r/AITA My Pregnant Daughter Tried to Murder My Cat
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- čas přidán 24. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:07 The cat
4:22 Special
6:16 Hair
8:29 Not attending
10:57 The house
14:42 Wedding walk out
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
Story 1- Being pregnant does not excuse animal abuse or any kind of abuse for that matter
yeah, plus the father has no excuse. They literally plotted to get rid of an animal. So callous. Good on OP for seeing that red flag before the wedding
I agree, pregnancy isn't the get out of free jail card for all conflicts. I can understand doing labor and other things, but using it as an excuse to kick our OP's cat is just stupid.
Story number one I give you a -1,000,000,000,000 but hoes and I give your ex fiancé and their internal teenager a positive hundred trillion but holes
Nothing does
You bet. I'd KICK my pregnant daughter out of the house if she hurt my cats.
pregnant or not, NOBODY has the right to do anything like that to an animal. ESPECIALLY someone's pet.
And further more not act like a c**t to someone who’s letting you stay with them rent free.
@@lorilancaster5917 agreed.
Wrong, a cat can do well outside a house
@@Maximalistcollector assholes can do better outside than a cat can
@@Maximalistcollector Stop condoning the dumping of pets. It's cruel, callous, and ignorant.
Story 5: OP does NOT deserve 2/5 buttholes. They are just following the agreement they made with their parents. They’re 100% right when they told their parents that if they want OP out, then they can evict them legally. Expecting OP to let them break their agreement because “boo hoo, your sister isn’t happy enough with the decent shelter she already has” is bs.
Yeah, it’s not their house. But their parents are effectively, their landlord. You wouldn’t allow a landlord to just kick a tenant out without legally evicting them just cuz it’s “not their house”, so why do OP’s parents get a pass?
NTA.
Not to mention if what OP said about her brother is true, then they're not even the least bit struggling financially and could afford their own home. Yet, they're so hellbent on getting the house OP's currently settled in.
Came to the comments for this
This was exactly what I was thinking and I am so glad other ppl think this too. My literal reaction to him saying 2/5 was “Rslash, r u out of ur mind?”
Not to mention they said they fixed up the house, putting time and money into it. OP put money into it (which was likely plenty enough to be considered rent) and now her parents want her to give it up.
Yeah, rslash is SUPER wrong on that one. Honestly I've never disagreed with him more
Story 5: I don’t think it’s fair to give her an AH score. She lost her partner and job, she’s had a bad year, and her parents who offered to help her changed their mind in a second for no reason at all. Who buys a flashy car (or any car) when unemployed?!
I also went to the OP post and saw that the sister still owns their house, so they’re choosing to be homeless, and are moving in to spite OP and her parents are just going with that.
Ok, the place is not hers, but is it crazy to expect your parents to help you in a time of need? Or to remember that they don’t have just one child? If I was OP I’d move out and cut all contact with them, but not before I speak my mind to them and send them all to hell!
My brain was thinking that op should undo all the hard work she did and leave her sister with an empty shell of a building. But that's just me being petty
Also Rslash didn’t acknowledge Olga and the son lol.
Also it’s not just a bad year, her s/o died, it was a very very bad year
@rayannasmith2336 I thought the very same thing lmfao, see how much she likes the outdated look now. Someone that spoiled would not appreciate the house when the work to bring it up-to-date was undone 🤔
@@Resyektt Honnestly, at this point, I'm 100% convinced those extremely bad takes Rslash often does are on purpose to get more comments, then edit them out when he's getting more hate than it's worth.
@@rayannasmith2336 I love that… if this isn’t my place, then I should take back everything that I put in there, right?
Story 5: Seriously? 2/5 for OP?! She's already settled in the house, sunk a bunch of time and money into it, and was even flat-out told that it is hers as long as she wants it! How is she a 2/5 for not wanting to give that up for her well-off sister?! Like yes, fundamentally it isn't her house. But it feels like her family is completely undermining her situation and her time, effort, and finances. If you want to give her an AH score for it not being her house, fine. But how could you put on the same level as people who have, say, actually broken a law and/or committed some level of abuse or neglect!
Literally this, and the fact that ops sisters family have enough money to buy their own place, so it's extremely irresponsible to put fancy cars and such over a house they could be buying with that money.
Complitely agree, OP is not the asshole
If there's kids or a marriage involved. Rslash sides with them.
@@miko_pepper Well, it's their money to do what they want, even if they want to blow it on something stupid like a status symbol
Seriously! He missed hard with this one. He literally gave lesser scores for people that have done worse. L scoring from him, honestly.
As far as I've heard, pregnancy hormones can definitely mess with you... But, pregnancy hormones don't turn someone into a monster. Kim was a monster before hand - her hormones just helped show her true colours.
I sincerely hope her baby grows up to be a far more responsible adult than their mother.
I hope the dad sues for full custody as her monster personality was on full display over the cat.
Agree. Hormones are a catalyst - not some mind-bending magic that can suddenly turn any person into an evil version of themselves.
Kim always has been an asshole. Her hormones just made the job of hiding it much more difficult than before.
Yeah, her whole family - both by blood and her unborn kid’s family - hates her!
Having various conditions (pregnancy, autism, crappy childhood, etc) can _explain_ bad behaviour, but it never should be used as an _excuse_ for it.
@@NovaGirl8problem is that he seems to be burying his head in the sand and doesn’t want to face Kim’s horrible behavior. Believe me I want to be wrong.
Poor Whiskey. I'm happy he's safe and doesn't have to worry about horrible people in his home anymore.
Whiskey deserves extra treats, and Kate should get a medal for exposing her father & Kim's true colours to OP.
Cute cat pfp you got
@@danielbrant6740I hope OP and Kate could still have some form of relationship even though OP won’t be her stepmom.
I wonder how she could even hate the cat so much to begin with. Elderly cats are so chill and basically just wander around and sleep.
Guess she just hates animals in general. I'd throw her out for what she did even if she was my own daughter.
@@danielbrant6740 yup
Story 3: I don't care if she has cancer, she force her own daughter to cut her hair and tried to make it seem like her choice when it clearly wasn't. That poor girl is probably crying for not only getting a buzz cut but thanks to her mom now feels bad for being upset because she's supposed to support her mom. Talk to your daughter and let her know she should not have had to tell her hair to show support, and offer the get her some nice wigs if she's up for it. Then don't let her mom guilt-trip her again .
And I’m sure the daughter was actually providing her mom with real support. Support such as cooking, running errands for her etc. What the mom did was emotional abuse and I would recommend daughter record all conversations she has with her mom.
To be honest, I have never understood the "shave your head in support".
Good thing the mom didn't have to have a double mastectomy or hysterectomy.
I don't get it either, she knew she was forcing the kid. She had to result to emotional blackmail to make it happen. How is that make her feel, even remotely, like if the girl is actively supporting her by doing so ? It's just gonna make the girl resent her. If she wasn't resenting her before, she probably does now. Mission failed successfully.
@@Yahtzee_09yes!! I was going to say the same thing. Nowadays ppl do it for attention on social media. I mean yeah it probably meant more the first time someone did it but now it’s just a trend and not raising awareness or showing support. Real support comes from taking care of the persons physical and emotional needs to get them through the trauma of a serious medical condition. Don’t force someone to shave their head just because you feel sorry for yourself losing your hair.
Story 3, yeah that's major emotional abuse. She literally emotionally blackmailed her daughter into cutting her hair. OP's definitely NTA
the wife probably figures that she's won by making OP's daughter shave her head so she can be "just as ugly" as her.
If OP dumps her, she'll spin it to be because of the cancer and not her behavior towards a dependent minor. OP should work on an exit plan, because you know that's not the worst thing that woman's done to the daughter. it's just the most public.
For those who don't understand the "support by shaving your hair" - misery loves company. If the person with cancer has a not so good situation - other person's suffering, anguish, sadness and pain brings them joy and they feel better. I never understand that, such person deserves cancer.
@@MikeHawk10110 I think it started by a mom shaving her head so her sick daughter didn't feel bad about the hair loss.
@@FearMyLadyBits - "look honey~ now mommy is as bad looking as you are!"
- "yaaaay thank you mommy, I'm feeling so much better, I wish everyone else looked as bad as me tho"
- "wait a moment sweete lemme make it a trend on the internet"
Guilt Trip. Not blackmail.
Story 1: NTA as I've said to my sister "being pregnant doesn't excuse you being a jerk". Kim needs consequences for her actions or she'll keep on walking all over your boundaries and probably leave her kid alone with you for "free babysitting"
13:40
"You better apologize" how about YOU (not you OP, the person in the story who asked OP to apologize) stand down and YOU stop enabling this awful toxic ANIMAL for once, you ever consider that? You ever consider that keeping the peace has always been a cowards move and that you've doomed this arrogant woman to feeling incentivized to continue her awful ways?
This girl has traits of a Karen:
- Super entitled.
- Hates OP.
- Hates OP'S Cat.
- Throws someone's pet out.
- Uses pregnancy as an excuse for everything.
This girl is definitely a Karen, 100%
Story 1 : Bruh, messing with someone else’s pets is like the LOWEST thing you can do to someone
And the fact she used being pregnant as an excuse is even more scummy.
@@dracko158 honestly
@@dracko158the only thing you gotta stay away from is changing kitty litter and if they poop outside, wear gloves while gardening. So it an utterly galling excuse.
Thank goodness her ex-fiance raised at least one kid correctly.. Kate is awesome and glad she let OP know to watch out for those disgusting two morons...
Makes me wonder if Kate spent more time with her mom?
Kate gets a well deserved W
The dad is a pratt too so the fact that Kate turned out to be a decent human being might have more to do with the mum or is just pure accident that she's naturally a good person.
Who here wants to bet that's all because of the wife and Kim turned out like this because she grew up mostly post divorce with her father?
@@SaraAson considering that the ex-fiance wanted to get rid of the cat too, i'm not willing to take that sucker's bet
Story 3: I'm a cancer survivor from stage 2 colon cancer. The chemo I received didn't make me lose my hair, but caused a severe cold sensitivity. Eating or drinking cold things made it feel like daggers were in my throat and going outside in winter felt like I was being stabbed. I didn't tell my girl friend she couldn't have ice cream or enjoy an iced coffee, because I didn't want her to be in the same situation as me. The lady in that story is just a bad person.
Exactly, also if it isn't the daughter's choice to get rid of her hair, then her not having her hair isn't even supportive, her mother was just being envious.
(Which is a totally understandable feeling, I'm sure you envied your girl friend not having such a severe cold sensitivity, but you understood that it wouldn't be reasonable to act on that feeling).
@@AwesomeIan135 It didn't occur to me that she was envious and that makes so much sense! Yes, this mother has made a terrible and selfish decision. I don't know if she's a terrible mother in general because there's not a lot of information but it wouldn't surprise me if there are other issues.
Saviorsix, I'm so glad you survived cancer and I can only imagine what that must have been like. I hope you're doing well!
Theory: Bro doesn’t want to use his money to buy a new house for the family because it is all ill gotten gains. Courts are probably going to try and nail anyone left from that company with the owner in the wind. Bro is going to try and hide all the money he can from the courts. If he can play poverty, like being so broke you had to move into your in law’s property with your wife and kids; he can keep his dirty money and play the sympathy card to the courts.
Then wanting to move into OP’s place and not suck it up in the same house as the in-laws is just their entitlement and greed coming through.
Problem though is they plan on or have bought a flashy card. Further showing that if what you’re saying is his plan, he’s really being stupid about it.
@lorilancaster5917 that might be sil wanting to show off.
I thought about this too. He must be doing all the shady things like his boss too, because how come he still have money to buy the expensive car? If I were OP, I'd dig through his secrets, get revenge, undo all the remake I made with the house, then leave from that town and cut all contact with parents and sister lol
Story 5: I feel like 2/5 is way too harsh for op. Yes it's not her house but it's not like op just completely refused to leave. Her parents are fully capable and welcome to evict her if they so choose. Op is just not cracking under emotional manipulation and I don't think that's deserving of 2/5 score. 0.5 maybe but again the parents backtracked on their promise and are clearly showing favoritism.
(edit: Story number)
yeah, r/slash have this "my house, my rules" mentality, but i care shit about it, i dont care if im in someone else's property ,that doesn't give anyone a right to stomp on me however they want.( especially not in that kind of situation)
and lets be honest im pretty sure the parents are very insisting on op moving with them not because the place is better but because they dont want to deal with the piece of shit and her offspring
@@dinlupus3196 they do have the right to tell you to get out of their house tho.
You don't have the right to illegally stay in someone elses home against their will, no matter your own situation.
@@miniman649in many circumstances, yea you do. If you tell someone in writing they can, “stay as long as they want/need,” and you don’t write a lease with a rental period specified, it’s very illegal in most US states to just kick someone out of a place they’ve lived for YEARS.
OP is absolutely right, if her parents want to remove her from the property, they’ll need to do so legally, and I’m sure they don’t want to do that because then the whole family would know how trash they are and how golden her gross sister is.
@@miniman649that’s an eviction, which if you were paying attention is exactly what op told them to do but they don’t want to be bothered.
@@dinlupus3196 Agreed, 'my house my rules' is awful honestly, my mother used it to treat me like the house servant/cleaner/her personal chef
Story 3: mom’s grief doesn’t justify her jealousy of her daughter’s hair. That is some toxic, manipulative abuse and her daughter will never forget it.
Nor, will the daughter forgive. OP's wife will get a sad wake-up call, when their daughter hits 18, and goes complete NO CONTACT with her.⚠️
@@danacarter9147 Yeah, I hope Mom's vanity being soothed was worth the loss of her daughter.
14:33 *2/5 for OP?!* I was thinking maybe 0.5-1 because you're right, it isn't her house. But she's still completely settled in and her parents promised the house to her. She's not nearly on the same plane of AH-ness as some of the other people you've given 2/5 to.
Ya I'm completely loss on that? R/ is fairly weird about property
"Ya, they're being entitled and greedy, but you didn't let them have what they want with no effort"
0/5 for OP. It doesn't matter it wasn't her house. She's effectively a tenant, as such tenants have rights and cannot be moved out on a whim.
@@KnightYoshiTHIS
Yeah, Rslash, this is kind of a weird take from you. I'd also have given 0/5 to OP.
Story one not the a-hole not their house not their cat Prego daughter and fiance who played the diversion can leave.
Story 2. NTA evil stepmother inbound, father is now a flake, and the OP needs new friends.
NTA they want the house back make sure to charge them for everything you repaired
Story 5: I disagree with your verdict. Legally, op is right. She was told it's her house for as long as she wants it. If she has that in writing, the parents are screwed. She invested her money under the impression it'll be her house. I just went through a court case that was something similar, and it came down to we won a certain amount of months of "free rent" to equate to the amount of money we had invested. Ops parents can't just kick her out
The sister's family can literally stay with the grandparents for as long as it takes to rent or buy somewhere, as op said, he's still loaded from his previous job. It's not even close which sibling should be staying there.
@@goblinwisdom Especially since someone else pointed out that in the reddit post, one of the things OP answered was that her sister and her partner own a house in a different city/town. They are not homeless. They are not struggling. They're literally just waiting for drama to die down and making everyone else miserable.
@agentmaryland1239 ah, well if that's the case, may they (ops family) be miserable. And may op block their calls and only get emails until it's over.
3rd story- its not "showing support" if the daughter was emotionally manipulated into doing it
I hope the daughter blasts her mom about this on social media. She may feel guilty about it and may not for that reason. However i feel any actions her and OP take are justified.
Truly, that crazy woman just wanted to abuse the girl.
That's almost like stealing from someone and calling it a present.
@@PaladinGear15she was likely jealous of her long hair and felt that if she couldn't have that, her daughter shouldn't have it either.
Kim's smug face when OP cried says everything we need to know about her. It wasn't even a personal issue with the cat, she just wanted to get rid of him to cause OP as much pain as she could. She's beyond spoiled: she's literally evil.
OP did the right thing in cutting her out and everyone who sided with her, including the fiancé. In fact, when the fiancé said that he'd talk about getting rid of the cat, that should've been the cue for OP to kick him out too.
Kate deserves a medal for helping OP expose her now ex-fiance & his entitled daughter's true colours.
Story 5 - One thing that occurred to me is that....what if this was the plan all along? Make OP fix up the house and then hand it over with nothing to show for it. Yes, it is still the parents' house, but there's no way OP deserves 2/5. The most I'd have give is 0.5/5, and even that's pushing it.
Agreed in this situation first come first serve. If the sister wants a house to herself maybe her husband and her should put in the effort. Her siblings has already made a life in this one and expecting someone to just upend their life because you want more is selfish. Not to mention it’s odd her husband hasn’t said anything. It’s pretty obvious that her sister is the type of oh someone got something well I want it to. And her parents have been giving into her bratty behavior her entire life so no wonder it’s at this point. At
Story 6: Stacy had an affair with OP's boyfriend, lied to her, and made her do everything at the wedding of a person who ruined her future wedding. That's just cruel.
She literally ruined her life and lied to her, and then is upset that she ruined her wedding. Karma is a bitch.
Annas story: That mother is absolutely abusive. Manipulating the kid into shaving her hair against her will was full blown child abuse.
I wonder what else is mommy dearest do to daughter when OP is not in the house.
Pretty much what OP's wife did was the classic 'because I feel ugly and worthless as a woman, I am going to make my daughter look and feel both ugly and worthless.' honestly, that woman is disgusting and OP needs to sit his daughter down and discuss this issue with her. I'd be very surprised if Anna decides to have anything to do with both her parents after she turns 18. If her relationship with her father isn't impacted then the one she has with her mother definitely is. Nothing would be the same between my mother and I if she ever did this, that's for sure.
It’s trauma dumping. She’s making everyone feel her pain when the situation only affects her specifically. There was a story about a mom who lost a child and the OP (who got adopted by her much later than the child’s death) said that everything was about the lost child. Made her give her toys and stuff to the grave of the child whom OP never knew.
The house story. I don't think op deserves a butthole score. The parents said she could have the house and op spent a lot of money fixing it up. It was I assume really run down before, but now it's livable and all the hard work is done, ops sister wants it. Also I bet the brothers are on ops side because the sister is the golden child and they're sick of giving up things for their spoilt sister. Having a kid does not give you permission to be a jerk
In fact, having a kid should be enough incentive to purposefully strive to be _less_ of a jerk, setting sound examples for your offspring to be able to navigate the social aspects of life successfully. OP's parents are doing no-one any favours here. OP's sister is a right cunt and her kid is going to end up another messed up, missed opportunity. rSlash was spot on about cutting those pricks out of her life, though, save for her brothers, they seem sane - at least for the time being.
If she has to move out, put the house to state of how she found it. Let the family sink in their time, money, and effort like she did. Screw them
P.S. get everything in writing especially with family. Always cover your own a**
Although R slash is right about it not being her house. I think she did the right thing. With her actions she said “I am not being punished around so you can spoil my sister”.
Not only that, she lost her boyfriend/husband and her job in the same time, then finally found a place to stay and made it her own safe space. The parents pretty much demand that she's giving up the one thing she direly needed and the one anchor point after the traumatic experiences and for what exactly? A spoiled child that still OWNS their house and CHOSE to be "homeless"? Nah, screw that.
Oh, and they not only plan to kick out the daughter but Olha and her child, too, the person they had no problem with moving in and gave their okay. So they not only treat their daughter like a free home renoventer and want to kick her out of the only place she can stay and mourn her loss, they also are willing to kick another woman and her child out of their house because they need to play favourites again.
@@Gaster601 You peoples are overreacting. She is not getting homeless and they didn't treat her as a "free home renovator". They just want to swap the arrangement to "live with us instead of the other house".
"It's your home rent free as long as you need" is very different from "I'm your landlord and this is a formal agreement". Sounds to me like it's a temporary arrangement while she get back on her feet. I don't even understand why she invested so much time and money to repair the house even though she is a guest there.
The parents are definitely buttholes to favor the other child but it's not like they didn't offer a solution in return. She will still have a home. Just not the same one.
Frankly, I understand why the parent doesn't want to live with 3 extra people (that include a child) when they can live with one independent adult instead. While still helping out all their family member in the process.
It does suck for the girl she tried to help though.
Maybe 2/5 for OP is a bit much but she doesn't deserve a 0 either. "Beggers can't be choosers" as the saying said. The parents are still helping out..
Story 4: how can a dad not want his daughter there? The new wife doesnt want op in their life after a wedding and that was the first step, like that story from a few weeks ago where the fiancé said she didn’t want the daughter in the wedding and wanted him to b a “holiday only” dad and the dad broke off the engagement
And the date was two days before OPs birthday was also telling. Anna is testing the waters to see how she can get rid of OP. Sounds like mission accomplished.
Because his new bed warmer said so.
@@lorilancaster5917 Fortunately the family is on OP's side.
Story 6: This has happened quite a bit where the ex leaves someone, the someone goes to a friend for help, and then it's revealed that the friend and ex were having an affair. Honestly, I would've done the same as OP did, because I would've had some serious choice words for Stacy if I stayed
I know if I were OP and I went to the wedding I would sabotage the whole thing while airing out their dirty laundry. They should be thankful OP took the high road. They should also seek counseling not just for their marriage but to see why they can’t just hurt someone and expect them to forgive because they want them to.
@@lorilancaster5917same. Cant believe tom is sticking up for his now-wife, omce a cheater always a cheater. She aint a prize. Hes such a fool
Story 1 I heard this one before. Glad op got his cat back. He should sue for the vet bill.
*her, she
Op is a woman dude
getting that bench out of your life is reward enough
@KadeStringer2.0 well she could identify as male
Yeah suing a minor is going to make her look big and bad. Nah best move on as she already gave them the boot.
Story 5: I disagree with this being "everybody sucks." The parents literally said the place was OP's for as long as she needed it.
What if OP decides to stay there forever. I dont think anybody would say that thats what the parents meant. So there is a point when she is supposed to move out again.
I think in generell it is fair to have the discussion about switching when a familiy of 3 also need/want space.
In this case the parents and sister could and should find another solution and are mayor AH even though OP deverses a small 0.5 as well
@@TheMoikeroI don't know about you, but the need for shelter is not temporary and if you move into a house and spend time and money fixing it, you're probably going to be hard pressed to just leave and give it to somebody else.
If her parents wanted there to be a stipulation about how long OP is allowed to stay in the house, they should've brought it up long before this.
This is a case of favoritism plain and simple.
@@thatstranger6114 I agree with you totally. It is a case of favortism plain and simple. However, it not being her house, if her parents want her out (or switch) she should not say "no, come sue me" even though the parents are AH because they switched their agreement. I wouldnt want to leave either and I totally get why she is reacting this way. But it is - in my opinion - not a zero AH move. And spending money for a house that you dont own can be risky.
@@TheMoikero I can understand your perspective on it. I agree the better thing for OP to do would be to agree to leave and if she feels strongly enough about it simply distance herself from her family. That's what I would do personally. Of course if she doesn't care about her relationship with them, which she doesn't seem to be concerned with, then expecting her parents to do things the legal way is not out of the question.
and she poured in money to renovate it
Seems weird that Op's Dad and Fiance would specifically choose their wedding date to be 2 days before OP's birthday and make it a STRICTLY no kids allowed wedding. Seems like there's more to this than what we're getting.
I think the Fiance was worried that she was going to outshine her
As far as the 5th Story goes, *if* OP gets evicted, she should sue for the costs she put into fixing up her parents property. I hope she kept the receipts!
Can she do that without any signed contracts? It seemed like her parents were only letting her stay until she gets back on her feet. And it seems like it was a verbal agreement. I'd be concerned that the court will side with OP's parents and that there wouldn't much OP could legally do about it.
@@uselessinformation1988 It depends on the laws where they live. Here there are "squatters rights" so they have to be evicted even though they weren't given permission to be on the property. Plus, many verbal contracts can hold up in court depending on the situation and text messages and emails can be used as proof. If OP lives where I live, the parents would have to legally evict her to force her out.
@@dragonfliesnh4204 since it's a verbal contract, how is it not considered hearsay? I mean how would OP prove that the agreement was made?
@@uselessinformation1988 Like I said, it depends on the laws where they live. If they lived here, it wouldn't matter if it's a written or verbal contact, especially since we have squatters rights. OP isn't a squatter and either way, they would have to legally evict her to get her out. I'm sure OP has text messages and/or emails that the parents have said all this that can be used as proof if push comes to shove.
It's aweful convenient that ops parents promised her the home, she fixed it up and made it nice then the family breaks the promise to give it to her sister
House Story - This is very, very simple. OP is legally a tenant, and tenans have rights. You cannot kick out a tenant on a whim because you want your golden child to live there instead. There is also the fact that OP improved upon the house, AND she is helping someone in need. What OP's parents want to do, is to kick a struggling refuge out, as well as their non-favourite child, so that the golden child can have the *good house*. And when OP doesn't cave immediately because she knows her legal rights, and offers the parents a legal solution, she's suddenly the A-hole? Nah, rSlash. You're being weird again with your verdicts. OP is NTA, and has done nothing wrong, but everything right.
But is she a tenant, though? She doesn't pay rent nor have a contract, so it seems like the parents are just allowing her to live there until she is back on her feet
@@filipe.sm31It depends on the laws of the area they live in.
@@filipe.sm31An agreement, even a verbal one, is a valid contract in the eyes of US law (and I am assuming this is the US, since most of this kinda stuff seems to be, and when not they usually state it).
And regardless, OP had no intentions of staying there permanently. Only for maybe a year, and it has been far less than that at the time of this post (you can look through OP's own posts, they go over their intent a time or two). So yes, the agreement WAS to let her live there until she got back to her feet, and then leave later, but that time hasn't come yet or OP would've left. The parents had even talked about her "celebrating her birthday there", which indicates a lot more time than just a few months, no?
The point is: Their agreement was for OP to stay there for however long she needed it, but now that it has become a little more convenient for the "golden child", they want that kid to stay there, instead of OP. The sister and BIL has the money to rent a place, or buy a house, and are in a more stable situation than OP, but THEY have to be the ones to get the house?
It all seems rather cut and dry to me. If the parents want OP gone they could just evict her. Until then, she has no reason to leave. Least of all because someone else isn't happy enough with a room in their parents home.
@1Kapuchu100 fair enough. Just clarifying that in no way I think the parents are correct. They're being AH, but I just wanted to clarify the situation. Thank you for the information
@@filipe.sm31i do know that in some places. if you saty for an X amount of time, even if you are just a guest, you have the right to stay and you can't be evicted without legal stuff
Cancer or not, she forced her daughter cut her hair. It's super manipulative. I love my hair too. If I had to shave it all off, I'd be crying my eyes out. I cry when I was forced to cut off 6 inches.
The hair story reminds me of my mother. She would get upset over the stupidest things and my dad would scold me for "making my mom cry" 🙄
Me too.
And now, my parents wonder why as an adult I have been no contact with them for almost 15 years (and plan to remain so even when they periodically still try to hover me back up).
Story 6: but she did handle it privately, she only desided not to come to the wedding after having a one-on-one talk with the groom, why would he think OP would for give them
"Welcome to r/aita, where terrible parents expect validation for being terrible parents."
This video in a nutshell.
This comment needs more love
Wait isn’t the parent the good guy here?
Or is it the girls mother? Idk
Edit: oh yeah i misunderstood op os the step mother
Story 5: bad take, RSlash. So OP has been repairing the family property her parents literally said she could, “stay in as long as she needs.” The semantics are ridiculous to call OP an AH over. Her sister is in a dual income relationship and can afford a brand new car - they just want a free house they don’t deserve. And depending on the state she’s in, her parents are LEGALLY obligated to consider it her residence.
OP isn’t the AH, and I think if her parents do evict her she could go NC.
Story 5, NO, Rslash yet again missed the point, she told her parents that they can evict her but it turns out they didn't. The sister wants the house because she has it not because they need it, she is mad that OP is helping other and not her
Story 2: I can understand spoiling the kid a little bit because the mom had multiple miscarriages, so it's amazing to finally have a kid.
However, letting the kid being a bully and super spoiled brat is just not okay. The mom needs to understand that to everyone else, the kid ain't special
I was born in extremely similar circumstances to the "miracle baby". My parents didnt feel the need to spoil me. She needs to get over herself.
The 4th Story is a classic example of if you don't want people condemning you for being a bad parent, _then don't act like a bad parent._
And what were they going to tell others when asked where OP was?
@@lorilancaster5917You mean what DID they tell others >_> like OP was 2 days away from being an adult, might as well just Claim her as an Adult for the wedding anyways... As if 2 days makes Any difference in Maturity >_< Seriously WTF were those two thinking... And then some of the Family calling OP the AH like what?!?
@@durk5331Likely the new stepmother wanted to exclude OP for whatever dumb reason.
@@akl2k7Feckin' evil stepmothers >.
And op didn't say anything about if family members were bashing her for not being at the wedding, like people say their the ah for not supporting their fathers marriage or even saying she was against it. She's 17 going to be 18 two days after the wedding. And her dad and his wife saying she immature for her comments, like what would they have said or did say if a family member asked where she was on that day. I'm sure they didn't say it was because she was not 18 yet. People would have bash them so quickly op wouldn't even had to say anything.
*First OP:* _reads title_ OP's stepdaughter must've done something really awful to that cat to make OP kick her out. _reads story_ Yep, that'll do it. OP is NTA. Good for her for breaking up with her fiance.
*Second OP:* Did OP lie? OP is NTA.
*Third OP:* Nothing like good ol' fashion parent-child coercion. That won't backfire on OP's wife in the future at all! OP is NTA.
*Fourth OP:* Again, did OP lie? She was just stating facts, albeit in a snarky manner. Lol at her dad and step mom pulling the "That's why you weren't invited to the wedding!" OP is NTA.
*Fourth OP:* Yeah, OP's parents owned the property and could do whatever they want with it, including having OP swap places with her sister and her family. However, that doesn't make OP's parents not BHs for their decision. OP's hardships were out of her control. Her sister's family's hardship was from the husband's choices. OP is NTA.
*Fifth OP:* How could anyone expect OP to go on with the wedding after finding out her friend betrayed her, even if it did happen a long time ago? OP is NTA. That said, Tom probably should've told OP _after_ the wedding.
Honestly, there shouldn't have been a wedding in the first place. Tom is an idiot
Story 1 : NTA.. Kim and op ex fiance are pieces of trash...
Update : sooo it took a cat to see the toxicity of op ex and his demon of a daughter .. being pregnant does not give you an excuse to be a witch to other people..
Story 2 : NTA.. just stop inviting Abbey and her demon of a son to anything anymore.. Also include whoever sides with abbey..
Story 3 : NTA.. i had cancer i never once suggested any of my kids or family members cut their hair for me.. op wife is incredibly selfish and manipulative using her situation to manipulate everyone around her..
Story 4 : NTA.. love the snarkyness by op.. op dad and anna actions have consequences you B words.. Dump those immature "friends" ..
Story 5 : NTA.. rent free i get it but nahhh not when you invested in fixing up the property..its just as much of your home as it is those dirtbag "parents".. do not back down op do not give an inch to anyone . rslash gone crazy again why does op get any a hole score for reinvesting and fixing up a crappy place now the spoiled sister sees that the place is fixed up " i want it" parents are like " ok honey" " hey kid we hate move out so our favorite moves in"..
Story 6 : NTA.. with things like stacy and op ex who needs enemies.. even stacy fiancee is a scumbag " ive decided to forgive her" like cool story bro you wanna be a doormat fine op doesnt need to be..
also, in that one story (you have listed as #5), OP clearly states that their parents GAVE them the property!
@@notrom5731ok and ??..
Rslash casually glaring over the fact OP invested a lot of money to fix the house. smooth.
I feel like Tom deserves some idiot points for his shocked pikachu reaction to Op stepping out of the wedding
Thank you. It’s like how did he make it to his age with how stupid he is lol
OP didn’t step out of the wedding they didn’t invite OP, it feel deliberate for their wedding to be two days before OP’s birthday
@@lugismansion2400I was talking about the last story
@@silverselkie1692 ah, my bad
I remember hearing the first story. My blood boiled when I first heard it. OP absolutely did the right thing, that's for sure. I would've done the same thing.
Lol for story 5. Like op said they can evict her. She realizes it isn't her house but she also realizes she has renters right. I think the only reason you gave OP such a score is because the golden child has a kid herself.
Story 2: so having a miscarriage is heart wrenching, but everyone should cater to your undisciplined child because?
For the last story, I cannot wait for the divorce update after the bride has another affair behind the groom's back yet again
And I bet it would be with OPs ex
@@lorilancaster5917nah, that guy is probably long gone by now.
You cannot skip raising your child and teaching him to be social just because he’s special to you. You’re not only hurting your relationships, you are hurting your child as well.
Stories like that piss me off because she is especially hurting her child, she annoys everyone else, but she is essentially ruining her child. If she raises him properly he could be the special kid she sees in him, but this way he is just going to become an entitled idiot who will get a harsh reality check when he enters the adult world without his mommy to protect him.
It's a form of neglect and neglect is abuse. Also, that kid's going to have a hard time once he starts school.
Fourth story: NTA. What did this evil step mother thought will happen?! She literally managed to kick out the groom's daughter. It was just a matter of time until someone asked. And OP's father had it coming as well for supporting this idiotic request that could only result in dissaster.
Story 1: NTA. As an animal lover and cat owner myself, that one struck a nerve. I'm glad OP got her cat back and I'm wishing her and Whiskey the best. Screw her ex-fiancé and Kim. Pregnancy is an EXPLANATION, not an EXCUSE for some of Kim's actions, but she not only uses it as an excuse/shield, but also does premeditated shit like this which she probably would have done if she wasn't pregnant. What a horrible person.
Story 2: NTA. Part of me kind of understands that Abby is blinded with joy when she's finally able to have a son after tens of miscarriages, but if she keeps spoiling her son like that, it's going to come back to bite her in the future, hard. I cannot, in the slightest, blame OP for being frustrated.
Story 3: NTA. Anna didn't shave her head out of her own conscious choice and support of her cancer-ridden mother, she did it because her mother emotionally blackmailed her to. Yes, the wife is self-conscious and going through an extremely traumatic experience, but it's completely within Anna's right to not want to shave the hair she put so much care into, especially since she's 17 and might face hell for it socially. OP was right to get mad at his wife, she has no right to emotionally manipulate (and gaslight! "Oh, it was Anna's choice") her own daughter.
Story 4: NTA. It's well within Anna and OP's dad's perogative to not want children at the wedding, but OP is literally the groom's daughter. She should have definitely gotten a pass. ESPECIALLY SINCE SHE WAS ABOUT TO BE 18 ANYWAY!
Story 5: Eh... NTA, honestly, because, yes, you're right, it's not OP's house, but if it's a large house, then why is the idea immediately to kick OP out and have the sister live there? Is it because OP renovated the house to the point where it's livable now, so her sister wants it? Giving OP 2/5 is a bit too harsh imo. Maybe 0.5/5 buttholes is more justifiable, and that's AT MOST. She's nowhere near the plane of buttholery that her family is.
Story 6: Easy NTA. OP doesn't deserve this treatment and owes nothing to a gaslighter and backstabber. I would have walked out, too.
I wouldn't even go that far and give story 5 OP 0/5, just because she didn't even do anything wrong. She IS a legal tenant, so the law speaks for itself and the parents can evict her if they choose to do so. The parents didn't even acknowledge that she invested money into the property to make it livable again and they also ignore the fact that not only OP but also Olha and her child are living there. By the looks of it, they wouldn't be cool with Olha moving in with their daughter into their house by the way how they act towards their own flesh and blood.
OP also gave an update that states that her spoiled brat-sister still OWNS the house they lived in but chose to abandon that one, so they CHOSE to become "homeless". Not only that, they still have enough money go buy a fancy car, so a lack of money for renting a place is out of the question.
r/slash is completely off his meds in that situation. 2/5 is laughable if we look at other ratings he gave.
Story 5: OP does not deserve a butthole score at all! The parents said she can live there as long as she wanted which is a verbal contract. If the parents want her out they need to evict her legally. And why do people think if you have a family and you don't you have to bend over backwards for that family. If you decide to breed you do not get preferential treatment at all!
Story 5: Let's not confuse legality for morality :P Yes. It isn't OP's house. But they were told it was theirs as long as they needed. Judging by the text in the story ("last spring" + "recent drama") it's been, at best, a year since OP moved in. In the grand scheme of things, that's not a super long time. And that's assuming it hasn't been, say, a few months instead.
Plus, OP has been doing work on the house. Depending on how much they've done, the combined cost of labor and materials could be far more than rent.
I dunno. I don't think the OP is an AH for not wanting to leave, especially given the circumstances. Why uproot someome when the other person you want to house also has a viable option?
I agree. I would say that OP was foolish to have made renovations on the house without getting any approval in writing from parents. Now parents can evict OP if they choose and not reimburse her
@@lorilancaster5917 I certainly feel bad for the OP. I don't know if I'd call them foolish, though. They were grieving and clearly not in a good headspace when they accepted the arrangement.
Okay for the 5th story I mostly agree with you, but double check these lines that the parents say when OP is struggling: "My parents invited me to stay there (rent free), told me it was my home for as long as I needed) then the other line after the favorite one & her family ran into trouble: "Almost immediately my parents and sister approached me to swap (I move in with our parents and sis and her family take my place)" & yes while it is the parents houses, they still made an agreement & they're trying to go back on it for the favorite child, obviously I won't go into the sister's family staying with the parents because we all know why, because the parent's don't want to deal with them, so they're going back on the agreement they made with OP for their favorite child, & claim that the sister's problem is just as bad as Olha, how are they gonna compare the sister's situation to Olha's when the sis & brother-in-law are still loaded, they have enough to get a flashy car, so what's stopping them from just renting an apartment or a rental house? Simple, they don't want to, so effectively they want to take OP's house which they claim is too big for her (yet Olha & her child are there) & send her to the parents, forgetting about the situation that not just OP is in but the other mother & child. This is literally the "Do It FoR dAaAaAaAn" story all over again, so Rslash, I've always listened to & love your stories, but dude, it legit sounds like you gave OP a AH score just for not giving into favoritism or refusing to be guilt-tripped.
Last story: Tell Tom that just because he's a p*ssy doesn't mean are too. If he didn't want to cause any drama he shouldn't have told you right before the wedding and expected you to just be okay with the fact she slept with your ex and then just watch you cry in her arms knowing it was her fault. Screw there flying monkeys tell them when she sleeps with their SO they can tell you how to feel.
Does anyone else Tom did this with the hope that OP would object at the wedding, tell her secret, and in doing so make Tom the victim so he can bail from the marriage?
Story 5: 0 out of 5. It doesn't matter that it's not OPs house. OP is effectively a tenant, with or without rent. Tenants have tenant rights to prevent landlord abuse, such as, oh I don't know, maybe forcing the tenant to move out so that someone else can move in.
Not to mention she did free work out of her own dime on the house.
The only reason that the mom made her daughter shave her head was because she was insecure and jealous.
She has a near 100% shot at surviving cancer, as soon as she is well enough, leave her.
She is very manipulative
Story3: It's not Ops house.......but if the sister isn't in a dire situation, i get it.
Op said she did a lot of work to make the house livable, if she is forced to leave, the answer is to put the house in the same condition it was in before she moved in.
OP put their own time and money into that place so, tough luck to the sister. If her husband cannot take care of his responsibilities of a wife a kids, that is on him.
Story 1 - I sincerely can't trust any people who are in their good "mind" attempting to harm any pets, let alone unalive them.
They prove themselves more animalistic than said pets that they harm.
Second to last story, rslash in his evaluation fails to consider the work done to the house under the assumption that it would be op's house. Op's parents should be paying op for the renovation before trying to get rid of her
Rslash giving Op 2/5 buttholes for not bending to her toxic family members is a low blow like even if he is right and op doesn't own the house THEN WHY AREN'T THE PARENTS EVICTING HER!? Sounds like they can't and are just expecting to bully op to get there way again.
Also how is the sister's situation similar to olah's one is a refugee from a war torn nation and the other is a spoiled golden child.
So I'm giving the sister 2/5 for being spoiled, the parents 4/5 for being toxic bullies, op 0/5 and rslash 1/5 for being way off the mark.
When he said ESH my immediate reaction was scrunching up my face like I smelled a fart and asking out loud "how does op suck?"
Worst rslash take yet I think
@@meowmeow2634He’s definitely had worse, but this is certainly up there. Giving parents who pretty clearly have a golden child benefit of the doubt with an ESH score is just trashy
He has definitely had worse
@@meowmeow2634I've missed the other very bad takes that he edited out, so this was one bad take, it wasn't as bad as others that were extremely bad when I went down to the comments.
@@audreym3908 he's edited out bad takes??
5th story: Why 2/5, OP didn't do anything wrong? The parents told OP that they could stay as long as she wants and OP also put work on the house.
I'm sorry R/ but your ratings have been very off and unfair recently.
The parents can take that back if they want to it’s their house. The OP is a squatter and this point
@@Azyro2no she’s not a squatter she’s a tenant and has rights. If they want her out then they need evict her but they are not willing to do that.
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Story 1: NTA. You did the right thing by kicking out both ex-stepdaughter and now ex-fiance.
Reminder: pregnant does not equal magically good human being who can do no wrong
Honestly, the bride in the last post should be thankful that OP didn't go nuclear on her wedding day and tell everyone about her cheating! It is like the Streisand effect, it was bad enough she wasn't there but instead of playing it off that "something came up" they made it a big deal that she wasn't there which snowballed into this mess. They thought they could shame her for not coming forgetting the reason she didn't come is worse than her skipping the wedding. Why would she want to help someone have a perfect marriage when one of those people broke up her "ever after"?
Story 5 seems like a bad call. When i was young my family, except my dad since my parents are divorced, live in a house owned by my grandparents. We were still tenants with all the rights there in. Same thing with that OP. She has rights as well.
Story 5: op isn't the yta. She's the victim of her family's entitlement.
My aunt did something similar to the person in the first story , my cat was just chillin in the garage and my aunt came into our house through the garage and let my pet get loose
Snowball was gone for like 2 weeks , my aunt came through the garage while my family was still asleep and never announced herself when she came in. Who the hell does that ?!?!?!
I'm a dude and I'd react the same way in the first story. Mister is a sweetheart. He's such a sweetheart not long after I went to first meet him at the shelter he gave me a headbrunt, Anyone who knows cats will know this is big.
Mister, eh? Jim Butcher fan?
@@Vamptonius very Much so though my Mister looks very diffrent.
Robert snuggled right into my BF's arms and was purring his little heart out as soon as the shelter staff handed him over. Didn't even need to bother his two brothers. He's such a daddy's boy and I hope his brothers got themselves good homes.
One point still I think we’re all missing in the last story is that this married couple were vindictive. OP’s friend didn’t tell her about her misstep for years!!That’s one shitty thing to do second silly thing to do. Then, after she told her fiancé at the time, he waited and “pondered” as long as he wanted to before letting OP know like he was the only one affected.
If they were better friends who let her know earlier, she could’ve had time to process it, they could of communicated more, he’ll, even gone to therapy together if necessary and she wouldn’t have jumped out of the wedding last minute. That couple did this to themselves.
Pets are part of the family. My cat is my baby. My older half brother put my cat (and myself) in danger and had the audacity to get mad at me when I complained to our dad about it. We had a massive fight, threats were exchanged, and I felt incredibly unsafe.
I locked myself and my poor cat in my room for almost an entire year and carried around a knife on me at all times. I eventually got so sick of feeling unsafe and disrespected in my own house that I had him kicked out. I cut all contact and have lost all respect for him. My cat has been there for me more than he ever has.
You mess with my cat and I will fucking end you
Honestly, pregnant or not, if someone even had the thought of harming my cat they'd be out of my house in 10 minutes MAX.
I feel like that's not the first story about kicking (out) preggo women for cats disrespects.
What?
@@christinemark6936hormones, am I right?
Yeah I think Rslash covered something related to pregnancy and cats a while ago? I think the wife was worried the cat would attack the baby or something
That's cuz it's not. There are so many "we have to get rid of ur pet cuz of pregnant so and so is living with us" stories.
@@acua1976That one where like someone found it near a car repair shop or something idr.
Hearing rSlash say "Go goo-goo-ga-ga cry into a bottle, you little baby" made my entire week.
Story 1 - NTA. To hell with the boyfriend and his evil daughter. OP's cat will forever be more important. ♥️ 🐈⬛️ 🐈 I'm so happy Whiskey will hopefully be okay.
Story 1: I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again; I hope there’s a specific layer of Hell for people who abuse/abandons pets! NTA
First Story, NTA: Kim is constantly being disrespectful to OP and even went so far as to try to get rid of OP's family member (I see pets as family members) and OP's fiancé tries to justify it by saying she is pregnant. So what if she is pregnant? That doesn’t give her the right to be a horrible person. I’m glad OP got rid of her scumbag of a fiancé. The fact that he was in on this messed up plan (all behind OP's back by the way) to get rid of OP'S CAT is baffling. Keep the cat, get rid of the fiancé
Second Story, NTA: I get that miscarriages are traumatic and all but Abby needed that dose of reality. Her parenting and lack of discipline for her son will cause a lot of harm down the way. Hell, already his behavior is so bad that OP considered excluding Abby and her son (which I don’t boame OP). If Abby keeps refusing to discipline her child and he keeps acting like this, she can’t be surprised when both her and her son are hated by everyone and shouldn’t be upset for why her son can’t make friends
Third Story, NTA: OP's wife emotionally manipulated their daughter into cutting her hair to "show support". There are a lot of ways to show support than forcing ur child to cut her hair. OP's wife is a red flag in my opinion and she shouldn’t be surprised when her daughter hates her for this.
Fourth Story, NTA: Lmao, OP's dad and Anna are just mad because they are getting the rightful bashing they deserve for excluding OP from the wedding when she was literally about to turn 18. It would’ve been a different story if the wedding was a year before OP turned 18 but 2 days after the wedding is crazy.
Fifth Story, NTA: I have to disagree with Rslash. OP's parents can’t just basically give OP the house and then suddenly take it back, especially after OP put a lot of money into renovating it. If they want OP to leave the house, they could pay OP for all the renovations but if they are going to refuse to do that then they can evict OP, which they are refusing to do
Sixth Story, NTA: The crazy thing about all of this is that TOM told OP and Stacy kept quiet about this affair. Stacy ruined OP's relationship and still expected OP to attend the wedding? Lmao, Stacy went after OP's boyfriend, hid it all this time, and really thought OP would forgive her because it happened so long ago? Stacy is a horrible friend
Ppl who don't see pets as family don't deserve pets or their love. I can never express how much I hate ppl who abandon their pets in random places.
@@Megabot_6000u and me both. I’d get rid of anyone who mistreats my cat without a second thought, especially a dog (which I badly want right now)
Yeah, OP in the first story did, in fact, get rid of her now ex-fiancé. Thank goodness, she deserves so much better than that.
Story 5: You gave OP 2/5 AH's for standing her ground?? You gave lesser scores for people that have done worse. Yes, it wasn't her house, but it was a promise made to her by her parents that they suddenly flipped on. I thought you were going to give a 0.5, but a 2? Imo, she didn't deserve a score at all.
As other comments are pointing out, OP has said the sister+BIL do actually own a house (on top of having enough for a "flashy" new car too). They're most likely in this situation to try and escape drama and/or legal issues relating to the *shady company.* This doesn't justify their entitled behavior already, but in addition:
Their parents have room for them as stated.
OP has her own shit to deal with (losing her job and her HUSBAND).
Don't forget that she put a lot of her own money, sweat, and tears into fixing the house up.
Unless OP is lying or there's more missing context she's really a 0/5. Being legally screwed isn't a justification for AH points by itself, what matters is who's the one fucking people over, and Rslash mentions zero of these others elements in his score.
@@SoftisNelaris exactly
I’m so glad OP is not marrying her former fiancé anymore. Knowing what came to light, that relationship was not salvageable.
Thank GOD kim's boyfriend at least had the heart not to dump poor whisky on some "back road". If he did that, there is a HUGE HUGE chance that OP wouldn't have seen her cat ever again... :(
Child free wedding story: let’s not forget, they CHOSE what day to have their wedding. If the age were really the reason, they could’ve waited a week to get married.
As someone who has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, I would NEVER ask nor want my daughters to shave their heads. So I agree with OP
In my eyes the lady in the first story was way too nice to the daughter.
I’m a cat lover and if this happened to me I most likely would be goin to jail that night.
Story 2: all kids are special to there parents, but not to the rest of the world, and that excuse won't work on anyone else. Besides being a rainbow baby isn't even that special, and the family are just spinless to be mad at you when they all thought the same thing.
Is the mother going to use "he's a rainbow baby" as a defense when her child commits their first crime and gets caught and goes to court for it?
Much less to another parents...
As a parent, I dont care how miracle, special, or smart other kids are, my Son is my top priority to protect...
I have a friend, whose first child is a rainbow baby and she never treated her child like a goddess like op's sister treated her son
@@VicGeorge2K6yeah and I bet the kid winds up being homeschooled under the claim “he’s too gifted and the teachers can’t keep up” but really he gets kicked out of every school and parents defend any behaviors he’s displayed.
The only "miracle baby" in existence is Jesus, and even his parents had the good sense to teach him right from wrong. What's this woman's excuse?
In my neck of the woods letting a cat go free range without the protection of a catio is basically feeding the coyotes.
Story 5 - I wouldn't overlook that the sister probably wouldn't want to move into the house if OP didn't fix it up first
Story 1: Can i just say that i LOVE stories like this one. Where the Op is SOOOO clearly NTA and has NO problem standing up for themselves?
NTA at all Op and i’m glad you cut off that dead weight.
Story 1 is definitely NTA. I'm glad the OP kicked out the ex fiance and his daughter just like they did with OP cat.
Third story: NTA. Force someone to cut their hair is not ask for support, is force others into her situation. And I can't believe she came with the "it was her choice but I told her I'll hate her if she didn't do it."
The first story absolutely pissed me off. I absolutely love cats and I get extra sensitive when it comes to them. I would go absolutely scorched earth if someone ever tried messing with my cat.
Story 1: Btch got off easy. I'd have been far less kind than OP...
Story 2: If you love your "miracle baby" then raise him properly before he pisses off the wrong person and gets the sh!t beat out of him or worse.
Story 3: Severe emotional manipulation. Her shaved head isn't gonna cure you, but it might cost you a relationship.
Story 4: Being anal about an age limit makes sense for liability, like when I was 3-4 DAYS too young to go meet Beluga whales on vacation in Alaska. Kicking your own daughter out of your wedding for being TWO DAYS too young is just AH behavior. Someone had something against her. They weren't just "following the rules." It's a private wedding, not a fking business worried about getting sued because someone drowned in the whale enclosure. No one would have even looked at OP and thought "hey, that's a LITERAL CHILD! THIS IS UNFAIR!"
Story 5: 2? Really? Over a technicality? This isn't "am I legally in the right" (which OP just might be anyway) it's "AITA" and no, they're not being an AH for wanting their parents to be fair and keep their promises. By your standards maybe I'd give OP a .5, but even that feels wrong. FFS, dude.
The house story: those squatter rights seem really useful now.
if she's willing to do that with a cat imagine what she'll do to a kid
Story 3: this angers me. My mom went through chemo during the pandemic (she had early stage breast cancer due to what she did for a living as a science teacher and being around radioactive material) and she had to shave her head. She never asked me to shave my hair or enforced it. She knew I had other ways of supporting her by just taking care of her, wearing a scarf that I gotten from performing with my school band at Susan g Komen walks/races, and just praying for her. She is cancer free and has had her hair come back since.
But this lady is so terrible. She does realize that there are other ways to support you without needing to shave their head, right? I know some people do it, but that is because they want to.
That last story, IF Stacey had kept her knickers ON she would of had a nice wedding.
Taking bets on when RSlash retracts his comments on the house story.
The OP does not deserve a buthole score plane and simple. Not her house, she's still entitled to people following the rules
Rslash seems to have very particular ideas of ownership. But yeah, OP is definitely burning bridges here, but she's not the AH.
I have a feeling that won't happen. Not many people will talk about his rating on that story or even that story as a whole since there are other stories in the video that will overshadow it.
@@YourPal1 then that is kind of worse. Putting a story that is controversial after a bunch of other, more interesting, stories in an attempt to distract is Shady Behavior
@@monk864Whoa, boy! That's assigning malice where I seriously doubt there is any. 😂
He's got an odd bias here, but I would be genuinely surprised if he's trying some sort of manipulation tactic here.
@@sophie9419 I only say that because it seems like he only ever retract stories that are buried after the lead. Like the video with the terrible mac and cheese; the babysitting story generated some controversy and he retract his commentary, he could have lead with the babysitting story, but lead with the story that would likely generate more positive discussion (food crime memes)
Could be just a coincidence, but its something I've noticed
Story 1: "you better not try anything because I'm pregnant!"
The way I would of already had my fist up... definitely NTA.
That first story: I’m glad he’s now your EX fiance. Also, if she was MY step daughter, things would’ve been worse. If you abuse a cat you do NOT deserve to have a kid since it ALWAYS starts with animals and then it escalates.