Living and Dying in the Philippines, Wake me up When November Ends
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- Living and Dying in the Philippines, Wake me up When November Ends@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 I look back and reminisce on the times spent and the fun times I Shared with one of the nicest people I have ever met
We thought my Dad was an "alcoholic" but he was just self-medicating. He'd had massive lung and bone cancer (undiagnosed) for MANY years and was just self medicating because his mother had spent her last eight years in hospital and he didn't want to put us through that pain. Just shows that you can never judge anyone, you don't know what they might be going through. Lovely tribute, Paul. XXXX
A fine eulogy for a good friend. One remembered with a smile.
Amen! 👏👏
Paul you have shown Tom a great honor to share his memory with all of us who have watched. The most any of us can ask is that we have a friend like you to show us this respect as you have for Tom. Well done and sorry about Tom.
You can set up and tell a story like no one else! Great video
Glad you enjoyed it!
RIP Tom he sounds like we would have beenkindred spirits. I'm having a drink in his honor right now.
A lovely tribute Paul. Thank you for sharing Tom’s story. ❤️
Thanks for listening
I met Tom in March this year. He invited me into his fantasy baseball league. He was always very nice to me. I will miss him
Always remember, it's not the quantity of life but the quality. RIP Tom
It reminds me of my friend. I met him when I wans in my 40s and he was in his 60s. He became like a father more than a friend, really. The man loved tobacco. He smoked hand rolled cigarettes, pipes, and cigars. I don't think I ever saw him without something lit. Long story short, he found out he had terminal cancer at 72. His daughter complained to me that he still didn't quit smoking. "Why would he?" I replied. The manoved it. As you described, it really was his bliss. It was like a light went off in her head. When he passed, she had me roll a cigarette and place it in his fingers so he could have a smoke in the afterlife. We only live once. If what you love harms no one else, why judge?
That's great to hear!
It pains me to see persons describing a persons "Addiction as "Bliss" . Not only does the addicted person suffer, those who love the addicted person also suffer. FYI.... Addicts/Alcoholics mostly suffer in silence.
3 words…second hand smoke.
Smoking affects everyone; especially children without a say in the matter.
@@patrickmanley4943 three qords: he smoked outside.
i find my bliss in fitness and travel .. i don't drink or smoke .. at 57 just turned i feel fantastic and look much younger .. however i make no judgements .. Tom sounded like a good guy and im sure i would have liked him .. yes as Paul says .. live your bliss .. be true to yourself and love others or at least accept others as they are .. a beautiful tribute to your friend .. Paul !
Nice tribute, Paul. I agree that following your bliss is the way to go. RIP to Tom.
Nice video Paul, as a recovering alcoholic I listened with a subjective ear. I made the decision to abstain from alcohol, (Two years thus far) although I am well aware of the lure of inebriation. Tom lived his life by his own rules, and it sounds like he made the correct choice for him. Who am I to argue against his decision, As I am just one drink away from the same conclusion? So far, I have returned to the gym (I traded one obsession for another, but that's my bliss) As always, a great monologue.
I celebrate your recovery and I am sure your loved ones also appreciate it.
Well done sir !
Best wishes for staying off the drink.
Myself an alcoholic, have my up and downs.
Most i have stayed dry is 6 years.
Unfortunately i get knocked down, family problems, job and so on.
Please keep trying, you will get there.
I still struggle, but am betting there.
AA is an amazing place.
God bless yoy
@@paulmillward7009 You are correct, keep on trying and AA should offer the support when you need help. Blessings to you as well ...
Awesome...congratulations!
Very touching tribute to your friend, got emotional watching this. My cousin passed away from the same thing 4 years ago, he was 45 years old. Thanks for sharing.
Your description of Tom's jalopy was priceless leaving me in stitches! You are a storyteller in a positive sense.
Paul, the more I listen to your videos I see the wisdom you have through the stories you tell. Great eulogy.
Fantastic tribute to your friend man and you are absolutely right... We can only live the life that makes us happy.
"No one pays my bills or gets my hangovers and until they do I will live the life I choose"
Very sad to lose a friend, but joyful to hear that he lived his final years the way he wanted and was very happy. Happiness is defined so may ways and so different for each of us. He has done one more thing than I have and that's live his final years in the Philippines, doing his thing! I told everyone that I could pass now, that I finally received my first Social Security check, last July. That now, has been revised to I can pass when I spend my first Social Security check in the Philippines!
Sorry for your loss! My dad passed there as well and was much like your friend. Lived life to the fullest and went down early (65) doing exactly what made him happy!
Sorry to hear about Tom. I have lost a few friends that way. I loved my drink and also used it as a sedative for most of my life. If you knew how many times I got myself hospitalised or found collapsed on sidewalks you would know I was a qualified drinker! I love my life now without it. Kevin. (sober 16 years in Feb 2022).
Great message at the end. The hardest part of life sometime is not having a true friend. My last true friend i had was in Junior high school.
@Dondi Boy: Yep know what you mean. I always considered my best friend to be a guy I knew from 3rd grade elementary school through high school. I thought he was the coolest guy ever and so did he I realized. After returning from military sevice and college I eventually severed ties with him pretty much even though we lived in the same city. Although I have had a few "friends" since, nothing has come as close or been as meaningful as my childhood friendship. Nowadays, many decades later, and a thousand plus miles from where I grew up I live a solitary life...doing fine.
@@erikdahl1293 Kinda like my childhood friend from 6th grade to college. We both went into the army and lost contact. He reappeared about 15 years later and we were both married. I got divorced and his wife passed away about 5 years ago. We got very close again prior to his wife's death and we bonded over this event. However, he was heavily into religion and had a quirk about when Jesus would come back and he expected me to believe the same, hook line and sinker. After listening to his religious belief for a few months I tried to explain to him I wasn't into it. He then told me he didn't want to be friends any more. Moral of the story is you have to be true to yourself and not pretend something that your not. I'm back to being content with who I am and not what somebody wants me to be.
You did such a great job Paul that I feel I miss Tom and I didn't even know him. He reminds me of my father. This may sound strange but I used to love when my father would have his beers. He was always fun to be around. My mother didn't like drinking but didn't say anything since what killed him was a horrible physical job he did 70 hours a week in the cold for 40 years. RIP Tom
Video's like this are the reason why I'm suscribed to your channel. I know they cannot be 'mass-produced' like livestreams and that makes them interesting.
Sounds like a man that was Grateful and appreciated what life had given him, it truly does not get better than that..RIP... Tom.
You have quite the gift, my friend. That was quite the heartfelt tribute to your buddy, and as far as I could tell, like your other videos, it was completely off the cuff. Well done! Sorry for your loss.
I promise Paul, you always see the best for what it is, and even though you don't really drink this is what you'll be remembered for.., thank you for always reminding us of what's important in life....
Great story Paul. I’m glad he was happy and able to live life on his own terms. It was his life, after all, and as long as he didn’t hurt any and was happy, then good for him. May we all find our happiness.
He did it his way!!! Regardless of where we are, what we are doing, what our plans are, or what ever our lifestyle is or may have been...when that bell rings, it shall be answered!!! That man had the privilege of living on this earth for 67+ years, and most likely was more contented and self aware than any of us could ever hope to be. We should all be so lucky!!!
Well a great homage to your friend Tom. That’s the way to live life as you want, not what’s expected. Enjoy each day and leave this world happy and content.
Absolutely
RIP Tom. He lived his own life on his own terms, and from what you experienced, he had many positive, kind traits. For guys wanting to retire to the Phils/South East Asia, it'll be good for them to decide before they leave the West as to what extent they want this chapter in their life to be a marathon or a sprint, to the extent that such things can be controlled. Tom chose the latter, to be sure...most of us, I suspect, would wish to do the former (established bad habits permitting), yet still carve out a path that is meaningful according to our own standards.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm happy that he lived his life as he wanted to and enjoyed the life he wanted too. Everyone has their version of happiness. I'm happy for him and for you. Sorry to see some people are rude and they could learn some manners and respect. If they don't want to watch please don't. Keep on keeping on. Thanks for sharing!
Paul, you continue to exceed expectations in regard to genuine and touching content. God bless you and may Tom rest in peace.
Well done tribute Paul. Your humanity shines through in this video. Cheers.
I am really sorry for your loss, Paul. I know you didn't want to make this video, but you made a very good point though... actually a great point. You made a point that I think we all need to hear. Live your life doing whatever it is that makes you happy over there. Life is too short to be miserable. I am not moving to the Philippines to be miserable. If I wanted to be miserable, I'd stay here in the US. Thanks again, Paul.
Paul, I really enjoyed everything you have been doing in your vlogs, big or small, with grace and humility. I could literally feel your simplicity and your unmistakable authenticity every moment of your public engagement through the videos you release. The melody in your discourse and your choice of vocabularies are sweet and captivatingly beautiful. Thank you for the organic and humbling contents of the videos you afford us all to enjoy. I have learned a lot about retiring in the Philippines in much more concrete ways than I could searching elsewhere in a long time. Kudos to you and your beautiful gf, Mae.
To your dear friend Mr Tom RIP, and live your life anyway you want, if you don't harm anyone why not, your life is yours, live it anyway fit for you ❤️
yup...totally agree... Do exactly what you want to do, if you want to go to the gym and be healthy...fine, if you like to drink, fine... do what you like... Do what makes you happy!
Well said Paul. Man, RIP Tommy. Great stories you two had.
I’d say Tom was living like King , no hassles from a employer, living in a great country I take my hat off to him
RiP Tom and cheers to you Paul. Great video about obviously a great guy. I like to drink my bottle of red wine every day . I’m 70 and hope to live long enough to make it to the Philippines or back to Thailand (without jumping through more hoops than a trick dog in the circus). Hope to meet and Mae one of these days. God Bless. JC out.
Sounds like he brought a lot of joy to those around him. That's a legacy that's hard to beat.
Good for Tom, he lived the way he wanted and was a good guy doing it.
Nice tribute to your friend. Appreciate the time you have, you never know when your time is up.
You got that right!
Thanks for sharing the memories of you friend Tom. Sounds like he found the place and lived the life he wanted to and was happy.
Nice tribute Paul, that story and how you've delivered it really touched me and you are right, not a bad way to go. Please make more videos :)
Glad you enjoyed it
I'm so sorry Paul. Sounds like your friend was a good man. A man living every day to the fullest and having the time of his life. Best wishes.
Thanks for the memories Paul. There have been a few that have passed this year; Tom Sullivan, John Martel, Stuart Schelp, Tom Clark. Quit drinking and you will live longer? It will only "seem" longer.
I really like the way you told that story as it is and with no bias whatsoever. You were certainly a real friend of Tom.
Great tribute Paul. I’m sure he was a happy, thoughtful and caring guy. Thanks for the video 🙏🏻
Paul...Tom is a lucky man to have had a true friend like you!!!
Paul, I just watched your video and wanted to say how touching it was. What a wonderful tribute to a friend. I've missed you lately here but love the goat and your style. Best of everything to you & Baby, I can't think of a nicer couple. I hope someday to run into you guys there. Who knows what is in store for us all huh? Bless you guys! Stay happy & healthy!
Hey Paul my dear friend, I am so sorry for the loss of your good friend Tom Sullivan. I am praying that his family will get through this difficult time in their lives. I wish I could have known Tom, I'm sure that from how you describe him, he was an awesome person. I'm sure that Tom is in a better place now. May God truly bless Tom's family. Thank you Paul my dear friend for sharing this somber video. Please stay safe and healthy, and God bless you and Baby Mae always.😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
I'm sorry you lost your friend, he sounds like a kind soul. I envy anyone who can find a moment of biss in this world.
Paul, I smiled and laughed all the way through your endearing homage to Tom. What great times and what a great friend you had.
The best!
Been living my life at the present, and that gives me incredible freedom, peace ,happiness and no worries. At the end we all dies anyways no point of stressing about the future,Be thankful for today for tomorrow was never promised! As long as your not hurting anyone youre good to go.
A true touching tribute to your friend Tom. May he rest in peace and with a smile. 😊👍
Hi Paul, thank you for sharing, sounds like Tom was a great guy, I am really sorry for your loss. It will sound out of place to say , but I really wish you a Merry Xmas. Let us hope that Tom is having a joyous drink now, with the angles.
Sorry for your loss. Memories with a good friend is a treasure. Condolence and may his soul rest in eternal peace. 🙏🏽🌹💞
Nice memories Paul.
Always we remember the nice people we met, especially the uncomplicated ones.
Sorry Paul for the loss of your friend. That was a nice tribute to someone that made a lot of people feel comfortable to be with. There are not enough people in this world like Tom for sure. It's nice that you because friends with him. Damn Covid disrupting so many things in our lives. May he rest in peace.
Wow. What a great homage to your friend. Live your life to the fullest the way you want to not the way other people want. Enjoy your moments.
Well said!
Paul What a wonderful Homage to your friend. I hope some of his family sees and hears this. What a wonderful friend you seemed to be of his and he to you. I was once told that "if you ever find a true friend, then you are blessed indeed". All other people are mere acquaintances along your life's journey. well, my youtube guy, you've been blessed it seems.
So to everyone! If you have a true and good friend, let them know how much they mean to you. Give that to them so that they too when it's time for them to make that journey of passing, they will have that piece of you with them. In my life, I believe this: Love and caring are what we leave here with. Everything else just doesn't seem to really matter in the end. Believe me, I've been clinically dead twice in my life. That's all I care about now. Those that I love and those that I know love me back.
Great testimony to your good friend, Paul! Very honest & straight.
Another heart felt story from my favorite story teller. Nice job Paul. Sorry for your loss .
Do what ever makes you happy whatever you want 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Sorry for your loss. Condolences to his family and friends. It sounds like Tom was a fun guy to hang out with. Paul this is a wonderful tribute to your friend. We should all strive to be the kind of person that a friend would give us such a tribute.
Sounds like a nice fellow. Sorry for your loss. Good friends are precious! Bad habits are still just habits and everyone has them.
Paul, I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. It surely sounds like he lived out his last being happy with his life! Really that is all we can hope for. God bless
Hi Paul,this is another reason why I subscribe to your channel. You put your thoughts out so eloquently plus the fact that you are always so full of wisdom. I just wanna say thank you for sharing them on this forum.
Wow, thank you
I'm sorry for your loss paul Tom sounds like a good friend and people like that are hard to find and even harder to loose but one thing I believe is the people we love that have passed away are never truly gone they live on forever in our memories and hearts and have become part of who we are through the rest of our lives as long as we hold onto there memories of the life they shared with us they live on forever ❤ stay strong my friend and keep on sharing your life with your friends and you will live forever in their hearts as we'll God bless you and baby mae. Respectfully your friend Bob
What a great tribute to your friend Tom. I can only hope that someone can find that much, good, to say about me when I'm gone. It is nice to know him a little thru your words.
That was very good Paul, sorry for your loss but thank you for touching on the points of life that matter. Currently in Tulsa for medical reasons and hoping my heart is OK will know more early December, want to get back to my wife in Boracay. As I have said before your living your bliss and we are both fortunate and still hoping one day we shall share a coffee. God's Speed my friend.
A part of bliss is being non judgmental. Thank you Paul.
You are a great story teller! Great video.
What a great video of your friend. I learned a lot about life from your videos. Thanks for making then.
Sounds like a lovely man. You tell alot by a person for their compassionate love for animals, Daisy was a lucky dog I hope she is OK 👍
Great Story !
As long as Tom wasn't hurting anyone from his drinking...no issue. It is when it hurts those around you (you are abusive, don't fiscally take care of your dependents and spending on your addiction instead, stealing, etc.). Sounds like he was a happy guy and so different from those with addictions that have anger issues or otherwise. Like you said, follow your bliss and don't judge others on their choices...you got one life to live and live it to the fullest and whatever makes you happy, just as long as you respect and don't harm those around you.
Ya, just have fun while you can still can and feel well enough to try. As long as its not hurting or neglecting anyone else, go for it! RIP Tom.
My condolences on your loss.. Your friend seems to have lived his life on his terms. Cherish the memories.
My deepest condolences. I'm so sorry for your loss.
You’re absolutely right Paul. I’m glad Tom followed hid bliss. You provided a nice eulogy here. I’m happy that he was enjoying his last years. I’m glad you got to meet him and be a part of his life. Congratulations on recognizing that Tom was living life on his terms and letting him enjoy it. I wish I’d had the chance to meet him. I feel almost like I’ve met him through your words and his FB page. Cheers Tom.
Absolutely
Excellent commentary. None of us has the right to judge the pursuit of happiness by another person. It may not be my choice or your choice but his lifestyle was HIS choice. My father died years ago at 61. On his deathbed he said to me, “ I don’t want to die, but I packed 183 years of living into my 61 years”. And he wasn’t kidding. He was also a happy hedonist like your friend Tom. He had slightly different passions than Tom, but lived life his way. If a person wants to live a long life of kale smoothies, no ice cream and cake, never drink, never smoke, and never get wild every once in awhile, I say power to them. But like Tom, I will live my life my way and take my chances. I never thought I would make it to 65 and here I am. Everything now is a bonus. I’ve been trying to get to PH for two years and have become a big fan of yours. You have taught me a lot about the PH and retirement in general. Unfortunately I will start my adventure in Thailand in January and hopefully someday I will get to the Philippines. Thanks again for your inspiration and sharing the story of your friend Tom, may he Rest In Peace.
Thailand is a wonderful place to kick back and enjoy life, and be hedonistic if you so desire.
We all have the right to judge the pursuit of happiness of another person. Many people are harming others in their pursuit of happiness and should be called out for it.
@@Dana-ie2bh sounds to me like you have a superiority complex. You know better than EVERYONE!! It must be great to be so much smarter than the rest of us simpletons that believe people have the right to self determination in their own lives.
@@Dana-ie2bh I’m not a hedonist. I have been sober for 10, almost eleven years. I have always wanted to visit Asia but have been busy living the American dream of working myself to death. No more, i will leave that dream to you.
@@lancemided3251 I retired 15 years ago. My work on ships took me to many parts of Asia, and I've also lived there for a little over a year. Do you even know what the word hedonism means ? The next time you see someone being happy , having fun at someone else's expense you go right ahead and ignore it, you have that right also. Me, I'll speak up.
Paul's friend was a happy drunk and was doing no one else harm, but there are plenty of mean drunks who get their happiness bullying others, they don't have that right to self determination in my judgement.
Sorry to hear about your friend Paul. Life can be short for sure. Like you, I tend to celebrate the lives of lost ones rather than dwell on the loss. There’s a caption from the movie “The last samurai” where the emperor asks Tom Cruise how Katsumoto died. He replies “I will tell you how he lived!” ❤️ all the best my friend!
Great story Paul and sorry for Tom's passing. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving to you and Mae!
Thank you kindly
Paul, that was a very sincere posts. Right from your heart. Although I live in Bacong, I never had the pleasure of meeting him. Very nice tribute and well said
My condolences. I am sorry for your loss. It's a nice tribute for your friend. I am sure you will miss him. 🙏🙏🙏
Sorry for your loss. Great friends are hard to lose.
Great story, he sounds like a great guy who knew what he wanted.
Damn Makes you think about life and how long we have on this earth. GOD BLESS, Take care bro. Sorry about your loss, your a good guy Paul
RIP Tom. You sounded like a really good friend and spirit. ❤️
You have interesting videos thanks Paul.
Great story Paul. You told it well and gave great respect to Tom. I wish I had met him.
This was your best video, EVER. Thank you.
I'm sorry for your loss Paul. That was a very nice homage to your friend.
My condolences on the loss of your good friend Tom. Topnotch tribute Paul. 👍
Left but lived his life to the fullest.. He has his own choice.. He knew very well that life is short.
Great eulogy for Tom. I always look at your video I am in hilonges port getting ready to take ferry to cebu. Dumahete been there. But you are right a retired man should enjoy his last year in life. You are very lucky to have may. Hope you are doing ok and enjoying ife to the fullest. Take care God bless. I arrived here on 15 November 21. Ove the Philippines family very one family. God bless you Paul
Sounds great!
Thank you Paul for sharing Tom s story n his true happiness he died a happy man by following his dreams God bless him
Wow what a story of a happy good friend