r/Maliciouscompliance My Dad Beat & Abandoned Me, So I Stole His Stuff!
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 13. 07. 2021
- r/Maliciouscompliance Unfortunately, OP has a horrible father who thinks that it's a good idea to beat his kids as a way to discipline them. When OP's father finally tells OP to leave the house and not come back, OP happily complies and begins living independently. He later finds out from a friend that his dad is leaving on vacation for a few days, so OP sneaks back into his old place and steals all of his dad's stuff. To be fair, it was stuff that the dad bought with OP's money, so realistically OP had every right to take it back.
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Protip: Don't beat your kids
Okay
Ok
Oh shoot, here goes Friday's program...
Ok but I don't have kids
Hi rslash you doing ok
As a kid from an abusive home, this deeply satisfies me. Shame neither of my parents and brother are worth anything
take their organs... im sure a pair of kidney's are well over 800,000 dollars
@@northernalpine4350 LMAO oh god I canât describe how hard this made me laugh! Thanks for the laugh, itâs very appreciated! Not sure their organs would be worth much either, livers certainly wonât be healthy⊠wonder how much a heart goes for
@@ZombieSazza About a minute or two before it gives up outside the body
Quote of the day: "this deeply satisfies me"
@@ZombieSazza
well im 99.9% sure their brains aint worth a bottle of dirt so...
im going to recommend taking their:
heart
kidneys
and liver (whats left of it)
blood
also invest in some liquid nitrogen and an ice box
if ya still have both parents then you'll be golden... *literally*
The cop's attitude and "warnings" and your terrible boss notwithstanding, you actually have no obligation to provide a cop with that code. And he has no lawful reason to arrest, charge or otherwise demand it from you.
@Chris G What reasoning could he have used to arrest Op I'm curious what the charges could be.
@@destinyleon9796 - obstructing the police in the execution of their duty?
Tell that to tamir rice. Cops can and do abuse their power pretty frequently. He straight up was trying to pin him for interfering with a case lol they donât give a damn about the law
@Chris G But there was no evidence of anyone entering the bathroom at all, the patrons in the shop protested the cops behavior. So I believe there is no evidence to back up that claim. I'm sorry but being a cop doesn't give him the right to demand something from anyone.
@@Quentinthemudkip - if they really want to, they'll find a reason. Well, let's be fair, some of them will. But you can never be sure if this one in front of you is one of them.
After 30 years of marriage, I'll be telling my husband a "when I was growing up " story and he'll look at me, horrified. When you grow up with abuse it seems normal. I'm so sorry for OP. They're going to do great in life. Much love to those who are still in the struggle.
Hope youâre doing better these days! I relate to this, friends stare at me like âuhhh that ainât normalâ, but theyâre happy to listen even if they donât fully understand. Got diagnosed with cPTSD & PTSD a few years ago, Iâm medicated and get therapy, so Iâm a lot healthier mentally!
@@ZombieSazza I'm great. Thanks for the concern. I hope that you have people in your life that are like "that wasn't ok..."it's funny what we can rationalize.
Same here, will be chatting along, then I look at his face. Cant describe that expression.
@@juneyshu6197 yup. It's a hold up moment. Best wishes for you đž
Itâs not quite the same but my boyfriend was in an abusive marriage for 18 years. He only stayed for his son. During one of our talks about our relationship I said I was worried I donât feel as strongly for him as he does for me. He said maybe he shouldnât be as open about his feelings. That broke my heart because it made me feel like I was like his ex and didnât want him to ever go through that again. Nothing was her fault, she blamed him for everything. I noticed that he says sorry when he doesnât have to, like I dropped the front door key and he said sorry. I didnât know how deep things can go
"Don't ruin my reputation!"
Oh, I have the power to do that? Thanks for telling me, dad.
Lol..
My comment to my ex was...
If you don't want people to know how you act... then don't act that way towards me...
this is like presenting a self destruct button and asking them to not press it.
this dude pulls his kids out of school to get a job and pay all bills while he himself is unemployed? sweet lord
I know right?
Lmao đ€Ł thatâs a narcissist for ya Iâm 100% positive. My dad was like that. He sat around doing unemployment, nothing but laying on the couch watching tv drinking soda while it was my job to pay his rent. Itâs funny how that shit goes lmao đ€Ł I ended up just leaving randomly one day and havenât looked back.
Technically he didn't pull the kid out. I've been Told the story was UK based, well then the O lvl are the UK version of the high school diploma, despite two more of school before you sit your A levels. A kid can pull themselves out of school after getting there O level. historical people who left with only their O lvl would then get apprenticeship to a trade. It common for parent to argue with the kid to try to keep the kid to keeping going to their A levels with the ultmaitamn of stey in school OR get a job and pay rent
it was OP who wanted to leave they said so
@@geraldgrenier8132 O Levels haven't existed since 1988. I doubt OP's story is that old.
And dares criticise them for taking so long to get a job! Wow!
If I was one of Dick's friends, I would have been laughing at him for the rest of the meal and probably for years to come about this!! Dude played himself and I love it!!
Well, but he wasn't wrong.
The story with the abusive dad hit hard because that exactly how my dad was. He kick me out because I wanted to study (he think women should not study after high school) and because I got into a relationship (he wanted me to go with someone 3x older than me so they can control me). I glad it happened because I am free and living life.
are you okay now ?
@@a_little_demon yes I am I have two business and studying my undergraduate in mlt
@@Glorioustouchtt i'm glad to read that your okay ! stay safe and take care !
Good for you OC (OC= Original Commenter
@@Glorioustouchtt did your dad blew up your phone when you left?
That OP in that story really SHOULD hate his dad. You say he wasn't working? So why doesn't he sit in front of that computer and apply for jobs for a full day and night?
I know right all that effort bullying his son into getting his job to support the both of them like damn fool what the hell are you doing with all your free time.
Thankfully my family never physically laid their hands on me, but my parents definitely did mental damage. My parents purposely did and said things that have permanently messed me up. They destroyed my self image, my confidence, and my sense of safety. They made me hate myself and question my own feelings. They made me question my marriage, and pushed me to attempt suicide. I did attempt because of them, but thankfully I'm still here.
Abuse, whether physical or not is abuse. I'm just thankful my husband's family has taken me in with open arms and shown me what a real family should be like.
I'm so glad that you have your husband's family in your life, and I hope you blocked those other people who call themselves "your family." They are not your family, because real family does NOT do what they did to you.
damn i relate, but Iâm getting really paranoid because my parents suddenly arenât saying manipulative things and arenât mentally abusing me and itâs scaring me cuz I feel like something worse than usual is about to happen instead-
@@axelling_atk I'm no expert, but if your parents scare you that badly, it might be best to put some distance between yourself and them. Get out of town before the meteor hits, y'know?
@@Kelaiah01 Iâll try my bestđ I feel good today though!
@@axelling_atk Good! I hope that lasts for you.
Sadly many abused kids don't know they're abused; when it's all you know you think it's normal. You have to find something to measure it against before you can realise.
That subway bathroom policy is going to get the owner sued *big time* (IBS, UTIs), but the cop was just a tool.
Why would and could someone sue them?
@@triangle8181 if you offer a bathroom for customers, there would be a reasonable assumption that it could be used in case of a medical emergency.
@@triangle8181 if someone had to hold it for an obscene amount of time could cause a UTI, people with certain disabilities, there's a lot of things
@@triangle8181 While I don't know 100% on this one, it's possible that someone could sue them if they spun the rule as being discriminatory (IE Someone with medical needs in an emergency). As for whether anyone WOULD sue them...well, people get sued for the dumbest of reasons nowadays (Near where I live, a shop was sued for not putting "May Contain Nuts" warnings...on a bag of peanuts), so yeah, I can see it happening.
Well police officers canât just use any bathroom it has to be a secure location, not just a basic stall, (safety reasons so their guns canât be stolen when they take off their belt) so a bathroom needing a code is a good option, but I agree the officer could have handled it better.
If you tell your own child, whoâs STILL a minor, to leave your house, youâve failed as a parent.
well, if you have kids just to pay for your rent then you've never been one
*Luigi is disappointed in you ED*
I'm pretty certain every parent says that one time. When their kid is in his teens and are a complete idiot. But a normal parent usually ask for forgiveness after having cooled out.
@@maxskogh6289 N-no? That's not something any parent should do?
@@dynamario No? Oh.. Hmm..
I just assumed so, maybe my parents were not as good as I thought then. I am a failure, but I always thought that I was at fault and my parents were patient. As they are not as horrible as many other stories, but rather supportive. This made me think...
I used to think every father called their oldest child "worthless" and "the biggest mistake I ever made" and "the biggest disappointment in my life" and other hurtful things when they had bad days. The fact that he didn't say mean things to my little sister (dad has 2 kids, both girls) when he was angry made me believe it was because I was the oldest and a girl, so therefore I was responsible for taking care of my sister, and later our home after Wicked Stepmom of the Midwest left dad when sis and I accidentally outed him for cheating (he got a Christmas gift for his side-piece and dropped it off to her when sis and I were in the car with him) when I was around 11 years old. Oh, and threatening to "blow my brains out on the living room floor so you see it as soon as you get home from school, so you know it was your fault that I killed myself" was always one of my personal favoritesđ. I didn't realize that the problem wasn't with me, it was with him until I was around 16. That still didn't erase the pain, or undo the damage what he said did to me though. It's not normal or okay for ANYONE to put their hands on you in anger when you're a child. In the case of toddlers, a slap on the hand or a tap on the diapered butt after the child repeatedly tries to do something dangerous and possibly life-threatening isn't abuse, but when they reach the point where they can comprehend consequences and what appropriate behavior is the hitting needs to stop. I've seen little ones "punish" other kids because "that's what Mommy/Daddy does when I'm naughty", because they'd inadvertently been taught that hitting is an acceptable form of discipline. Verbal, emotional, financial, and physical abuse are not okay EVER, and you should leave the situation, if possible, or tell an adult you can trust, like a teacher or counselor if you need help. Sometimes relatives will cover for family to preserve "the good name" of the family in their communities and/or social circles, so you kind of have to tread carefully with whom you can trust within the family. đ
Thank you for sharing and I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of that. †I think it shows your strength that despite all of that you are trying to help others.
One time my mom found out my dad beat me everytime she wasnât in the house so she sent him to the hospital and divorced him. And he was also put in jail. So yeah happy ending for me.
"why should a cop get special treatment?"
The United States police force:
"Allow us to introduce ourselves!"
Exactly what I was thinking. Sadly a lot of cops here in the states think they are above the law, and the greatest crime in America is disrespecting a cop.
What is this United States Police Force of which you speak?
@@fallstart more like state funded gangs amirite?
As Eazy E said the police are the biggest gang in the USA
Fun fact, NYPD records are sealed so you have no idea if the officer pulling you over has been disciplined for rape. And NYPD has a lot of those.
A cop who tries to misuse his authority and a dad who is straight up trash. Grand. At least both OPs got out of their situations.
I don't talk about the abuse I experienced as a kid publicly at all. But after waking up from a nightmare about my father trying to rape and kill me to this story about how kids think abusive behavior is normal is compelling me to comment. My father had me trained like a dog, he would have me lay my head on his lap/crotch for hours while he pet me as a kid/teen among other things. There were multuple times where he blatantly sexually abused me and my mother did nothing about it (she knew because I'd told her in detail). Her excuse to this day was that she was too stressed out to deal with it herself (they had separated many years before but she was never subjected to the stuff he did to me.) Schools need to teach kids how to defend themselves from/report this kind of treatment because its entirely possible that both parents can be involved with the abuse. Stay safe everyone
I sadly relate to the beatings until you cry, and if you donât cry then you get beat harder⊠sadly have permanent nerve damage to this day because of it, cPTSD & PTSD. Sadly relate to too much of the story.
My mother, also abusive, enabled my brother to beat me. I sadly normalised this behaviour and didnât recognise it as abusive for a very, very long time.
Donât be afraid to cut all contact, Iâve cut all contact with my mother, brother and father, and have no regrets. Iâm a lot happier and safer. I struggle with my nerve damage as itâs left me mostly bedridden, and mentally it can be a struggle, but Iâd much rather struggle with my disabilities in peace than have them weaponised against me, the constant ableism, the homophobia, the psychological and physical abuse. Iâve no intention of ever speaking to my birth family again, they proved this year theyâre not to be trusted.
For two whole days I had contact with my brother to congratulate him on his fatherhood and he reverted back to his usual behaviour, weaponising my disabilities, being homophobic, trying to control me, and I wasnât having it. He especially hates being stood up to, all behaviours he learnt from our toxic parents, and behaviours heâs going to continue. So I told him in no uncertain terms to âget fuckedâ and âplease take a long walk off a pierâ and to never contact me again, because speaking to him clearly wasnât worth it. He then got my mother to email me where she claimed his homophobia and ableism (literal hate crimes in Scotland) were âdifferences of opinionâ. I sent her webpages from Police Scotland about hate crimes, recommended she read them and to just never contact me again.
You donât owe your birth family your loyalty, or love. Family shouldnât treat you this way, ever. I got unofficially adopted and theyâve showered me in love, something I never really experienced as a child. I chose my family, who to me are my real family. So donât feel that you owe any loyalty to your abusers.
Good for you! I hope you NEVER have to speak to those people ever again, and that you continue to get better with each day of your life. Take care and God bless.
@@Kelaiah01 thank you!
@Doktor Schnabel I'm so, so sorry. Don't be afraid, as soon as you're able, to get away, make your own amazing life, and go NO CONTACT with your abusers. You owe them NOTHING. Make your own family from people you love and who love you in return. Blood doesn't make "family" - love does. I wish you the absolute best.
@Doktor Schnabel Just remember that you owe them NOTHING. Look out for yourself and learn to love yourself. Most importantly, though, always be kind when you can. đ
@Doktor Schnabel yeah itâll have a huge impact on you. I found one of the things I had to live with between the physical abuse was being constantly on edge, because I didnât know what Iâd be dealing with on a day to day basis, I suspect youâll be similar, on edge, constantly wary, unable to trust anyone in the household. I understand that feeling of being in the same house but different worlds, when my mother got custody (after abandoning us with my violent father, because she didnât want the responsibility despite knowing he abused us) he became the golden child and I was the scapegoat, so he got to live a happier life and was showered with love and copied abusive behaviours towards me, both physical and psychological, and Iâd be constantly on edge wondering what Iâd done wrong as a child/teen to deserve this treatment. It fucked me up for a long time ngl.
I was scared about leaving for a long time because I worried they couldnât look after themselves, and when I did leave I blamed myself because they struggled. It took a while to learn that my mother is just shit with money, and my brother is horribly irresponsible as he was never taught to be responsible, so theyâd often harass me for money. If I said no my brother found a way of hacking my PayPal to send money to himself (thankfully got refunded, and got rid of that account entirely as I couldnât trust it), and naturally instead of apologising he just laughed at me. With therapy and time I learnt that I ultimately wasnât responsible for their failings and inability to look after themselves, that I was entitled to put myself first and care about my own mental health, that it was okay to set boundaries and say ânoâ. I eventually had to cut all contact because they were just toxic.
My mother suddenly decided she was staying at my house, without asking me, and I felt too scared to say no at first. After a couple of days of hyperarousal and being unable to sleep for that time Iâd had enough, as sheâd be screaming at me over shit that had nothing to do with me, tried withholding my medications (literally need those to survive), weaponised my disabilities and tried making me feel bad for being mostly bedridden, more screaming etc⊠so I told her to leave and threatened to call the police. After she eventually left I felt so much more at ease and was able to actually sleep, to be awoken by a text a few hours later saying
âGot home later than usual because of a traffic accident, bet you wished it was me that died, donât you whore?â
I just noped right out of that and cut all contact, where my brother blamed me somehow, harassed me and got cut out as well. Started going down the route of a restraining order when they eventually got the hint.
So itâs had its ups and downs, itâs been tough at times but I donât regret being able to leave home and being able to have my own freedom away from the abuse. I feel mentally healthier and stronger, and I feel free.
If you need someone to talk to then feel free to reach out, username on most places is ZombieSazza :)
âIâll just take these back to the kitchenâŠâ
Wrong answer, the correct answer was: âYouâre right sir, we did give you an incorrect amount, but because you corrected us, weâll be able to charge you the correct amount, see as the food has already been cooked and cannot be returned.â
So just charge him the asshole tax.
I think that would've been wrong. Businesses that "surprise" customers with extra charges at the till are the worst. The way they went about it taught that guy the same lesson without being jerks themselves
@@limiv5272 It would be wrong if it was a surprise, but it's not a surprise when it was the customer who brought it to the restaurants attention.
If you're going to discipline a child, do what my mom did. She would grab me by the wrist (not too strong, but it certainly got my attention) and look at me in the eyes, telling me what I did was wrong and why it was wrong. Belt-spankings, slaps don't work. You HAVE to get a child's attention, and you can do it without being violent.
That last one broke my heart! Strong kid, Iâm impressed.
"I'm under orders from above, don't give the code even to God himself"
i' d buy a cookie in that situation lol .
@@wazson3178 đđđ
OP should have said something like "I would gladly give you the code, but because of policy/the rules, and I got scolded by the manager for giving the code to a customer before they could pay earlier. I have to follow the rule. If you don't like it, you can say it to the manager."
I feel bad for OP! The one who should have been yelled at should have been the manager, not OP!
@@louise8551 Apparently the cop was friends with the manager. :/
@@fnjesusfreak Oh... Missed that part. Hope OP is alright after that (and quit)
Aw god. I know he said âas a black manâ in the last story and I know that kind of abuse as discipline myself and itâs a hangover from the trauma of slavery. The slave masters beat slaves, freed parents only knew how to discipline their kids with violence, the kids get traumatized by beatings from their parents. Parents who donât beat their children have truly broken free of the trauma of slavery by not passing it on. Peace and love people.
đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Łblaming life choices on things that happened to strangers hundreds of years ago.
Mari Posa Donât be stupid. Trauma is passed down through experience and making the same mistakes to some degree. Even if each generation âhits lessâ theyâve succeeded, just not totally.
Itâs well documented that trauma can be passed on until someone breaks the cycle.
For example you learned your rudeness somewhere and your parentâs behavior will have affected you in some way that lead you to become rude and not bother to think things through before stating your opinion. Unfortunately it made you look stupid. Maybe youâre not as rude as your parents and maybe theyâre not as rude as theirs, but youâre still rude. Maybe youâre more intelligent than your parents while still not being intelligent enough to think this throughâŠ
Even if youâre better than before, youâre not there yet. I hope you fail less as you grow too.
Mari Posa By the way, look up the words âreasonsâ and âblameâ. A reason for something isnât related to blame. Itâs very telling that you are getting defensive about who to blame in this scenario. I wonder why youâre so scared of this topic that you need to get defensive at all. What on earth were you guilty of thinking just then?
@@mariposa9506 Theyâre not though. Cycles of violence happen like this from parent to child then child to their children etc all the time
I'm so sorry for the last two guys in the last story, hearing that his Dad would punch them as a way to discipline them just broke my heart. As R/Slash mentioned you DO grow up thinking a lot of these things are normal. It's not until you're older that you start questioning everything and getting come clarity.
I wish all the best to him and his brother
Always amazes me that the parent doesnât work and wants rent money from the kids but can afford to take a holiday though
I really appreciate what Rslash does for his listeners regarding abuse and I really hope his word will one day help someone. Every child matters.
I can respect that last story. When I left the house it was at midnight, and it was out of fear. The amount of will it took to walk out and never come back right in front of an abusive parent is impressive. That OP has earned every ounce of respect I can give him
Edit: bad grammar
Having a dad that took joy in breaking me I can definitely relate to OP. I learned early on to hide any emotion, good or bad. Actually the belt buckle whippings and broom sticks wasn't the worst. The hours and hours of standing in the corner or the arms outstretched to my sides with a book and a glass of water placed on each hand was the worst. Although it always eventually led to a whipping (could only hold the glass up for so long) it was the mental game of, this time I would not spill the water.
My biggest fear was when my son was born. I would literally make myself sick afraid of continuing the cycle when he was a baby
I am very proud to say that my son never received any abuse. He did get a couple tail smacks when he was younger but time outs worked better for him. A few grounding here and there as he got older but that was it. The cycle can be broken but it takes alot of will power because to me it was normal for so many years. For anyone reading this that is going through this type of punishment, please do not think that it is normal. Although I am sure I messed up alot as a kid, regardless of how hard you try not to. I do not believe the mistakes was bad enough to warrant the punishment. Every kid sometimes breaks a toy or something, spills a drink or tears his clothes, it is normal.
Thanks for the talk at the end Papa Rslash! I grew up with amazing parents that they themselves had horrible parents that were abusive in every way you can think of(yup...even THAT way). They said that they would not change a thing because they both said that they were destined to break the cycle of abuse and I thank them every day for it.
There is definitely Something About Mary đ€ Loved that movie.. I cannot stand customers like that..
The kid that was abused, I did the exact same thing, stopped crying.. Made sure my mom got her just deserts..
A reason the cop might've needed the code is that the beating started in the bathroom, and there was evidence in there.
I don't know if it was explained but that's what the cop makes it sound like.
This is about to be heartbreaking, but I know thisâll be some well deserved revenge. I love your channel rSlash!
It's not only emotional and physical abuse but mental abuse as well. Though emotional and mental abuse don't leave physical evedence it shows in behavioral patterns. I'm glad the kid from the last story got away from it but they will also need to seek help from a psych doctor.
And financial abuse too, no underaged kid should be forced to pay rent by the parents
In the first story OP later clarified that someone had been attacked in the bathroom and it was a crime scene that is why the officer wanted the code and threatened to have OP arrested. OP was actually breaking the law by not giving the code in that situation. Stop making assumptions about the officer. The officer was just trying to do his job.
Thanks for giving the OP for the last story reassurance that they'd made the correct decision. And also thank you for telling people - especially young people - that being in any sort of abusive environment isn't normal and that they should get away as soon as they can.
I got sezuly harassed as a 11 year old by my 16 year old neice and she turned on me and blamed ME. I was and still am in a battle to get back my happy life. She and my sister have both cut me off from thier life
I could care less. Please pray for my sanity.
I think Mary read enough miclicous compliance to do this đ
Thank you for covering stories about abusive family situations. It took me 22 years to realize that my parents' abusive behavior was NOT normal. Every time I hear a similar story it's an empathetic helpful reminder that I experienced abuse I did not deserve, and I am not crazy for acknowledging that.
Dear American workers: Why arenât you allowed to say âMy manager says I canât/have to âŠfill in blankâŠâ?
They want to speak to the manager anyway so why canât you say your manager told you what to do?
I donât understandâŠ
I think maybe Because in other countries the system care less about customers and more about workers and the American system is always the customers is right so they have to call the manger in but idk im not American
Not Unique Yeah itâs weird. Iâve literally said âIâd lose my job if I did that.â to difficult customers. If they want to say âIâll get you fired!â I point out Iâd get fired if I did what they wanted but they could speak to the manager to check.
At that point Iâll either be fired for a lie or fired for doing my job. Thereâs still a chance Iâll be not fired because the customer might not lie to try to get me fired OR Iâll be not fired because I did my job right.
If Iâve told the customer that I couldnât do it because Iâd been told not to, and even that I could be fired, then the manager should know that the customer simply didnât believe me so she might be the type to lie as she believes everyone else lies. She might lie about rudeness or assault. She doesnât assume Iâm telling the truth about my job then we donât need to trust her version either.
If your boss is also abusive then you were out of options the second a bad customer came along. If itâs that bad you can only quit or be fired, right?
@@ThePinkBinks idk about that but where I live a customer would never get u fired unless its your own fault examples bellow
1) it was caught on camera that the worker was stealing and the customer told the manager about it.
2) you & and the customer gt into physical fight or something and u started it.
3) u cost the establishment loss of money etc etc.
And people here have a saying which could be translated to (I rather cut my head than to cut someone paycheck) as in i do not want to be a reason that made a person loses their job.
So yeah Americans always surprised me witb their laws.
I have said this exactly. "I've been told I'm not allowed to do that, I'll go get the manager for you who can override that order."
I'm missing the abusive management in that scenario though see.
Because it only works with good management. Otherwise you get in trouble no matter what you do.
@@NotUnique_ Customer is always right was an advertising slogan, its not holy writ.
"I didnt hate my dad he just beat me and I stole his shit"
I didnât know that behavior wasnât normal until I 15 and my dad choked me, it was a crushing realization when I figured out the man I respected shouldnât be respected at all
I swear, stories like the second one are the most satisfying.
That sounds like my childhood raised as JW. My dad was v similar even to the point of threatening to kick us out our whole childhood. (He didnt punch us just constantly slap us plus he provided for us unlike this crazy dad) I got kicked out for meeting someone and having a relationship the last time he said get of this house I said OK then, and never went back
I seen my neighbor do exactly this to his child once, through the door's peephole: a few punches to the belly...
I immediately called child services, they listened carefully and took the address of my neighbor, but I have no idea if they did something about it.
I donât think the last one would be considered a âMalicious complianceâ. OP did what his sperm donator wanted and got all his stuff back. But howâs that revenge? Also, itâs sad to think that people go through hell like that and still think their parents still love them or they love their abusive parents.
Hate to say it sometimes with abuse victims if thatâs all that they know thatâs all they can equate to love. Still Iâm actually surprised that the sperm donor didnât try to look for OP and demand money or even to demand the stuff back. Reason why I say that is because of the lazy crap was shocked that OP got the stuff back, then heâd have to actually get off his lazy ass and get a job which she probably didnât want to do for another month but he had to do it sooner because I hope he got the stuff back that was probably worth maybe a couple hundred bucks
Kinda want to know about OP's brother on that last one... I assume (and hope) he managed to get away from their father too.
Also a deadbeat child abuser worrying about his reputation is a bit rich! Don't blame OP at all for just putting it all behind him, but I'd have been sorely tempted to go pro revenge on his dad if I were in his shoes!
I just want to highlight one other thing from that story:
The OP emphasized the abuse didn't make him hate his father. You already touched on the difficulty recognizing it as abuse. But from what I've seen, there's another aspect that could be at play as well. A defense mechanism of becoming emotionally detached from your own plight. Of not being able to get angry for your own sake. I'm not trying to claim that's necessarily true in the OP's case. It just hurts to see cases where the abuse internalized in a way that renders them unwilling to act for their own sake.
It also sounds like some sort of Stockholm syndrome. I know that's not necessarily what Stockholm is, but not hating them and trying to justify what they're doing and that odd blame shift of "it's just to teach me a lesson" sounds very similar
That last one. I went through a very similar situation, except I was the eldest. I got 'kicked out' the most. the final straw was when I was kicked out for wanting to spend time with my dad's side of the family (stepfather was the abuser) so I said fine. I called my dad, we grabbed what we could and NEVER went back. He blew my phone up for DAYS. I was terrified he would find me while I waited for my flight out of there.
Like OP in that story, I thought it was normal. Thankfully, my reading habits lead me to the book 'A Child Called It' and it opened my eyes. and I opened my siblings' eyes. It took years for them to stop the abuse. Even after kicking him out. I can proudly say, me leaving was the catalyst needed for everyone to turn against him. I hope he lives a long life while his TBI takes away his ability to do anything.
I watch rSlash for my morning routine, I got up earlier than normal and was sad that the video wouldnât be out for another 15-20 minutes, just as I see todayâs video.
THANK YOU RSLASH
Thank you for this story. As a kid, I grew up with welts from just above my knees to upper back. About age 5, off for 3 months when I almost died as I was hurt so bad they could not diagnose me - rheumatic fever caused heart problems, then to age 9, a few years off till he returned from Vietnam, then until I ran away at 15. CPS was not yet a thing. I was beat with everything including his handgun. One year I had swimming for PE and not one person said anything that entire year. I lived in fear every night that my father would kill me before dawn. Not long after, I left.
Kids should NEVER endure abuse like that. Nor should their spouse. And it was all during my dadâs military career.
Iâm in my 60s now.
But to the point. There is a UN convention for the rights of children. EVERY country has signed it except one, the United States. Some of the rights in the Convention cover things that some individual states allow and some that are not rights children have. Countries that follow Sharia Law give children more rights than US children have.
Our nation may care about kids but they refuse to give children any basic rights.
I have no idea how long I was in the hospital. My father had friends over and they decided to rush me to the emergency room. I was in kindergarten then and got out the week before first grade. As an adult, I have often wondered if my physical condition is why I was hospitalized so long and not my medical condition.
I very much appreciate any story talking about child abuse being a problem and we should not allow it as a civilized nation. That abuse can be from parenting, church, school, society, and from other kids.
The fact that this man is willing to read these type of stories to raise awareness really is beyond admirable. This automatically puts him above reddit CZcamsrs like VoiceyHere, whoâd just make a âwhittyâ remark or try to humour the situation.
Keep going, Rslash!
VoiceyHere really only reads the entitled parent stories and rarely other sub-reddits. So hes more likely to run into the funny or just minor annoyance stories instead of the heavy ones that Rslash usually finds
OMG, I feel so bad for OP. He needs to know that his dad's behavior is not normal and should go after therapy to heal from all this trauma. My dad is a conservative Christian, and he seems to be an angel compared to OP's dad.
That last story was almost exactly like me, my siblings, and my mom. The dad in the story is exactly like my mom. I still live with her, but now I want to live with my older brother or sister. (This is not even the first time I thought of and tried to move out and leave.) Most black parents DO think that beating your kid will help them, and then have the nerve to call themselves a Christian. (If you reply and say something like âThErE ArE BaD pArEnTs iN eVeRy RaCe,â you are missing the point completely.) She would tell stories that her mom used to beat her too. Those two canât even talk to each other without it ending in a fight sometimes. Literally just yesterday my mom and other brother got into a fight and wanted to and tried to just kick him out of the house. I got upset because she automatically assumed that I was going with him. As a family, when we try to talk, Iâm reminded that she already has her mind made up based on how she would respond to the problems we say that we have. Including her problems. Personally, Iâm tired, and Iâm done. Soon, itâs going to be them with god and me with God alone. The house weâre in hasnât been a home in a long time.
I mean in my culture it's known as discipline just as long it's not going to full abuse territory. I understand but I'm just giving you insight on why some people still do it. Thankfully I never experienced it but I know it is considered discipline in my culture. It's honestly somewhat of a complicated topic since it could lead to abuse. However, people who grew up in those culture are somewhat thankful or in agreement in the discipline. It's a fascinating topic to look into and really interesting to see how cultures keep it as a tool for discipline.
I would have reported CPS on the dad if I was in op situation just out of spite because he said it you're ruining my life
It could be noted that the Abusive father is also monetarily abusing his kids, since he expects them to pay the bills why he reaps the benefits of not working.
Either way good on OP for getting out of there and blocking their father. Hope their brother got out too.
Dad: "I beat and abandoned my son, surely it won't come back and bite me in the butt, right?"
OP: *Steals ALL his stuff he paid for*
Dad: *Surprised Pikachu Face*
@Chris G Fixed
OP, file charges against your Father. Let's see how his"reputation" looks to a Judge and Jury.
I feel like, if ever anyone made an RSlash Animated series, the reasonable people would be drawn normally, while all the people he does voices for would be drawn in caricature proportions.
Back on topic, that jerk dad should have had CPS called on him early on. He had no business taking care of kids.
ZOMG this totally needs to happen!
@@ScooterBond1970 I admit, I have *frequently* imagined these stories as animations narrated and voiced by RSlash!
Replacing a thermocouple is one of the easiest and cheapest repairs. That manager was penny wise and pound foolish.
I don't think I can put into words just how much I hate people that abuse their children. The abusive dad story sounds almost exactly like what my boyfriend went through. It disgusts me. People like this derserve a special place in hell.
It became so bad at my home that to this day I cannot eat beans.
What has to do with beans, you might say?
Well, when I was 6 my mother cooked beans and being a bratty kid I would NOT eat them. She beat me with a hose tube, until I was in tears screaming, but I refused.
She often would cook beans but I never relented and always got beaten with that fucking hose tube, and to this day just the look of beans make me sick, despite the fact that if I do not know they are there I actually like the taste, but if you tell me beforehand I'll not eat it and if you tell me after I'll probably vomit on you.
Now my mother is sick... and she doesn't understand why I don't call her everyday to ask if she is alright, why I am so cold towards the family?
I FUCKING wonder why myself! Might be anything you have done mom?
I always get a mixture of relief, but also mild guilt when I hear stories like that last one and knowing my parents are thankfully not even close to that. I can't imagine what it's like growing up in such a toxic environment, especially in a situation where there's almost no way out of it.
If OP was under 18, then I think that OP should have gotten CPS involved. I don't see how anyone can abuse their children ever.
shoutout to rSlash for caring for us and hoping we arenât abused
The cop in the first story is a literal tattletale for calling OPâs manager about the bathroom code.
Hi early birds, letâs enjoy some malicious compliance!
My mom was kinda similar as the father in the last story. Hitting us when we were younger (and in later years denying she did something like that), always yelling at us, calling us names, kinda blackmailing us with all the stuff she ever bought. To be honest, me and my brother were always good kids, even though both in the alternative styles (punk, metal, goth) - no drugs, almost no alcohol (a complete no for me), no smoking, no partying. Our grades werenÂŽt that excelent, but we were no problem children. We would even help around the house more, if she would let us (because she just suddenly was like - clean the damn kitchen! right when I watched something on TV. I would say okay, gimme 20 min until the show ends, but no, she would go, clean the kitchen and then call all her friends to tell them how ungrateful we are and never help around and so). She often called me a b*tch and similar (well, the equivalent in my language), saying I canÂŽt do anything, I will never have friends and other "fun" stuff.
She also used to "kick" me out every now and then basically on a whim but when it started to look like IÂŽm packing, she was like "I will give you one last chance, but my rules are my rules and thatÂŽs final!"
She stopped beating us when my brother (older than me) once stopped her hand mid swing. And like you said, I didnÂŽt think it was weird until recent years.
She kicked me out for the last time when I was 23 (I was already working and giving her some money as a rent) after I spent the night with my bf.
She told me to pack my stuff and I just had enough. So I did. Well suddenly she wasnÂŽt happy and it was again about the one more chance, but I said no, IÂŽm leaving.
Aaaand she got furious, grabbed me by my hair, pulling me across the room (she used to do that when I was younger as well). There was a lot of yelling, my bf, who was behing the door stormed in, my brother got in to separate us...crazy. And...I left.
She threatened to sue my bf for attacking her (she was the one attacking, but you know...she would never confess to that, she always had her own image of how the things happened) but in the end, even when I cried a lot for a while after that, it was actually the best she could do for me, because otherwise who knows when I would really leave...
The biggest wake up call that something was really wrong was, when I was on a business trip from work in another state and there was a woman in front of me who had similar hair and my mind went into panic, like - oh no, what if she sees me, what will I tell her about what IÂŽm doing there?!
And then I was like...wtf is wrong with me? I was there for work, I lived alone for more than a year at that point...even if it would be her...there was no reason to literally get so scared.
Once I started realizing that thatÂŽs not how a mother should behave, my messed up brain suddenly started to make sense, so now I try to fight against the damage that was done. She tried to call me lot of times, but when I accidentally met her, after almost two years of living away she was still like: "You can come back, but my rules still apply."
No thanks...
11:48 I am with OP... its better to leave than to suffer endless emotional and/or physical trauma
Out of curiosity what happened to your brother? Did he get out of the situation too?
@@jacthing1 huh? I mean OP and I have similar situation, my father often verbally/emotionally abuse us if he gets upset. Growing up like that made me feel less, often controlling my anger and the urge to talk back. But I guess OP's brother did the same too, leaving their father
As a man with an abusive father, I *WISH* there was someone doing for me what rSlash is doing here. I *needed* more than anything to know this crap was not normal, and that I needed to get out ASAP.
Now, before anyone asks:
1. At age *FOUR,* he hoisted me by my bathrobe (worth mentioning that he had a very tenuous grip, so he switched to my throat to keep me in one spot, leaving me unable to breathe) and slammed me against a wall, screaming at me over some crap I don't even remember, with his fist cocked back as if to punch me. He *did* swing, but punched the wall right next to my head, leaving a massive hole for himself to fix, which just made him more angry, and he whipped off his belt and beat me until I couldn't breathe for the pain. I don't even remember what I had done, but I still remember that particular bout of violence.
2. One night, when I was 12, he came home (we lived in a KOA in a camp trailer at the time) drunk, and bounced my head off of our outside camper wall. When he saw what he did, he decided it was funny, and laughed at me, using all manner of homophobic language to describe me in quite understandable tears at the treatment.
3. He would quite routinely drag me around by my hair or neck, and scream at me to "STOP BEING A [homophobic slur]! CRYING IS FOR P***IES!" while he did so, over the slightest infraction of his insane rules.
While my father was (and by all accounts has become again) a piece of S**T drunk, the more important takeaway is that I thought this was normal at the time. I didn't know any better, because no one taught me any differently. It wasn't until about 13 that I learned this was wrong, and by then, the damage was done; I was too afraid of my father to speak up. If anyone had told me at that point that they could remove me from his house and protect me from him, and I had the courage to believe them, I might have. Someone like rSlash telling me this might have helped me more than anything. A kind word from a complete stranger that I needed to hear might have saved me at a time that I desperately needed it. I hope that this saves *EVEN ONE* abused child. If it does, then rSlash just became my *F***ING HERO.*
rSlash, My hat is off to you, sir, now and forever.
As an adult from an abusive relationship.. no one ever deserves it. Ever.. thank you r/ slash for putting this video up anyways even with the chance it is demonitized. You stand up for what you believe in. Thank you for having moral fiber and ethics. I appreciate that and the message you send .
My mom and stepdad were abusive. My friends helped me get as much as I could carry and took me in until I could go and live with my dad. I know how much care goes into helping someone get away from an abuser.
OP's girlfriend was the real MVP. And I hope OP realizes that, whatever happened with them (I really hope they're together forever though): they're dad was wrong. She really loved them and cared for them. You don't help someone break in and book an hotel if you don't love that person. I really hope OP can get some help though because they need to work through their trauma's and, as sad as it sounds, recognize what's abuse so they don't do the same to others because they don't know what a healthy relationship looks like.
Maybe OP and their brother can share an apartment to keep the costs lower. The brother works too so they might be able to live properly together.
THANK YOU for putting this message out there. It is NEVER right to abuse a child under any circumstances.
What if theyâre a really really really sucky child
My dad used to kick me out of the house and then call me back in too. Weirdly nice to hear it wasnât just me.
OP with the Black abusive dad. My birth mother was the same way. The day I decided not to cry when she had me stand up & hold on to the top bunk bed while she used the skinny leather belt to beat me for something I did not do. I refuse to cry! She actually told to cry or she will not stop the beating. I said nothing. It would have been life endangering to tell her why I would not cry. My sister asked me why & I told her that I did not deserve that beating so I will not cry any more.
That dad wasn't worried about his reputation, he was worried about prosecution.
None of us care what CZcams thinks about any stories. It is more important to hear about stories like this. People need to understand that these things happen and they are not normal. Someone else in this exact situation could hear this and change their life for the positive.
Sadly growing up in a abusive home trends to lead to abusive relationships and when you finally escape you're so broken that there isn't much left of you.
Abuse is a poison that spreads until you stop it. Abuse victims can easily abuse others themselves. Breaking the cycle and not spreading that poison takes strength, courage, and integrity. I believe in all victims of abuse and their ability to break that cycle.
@@daniellepullman4074 I agree my sister used to abuse her boyfriends, what I was saying is an abused person is also more likely to go to another abuser, my father was abusive and when I finally left I ended up with my abusive ex girlfriend, I've now been happily single for three years.
You need to quit that job because of a boss who doesn't know what to say. That's a red flag for a manager.
The abusive dad got what he deserved. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Never, ever, *EVER* normalize parental abuse. Even if you think it is how you're taught a lesson, it is not. The abuser will only ever see it as self-satisfaction for their narcissistic ego problems. Domestic violence works just the same way - the only difference is that it's not as easy for a juvenile to "break off" from their own abusive parents due to the legalities of guardianship.
However, if you can find someone who can get into contact with CPS or get in contact with them yourself, you definitely should. And most importantly, be as subtle and anonymous as possible when doing so, in order to not raise suspicion with your abusive parent(s) until after authorities have gotten involved.
re glass manufacturer: This is EXACTLY the negligence that caused the Chernobyl meltdown. Supervisor was correct, but should have shut down the line- also correct when he replaced the thermocouple.
That father is a narcissist. Disgusting. My father never hit me but he did everything else and threatened to. The threat of physical violence was always there regardless. These people are sick and need serious help. Get out ASAP. No one deserves to be treated like this
Manager: "Don't give it to anyone under any circumstances" (Keyword: anyone)
Also manager after OP never gives it to the cop: "ArE YoU ___ing SeRIouS?!?!"
That cop in the first story might not have been taking a dump; the bathroom may have been involved in the investigation, i.e. the guy who got beat up or the guy who did the beating used the bathroom prior and they're looking for something to help them.
That last story, I was angry on behalf of OP. Iâm kind of sad the story didnât end with the dad facing a massive fallout.
Truth is, the officer in the first story may not have been needing to relieve himself. In cases where someone has cuts on their face or head, they bleed a surprising amount so he may have needed to wash some blood off. Still he can't demand to use such a facility, but it is nice for businesses to allow it.
That kind of shit fucks you up for LIFE.
I hope the brother in the last story leave that sorry excuses of a human being too..
Thank you for this video. OP is kind of aware of their abuse but hasnât fully come to terms with it, I think. I do want to contradict the statement at the beginning where they said âas a black manâ their dad acted the way he did. I know there have to be some dads of all shades listening and thinking that has nothing to do with it. You can be a strict father without being a controlling parasitic monster. I mean, thereâs really no relation there. OP didnât have a strict father, by the sound of it. They had a monster. And they took the chance to leave and broke his little game. Also... he went on vacation but he needed to sell OPâs stuff to cover rent? That fits the profile. Itâs all about the dadâs life. His kids are just there to maintain him. Narcissism at its finest. smh
Can we take a moment to appreciate Mary? Like damn this woman is a savage. Donât piss off servers, they will get revenge one way or another
i went through maternal physical, emotional, and verbal abuse from 9 yrs to 16 yrs, among other situations which ended me having to have knee surgery. i left when i ws 20 bcse id had enough of getting hit/beaten al the time. i havent seen her in ovr 30 yrs and i dont miss her 1 bit!
Pro tip: if there are cops, lights and sirens in front of your Quizzoâs shop, people will avoid it and go to the Subray across the street. If letting the officer use the potty gets him out of your store faster, do it.
That last story, that's also has financial abuse, which is not OK either.
The subway story... the dude could have asked anyone who already purchased the code to give it to him. He was an idiot.
@rSlash
The cop wasn't looking to use the bathroom. He needed to look into the bathroom as part of the investigation.
Hence the cop saying; "I can't believe you're interfering with an ongoing investigation!"
The dad in that last story reminds me so much of my mother and stepfather. They took it a weird step further and made it a crime of the house a crime of the house to mention my dad's name for an entire 15 years.
Thing is, he could accuse a sandwich of being made to exchange for drugs and seize it as civil asset forfeiture. So he probably has more right to the sandwich than the bathroom code, since the bathroom code requires a warrant, and asset forfeiture does not.
RSLASH is a wise, and very good-hearted man. Other CZcamsrs could learn a lot from him. He clearly has a great moral centre, and a strong personal code of ethics. I cannot think of many other people in his industry that would willingly have their videos demonetised in order to spread awareness, love and acceptance like he does. Bravo, sir.
Schools need to inform the students of these types of parents out there.
Thank you, R/slash, for caring enough to risk being dinged by CZcams in order to raise awareness and to help others. I was one of those kids when I was young. I appreciate this more than you know.