infiltration, that they have no idea how to even BEGIN to accept TRUE equality.
@@TheReapersSon
You do realise that you are generalising ALL women on Earth, all of the 3.8 billion of them, right?
There are some fucked women, but not all are this way. Infact, most women are perfectly normal, just like most men, wanting to just live a calm and happy life and nothing more. Hating women is the same as hating men (ultra feminism).
And about the few women, who want to dominate over the world, we are more than them. We can crush them, put them in their places. We just have to stop being spineless little shits and grow balls
I love when parents actually act like sentient humans with feelings and understandings
like this
Wish I had a dad like this when I was growing up.
cool, wish my parents would actually talk to me, it's just "do this" "do that" "give me that" "wash those" and every time i talk they would always ignore me because in their head "my kids are dumb, and their opinions doesnt matter".
kudos to you sir.
- a 16 y/o teen.
18 y/o here and it'a basically the same case here lol
i’m 17 and i feel ya … i get punished for everything but get little recognition for doing things without them asking
Some advice, life will always be hard no matter the age or gender or even object. Be you and dont take everything too serious
Lol I'm 21 and still have to put up with it... Rent on your own place ain't cheap though
Endorcer I hope you quickly learn that 99% of people live in a delusion of some kind and that likely includes your parents. Grow and develop and learn. You got this!
My dad has never admitted he was wrong, and I can see that ,and I know it affects our relationship and it is not what I could've been, so my biggest goal is to be open with my kids, to treat them as equals, not put myself above them because "I'm the parent", because "I'm older"
@HEAV¥HAND I've heard that saying too many times and I'll tell you everytime I've heard it, the parent that says it tends to be a bit off. Sure you've got to teach them, but people fail to realize you can be very close your children. I haven't had much guidance, and the guidance I had was misleading. Yet I'm doing alright. I've also seen people with strict parents and they say they're thankful for them, however, their actions have shown otherwise. So I believe this "don't be friends with your children" is just some bull shit people used as an excuse for parents to be foolish. I could honestly go on and get deeper with this, but I think I've said enough. Oh and just know I'm not trying to be an ass hole, but I've seen this shit and have dealt with it with my own parents. So I do know what I'm speaking on. Anyway, im out. 👍🏻
@HEAV¥HAND this is just completely wrong a parent does not = a teacher or a friend a parent = a parent, someone who loves you unconditionally puts u above their life and let's you know that you have someone looking out for a parent is a guardian
@@scruf2002 A parent doesn't just mean love. It means teaching your children also. That's also your responsibility
As not having a father in my life, seeing this. This is a good father, when a man can admit hes wrong. Its a different type of ego, the best kind. Hes trying too be a better kid, as hes better trying to be a better father. Communication is key, I'm very . Very ecstatic to see this. Thank you for sharing this.
this is what a real man sounds like and is a great example for other fathers instead of letting social media raise his son he takes charge and is showing him the real world. great job brother proud of you and we need more people like you
I did this with my younger brother when we were growing up. I used to be incredibly hard on him. I was an abusive brother, but I realized my mistake. Fast forward to now, he feels like my big brother, all that adversity made him stronger than me tbh. and he’s honestly the man, we have a true relationship now, and I don’t release unnecessary anger on anyone anymore ever, quite the opposite now. I’ll never be who I was.
My older brother was and is abusive. I wish he’d realise that, like you did. You have no idea how happy your younger brother is
@@hal560 bro stay strong u will grow up just wait but dont leave hate in heart...
Just say to your brother that he is hurting you and you two are brothers and should love each other more than anything...
How old are you bro
@@hal560 i have that with my sister abusive she physically wants me dead he'll one time she chased me around the house with a knife punched me kicked me you name it she done it she isn't assed about anyone but herself wasn't assed when our grandad died and my nana two uses me as a punching bag and uses my family two I told my family millions is times she needs help they don't listen to me ik how you feel mate getting hurt everytime I have scars from the pain she buts me though everyday she stolen money from me everything made my life a missary be warned mate tell anyone anyone if it comes to that
@@thegamerzoildv2183 You need to carry around something to defend yourself with. Preferably not something heavy enough to be cumbersome and unwieldy, but heavy enough to do some damage if you hit somebody with it. Next time you're in a situation where you're facing death or serious bodily harm, use it. Alternatively, learn how to fight with your bare hands. Keep them in front of your face and make sure to stay balanced. I could give you some sources for learning self defense if you feel you need it.
@@thegamerzoildv2183 that sounds like a very abusive life. Wish you got something to get out.