Fighting for Sexual Purity: My Sons Share their Biggest Lessons | Moms of Men | Lisa Bevere

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  • Our children face all kinds of sexual temptations. How can we equip them to protect their purity in a culture of compromise?
    In this discussion, my sons and I dive into a critical discussion on how parents can help their boys navigate sexuality well and create a culture of open conversation around a topic rife with secrecy and shame.
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    Chapters:
    0:00 - Lesson Teaser
    0:13 - Building a Vision for Purity
    6:07 - Combatting a Culture of Compromise
    8:10 - Making Purity Practical
    11:15 - Open the Conversation
    15:11 - Equipping Your Children
    18:00 - Be Pre-emptive & Start Early
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Komentáře • 571

  • @joeym24
    @joeym24 Před rokem +1047

    "People lower their standards when they lose hope. When we have hope we raise our standards"

    • @aaronbrooks4091
      @aaronbrooks4091 Před rokem +12

      I just did a bible study on that! Where we have hope, it's the harbinger of our victory! Once you lose hope, you give up, you let go. Good one! Don't lose hope folks. Our Hope rests in our joy, and the Joy of the Lord is our strength! 👍👏

    • @pamodzichitsonga6901
      @pamodzichitsonga6901 Před rokem +7

      I agree, and we must remember that we are holding onto Christ as our standard and hope, because when we hold onto our own standards and hope, which is very possible, even as a Christian, we will lose our hope and standards easily.

    • @strawberry_lemony
      @strawberry_lemony Před rokem +6

      Exactly, you should just tell God in your mind what your looking for in man/woman and wait every now in then go back and check the list. Because the enemy will send an a imitation. Also if you are waiting till marriage , definitely dont settle. Oh yeah and dont be like well we engage so now i can sleep with him /her , because i ve seen circumstances where the people get engaged have sex with partner , and they dont wind up married. So now you got this soul tie, that is extremely hard to get over and these urges you never really had before. I mean think about it all the time and not experience it , its very easy to abstain . But once you get an unholy soul tie , it gonna be so hard its like being a drug addict. So definitely wait for marriage, and ask God for help in getting married and waiting.

    • @ya__basic
      @ya__basic Před rokem +1

      Precisely. ❤

    • @daughteroftheking3220
      @daughteroftheking3220 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Yes exactly our hope is Jesus Christ that is why our standard is so high!!

  • @masego3152
    @masego3152 Před rokem +1457

    As a young Christian woman who’s waiting on God, it’s so inspiring and refreshing that men are so convicted to wait on God! Y’all just restored my hope of finding a Godly man

    • @pamodzichitsonga6901
      @pamodzichitsonga6901 Před rokem +76

      Can I tell you sis, there are so many men who take waiting on God seriously, I know many who I call my friends. Its just that the media bombards us with the other side of the story. Another thing is men express purity differently to women but they exist. Pray to God to be surrounded by them.

    • @BearingMySeoul
      @BearingMySeoul Před rokem +6

      @@pamodzichitsonga6901 Interesting! Are they in your church? I can only think of one ministry I've ever been involved in where men out numbered women. In all the others it's been a 2:1 ratio at best!

    • @TaylorKWH
      @TaylorKWH Před rokem +53

      I'm a 29 year old man who's been waiting on God and waiting until marriage practically my whole life. We are still here and around. I've faced some temptations to pull away and do my own way, cuz sometimes the waiting and longing can be a bit unbearable. But I fear God and I don't want to hurt the person I love so much.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před rokem +28

      You would be surprised fam, I have run into a good amount of men who are virgins and waiting until marriage to have sex. It's just that mainstream media makes it look like everybody is participating in hookup culture and that is not true.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před rokem +14

      @@pamodzichitsonga6901 facts, I also have run into a good amount of men who are saving themselves for marriage

  • @tinameyers3064
    @tinameyers3064 Před rokem +585

    She rose up some sharp arrows. Bravo mama. It’s amazing that they could talk about something like this so comfortably with their mom

    • @linak7155
      @linak7155 Před rokem +11

      Yes, amazing family! Hat's off to them for raising such men. 💐

    • @mannysamson4091
      @mannysamson4091 Před rokem

      @theamberheardplaylist6768 no. The other way around.

    • @YasminMahnaz
      @YasminMahnaz Před rokem

      The mother is dressed very inappropriate for older woman or woman... and she looks tacky.. like dirty, grimy, cigarette smoker.. she looks evil not like her sons.... deceptive and that haircut, Booby cut shirt not helping her. She not 20.. doesn't dress with class either

  • @Helen.Sekitoleko
    @Helen.Sekitoleko Před rokem +208

    As a women who has struggled with lust since childhood.. it is so important to have these conversations with not just your sons but also your daughters, and from a young age!
    God help us! 🙏🏼

    • @nettiemarie2556
      @nettiemarie2556 Před rokem +12

      I struggled with a lust addiction starting at 3 yrs old until about 45 to various degrees via a curse thru the womb on my father's side, I wish my family would have been more accepting and open to purity and these convos, it was taboo...

    • @debpeterson1343
      @debpeterson1343 Před rokem +1

      I agree!

    • @alluringbliss4165
      @alluringbliss4165 Před 11 měsíci +2

      I have struggled with list too but once I turned to God and Jesus, the spirit of lust fled.

    • @Utubemm01
      @Utubemm01 Před 11 měsíci

      Women can have a problem with lust? Who knew?

    • @MariaJennyAbad
      @MariaJennyAbad Před 10 měsíci +2

      @Utubemm01 Lust problem knows no gender and age 😔

  • @kyrythkessler1316
    @kyrythkessler1316 Před rokem +89

    When my son was confirmed at age 14, he asked the pastor to witness for him after the service as he knelt at the altar and pledged his purity to God. He promised to wait until his wedding night. And he kept that vow! He also married a virgin. Their first anniversary is tomorrow and I've never seen such a happy, committed couple! God truly blessed their union! I am so proud of him!

    • @givenmichael6177
      @givenmichael6177 Před rokem +5

      Woooow incredible , proud of him its so inspiring and congratulations to raise him rightly

    • @givenmichael6177
      @givenmichael6177 Před rokem +1

      Woooow incredible , proud of him its so inspiring and congratulations to raise him rightly

    • @willygraphics360
      @willygraphics360 Před 11 měsíci +2

      Wooww he is so inspirational!

    • @kyrythkessler1316
      @kyrythkessler1316 Před 11 měsíci +3

      @@willygraphics360 thank you ALL OF YOU. He is an incredible man. It wouldn't surprise me if he received a Call one day.

    • @Vlindertjeab
      @Vlindertjeab Před 11 měsíci

      😍😍😍😍😍

  • @esthermoananu6786
    @esthermoananu6786 Před rokem +200

    Making sex a sensitive topic won't help but build rebellion in the kids. Kids at a certain age needs to be taught about this topic as it will give them awareness of what is coming. Thank you for this, I wish I had the same convo with my parents when I was young but glad Jesus set me free from all the struggles.

  • @michaelabester5565
    @michaelabester5565 Před rokem +158

    As a single lady in her early 20s these are notes I took. Thank you!
    1. I dont want either one of us to compromise our marriages.
    2. I want to give as much of myself to my husband as possible. ( ps an untackeled and untouched Michaela) - I want to protect my heart.
    3. God please show me what it can look like to have a beautiful and pure relationship with my husband.

    • @indi2174
      @indi2174 Před rokem

      Hi .. We are in 2023 now.. are you still the same category. If your still single . I mean strictly single . Then please come let us and reason together.

    • @ambassadorkees
      @ambassadorkees Před rokem +9

      ​@@indi2174 What's 2023 to do with it? Celibacy until marriage has proven benificial to many. As a man, I was celibate also.

    • @stevemacinnis5000
      @stevemacinnis5000 Před rokem

      Hey Michaela! I'm 25 and waiting for marriage. I'd love to know more about you because I'm looking for my future wife now. If you're interested, I'll give you my email, and from there I can add you on WhatsApp, sound good? God bless 🙏❤

  • @Retroglamamour
    @Retroglamamour Před rokem +188

    9:44 _”I chose not to kiss a girl in high school, and my brothers gave me crap for that.”_ 🤣😂
    Hahaha yeeesss, this is the authentic sibling callouts and banter 😁

    • @kassi4837
      @kassi4837 Před rokem +27

      One of my best friends is entering his 40s and he still has this standard. I am so proud of him. He is a fire ball for God the keeping of your purity really does enhance your connection in relationship with God. It’s a pain, but it’s worth it.

    • @FuyereIdedevwo
      @FuyereIdedevwo Před rokem +9

      @@kassi4837 May God strengthen him🙏🏼

    • @Missramy100
      @Missramy100 Před rokem

      @@kassi4837 Praise God. It seems like more and more Christians are now accepting even sex before marriage as something 'ok.' I'm 44, not married, but the Bible is still valid, no matter what society says (or even some Christians.)

  • @christinenamatovu1984
    @christinenamatovu1984 Před rokem +61

    I have been celibate for the last 3 years.. as a Christian I dedicated my whole life to God,.... I joined church doing Gods works I interceded for singles in the same state I was in I preached the gospel and still doing these things,.... righteousness and holiness Next month will be my introduction ceremony and October my wedding ... to a godly man . Thank God 💃🏿♥️

  • @phenomenonto328
    @phenomenonto328 Před rokem +294

    I love how respectful they all are to each other’s perspectives. What a beautiful family dynamic ❤

    • @cristinaxo
      @cristinaxo Před rokem +12

      Yes, I picked up on that as well - so beautiful to see such a wonderful close family❤

    • @nettiemarie2556
      @nettiemarie2556 Před rokem +5

      I noticed this rare trait too. All families would benefit from this...

    • @PaulHanson-zo5qj
      @PaulHanson-zo5qj Před 10 měsíci

      Conservative family value's or as joe would sAy far rigHt extremist

  • @ashleyramos3182
    @ashleyramos3182 Před rokem +71

    I'm a mom of young girls ONLY (10, 8, 6) . How you are equipping your sons with the amour of God is a beautiful testament of your genuine trust in the Lord.

    • @chorusfrog2548
      @chorusfrog2548 Před rokem +2

      Know as a mother of 2 sons, they look and look for girls who dress appropriate...hard to find. My boys are great looking and it is a rare girl that dresses right to start a relationship off to begin with. Hard to find no drama...hard to find Godly girls these days...pray your 3 walk in His ways.

    • @nanaaddae8623
      @nanaaddae8623 Před 11 měsíci

      My girls are 11, 9 n 6 n i worry for the generation of boys these days. This has so much restored my faith that godly boys do exist in this generation. I wish i saw more of these. I wisk young people are taught how to guard their sexuality. ❤ Going to the bathroom with the door open. Thats new, but thats accountability.

  • @Dan_The_Man77
    @Dan_The_Man77 Před rokem +14

    I’m 17 year old male and I’ve been suffering with this shit from 13 but now I see the true path 🙏

  • @Chara12
    @Chara12 Před rokem +174

    I’m not a mum but this was so good and really encouraging. Thank you Lisa for modeling that it’s possible to raise sons that are wholly given to God in the area of purity❤️

  • @ForestWW
    @ForestWW Před rokem +62

    YES! MORE OF THIS! As a 23 year old young man, this inspires me! I love hearing from other young men about their battles and faith.

  • @paulaglenn388
    @paulaglenn388 Před rokem +21

    I love the statement "walking with God as you're studying the word it changes your desires." That is awesome.

  • @meganvictoria7
    @meganvictoria7 Před rokem +19

    I think it's very admirable that Alec waited on kissing. Not many people can say that and it's often looked down upon. It's refreshing to hear someone else is committed and waiting on God. Young men of God seem scarce these days. Seeing these men gives me hope. I'll keep waiting on God's timing.

  • @nettiemarie2556
    @nettiemarie2556 Před rokem +18

    My family never emphasized purity and sexual talk was taboo. Kudos to these saints!

  • @fayeg3026
    @fayeg3026 Před rokem +116

    Proud mom.... blessing to have such sons. Parents must have put in a lot to lay the foundation for their sons considering they were travelling . It does not automatically happens. Parents take heed!

    • @jareya
      @jareya Před rokem +2

      So true… this is the fruit of God’s favor, their efforts in intentional parenting, strong communication with their sons, grounded in lots of travail in prayer over the years. It doesn’t just happen.

  • @AranelEruvyreth
    @AranelEruvyreth Před rokem +84

    This video actually gave me a lot of hope. I’m a woman who has struggled with pornography (mostly erotica) and has only recently (within the last year) been set free so I know the damage it can cause. I have never been in a relationship and I was beginning to despair that I wouldn’t ever find a man with this kind of strength, that “all the good ones” were already gone. I have been having more hope as of late and waiting in patience on the Lord to fully heal me and bring someone into my life, and this conversation has helped convict me that there may still be a man out there and that I shouldn’t lose hope and settle out of fear for someone who doesn’t show me the proper respect and love that God has revealed to me I am worth. Thank you very much for having this conversation and posting it and I wish you all the best in your lives and future relationships. Your future wives will be lucky women for sure!

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před rokem +14

      Don't settle fam, stay true to your value and beliefs. I have run into quite a few men who are virgins and waiting for marriage to have sex. You just continue to draw closer to God and ask Him to make you over into His image. And spend much time in prayer and ask God to send you a God fearing man.
      The Bible says that the more time you spend in prayer with God the more you become like Him and the stronger you get to overcome your sinful nature. Double up, even triple up if you need to during your prayer life. And watch God do a wonderful work in you. God bless you

    • @Hesavedmeamen
      @Hesavedmeamen Před rokem +3

      Please read Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers......such an excellent book on the topic. God bless

  • @BreenyLee
    @BreenyLee Před rokem +138

    “You can run from something for only so long eventually you need to run TO something” beautiful.
    VISION is so important!!!!

    • @indi2174
      @indi2174 Před rokem

      Breeny .. thank you for been real. Yes I appreciate you for telling it like it is. Your comment says it all. Your comment is short but it definitely speak louder than most of what am hearing and reading. Sooo thank you for been a real one . I celebrate you. And I celebrate this comment in fullness of the firm foundation of wisdom.

    • @zeenkosis
      @zeenkosis Před rokem

      Breeeeny!!!!❤ love seeing you here

  • @mony2934
    @mony2934 Před rokem +21

    It's shocking how beautiful these men and their mother are!! ❤️ Wow! A healthy holy family 🙏 Respect and much love to all of you 🤗

  • @moodsofkiwi9285
    @moodsofkiwi9285 Před rokem +67

    I’m a married woman to a man that repented of pornography in the midst of our dating relationship. I’m so glad you guys brought up the fact that it destroys your marriage before you’re even in it. My husband and I have had to work through so much and still struggle at times to stay above the rubble left behind. Protect your marriage from the start! I have a son, and I love the open communication lines you had with your sons.

    • @MrChasCullen
      @MrChasCullen Před rokem +2

      I hope that your husband talks honestly & freely with your son.

    • @deh.2196
      @deh.2196 Před 10 měsíci +1

      I was in the same boat except he was in it before our marriage from the age of 7 and when we first got married. It lead to cheating which eventually got revealed. It was a hard time but him seeing how devastating it was on me and our marriage lead to him seeking repentance and deliverance from spirits of lust and perversion brought on him from molestation and exposure at a young age. What was a trial turned into a testimony for our marriage and for him. I'm currently 6 months pregnant with a boy and it's so encouraging to see how open and productive this discussion is, I pray that we carry this in our lives to be open and honest with our child 🙏 prayers for you and your family as well ❤❤

    • @moodsofkiwi9285
      @moodsofkiwi9285 Před 10 měsíci +2

      @@deh.2196 congratulations on your son, and Praise God that He has used a terrible trial to His redemption and glory! I’m sorry for the pain you experienced for your husband’s sin. It hurts my heart thinking about the pain you must have experienced. Thank God you have surpassed it and had victory♥️

    • @deh.2196
      @deh.2196 Před 10 měsíci

      @moodsofkiwi9285 thank you those kind words mean so much! 😊 🙏 it definitely took alot of healing on both parts but God is so so good even when it looks so bad! Trusting in Him is always worth it!

  • @pamgessler5923
    @pamgessler5923 Před rokem +19

    Godly parents, especially a good father who lives out His faith in front of His children, teaching them every day about Life and walking with God are the most important thing children can have. I thank God often that my children had that. I wish everyone did.

  • @glenda7846
    @glenda7846 Před rokem +32

    This is beautiful and so rare that men actually make this decision. There are some men who are raised with a Christian upbringing who don’t make the choice of sexual purity. The transparency of all of you is blessing, especially since this topic still seems to be taboo in the church. There needs to be more discussions about this topic.

  • @esthermungai9332
    @esthermungai9332 Před rokem +22

    People lower their standards when they loose hope...so powerful 🙌🙌🙌

  • @janey9932
    @janey9932 Před rokem +6

    oh God I just want a christian home like this; I mean look how loving, enlightened, respectful they are to each other

  • @chocortez23
    @chocortez23 Před rokem +29

    So refreshing to hear men speaking of this and seeing the beauty in staying pure for your future spouse. As a single young lady in the Lord, I feel so encouraged and feel like, there ARE men out there who love God, love their future spouse, and want to have good morals. The thing about the balloon, soooo good! I grew up with very similar illustration. How beautiful! Thanks guys for sharing and encouraging so many of us girls.

  • @whatjojothinks
    @whatjojothinks Před rokem +41

    Listening to them speak, you can tell that she’s done such a great job! Bravo Lisa Bevere, you’re an inspiration !

  • @aminaamrar4959
    @aminaamrar4959 Před rokem +30

    a great mom who has raised 4 great men, bless them, it's so refreshing and hopeful to see a family discuss ethics and values in a world where promecuity is becoming the new norm.

  • @roshi8955
    @roshi8955 Před rokem +40

    It makes me sad because as a boy raised in a Christian family I was never exposed to pornography inside the home, and it wasn't talked about either. The first time I heard about stuff like that was at school, classmate were watching porn IN CLASS (during lesson) and I was 13 too(currently 23). So the fact that other people's children can pollute the minds of kids unbeknownst to parents is sad and quite scary. I fell into masturbation during the same period and was too ashamed to talk about it with anyone, until God delivered me from it 4 years ago.
    I will make sure to educate my children on sex rather early so that I can tell them all there is to know, and so they feel comfortable coming to me for advices. Because when my mom got the courage to ask if I was practicing it, I was already 1/2 years clean…so a bit too late imo...

    • @angelabroere781
      @angelabroere781 Před rokem +1

      "Fell into masturbation in the same period." The same class period?
      "...Until God delivered me from it 4 years ago."
      So you haven't sought self-pleasure in masturbation since you were 19 now?

    • @roshi8955
      @roshi8955 Před rokem +5

      @@angelabroere781 no, not in the same classe period but in the same year, several months later.
      And no, I haven't touched myself since May 2018

    • @willygraphics360
      @willygraphics360 Před 11 měsíci +3

      ​@@roshi8955you have come along way brother Keep it up man!

    • @richardf.6430
      @richardf.6430 Před 11 měsíci +1

      ​@@roshi8955 🎉🎉🎉 way to go. Doing the same.

  • @blissfulanddivine3101
    @blissfulanddivine3101 Před rokem +53

    This is so deep. Thanks guys. And more to mama and dad for being such an example of leadership. So blessed.

  • @marlanabeasley1790
    @marlanabeasley1790 Před rokem +10

    This made my heart so happy seeing men talk about this

  • @JesusLovesYou423
    @JesusLovesYou423 Před rokem +15

    I have 5 kids, one boy and 4 girls, I'm just starting to listen to these videos, but mine are all still little, so I'm praying these will help as my children grow!
    We have a Jesus loving household, so this is so important!!

  • @dededinah2
    @dededinah2 Před rokem +35

    What a good thing to do, Lisa. So good to hear your son's speak so openly. Proud of you, Lisa, and John for the way you have raised them!

  • @charlesgatesjr4264
    @charlesgatesjr4264 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I love the openness and transparency in your family. It really sets a standard for those of us who are preparing for marriage and family and illustrates how we can be open without shaming about even the harder topics. Purity is probably the most attacked topic in America, and the Church doesn't know how to handle it. I'll be watching your other videos, too, because I got a lot out of this!

  • @gowx
    @gowx Před rokem +53

    This was such a blessing ❤ Lisa, thank you for bringing your sons on and having them voice their fight for purity and ultimately for what the Lord has called them to.

  • @blessedsuburbanmamma7062

    Idk how to explain it but I can see in their faces and eyes the purity they have 🥹🥹 when it comes to this topic even if they’re already married or whatever. Have you ever noticed how heavy and burdened ppl become and the sorrows you can almost see in one’s face when they have been used and manipulated and heartbroken. That’s a huge part of keeping yourself pure… protecting your heart at all costs bc everything u do flows from it ! Proverbs 4:23

  • @jaimepiano1985
    @jaimepiano1985 Před rokem +22

    I have four young sons, I’m so excited to see this. Thank you!

  • @bridgetg2661
    @bridgetg2661 Před rokem +12

    What a blessing to have four beautiful sons who demonstrate such Godly beliefs and intentions - They will all be/become such wonderful husbands - well done on raising them like this! ❤ from Australia 🇦🇺 x

  • @krispyxtine
    @krispyxtine Před rokem +24

    I have a son and I’m expecting another boy in September so it’s encouraging to hear this from different perspectives. I think that sexual purity doesn’t stop once you get married and some men still struggle with pornography and sexual immorality even in marriage, so I think talking about sexual purity within a context of marriage is still important. Would love to hear about that!

  • @jenkilburnart3746
    @jenkilburnart3746 Před rokem +27

    Wow!! Thank you for raising godly sons!!

  • @togodbetheglory1842
    @togodbetheglory1842 Před rokem +13

    As a single mom with a 15 yr old son, thank you for sharing this info to give me talking points with my son. I love the Ballon analogy. I plan on checking into Passport to Purity

  • @mgiii
    @mgiii Před rokem +12

    This is Powerful. I’m awestruck. Don’t have words. Great job Mom. I’m a man and 31. Great powerful example of kingdom family

  • @VictoriaD10001
    @VictoriaD10001 Před rokem +9

    As a soon-to-be first time mom of a son, this part of raising godly boys intimidates me most… this was a super helpful and encouraging video. Many thanks!!!

  • @salsabilammar12
    @salsabilammar12 Před rokem +6

    What was said aboud lowering standards is amazing, this is exactly what happens!

  • @Dahmiekay
    @Dahmiekay Před rokem +20

    Thank you so much mama lisa, its so nice to have men talk about this topic and share their convictions about purity

  • @nancydubuk1768
    @nancydubuk1768 Před rokem +23

    My daughter loves Jesus and is staying pure until marriage. She has found it so difficult to find men that want the same thing. She goes to church, is in small groups etc…. And the men are nit serious about their purity. It makes me so sad! She is a gorgeous ( not by my standards, but anyone’s standards) young lady. 23 years old . Very smart ( of course all moms think their child is beautiful and smart). If I didn’t think my daughter would be horrified, I would post a picture here 😆
    I keep praying that God will have a godly man for her that values Gods ways in all he does…. Just like my daughter…..but, I get discouraged sometimes.
    It was lovely to hear your young men speak so confidently and honestly.

    • @Utubemm01
      @Utubemm01 Před rokem +1

      The men are "nit" serious? Oh, you meant the men are "not" serious. Makes sense to me.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před rokem +4

      Don't give up fam. You continue to lift your daughter up before the Lord. Sometimes we have to increase our prayer life to get them answered sometimes. You and your daughter continue to pray and ask God to send her a strong, God fearing man, and ask God to give you guys patience as you wait on Him to answer.

    • @nancydubuk1768
      @nancydubuk1768 Před rokem +4

      @@koolsmoothfan yes, you are right. Thank you!

    • @julietruesdell.371
      @julietruesdell.371 Před rokem +2

      I don't understand why a person would only comment to correct someone's spelling instead of responding to the message..

    • @Utubemm01
      @Utubemm01 Před rokem +1

      @@julietruesdell.371 Well clearly I was bored when i read it. Or maybe I'm just a stickler for details. In any event, my response to the overall posting is below.

  • @faithrosebhizai5645
    @faithrosebhizai5645 Před rokem +8

    "When we have hope we raise our stands" well said..and it applies to every aspect of our lives..
    Thankyou

  • @linak7155
    @linak7155 Před rokem +5

    This was beautiful! A rare n candid conversation between a mom and her sons. Scripture speaks of 144,000 young virgins (men) who will be preserved during the worst time on esrth. God is always watching us to see what's in our hearts.

  • @Mr1persevering
    @Mr1persevering Před rokem +14

    Lisa, thank you so much for this much needed ministry. I was literally just asking God for such a resource and happened upon this today. Thanking God that He cares about every aspect of our children’s lives.

  • @joawash
    @joawash Před 11 měsíci +5

    The hardest part about growing up in a Christian home was that my parents didn't openly ask me questions like this because they believed I was doing everything right; at least that is what I assumed they thought. I think it has a lot to do with them being unaware how easy it is to look at pornography and how easy it is to cover your tracks, it is everywhere. I've struggled with this for a decade now and it's my biggest downfall.

  • @TheFoyinsayemi
    @TheFoyinsayemi Před rokem +9

    I’d love to be a boy mom someday, just like you and I pray God helps me to raise them right, raise them as kings that invade cities and takeover kingdoms for God. Amen!

  • @imforeva6019
    @imforeva6019 Před rokem +10

    This was wonderful. So encouraging to see and hear especially from men.

  • @Zayithyah
    @Zayithyah Před rokem +2

    Beautiful discussion!
    Praying to meet a man that views purity just like your sons. Precious. HalleluYAH!

  • @donnamorgan2313
    @donnamorgan2313 Před rokem +11

    Lisa you are so blessed. 2 of my 3 grown children are still pure. Not out of honor for God, but they have always been very shy of the opposite sex. The one who is not suffers terribly with mental illness. I just pray that they all turn to walk with the Lord, and find Godly spouses some day.

    • @cristinaxo
      @cristinaxo Před rokem +3

      Praying that your boys find their way to God 🙏❤️

  • @Missramy100
    @Missramy100 Před rokem +3

    This is so encouraging. First of all, to see such wholesome young men gives me hope they are not extinct. :) Secondly, as a part of an anti-human trafficking prevention program, we teach young people about the connection between pornography and human trafficking. It's not a Christian teaching per se, but it explains really well what pornography does to the brain (dopamine effect etc), how a person is influenced by what they see in pornography, how that ties into the trafficking part. It's a connection I had never seen before.

  • @simplebeautybysusie5251
    @simplebeautybysusie5251 Před rokem +5

    Thanks all! What a refreshing drink of water and you are all such lights 🌟🌟🌟🌟 Well done parents ✝️🫶🙏 and good on your God centered sons 🙌🤗🫶❤️✝️ love your teachings Miss Lisa 🫶

  • @mariavids1059
    @mariavids1059 Před rokem +3

    I tend to lower my standard before because I was hopeless but thank God he made me put me in a situation to realize things and still being pure.

  • @britt_bh2021
    @britt_bh2021 Před rokem +10

    Wish more than anything I had someone pouring this into me teaching me along the way, the shame and regret and guilt is suffocating I wish I could go back and do everything right 😢❤ thank you Lord for forgiveness it’s hard to forgive yourself and the ballon analogy was spot on it makes you feel so empty when you give yourself away to people

    • @hellefreude5086
      @hellefreude5086 Před rokem +7

      I understand where you're coming from. Believe me. But Jesus didn't come for the healthy saint, He came for the sick in sin...and there are more who need His healing then not. Sadly enough! From my own experience, the closer your relationship gets to Jesus Christ, following His leading, taking up the Truth in scripture, the more healing you will experience 💛
      As to the guilt and shame and emptiness, the feeling of haven given your worth away...I just thought about the encounter of Jesus with the Samaritan woman at the well. (John 4:26) She was a foreigner, to that a woman and had quite a bit of sexual impurity in her life....and Jesus approached this broken woman and shared the first time openly that He was the Messiah💛 Can it get more beautiful, more loving and more hopeful. There is no hint of accusation or shaming from Jesus to this woman...He came for such a broken soul and life as she had! .... although of course she needed to turn her life around....
      I was like this broken woman and Jesus has absolutely transformed my life!!! It's taken time, but I am not who I was!
      Be blessed💛 If we walk close to Jesus, leaning on His strength and guidance, we will overcome all sin, death and satan! Because Jesus IS already victor! He loves us so much! 💛🙏

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před rokem +4

      If you confess your sin, God is faithful and just to forgive your sin. 1 John1:9. Don't beat yourself up, we all have sinned. Now, look to God and ask Him to come into your heart and to make you into His image. Increase your prayer life tenfold and study your Bible more. Doing these things bring peace to the soul.
      I find the more time I spend in prayer and studying the Bible the more peace and comfort comes over me. And before you study the Bible, pray and ask God to send the Holy Spirit to give you discernment and understanding before you study it. Ask God to give you the strength to not look back at your past failures, but ask Him to give you the strength and power and desire to put God first in your life. If you put God first in your life, then He will take care of the rest.
      trust me fam, you just start to spend more time in prayer and studying the Bible and watch God move in your life in wonderful ways. I am a living witness to that, ever since I gave my heart too and invited God into my life. He has done some wonderful and miraculous things for me and my family.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před rokem +2

      @@hellefreude5086 amen fam, I am happy for you. You are correct we need to spend even more time in prayer and studying the Bible now then ever before to make it in these last and evil days. The more time we spend with God the more we become like Him.

    • @britt_bh2021
      @britt_bh2021 Před 11 měsíci

      @@hellefreude5086 thank you 💜 May God bless you always !!!

  • @donnalyntorres7202
    @donnalyntorres7202 Před rokem +3

    Kudos to the parents who raise good looking and inspiring man like them🙂

  • @joanneponnappa
    @joanneponnappa Před rokem +3

    This is the kind of mom I want to be. Wow. So open and such a Godly bond ❤😢wow

  • @Hopelb
    @Hopelb Před rokem +18

    This is so helpful. I also have 4 boys (and 1 girl) and honestly, raising 4 boys to be pure in this culture terrifies me. My boys are 5 and under but I have already started talking to my children about sex. I heard about sex in first grade from a neighbor! And that was in the early 90s.

    • @moodsofkiwi9285
      @moodsofkiwi9285 Před rokem +1

      I am so nervous as well. I only have one son but God willing I could have more. And sexual purity is what intimidates me.

    • @koolsmoothfan
      @koolsmoothfan Před rokem +6

      Nowadays, in this society we must invite God into our hearts to guide us and our children. Everyday lift your kids up to the Lord in the morning and ask Him to protect them and guide them throughout the day. Also dedicate your children to the Lord and ask Him to Use them for His will and purpose. Ask the Lord to put a protective hedge around them everyday, and keep them safe from the Devil.
      I dedicated my daughter to the Lord when she was a little girl and the Lord has done so many wonderful things in her life and mine. He has provided and protected us in this wicked world, and has done miraculous things for us. He will do the same for you and your kids if you invite Him to come into your hearts and abide with you.
      God says, behold, I stand at the door and knock, if any man opens it, I will come in and abide with him and he with Me. So open up your hearts to God and ask Him to lead and guide your paths, only God can lead you and your family safely in this world. With little prayer comes little power, but with much prayer comes much power. God bless you.

  • @awarefulfacts4472
    @awarefulfacts4472 Před rokem +3

    Wow I'm so happy to hear such young men talk this. How I wish all young people would share in the same idea of sexual purity, we'd be building godly marriage.

  • @makaylacraven9300
    @makaylacraven9300 Před rokem +4

    Thank y’all so much for talking about these things. These are things that our society really needs to talk about. Our world is so confused, and so many people think that what’s wrong is right and what’s right is wrong. I am so glad that y’all are talking about what truly is right.

  • @adventurer7860
    @adventurer7860 Před rokem +3

    So good! So good to see Godly men who care about remaining pure not only because of their Christianity, but also for their future wife.

  • @danitaraybon589
    @danitaraybon589 Před rokem +4

    Convos like this are great, especially with your parents. Most parents don't like to talk about this with their kids. They are very handsome too lol

  • @leahingraham5509
    @leahingraham5509 Před rokem +13

    This is so encouraging. Got three sons and I'm definitely gonna be proactive to have things conversations

  • @tlaly
    @tlaly Před rokem +3

    Argh! Love this so much. I don't have kids yet but I look forward to being this open with my sons and even daughters❤

  • @mercynawila4440
    @mercynawila4440 Před rokem +6

    This is so inspiring hearing it from the men that have made decisions on what they want purity,not that it's easy but because its worthy it, vision. love you Lisa and the men

  • @natalieohlsson7777
    @natalieohlsson7777 Před rokem +2

    These talks with your sons are profoundly powerful!! Please keep it up❤❤❤

  • @AM-dm1pl
    @AM-dm1pl Před rokem +4

    I love this. I recently found out that my 12 year old son's friend told him to look up Naked Women on Google which brought him to pornhub. As a mom, I felt sick knowing that he had been watching that stuff for a month. I thought he was just playing games on his tablet. I wish I would have talked to him about sex earlier. The sucky part is that his first time learning about sex was through porn hub. The worst way possible. This discussion has helped so much. Just knowing that it's something all boys struggle with.

  • @susanking5008
    @susanking5008 Před rokem +3

    This is such an impactful podcast. Thank you Lisa! Cheers to these mighty men & the truth they share

  • @nwanyibuifeobiako162
    @nwanyibuifeobiako162 Před rokem +13

    Such a beautiful family! Thank you Lisa for this open and necessary discussion with your sons🤎

  • @hannahb.2984
    @hannahb.2984 Před rokem +4

    Wow, this is so good! Very timely for me since I have a 12 year old son. I'm so thankful that God had me stumble upon this video and your channel!

  • @jforbesprd
    @jforbesprd Před rokem +1

    Great, honest conversation in fellowship -- so important to have these conversations amongst family and in churches. Awesome you guys - God bless.

  • @moldovaniulia5488
    @moldovaniulia5488 Před rokem +2

    This is so good! Thank you all for sharing all these with us.

  • @dawnstonerock4253
    @dawnstonerock4253 Před rokem +2

    These young men are so inspiring and give me hope. I have one more niece not married (26) and four great nieces growing up. This gives me hope for them. I have prayed for all 7 of them for their future husbands since they were born. The older three already have wonderful husbands.

  • @christinachandy2801
    @christinachandy2801 Před rokem

    I've recently had my second baby and my older one just started his preschool. I'm more than ever excited about motherhood and I'm so glad to have come across this channel

  • @laurabennet7693
    @laurabennet7693 Před rokem +3

    Great discussion! Thank you so much. My sons are grown and as a mom I tried to instill these things and communicate with them. I think dads or trusted other men are so crucial in this situation. I'm glad there are believers are becoming more open to share this topic.

  • @tiffanychandler3
    @tiffanychandler3 Před rokem +3

    I love this so much. Young men standing for what's right and sharing. We need more of these men in the world. Great job Mom and Dad.

  • @estherdalo6001
    @estherdalo6001 Před rokem +1

    It's a blessing you're talking about this openly.

  • @MrTorbern75
    @MrTorbern75 Před rokem

    So good! I got so happy that you can sit down as a family and speak so openly about a HUGE problem in our society today

  • @sandrasanso001
    @sandrasanso001 Před rokem +5

    Awesome conversation!! Thank God for you guys. I shared it with my youth group. I feel blessed to have found these conversations. I have saved myself for my future husband and wear my purity ring 💍. I’m so grateful with God for helping me stay pure in mind and body . May God continue to use you for his glory 😊🙏

  • @marlynfana6679
    @marlynfana6679 Před rokem +2

    Thank you for this…. I’m happy to see man who hold purity at this standard… God be praised.. Thank you Lisa for raising your sons this way..

  • @onelisiwenombila1492
    @onelisiwenombila1492 Před rokem +2

    This is such a beautiful representation of godly parenting and man the fruits are beautiful to watch ❤

  • @SOI-wl2lo
    @SOI-wl2lo Před rokem +2

    I love how thoughtful Austin is - a wise man! 💛👌

  • @erwinh847
    @erwinh847 Před rokem

    Wow, this is powerful stuff! I never had any talk about this with my parents, at least not that I can remember. Openness was not part of the familyculture I grew up in. So you guys are setting a GREAT example with this conversation! Thank you so much. God bless!

  • @jcnithyahere
    @jcnithyahere Před rokem +19

    Can't even begin to explain how good this conversation is and how much this is needed these days!! God bless you all!

  • @lisaw3636
    @lisaw3636 Před rokem +2

    Thank you so much, I sent this to my 23 year old son. Thank you again… so important

  • @user-ey5om1td2q
    @user-ey5om1td2q Před rokem +1

    Finally a mother who is not afraid to talk about this sensitive topic. Just a few days ago there was an article in the news in Israel that pornography is becoming sex education for children close to the age of 11.. It's terrible that the parents don't know about it or know and think there's nothing to do, that's the world. They need to take responsibility as parents and educate their children!! The mother in the video inspires and helps to overthrow the taboo that blocks proper sexual education that starts at home, from the parents

  • @AM-hh2kg
    @AM-hh2kg Před 11 měsíci

    This is the BEST! Love the open forum with all of your sons, love the practical, love it all!!!😊

  • @christinafashanu
    @christinafashanu Před rokem +2

    Wow! This is refreshing to watch and listen to. God bless you guys.

  • @skylermorrin341
    @skylermorrin341 Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you! I’m a first time mom of a 1 year old and my husband and I talk about how we are going to handle these conversations and help keep our son on a pure path. I love listening to men my age have an open discussion about what a blessing it is to be pure for your spouse. Such great role models for young men

  • @deborahwood4728
    @deborahwood4728 Před rokem +1

    That balloon analogy is BEAUTIFUL

  • @eleanorgathright605
    @eleanorgathright605 Před rokem +1

    This is AMAZING!!!! Thank You Lord for these young men and their their brave and courageous mom.

  • @AllThingsWithAmber
    @AllThingsWithAmber Před 11 měsíci

    As a mom of all boys myself this is encouraging. Thank you for being the role model I can look up to while I continue to raise my littles ❤

  • @renfrorach
    @renfrorach Před rokem +4

    Thank you Lord for sending me this video! I have a little boy, and I know it’s probably too early to be thinking about this, but I’m always envisioning how I want my son to turn out when he’s older. I get really anxious thinking about navigating the teenage into adult years, and I’ve always wanted to ask men who remained chaste how they got through it and continued to walk in faith. This video is inspiring and gives me hope and a better idea of how I can be proactive about this with my own kids

  • @motsa5343
    @motsa5343 Před rokem +1

    This is so necessary to see and hear and have represented.

  • @fazzie.m
    @fazzie.m Před rokem +4

    This is so refreshing to hear ♥ a table of healthy relationships and great parenting. With God as the foundation this is the standard. Thank you for sharing! There is hope for us singles

  • @patriciaryan1716
    @patriciaryan1716 Před rokem +2

    Thank you for this. Girls are blessed by this also. Hope. Purity. We are seen as gems in the eyes of God. Let us see ourselves that way and respect ourselves. Love it