What a Man Wants: Q&A with My Son, Alec Bevere, about Singleness | Lesson 4 of Flying Solo
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- čas přidán 27. 07. 2024
- For the final lesson of my Flying Solo series, Alec Bevere joins me to discuss all things singleness, giving practical advice on how to own your season fully.
NOTE: This was filmed in 2019. Alec found his woman-and he married the lovely Madeleine Bevere on June 27, 2022!
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Chapters:
0:00 - Lesson Teaser
0:52 - What My Son Looks for in a Women
3:11 - Do You Have to Hear From God for a Coffee Date?
4:38 - Most Rewarding and Challenging Thing in Singleness
8:17 - Fun Things in Singleness
10:26 - Alec’s Encouragement to the Single Women
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Lisa and her husband really did a great job raising their boys
When he finds his wife she is going to have a gem of a husband!
You really did not read the caption 😢
So true!!!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️❤️
I married at 37. I was following the Lord and had great adventures with God and thoroughly enjoyed my singleness. I led a life of purity.
Lead many missions trips, went to Bible school in Tulsa, OK and in Sweden. Life has been an adventure. I met my husband while on the mission field in Scotland.
Had came to the point of submitting my singleness to God and being willing to be single all my life...then in walks my husband. I understand what he was saying about expectations of others. Around 26, I decided that I should be married, talked to God about just go finding any guy. God asked me if I was willing to to throw away all the time I have waited for God's man, to be stuck with someone who didn't serve God. I decided to wait. It was a season of preparation.
Society today, even many christians, view singleness as a problem to be fixed, yet the Apostle Paul actually considers it a blessing! We should all pray to the Father to give us revelation on what His will for our individual life is and strength for us to choose His will instead of our own.
Im in a season of singleness in my 50"s and i totally agree God has a purpose for us individually. Life can be fulfilling.
"Be happy to be single! You can go on missions trips!" 28 year old me with absolutely no opportunities like that... YAY!!!!!
Pray sis God will make away
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This is not a season of waiting. It's a season of opportunity :) Thank you!
Peace be unto you. It always is "a season of opportunity", whether we are here or there, bond or free...
Ephesians 6:7-8
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7 rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man, 8 knowing that whatever good anyone does, this he will receive back from the Lord, whether he is a bondservant or is free.
Ephesians 5:15-16
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15 Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.
1 Corinthians 7:29-30
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29 This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, 30 and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods,
What an honor for your future wife to have people like Lisa and John as a family, May the Lord anoint you with a double portion, May His Favor be with you in everything you do.
Great message. I’ve learn that singleness is a gift from God to mature our relationship with Jesus with a steadfast love.
He’s already married 😮
From a Spaniard perspective (someone from Spain) I see Americans suffer so much from being single and the eagerness to get married, and the view of "something is wrong with him/her" because he/she is not going out with anybody and is not looking for a relationship. I think it might be because families in the U.S. live apart and quite far away and therefore people feel they don't have any one to count on and they get all scared if they haven't meet the right person before 30.
Our way of living here in Europe is so much different. There is not that pressure I see in the U.S. Relationships just come together naturally and on many occasions are preceded by a friendship.
You could tell a queen raised this man!!
Singlehood as a true believer is wonderful lifestyle that should be normalized. You are complete.
What a wise young man..I wish I had that level of maturity in the Lord when I was younger instead of being in such a big hurry to be married which ended up being a huge mistake and my kids and I paid the price..I look back now at all the things I could have done like travel and see the world and talents I could have developed more...don't be in a hurry single folks..live your lives to the fullest and get closer to Jesus you won't regret it
What a catch! This man will bless his future spouse. You’ve raised incredible men Lisa! This was so refreshing to hear
I love how freely Lisa and her sons have vulnerable conversations. Reminds me of my mom and brothers. So beautiful! Also, thank you for diving into the topic of singleness! Little reminders of truth have been so helpful for me thus far. :)
This young man is correct because only God can complete us. When we're married a man and woman completes marriage, not each other. Praise God for using you to spread godly wisdom.
#1 indeed regardless of state, whether married or single, whole satisfaction is still in the Lord :)
Amen to that!
I love hearing young men talk about real issues. Not much better than a Godly man
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I am Brazilian and i loved this channel ❤
So glad that he found his wife and got married in 2022. She is beautiful.
As a Christian I experience the same thing, being asked why your still single. They have a lot of presumptions for sure like i'm picky when they just don't know that i desired to be with someone that really loved The Lord. And i too is trying to better myself esp my relationship with The Lord
I have 5 sisters that all ask me the same thing! Why I'm not married with kids, like them, so I know how that's like
Awwwwww I can see his dad in him!
Beautiful!!! GOD IS AMAZING!!!😇
True, amazing strong men 🙏
You're your own person with purpose with or without a partner ladies and gentlemen! I love what he said about singleness being necessary and an nice opportunity to be with God. Getting to know Him helps us get to know ourselves. He helps us be our best selves! And He can help us prepare for our future spouse. God bless you all! 🙏🏽 ❤️-single12yrsnowandGodisstillgood
Amen🙏🏿
He is married now for anyone wondering.
Congratulations Alec on your marriage. Great foundation. ❤
Pastor Lisa you are so beautiful and blessed 🙌 with a wonderful loving blessed family
Your 4 sons are blessed and highly favour by God.
Blessed loving family.
"Someone who fears God." - love that!
That’s a good question: Do you have to hear from God to go on a coffee date? Great question
I was asking my self if I could find one pure man in the universe and am really really happy to hear you say this. So inspiring.
Love this Alec!! Couldn’t agree 💯!
I can relate on so many levels. Time is such a valuable commodity when single, preparation preparation. Thank you Ps Lisa for this🙏
I hope your son's all of them are mentoring boys to men they had a great mentor please brothers pass it on so needed I asked pastors of my church twice to find my son a mentor it never happened
I loved this interview. Your son has a wonderful sense of humour who is serious with the Lord's work. He won't be single for long😀 Your wife is just around the corner, she might even be right under your news. I look forward to seeing your wedding photos.
Yes, I can concur with the coffee date point. Even though I was looking and waiting to marry a Christian, my mom would tell me that if a man ever asks politely for a date, to say yes at least to the first date. Good point for singles today
That’s beautiful! Thanks for the encouragement 😊
So refreshing! Thank you so much, Lisa and Alec!!🙏❤❤❤
So encouraging. Thank you!
Very powerful! Thanks for sharing. I shared this with my son and a few good single friends who want God's best!
Wow!! He’s very inspiring! Thanks Lisa for having him on board🙌
Excellent!!!
This episode was an answer to my questions that I had and I was struggling to get it from elsewhere. Thank you
Love this. Thank you Lisa and Alec for your wisdom and encouragement. You definitely have a gift and are sharing it with the world Alec! Looking forward to your book when it's out ! :) God bless you both abundantly !!
Smart boy!! So good, thank you for sharing🙌🔆
Wow!! I love this!
Great answer: The best part is TIME. That is such a great answer. ❤❤❤❤
I would still say to involve God & ask Him to intervene or bless any meet up. It would have saved me a lot of heartache.... it's just wiser to involve God... at least to pray away people not good for you
Thank you for this. A wonderful reminder to pray big and dream big
Really enjoying these videos and seeing the fruit in character of godly instruction.
Holler over here ❤ you sound like a blessing!
Thank you for this.
Just discovered this channel and i definitely love it. Stay blessed 🫶🏾
I may not have the finacial opportunity to go to missionary trips, but I honestly am not even called to do that…my calling has always since I was little (it is still a strong calling) to be a wife. Then not even that long ago God called me to switch churches and there I felt a profound calling to be a greeter and a part of the prayer ministry…this has been such a blessing in my life. I want to be able to be myself around my spouse I have been praying for my spouse for as long as I can remember.
Peace be unto you.
Matthew 21:20-22
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20 When the disciples saw it, they marveled, saying, “How did the fig tree wither at once?” 21 And Jesus answered them, “Truly, I say to you, if you have faith and do not doubt, you will not only do what has been done to the fig tree, but even if you say to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ it will happen. 22 And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”
1 John 5:14-15
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14 And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. 15 And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.
Matthew 7:9-11
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9 Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? 11 If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!
James 1:17
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17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.[a]
1 Peter 5:8-10
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8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world. 10 And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.
2 Corinthians 13:14
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14 The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.
What a wonderful man ! A child raised very well 🌟
I’m a female but I can relate to his list. I definitely want a male version of what he said. Someone who is honest but can call you out and confront you when it’s needed. That’s on my list. In a relationship if someone other than your partner is calling you out I think it’s like your partner not having your back. It looks and feels humiliating to be called out by anyone else but your partner.
Alec, got my respect and attention. 😉
According to the video's description, he is married.
@@Pedro-of4tn Married or not. Statement stays the same.
@@assyrianrelief okay.
Thankk you so much! 💎🙏💜
Thank you Lisa and Alec ! This has helped me , since I am struggling with the idea that my (future) husband will complete my life. I’m currently single . But I learned now that I should trust in Jesus that he is enough for me.
I am 27 going 28, totally single and looking forward to entering the next phase of my life as a wife and mother but until then, I'm on a project with the Lord to imbibe the spirit of excellence in all that I do and I am a happy fulfilled single young lady all thanks to God.
Can people please read the caption before commenting. This video was in 2019 and Alec is now married - since 2022, he would have celebrated his 1st wedding anniversary in June. It is good to hear from a male perspective.
Great conversation, though I disagree with the idea that you would owe a date to someone just because they asked.
If you're not interested in someone it's healthy to enforce your boundaries and say No.
Using lots of fancy words to, Just say no!!
He sounds like a teacher of the word.
I love this. If anything pulls you away from God then it's not from God!! I love how being alone is okay bc no one should settle for less especially if God isn't involved.
Nice!
Truth 🙌 Jesus completes me. I love that you mentioned waiting to find someone to serve. That's a great perspective of marriage
encouraged! Praying for men of God to rise up. It's very hard in this day and age to see men striving for the lord. T his gave me hope LOOL
All the best to her single son!
This brother is funny.
“THeRes power in That” 😅
Being single is hard in a way but sometimes convenient 😂
Beautiful Man 🩵
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The thing about the OAC business network is, you're dedicated to becoming a node of a web that works exactly like a spider web. The deeper you expand your node, the more people get entrapped and have their life's blood and energy sucked out by the dark rulers. I acknowledge that you can become a productive person and it makes you feel good and you can even enjoy bullying others for the rest of your life (to their great detriment) and that is fun, but you're doing it for the wrong ass reasons! BTW, there's nothing wrong with a tacit acceptance of evil as a part of this world, it is useful if you're able to essentially castrate it by minimizing its influence on your own life. That's what I discovered 10 years ago. If you set your priorities straight, you can avoid getting absolutely consumed and spit out by the dark side.
Life is really about avoiding unnecessary suffering by being proactive in preventing the dark side from abusing you and people you care deeply for by taking the transparent road and setting those priorities! Yes, tons of maggots hate me and consider me their enemy for taking such a position, and that's most of the goddamn world, but so be it, I get to choose my path forward and this is by far, BY FAR the best path forward that I have found. Never forget, family is just the cheapest way for the OAC state to raise its workers, it does all the work for them, for free! But a community on the same page doesn't benefit the state in any way, yet gives its members more and better quality service than a billionaire would receive. There is a world of difference between having the goal of qualitatively improving your life and quantitatively improving - the method the state uses. Profit is not the best motivator, particularly because the benefit is a rapidly depreciating asset, yet everyone falls for it.
Hilarious. 😂
What do you recommend to read? great book for singles.
i have 4 boys 16 to 7 now, however i have never thought of how to talk to them,
I can't, but Hopefully the Lord can
The most challenging thing about being perpetually single is .... "other people's perceptions about you?" Really? Que the "you sure about that?" meme.
“if you think a man will complete you, that’s absolutely ridiculous” 😂💀
Is he married now?.i think he did
Yes
Is he married now? Sorry his story about not sleeping in the master’s bedroom sounds a little funny, reminds me of our wealthy 64 single uncle in România who built himself a big house, didn’t want to “taint” the house or something by totally moving in so he put his bed 🛌 in the hallway and slept there instead and suffered a massive heart attack and died suddenly. You are worthy of the bedroom!
Yep, he is married.
Yes is true this generation is afraid of meet people.
Lalrothang haoginlal kum thu an no ngang hi lal ding in kan ngai che
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How old is this impressive kid?
Marriage and being single each have their pros and cons. You have your things you are looking for in another; then God maneuvers people in and out of your life and your would be lists while great for being a guide in the absence of other guidance is good when put over flying blind but the lists come to naught when God breathes another into your life. So, have your list but too much adherence to the list will leave you setting the bar too high and you will shorten the list as years wax on. Shorten the list to begin with and you wont miss out on so much opportunity when a potential good significant other comes into your life.
Blessed be the Lord!.
1 Corinthians 7:29-30
English Standard Version
29 This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, 30 and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods,
Can we go together for a coffee?
He got married.
Hmel a tha i simete hmar sevan kgom burma tong a thiem
Lisa and her husband really did a great job raising their boys