Advice to the Younger Self // Season 2 Episode 5 | Honest Tea Talk
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- This episode is DEEP! In this episode, we do some inner child work where we give advice to our younger self.
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About Honest Tea Talk
with Aliyah, LaYinka & Sumayah
Inspired by Jada Pinkett-Smith's 'Red Table Talk', 3 Muslim women have set up a platform to speak openly and honestly, giving viewers an unedited insight into the minds and life of Muslim women. Honest Tea Talk brings deep and often unspoken topics to the table to lay down our masks and start much-needed discussions about matters related to Muslim women and the ummah at large.
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I am in mecca. I did my ummrah and made dua for you all.
Masha’Allah that is so kind of you. May Allah accept your dua’s and reward you
SubhanAllah. Thank you, that means so much. May Allah accept your umrah, ameen.
@@HonestTeaTalk Ameen. J77ezakumullah khair for the amazing work you are doing..
MashaAllah
Maa Shaa Allah may Allah the Almighty forgive us all and accept all are Duaas ameen ya rabbi
To all who's experienced a traumatic and an unpleasant past, may Allah grant you all healing and peace.
Amen❤
Ameen
Ameen
Ameen💛
I sometimes question what would I advice to my younger self, but I end up crying and realise how no one gave me the support I needed except Allah.
And AlhamduliLlāh you could get to recognise that. BaarakaLlāhu feeh
Me and my husband have a tradition of also drinking tea and watching this together. I don't usually leave comments, but I thought I'd do so just to say that you've opened my eyes and I found your CZcams page when I most needed it in my life subhanallah.
Love you guys.
Mariam
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Masha Allah how so you get your husband to watch this? Barakallahu feik on that! Ameen!
Note: Don’t watch this on the bus, I’m already tearing up
even though im not usually the motional type, this sounded very nice to me, I am usually the focused working type a I am a guy but both should understand and respect each other!
On my way to school (driving) tearing up. 😢
Too late!! I am tearing up! 😢
Dear sisters, u were brave and courageous during this episode..i cried when tears were falling from ur eyes..i smiled when u were laughing together.i talked to my inner child when u were talking to ur younger self..i felt deep love for little maya,yanka,ola ..and little tania..
Love u sisters for going through this painful process to make us healed,to make us feel loved..may ALLAH reward ur effort in this life and hereafter..😊😊
tania 1989 Ameen thuma Ameen all of us Ameen.
Allahumma aamin
Assalamu alaikum sisters,
I am a young student from burma. I am going through a crises where my eyes are experiecing a condition which can't be easily solved with medicine nor with a surgery. My country is going through a military coup and everything is in chaos. But despite all that, I put my trust in Allah SWT and believe that he has always been doing what is best. Pls do remember me and my country in your duas. I say this to all this who read my comment. May Allah reward you for what you do.
salaam
Wa 'alaykumus Salaam warahmatuLlaah 💞 Sire
Finally a show I can have my daughter's watch that is modest and aligned with Islamic concepts and ideas jazkum Allah khair
Honestly we need so much more of this .
How strong you should be to show your vulnerability in front of thousands of people. That’s huge. Truly admire that.
These days im suffering from my past and my childhood problems , and just when i opened this the last thing you said is dont let your past childhood problems affect your future , really thank you . alhamdllah for all the things in my life , if i couldnt handle them they wont be there .
stay-strong,sister♥♥
@@halimatoudiallo1029 Inshaaallh
@Libellule Création thank you 😍♥
i am too nina x
“The life of this world compared to the hereafter is as if one of you were to put his finger in the ocean and take it out again then compare the water that remains on his finger to the water that remains in the ocean” [Sahîh Muslim😭
Beautiful hadis. But the hadis I heard that is similar talks about the sand I think?
Anyways thanks for sharing ❤
I used to be bubbly and full of life until I came to Canada to live with my husband and everything change since then😭😭 I don’t know who I become I changed so much that I don’t recognize the person I’m looking in the mirror right now 😢 May Allah give me that joy and happiness I used to have before and may Allah make it easy for me whatever I’m going through now🤲🏽
May Allah Grant you joy dunya and akhirah and give you all the happiness ❤
Ayaan Ali ameeen yaa raab🤲🏽
Jazaki lah sis❤️
May Allah assist you with all that you’re dealing with. He always knows what you’re going through and remember that His wisdom is incomprehensible ❤️
I feel the same. I used to be happy. May Allah help you
Ameen, it will come back insha allah
Releasing your deepest hurting emotions, is very healthy in the right environment❤
OMG so I live in the US and wake up at 4 AM just for these videos! They make my day! LOL even though I’m a college student, I’m willing to sacrifice the sleep out of excitement! 😂
Also, these topics are rarely discussed in the Muslim community so thank you sisters for creating a space for us! ❤️
Awww mashallah ❤❤
Don't forget to pray Tahajjudh while you're at it ! ;)
Mareyba Fawad I’m in the US too . Looking forward to this every week 😊😊
Sr Layinka has helped me, personally. And Subhan'Allah, I see a lot of myself in her. Allah created us pure and innocent, all we want to do is go back to Him. Dunya is a journey, ups and downs but ultimately, towards Allah, our true home.
I truly love watching your videos. It always hits home. As a new Muslim I learn so much & feel so connected to every topic. May Allah keep blessing you all ❤️
Welcomed sister
I’m 22, I started this process from the age of 19 - you just realise there are layers and layers -as it is embedded within you subconsciously-once I released some beliefs about myself my world externally changed -but even till today I’m still working on it everyday you release something, sometimes you connect the dots -you just realise you may be had to go through this so you can be a light for others - I really didn’t Think I’d tear up in this video but I did as each of u spoke ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This one really hit hard..
May Allah SWT help us in healing from our past. Allahuma Ameen.
Ameen. This one really hit too.
Isn’t it amazing how when you get to your 30s, things start to become clearer. You become more aware of who you are! Thank you ladies for sharthis raw intimate moments with us ❤️.
ModestbyFreedaz I can’t wait for my 30s for this very reason. I had a sister mention that her 30s brought her so much more assurance in herself and her decisions and I can’t wait for that. In shaa Allah!
Sadly you are past your prime at 30 and over.
I love these sisters. Masha Allah. I cried at the first 5 mins 😭😭😭
"But right now you have me, and I'm gonna love you and I'm gonna protect you. You are safe and you are secure 😭😭"... This is my new mantra. What a deep and powerful episode! I really commend you all on your openness and vulnerability. Baarakallah feekum. Would be trying this out In Shaa Allah (though initially I thought such interventions had to be therapist administered, as recalling some experiences can be quite traumatizing)
mantra
noun
Meaning....
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(originally in Hinduism and Buddhism) a word or sound repeated to aid concentration in meditation.
This is shirk .
@@Wisethinker527 shirk
noun
Meaning....
1.
(Arabic) idolatry or polytheism, which means deification, or worship of deity, gods, or anything other than Allāh.
This is not shirk .
Thank you , for being brave, relatable, vulnerable, therapeutic. Especially sumaya for being brave enough to Express the most that love you sister
I actually did something similar to this inner child talk on the tube recently, with my husband listening, he was amazing Alhamdulilah. And it worked for some part, we could definitely see how past traumas led to certain aspects of my behaviour. I have been consciously trying to make right of all the wrongs I experienced as a child, it's hard work but persevere sisters. Improvement happens with consistency.
Keep talking! Feel so honoured to be able to listen this. May Allah bless us all, Inshallah
Advice to my younger self, listen to my mother
The only two places you feel and find wholeness is with Allah and within yourself.
Masha'Allah, Jazakallah'khair to everyone that made and makes this show possible and available to us.✨✨✨
Sisters, you really don't know how much you are helping me right now. Today I restarted to pray after a long time thanks to you. I have been feeling a burden inside my chest, like a fire burning my soul. I felt like I've lost myself and right now I feel it too. I've started to watch your videos and I ve been starting to think deeply about ME, myself and I ve understood that I need to take care of my self inner before taking care of other people. Please don't stop posting this videos and discussing because you are really helping me and other women to start knowing ourselves and start healing. I have lost myself and Islam for some reasons that I didn't take too seriously and now ,thanks to you, I am starting to think and think again about my feeling and listening to my soul seeking help. Jasakallahu lkhair and May Allah bless you all.
Thank you, sisters , this was emotional sitting at my desk at work. and thinking of lulu my younger self and everything from childhood abuse to having desk skin to coming america and not able to fit in and facing depression ,panic attacks to feeling hopeless and feeling does anyone care or even love me . I want tell lulu that all that was getting you to be ready at this point so now let go and open yourself to love and kinds .
Hey ladies ❤️ I'm 20 turning 21! Thankyou for enlightening me for the future. I can relate to alot of the things you said. Especially about self love and treating yourself the right way. Treating my self the right way, be it emotionally, physically or mentally was completely abandoned from my part and partly my parents as well, for the soul reason that everything that is exterior mattered(grades, clothes, family relations, friends, TV and etc) ! If I felt horrible I still acted like I was fine, but soon the harm grew larger and I couldn't take it in.i didn't want to let anyone who loved me part of my life because I didn't see the reason why that person cares about me and that it wouldn't even last.
When Ailiyah said "I found love from him and me" it hit a cord, thats the true answer I found for myself. Layinka you have an inner peace inside you that I wish I have. Utter content for your past and thankfulness, that I'm not able to do so. You thought me how to look at my past with beauty. I'm truly inshA starting my twenties with this and I'm glad I heard it from you guys. My mentors❤️ I relate so much to Sumaya with not feeling like I belonged even tho everything around me is fine. The void and emptiness inside me was spreading in my life without me ever caring.
I would like to know if you sister's have some book suggestions on childhood healing. Thankyou so much, it's a coincidence this video was downloaded at a time I'm trying to rediscover my self. Beautiful souls,GOD BLESS You.
May Allaah Bless u little sister ❤
@@halimatoudiallo1029 May Allah bless you aswell❤️❤️
💖💖💖💖 keep on trying being your best self
May Allah bless your soul you will be alright inshallah. The fact of your realization is freeing you from your past. Check out professor Peterson Jordan
Honestly, what a powerful start to the morning! Absolutely brilliant work. May Allah accept and honour it!
Ameen
May Allaah honour u my sisters ❤, i love all of u for the sake of Allaah and each one of u r so beautiful inside and out and i love the way u r so open about topics that r needed to be spoken about,i reallly appreciate u all from the bottom of my heart❤
Sis Sumayyah, I don't know you but even I am one of your people! You are brilliant Ma Sha Allah!
Oh sumaya u making me cry. Love y'all so much ❤️
Listening to these sisters and crying like a baby. At the back of my mind, all I hear is "With hardships comes ease" Shukraan so much for this. You all give me hope.
this is probably by far my favourite episode, i’m balling my eyes out whilst watching, may allah bless you sisters and make you successful and use this as a means of your entry into jannah, barakullah feek
Sisters, it felt like you all were talking to my younger self. This was just amazing. I talked to my younger self after this and wallahi, she finally feels comfort.
This also inspired me to make a post on Facebook asking my friends what they would tell their younger selves and its received so many beautiful messages.
What you sisters are doing is so beneficial. May Allah bless you all.
I'm feeling the healing power in this episode and it feels like I'm sitting there with you all. Hearing your stories and being able to relate to it within myself and connect (which makes me so happy that I felt) made me feel real hope and belief that it gets brighter, you sisters are proof of this. You also made me reconsider the relevance, importance and power of inner child work. Beacons of hope and light ma sha' Allah.
This is just beautiful subhanallah! I never could have imagined Aaliyah as a non muslim. Alhamdulillah for your guidance and the guidance of many that will follow your path. Love you girls🥰 fee sabilillah
i think that i was happy to hear about the concept of 'deep root issue' and didn't want to dig in all at once. i can describe my childhood as always in 'pre-trauma'. i saw my neighbours and other friends talk about real traumas, and i was happy to come home to a 'quiet house'. but when i moved out, and lived with people who were talkers, and who discussed things, and their emotions. it was weird for me. that is when i broke down and remembered the quietness. its when i realised that quiet didn't mean peace. i thought it did, because we were very much a studying household, lol. so people would come over a lot, people would sleep over, and it felt like a functioning house. now, i don't know anymore, am i supposed to continue digging and exploring, or just 'go back to work' normally. i don't mind discussing my past with 'the right people', but if i can't find the right person that i truly connect with to discuss my past properly, i wonder if its detrimental to just 'tuck it away' and go about my work.
I'm very grateful for these women. Your strength and courage is admirable. :)
Alhamdulillah, to think that everything we go through as humans is just to find ourselves going back to Allah with the one that hearts find rest, the only one who is always there through every step closer than our own jugular vein. I can confidently say that this is the only thing that ever helped me. The fact that you don't have to book an appointment to let it all out on the mat or that listening to the Quran that has a verse for every problem doesn't cost a thing or that when you can't find the words with Allah there is no need to. May Allah bless you sisters for the work that you do and allowing yourselves to be vulnerable on such a big platform to help us get through the day, Ameen.
My children, especially my older daughter had a very similar story from "Maya" it was very hard for her there and she was so lonely and out pf her element. Even though I wanted to stay because I loved the Islamic advantages it brought we had to come back to the states for the mental health of my children
Love you sisters...what a deep subject.....had tears through and through SubhanAllah..was a good healing session.....I do see a world of humans walking around with deep scars on their souls so I pray to Allah to grant us healing and His Love ! Barakallahu feekum my dear sisters, I hug all from my soul and pray for you not lesser than Firdaus Al Ala and the Pleasure of our Rabb.
I cried subhanallah , what i want to tell you sisters is thank you
SubhanAllah.. This episode left me in tears. So triggering yet healing. I saw myself and each and every little girl/young woman you all spoke about Alhamdulilah and it is such a powerful thing for me to see. We are not alone. Sister Sumaiyah... Your vulnerability is transcending. Jazakallahu khairan for this.
This one got me all in my feels.
I never had a best friend as a child, or ever. It’s a wound that I recently confronted in therapy. I felt I couldn't be loved and be fully me. Since reverting, Allah has blessed me with a tribe, that I can be real with. Alhamdulliah!
JazakAllah khair
This was so emotional 😭 and it’s ok. It’s ok to hurt because this Dunya is meant to break our hearts because it’s not jannah. Once we enter jannah we will know why we went through everything we went through. We will say Allhamdullilah yaa Allah for helping me find you and be close to you. everything I went through was worth it.
This was honestly so special to me, thank for opening up to us!! Allahuma barik. An episode on Importance emotional Vulnerability will be so instrumental what you shared today is one thing that most of us are struggling with and most people do not how to channel that out.I love you all for the sake of Allah.
Wow. This was deep. I was in tears with all of you. I really loved this episode because I now know how to heal my inner child and speak to my younger self. Alhamdulillaah, you ladies are really helping me in so many ways. I appreciate you all so much and am thankful to Allaah for you and your hard work with HTT. InshaAllaah I am going to try this self-therapy and hopefully, it can bring me the peace and understanding I need.
Jazaakumullaah Kharyan my dear sisters. ❤️❤️❤️
This is so emotional, ya Allah.
I love you guys for the sake of Allah, may allah grant you everything you wish for in this life and the hereafter.
Like if you cried for the first 15 minutes of this. Im so happy you ladies played this out. I will do this with my sisters and friends the next time we all sit together. In sha Allah ❤️ may Allah reward you all
I watched an ilmfeed podcast with Layinka and the host Faatima like 2 weeks ago and heard about Honest tea talk for the first time ever! I cannot believe i didn't know about the amazing work u sisters are doing...im jow addicted to this series and choosing the episodes to watch based on my own life experiences. May Allah reward u all for the sincerity u guys bring into each episode and the reminder that all of us have struggles in life but they're just different for different people. Makes ne feel so validated each time I listen to u guys. Watching from South Africa 🇿🇦
Oh my. I'm crying hearing Yinka speak at 4:35. That hit deep. God bless you all. Thank you for being so open and honest to share this with us. You are amazing women. SubhanAllah
Very emotional we’re proud of u. May God bless all of u
Such a beautiful episode well done ladies for opening up we all need this
I’m in tears this really touch me....
Thank you so much for these videos! Honestly the impact it's made on my life is huge. Sadly no one in the Muslim communities talk about these issues that people struggle with on a daily basis. But you guys are doing a great job :) may Allah swt bless you all.
Thank you, while advising your inner children at certain points you also advised my inner child Alhamdulillah . It’s definitely something I will look into Insha Allah
I kind of start reflecting on my own young Me 😅😅😅
Made me tearful Hearing you sisters subhanAllah 💕💕💕
my goodness that was deep; it's thorough peoples' true experiences that we can take knowledge from. Thank you for sharing
Same story i can relate to Samia, early 20, married , dreams, excitement, but its ok in shaa allah one day things will be different
I was waiting for this alot of days you really really helped me keep up sis lovvvvvvvvvve you
Thank you for teaching me how to talk my younger self and practice while you were talking to yourself!
Thank you again❤️
Wow very emotional, moving episode. Almost was in tears myself listening to your advice to younger self. Love your show, I'm gonna binge watch them all.
Just thank you for sharing yours experiences and for your advice, may Allah reward you in this Dunya and in the hereafter inchallah
This made me cry so hard, I sure have a lot of healing to go through, thank you so much for being honest and real and vulnerable in front of us 💗💗💗
for minutess in and im crying xxxxx i love you guys
i needed to hear all this x
Masha Allah... my eyes was full of tears at the beginning
SubhanAllah. Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable with us. JAK. 💖
This made me cry, love from Finland 🇫🇮
I love you ladies, and I love your friendship and sisterhood. I wish me and my friends could tall about deep topics like this instead of trivial stuffs or surface topics.
I'm glad I stumbled your vids by accidents.
Thank you for your strength, you are all so inspirational. Both a thought-provoking and uplifting talk!
This is one of your best episodes yet. Jazakum Allāhu khayran, sisters.
Thank you so much!❤
Didn’t come to watch this episode to get emotional, but I can’t help it! Alhumdulilah you sisters are doing a fabulous job and may Allah shower you all with the best in this dunya and Akirah, ameen.
As you guys speak, it’s as if you’re speaking about me. It’s insane how different parts of my life relate to all three of you. It’s mind keeping but also I feel seen. Thank you ❤️
Jazak Allah Khayr sisters ❤️❤️💝💝💝💝
I love you guys!!! Very interesting and emotional episode. May Allah heal our scars, Aameen.
I cant tell you how emotional, how powerful and healing this was. This was real. Jazakillahu khairan.
jazaka Allah sisters, such a deep episode that has touched me immensely
The first story teared me up..i want to come and give you all a hug. This is beautiful.. and calmed my soul in a way. Jazak allahumma khairan :') keep going!
Absolutely love this session Mashallah and thank you
I loved this episode and saw myself in all of you. Allah is always with us no matter what.
My love for HTT😫❤💝
SubhanAllah beautiful talk... Aaliyah spoke my heart ... expressed my teenage life
This is so heart touching
Wow, talk about honest. I love that you mention inner child work and you have no idea how you are empowering others to find themselves and find Allah. May Allah reward you eternally.
AlhamduliLAH . JazakaAllahu Qayran very much needed episode as well as all the rest of course . May we truly benefit by acting upon all good said of course and not just hear and nod head only Ameen.
I love honesty talk , Please keep going . I listen to it everyday and looool I wish it’s not just 30mins cant get enough of it covers every struggle and obstacles we face in life.❤️ love you guys and may Allah rewards you ladies ❤️
Alhamdulila this is a beautiful healing process and so important.thank u my sisters uhave honestly helped me ...as u were all speaking about ur inner child I was only reflecting about myself to .that was just amazing.alhamdulila.
I couldn't stop my tears watching this. You guys ❤️ I came.accross u guys when I needed this most. Allahamdulliah. I wish we could watch u every day with new topics.
So much love and respect for you all . I live in Chicago. Please let us know if you ever come this way. Would love to meet and give you all the biggest hug ♥️
Soo real and honest 😔
I'm tearing up here
I couldn't hold it .
You ladies are doing so well
Ma Sha Allah
May Allah Bless your Endeavors
I'm in my early 20s and have not experienced enough to do this but I can't wait to it to do this in a few years inshaAllah
You can do this at any age, even now. 💕
I pray that u guys have a life full of happiness in this world and the hereafter. I love u all for the sake of Allah
Jazakhumllahu khayran sisters. So much thoughts yet I cannot articulate them, that’s how much joy and ease I am feeling. May Allah reward you sisters abundantly.
Thankyou baji ,I needed to hear this ❤️keep up the good work