Retired in the Philippines/The State of Men in America/Old Dog New Tricks
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
- Retired in the Philippines/The State of Men in America/Old Dog New Tricks@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 Despite some Technical Issues, I examine the current state of affairs as told to me by my subscribers
61 year old NewZealand woman here and I agree with you. The pussification of men and the hardening of women.
Totally agree I was away for 13 years and I really see the Social castration with a dose of political correctness fed emasculation....
Jancinders well practised furrowed brow and over the top look of concern isnt helping... Im ready to move back to the Philippines.
Im tired of the over regulated, over the top bubble wrapped health and safety culture of over taxed NZ.
I have never felt so caged in my life.
The Phils has its issues but the one thing I felt was FREE to do what I want to do ( within reason ).
Good times, brings about weak men. Weak men brings about hard times. Hard times about strong men. Strong men, brings about good times.
I'm not being facetious, but the fact is sugars in the diet are changing the hormones. Men are becoming more feminine whilst women are becoming more masculine, aggressive and domineering. I have that on good medical information.
In others words it is pussfication of men and penisification of women.
@@jamesloerzel4377 It's 2022. Good times bring about weak men. Weak men bring about hard times. Hard times make strong men leave.
I’m 45 and just retired from the military this year and moved here to the Philippines and been here for a few months and it feels so good to be happy again. I had too many failed relationships in the United States and I was completely over dealing with American woman. I was always the main source of income and I just felt like an ATM but here I feel like I’m appreciated and I get to be the man in the relationship. I spent over a year watching videos and it’s exactly what I was expecting and I’m so happy that I made the move. I had a lot of people telling me I would hate it here and 99% of those people were females back in the United States. 🤣. I actually feel like I’m home and I am so happy to be welcomed here in the Philippines.
Welcome in the Philippines
I wish you well Michael - good for you. You will still be an ATM in the Phillipines, of course, but your cashier will give you a better deal LOL. That's OK - all relationships are a negotiation, are they not?
@@jdee4956 FYI…get an educated matured woman in Philippines if you’re looking for a stable relationship.Don’t get involved with the young needy ones who will cling to you only for money. I am a Filipina,independent with good education and married to a foreigner…. Both of us pool in our resources to live a comfortable life.I never rely on my husband instead both of us are partners in every aspect.
Honestly if you were the main source of income for American women then you have met the wrong women. Find a girl who is well educated and got her crap together. Most are pretty well off themselves and are far more educated than ones in the Phillipines here. You will be an even bigger ATM here if you're not careful.
@Con Descending I’m in Ilocos Sur
I love that you are talking about this potentially prickly subject. I'm a woman about 25 years younger. I used to call myself a feminist, meaning I believe in equal pay for a job. Now I think it means a different thing all together.
What I do know is that lying in my partner's arms and hearing that everything is going to be okay is one of the most beautiful things in the world. He works while I have brought up our daughter who has huge medical problems. I cook dinner every night and try to make sure that when he comes home there is half an hour to decompress. Our only holidays is bush camping and fishing. We are poor but happy.
Well there's my 20 cents worth.
beautiful post!
God bless you him and your precious daughter🙏❤️
The trouble with feminisms is that it sets too many women as hostile and quarrelsome and ready to jump at the slightest perceived infringement. That is not good in a relationship where ideally two partners should work together as a team and allow some give and take. Sadly men who are accommodating (give and take) are seen as weak all too often. I however have no problem with women reaching their full potential in any field as it's only good for the advancement, or contribution to, of society for all of us. We all benefit. This would also give credit by merit which is the fair and best way.
Awesome Sandy...here's the deal....men and women are equally important...but here's the key....each are DIFFERENT....and so are the roles. You two have defined things clearly and because of it are comfy and loving in the relationship. Now in USA men and women are stepping all over each other roles causing all kinds of confusion and breakdowns in relationships. Paul is right on and you guys are living it. All the best😀💪🙏🙏
cool story, bro.
Not easy watching your country die a slow death! All the values that most of us "seniors" were taught, and practiced, are now ridiculed. Anytime I meet someone young with good manners, I just want to hug them and say THANK YOU. Thank you for caring! I never thought I would feel like an alien in my own country. I'm a 30 year retired vet.
Should have done a better job raising your kids!
@@journeytrials If you say so, it must be true! Have a great day!
@@michaelhrivnak1719 not insulting you! Just pointing out if you American men raised your children better you wouldn’t need to flee to another nation. And marry their daughters
@@journeytrials Can't argue with that! But myself, I enjoy the uniqueness my Asian born wife brings to our marriage. Smart, witty, and truly cares about people. Unlike certain other people in this country. Who are just takers. The land of the free! But there is a silver lining to all of this. Even if we "flee" as you put it, we can always come back.
@@michaelhrivnak1719 America is like Rome about to fall out forgotten in history. How pathetic and sad!
I 💯% agree with you, Paul. I'm 33 years old and I chose 3 years ago to leave Canada to live in the beautiful Dominican Republic because of some of the reasons you stated here. The women are off the wall batshit crazy and materialistic. You can't say anything anymore without offending someone, nor can you express yourself freely without facing some form of persecution if you're not falling in line with the status quo. It's absolutely ridiculous! Thank you for everything you do, Paul. Much love!
I saw Philippines once in 1991 during evacuation of Navy families in Subic Bay down to Cebu. Saw a beautiful country and people. Have always wanted to go back but have also visited the D.R. and so much closer to the U.S. I may one day retire in the P.I. or the D.R.?
And totally agreed long ago that American women greedy materialistic and very much seeking status in a male partner. Thanks God I can speak Spanish and often travel to MEX, CR and CO from Texas.
I am a Canadian and I have experienced what you wrote.
@@davidfenton109 you figured it out a long time ago, David. Hats off to you. If you're ever thinking of visiting the DR give me a holler on this channel. I post videos everyday of my stay here in the beautiful Dominican Republic 🇩🇴
@@lawrencelawrence3920 I'm sure you know better now. Experiences that we learn from don't happen, unless we live through the mistakes. You know what it is 👍
#BEYOND2021VISION 👀
Actually Canadian females are milder than American Women. The current well educated and smart filipina women are much like their American and Canadian counter parts
When your HR dept tells you that you have to let a man go home from work because he is menstruating or you will be fired you know your country is in the crapper
Wow! Time to move to FL, where we're not forced to live in a George Orwell novel!
Now the liberals here in US saying men can be pregnant and nurse a baby? So much oddity in the mindset of those people here plus the lawlessness of a so called president that allows the influx of illegals to enter the country..this president is a useless demented and corrupt and this country is no longer a decent one to live and be sustainable!!
I didn't have to move to Philippines to have a the God ordained relationship in a marriage. I married a 21 year old Chinese Malaysian in Madison, Wisconsin 49+ years ago. She worked for the first 2 years of our marriage while I was in college. I provide for her and care for her , she cares for me and our children. She homeschooled our children.
#49 years ago…
You most definitely are the exception to the rule Sir. For most American Males, it’s not as simply as finding a foreign woman today that would be that Unicorn most men are looking for. A woman that isn’t a feminazzi and or color her hair all different weird colors and has arms and legs full of tattoos but a woman who has a feminine trait of her own and isn’t at all too masculine for the average Joe.
Most American males who are searching for the chance to find his mate, the one woman who will respect him and allow him to lead her and like it and allow her guy to provide not just a great life to them, but also allow her man to demonstrate his manly leadership in their lives.
@Su Ck the West,,in General..
That’s just super, all thumbs up 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
The best of both worlds. I also married a filipina who takes care of everything in the family and I take care of the financial aspect. Seems good so far. And we still enjoy what New Zealand has to offer. But u don't blame men who decide to go to the source, as it were.
You are so right Paul. The other day I was going into the grocery store and a woman was right behind me so I opened the door for her and stood back to let her go in first and she looked at me in disgust and went to the opposite door which totally blew me away since I am old school and thought I was being courteous.
you were a gentlemen, don't regret being one
Your absolutely 💯 correct. Western women are so desperate to prove that they don't need a man that they have destroyed the basic part of a relationship. My filipina was ofw in sg when I met her and sending her money back to Philippines for her 2 young kids. She was going without and sacrificing her life for them. I knew deep down she wished she could be with them. After getting to know her for a year and realizing she was the kind of woman that I was looking for i offered her the chance to go home to be with her kids. I promised her that I was serious about her and she trusted me enough to take a chance with me. That was 10 years ago and I have gotten to know that she appreciated what I did and we have been planning to be together. I had been spending my vacations with her every year with intent of retiring in 2020 to go there. Well virus came and delayed my return. Now I have my return planned in September. She is everything I need to enjoy the rest of my life. I give her a secure life and she gives me the love and appreciation I never had with Western women. Great subject.
"She is everything I need to enjoy the rest of my life", dangerous attitude dude. Do not base your own happiness around a woman. They don't like it, women want men who have their own masculine purpose in life - job, hobby, interests, friends. Watch some Corey Wayne videos, he explains it in great detail.
Funny but I learned to be independent because I could not count on men to be there for me. It’s pathetic when your boyfriends credit is so horrible he can’t get a mortgage.
10 years ago you have enough time to pay for all of them to come to the states get off your back side bring them all over or move there an live
My version of OFW, was I am in Kuwait, I never want to live in the Philippines again, I will let my ex’s family or mine raise her, and I will keep working, and paying for her advanced education. I saw she wanted to get married to an American even though she was married in the Philippines, and would need an annulment first, then move to the US, and make good money working in the US. She is now 43 years old, so good luck on that. I truly wish her the best in her fantasy
@@MelywoodMedia It is terrible. His former spouse shouldn't have destroyed his credit.
I traveled to the PI for three weeks in 2006 at age 49 and it felt good to be an older white man for maybe the first time in my life. One night I had layed down not feeling well and the gal I was with, she was about 40 but more beautiful/classy than American gals half her age, rubbed my head and gently started singing this song I never heard before in Tagalog. Next thing you know it was the next morning and I had the most restful sleep I ever had in my life. At breakfast I asked, "What was it you did last night?" I feet genuine love when she replied, "I gently rubbed the worry lines from your brow while singing a song my father had taught me in the Papaya fields." That ruined me for American woman. I can't stand to be around them, so disrespectful and rude. Every hard working male needs to experience this at least once in their lives.
LOL
That’s actually pretty awesome
great story, thanks for sharing, so glad that happened to you
My trip to the Philippines has been interrupted three times in 30 years,rescuing American women, that never appreciated it.
No more interruptions.
I've learned my lesson, and I've learned it well.
Paul I had that issue with my American wife prior to our divorce. It was very difficult because she wasn’t making what I made but truly felt she was 100% equal and argued any decision. My Filipina wife enjoys my taking the lead and believes in my decision making skills. It makes all the difference in the world for me and her. She’s an extremely capable woman in her own right but understands she’s supporting our future through mutual decisions. Very refreshing.
Kevin Samuels said it all -- men want women who are fit, feminine, submissive, and cooperative today -- hard to find in America
Hi Paul. This is one of your very best videos in my humble opinion. The way you are almost always willing to help someone who is down on their luck and dug a good sized hole. And you don;t help by doing everything for them. You help with a few things they need like shelter and some food and maybe a shirt and pants. And the joy on your face when someone tells you " Hey Paul guess what. I brought this all on myself. I can really dig a nice hole to crawl in." Please keep up the good work sir. Your a blessing to a lot of people. You have helped me and I am just a reader and listener. A fan in north Texas, Marcus.
You are 10000 percent correct. I'm a 53 yr old single father. I raised my son alone from 6mth old . He is now 28, married two children and owns his own home PAID FOR. my last date was Sept 11, 2001...apparently i don't have the " qualities " wanted nowadays..responsibility, no multiple baby mommas, no criminal history, substance abuse..relatively good shape...I'm soo soon tired of things here in the U.S. it seems as common sense has disappeared, stupidity, fear, and hypocrisy rule.
It's not much different in many other countries including the Philippines.
Words of wisdom as ever Paul, thanks. I hope the guy you met on the street watched the John series of interviews before he bought that dream plot of land.
After a costly divorce from my ex American princess, my filipina Emy showed me what love really is. What a wonderful person, wife, mother, etc. that she is!
Great video brother! Truth is spoken here.
Hey Paul 👋 great to listen to you my friend you talk a lot of sense. I'm from the UK in my 60s and starting to become dissolutioned with life here sound's very similar to the US. I've been going to Thailand twice or three times a year for about a month at at a time and found a life i thought just didn't exist anymore. Found new friends and a partner too and loving every minute of it , feels good to be free 🙂 . Great to listen to you keep it coming 👍
I'm an American woman. When I was married in 1973 my husband was Army. We could talk for hours and on payday he would hand me his paycheck keeping $10 for his, at work, coffee fund. I ran the home, the bills and the children. He would never once Tell me what to do, we discussed everything, and enjoyed it, because we were partners. The last 12 year relationship I had with a man I paid all the bills except the $450 rent so that he could afford his dually diesel large bed, double cab truck - because I loved him and put him first. I fed the 2 horses, 2 miniture donkeys, the 5 dogs (3 of which we inherited from his mothers death - none of the other kids wanted. They just wanted the car, TV, etc.) and 3 cats. I kept the 3 acres of foilage trimmed back and was a volunteer EMT for our rural community. America changed when corporations took over the government. No wage increases so women went to work, for less pay I think. You are right, some women have taken equality to a ridiculas level. This ruins it for all women. You never mention the way men have changed here. It is just as hard for women, here, to find a real partner as it is for men. I see change but I also consider the source of these changes. I miss Cronkite and True News. America has changed, not for the better. Real relationships are partnerships. Respect for the contributoin from each (hoping there is a contribution from each). The type of manly, giving, loving, considerate, hero man you describe here is hard to find. I'm glad that you found yours.
Your post is telling. As is well known by now, Cronkite was a closet liberal (borderline communist) socialist and was instrumental in helping to transform America into what it is now--not by lying, but by slanting stories, and only telling you the stories he and his cronies wanted you to hear to advance their agenda. He was a godless, conniving, degenerate. He fooled you too.
American men don't want real relationships/partnerships as far as I can see here in America. I am an American female, too. I agree with everything you said here.
Thank you for this. I'm an American Woman too. I understand this page is for men but it's quite interesting to see how one sided it is.
I have had too many failed relationships with "needed" American Men. They whined so much, I thought I was raising a Kid. In which, I NEVER had kids.
A Western Woman (NOT from the US) said "Western Men nowadays, want a Nurse (a Woman who cares for them with them having no appreciation or helping out). Or a Nurse with a purse (same as above, just with money).
I gave up on Western Men. I love being a Woman in my role. However, I can't do my role if my Partner isn't doing his.
@@youtubeuserzzzz ,fly to Philippines.
Sounds like the USA is a mess and no one you people are willing to fix it!
Hey Paul, love your content & channel, i'm a 65 yr. old kiwi (New Zealander) retired in rural Thailand, & agree 100% with your comments on the men issue. I look to the animal kingdom & see the the male as a hunter/gatherer , protecter & leader of the family unit, as i see it, what is happening to men is against nature, & may well lead us into demise
Retired expat from the US living in Thailand. Moved here almost five years ago after my Wife died of cancer. Has been awesome!! Every day an adventure and wonderful. Would never go back.
So true. Here in the cesspool called california especially in san francisco women are outright rude, crude and blatent about hating men. So sad! I'm hoping to get to the Phils by year end.
I can relate to the rescue behavior you spoke about... My sister has always said I choose woman I can rescue.... This time it's a bit different however. It's true I rescued my new wife financially..but she has rescued me from a depressing existence of life. I can't express the joy and happiness I have found with her and her two boys, At 68 I was sitting around waiting to die.. Now I'm living life as never before. It was the biggest gamble of my life.. selling my house, car,wife,dog, and everything I owned. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Stay safe and healthy my friend.
Great video as always Paul you hit the nail on the head. Thanks as always for sharing.. keep up the good work.
Excellent video Paul. Always get a kick out of your blogs and I could relate to what your saying for sure. Looking forward to the next.
Paul you really took on a difficult subject. Good for you and I completely agree with you
Great Vlog , I was that 60 something man sitting on my couch and because of divorce and grown children busy with thier own lives experienced isolation and loneliness. After being here 2 months I don't feel invisible anymore and feel like I arrived home 🏡
Solid points made Paul. Another informed video. Thanks for sharing!
Poetic! Great job, best to you & yours.
I didn't think about that rescue aspect of my relationship with my wife who was an OFW in Hong Kong when I met her. It did make me feel good when we reached that point in our relationship, during our engagement when I told her to go ahead and wrap it up in HK and head back to PH to plan our wedding and prepare for the next chapter of our lives. Made me happy and still does that she's not living that life in HK anymore. She's here with me in the NY area these past 5 plus years with a great job in the same hospital where I work which is great but... I'm proud as hell of her but I do realize she's blossomed into an Americanized Filipina now and there are times I kind of wish that wasn't the case... Taking it one day at a time, we'll be back in PH for a month after labor day, we're both excited to get the heck away from the madness here. Great video as always man. 👍~Mike~
I'm curious... in which ways has American culture influenced her?
i'm 10 years younger than you Paul and thus feel like you're my older brother in many ways with your wisdom and thoughtfulness .. keep gracing us with your thoughts and happy we share the same first name :)
That was a whole lot of great information, thank you for sharing. 👍👍👍
Excellent Video Paul. Learning so much from you. Been watching you from the beginning and not stopping. Looking forward to meeting you and Baby Mae. Stay Safe ❤️ 🙏
The one thing I know Paul, (other than the real truth of that I know nothing at all) is that every one of us, that comes to your channel is very blessed. Not because of only the information you provide to everyone about your life there and that of others. But in the way, you seem to be able to verbalize very basic truths. Please never apologize for doing that.
Why I left my country and came here?
Option A - the bitter leftovers
Middle aged Career woman with teens who will try to squeeze me into her busy life.
Option B - the optimistic and grateful
Younger devoted woman looking to start a family.
Thanks,I just coughed up my coffee @ "Bitter leftover's"
Exactly what they are😃
P.S That's the only thing she would be able to "Squeeze" you into 😂
Amen 🙏 Brother
Yup😀🌴🌴😫
Psalm 112:8-10
If a middle aged woman has teen aged kids and has to work to support her family, you hold that against her because she is doing the right thing? She is busy and you don't understand that? The kids are in high school & will be on their way in a few years..... What does that say about YOU? She is doing the right thing yet perhaps you prefer she stay home with no money so she has plenty if time to entertain you? Would you like to pay the bills? ...And where is dad in all of this scenario? Either AWOL or working OT to buy his new fancy sportscar .....!!.......
Good vlog !… Ur insight was pretty much on… ur story at the end was good … thanks
Paul another wise and thoughtful podcast ! Thanks for what you do! Giving a realistic viewpoint of of how you perceive things!
Yup, you hit the nail squarely on the head Paul! Moved here in 2009 and never looked back!
OMG, Paul. this has to be the best vlog ever. You hit the nail right on the head. many, many men are moving to the philippines because of the economical structure of the islands vs america, the beautiful women, the friendliness of the people, and a change in lifestyle. I for one, am moving to the philippines in a couple years with my son and his filipina wife. Im really excited about the move. what's happening in the states is mind boggling. cost of living, politics, angry people everywhere, what to say without getting accused of being racist, only to name a few. Im single, but already 72. so far, im in good health, and plan on visiting thailand, vietnam, and possibly japan while homebased in the islands. I know the weather is hot and muggy, but I also know theres an invention called AC, hahaha. hope to see you and Mae there.
you have no idea of heat and humidity..Lived HK 5 years singapore over 1 year.. ac there is costly.. but medical care is not good.. reality..
@@peter-pg5ycI spent time in HK and Macau. Macau was horrible. Just lifting a finger and I felt I needed a shower haha. I didn't see or do enough things in HK but with the current political situation there I don't think I'd want to return if I had the chance to do so. Right now some Chinese bot is probably flagging my comment and putting me on list haha.
Another great video Paul, really interesting and I agree 👍 with all you talked about. Thanks for everything you do. Love you guys. Take care my friend.
Awesome video Paul…watched it twice. You were definitely spot on with how things are deteriorating here in the USA. Wishing you and Baby Mae the very best.
Another great video Paul. You hit the nail on the head with your description of the US. I’ve give up on even dating here seven years ago. Still with that being said my reason for wanting to move to the Philippines isn’t for companionship. I truly I believe I can have a better life style there. Economically, socially and slower pace of life there. Thanks again for you videos, always on point! John
Greetings to all from England. Love your videos always great information.
Glad you like them!
With a great deal of class and clarity you defined for many what they could not define for themselves. I for one really appreciate it. Thanks Paul
Hit the nail right on the head! Another great video. 👍
The "up to you" thing is an awesome part of living in Asia as a man
For all those looking for greener grass I hope they will find it. As for me I'm happy as a clam right here in the good old, warts and all USA. I'm looking forward to my trip to the Philippines I've got booked for September. I'm sure I'll love it. You've created a great channel, I enjoy it a lot.
Paul, I genuinely loved this whole video, and tying it all together at the end, “It really is up to you”, was classic!
Good video Paul, and yes I stayed until the very end! Tell Mae hi, this was one of your videos I thought was very relevant and helpful! Until next time, God bless!
I can understand the appeal of going to a place where the culture revolves around male and female's traditional roles in society, especially when in America that's fast becoming a losing battle for both sexes. The dynamic in place when I married my wife in the late 70s was similar, at least in the Philippines; and after several failed relationships in the U.S., when I happened upon Mindy while visiting the Philippines I couldn't believe my eyes and ears. A woman who was, while industrious and ambitious, perfectly comfortable with being who she was and comfortable in her role as a wife and mother.
I hadn't experienced that in the States -- _ever._ So when I was introduced to the culture and learning more and more about my wife I just wasn't gonna pass this up. Deep down in the darkest recesses of my soul, I _wanted_ to be her "knight in shining armor," because that was the expectation for a man when I was growing up, and I was content in that role even at times when I didn't want the responsibility. And my wife was ok with it. It was only later that I realized how lucky I was -- my wife was no wallflower, no pushover. This girl could fight her _own_ battles and made it clear she wasn't gonna put up with _my_ bullshit either.
That actually relieved a lot of burden off my shoulders, because now I didn't HAVE to be the "white knight" if I didn't want to get involved in something; my wife was able and ready to make those kinds of decisions and do what needed to be done, and I was fine with that. A genuine partnership -- where neither of us had a problem being vulnerable with each other. In the States nowadays relationships boil down to who wants POWER; and POWER is measured in terms of cold, hard cash in many relationships.
A loving relationship between man and woman isn't a business deal, or at least shouldn't be. I didn't have to compete with that when I met my Filipina wife, and so yeah, I dove into that head-first and have never regretted it. Now that she's gone I have no desire to date here in the US -- none. It just isn't worth the aggravation; it's not supposed to be an arm-wrestle for _power._ For the most part men of my age just want genuine companionship without the baggage. Been there, done that.
late 70,s is dead in usa apples too orange's
Brilliant monologue! I went out the the Philippines with my life in a suitcase at the age of 27 and stayed there for the next 16 years. I wish I had seen videos like this before I went. (There was nothing like CZcams channels back then). Believe me when I say, I've seen and done just about every mistake that can happen out there. I've been ripped off by just about everyone. I've had girlfriends, I've been treated as a walking ATM, I've bought property and been scammed with it, I've been married. My advice to anyone new going out there would be to keep yourself very private and low-key. Date but don't commit, live alone, don't let girls move in with you, have a source of income from outside the Philippines. Do not invest in anything there, Do not buy property, do not build a house, do not even rent an unfurnished place and buy your own furniture coz that ties you down. Live care-free and without commitment. Don't live in one place for too long. Move around and treat it like one giant holiday.
Thanks for the vid Paul what you have to say does resonate with me. I can't say that I would ever act on your information but at the very least I find it entertaining. 👍
Thank you Paul for this one, I could sense this vlog was a friend to friend type of vlog. To repeat that men in general want to rescue there female mate is somewhat very true and until you phrased it that way, it really hit home. It is the culture we were brought into, however I brought up my daughters to have some nuts and stand up to do the right thing and to compromise with there spouses. Goes to show as you have said many times slow down, slow down and then slow down!!! Thank you...👍🙏👌
If what you do makes you happy ,thats all that matters
I can relate to all of this, Paul. Since I first heard your personal story, I have looked up to you because even though you retired at 62, your social security is much higher than mine and I'll be 70 when I pull the trigger. I'll be close on your heels by then. Another thing is the Filipina I found also tells me that, "It's up to you." I was taken aback too. I'm trying to get comfortable with it though. 😄
In fact dating coaches will tell you that the worst thing you can say to an American woman on a first date is "Where would you like to go?" Women want to be led on an exciting adventure by their man. When the man stops providing that adventure, the woman's interest evaporates, as she then has to start using her masculine side, in making decisions, etc.
@@charleswhite758 You know what I'd say if I was with an American woman on the first date? Check please.
I totally agree with you Old Dog...Your absolute best Vlog...Keep up the great Vlogging!!!
Another good video, thank you Paul.
The only workplace issue I casually observed was a funny one in the early 90's. The guys in the lab had a number of Skil tool calendars featuring beautiful girls posing with power tools. The lady electronic technician retaliated by posting calendars with beefy Hawaiian guys. Eventually HR made them both take down the calendars.
Huge! You just gave me the conversation that I have wanted to have for years! I remember the first video of yours I watched, it was the first time I heard the term "Groundhog Day". It allowed me to reflect at a time when I was constantly mulling over and over "....is this all there is"? Yeah, you hit the bulls eye. It is rough at 67 when you were raised differently and the society around you has beaten you down to a pronoun.
This vlog checked so many boxes for me. Thank you.
Old Dog...You are SPOT ON with your Analysis! I will be moving to the Philippines early next year.
This guy lost his American dream now he is living in Philippine dream …good luck to you sir .
What American Dream, seems to me it has turned into a nightmare…
Great video dude. This is part of the reason that I've lived in Korea for the last 20 years.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Hey same here! Left the US in 2008 at 23, been in korea ever since
Paul I never get tired of watching your excellent videos!
Great sense of humor...witty, funny, & honest! I'd love to be on your channel...long time Philippine expat...former Air Force...lots of true, funny stories...from Martial Law days through 2015...
Great video Mr. Paul. You always talk a lot of sense, that is why it’s nice to hangout in your vlog.
Well said Paul, I met my Filipina when I was working in Dubai 12 years ago, I came to Philippines 2 years after that and have been coming back ever since. We have 2 beautiful children now age 11 and 8. I have been through the entire gamut of things you talk about, and it always makes me smile. My relationship with the Mother has been very toxic the past few years and I was forced to make one of those "difficult decisions " in March 2019 for the good of the children (long story)...anyway I still plan to return to be near my kids, I really relate to the guy about saving/helping people, and just wanted to give you my kudos for your channel. Keep it up! I also follow Phillipino Pea who is another excellant source of "truth bombs"
Salamat po
Hi Paul,
Can you tell me if you have any experiences about if Christian Filipino is a good dating site or not ?
When it comes to meeting a good Filipino lady. I know two ladies and they actually live close to
You near Dumaguete.
One is an English teacher in Bacolod and the other one is a model in Talisay.
Haha )))
I will be quite well off with my Australian pension, the rent on my house in Australia and the $200,000 cash I have.
By the time, I pay my home expenses, eg strata fees, rates and water in Australia, I will receive about $3,200 Australian a month which is about $2,250 US $ a month.
So I'm not rich but I'm not poor either.
Your show is great. I realise that i will have to pay $2,000 to $2 500 a year for medical insurance.
I do not want to live in the big cities. I'm more interested in being with the right lady and they both live on your island.
I will visit and meet the girls and chose one......
When I am 67, I will have things organised and I will move to the Philippines. I like the Philippines because they can speak English and I have had video calls with Thai girls and I don't want to have that communication problem. It drove me mad. Thailand might have better inferstructure but there lack of English is a deal breaker and I find Filipino women more beautiful.
Do you have any suggestions ?
I'm being very logical about how I'm doing this )))
So we're you live has places were you can scuba dive, I hope !?
Thankyou Paul
Regards David from New south Wales Australia 😀
👍👍👍 Thats it! 2 years ago I made the decision to live my retirement on the Philippines. I started to inhale every information, every vlog about the Philippines as a place for retirement! It was not hard to make contact to pinay girls as there are some platforms for single pinay girls all ages who look for serious relationship and after some little scam finally I set my boundaries and found a year ago my love! From the very first moment I saw myself as part of her family, because you cant have a relationship with a pinay girl without involve her family! Its simply the culture! In this video you gave the most valuable information for guys who expect its getting easy to find the right girl!
1. Protection and personal responsibility for the girl and her family is a must! The guy (Cebu) in the story you told is a dreamer. Sure philippine girls will never invest their own money for vacation, because this would be very egoistic to her family. Because for all expenses the family needs have to be considered. If she dont have to support the family it would even be a bad step to spend money on a vacatioan and leave the family back home.
2, The dream of every pinay girl, beside travelling is to own land and a house near to the family! The Cebu guy should consider this facts and the fact that as a foreigner you cant own land on the Philippines. His crush just want him to pay HER FAMILY's house and HER vacation! Thats it! I dont know much about pinoy culture but at least I know. Every investment you make is fanally in the hands of your wife/gf! So either you want to be a supporter, or better stay in your country!
THANK YOU PAUL for all your Efforts! Best wishes from the middle of Europe!
P.S.: I will retire in 5 years and so God will, we will meet then in Valencia. btw I will never knock on your door in espect of your nap! 🙃
Paul what your talking about is spot one and its good to here and gives perspective about the learning curve and differences between US and Philippines. Thank you my friend appreciate your cantor and honesty. God's blessings until next time!
100% you are amazing . iam another one of your new fans .tks great job . we need more people like you . oh yea , love you introduction , always make me laugh
Hi Paul. First of all thank you for all your sage and fun commentary. I am 64 just recently divorced after 37 years of marriage. What you are discussing today applies in all Western cultures today. The gender equality earthquake that has occurred in the last 30 years 😳 is media driven. There is an agenda here being guided by a so called Liberal 🙄 media and educational imbalance. Once again thank you for voicing our thoughts.
Why on earth would you get divorced after 37 years? That's a lifetime together.... Wouldn't you just stay together for the sake of family and comfort? I know plenty of old couples like that. They just decide to live together as close friends.
I agree. Media driven but it was also taught in schools & universities ... I am sad as to how we let it happen
@@DoubtingThomas333
maybe they grew to hate/strongly dislike each other .. there's no cut n paste approach to these types of things .. relationships and humans are complex ..
@@paulthurson you'd think you would have figured it out after almost 40 years.
@@DoubtingThomas333 I've come from a 25 year marriage, to a girl I thought I'd take my dying breath with and while from the outside a 25 or 37 year marriage might seem to be something you should not walk out on, all I'll say is life and the stresses of modern Western culture put a wedge on my marriage that just pushed us apart and Eventually went toxic. I still loved her but she had zero respect for me at the end and spoke to me like I was the slime that just crawled the sea and eventually she said I don't need you anymore. That line ended our marriage and it was for the best, we just didn't want to be with each other anymore. We are now good friends and talk to each other on good terms but we both know that getting together again is not a good idea. We both found out that finding another partner that wants to be with you and support you out of love and genuine affection and respect in the west is not easy or possible anymore. We both got a culture shock hitting the streets single again after 25 years and seeing what's happened since we first met.
Paul this was probably your best vlog. Very real, very refreshing. I have always really enjoyed your channel. I think you have made a statement that thousands of men in our age group will totally relate to as well as agree with. Keep them coming, we need the inspiration and positive vibe they give off. Many Thanks
Thanks Paul this was a great conversation... People (men) need to step out of the box and analyze what's going on with their situation... always expect the unexpected
Amen to this video Paul..
I have watched a lot of videos from you and a few other people and this one hit home to me and I toatally agree with you...Cheers Jeffrey from Australia
When I met my future wife in the US, I might have been her white knight and I'm sure she admires me, but it is a mutual relationship that I have with my Filipina. While she is 9 years younger, my wife is as strong of a person and had as much or more of a successful life as I did.
Paul ! very interesting video I did in fact watch the whole thing and paid very close attention.
there's a lot to unpack so I'll try to do it without rambling too much.
there are indeed seismic shifts within America regarding women's roles and their place in it.
in a nutshell I think there is a backlash to abuses that men had committed in positions of power especially in the workplace.
sometimes this could be considered an overcorrection. but on the other hand, people also have blind spots that many women do not because they have experienced various problems such as harassment and abuses of power. look at various news anchors in recent years as a perfect example.
now that women are often more educated than men, they are expected to be decision makers and more responsible. some people or some men resist this and so there is a struggle and the most egregious of those abuses get a lot of airtime. it's a typical pattern, good news isn't broadcast on the news network so much it's really the bad stuff it gets attention and I'll give you an example.
I'm not quite as old as you but as a child I would walk to school one half of a mile even to kindergarten. there was an awareness to keep my eyes open if I remember right it has been a long time, but there was no real fear. now, mass media is Big Business and the attacks and abuses are big news and they create a perception that this is common and so people focus their attention on those issues. for example having parents waiting for the school bus to escort the kids home.
it's good to be safe but people's perceptions of risk have been distorted to their disadvantage.
in America, I've heard that some women are confused about how they should be conducting themselves in this dramatically changed environment. other women are not afraid to forge their own path and choose to behave however they like which is a good thing I believe. as you alluded to we each have our own life and we need to make the decisions that we are happy with.
even though I'm not two different age from yourself, I have a different perspective from you. I understand that women often can make better decisions although I don't assume that they will. in my relationships I prefer a woman who is an equal, and I am very comfortable with myself so I would never feel intimidated if for example she made twice as much money as I do. and I do make a significant amount of money. my ideal is a smart, successful, attractive woman choosing to be with me because of my distinctiveness and how I may make her happy. not because of any financial dependency or any other reason other than this is what she wants.
that said, for an older gentleman like myself just as you mentioned it's a lot more difficult to get into a relationship with a younger lady to have a family for example. it seems that in the Philippines it would be relatively easy to create a stable comfortable loving environment in which to raise a family, and a young lady would not be opposed to building a future in this way with an expat.
but like the train wreck you talked about, it's very important to dodge those bullets, the people who are looking to harvest the wealth of lonely men who go there looking for the One.
for your sake I am grateful that Baby Mae is ethical and kind and a great partner in your life.
I will certainly consider the Philippines when it is time for me to retire, and I will work on improving myself especially my physical fitness before then.
This American woman appreciates my 70 year old husband. He's a gem and we will celebrate 36 years married this year. He's the best! ❤
I haven’t seen all your videos, but so far this is the best I have seen.
Paul. I agree!! However, I seen the flipside too. Men not wanting to do that. I had to take it upon myself and did not want to. There are a lot of American men who are shirking the man role.
the culture war in America rages on, and men are starting to say "enough is enough" with playing prince charming. keep up the videos.
We have to play Prince Charming until the check comes. Then that chivalry goes away while the feminist still expects the man to pay.
Great video Paul thanks for sharing
Paul this was one of your best videos ! I will be retiring in Dumaguete within the next 90 days ! I can’t deal with the way is America going ! I see no hope that my country and even though I love my country I don’t like it ! Thanks again !
Paul I "am 55. And I completely agree with the men you have met and the couples as well. It seems like in the last 20 years things have changed so dramatically. I thought it was just me .I was married to a woman that was just great she was so independent when we first met and yet so caring to her extended family. and she and I just hit it off from the beginning. We went out for almost a year. Then we're married for ten. Unfortunately I lost her to cancer. I "am like you I have caught myself calling women hun and have not have any other meaning behind it .it's just how I "am I see how some of the younger men act in their not showing simple manners to what is supposed to be someone they care for and I see how someone the women are just so angry and are the typical man hater. And I will not lump all women in this category. There is some that younger then me and I know them personally and they are very good. But it's becoming a different world in the US. And I see a trend that i"am glad that my age is 55 and not 25 because don't want to see how things will be here in united states in another 30 years.
Why I live in the Philippines is because I am POOR and could never make it in the USA here I have food and shelter & a good wife with a family THANK GOD
Paul - your best commentary yet! I personally appreciate your viewpoints - we'll have to have virtual coffee as I sit here in Texas drinking coffee, watching you. Be safe!
I lived in Thailand for 2 years and loved it. I hope to live out the rest of my days in the land of smiles....
Had the mother (my ex) say,,
"I've defended you against him" to her daughters after getting caught in an act,, then the girls replied
"Mom he sees things that you dont"
in response... I truly believe there is going to be a huge switch in the next generation, these kids have seen Evil lying deceptive adults in schools ,politics ,and every authoritative position.. that behavior can only last so long before it eats itself.
Good video Paul. I have often wondered how did society got so bad to bring us into this neutrality. I get it having to be respectful to one another but going so far as to take offence at being called 'honey' or opening a door is just awful
2nd, 3rd, and 4th wave Feminism is how it got so bad in the west. Rights without responsibilities is how things became so terrible in the west.
The scary part is that it has barely even gotten started
@@chrism4008 That may well be, but schools, universities have a big part in the change ... I experienced it with those new recruits arriving to their first day of work, because of the nature of the work, many were men as they saw themselves being cool by standing up for politically correctness ... already full of their progressive ideas. So please, let's not blame it all on females
@@Barefootape Make no mistake about it, I am doing what I want. You want it all? Go ahead, whatever floats your boat. What is your point?
@@AidaJof That is not Party approved correct speech for Allowed Thinking.
@@waterheaterservices 😁😁😁
Excellent blog Paul ! Hit the nail right on the head. I'm from Canada, been enjoying your channel for sometime now. Been planning my "get away" for some time, couple of years. And I've chosen to give the Philippines an honnest go. I will be moving there next spring . I'll likely be landing in Cebu as I have a friend there who will be graduating next month as marine biologist, and settle there with him for awhile. But will definitely be taking a trip to Dumagete to share a cup of coflfee & chatt with you ! 😉
Great video Paul.
What do all of those guys have in common? They all worked regular 9 to 5 jobs and did their stint. What you should look at is the guys in their 30's and 40's who move overseas with no income, no savings, no plan on where their retirement will come from...and scrounge month to month to get by and make ends meet. You've met a few, you've interviewed them on your channel from time to time. How they can make such a move without knowing if their funds will be cut off in a few months is just amazing to me. As technology changes so might the CZcams income source they depend on.
So true. The youtube blogger thing is just another fad that is destined to change with time and technology.
@@49525Bob The country might last, but your government checks won't keep coming much longer. Plan accordingly.
You hit the nail on the head! The United States as a whole has lost its mind. Now adding to that insanity, I live and have lived in California (Los Angeles County) for 71 years, and it is absolutely a nightmare to see the state of decay here. If you are a man, but identify as a woman/or visa-versa, you need a pronoun He/Him or She/her. WTF
Thailand is my destination. I have thought about this going on five years now, and early 2023 is my escape from the land of the fruits and nuts! I enjoy your videos of common sense.
California is more for younger people now especially on the west coast cities. Doesn't cater for older folks.
Hey, General Douglas MacArther, “I shall return” loved the Philippines, made his home there for years, long before it became a thing. You’re in good company! 👍
Paul, I truly enjoy your videos. You have tremendous wisdom, not only for those who would retire in the Philippines, but for those of us men who can't. I deeply appreciate your message. Thank you, and bless you!
actually it's really simple for men in america if they stick to a few rules. don't talk to women unless it's business and then keep it short. don't look at them, don't greet them, don't help them. just leave them alone and if communication is necessary, keep it short and serious. it's simple and it works nicely.
🤣Damn!
Been there, done that and was accused of causing a "toxic work environment" by HR because the female's in the front office egos weren't being "stroked" the way they wanted.
In addition to rescuing a woman, men enjoy teaching and imparting hard-earned wisdom, and planting a seed (not sexual) and watching it grow. At it's root, it's a way for us to feel like we added some value/contribution to the world during our short (often miserable) lives. It's just easier to do this in a country like the Philippines (due to traditional gender roles, respect for elders and others, better expat finances, more available time, bringing new ideas from our countries to the PI). PI offers expats more bang for the buck (again not sexual).
What if it were sexual? Would that be wrong? Are we so programmed against sex that we disdain it now or try to make excuses for it? F that.
how disappointing when a woman does not appreciate this gesture men put their hearts into and she only really wants to see a man who is constantly trying to impress her in here eyes. I never want to become such a fool again.
You nailed it (not sexual).
Great description. Find a woman whose agreeable and has a teachable spirit
Being a night in shining armor is probably going to be you that needs rescued. You rescue people if the building is on fire but not to find a spouse. It’s almost like saying these women are poor desperate and ignorant but boy are you in for a surprise. You look for a partner for the person she is and how you and her can fit into each other’s life. Money doesn’t buy love. Don’t go into the province riding your white horse waving money at some local girls. It will be taken and you’ve just been taken. May this be the wisdom you can pass along.
Outstanding video Paul, speaking directly to my heart as a man.
Love all your videos I learned a lot listening to you too thanks 👍 volume way up
Hi Paul, thanks for the video and especially the topic. It is true, male female relationship has become very toxic in the west especially Americans. I have seen from a distance and spoken to women and made up my mind, hell no I'm keeping a safe distance from these women. For now, Southeast Asia rock! Hope Southeast Asia doesn't catch the cold that the west is sneezing.
Absolutely
You have to also take in that one reason today's children have a lot more issues and instabilities, causing even more chaos, is the fact most families now have both parents working and providing much less time for actual parenting and interaction.
And plenty of absentee fathers leaving moms to have to raise their children by themselves and the kids grow up without a father figure...........That's pretty sick what men do to their offspring in these cases. How irresponsible & selfish can they be ?
Great video, man!
Brilliant dissertation Paul.